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Weaponized Hypnosis by George Hutton
Weaponized Hypnosis by George Hutton
Hypnosis
George Hutton
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Contents
Introduction
Why Learn Weaponized Hypnosis
Where to Use
Why They Work
Social Status Origins
Dominance Games
Trade vs. Might Makes Right
Defusing Their Energy
Digging Beneath the Surface
Meta Model
Embedded Insults
Linguistic Presuppositions - Deeper Structures
Linguistic Presuppositions
Drilling Presuppositions
Beyond Defensive
Common Human Fears
Linguistic Presuppositions - Ego Attacks
Keep Your Enemies Closer
Hand to Hand Combat
Collecting Weapons
Embedded Commands
Nested Loop Structure
Summary of Mental Destruction Techniques
Serial Killer
The Closet
Cannibal Rats
Satanic Murders
Memory Wipe
Public Torture
Sucker Punch
How to Practice
Final Words
Further Study
Contact
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Introduction
Once upon a time the ruler of the Universe was getting ready to retire. Before
he did, he wanted to choose a replacement. He already had somebody in
mind, but he wanted to make sure. After all, being in control of the Universe
is a pretty important job.
"Yes sir, you wanted to see me?" The ruler's most favorite subordinate
asked.
"Yes. I want you to cook me the best thing in the world," the ruler
asked.
"Yes, of course, at once," the underling replied before hurrying away.
The ruler waited patiently, and the underling returned. He had cooked a
tongue.
"A tongue? Why a tongue?" The ruler asked.
"A tongue can say wonderful things and create deep feelings of
pleasure in others," he replied. The ruler smiled and nodded.
"Very well. Now cook me the worst thing in the world," the ruler
asked.
"Of course," the underling said and hurried off. The ruler waited
patiently until the underling returned.
"Hmm," the ruler said, interested. "Another tongue," he said glancing
up at his favorite subordinate. "Explain," he added.
"Well, a tongue can say horrible things. Destroy relationships,
reputations and cause a life of pain and misery," he said. The ruler smiled and
nodded.
"Very well, the job is yours," the ruler said.
Silly Story?
Who eats a tongue anyway? But the meaning is clear and obvious. The power
of our words is infinite. The power of words can move people to great feats
of accomplishment. The movie, "The King's Speech," centered around the
importance of not only the words themselves, but how they are delivered.
Think of your favorite actor in your favorite movie. Now imagine your best
friend playing the lead role. Everything else would be the same. Same
director, same writers and co-stars, except the lead actor has been replaced by
your friend. Is it the same movie? Can you even watch without laughing?
Actors are paid huge sums of money because they can deliver their lines with
sincerity and believability. When they show emotions, and tears, we believe
they are real. Even when we see them later in an interview talking about
where they find their emotional motivation. We even are disappointed when
we see our favorite actors in interviews. When they are in character, they are
unbeatable. Supremely confident. Yet when they speak in interviews they
seem shy and lacking self-confidence. The power of communication is
immeasurable. We all have the experience of saying something in the heat of
the moment that we wish we could take back, but we cannot. Those simple
phrases or sentences that can potentially destroy a relationship. We can say,
"I didn't mean it!" a billion times but the damage is done.
The word spell is used to describe how magic words when put together in the
right order, and said in the right way, can affect the target in terrible or
wonderful ways. Love spells, hexes, curses, all these are the stuff of fantasy.
But that very same word, spell, is what we use to put the letters in order. The
most beautiful words every written or spoken would be utterly meaningless if
the letters were jumbled around. Meaning letters, when put together properly
can cause deep and powerful emotions. Words together in the right order can
have a significant effect. And as we saw from the silly story above, words
can cut both ways. Words can cause great happiness, or they can cause great
agony and misery.
However, how many of us actually think about the words that we say? In the
movie "300," about the events leading up to the historical Battle of
Thermopylae, the messenger from Persia, after delivering his threat to King
Leonidas, said, "Choose your next words wisely." How often do we choose
our words wisely? Rarely, if even. When most of us speak, we have vague
ideas in our minds that we try and accurately describe with words chosen
randomly. Even the leaders of the free world speak in gibberish when they
don't think anybody is listening. One of the more shocking revelations of the
Nixon Watergate scandal was when the tapes (and the subsequent transcripts)
were leaked to the press. For the first time, the public could read what was
being said behind closed doors in the oval office. And it was not pretty. On a
grammatical level, it was atrocious. In the movies, we see characters speaking
in complete sentences, well thought out ideas filled with descriptive
language. But in real life? The language spoken by Nixon and his aides
sounded nothing like those characters in the movies. Half sentences, garbled
words, vague references to previously spoken nouns.
Proactive Words
We all have a built-in response system for when danger unexpectedly shows
up. This is the familiar fight or flight response. When a threat appears, we are
suddenly filled with adrenalin. Our higher thinking shuts off and we have two
options. Fight for our very survival, or run away as fast as we can. When we
are confronted with a verbal threat, our ancient minds still interpret this as a
real threat, and delivers the same response. This comes across to our
conscious minds as "I want to get away from this situation." If you were
physically confronted by a stranger on the street, you would flee. But if you
couldn't flee, you would be forced to fight.
Just as many people practice martial arts for many reasons as a defensive
skill, we can practice the verbal arts, as a defensive skill. Why do this? The
world is a very dangerous place. The world is filled with people who would
love to take advantage of us, sometimes just for the thrill of it. When
somebody physically accosts us, it's clear they are doing something wrong.
Every society has built into it the idea that physically touching somebody
without their permission is forbidden. However, there are many situations
where verbal attacks are fine. You offer up an idea in a meeting to your boss,
and your colleague, with whom you are competing for a promotion, shoots it
and you down. Nobody thinks anybody does anything wrong. The boss may
even give them a promotion instead of you because of their focus and
ruthlessness. While physical attacks are forbidden, verbal attacks can be
welcome. Up until now, you may have felt defenseless in those situations.
Not anymore. Just as one can study martial arts and project an energy of
confidence and strength, so can you with your words. And as we learned in
the story above, words can be deadly.
Why Learn Weaponized Hypnosis
Plenty of people in the world study martial arts of some kind. Some estimates
put that number as high as a billion. Whether that's accurate isn't important.
What is important is that studying a defensive fighting system is accepted,
even admired, in most cultures. Even if you never, ever wanted to fight or
even spar with anybody else, studying martial arts can give you plenty of
benefits. Improved health, posture, self-confidence, focus, thinking and many
more. A tired line used in many martial arts movies is that the character
wants to learn how to fight, so they don't have to fight. Paradoxically, the
better your skills, the less likely you'll ever need them in an actual
confrontation. Let's open up this idea, and we'll see that it's not a paradox at
all.
Non-Martial Artist
Let's say you haven't studied any martial arts. You don't even like Kung Fu
movies. You're walking down the street, and you bump into somebody purely
by accident. They were carrying a cup of coffee and some of it spilled on
their shirt. Let's say they are slightly taller than you, and slightly broader in
the shoulders. Their initial response is one of anger. And let's further say that
since you feel responsible, your initial and automatic response of one of
apologetic guilt. This is where it gets interesting. Humans communicate on
many levels. Our words are on the most superficial. The energy beneath the
words is much more powerful and subtler than most will ever realize. When
coffee guy responded in anger, that was his go-to response. It was an
automatic response not based on any conscious thought. The same kind of
response when you are alone and bash your shin on the coffee table. He
responded instinctively and in anger. You responded to that apologetically.
His anger is still "on" and he might get angrier still at your weak response.
This is a little tricky, but it is fairly common. If you are a weak and non-
threatening person, this might make him even angrier on an instinctive level.
This isn't rational, but many of us seem to accept it when big things cause big
problems. But we can get angrier if those same problems are caused by small
things. Imagine a tiny strap hanging off a bag that keeps getting stuck in
doors. Imagine spending all day packing for a trip, and finding one small
corner sticking out and keeping you from closing your suitcase. We tend to
get angrier than normal when the size of the thing causing the problem is not
directly proportional to the problem. That same coffee guy that got enraged
when he saw how apologetic and timid you were (don't worry, this is just a
metaphor!) might not have gotten as angry had you been a lumberjack. You
also may have the experience of standing up for yourself, and expecting the
worst only to find that the other party suddenly backed down. So here we are,
standing on the street, too frozen to think, and this guy is glaring at us. We
want to say something, offer to pay for his dry cleaning, but he just fumes
and walks away.
Martial Artist
Now let's assume the same situation, except this time you're an accomplished
black belt. You are the same size in relation to coffee guy, but you have
plenty of experience sparring and adequately defending yourself. He
responds immediately the exact same way. What comes next however, is
completely different. Now when he looks at you, in an instant of unconscious
communication, he (or rather his ancient subconscious instincts) realize that
if the two of you got into it on the street, he would lose, hands down. He
doesn't actually think this, or stop and imagine this, it just hits him all as once
as a realization. This completely neutralizes his anger. He is still upset that
the coffee is on his shirt, but he also realizes he is just as much at fault,
perhaps now even more so. When you were weak and apologetic, you were
an easy target and he could easily project all the blame on you. But with a
black belt, the look in your eyes tells him everything he needs to know. Had
he been watching where he was going, the accident wouldn't have happened.
Energy is a kind of silly word to use, but we can take it to mean the total
collection of all your non-verbal communication. The way you walk, your
posture, your eye contact, the muscles in your face, the small and barely
perceptible muscles around your eyes that poker players and police
interrogators can use to read everything about you. Martial arts focus on
defense, but not only defense. You learn not only to defend the attack, but
neutralize your opponent so they cannot attack you anymore. Sometimes with
deadly force.
Those who study the martial arts could, if they wanted to, use their skills to
take advantage of others. Many famous martial arts movies are filled with
villains that study martial arts for the sole purpose of manipulating and taking
advantage of the weak.
With advanced skills in the martial arts, you would not only be able to project
powerful energy, but you would be able to read the energy of others much
better. If you are scared, your brain is not nearly as capable as when you are
relaxed and confident. The having physical fighting skills allows you to be
more confident in more situations, which allows your brain to spend more of
its processor time reading the energy of others. You would be able to scan a
room and quickly know might be dangerous, and who was only boisterous.
Verbal Arts
Consider that learning verbal defensive skills is the same. Imagine if you
knew deep in your soul that no matter what insult anybody gave you, you
could quickly flip it back on them, much like a martial art move, and leave
them stunned. Imagine that you could calmly listen to any belief from any
person, and then explain to them in calm detail why their belief is utterly
ridiculous. This doesn't mean you would ever do this, just like a skilled black
belt doesn't go around knocking people out. But just knowing that you could,
and even doing so in your imagination while listening to them speak would
give you an incredible amount of confidence. Remember our meeting
example before. You spoke up, giving your boss and idea. Your colleague
shot you down, and you were unable to respond. Without verbal skills of self-
defense, you would have likely gone into "fight or flight" mode, which meant
your brain would shut down slightly, not allowing you to think of a response.
Everybody would listen to them publicly slam you, and then you just sit
there. But with the practiced skills in this guide, you will not go into fight or
flight mode. This will change your whole non-verbal energy. Not only will
you have a well thought out response, but they will know you are creating
one while they are still speaking. They will be much less confident, simply
because of your non-verbal communication. Just by sitting there silently, with
these skills in your mind, the rest of the people at the meeting will not be
nearly as swayed by their argument (since they are not delivering it with as
much confidence), which means they themselves may come up with a
response. This is the power you will gain. And like practicing punches and
death blows in the dojo, we will be speaking in terms of destroying your
enemies. This doesn't mean you ever have to use these skills. This is not a
training on how to become a manipulative sociopath, so you can wander the
Earth gleefully handing out nightmares. But to develop these skills, we will
have to imagine doing so. The rewards will be enormous. Never again will
you be at the mercy of others. Never again will you fear talking to any other
human. If you are like most people, there are some people that are easy to
talk to, and some that are difficult. The people that are difficult to talk to are
difficult because you imagine them saying things to you that you won't like,
or won't be able to handle effectively. After you internalize the ideas in this
course, that will never happen again. An entire world of opportunity will
open for you. Talking to anybody will be easy and free from any anxiety. Job
interviews will be a piece of cake. Sales will be easy. Talking to attractive
people you are romantically interested in will be exciting and enjoyable. You
are about to learn powerful skills that few know exist. You are going to learn
the power that comes with turning words into weapons. Powerful weapons of
capable of irreversible covert mental destruction. Ready?
Where to Use
When you learn martial arts, it's not a difficult consideration where you might
use them. In a tournament, anywhere that somebody threatening approaches
you. But when can you use weaponized language or hypnosis? As we go
through this guide and learn about the structure of language, you'll find many
areas to use this. And each of these areas are places where your confidence
alone may preclude your enemies from using aggressive techniques in the
first place. Physical aggression is very easy to spot. Even somebody who is
intending to use physical aggression is easy to spot. But some folks are
experts in very subtle and very vicious linguistic tricks. Most of those folks
aren't using those techniques consciously, just some are more naturally
vicious with their language. Unfortunately, there is much more low-key
social aggression, delivered through subtle language techniques, than most
people realize. Let's look a few of the less than obvious cases.
Sometimes people say things that make us feel uncomfortable, but we don't
know why. Or they may ask us questions that make us feel on the spot, but
we aren't sure how to remove that feeling. Sometimes we are purposely put
on the spot in front of others, just to take us down a notch. Just like the
stereotypical schoolyard bully, these folks using these aggressive techniques
because the only way they can feel better about themselves is if they put us
down. Because this is happening linguistically and almost always
unconsciously, it's very subtle. One of the main reasons it's so effective is that
most people only feel a bit on the defensive without really knowing why.
Some people just have a talent that lets them "rub somebody the wrong way"
on purpose. But once you learn these techniques, you'll know exactly how
they are doing it, even if they don't. This means when you ask one or two
simple and innocent sounding questions, they won't be able to respond, and
all the attention will be back on them.
Passive Aggression
We humans are very tricky at imposing our belief systems on others. We all
have a huge collection of beliefs, mostly subconscious. Most of us don't
know what these are, but they come out how we communicate. How we talk
about ourselves, our relations to others and other groups of people
(organizations, political systems, etc.). One common and wholly
subconscious technique is when somebody communicates to us in a way that
feel elicits an agreement their belief system. Then later we do something that
contradicts that belief system (which they believe we agreed to). Then they
act violated, and say something like, "But we talked about this and we agreed
that you would do this," or something equivalent. The trouble with arguing
about this after the fact is they actually believe we had an actual discussion,
and an actual agreement. In their mind, any discussion that this point would
make it look to them like we are going back on our word. The only way to
defend against this common and unconscious technique is call out the belief
in the first place. This is very easy, and it's actually very helpful if you use
this with somebody you are in a relationship with. You'll "train" them to
think twice before making assumptions, which they will interpret as a means
of strengthening the relationship. But if you use this against your enemies,
you can be as vicious as you like.
Boundary Defense
Ideally, we should just be able to calmly state our boundaries and they would
be accepted. An ideal relationship would be where each party calmly and
confidently can discuss each other’s boundaries. We would have mutual
respect and appreciation for each other, and we would be willing to work
within each other's stated boundaries. But meanwhile, back here on Earth,
that never happens. People tend to try to see how far they can push past our
boundaries. The techniques in this guide will be like having an army of
vicious guard dogs ready to eat any intruders alive who step one inch beyond
your boundaries. Of course, you might want to go easy on your family,
friends, and loved ones who you'd like to remain in a relationship with. But
with your enemies, the message will be clear. Your boundaries represent
private property, and trespassers will be shot. (Metaphorically!)
This is something that happens every time two people get together. We'll go
into much more detail later why this is, but every time somebody gives you
unasked for advice, tries to "show you up" in front of others, or make you
feel that you are "lesser" than them, it is an unconscious attempt on their part
to demonstrate higher social value than you. Often this is incredibly subtle,
but it's always there. Humans are hierarchical animals, both from a biological
theoretical standpoint, and a real world organizational standpoint. Where we
stand on the social hierarchy with respect to others is deeply important to
each one of us. Whenever anybody tries to assert their social status, however
subtly and subconsciously, you'll have the skills to knock them back down,
and make sure they never try that again.
Sever Relationships
Sometimes you just need to get rid of somebody. And not get rid of them and
bury them out in the desert, but make them leave you alone. Dale Carnegie
teaches us that you can get anybody to do anything so long as you make them
think it was their idea. Luckily, you'll learn some very powerful techniques
that will make anybody never, ever want to see you again. Friends that you
don't want to be friends with, salespeople that keep bothering you at home, or
anybody else that you want to be gone from your life will be gone because
they want to be gone.
Stalker Elimination
Sometimes you've got an ex that just hasn't got the memo. They still think
you are together. Or they think you were together when in reality you've
never been anywhere alone with them. Even if they have the wildest romantic
fantasies about you, within a few minutes conversation, they'll never, ever
want to see you again.
Attempted Manipulation
A kind of common idea in movies is when the good guy has gun, and it's
pointed at the bad guy. Everybody knows he's the bad guy, but he's trying to
pretend to be a good guy. He's trying to sweet talk the good guy into giving
up his gun. Usually the bad guy is a hardened killer, and the good guy has
never harmed anybody in his life. The scene is usually where the good guy is
shaking, trying to work up the courage to shoot. The bad guy is telling him
it's OK he doesn't have to do this, etc. But then the good guy shoots, only
there aren't any bullets in the gun. This, of course, enrages the bad guy. How
dare you try to kill me! Many of us find ourselves in similar situations, only
not with guns, but attempted manipulation. Somebody else is trying to get us
to do something, and we almost fall for it, and then realize they were trying to
take advantage of us. (Kind of like pulling the trigger and finding there aren't
any bullets). How do you respond in this situation? Here you are, sitting with
somebody who is being really nice to you, but you've just found out they
don't care anything about you. They were just trying to get you to do
something, so they would benefit. Sometimes you might even suffer horrible
consequences, while they benefit. That somebody would do this is extremely
cold hearted. Most people, were they in this situation, would be thankful we
didn't follow through, but knowing somebody was just about to put us into a
horrible situation doesn't feel good. Even though we don't follow through, we
still feel vulnerable. That there are people in the world that would gladly con
you into doing something, which may get your hurt, in jail or even killed, just
so they could benefit, all the while sweet talking you is a horrible thought. It's
very difficult to recover from this, even if you didn't go through with it. But
soon you will have a powerful weapon at your ready. A powerful set of tools
to use on them, if you like, that will make them wish they'd never met you.
You will be able to implant thoughts into their minds that will give them
nightmares. To forget who they are. To forever have trouble concentrating.
To be sure, this is not recommended. Quite the opposite. Ideally, you will
never, ever even contemplate using these. But just knowing that you can, in
just a few minutes, obliterate the emotional well-being of somebody (much
like martial arts can be used to kill if needed) with only your words will make
you have extreme confidence. And it is that confidence that will make it
difficult for the worst manipulators on Earth to even maintain eye contact
with you. Just knowing these skills will give you an incredible sense of
power few people ever realize.
Why They Work
Few things that we think as true are actually true. Human memory is
incredibly weak. A study was done to prove this. A professor was lecturing in
college, and he had a laptop on the desk in front. It was a big lecture hall with
over a hundred students. A "thief" came in and "stole" the laptop.
Researchers came in, posing as campus security and interviewed all the
students. Their descriptions of what the thief looked like were all over the
place. Few people had an accurate memory of what had happened.
Every second there are tons of pieces of information hitting our senses. Yet
we can only process a slim fraction of them. This means our brains have to
decide what's important, and what isn't. This is because back when we were
still evolving (we are still and will always be evolving) having a very fast, but
inaccurate brain was better than having a slow, but accurate brain. Back in
the ancient days of hunters and gatherers, quick thinking was a feature,
accurate thinking, not so much. Perhaps in a few thousand generations we
may evolve to have hyper accurate and much slower brains (or maybe even
accurate and fast brains), but for now, what we got is what we got. Fast and
blurry. We handle all that data in three ways.
Distort
Generalize
Delete
Information that isn't put into a category or saved in any way is left out. This
is usually stuff that isn't important. When the thief came into the classroom
and stole the professor's laptop, none of the students were thinking about the
professor's laptop. They were all busily thinking about their own problems.
Since the identity of thief wasn't that important to them, (whether they
remembered accurately or not wouldn't really affect them one way or the
other) so the information was treated as important by their brains.
If somebody tried to assert a certain belief on you, and you asked them to
demonstrate objectively why they think the belief is valid, or even good, most
people wouldn't be able to. Very few people are capable of real logic. We
speak and think in pseudo logic, and in some situations, it seems like we
think logically, but it's actually very rare. This provides us with a powerful to
quickly obliterate any idea we want to, in the minds of others.
Metaphor
Imagine for a moment, that we lived in a world where some people could
carry guns everywhere, and some people couldn't. And the people that had
the guns could make people without guns do anything they wanted. And the
people without guns went along with it, terrified of being shot. Yet, at the
same time, nobody could ever remember anybody being shot. The guns
looked real, they felt real, and certainly in the movies people shot each other
all the time. But in real life it never happened. The fear was enough. But then
you come along, and realize that all the guns are fake. They are just pieces of
metal. All it would take would be for you to demonstrate that their guns
cannot fire, and they would lose all their power. This metaphor is a bit
different, because in this metaphorical world you would be a hero. As soon as
you showed that one gun was fake, others would do the same and there would
be a massive upheaval of the power structure. But in real life, these skills will
be just as powerful. All the linguistic weapons anybody has ever used are like
those fake guns. All you have to do is expose them, and they will be
defenseless. Any insult, any derogatory comment, anything anybody that has
ever said that has negatively impacted you has been based on a collection of
distorted, deleted and generalized information. Not only will you be able to
defend yourself, but you'll be able to obliterate them if you need to. Just like
martial arts. You can block a punch and walk away, block a punch or knock
them out, or block a punch and kill them. But all you really have to do is
block a couple of punches, maybe get one in of your own, and their
imagination will do the rest. And since you will be using verbal skills, skills
that few people know exist, your presence will be potentially terrifying to
those you want it to be.
Keep Track of Your Own Brain
This may be hard pill to swallow. That all of our thoughts are based on false
information. Our main purpose of humans is as goal seeking organisms. We
function most efficiently when we are moving toward something that is
important to us. To our ancient ancestors, that may have been a distant
mountain range believed or hoped to have much better hunting and fewer
predators. In your own life that might mean getting promoted, strengthening
your relationships or learning new skills. So long as you have a target you are
moving toward, it doesn't matter how your thoughts are comprised. So long
as you know you are getting closer, that's all that you need. The things we
enjoy in life are emotional, not based on the accuracy of our thoughts. (This
is precisely why most enjoy making love in the dark). Most of the time,
having less than accurate information is a benefit. So long as you keep
moving forward, trying to remember how many times you chewed last night
is ridiculous. But understanding the structure of our thoughts, and how
tenuous they are when examined will help you easily swat away any who
would do you harm, so you can stay on track going after the things most
important to you.
Social Status Origins
What Is An instinct?
A long time ago, humans and chimps were the same kind of primates. Then
chimps went one way, and humans went the other. Over the long course of
evolution, humans managed to become these walking talking thinking
primates. But before we could walk and talk and think, we were run by
instincts. All animals are driven by instincts. These are like very complicated
rules of operation. If you see something to eat, move toward it. The image or
smell of the thing to eat comes into our senses. The triggers the hunger
desire, which sets off the collection of actions which take that thing to eat and
transform it from being something outside of us, to something inside of us.
Once it is inside of us (or the animal) it is slowly changed into energy (for
movement) and building material (for muscles and bones and tissue). The
development of our conscious minds is very recent. Our neocortex (new
brain) is very thin, and is wrapped around our much larger mammalian and
reptilian brains. If you've ever tried to lose weight through sheer willpower,
you know it is nearly impossible. That is because our hunger instinct is much
stronger than any conscious choice you can make. Our hunger instinct has
kept us alive for millions of years, while our conscious thinking brain is a
relatively new feature.
Instinct Mis-Match
Much of our problems as modern humans are because our instincts still think
we are living in a hunter gatherer society. Back in those days, food was
scarce, so an instinct that said, "Whenever you see food, eat as much as
possible." This translates into us feeling hungry (which makes us eat)
whenever we see food. This is why we really aren't hungry, but then when the
waitress sets down the appetizers, we suddenly realize how hungry we are.
Hunger is only the most obvious instinct, since we all eat, we all talk about
eating, we see TV shows and commercials where people are eating. It's hard
to go very far in our modern society without seeing tons of references to food
and eating. Our instincts still think we are living in dangerous times where
food needs to be chased and killed before eating it. This is the main reason
why obesity is a problem in industrialized societies. There is a very strong
correlation between a countries per capita GDP and it' obesity rates. You put
food in front of humans, and we'll eat it.
The most important instinct for our purposes is another one that was very
helpful back in the days of hunter-gatherers, but not so helpful today. It's one
that is very hard to notice, and very easy to ignore. But once you train your
mind to see it, you'll see it everywhere. It exists in every conversation, every
non-verbal interaction, every time you step onto an elevator with strangers.
While it is purely a biological survival instinct, just like hunger, because it's
hard to visualize it's commonly spoken of in metaphorical or philosophical
terms. However, because describing things metaphorically or philosophically
don't give us the technical details we need to handle it correctly, so we need
to get clear on what it is specifically, as an instinct.
Social Cohesion
One very important part of hunter-gatherer life was social cohesion. Tribes
that worked well together tended to survive better than tribes that were
always getting into disagreements about what to do. This is just as true in
chimps as it is in us humans. Every individual of the tribe needs to maintain a
certain level of social acceptance and appreciation. Everybody needs to know
that everybody else is carrying their own weight, and doing their fair share.
At the same time, all social primates (just like us humans) are organized into
hierarchies. So, we've got this top down organization, and at the same time,
everybody needs to know their own place, and feel comfortable with it, and
everybody's got to feel that everybody else is in their place as well.
Social Instincts
Higher Up Is Better
In chimps there is a strong correlation between social status and sex. Meaning
the chimps that are higher up on the social status ladder have more sex (and
they get more food) than chimps that are on the lower rungs of the social
status ladder. What does this mean? It suggests that every generation of new
chimps is created from the winners of the social status contest from the
previous generation. And since those higher up the social status get more of
both sex and food, it's a safe assumption that the desire for higher social
status is more important than either the drive for sex, or the drive for food. If
you get higher social status, then food and sex is an outcome, a result. So, we
can say our collection of social instincts (or the ego) is a combination of
being hypersensitive to the opinions others have about us. Good opinions
about us make us feel good and want to repeat whatever created those good
opinions. Bad opinions about us make us want to change our behavior to
avoid those negative opinions. At the same time, whenever we see an
opportunity to move up the social status ladder we take it.
Just Like Hunger
Modern Implications
Imagine living back in the days of hunter-gathers. We lived with the same
people our entire lives. We knew where we stood. If we had any hidden
desires to move up the social status ladder (which we did, since everybody
always wanted to move up however they could) we had to play the long
game. Since we had to hunt and sleep and forage with the same people our
entire lives, we wouldn't want to take any huge risks. We knew our place, and
we did whatever we could to maintain other’s opinions about us, while
moving up however we could. This was usually done by how well we did our
jobs, how well we hunted, foraged, and protected the tribe from danger. With
everybody doing this, it pretty much guaranteed the tribe would be in good
shape. Today our lives are very, very different. Just like our ancient hunger
instinct is getting triggered like crazy, so is our social status instinct. It's
triggered by people talking about us, by any praise we may get, and by the
plethora of opportunities to demonstrate social superiority.
Extremely Subtle
When we meet others whom we don't know well, the game is on. There is a
contest going on beneath the surface that amounts to a "socials status
contest." Remember, this is very subtle and one that few people will ever
notice. But it is always there. Whenever you step into an elevator with
strangers, you measure everybody up and they measure you up. It happens
quickly and subconsciously. If you are sitting on a subway, and somebody
gets on, you will immediately guess their social status relative to yours. Any
time you are talking to somebody, that battle is always going on beneath the
surface.
Homework
Take a few moments every day and look at the people around you. Don't see
them as rational and logical humans, see them as primates who are always
concerned with social status. Try and find the actual contests they are having.
These will always be subtle, but if you look for them, you will find them.
Dominance Games
Here we'll go over some common ways that we humans try and exert our
dominance over other humans. This sounds a bit melodramatic. Exerting
dominance is something that silverback gorillas do, while screaming and
beating their chests, right? It's also what chickens do. The idea of the
"pecking order" is from watching groups of chickens at feeding time. They
all eat in a certain order. The high-status chickens eat first, and on down the
line. When a new chicken is introduced, they rearrange themselves. On one
hand, this sounds brutal and primitive. But remember, we are all biological
organisms. As individuals, we must maximize what we get while minimizing
what it takes to get it. As social animals, we must arrange ourselves in system
that maximizes our collective efficiency. If we spent half our time fighting
for dominance, we'd waste a lot of energy. This makes sense when we see
chickens. This makes sense when we think about ancient hunter-gathers. But
we live in societies where most everybody we deal with is not somebody
we've known our entire lives. So, from our instinctive hierarchical
perspective, we still haven't settled who is above whom in the social status
ladder. When a new chicken is introduced into a group, it only takes a little
bit of effort to reorganize the group. But we humans are flowing in and out of
groups all the time. Just like our- hunger instinct, our social status instinct is
going crazy! Here are some ways we try to either exert or demonstrate
dominance.
Advice
Nobody likes unasked for advice. The reason is what is presupposed in the
giving of the advice. If you are standing on a corner and holding map, it's
clear you are lost. If a stranger walked up and offered help, the
presupposition is that he knows the area, and you do not. This is a very subtle
way of demonstrating higher social status. They know the area, you do not. If
you accept their advice, then you accept that they are more knowledgeable
than you. In this situation, most of us would accept the advice. We would
"trade" an acknowledgement of our lower social status in exchange for
getting the answer to our location problem. Think of a time you were trying
to figure something out, and somebody came out of nowhere and offered you
unwanted advice. This is what it feels like when somebody tries to impose
their believed "higher social status" on us. If we reject their offer and figure it
out ourselves, we don't have to accept their attempt to demonstrate higher
social status. Think of a time you offered unasked for advice to a stranger.
Giving advice feels good. It feels good because you are asserting your social
status as higher than theirs. You may have trouble accepting this. You may
say, "I wasn't showing off my social status, I was only helping!" But what
does "help" imply? It means that somebody needed your help. It means that
they were better off with you than without you. It means they were
insufficient before you showed up to offer your help. It means that you saw
what they were attempting to do, and you decided they couldn't do it, or they
couldn't do it as well, without you. This is very hard to accept for many
people. We like to think of helping people as virtuous and selfless. Try out
this mind experiment. Imagine two situations. One where you walk up, offer
your help, and your help is accepted and appreciated, and it allows them to
get the job done when before they couldn't. How does this feel? Now imagine
the same situation, your help is what they need, they do the job with your
help, and they can't do the job without your help. Only your help arrives
mysteriously and anonymously. Nobody knows you helped them except for
you. From their perspective, they just got lucky. Maybe it comes across as a
gust of wind that pushes just the right thing in the right place. Now how does
it feel to help them? Now imagine another scenario. Imagine you help them
mysteriously and anonymously, but somebody sees them receive mysterious
and anonymous help. You know you created the help, but to them it seems
like luck. A few people are watching, and they see the person get lucky. And
they congratulate him on how lucky he is. One of them is even a talk show
producer and they are doing a case study on lucky, and they want to hire him
to tell his story about getting lucky. Now how do you feel about helping
them?
Asking Questions
Responding to Statements
Let's say you're at a meeting. The boss asks for opinions. You offer yours,
which is well thought out and one you believe will help the company. You
can hear somebody sigh loudly while the cock their head and look at you
questioningly. How do you feel? Chances are the person wouldn't do that
unless they already had a good idea they could "put you down" effectively in
front of others. Perhaps you withhold your opinion for fear of just this
occurrence. Even in one on one situations, how we respond to statements by
others, and how our statements are responded to by others, is one of the many
ways these social status games are played.
Once you tune yourself to these non-verbal and largely unconscious signals,
an entire new world will open. When you step into an elevator, everybody
sizes everybody up quickly and silently. Usually when the words come, they
come after all the non-verbal exchanges. Words are more of a result of the
deeper energy than the cause of it. This gives us an incredible advantage.
Most folks have no idea of these deeply unconscious and every present
power-play games that are always going on beneath the surface. They are
very easy to see, and once you train yourself to see them, you'll see them
everywhere. Most people feel their relational social status without really
knowing it. They speak without really thinking, or at least not speaking very
thoroughly. In most situations, people are unaware of the relationship
between the intention behind their words, and the ever present social status
games being played. This means they are very delicate. Their power rests on
the unconscious interplay between various levels of social status. This game
goes on without most people ever knowing it's happening. This means that
once you learn some simple linguistic tools to carefully and covertly question
what they are saying, their imaginary social status will collapse. Remember a
couple chapters ago. All our ideas are based in incomplete mental maps of
what's going on around us. That means their own level of social status is
equally based on those mental maps. So, the trick will be to ask them very
subtle questions that they won't be able answer. This uncertainty will be felt
as an uncertainty about their social status, which will make them suddenly
question their standing. Right now, this might not make much sense. But
once you try a few of these tools, and you see how easily they can "knock
others off balance," it will begin to be clear. For now, continue with your
observational exercises and practice seeing these power play games as often
as you can. The first step is to notice them. The second step is to see how
unstable they are.
Homework
It's common to think of humans as static. That our life today is just the way
humans are, and have been, and will be. However, humans are still evolving.
All creatures are still evolving. The reason us humans are a special case is
that our environment is other humans. Wolves live in a certain environment,
and will evolve to match their environment. Because the environment in
which wolves is very stable, the changes that happen within the wolves will
be very slow and gradual. Humans were the same until very recently. In the
long stretch between when we split from chimps six million years ago to the
agricultural revolution only a few thousand years ago, we were like most
animals. We were very few, so the main forces on our evolution were the
natural environment. But that slowly started to change once a certain number
of humans started to exist. A shift happened when other humans became the
primary driving contributor to our evolutionary pressure. This created a kind
of feedback loop, which accelerated some of the changes. However, at our
core, we still have the ancient instincts from our hunter gatherer days. At the
same time, a new paradigm came into being. These two paradigms continue
to exist today, and we might even consider these two paradigms of how to
govern human society to be the primary forces of all inter-societal struggles.
Understand each of these mindsets, and how they are both present in our day
to day lives is essential to being able to verbally defend yourself in any
potential confrontation.
This is the old way of thinking. This is the power structure of hierarchies.
Whoever is in charge makes the rules, and that's that. Whoever can exert the
most influence is the one who calls the shots. When two people have a
discussion, it's often not who is most logical, or who is more correct that wins
or decides the outcome. it is whoever can exert their argument the strongest.
Here, "strongest" doesn't mean force or even an obvious imposition. Who can
present their argument with the most compelling emotions. For example, say
three people are having a discussion on where to eat dinner. One person
strongly favors Chinese food, the other person strongly favors Mexican food,
and the third person doesn't really have an opinion. The battle then, is to see
who can best persuade this third party to their preferred choice. Logic won't
usually be used in this kind of argument. Whoever presents their case the
most compellingly will. While this is a friendly conversation and they will all
likely enjoy their meal wherever they decide to eat, the process of choosing is
very much a "might makes right” strategy. If the person arguing for Mexican
food doesn't describe it with very much enthusiasm, while the Chinese food
advocate uses strong emotions, compelling gestures, and mouth-watering
descriptions of the food itself, their argument is stronger than their
competitor. Even when babies wake up in the middle of the night and start
crying, a "might makes right" battle is kicked off. The mother tries to ignore
the baby, while the baby continues to cry. Whoever can exert the most
influence on the situation will get their way. Unless there is a very clear
stated outcome, and all parties agree on the outcome and use pure logic to
determine the best method of attaining that outcome, you can be sure there is
a might makes right struggle going on. Even within your own mind, when
standing in the frozen food section of the grocery store, deciding between a
frozen pizza and a frozen burrito, there is a might makes right struggle
happening in your brain. In a very literal sense, you are standing there and
letting your desire for pizza and your desire for burritos battle it out. You will
choose the winner of the might-makes-right contest.
Trade
The second and very recent idea is that of trade. Trade has always existed,
and even exists in lower animals. Many animals keep score when they do
favors for one another. Many believe that when chimps and other primates sit
down to pick the bugs out of each other's hair, they are practicing a very deep
"tit for tat" exchange. Some even believe that our propensity to gossip
follows this same structure. I tell you something juicy today, and you've got
to reciprocate later. When various hunter-gatherer tribes started to encounter
one another, they either traded with one another, or they fought with one
another. We can think of these as the two basic ways of interacting with
others to get our needs met. We can trade, give them something of ours in
exchange for something of theirs, or we can fight (might makes right) and the
winner gets to take whatever they want. Just understanding both mindsets
will give you a huge advantage. For example, most people try and use the
might makes right strategy as their go-to strategy. They aren't going to use
force or violence, but they'll attempt to use a compelling argument to get us
to go along with them. Understanding that they are using the might makes
right strategy is the first step. Just knowing this gives us an advantage. A very
easy antidote to any might makes right attempt is to casually move them from
the might makes right strategy into the trade strategy. This sounds very
simple and basic, but it subtly gives them a very powerful message:
You won't get me to do anything for free. Everything you get from me is going
to cost you something.
How to deliver this? Let's consider the Mexican food vs. Chinese food
argument. You say you'd prefer Mexican food. Your friend goes on and on
about how awesome the Chinese restaurant is. Before the disinterested third
party can respond, you say something simple like:
"Tell you what. You can choose this time, and I'll choose next time,
deal?" This changes everything completely. When anybody uses the might
makes right strategy effectively, they believe (usually subconsciously) that
they're establishing their dominance. And one of the primary reasons for
having social hierarchy dominance over others is you get to choose what to
do, and they will simply go along with you. Also remember that most people
use the might makes right strategy without really thinking. The desire to exert
social dominance is very instinctive. So, by slowly pushing them from might
makes right into the trade agreement, this sounds fair, but at the same time it
feels less powerful to them. Despite how much everybody claims they love
the idea of fairness, everybody would secretly like to be in charge, so they
can get their way. The whole reason to exert a might makes right strategy is
to get more out of a system than you put in. When you covertly push them
toward a trade scenario, the message is that nobody gets more out than what
they put in.
Ideal Situations
Shift to Trade
This is when we use language that implies any kind of "tit for tat." If I do
this, what do I get? We force them to explain what we get for going along
with what they want.
Destroy Them
Cause Effect
It's believed by many that one of the mechanisms that gave our brains its
speed (that we got in exchange for accuracy) was a tendency to assume cause
and effect when none exists. Instead of seeing something, and then taking a
lot of time to investigate what that something meant, it was much quicker to
make fast assumptions of what that something meant, even if those
assumptions were wrong most of the time. Two cavemen see a yellow flower.
One caveman assumes that "yellow flower = tiger" and runs away. The
second caveman is more of a philosopher type, and goes to investigate.
However, the philosopher caveman only needs to make one mistake, and he'll
get eaten by a tiger. Over time, all the philosophers will be removed from the
gene pool, while the cavemen with the quickest cause-effect generators in
their brains will be safe. They'll be wrong most of the time, but in the long
game of evolution, being wrong is OK so long as you live long enough to
make copies of yourself. Here we are today with a brain filled with cause-
effect linkages that simply don't exist. So, the idea is, when somebody comes
at you with any might-makes-right argument, all you've got to do is to find
any implied cause and effect, and ask them why they think it's true. They
won't be able to. They might say something like, "It just is!" but they will
have run out of steam. They will be expecting and equal and opposite
reaction (Newton's Third Law) and when you not only don't give them one,
but instead ask them to explain why they feel the way they do, they won't
know what to do.
It's tempting to get directly into the actual language patterns (which indeed
are very simple) but they won't be useful, in fact they may backfire if you
deliver them with the wrong mindset. If you have any hint of a might-makes-
right mindset when using them, they will have the opposite effect.
Understand that operating on a might-makes-right mindset is very ego based,
and very instinctive. It's hard to undo it once it's done. It's best to spend some
time cultivating a neutral mindset from which to deliver the linguistic
patterns. The best way to do this is to force yourself to visualize the ideas
people are trying to say to you. When somebody comes at you with a might-
makes-right argument, it's already being projected through their non-verbal
communication before any words are delivered. To keep yourself from
responding emotionally, try some of these exercises.
Train yourself to see people who are coming to talk to you, or who you are
already in a conversation with, and see the ideas in their mind as actual
images next to them. This is something that will take practice. The idea is to
first hear their words, and then use them to describe a picture, and then
respond, both verbally and emotionally. One way to do this is to train
yourself to look to their side when they are talking. While it is rude to look at
something else specifically while somebody is talking to you (your device,
for example) but you stare off into space, and focus intently while listening, it
will be clear you are listening to them in your own unique way. If you can
avoid looking at them, you will have a much easier time not responding
automatically and unconsciously to their non-verbal communication.
Ease Into It
One way to do this is to ease into the imaginary picture communication style.
For example, if they are looking at you and speaking, and you are looking at
them, and you find yourself on the receiving end of a might-makes-right
suggestion, look to their side, and force yourself to see a picture of what they
just recommended. Doing so will help release any emotional energy that has
been built up. This may seem a bit odd, but a lot of people communicate this
way. It's also likely you will be perceived as a deep thinker, and most people
will be gratified that you are taking their idea so seriously. At this point, how
you respond isn't nearly as important as that you start practicing this "to the
side gazing" which will eliminate any emotion from the conversation. Try
with friends or even service staff until you get the hang of it. If you order a
coffee, and they repeat back, "room for cream?" You can take just a second to
look to the side of them, quickly imagine a cup of coffee with some room at
the top before giving them your answer. Once you get the hang of this, it will
be a quick and easy to way to rapidly put on hold any might-makes-right
attacks on your personal sovereignty. Once you develop this habit, a few
seconds is all you need to deflate any of their aggression, no matter how
covert or strong.
Digging Beneath the Surface
Quite often all you'll need to do is just ask a few simple questions that get
them to justify their intentions. Structurally, this is very much like the
stereotypical schoolyard bully. He is powerful only when people let him be.
All it takes is one person to fight back, and usually this only requires one
well-deserved punch, and he is a bully no longer. When you ask for
clarification when anybody comes at you with a might-makes-right strategy,
no matter how subtle, it will have the same affect. However, always keep in
mind that you're underlying energy must be as neutral as possible. If you are
trying to push back (which will come across as your own might-makes-right
counter attack) while pretending to be neutral, it will be much less effective.
This will elicit from them the same behavior. They will respond to your
words, but since your energy is not neutral, they will dig into their might-
makes-right strategy. But once you have mastered the art of maintaining
neutrality (by practicing the side-gazing exercise) the words are usually quite
simple.
This simple question can be devastating when said with absolutely neutral
energy. Their whole strategy is to make a suggestion with emotional force.
This is subconscious, but the strategy is for the emotional force to do the
convincing. By ignoring the emotional force (by being neutral) and focusing
on the surface structure language, they will be forced to offer up an
explanation. The more neutral you are, the more they will realize that their
energy isn't enough, and they might have to use actual logic or other rational
explanations. Let's look at some simple examples.
Restaurant Choice
Let's assume you and a colleague or even a friend are discussing where to eat
for lunch. They are eager to eat Chinese food, and you would not like to. You
don't really have a reason (you never need a reason for your subjective
desires), but they are adamant about eating Chinese food. They stick their
head in your office, and say:
"Let's get Chinese food," they say with eager enthusiasm. They are smiling.
They are excited. But they are also using the might-makes-right strategy,
since they are assuming the strength of their desire will be enough to
convince you. You could say, "I don't really feel like Chinese food," but you
suspect that if you say that, and they ask, "Why not?" with the same level of
energy, you won't have an answer. Instead, look to the side, neutralize your
emotions and then look back at them.
This will send their mind in a quick loop. They'll wonder why you are asking
such a silly question. They were assuming that you would just go along with
them. They spend a few seconds, and maybe come back with the same
suggestion. Only this time their enthusiasm is mixed with a little confusion.
"Lunch, Chinese food," they repeat, a little less sure. Again, you quickly look
to the side, and neutralize your emotions.
"Why Chinese food?" You ask as plainly as you can. They will not be sure
what to say. They will maybe ask what's wrong with you, or why you are
acting so silly. But remember, they came to you, they imposed their idea on
you, and while you wouldn't mind going to lunch with them, you don't want
to go if you are going to get Chinese food.
"It's good," they reply, less enthusiastic and more confused. At this point
there are a lot of things you can say. Always remember the main goal, to get
them to back off, for their own reasons, of their might-makes-right strategy.
This isn't to overrule them with your idea, or get them to acknowledge your
skills. If they want to continue the conversation, that's up to them. From your
perspective, you were content to eat lunch on your own, as you weren't
planning on going over to their office and asking them. This isn't a
negotiation tactic or a clever way of getting them to go along with your idea.
In this example, you are only getting them to back off, without using any
might-makes-right energy of your own. At this point, they might offer an
alternative, or ask for your preference. In this example, both are acceptable.
But if they are still standing there, staring at you (perhaps you are the only
one they want to eat with), what then? Just repeat the same question.
"What do you mean?" you ask calmly. Now they are in a position where you
are calmly asking them to explain why they think Chinese food is good, or
what they mean when they say Chinese food is good. But at this point, they
will have realized that their initial enthusiasm is was not enough to convince
you. But what if they get angry?
"Dude, what the F is wrong with you?" they may ask, slightly perturbed. Use
the same response. Look to the side briefly, neutralize yourself, and repeat
the question.
"What do you mean?" Reading this may seem silly. You might imagine that
anybody you tried this would think you insane, and publicly ridicule you or
never want to talk to you again. But remember our discussion about
incomplete maps. Their idea to eat Chinese food was a spur of the moment
decision. Few people ever think about why they like certain food, nor do
people ever expect to need any extensive discussions to convince their friends
to go along with them. And when you ask these simple questions from a pure
frame of neutrality, they really won't know what to say. Many of us have
beliefs, and we just assume these beliefs are self-evident. We think Chinese
food is good, we expect most "normal people" to feel the same way. We
never expect anybody to ask us why we feel that way. What we do expect is
for people to have opposite tastes, and in those cases, we imagine having a
might-makes-right battle over who can best present their case of food choice.
What we don't expect is for somebody to calmly and honestly ask us why we
feel the way we do, and actually expect us to give a rational answer. The
whole purpose of the neutrally asked, "What do you mean," is not to
demonstrate intellectual or moral superiority. It is only to get them to back off
their might-makes-right strategy. Certainly, if you have your own might-
makes-right food choice, and you enjoy having might-makes-right food
choice battles (as most of us do) that's perfectly fine. The neutralizing, "what
do you mean" question is only for those times when you don't feel like having
a might-makes-right battle, and you don't want to give in to their choices
either. It's also a great way to practice. Asking simple questions from a purely
neutral perspective is an extremely useful strategy that will quickly take the
wind out of the sails of your enemies, no matter how strong or belligerent
their arguments are.
Practice
Try this strategy out whenever you can. Don't overdo it, or your friends will
stop being your friends. Part of the reason for having friends is that we
humans genuinely enjoy these might-makes-right battles. But practicing this
technique once in a while will train your mind that there are other options. It's
much easier to practice on your friends than it is to try this technique for the
first time when somebody is actually trying to get you to do something that
you really don't want to even talk about. We'll discuss those cases in detail
later. But for now, try to look for one of these opportunities once a day. You
don't need to carry it very far, especially with your friends. Just a few "what
do you mean" questions asked from a neutral stance is enough.
Meta Model
That last chapter was a brief introduction in just how fragile our ideas are.
We have beliefs that are not very well thought out, and we present those
beliefs to others with an underlying emotional energy that does most of the
convincing. And most of the time, we have the idea that our beliefs, and their
self-evident truth, as the things doing the convincing. You'll find that
practicing the skill of being neutral and asking about the belief itself can be
devastating. The reason is that very few of our beliefs are accurate. Unless we
have a belief about a principle from mathematics or physics, they are formed
by a collection of feelings and very inaccurate maps of our reality. As much
as we humans like to believe we are rational thinking logicians, this is very
rarely the case. We are very emotional, and most of the time our emotions are
doing most of the thinking. By removing emotions from the equation on your
part, and calmly focusing on the structure of their beliefs, you will force them
to one of two conclusions. One is that their beliefs are incorrect (unless they
really do have a rational and logical reason). The other is that they will agree
that their beliefs are unimportant and the only things that matters is for them
to overpower you, with pure emotional energy, or even violence. This is what
happens when arguments break down into shouting matches and even
fistfights. If you feel you are nearing this type of confrontation, then it's time
to switch into fight or flight mode. Meaning you actually have to physically
defend yourself, or you simply leave. (Or mentally leave by ignoring them if
physically leaving is not an option). The stronger the emotional force of their
argument or imposition, the more flexibility you'll need in your neutral
questioning. "What do you mean," is usually fine for small, inconsequential
disagreements, but when somebody is imposing a larger idea on you, it's time
for the heavy artillery.
Meta Model
As our beliefs are not well formed, and any impositions you experience will
likely be emotional, the meta model will be deadly. Any time you hear a
vague statement, there are many, many ways to use the meta model to ask for
more specific information. Let's use the statement from the last chapter:
What is the definition of "good"? Good for how long? Good according to
whom? Do people who are deathly allergic to Chinese food think it's good?
Would it still be good if you had to eat it for every meal for the rest of your
life? Would it still be good if the price went up threefold? Would it be good if
you found it in a garbage can? On the street? Delivered to your table while
you watched rat scurry across the floor? Again, these are silly questions few
of us would ever ask. But when asked about any kind of statement of belief
that somebody is imposing on you, their emotional energy underneath the
beliefs will evaporate.
Journaling Practice
These are best practiced in the privacy of your own mind. Using these on
people have a tendency to make those people not ever want to be around you
again. It might be fun to use them on your friends, but be very careful. Few
people enjoy having their beliefs questioned. Because once any of our beliefs
are questioned, we will be forced to realize that they aren't nearly as true as
we think they are. Consider that as humans, having a collection of beliefs that
can never be proved is part of being human. Our brains simply cannot
function without a lot of shortcuts and efficiencies in thinking. These simple
questions can be very devastating, which is they are considered linguistic
weapons. Practicing martial arts feels good, but few people use them on
unsuspecting people just for fun. Only criminals and sociopaths do that. But
people that practice martial arts still see the value in practicing them. If you
had a black belt, and somebody came up behind you and put their hands on
your shoulder, you wouldn't automatically turn around and break their jaw.
You would simply escape their grasp in the easiest way possible, and keep a
safe distance. Consider these language skills the same way. By practicing
these, you will soon see holes in everybody's logic, including your own.
Accept this as the human condition. Only use these when you need to
obliterate the thinking of your enemy.
How to Practice
Sit down at the end of the day, and think of one statement you heard that day,
either from somebody in person, or somebody online, or somebody on TV.
Then come up with as many questions asking as you can, like in the "Chinese
food is good" example above. A great way to practice is in online forums.
Register anonymously, with an email that can't be traced back to you. Then
just practice destroying statements others make. Even this will invite quite a
bit of anger, so be careful! Getting yelled at online can still be tough to take.
But your ability to think on the spot, and come up with as many meta model
questions in real time, from a neutral position, will make you impervious to
any verbal assaults.
Embedded Insults
When people come at you with simple yet unwanted impositions, it's fairly
easy repel them. Shift to a neutral position, and ask some simple question that
gently push them off balance. Many times, however, people will say things,
and we feel that we've just been insulted, but we aren't sure why. These take a
bit more time to defend, as it requires learning the structure of their covert
insults. What makes it difficult is when people throw these embedded insults
our way is that they aren't very thought out. Even though they are still using a
might-makes-right strategy to push us off balance, it's not so easy to question
the surface structure of their language. Sometimes asking, "What do you
mean?" isn't enough, and sometimes, that innocent question may even make
things worse.
The presupposition in this question is that there was a time where we beat our
wife. That time is in the past, because now we don't beat our wife. The
question is asking when that transition happened. But in order to make sense
of this question, we must first accept its premise, that once we did, in fact,
beat our wife and now we don't. Even to consider the question, we've got to
presume the wife beating period, and the non-wife beating period. The trick
to reply to this is question the underlying assumption, and do it quickly
before any observers accept the premise. Because once they accept the
premise, it's too late. In this example, a useful response could be:
It must be quick, and it must be neutral. By asking them why they "think" we
ever beat our wife, it puts the onus right back on them to present any
evidence, which they won't be able to do. We must do this faster than the
people watching can make any assumptions about our alleged wife beating.
This requires practice. Because most questions that include embedded insults
won't be so easy and obvious. Remember, they don't need to prove anything.
All they need to do is lob the embedded insult, and let it sit in the minds of
the listeners while we struggle to respond. The good news is that if we do
quickly identify the embedded insult, and question them about it, it will
backfire tremendously. They will look guilty, and everybody will know they
unsuccessfully attempted to insult us. However, this will take a lot of
practice. And it will require martial arts style drills, so we can block the
verbal punches before they land.
Basic Strategy
Whenever we get an embedded insult thrown our way, we must quickly
identify the insult. Then we put the onus back on them by asking them to
explain or clarify the insult. How we do that isn't nearly as important as
identifying the insult quickly and neutrally. When people lob these embedded
insults, they usually haven't give them much thought. They are just a clever
way of insulting us that nearly always works. It's very much like a sucker
punch. If you were to sucker punch somebody, the whole point is to punch
them so they don't see it coming. That means when intending to sucker punch
somebody, the only strategy is to punch them once. Nobody that plans on
throwing a sucker punch ever expects to get their sucker punch blocked,
otherwise it wouldn't be a sucker punch. But if you happen to see a sucker
punch coming, and you do block it, it's all over for the sucker puncher. The
implications are clear. Because you are skilled enough to anticipate a sucker
punch and block it, the implications that in a straight up fight, the sucker
puncher would be no match for you. When you calmly ask them to explain
what they presupposed in their embedded insult, it will have the same effect.
One question is generally enough to neutralize them. They are expecting the
insult to stun you, and they hope that everybody sees that you are stunned,
and judges them as "more powerful" than you, at least on the social status
ladder based on the situation. They are expecting you to passively be unable
to respond, which will make them feel even more powerful. Like a sucker
punches who expects to knock out his victim, and then maybe hit him a
couple more times just to demonstrate his authority. But when you block the
embedded insult by asking him to explain why he thinks it is true, all focus
will shift to him. He will then be on the defensive, which means you can
further destroy anything he says. Once he's on defense, you can simply keep
asking simple questions like, "Why do you think that?" to anything he says.
This will further embarrass him. But before we get to that stage, we've got to
explore the world of linguistic presuppositions, so we can learn how to
defend against them.
Linguistic Presuppositions - Deeper Structures
Before we get into the actual details, understand that reading about these will
not help you defend against them. Study these linguistic presuppositions as
seriously as you would martial arts. It's fun to watch kung-fu movies, or even
martial arts demonstrations on YouTube. But if you want to be able to defend
yourself against physical attacks in real time, you must practice them. The
best way to practice martial arts is to do the moves, over and over and over.
To practice the defense against these embedded ideas and insults, you need to
write them out, over and over and over. And when we say, "write them out,"
we literally mean that. Take a notebook a pen and spend thirty minutes a day
for several months. Learning martial arts is very powerful and worthwhile,
but it does take time. Consider learning these linguistic presuppositions as
just as powerful, perhaps even more so. Because once you train these into
your brain by writing each one out hundreds of times, you will become a very
effective communicator. Right now, when you hear people talking, you may
have a vague idea of what they really mean. But once you understand the
ideas that we embed into our sentences, all the time, it will be like having X-
ray vision into their minds. Be warned, though. Some of what you find will
not be pretty. Unlike martial arts, where you only need to worry about when
training or in tournaments, you will start to see very unpleasant things
embedded into all the communication you’re exposed to. Think of your
training in linguistic presuppositions as a "Red Pill" which will allow you to
see the truth of how people feel beyond the words they use. Not everybody is
an angel on the inside. By gaining the power to defend yourself, you will also
expose yourself to the true thoughts, fears and assumptions of those around
you.
General Structure
Inside many sentences are more than one idea. For example, consider the
sentence:
Same sentence, but the noun is changed from car to kangaroo. Because
kangaroos are not red, people that hear this will make some assumptions or
guesses. Perhaps it's a stuffed kangaroo. Perhaps it's not really a kangaroo,
maybe it's something else, and kangaroo is the name of the model. This
sentence would be a bit unclear, and people listening would ask for more
information. But what about this sentence:
This would cause some confusion. If you said this with a straight face and
total seriousness, the listener's brains wouldn't really know what to do. They
would try and guess what it meant, and they wouldn't come up with an
obvious answer. If you said this as if it made total sense, they would look at
each other (if you were speaking to more than one person) and need some
help understanding. So far, this is silly. It doesn't involve any insults or bad
ideas about anybody. Just a goofy idea. Normally people don't go around
talking about things that don't make sense, just to make other people confused
(although it is a fun party trick!). When people deliver insults, they believe
the insult is true. But at the same time, they only feel the insult is true.
Remember, our beliefs are made up of less than perfect maps of our reality.
Their negative beliefs about you are like that. They instinctively present it in
a way they don't think will be questioned. They want to get the idea out there,
but they don't want to have to defend the idea. Consider the very common,
"Don't you think..."
This is almost always followed by an idea the speaker believes is true, yet at
the same time they wouldn't feel comfortable defending it. For example, let's
consider the idea that people should pay more taxes. If they said:
Don't you think people should pay more taxes?
It's subtle way of putting the other person on the spot of having to defend the
opposite of the idea. Person A, the speaker, thinks people should pay more
taxes. But instead of saying that, they take the opposite of the idea, and put
that into the mind of the listener, person B. If person B answers, "I don't think
so," then person A can legitimately say, "Why not?" This is a very common,
and very clever trick. Person A has now put person B in the position of
having to defend the opposite of their idea (of paying more taxes). If person
A were to be open and straightforward, they would say, "I think people
should pay more taxes." Then person B could legitimately ask the why they
think that. Since person A doesn't want to defend their idea of wanting
everybody to pay more taxes, they covertly trick person B into defending the
opposite idea. When person B can't adequately defend the opposite idea,
person A has covertly asserted their idea (of people paying more taxes)
without ever having to defend or justify it. Like our last example, (the alleged
wife beater) any hesitation on speaker B's part will make it look like they
don't have an argument against not having to pay more taxes. Since they can't
defend not paying taxes (or at least it appears that way) they must agree with
speaker A. The best defense is to see it what it is, an embedded idea. Respond
quickly and neutrally. The idea that speaker A is trying to embed is the idea
that people should pay more taxes. The best response would be to quickly
and neutrally ask them:
Or
Or
In this particular case, they might dig in and repeat the question. The best
solution would be to remain as neutral as possible, and continue to ask them
calmly. For example, they might say:
"You don't think so?" which is basically a repeat of their first attempt. To
which you can remain neutral and say:
If you watch any heated debates on TV, what usually happens next is person
A will continue to put words in the mouth of person B. The only thing you
can do in this case, is maintain your neutrality. If person A says, "You really
don't think people should pay more taxes? You really think everything is just
fine the way it is?"
Stick to your guns (or your non-guns). Remain as neutral as possible and ask
them to explain and defend their position.
"I don't really know. Why don't you explain why you believe what you do, so
I can make an informed decision?”
Used when talking about something in the past tense which didn't actually
happen.
(presupposition: You are behind; you are behind because you are lazy; you
can't wake up on time)
X = something you should have done but didn't (according to the speaker)
Potential Questions
What does waking up on time have to do with what I'm doing now?
Potential Questions
Used to confuse the issue, and get you to defend the opposite of what they
would like to be believed as true.
Potential Questions
Potential Questions
If we do X, we can't do Y.
Presupposition: X is a bad idea, usually for reasons other than not doing Y.
Potential Questions
Since you woke up late we might not get there in time to get good seats.
Potential Question
Anything that questions the link between past actions and future potential
actions.
Does everybody wait until I wake up to buy tickets? That seems strange.
Pattern: Comparative
Potential Questions
Are we in a hurry?
Pattern: Quantifiers
Potential Questions
Potential Questions
Potential Questions:
Potential Questions
What is so dumb about that idea is that everybody has already tried it.
Potential Questions
Potential Questions
(presupposition: you are the main thing keeping this from getting done)
Potential Questions
Potential Questions
I don't get it. Can you explain to me why it's a good idea?
Potential Questions
Why is that fortunate?
(presupposition: the matter is finished, the issue is bad, you understand the
issue wrong)
Potential Questions
(presupposition: there are many things that make them angry, X is one of
them)
Potential Questions
Pattern: Comparative As
(as...as)
Nothing is as ridiculous as X!
Potential Questions
Potential Questions
Potential Questions
Why do you think the matter is settled?
I don't know what it is about you. You've changed. I don't like what you are
turning into.
Presupposition: Your new self is bad in some way; you should go back to
your old self
Potential Questions
What did you like about me before that you don't see now?
Potential Questions:
Pattern: Pronouns
(he, she, they)
Potential Questions:
There are two ways to practice these. One is to start to look for any
statements that other people make that make you feel defensive, but you
aren't sure why. This requires that you remember what they said exactly, so
later on when you are more emotionally neutral you can dissect what they
said and find the hidden assumptions. Of course, by then it will be too late.
Remember, these aren't used by others to do anything other than make you
feel bad and weak emotionally. So, if you were to come back the next day
and try to say something, they would pretend it didn't happen. The whole
point of these embedded insults and other embedded ideas is so they can they
sucker punch you, emotionally, while at the same time maintaining their
innocence. The only way to combat these is in real time, the quicker the
better. Going over previous statements after the fact will only prepare you for
any similar statement in the future. This works, but it's very slow. And it also
requires that you wait until you are covertly insulted. A much better way is to
be proactive. As mentioned before, once you start to train your mind to see
these, you'll see them everywhere. It's like having X-ray vision into their
minds. Now you may have a fairly neutral view of most of the people you
interact with. Once you train your mind to see these patterns everywhere, you
may change your view of some people.
While these are almost always used by others to imply negative things, they
can be used to imply positive things. This is a great way to practice them.
Even though you'll be training yourself to use these in a positive way, you'll
still see the structure regardless of how it is used. In that regard, this not like
martial arts. Martial arts are generally used to defend against an attack, or
even as an attack on its own. But these linguistic presuppositions can be used
to lift people up just as powerfully as they can break people down, much like
the tongue recipe.
But the pattern itself is only about taking the past that didn't happen assume it
did (or assume something that did happen didn't happen) and project to the
present or the future. So, if you were writing out sentences, you might write
things like:
If I'd learned about presuppositions in high school, I'd own my own company
now.
The point is to have fun, and write things that make you feel good. Writing
them in the positive tends to highlight your potential, rather than point out
your mistakes.
Another example, is the Spurious Not. Generally, it's used to take an idea, flip
it to its negative and then put the onus on the listener to defend the opposite
of the speaker’s idea. But when you are writing this out as practice, you can
become very creative.
I wonder if I won't become a world class debater after I practice with these
patterns every day.
Any time you drop a couple of Spurious Nots into a conversation, it can get
pretty confusing pretty quickly. Since few people practice dropping nots into
sentences, anybody that uses these offensively can have their brains
obliterated by these. Kind of like when somebody tosses a grenade your way,
and you grab it and throw it right back.
I wonder if there aren’t any better ways to discuss things that maybe we don't
have all of the information on, unless you don't already have a ready
explanation of why that is.
At first, going through these and writing out sentences will make your brain
hurt. Most people never really consider the language that they use. They just
choose a bunch of words to express their emotional state. But once you start
to write these out, it will get easier and easier. Try for at least one of each,
each day, for a full month. That does sound like quite a lot of work. Writing
out one positive pattern about yourself on each pattern will take ten to thirty
minutes. But it will be time well spent. You will develop a skill few other
people know exist, let alone have. And it will give you a great way to
covertly presume good things about the people you are talking to. When used
positively, these have the opposite effect. When used negatively, they make
others feel bad, but they aren't sure why. That's why they work. They use the
bully effect to project their might-makes-right strategy. You feel put down,
and everybody sees that you are put down, and you can't really defend
yourself because you don't know what just happened. But when you train
your brain to use these fluently, you can covertly imply good things about
others. They will feel good being around you, but they won't know why. This
will come across emotionally as you having more charisma or a more
attractive personality. They are also a great way to encourage people without
them thinking you are blatantly doing so. You encourage them by
presupposing they will succeed in whatever they are trying.
How to Practice
Choose two or three traits about yourself that you would like to believe is
true. Something that you don't quite believe is true. Or statements that
represent beliefs you would like to believe as true, but aren't sure if they are
true now. Statements like:
Making money is easy.
I'm a genius.
I am extremely seductive.
Then take those, and use those as the presuppositions in the sentences.
However you can, wrap your daily writing practice around the ideas you'd
like to believe as true. This way, by doing this exercise, you'll gain three
powerful results. One is you'll be able to see these patterns everywhere, and
be able to defend yourself whenever the need arises. Two is you'll be able to
covertly uplift your friends and family, by presupposing whatever good thing
you'd like them to believe is true. And third, in practicing these, you'll be
covertly programming new beliefs into your own mind. You may find that
after you get the hang of it, writing out these patterns over and over, wrapped
in positive ideas about yourself or the world is gives you a very good feeling.
It's as if you are writing a love letter to yourself. You’re writing and reading
at the same time, all the while filling your brain with positive ideas about
who you are.
Do The Exercise!
Yes, I know, you will, you promise. Consider this one more plea to actually
start writing these sentences out. Making the commitment to do this will have
a profound effect on your communication and your life. Tons of people spend
thousands of dollars attending seminars only to go back to their same lives.
The seminars are wonderful experiences, but without actually changing your
day to day behavior, they are just that: Experiences. They are no more life
changing than a ten thousand-dollar two-week vacation in the Bahamas.
(Which is why many of those expensive seminars are in exotic locations, so
you believe you are getting your money's worth!) Consider that this simple
idea, of spending twenty minutes a day for the next couple of months, writing
out theses linguistic presuppositions, will transform your life much more
powerfully than the most expensive seminar you could ever attend. All it will
cost you is a few notebooks, a couple pens and your time. Simply stated,
writing out these patterns every day over the next few months will alter your
life in amazing ways. You will become a verbal ninja, capable of stopping the
harshest verbal attack and capable of uplifting the most uninspired person.
All for the cost of a few notebooks and a couple of pens.
Beyond Defensive
So far, we've learned how to calmly question the presuppositions behind the
common verbal attacks we all undergo in our daily lives. By doing so
(including doing the daily writing exercises) you will develop an incredible
amount of insight and communication flexibility. However, you will also find
that sometimes this isn’t enough. Very few who are trained in martial arts
will ever abstain from using any attacks, and only use their training to dodge
punches. If you only dodge punches, the person will keep punching. Nearly
all martial arts teach a combination of blocks and counterpunches. Even
while calmly questioning the presuppositions hidden within their statements,
it may only provide a temporary respite. For example, let's say you're at work
discussing a project with the rest of your team members. The project is
behind schedule; nobody is sure if it will be complete on time. In these
situations, one thing people tend to do once it's clear that failure is probable is
to start looking for a scapegoat. If there are four of you, and each person
suspects the project will be late, the next logical thought is to keep from
getting blamed. However, some people aren't confident in their ability to
shrug of blame. So, they purposely pick whom they think is the weakest
member, to slowly start to build the idea it's their fault. When the time comes
to present the unfinished project, the scapegoat has already been chosen by
the group. He or she hasn't been chosen through a conscious democratic
election. He or she has been chosen through manipulative tactics that we've
been describing so far. If you aren't sure how to handle these statement, it's
easy to ignore them, thinking that they are just passing comments, when it
reality they were a planned character assassination, albeit a small one, so
everybody can have a person to blame when the boss gets angry. A very
simple statement can be as follows:
"If Roger didn't get stuck in traffic today we might not have been this far
behind."
"Well, because of the traffic I was three minutes late, and this project is
a lot more than three minutes behind. If you want, I'll stay three minutes later
today to even things out, but I think we'll still be behind."
Even if Roger said this good naturedly, and got a laugh from the others,
including the speaker, the issue would still remain. They are still behind
schedule, and they still would all like to have a scapegoat, so they don't get
blamed. The speaker is also not too happy that Roger successfully put him
down in front of others. He may very well redouble his efforts to think of a
reason to blame Roger. This is the problem with only dodging punches. The
more punches you dodge, the more the punch thrower believes you aren't
going to punch back. This means he'll just keep throwing punches, (they are
free, after all). All he needs to do is land one. However, Roger can't very well
punch the speaker in the face after his stuck in traffic comment. We can,
however, use the same linguistic tools to fight back. But we aren't going to
fight fire with fire. In this case, fighting fire with fire means that Roger would
shrug off the traffic comment, and then try and blame the speaker for the
project being late. That would trigger a might-makes-right battle of
putdowns, which would be perfect for the other two project workers. They
could easily claim the project was not finished on time because Roger and the
speaker were too busy blaming each other to work on the project. We need
something much more covert, and much deadlier.
Many females take self-defense classes. These aren't martial arts classes, that
are studied for many years for many reasons. These are down and dirty self-
defense techniques that are used for one purpose, and one purpose only.
Defend and disarm an attacker, and get the hell out of Dodge as quickly as
possible. The idea being that if a rapist, mugger or murder is going to attack a
woman out alone at night, then the only rule is whatever works. Keys stuck in
eyeballs, groin kicks, cans of pepper spray emptied directly into their face,
elbows to the throat are all acceptable. There are no points for style, or skill,
or sportsmanship. There is only defend, disable and run. And when they say
"disable," they mean make sure the guy is lying on the ground and isn't likely
to get up for a while. That will be our strategy. But our strategy will be
linguistic and covert. It will be done swiftly and viciously. The only point is
that the attacker gets the clear message: Don't mess with me. I fight dirty. I
have no problems destroying you.
Ideal Outcome
A long time ago I was in the locker room of a gym. I had finished and was
getting dressed after taking a shower. Also in the locker room was a rather
large body builder. His locker was next to another patron, who had some kind
of issue with something. I don't know exactly what happened, but as I came
out, the body builder and the other guy were already in a heated argument.
The other guy was a lot smaller, and started to try to hit the body builder. The
smaller guy kept getting angrier and angrier, and as he tried to hit the body
builder, the body builder easily blocked all his punches. It was clear to
everybody watching that the bodybuilder could easily knock the smaller guy
out with one punch, but he chose not to. It was almost like watching a child
throw a tantrum against a very patient adult. Finally, the smaller guy packed
his stuff and left, humiliated. When you practice the following patterns to the
point of fluency, you will be like that body builder whenever anybody starts
to throw insults at you. Just knowing that with one or two statements you can
absolutely devastate them will allow you to withstand a lot more verbal
abuse. And just patiently absorbing the abuse, without getting angry or upset
(because of the skills you will have developed) will make you look much
better, and your attacker much worse. It's tough to be the adult and take the
high road when you are defenseless. But when you can obliterate your enemy
with a few well places linguistic presuppositions, taking the high road is very
easy. You can even do with a smile on your face.
Common Human Fears
Imagine you are taking a self-defense class for busy people. Where would
you imagine you could punch somebody to do the maximum damage? Eyes?
Groin? Swipe the knee? The human body has several vulnerable areas that
are prime targets if you want to knock 'em out and run. Similarly, our human
emotions have several weak spots. When you're in an argument with a loved
one, there are some things that are off limits. When one party uses one of
these items as a linguistic weapon, the argument stops, and the other person
even says, "That's not fair," and hopefully the person who said it will realize
they've gone too far. These are situational and are only to be used in extreme
emergencies. When you have decided you want to cross the point of no
return, and remove that person from your life. We'll deal with these in a later
chapter. What we need here are some things to be used on people you know
little about.
All humans share common emotions. We all want more money. We all don't
like our boss very much. We wish we could live in a slightly better
neighborhood. Most of us wish we didn't weigh as much. Our fears and
desires are surprisingly very common. This is one thing that cold readers (or
psychics) leverage when they talk to their clients. From a purely scientific,
"there-is-no-such-thing-as-psychic-phenomenon" standpoint, how psychics
do what they do is fairly straightforward. To begin with, most of us have the
same hidden fears, desires and urges. Beyond that, the type of people who go
see a psychic tend to fall into a tight demographic category. This is true for
any product. If you have studied marketing, one of the goals is to understand
the unique demographics of your audience. Knowing that your main
customer is a middle aged female democrat will help you sell more products.
The more you know about your target demographic, the easier it is to craft a
targeted marketing message. Psychics leverage this idea but in a different
way. They see the same kinds of customers over and over, and pretty soon
they get a pretty good feel for their problems and concerns. This is very
similar to a therapist who sees the same types of patients over and over. They
get pretty good at solving the same problems over and over again. However,
what makes psychics unique is the common human tendency to imagine that
our problems, hopes, and fears are uniquely ours. Most people never talk
about their deepest fears or fantasies with anybody. We all have the notion
that our fears and fantasies are unique to us. But what therapists and psychics
(and to a large extent sex workers) know is that all our deepest darkest fears
are pretty common. This is a little beyond the scope of this guide, but one-
way psychics leverage their "cold reading" skills is by both knowing a great
deal about their client upon first meeting them (which they can do since
they've seen so many similar clients and are very good at "cold reading"
them) but at the same time, they make a show of "sensing" all that
information about them through their psychic powers. This isn't to say that
psychics aren't providing a valuable service. This is to illustrate that all of us
have the same fears. And we think those fears are uniquely ours. What does
that mean for us, as practitioners of weaponized hypnosis? We can quickly
deliver a verbal kick to the nuts, look at them and smile. This will make them
never, ever want to insult us again.
The first step is to understand the most common human fears. Once we've got
an idea about what these are, we'll go through our list of linguistic
presuppositions and carefully wrap them around the most common fears, so
we can deliver them with deadly power.
Left Behind
All humans have a childhood experience of wanting to find their mom (or
other caregiver) and suddenly realizing she's nowhere to be seen. This is also
a very deeply programmed instinct. Way back in the caveman days, our tribe
was our life. Without our tribe we were dead. Today, it's very easy to live on
your own and only talk to others when you need to. But getting purposely left
behind by our tribe was the kiss of death. So, before things ever got that bad,
we humans developed a collection of instincts that kept our social standing in
the tribe as positive as possible.
Ego Instincts
We can describe our human ego as the collection of instincts that kept tribal
cohesion. If we looked around and saw people whispering, looking our way
and shaking their heads, a proper response would be to fear the worst. This
horrible fear would spur us to do whatever was needed to get back in their
good graces, so we wouldn't wake up in morning and find that everybody had
left us behind. On the other end of the spectrum, if we saw people talking and
looking at us while smiling and giving us non-verbal signs of approval, then
we would keep doing whatever we did to get us the approval.
Ego Attacks
All these will be covert ego attacks. They will imply anything that suggests
our target is secretly hated by everybody, or are conspiring against him. We
won't say these directly, we'll say things that will make our target suspect that
on their own. This will put them in a very weakened position, much like a
would-be mugger who just got stabbed in the eye with his would-be victim's
car-keys.
Very Dangerous
If you were to walk up to a stranger on the street and ram your keys into their
eyeball, somebody would call the cops and you would be arrested. Physically
harming somebody is only legal if it is in self-defense. These linguistic
patterns, however, will not get you arrested. Yet they can be just as deadly. If
you wanted to, you could use these to destroy somebody over time. You
could fill their mind with dread, ruin their productivity or even their
relationships. Because of this, these techniques are potentially much more
harmful than any physical martial arts. Even if you are totally evil, and you
enjoy hurting others, the likelihood of being incarcerated or being made to
pay compensation for the injuries you've caused is enough to keep you from
harming others. But with these patterns, there is nothing stopping you but
your own internal morals and ethics. Please keep this in mind when going
through these. Use them defensively until they leave you alone. But think
twice about using these on innocent victims simply because you can. The
economic law of unintended consequences can wait a long, long time.
Linguistic Presuppositions - Ego Attacks
Imagine your worst nightmare from elementary school or later. If you were
popular, nothing was better. If everybody hated you, nothing was worse. Our
hypersensitivity to our social status and the opinions about us from our social
peers stems from our days as hunter-gathers. Back then all you had was your
social status. How you were perceived by yours peers was literally a matter
of life or death. How easily you lived was directly related to your social
status. The higher you were within the tribe, the easier things were. The lower
you were, the more difficult things were. This was measured continuously. In
modern times, a negative social opinion is just as devastating, and a positive
social opinion feels just as fantastic. This is why for many school is either the
best time of our lives, when our relative social status reaches a peak, or the
worst time of our lives when our relative social status is at its lowest. This is
what we will be targeting with the linguistic presuppositions. The technique
is simple. Imagine the worst possible insults you might hear or give to others
in a high school setting:
Last week when you were sick, the teacher spent the whole day telling
everybody what a loser you are.
There's a secret list going around it has all the reasons why none of the
boys/girls will ever date you.
Just reading these may bring up painful memories. Remember, these are the
linguistic and emotional equivalent of ramming your car keys into
somebody's eye. It's not something you do to your friend during lunch. It's
only something you do to somebody else that is purposely trying to harm
you. If a potential rapist or murderer approached you on the street, and you
stood there cowering and trembling, he would know you are an easy target.
But if you immediately spun around, keys in your fist at the ready (with each
key protruding from between your fingers like a weapon) they would give
you a pass. Just practicing these, and imagining that you are saying them
while looking at others will give you very powerful eye contact and other
non-verbal communication that indicates how foolish it would be to openly
insult you. Consider that the more you practice these, by writing them out and
having out loud, imaginary conversations with your enemies, the less likely
you will ever need them. Just knowing they are in your back pocket will be
enough. For best results, you would use the very same pattern they used, but
instead of noticing the implied idea or insult and questioning it, you simply
use same patter to deliver an embedded ego destruction technique. Since
most of us use these presuppositions unconsciously, the insult (if it uses the
same pattern) will seem familiar, but they won't know why. This feeling of
familiarity will be associated with the insult itself, making them worry that
it's actually true. This will have a very devastating and lasting effect, just like
poking them in the eye with your keys.
Also notice that these are purposely vague. The listener will have to think
about them to try and figure out what they mean. If possible, reference
anything about the previous conversation. Once you deliver these, politely
excuse yourself, or simply remain silent and wait for them to respond. If they
ask any specific questions, maintain your silence, or say something along the
lines of, "I've probably already said too much."
Substitute any appropriate authority figure for the boss, or any specific social
group for "everybody." All of these imply in a vague way that "everybody"
(social proof) and "the boss" (whatever authority is present in the situation) is
against them.
These need to be vague. If they do any research to try and find out what you
mean, and can't find anything, they might come back to you. Just maintain
the need for secrecy, and mention "other people." For example, you can say:
These are very vague, so you will have a huge amount of plausible
deniability. If anybody (even the boss) asks for specific information, admit
that you were only reporting second hand information, and you don't want to
name names. But chances are, these will create a sense of dread in your
target. If anything, they will hope desperately it isn't true, and will be happy
to forget it if nobody ever says anything.
Used when talking about something in the past tense which didn't actually
happen.
Maybe, but if you hadn't done what everybody already knows, you wouldn't
be in such hot water with the boss. Has he talked you yet about that?
Used to get you to defend the opposite of the idea they want to assert.
Don't you think it's better to worry about why everybody is so angry with
you?
Don't you think it's a good idea to try and repair your damaged reputation?
Have you discussed this with the boss?
Pattern: Spurious Not
Used to confuse the issue, and get you to defend the opposite of what they
would like to be believed as true.
I wonder if it's not a good idea to focus on repairing your reputation. Has the
boss given you any pointers yet? I don't know if he was just thinking out loud
or not.
Based on what I heard, you really only have a few options left. None of them
are anything I would look forward to, especially what I've been hearing from
people.
After what happened, I don't know if you'll be able to recover. I mean with
what I've been hearing, it's too late to really do anything. Just don't tell them
I told you.
Potential Question
Anything that questions the link between past actions and future potential
actions.
Do you think you should continue to keep doing this, especially with what
people have been saying?
Pattern: Comparative
Based on what I've heard, and I was really only overhearing outside of his
office, but the more you keep doing whatever it is they are angry about, the
less likely you'll be able to recover.
Pattern: Quantifiers
If it were only that one thing, you might be able to get back into his good
graces, but as it stands, I'm not so sure. Has anybody said anything?
The people that I've heard from think that it might be a good idea to update
your resume after what happened. I'm not sure but I don't think they've
decided exactly what to do yet.
Everybody I've talked to has sort of mentioned that it's too late for you to do
anything. I mean nobody wants you to get fired, at least they haven't said it
out loud, but they seem to be willing to accept whatever decision the boss will
make.
I don't think most people realize how far gone the situation really is. Once the
boss decides what to do, I'm sure he'll have a long heart to heart with you.
Has he mentioned anything yet? He seems to be in a really bad mood
recently.
It is because it is already out in the open, and everybody knows about it, that
makes this such a delicate problem. And since the boss is so angry, I don't
think he knows how to handle it. Had he mentioned it to you? He's probably
waiting until he's calmed down. Please don't tell him I said anything, I really
need this job.
Once he stops worrying and finally figures out what to do, I don't think it's
going to be easy. Do you have a solid list of references?
Pattern: Relative Clauses
People I've known that have been in this situation have usually had to change
cities, I mean word gets around pretty fast, and it's already gotten out of
control. Just don’t mention that I told you ahead of time, I really need this
job.
Unfortunately, the cat's already out of the bag. And since everybody been
gossiping so much about it, it's already gotten out of control. I'm not sure
which the boss is going to try and fix first. Has he mentioned anything to
you? I heard he might just let HR handle it. You might want to get ready.
Well, once that genie gets out of the bottle, it's kind of hard to return things to
where they were. I mean people are already saying things about you that
make me kind of worried just to be seen talking to you. I better get out of
here.
What might happen next is they may have to call in an outside consulting
company to smooth things over, at least that's what I've been hearing. I'd
update my resume if I were you.
Pattern: Comparative As
(as...as)
Few things are as uncomfortable as coming into work every day and
wondering if this is the day the hammer is going to fall. How are you holding
up?
I suppose they'll need to come up with a new policy to handle these things, or
maybe once you find a new group of friends you'll stop behaving that way.
It's too bad when relationships are ruined so much you can't put them back
the way they were. What are you going to do now?
Well, look on the bright side. They say we grow most from the most horrible
mistakes, so the good news is that eventually you'll turn into a much better
person because of this.
Well, once you finally get over the blowback that is coming because of what
I've been hearing, you might enter into a new phase of life where you can
stop doing that.
Pattern: Pronouns
(he, she, they)
They're already saying that the boss is beside himself trying to fix your
mistake. I mean, from what I've heard, it's an honest mistake that can happen
to anybody, but I guess the boss doesn't see it that way.
Keep Your Enemies Closer
There's an old saying that's used a lot in TV shows and movies. It says, "Keep
your friends close, but keep your enemies closer." Up until now, this may
have sounded like a clever saying from a powerful source. It's generally used
because of what it says about the character saying it. Most of us want nothing
to do with our enemies. But this statement presupposes (it's a variation of the
-er linguistic presupposition) that you can handle your enemies. That your
enemies are not to be trusted, so you need to watch them carefully. Both
presuppose that not only do you recognize your enemies, but that your
enemies are manageable. Like a pesky colleague that keeps hitting on you,
but who always throws the best parties in town. You don't want to blow them
off completely, because then you won't be invited to their famous parties. But
you also don't want to go out with them. It's a relationship that needs
conscious managing. When we put our "enemies" into that category, the
category of people that are not our favorite people, but people we need to
interact with and work with, and we can leverage to our benefit, then they
become much less threatening. Also, the word, "keep," (in the statement
"keep your enemies closer") implies control. You only keep things that you
can control and manage. There is quite a bit in that statement that implies
having power over your enemies, rather than the other way around. But in
this chapter, we are going to learn exactly why you need to not only identify
your enemies, and not only keep them close, but make them think you are
their friend.
The next step is what we went over in the previous chapter. Of how to deliver
deadly and covert blows to their ego, so they will spend all their mental
energy going into damage control mode, much like a would-be rapist
writhing in pain clutching at their eviscerated eyeball. But even then, that
might not work. Beyond this are techniques that can only be characterized as
purposeful mental destruction. Who would you do this to? Those that
continue to pester you, or are aggressively seeking to damage your reputation
or career. Those that you believe won't be put off by a simple ego insult.
These are the people that have so much anger towards you personally, they
will do anything to see you suffer, short of physical assault. Just for the
record, if any of your enemies every crossed the line from linguistic and
emotional assault to physical assault, forget the word games and literally (not
metaphorically) gouge their eyeballs out. But short of that, when you have
determined they are a long-term threat that won't be put off by simple word
slams, it's time to really keep them close as an enemy. By itself, putting them
into "enemy category" in your mind will always keep you on high alert when
they are around. Then you can start collecting things about them, should you
need to use them, can be delivered with devastating emotional viciousness.
And it will be so covert, they won't be sure what hit them. When it comes to
personal attacks (only in self-defense) these techniques we will going over
next are about as close to real life black magic spells you are going to get.
Whenever possible, get into the habit of asking simple questions that invite
them to defend the hidden ideas in their sentences. Ninety nine percent of the
time, this will be plenty. If you do this once or twice in a meeting, everybody
else will get a clear message. When they come to you, they'd better come
correct. Meaning they'd better be clear on any ideas or suggestions they have.
Politely asking people to defend and explain the hidden ideas or insults
within their presuppositions will give you an extraordinary reputation as an
assertive communicator with rock solid boundaries. Stop and think of
somebody right now, somebody real or a TV or movie character. Somebody
that is not ever mean to anybody, but also has a very strong sense of self.
Somebody is intelligent and respects themselves and others a great deal.
Somebody who is logical and rational, and will only be convinced of any idea
via logical or rational thought. Somebody who is also quick to admit when
they are wrong, and praise those who have genuinely good ideas. Would you
ever try and insult that person with a clever barb? Would you ever talk about
that person behind their back? Not likely. That person likely has a rock-solid
reputation, and even talking negatively about them behind their back is bad
idea, as it will put the gossiper in a bad light. This is the reputation you will
be cultivating by calmly questioning the ideas embedded in the words of
others. (And another reason to start writing out the presuppositions!). When
calmly questioning any embedded ideas becomes who you are, it will be easy
to spot your enemies. They will be the ones who know they can't outthink
you, so they try and destroy you with very subtle personal attacks. Ideally,
you want to identify your enemies before using any of the short game attacks.
You only want to identify them after using a few of the short game defensive
techniques (calmly questioning the embedded ideas in their sentences). You'll
have to use your intuition whether to put them in enemy category or use a
few short game assaults. Because if you use a few of the short game assaults
(the ego attacks) and they still don't back off, it's a little late to put them in
enemy territory. Because for them, you will be in enemy territory. And an
essential technique of being able to effectively manage your enemies is
keeping them from suspecting they are considered an enemy. These
techniques work best if they think you are their friend, while you are busily
collecting data and information that you can use to obliterate them. Whether
you actually use that information is up to you. But once you do put somebody
in enemy territory, and you start collecting potential information (more on
that later) a funny thing tends to happen. Because you are slowly and
methodically preparing for their destruction, they somehow realize, on a
subconscious level, just how dangerous you are to them. And they slowly
stop doing whatever it was that made you decide to put them on your enemy
list. Make no mistake, this is very Machiavellian. This takes a lot of
brainpower. But this is part of human nature. In chimp communities, when it
comes time to replace the alpha male, it is far from democratic. There are
some very deep games being played, all filled with betrayal and double
dealing. Once you put somebody on your list of enemies, never let their guard
down. Consider that purposely being friendly with your sworn enemies is
something humans do well. Something that is ancient and instinctive.
Something that is part of our nature. But what is not part of our nature is the
extremely deadly skills you will be learning next.
Hand to Hand Combat
Before we learn how to obliterate the enemy, we'll need to learn some skills.
These skills are unique in that they can be used just like our metaphorical
tongue soup. To make people feel wonderful, or make people feel so horrible
they never want to be near you again. It all depends on how you use them.
From a big picture view, these skills will allow you to take any emotion you
can elicit from them, and connect that emotion to any other idea. When used
to make people feel wonderful, you simply take emotions like hope,
excitement, love, and connect them to yourself. That way, they'll feel those
wonderful emotions whenever they see you. Conversely, you can elicit their
most horrible fears, and link them to yourself, or anything else you want, like
any idea they have of their future. Needless to say, this can do potentially
long-term damage to their psyche. The equivalent self-defense move would
be spin kicking a potential rapist or murderer in the head, and making him a
paraplegic. Some people would never do this, even to their worst enemies.
Some people would look for an excuse to do this to anybody. But the main
difference between a spin kick and some deadly linguistic patterns is the spin
kick happens quickly and instinctively. It's unlikely, but possible a genuinely
nice person could study self-defense mainly for personal growth reasons.
Then a drunken person gets a little too friendly and comes up from behind
them. The martial artist responds instinctively, spin kicking them in the head
and putting them in a wheelchair for life. Most people would be horrified to
have this happen, even if the drunk had ill intentions. But with language
patterns, any intended mental destruction will necessarily need to be thought
out and delivered over a long period. This requires a lot of thought, and
during this time of planning and thinking, just knowing you have that ability
is enough for you to dissolve the need. Nevertheless, knowing these skills
will make you feel very confident in any situation.
Spatial Anchors
The first thing we'll talk about is spatial anchors. These are related to the
famous Pavlov dog experiment. Pavlov brought the food and the dog
salivated. Pavlov brought the food and rang the bell, and the dog salivated.
Pretty soon all Pavlov needed to do was ring the bell, and the dog salivated.
Spatial anchors work the same way. You say something, and somebody feels
a certain emotion. You say that same thing that creates the emotion, or
another thing that creates the same emotion. The Pavlovian equivalent would
be Pavlov bringing different food that elicits the same salivation response.
Then you say the thing that causes the emotion while making a specific
gesture. Do these enough times (like Pavlov brought the food and rang the
bell several times) and pretty soon the gesture itself will elicit the emotion,
just like the sound of the bell elicited the salivation response.
Most people like the idea of free money. So, when you tell a story where free
money happens, and it's believable, you would make a specific gesture
whenever you refer to the free money in the story. In this example, we'll
imagine our speaker is using a quick gesture on their right side, which we'll
denote by (R). A story that sets the anchor might go like this:
I was waiting at the bus stop yesterday and I looked on the ground, and saw a
Burger King bag. But it looked full, so I picked it up and inside were a bunch
of bills (R). First thing I did was look around, thinking maybe I was being
pranked or something. But there wasn't anybody there, so I checked the bag
again, and sure enough a bunch of tens and twenties (R) were all bundled
together with a rubber band. It must have been a couple thousand dollars
(R). I thought maybe it was drug money, but then I saw a deposit slip at the
bottom. Turns out it from the night manager at Burger King, and he lost it. It
had the address on the slip, so I walked over and gave it back to the
manager. She was so happy, she was actually the franchise owner, and she
gave me an endless gift card (R). Meaning I could use this gift card (R)
whenever I wanted, and all the food would be free (R). So, whenever I feel
like having a Whopper and some fries, I don't have to pay for it, since it will
be free. (R).
This is a very powerful yet very simple and elegant technique. Beyond just
defending yourself, if you get into the habit of using these anchors whenever
you talk about good things, you'll always have a "good" anchor that you can
use. The way you use is to fire the same anchor whenever you want to say
something that they'll unconsciously associate with that same good feeling.
For example, if you set your good anchor (by connecting it to generally good
things) whenever you talk to your boss, that one time you need to ask an
important favor, you can connect the good anchor to your favor. This will
connect the food feeling to your favor, and will make it much more likely
your boss will agree. With each person, you'll need to use this sparingly.
Consider about a 90/10 ratio. Ninety percent of the time when you use this, it
should just be to set it to good things. Then if you use it ten percent of the
time to try to attach those good feelings to things you want them to feel good
about (going along with your ideas, letting you leave early, giving you a
raise, etc.) will make you a very persuasive communicator.
If you only connected these to the things you had a good idea other people
would feel good about (free money or free Whoppers, as in the example
above) that would put you head and shoulders above other communicators.
But we can take it a step further. You can have a pretty good idea most
people would feel good about "found money." But they'll feel even better
about their own unique ideas about their ideal future. For example, let's say
you're sitting in the lunch room at work, talking to a coworker about her
upcoming vacation. By asking some simple questions and expanding her
description of what she's most looking forward to on her vacation, you can
find certain phrases that she is most excited about. For example, let's say
she's going to Hawaii, and they are going to go parasailing, and if they're
lucky, while they are parasailing, they might see some whales, since it's the
whale season. Now you've got some ideas that cause her specific good
feelings. You can describe her vacation back to her, and when you use the
phrases she uses, it's a perfect opportunity to set the good anchors.
"Wow, I've never been parasailing (R) before. But if you could see whales (R)
while parasailing (R) that would be cool. Really cool. You'll be taking videos,
right? I mean do you have a GoPro or something, I'd love to see some whales
(R) taken from somebody parasailing (R) above the ocean."
Now, with that particular person, you will have set some very powerful
anchors. You can use these the same way, just keep them in your back
pocket. And if you combine this (connecting specific gestures to other
people's very specific desires about their future) with general good things
(looking forward to the weekend, jokes that work, long holidays, etc.) you
can build up a lot of potential. You can think of building up good anchors
with as many people as possible as building switches in their minds that you
can push whenever you like to get them to feel good feelings.
Advanced Power
Another way to use spatial anchors is instead of making them off to the side,
like in the above examples, you briefly gesture to yourself. Or you can
combine the right-side gesture with a move toward yourself. We'll call this
the (R-S) anchor. R means right side, and S means self. You can use this
whenever you mention a word or phrase that has more than one syllable. This
way, you'll never really need to worry about firing the anchors, only setting
them. What this will do is slowly and gradually take all the good feelings
those around you feel, and connect them to yourself. For example, in the
lunchroom conversation, if you used the (R-S) anchor, the speaker would
subconsciously associate her excitement for parasailing and whale watching
with you. This is extremely powerful. Just this simple technique, which is
easy to understand and simple to put into practice, can literally transform the
way people feel about you. The only drawback is you are taking something
that is unconscious (gestures) and changing them to being conscious. This
could make you feel awkward and silly. It's highly recommended to practice
speaking this way when you are alone, and transitioning to speaking this way
with others once it becomes comfortable. This simple technique will make
you much more appreciated by others, as they'll slowly start to associate their
deepest desires with you. This will make you much more valuable socially,
give you much more social proof in any group. But this simple technique can
also be used to cause dread and terror in the minds of your enemies.
Collecting Weapons
There are two ways to use this as a weapon. One is to get your enemy alone,
and start off with a simple sounding story, but covertly drift into horror story
territory. And when you reference any horrible ideas or characters in the
story, use the (R-S) anchor. For example, you might start off by talking about
a movie you saw recently, and then shift to talking about a horror movie.
Then you describe that horror movie in great detail and every time you refer
to a bad part or a bad action or a bad character, use the any of the anchors. In
later chapters we'll go over some word for word stories you can memorize
and use. Think of these as like the linguistic presupposition based ego attack
strategies from a couple of chapters ago. These will generally work pretty
well. However, if you really want to destroy them, you can first set them up.
First collect things from them, and connect them to your anchors. Then tell
them the horror story, where you also connect the horrible things and horrible
characters to your anchors. Then every time they see you, they will feel a
deep feeling of dread. You will represent the associating of their dreams with
horror. They won't think this consciously, it will just be a deep feeling of
vague anxiety that they connect with you. They'll also feel a deep sense of
anxiety when they think about you. If they are in a meeting, and you aren't
present, and the topic of you comes up, a feeling of anxiety will come up. If
you are also practicing positive anchors with everybody else, this will have a
double effect. It will be clear to your enemy that everybody talks about you in
glowing terms, but whenever they think of you, they get a deep feeling of
anxiety and dread. This will make them very uncomfortable, and make it very
unlikely they will openly speak out against you. But to make sure they get the
message, you can deliver the horror story to them in a very personal and
direct way. This will be something you should practice, and probably
something you will not ever want to do, because it will be very devastating to
them. But if you positively, absolutely want to remove somebody from your
life (and not get in trouble for murder) this is the way to go.
Collecting Targets
The first step is to collect things you'll later be destroying. Anything they
think about positively in their future will work. Get them talking about their
career, any romantic interests they have, any dreams they had as a child they
are willing to talk about. Or if you want to be particularly diabolical, you can
collect fond memories from their childhood. The first time they caught a fish,
or the first time they rode a bicycle. Normally, these conversations tend to
come up spontaneously, they aren't things you can generally ask people about
out of the blue. But with an enemy, they will tend to be easier than with most.
Enemies are enemies because they want to hurt you, or they won't leave you
alone. Either way, they will be very keen to tell you wonderful things about
themselves. With respect to you, your enemy will have an oversized ego. For
example, if you asked a regular friend or colleague about the first time they
caught a fish, or rode their bike, it might seem a bit odd. But your enemy will
be pleased to tell you something they think is fantastic about themselves.
Either way, eliciting these topics is easy. You can start off with a neutral
subject, a third party or somebody in the news. Then you talk about yourself,
in only slightly positive terms. This will covertly invite them to "outdo" you.
Once you finish describing yourself, ask about them. Ask a few follow up
questions and then connect any of their phrases about their future to your (R)
or (SP) anchor.
Example
Let's say you are sitting with your enemy. Something on TV comes up about
a famous actor or musician, that is a positive story.
Step One
Talk about the person on TV in curious terms. Ask your enemy a vague
question, about whether they know or like them. Their answer is not
important.
Step Two
Talk about the TV person briefly, about how some people get lucky and
become rich and famous, while other people have to struggle and work for a
living.
Step Three
Talk about a realistic dream you had when you were younger, one that you
still believe is possible. Describe your dream, and the possibility you think
that it might happen.
Step Four
Ask them about a similar dream of theirs, that they had, and they wanted to
become, and still might become.
Step Five
Ask simple follow up questions (with as much open curiosity and as little
judgment as possible) about their dreams. Encourage them if you can. Get
them to talk about their ideal future as much as they like.
Step Six
Look in their descriptions for their short phrases that they say with increased
enthusiasm. Repeat them back with your (R) or (SP) anchor.
Step Seven
This is the most important part. You need to make sure you mimic their facial
expressions, voice tone and other non-verbal body language as much as
possible when setting your anchors. The longer the conversation goes, the
better. The idea is link their deep dreams to the future to not only your
anchors, but also your facial expressions, tone of voice, and other non-verbal
"energy."
Do this as often as you can. The more you can link your communication style
(body language, facial expressions, voice tone, spatial anchors) to their
positive hopes and dreams of the future, the better. Later, if you want to
absolutely obliterate their happiness and want them to want to avoid you like
the Grim Reaper himself, use those same gestures and facial expressions and
voice tone when you are later delivering the one-on-one horror story. This
will feel very much to them as a blatant psychic and emotional attack, and
will have horrible ramifications. This is ideal if they are a stalker or
somebody that simply will not leave you alone. However, if they are an
enemy that only likes to bully you through their conversation, you may not
have to deliver the death blow. By forcing yourself to connect your
communication energy (non-verbal communication including gestures and
anchors and voice tone, etc.) to their dreams and positive memories, they will
stop wanting to harm you, since they now associate their deepest dreams with
you.
This is a very ancient idea, namely because it works very well. Idea goes that
the best way to conquer your enemy is to make him your friend. By forcing
yourself to be friendly in a very specific way with your enemy, they will not
want to be your enemy. Of course, they don't think of themselves as your
enemy. They think of you as somebody that, for whatever reason, should be
bullied and openly humiliated whenever possible. You may find that just
setting them up for the kill may be enough. But here's the best part. Simply
by setting them up for the final kill, you always maintain the option if
destroying them completely, or allowing them to voluntarily (and
subconsciously) stop being your enemy. This will give you a huge amount of
personal power. This is the secret behind the strategy of "keep your enemy
closer." Once you keep (which implies control) your enemy closer, you can
use them to your advantage. You can manipulate them, turn them into your
friend, or bake their children into a meat pie and feed it to them at a dinner
party you host in their honor (As Shakespeare's Titus Andronicus did to his
enemy). Of course, we are speaking metaphorically. You shouldn't really kill
the children of your enemy and bake them into a meat pie for a dinner party.
But you can reserve the right to deliver to them a tale of horror and misery,
one that will make them never, ever want to have anything to do with you
again. But we have a couple more tricks up our sleeve. Namely the technique
of delivering them horror stories wrapped in a powerful hypnotic structure
that will confuse their minds and make them question what is real and what
isn't.
Embedded Commands
These are an extremely simple yet powerful tool. It's something many people
know about, or have heard about, yet few people take the time to learn. If you
take the time to learn how to use embedded commands, it will make your
communication much more power. Embedded commands, especially when
combined with spatial anchors, will make you much more charismatic, and
will give you wizard-like language abilities. Using embedded commands in
combination with spatial anchors could literally transform how you think
about communication, and easily allow you to make a lot more money. And
when used defensively, they can be deadly. Let's first explore what they are
in general, and then we'll see how to use them as a deadly weapon.
Command Structure
"If you would sit down, the doctor will be with you in a few minutes."
That's one of the secrets of embedded commands. It's how people normally
talk when the situation calls for it. The job of the receptionist is to manage the
customers. Part of the job of managing customers is telling them what to do,
while maintaining a polite demeanor. The receptionist deals with customers
(or patients in this case) all day long. From her perspective, they come in, she
tells them what to do, and that's that. So, when she says that sentence, "If you
would sit down, the doctor will be with you in a few minutes," she
unconsciously puts a little bit more emphasis on the "sit down" part. The rest
of the sentence is conversational fluff. The main intention of the sentence is
to get the patient to sit down and wait. All the other words wrapped around
the "sit down" command are there for politeness. This is how people use
embedded commands naturally without thinking. The commands represent
what their true intentions are, the rest of the words are there to make the
command more acceptable to both deliver and receive. When we do this
consciously, we're really mimicking normal human behavior. Most of the
techniques from covert hypnosis are just things people do anyway without
thinking. We are only using them in a very conscious and targeted way.
Stacking Commands
When the receptionist tells the patient to "sit down," it's wrapped in a context
where the command is expected, so they only need to use one. But when
using them in regular conversations, we need to use as many as we can.
Anybody who walks into a doctor's office expects to be told to sit down and
wait, so when they are told to sit down and wait, they automatically comply.
When we use commands in normal conversations, nobody is expecting them,
so we need to use as many as possible. And we need to train our listeners to
recognize our command voice, and to develop the habit of subconsciously
obeying our command voice. How do we do this?
Yesterday I was watching this doctor on TV and he was saying that it's really
healthy to eat bacon, and if you eat bacon a lot, it will help you have sex a
lot longer. I don't know about you, but being able to have sex is always a
good idea, and if I can eat bacon, I'll do it. He also said that some scientists
are starting to think that if you eat bacon, you'll be able to live longer. I
mean, that sounds kind of crazy, but they are starting to do research that
shows that if you want to stay healthy, it's really a lot easier than they
thought. Of course, you never know, that whole thing could have been
secretly supported by the bacon industrial complex, so I guess we'll have to
wait and see if it really is healthy to eat bacon.
I was listening to this guy on the radio on the way to work today and he said
it's important to relax frequently. Like if you practice relaxing, it will help
you to lower stress. I guess most people don't think about stress until it gets
out of hand, but if you think proactively, I guess you can stop things from
getting out of hand.
Once you've got a few of the first two levels trained into their mind, you can
start to get a bit into the things you want them to do. Keep in mind that
commands are not the secret magic trick they are made out to be. By
carefully training them with your command voice, and by slowly shifting
from "want to do" commands to neutral commands to actual commands, you
will be increasing the likelihood of them following your commands. They
won't turn into your obedient slaves, but you will get a lot more compliance
that if you started right out of the gate with the command commands.
Hey, I was wondering if you could let me leave early today. I've got this thing
at home that came up, and if you could let me leave, that would be fantastic.
I'm finished with the report, and I'll have the response to the other one first
thing Monday morning, so if you could let me cut out of here I'd really
appreciate it.
The best part about using embedded commands is that much like spatial
anchors, once you've trained them in your command voice, you'll never need
to train them again. The easiest way to do this is to simply start using
command whenever you come across a command worthy phrase (short
command structure) that is within a larger sentence, and is something people
would want to do anyway. If you do this, and use neutral commands as part
of your natural communication style, whenever you need to use an actual
command (something you want them to do) they will automatically be
primed for them. As you can guess, just using commands in your everyday
language will make you a very powerful communicator. If all you did was
switch to your command voice when giving them commands of what they
wanted to do anything, they will soon see you as a natural authority.
If you haven't figured it out by now, there is a very easy way to make your
commands even more powerful. And that is to use them along with your
anchors. Either the gesture that you connect with good things, or the subtle
self-point. By setting anchors and command simultaneously, you'll have a
very powerful built in tool you can use on anybody you communicate with.
By giving the commands with your good anchor, this will very much increase
the likelihood they'll go right along with your commands. For example, let's
say you've been speaking to your boss using commands and anchors,
especially setting the good anchor with things your boss enjoys, particularly
things they are looking forward to in the future. Then suppose we augmented
the request to leave early as follows:
Hey, I was wondering if you could let me leave early today (R). I've got this
thing at home that came up, and if you could let me leave (R), that would be
fantastic. I'm finished with the report, and I'll have the response to the other
one first thing Monday morning, so if you could let me (R) cut out of here I'd
really appreciate it.
You would be virtually guaranteed that he or she would let you go. All it
takes is that you start now, practicing both commands and spatial anchors. If
you slowly ease into it, so that it feels comfortable, you will be developing a
very powerful communication style that most people don't even know about.
And when it comes time to deliver the coup d'etat to your enemy’s brain,
they won't know what hit them. To do that, we'll need to learn a few more
tricks.
Nested Loop Structure
Broken Stories
When we tell stories, we tell them in a linear fashion. A happened, and then
B happened, and then
C happened. If the story teller is good, and the story is particularly
entertaining or exciting, then C will be a mini "cliff hanger." The build up to
C will make us eager to find out how the tension was resolved. This structure
exists not only in stories, but in music as well. The idea of tension-release is
built into a lot of our common human experiences. Generally speaking
though, once we get to the cliffhanger, we want to find out what happens
next. Well written TV shows put the cliffhanger right at the end, so we'll be
sure to watch next week (or stay up ONE more hour to binge watch). What
we don't expect is for the story to change completely. For example, imagine
you are at a party and somebody starts off with this story:
So, I was at the mall waiting for my pizza and this guy in a business suit
walked up and called me by name. He said he'd been looking for me and he
was glad he finally found me. At first, I thought I was going to get a summons
or something, but I guess he saw my worry and assured me it was fantastic,
life changing news. He told me he'd wait until I got my order, so he could sit
down with me and explain what was about to happen.
If you told this story at a party, everybody would be curious about why this
guy in a suit came up to you in the mall. You couldn't get away with the
cliffhanger strategy, at least not like they do on TV. Imagine if the next thing
you said was:
And to find out why he wanted to talk to me, you're going to have to come
back here next week!
People would be upset! They would think you made the whole thing up.
When we watch TV, we know the whole thing is made up, and we know that
we are watching a serial drama that is unfolding over several weeks. But
when you start telling a story at a party or work conversation, everybody
expects to hear a regular story, from start to finish. But you can leverage the
cliffhanger effect. The way you do that is you simply start another story. But
you do so in a way that makes it seem like it might be the same story. You
must be very congruent. You can't give any clues that you are actually
switching stories. In magic, they have the idea of sleight of hand where you
trick the audience into looking at one hand while you do the magic with the
other. This is similar. Think of it as sleight of story. The idea is to start off
with a second story, but not get them to realize it is a second story until they
are committed to the second story, and are now interested in the second story.
For example, a second story on its own might be like this.
So, I sat down at the table, and my wife came out of the bedroom and said she
got this strange text from the bank. She had this weird expression on her face,
and she looked a little excited. So, she went to our PC to log onto our
account and suddenly started laughing. She said I should take the day off
from work. I got up to go look, wondering what the heck had just happened.
This is another story that ends with a mini cliffhanger. Now let's consider
another story, that has nothing to do with the first two stories. If it were told
on its own the buildup might be like this.
I got up to walk into his office, and when I looked inside, he wasn't behind his
desk like he normally was. He was standing at the window, looking out, his
hands in his pockets. I cleared my throat to let him know I was there. He
turned around and smiled at me. He's never, ever smiled at me before. He
stood there, smiling at me and told me to close the door. He came over and
sat in the chair next to mine, smiling all the while, and asked me if I liked
traveling.
This is another story, that on its own sounds pretty interesting. It leads up to a
mini cliffhanger. Now let's introduce a metaphorical story. Maybe about
saving money or something. A story that on its own, sounds pretty nice, but
also pretty plain. Nothing that would be that exceptional on its own.
They've said that delayed gratification is the best way to save money. And
when you invest in the right programs, it can help you a lot. I don't know if
you like the idea of investing money to save money, but I went to see an
investment counselor and he looked me right in the eye and said, "I think the
best thing for you to do is give your money to me and let me manage it for
you. That is the best chance you have of being able to get rich. I'll leave it up
to you, but when you invest your money with me, I guarantee you'll get rich.
Now, the above doesn't even make much sense. Some guy went to see an
investment counselor and the investment counselor tried to get him to invest.
That sounds common, something not even worthy of relaying at a party. But
also notice it contains a lot of "command worthy phrases." Save money, give
your money to me, let me manage it, get rich, etc. This short little story by
itself might make somebody a little curious, but on its own, it wouldn't make
anybody decide to invest their money with the speaker. But consider what it
sounds like when that story is wrapped inside the other stories. Before we see
what that looks like, let's first finish up the first three stories. Let's say the
first story, about the guy at the mall, ended up being about some guy who
found out he had an uncle that dies and left him a lot of money. And let's the
second story ended with the guy and his wife finding an extra 10K in their
account. And let's say the third story ends with the company being bought,
and the boss telling the storyteller he's in charge of a lot of new accounts and
he gets to spend most of his time traveling to exotic locations visiting rich
clients. Put all together, the broken stories would sound like this:
So, I was at the mall waiting for my pizza and this guy in a business suit
walked up and called me by name. He said he'd been looking for me and he
was glad he finally found me. At first, I thought I was going to get a summons
or something, but I guess he saw my worry and assured me it was fantastic,
life changing news. He told me he'd wait until I got my order, so he could sit
down with me and explain what was about to happen. So, I sat down at the
table, and my wife came out of the bedroom and said she got this strange text
from the bank. She had this weird expression on her face, and she looked a
little excited. So, she went to our PC to log onto our account and suddenly
started laughing. She said I should take the day off from work. I got up to go
look, wondering what the heck had just happened. I got up to walk into his
office, and when I looked inside, he wasn't behind his desk like he normally
was. He was standing at the window, looking out, his hands in his pockets. I
cleared my throat to let him know I was there. He turned around and smiled
at me. He's never, ever smiled at me before. He stood there, smiling at me
and told me to close the door. He came over and sat in the chair next to mine,
smiling all the while, and asked me if I liked traveling. They've said that
delayed gratification is the best way to save money (R). And when you invest
(R) in the right programs, it can help you a lot. I don't know if you like the
idea of investing money to save money (R), but I went to see an investment
counselor (SP) and he looked me right in the eye and said, "I think the best
thing for you to do is give me your money (R) and let me (R) manage it for
you. That is the best chance you have of being able to get rich (R). I'll leave it
up to you, but when you invest your money (R) with me (S), I guarantee
you'll get rich (R-S). So, my boss tells me that we've just been purchased by
this huge conglomerate, and we've got a huge budget. My job is to visit rich
clients and just make sure they are OK. Totally easy and lots of travel. When
I saw what my wife was so happy about, I was happy as well. The bank found
an extra $10K in our account! It turns out I had this uncle that was a bit of
eccentric, my mom never talked about him because they all hated him. That's
why he left me his fortune, since he wanted to piss of my mom. It wasn't a lot,
but it was enough to pay off my student loans!
By the time the second or third story has started, most people would be
completely tranced out. Remember, reading a story is a lot easier than
listening to a story. Especially a story that is coming completely unexpected.
What generally happens is that once all the "open loops" are closed, the
central stories (4, 3 and maybe 2) will be completely forgotten. But the
emotions they elicited will still have a very profound impact on the listener.
And what happened in that above collection of broken stories? All of them
were about found money, or unexpected financial windfalls. The center story
was filled with commands to give money to the speaker. Those commands (to
give money to the speaker) are surrounded by a lot of vague ideas about
finding unexpected money. The net result will be a collection of feelings
about found money, connected to the subconscious idea of giving money to
the speaker. Now, this won't make everybody get out their wallets and start
forking over all their cash. But it will create a very strong, and very
unconscious belief that the speaker has some super powers of getting money.
So, if he were to later actually give an investment talk, and actually ask for
money, they would be much more likely to sign up for whatever he was
selling. Telling those stories (all around the theme of finding money)
combined with the direct commands in the center of the story (give me
money) all build a strong positive belief in the minds of the listeners about
the speaker. And these beliefs will all be about the speaker being some kind
of money genius, and that his advice will lead to unexpected financial
windfalls. They won't know why they think this (as they won't be able to
recall the stories) they will just have a strong suspicion that it's true. This is
how skilled speakers use embedded commands, anchors and nested loops.
But they can equally be used to build in the belief in your listeners mind that
you are the devil Himself, and you have the power to destroy their hopes,
dreams, and even their very idea of who they are with only your desire to do
so. This will make them never, ever, want to have anything to do with you
ever again. And if you so wish, they will have nightmares for months.
Summary of Mental Destruction Techniques
The first two techniques we've learned don't require any data collection. The
first requires having done enough practice so you can spot the hidden idea or
embedded insult within their sentence, and calmly asking them why they
think it's true. The second involves memorized and covert ego attacks that
will knock them off balance and take away their attack energy. But these
recent techniques require that you consciously collect information from them
to later use against them. Information that you collect from them just as you
would from an actual friend. Be clear that in order to most effectively destroy
your true enemies, you must get close enough to them, and convince them
you are their friend in order to best betray them. You also will very likely, in
your feigned and clever friendship, deter them from doing whatever it was
that put them in the enemy category of your mind. Understand this is much
different than finding out their weaknesses. Finding out somebody's
weakness is something you do to a friend and ally, so you can help them
protect their weakness. Finding out a weakness of others just so you can
exploit it will absolutely ruin your reputation. It's one of those underhanded
tricks that will make even your closest friends not want anything to do with
you. What we are learning here is much deadlier, and much more covert. You
are eliciting their hopes and dreams. Then you are attaching ideas of horror
and death and torment to those hopes and dreams, and you are doing it within
several hypnotic stories that will fade their memory. Not only will this be
much deeper and deadlier, you will have complete plausible deniability. They
won't know you are using anchors or embedded commands. They won't know
you've wrapped death inside several stories that you are delivering as calmly
as an afternoon conversation. They will truly believe you are evil and have
used horrific black magic on their soul. If they complain to others about what
you have done, nobody will believe them. They will sound like they have
mental problems. This is extremely deceptive, covert and utterly damaging to
their psyche. Just as damaging as a house key rammed into the eyeball of an
attacker, or a tight collection of shots to the chest of a home invader. In many
areas, you can protect your home and property with deadly force. Consider
your brain, your thoughts, your emotions, your sense of self the most private
of properties. If a burglar doesn't want to be shot in the chest with hollow-
points, they shouldn't be breaking into houses. If a coworker doesn't want to
mind melted into a puddle of escapable terror and confusion, they shouldn't
attempt to assault you verbally in front of others, or to attempt to damage
your self-esteem which can have lifelong ramifications on your career or
relationships. What we are learning is serious business. But just as you won't
get the confidence from learning martial arts without practicing, you won't
get the verbal confidence of these techniques unless you go through the
process of learning them, despite how distasteful they may be. Most people
that learn martial arts never, ever need them outside of tournaments. Consider
these as only "emergency-use-only" techniques as well. The following is a
review on how to forever destroy your enemies, should the need arise.
Get them talking their future. Swallow your pride and let them boast. Keep in
mind the strategy of Sun Tzu: "Become a pig to eat the tiger." Get them
talking about their future in big, bright terms. Elicit the specifics. Find the
specific ideas and statements that make them the most excited. Help them
paint a clear picture of their future. Try to get them to describe as
descriptively as possible.
Find all the highlights. Connect them to your spatial anchors and your self-
point. Take whatever grammatical form they present their ideas in, and
whenever possible, feed it back to them as a command that you connect to
your spatial anchor. For example, if they say they are going to one day have a
house next to the beach, keep the, "house by the beach" part intact, and put a
simple verb in front of it to turn it into a command:
"That will be awesome when you get a house by the beach (R)!"
Collect as many of these command phrases related to their ideal future that
you can. The more you collect the better. Both because they will be so
enamored with you they will want to do anything to stay in your good graces.
But should they become a stalker, or try to escalate the relationship against
your wishes and turn angry, you can use all those anchors to obliterate them.
The more statements of theirs you connect to your anchors and self-points
and command voice, the more devastating your horror story will later be.
Tell them a story that starts off sounding like a regular conversation.
Embedded in the story will be several stories carefully broken into loops.
Within the stories you will be anchoring tales of horror, deceit, memory loss,
death and torture to those same anchors. Be sure to use the exact same facial
expressions, voice tone and anchors when you deliver the story. To them it
will seem you have morphed into a demon before their eyes and are gleefully
connecting horrible pain to their most cherished desires and plans.
Act like normal. As if you just told them the plot of a movie you saw on TV,
or something you saw in the news, no big deal. They will be shaken on a
deep level. They might even block it out of their memory. They will have an
uncomfortable feeling after the conversation, but they will have no idea why.
They might think about telling somebody, but they will stop themselves.
They only thing they would say is, "John was telling me about this movie he
saw but I'm positive he put some kind of evil hex on me. I think he might be a
demon or something!" Even if your enemy tells others, and those others come
to you to ask what happened, just tell them the truth. You told your enemy
about a movie you saw. Then you can give them the details of one or two of
the stories, but leave out the anchors and the commands. Since you're leaving
out the commands and the anchors, they will wonder why your enemy is so
messed up.
Repeat as Necessary
Once may not be enough. Switch between recalling their dreams (since you
have a huge collection in mind). Start talking about a TV show you watched,
and it reminded you of their future house by the beach. Then next time you
have them alone, slip into another collection of horror stories. Sometimes you
will make them feel fantastic, other times you will make them feel terrible.
Soon they will be terrified of you, they will be desperate to explain why to
mutual friends, but they will sound like a raving lunatic. This is good,
because then you will have a legitimate and verifiable reason to stay away
from them, one others will agree with. If you are only connected socially, you
will likely never see them again. In the following chapters you will have
several fully written loops you can memorize. Please practice them as often
as you can. Often, just practicing these at home or in the car with your enemy
in mind will be enough.
Serial Killer
1A
1B
1C
1D
1E
2A
2B
2D
2E
3A
3B
3C
3D
3E
4B
4C
4D
4E
I saw this amazing movie the other night. I was about to go to sleep but I
found this recent movie that was in my queue, but I couldn't remember
putting it there. Don't you hate it when you forget things (R) like that?
Anyway, it was about this guy with a mental condition. I mean he would
always forget things (R), like day to day, I mean he couldn't remember after
a day. Like he had an accident or something. And the accident made him
develop a mental disorder (R). There was this other movie it reminded me
of, I think, but it was about this guy, this total loser (R), that would go out
and try to meet girls (R). But the girls would always reject him, I mean he
would always fail with girls (R). He was always really sad, and he would
always cry to sleep every night (R). And oh, man, there was this thing on
the news about this serial killer, man it was intense. This guy (SP) would
travel everywhere, and kill prostitutes (SP). But he wouldn't just kill people
(R), he would torture people (SP). I mean this person (SP) would torture
people (R) for hours. Sometimes this person (SP) would torture people (R)
for days. I had to close my eyes when they showed the actual crime scene
pictures. I mean I don't know how this person (SP) does this. There was
another documentary I saw about serial killers. I mean serial killers (SP) are
everywhere, in every city. At any given time, there is between fifty and a
hundred serial killers operating in the United States. And each one of these
serial killers (SP) just goes out and decides to murder three people (R) a
year, isn't that crazy? And it's not like on TV, where they have all these super
smart FBI guys doing all the work to chase them down. I mean, these serial
killers (SP) are really smart. I mean they kill people (R) that don't really
matter, I mean if he decides to kill you (R), this person has decided that you
really aren't important, I mean this person (SP) that knows that if you died, I
mean if they found your body all hacked up or whatever, nobody would care
(SP). That's why the police have no way to catch these guys. I mean they
need to spend all their time trying to solve cases of important people. So,
when these serial killers, when these people (SP) decide to kill somebody
(R), they choose to kill somebody (R) and they know they aren't important. I
mean it's like they kill them, and they say, "Hey, you're not important, so
when they find your body all hacked up, nobody's going to care," isn't that
insane? I mean I've heard to strange hobbies, but if you decide (R) to have a
hobby (R) of killing people (SP), that's just wild. But this guy that's killing
these prostitutes, the cops have no idea. I mean the cops are asking for help
from the public, and when the police are asking for help from the public, you
know they don't have any idea. That's kind of scary, right? Knowing if you
are killed, the cops won't be able to find the person who killed you, right? But
this guy, this guy that would fail with women (R), it turned out he wasn't
failing, he was killing them! How crazy is that? I mean that would suck if
you thought you just suck with women (R), but in reality, you were killing
women but you didn't even know it, right? That was a crazy twist that I
wasn't expecting. But this other guy would forget everything (R), right, I
mean every day he would forget everything that happened (R), and have to
try and remember things, but he couldn't because he would forget everything
(R). And he was really rich and didn't know it! It's that wild? He was totally
rich, but since he would always forget everything (R), everybody was
always taking advantage of him. That would suck, if you didn't know that
everybody was always taking advantage of you, but you couldn't remember
anything, you would always forget (R) when people (SP) would take
advantage (R) of you, right?
The Closet
1A
1B
1C
1D
1E
Old crazy homeless woman had been there for three months.
2A
2B
Always screaming.
2C
2D
2E
3A
3B
3C
3D
3E
4B
Often unexpected.
4C
4D
4E
1A - Japanese salaryman
1B - Noticed food was missing
1C - Called the cops
2A - Crazy lady in Tokyo
2B - Always screaming
2C - Finally the cops came
3A - Lots of crazy people
3B - Easy not to notice
3C - Used to live in institutions
4A - Mental illness big problem
4B - Never know when it will happen
4C - Unpredictable
4D - One day normal
4E - Next day insane
3D - Laws changed
3E - Now out on the streets
2D - Went inside her apartment
2E - Found four dead babies
1D - Cops find woman in his closet
1E - Had been there for three months
Man, I read this crazy news story. You know how they have weird news
stories from around the world, right? Well, the other day I read a doozy.
Turned out there was this Japanese guy, one of those workaholic salarymen,
he would come home every night, ten, eleven at night, no wife or kids. But he
noticed that his food was missing. I mean he would remember how much he
had left, because he would check to see if he needed to stop on the way home
and buy more, but there was always a little bit less when he got home at
night. At first, he thought he just couldn't remember. You know how you
forget things (R), and your memories start to blur? That's what he thought
was happening, so he started to write stuff down. And there was less at night
than there was in the morning. So, he thought maybe his neighbor was
pranking him, right? I mean that would suck to think your neighbors (R) are
sneaking into your place during the day when you go to work, right? So, he
finally calls the cops. There was this other story about this lady in Tokyo. It
didn't say how old she was, but they said for years she just kept screaming
and screaming. The neighbors were going crazy. I mean, imagine that (R),
you live next door to this person, this crazy person (SP), who just starts
screaming all the time. They kept calling the cops and finally, one day, they
came over. I mean they would drive by and by then she'd stop screaming, and
the cops maybe thought the lady's neighbors were the ones that were crazy,
right? I mean something like happens and nobody knows what's really true
and what's really imaginary (SP), right? But I guess there are a lot of mental
illnesses (SP), I mean a lot of crazy people (SP) in the world. I don't know
about Japan, but I guess in the states, up until the eighties or so, they had
institutions and things for people who are crazy (SP). I mean even today,
unless you're really looking, unless you have a reason to become interested
in mental illness (R), unless you want to start looking for crazy people (R),
it's hard to notice them (R), even if they are right in front of you (SP). Even
the idea of mental illness is pretty hard to wrap your mind (R) around. I
mean it's not like they know what the cause is. I mean they call it mental
illness or whatever, but nobody really knows. I mean, most people don't have
any idea they are going to go insane (R). I mean one day your life is normal,
and then things start to slip. I mean you start to forget things (R), maybe one
day you start to hear voices (R), pretty soon you can't understand what's real
and what's not. Maybe you start to have hallucinations (R), maybe you start
to see demons (SP) everywhere. And pretty soon you go from having a
normal life, with normal friends, and then you are forgotten by everybody,
and you have to live on the street (R), surrounded by imaginary people who
are always trying to kill you (R). But before the eighties, at least the mentally
ill people had a place to stay, although they were pretty poor conditions. I
mean one of the reason they closed all the insane asylums is because once
you got locked up, you never had a hope of getting out. I mean imagine that
(R), if you had to live in a mental hospital (R). Always being abused by the
staff. Laying there, awake at night, wondering when they would come in and
mess with you. I don't know if it's any better now. I mean, they are all out on
the street. I suppose maybe it's better in some ways, worse in a lot of other
ways. Either way, once you are in that position, you have to give up hope
(R), right? But finally, the cops showed up, the lady was still screaming, and
they went into her apartment and the smell was just horrible. They looked
around, and she had like four fetuses in the closet, I guess that's why she lost
her mind. She'd go out, get pregnant, and then just toss the kid in the closet
(R), and leave it there (R). Isn't that horrible? I wonder how she slept at
night, knowing what was in the closet. Could you imagine that (R)? Every
time you're lying there, trying to fall asleep, you can't help but imagine
what's in the closet (SP), would that make you go insane (R)? But the guy
called the cops, and check this out. They came and looked around his
apartment, and there was this old homeless woman living in closet. She'd
followed him up one night after he'd gone out drinking after work. And she's
been there for three months! I mean he thought he was alone, at home, when
the whole time there was an old homeless woman living in his closet! Can
you imagine that (R), every time you are in bed, there's somebody (SP) in
your closet just waiting for you to go to sleep (R). I don't think I'd be able to
handle that. I think that would make me go insane (R).
Cannibal Rats
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I saw this pretty interesting documentary the other night about species and
life on Earth. I didn't know this but most species, like ninety percent of all
species that have ever existed are extinct. I mean I never know how
absolutely chaotic (SP) life was. I mean we like to think life is fair and kind,
but in reality, most species will never last (R), in fact there's reason to believe
nothing (R) will last. There's this trippy Southeast Asian flower, I mean it
grows naturally out in the jungle. And it's one of those weird flowers that
blooms only every seven years. But check this out, the animal that loves that
flower the most are rats. And rats (R) can really multiply quickly. I mean all
they need is food, and almost overnight you can have thousands of rats (R),
pretty much anywhere. And out in the jungle, when these flowers bloom, the
rat population just explodes exponentially. I mean all of a sudden, there is
just a ton of rats everywhere. There are these abandoned (R) cargo ships
floating around out on the ocean, I mean there's probably hundreds of them.
But one thing that happens when they leave one of these ships out there is it
becomes just filled with rats (SP). And because rats will eat anything (R),
they just eat each other (R). I mean a female rat has a litter of rats and then
just starts to eat the babies (R), it's like survival of the fittest, right? I read
where all humans have a certain gene, I forget what it's called, but get this, it
protects against prion disease. The only way you can get prion disease (R) is
if you eat other people (R). I mean there is no way to get prion disease (R)
unless you eat other people (R), I mean unless you are a cannibal. This
means that humans were cannibals for so long, we routinely ate each other. I
guess people would fight with each other (SP) and then the winner would
just eat the loser (R), right? I mean I guess it makes sense, back in those
days. Food was hard to get, dangerous to get. And if you had to fight with
people (R), and I guess back then you to fight with people (R) every day,
you just ate the person you fought with. And if you lost a fight, you would
get eaten (R). I mean today, we get into an argument, and if it gets really
bad, we have to go to court (SP). But back then, if you know somebody was
really angry with you, you would know this person (SP) wanted to kill you
(R), so they could eat you (R), isn't that crazy? That means if there is ever an
economic collapse, people will be eating each other, since it's natural for
people to eat people (R). I guess that's one of the reasons nobody wants to
claim those ships, because they are filled with rats. I mean rats so desperate
for food they'll just eat anything (R). Could you imagine that (R)? Being
stuck on a ship with a bunch of rats that were starving and would eat
anything? But when those flowers bloom, and the rat population swells, they
eat all the flowers. And after all the flowers are gone, there's all those rats out
in the jungle, and no food. So, they rats just swarm into the local farms and
just eat everything (R). I mean it ruins the local economy. So, the poor
farmers, when they see those flowers (SP) out in the jungle, they know the
rats are coming (R). I mean that would suck. To know rats (SP) are coming
(R), and they are going to eat everything (R), and there's nothing you can do.
Every time you try to sleep at night, you just think of the hungry rats (R),
that are going to come into your house, and eat everything. I mean to have to
hide the food (R) in your house so the rats don't find it, that would make it
hard to sleep. I would have nightmares (R) every night. I would dream
about rats (R) every night. But I guess there have been eighteen different
primates, and now there are only five left. So, I guess it's just a matter of time
before humans become extinct (R) like everybody else. And I guess since
humans have a built in DNA protection that protects us against prion disease,
we can revert to cannibalism (R). I think about that (R) now, every time I
watch the news, and I can't help but think of what is coming (R). Some
horrible economic collapse, when all the food runs out, and all that's left is
cannibalism and rats. Think about that (R) for a while, that's pretty crazy!
Satanic Murders
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I was this interesting story on the news the other night. It said that due to a lot
of things. Housing market, shifting economic ideas, people telecommuting,
etc. that the face of most neighborhoods are changing. Most neighborhoods
are in flux, and they aren't going to be the same for a while. I mean the days
are over where people live in the same neighborhood their entire life. There
was this guy they arrested, some old guy, everybody was totally shocked.
This guy would kidnap kids (R), like runaways and stuff, he had this whole
system where he wound find them (R). Kids, people where nobody wants
you, and he figured he would kidnap them (R) and kill them (R) since
nobody would miss them. And he would keep a lot of kids in his basement, in
cages and stuff. And every day he would tell them, nobody wants you, I'm
going to torture you (R) and kill you (R) and nobody will ever know. And
for the longest time, he'd go down in the basement every day, tell these kids
locked in the cages that, and once every week or so he'd torture one to death
(R) in front of the rest of them. I mean they'd all be screaming, and he'd be
whistling like he was working in a butcher shop or something, just while he
would hack the kid to death (R), can you believe that? I read where there
are a lot less people that actually go to church. I mean, less and less people
believe in fundamental Christianity. I mean people, mostly younger people,
are starting to believe in all kinds of weird ideas (R). Wiccan stuff, but
some people are starting to worship Satan (R). I mean what would make
somebody decide to worship Satan (R), I mean this person (SP) supposed to
be a really bad person (SP), why would you want to worship Satan (R) if he
is supposedly responsible for all the pain and misery. But I guess nobody
really knows which direction society is going in. I remember I went to this
bible study in my neighborhood, and the guy was talking about St.
Alphonsus, I guess he was one of the early saints, but I guess he died, and
came back. And he told all these prophecies and stuff that came true. But one
of the scariest things he said was that in heaven there isn't hardly anybody
there. I mean that sounds crazy, but he said that most people are going to go
to hell (R), but I guess this happened so long ago, it was kind of a problem. I
mean they believed him, but at the same time, they needed to collect people
(R) to build the church, and collect dues, I mean what would happen if
everybody found that no matter what you do, there's really no chance of
going to heaven? I mean what if that's really true? What if no matter what
happens, we are all going to go to hell (R), and we are all going to suffer
forever (R), I mean that would really suck if you really believe this (R). That
all the stuff about doing good so you can get to heaven is all a big lie. A big
con. That no matter what you do, you'll end up in hell (R). I mean if
everybody believed that, everybody would just start killing people (R). I
mean, why not, right? If we're going to go to hell (R) and suffer for all
eternity (R), we may as well start having some fun now and start to torture
people to death (R), right? But one of the things that's happening is that not
only are more people starting to worship Satan, but there are a lot more
Satanic killings, but the police are terrified of letting us know how much this
kind of thing (SP) is really happening. That's why so few police departments
actually report crime statistics. But I don't know how they caught this guy
(SP), but they found all the bodies buried in his backyard. Like over twenty
kids. And he lived in a regular neighborhood, nobody had any idea that this
person (SP) was a crazy killer who liked to torture children to death (R).
Could you imagine that (R)? Being a little kid in a cage, knowing that
nobody is going to miss you when you die (R), that when you do die (R), you
are going to be hacked to death (R) by somebody who is going to enjoy
killing you (R)? That would be horrible. But they say that the days of
everybody knowing your neighbors are over, since the demographics are
changing so much. I mean nobody really knows who you're living next to any
more. Crazy, huh?
Memory Wipe
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And that's all they need to send him away for life.
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Experiments show it's a lagging indicator.
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Horror movie.
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Experimental surgery.
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I saw this interesting documentary the other night, about Stanley and
Livingstone, you know about them, right? I guess one guy went looking for
the other, he disappeared in Africa, back when everybody was afraid of the
place. I guess in some parts it was pretty dangerous, especially if you
wandered into some tribe's territory where you didn't belong. I suppose it's
lucky they made it out of their alive. I guess some of those tribes, and lots of
tribes have some pretty intense ways to maintain their power (SP) structure.
When they kidnap enemies (R) or whatever, they don't just kill them (R),
they make sure they torture them (R) in the most horrific ways. I mean they
want everybody to know what happens when you challenge tribal authority
(SP). I mean they would come up with really creative ways to kill people
(R), I mean really torture people (R), very slowly, so they could feel the
pain (R) last as long as possible. They wanted it to look really painful, they
wanted them to really feel the pain (R), and they wanted them to scream and
beg for mercy (R) for as long as possible before they died. I mean that would
be the best way to project their dominance over everybody. Sometimes they'd
boil people alive (R), over like several days. Just heat the water up until they
started screaming, then cool it down. Can you imagine that (R)? Being in a
pot of water, they would heat it up, you could feel the boiling water (R) on
your skin, just tearing your skin off, you can't help but scream (R). And
everybody from miles around comes to watch, they want to watch you be
tortured to death (R). I guess that's a good way to maintain authority.
Anybody that would come and watch you be slowly boiled to death (R) over
several days would become obedient (SP) to the authority of the tribe. I saw
this one documentary on European torture techniques. I guess they have
several museums of torture. Some of the devices they thought of were
horrible! Like some that were like muzzles, only they slowly opened your
mouth. They would put this thing in your mouth, and there would be this
crank, and when they would turn this crank, you could feel your jaw (R)
being slowly opened more and more. Pretty soon you could feel your jaw
break (R), and you'd start screaming (R), but they would just open it up a
little bit more. Maybe half an inch every couple of hours. Can you imagine
that (R)? I saw this low budget horror movie, about this doctor. She was
really smart, and she had all these government grants, and she had all kinds
of government connections. She was researching these new surgical
techniques that were supposed to be the latest greatest invention or whatever.
But what the real story was is that she was secretly inventing a new
anesthesia, so the patient would not only be awake during surgery (R), but
they'd be paralyzed (R) and they could feel everything (R). I mean this
person was a real sociopathic sadist. She loved to torture people (R). And
she'd have these surgeries in this huge observation room, so the person being
tortured knew what was going on, could feel her cutting (R) into him, and
describing everything. She'd purposely take her time, go really slow, and
everybody would watch and tell her how smart she was. But the crazy part
was she would say things, I mean on one level this (SP) sounded like she was
talking to the people around her, but at the same time, these same words (SP)
were like her talking to her victim, saying I (SP) know how much this hurts,
and I (SP) enjoy hurting you. It was the craziest thing. Of course, all the
patients would go insane (R), since she more or less tortured them for hours
at a time. But some of those devices would like tie you up, and slowly lower
you, so you were sitting a spike. But not all at once, maybe an inch every
hour or so. And they'd do it in public, so everybody could come and watch
(R). Just slowly lowered onto a spike, feel it going up into your intestines,
people watching and pointing and talking, like they were watching a movie or
something. But those ancient tribes when they would torture you (R), they
had to maximize the pain (R), and they had to maximize how loudly you'd
scream (R), and how long you'd scream. It's a pretty good deterrent. But
going into Africa, I mean, back in those days, that must have been pretty
cool. Every day, you don't know if you're going to have it easy, or maybe get
kidnapped (R) and be tortured to death (R).
Sucker Punch
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1B - Couples kid kidnapped and murdered
1C - Nearly ruined them
2A - Criminal trying to go straight
2B - Met a girl
2C - She helped heal him
3A - Political prisoners
3B - Always happen
3C - Whoever is in charge has lots of options
4A - KGB tactics
4B - Get innocent people
4C - Torture them and get more names
4D - Torture those and get more names
4E - Perfect system
3D - Put enemies in prison
3E - Both ancient and modern times
2D - She needed his criminal help
2E - She was conning him the whole time
1D - Tortured the guy to death
1E - But it was the wrong guy
I was the most horrible horror movie the other night. I mean this (SP) was
really bad on every level, but I couldn't help watch this (R) to see what was
going to happen, but the twist at the end was like a horrible sucker punch.
Started out with this happy couple and their little girl. Then one day the girl
disappeared. They couldn't find her for a couple weeks, and then they found
the body. Somebody decided to torture her (R), then kill her (R). Then the
movie was about the couple’s relationship and how it just disintegrated. Can
you imagine something (R) like this (SP)? There was another movie about
this criminal, or at least he was a criminal when he was younger. But he was
trying to live a good life, but for some reason, he found life to be very
difficult (R). But then he met this person (SP), this girl who wanted to help
him. And it was the old story where you know you have demons inside, and
if you reveal your demons (R) you know that everybody is going to reject
you (R), that kind of thing. But finally, he told her everything and she
accepted him anyway. So, it was building up to be this love story, right? I
saw this documentary the other night about how they always have political
prisoners. I mean in every society, there are lots of ways for those in charge
to keep their power. But the structure is always the same. I mean you can
find corruption (R) everywhere (SP) you look. But if you are an enemy, I
mean if you know that those in charge think that you are the enemy, there are
a lot of ways they (SP) can punish you (R). I mean you don't have any
options, but the people in charge (SP) have all the power. And the more you
feel safe, the more that means they are planning when to just snatch you off
the street (R). So, you never know when that is coming. It's like in the Soviet
Union, I mean they had a perfect system of control. They would just grab
people off the street, anybody really, I guess it didn't matter. Since when you
are being tortured, I mean if you were tied in a chair and they were just
pulling your teeth or whatever, you would say anything (R) to get them to
stop, right? So that's what they did. They would find people (R), torture
people (R) and then ask them for names of traitors. And of course, the people
would tell them anything (R). I mean imagine if somebody you thought was
your friend was being tortured and they told them you were a traitor. That
meant it is just a matter of days before they grab you (R) when you least
expect it, and just torture you (R). I mean they had some really powerful
techniques, doctors would inject you with stuff that would make you suffer
for days (R). Suffer all kinds of hallucinations (R). That would make you
just have a waking nightmare (SP), and you would start to just hope they
would kill you (R). But I guess if you are in charge, and you know you've got
enemies, you can arrest them, you can kill them (R), you can say they have
made the decision to commit treason (R), and there's nothing you can do.
But the girl finally asked him to help her, turns out she had some old
problems, and his criminal skills were needed. One last time. And of course,
he said he'd help her, since he'd fallen in love with her. But it was all a set up.
Everything that happened up to now (SP) is a big con. And they tied him up
and before she killed him, she said this (SP) was all fake. When he was a kid,
he killed her father and she'd been planning this (SP) the whole time. She said
she wanted to heal him, make him think he had a chance at salvation, of true
love, before telling him that this person (SP) was planning on killing him the
whole time. But later, like five years later, the guy that killed their kid
escaped from prison. So, this couple schemes to catch him (R), and they tie
him up (R) in some basement, and just brutally torture him (R) for a couple
weeks. I mean super vicious torture. Just crazy torture. And then after he's
dead, they go back home, and a couple weeks later the cops come by. They
think they're going to go to jail. I mean they were ruined before, but instead
of giving them peace, since they tortured that guy to death they were just on
the brink of about to go insane (R). They felt like they would want to die
(R). But the cops come, and they are thinking, if we go to prison (R), we
deserve prison (R). But the cops say that the guy who killed their kid
escaped from prison, but it's OK because they caught him, and he's back in
prison. They find out they captured and tortured the wrong guy (R). They
decided to torture the wrong guy (R). And that's how this (SP) ends, with a
huge sucker punch that makes you feel so horrible (R), I don't think I'll get
over how much I feel terrible now (R).
How to Practice
Unlike other nested loop patterns, you'll only need to memorize and practice
a couple of these. For example, if you were going to use nested loops in sales,
or in giving presentations, not only would you need to memorize several, but
you'd eventually need to start creating your own. But because these are
purposely designed to be emotionally deadly and to create a deep desire in
the subject's mind to distance themselves from you (or even the thought of
you) one or two these is all you'll need. And since these are needed only for
those few people in your life, you won't find yourself using these horrible
loops in everyday conversations. Take the time to memorize at least one of
these. You'll find that having an imaginary conversation with your enemy,
when you take the time to deliver all the commands with as much presence as
you can will give you a lot of power. It will destroy any feelings of being a
victim, and it will make it much easier to face them, even if you never intend
to use these loops.
How to Learn
Start by memorizing each story on its own. At first, just remember the five
steps of each story. Choose one loop (one story) and practice telling the story,
(one of the four) out loud. When you can go through the main points (parts
one through five) then you can begin to expand the stories. Once you can
spend a minute or two on one story, including any commands, then start to
stack them. Stacking them means tell one story, from start to finish, and then
tell the second story from start to finish. Once you've got two stories down,
put on in the middle of the other. Then you'll have a short nested-loop. One
story that's broken in two, with one full story in the middle. Once that
becomes easy, increase to three, and then four. Once you've got all four
down, work on your technique, just like an actor would. Tell it to yourself in
the mirror, and practicing using all the anchors. Because the intent of these
stories is to deliver as much devastation to their minds as possible, the energy
you tell them with is important. Ideally, you want to use the same facial
expressions, voice tone, and anchors that you use when talking about things
they want to do. This means you'll need to tell the story using the same facial
expressions and energy that you would when describing an exciting thriller
movie that you really enjoyed watching. Because some of the stories include
ideas that are allegedly true, this may seem strange and difficult. Always
remember the effect you are intending: To create a deep feeling of revulsion
whenever your target thinks about you. It may cause you to feel guilty to tell
these stories even alone while using non-verbal energy usually associated
with positive stories. However, the more you can deliver these with that same
non-verbal energy, the more of an impact they'll have. And the more you can
practice delivering them, the less you'll feel you really need to.
It's one thing to imagine using these stories on an enemy you rarely speak to
at length. They will give you a much stronger sense of power if you use them
with anchors you have taken the time to set with your target. If you have had
actual conversations with them, and you've elicited actual things that they've
talked about as positive things they've liked in their future, this will make
them much more powerful. One way to practice these is to first recall that
conversation. Have it again with them, as if they were there. Recall the same
things they've said, and repeat them using your anchors. Then tell as many
loops as you can, using those same anchors. When practicing, be as vicious
as you can. This is much like having an imaginary shouting match with your
boss after the fact, only instead of vaguely angry shouts (that usually only last
a few seconds) this will be much more targeted, much more controlled and
you'll feel a much deeper sense of vicarious mental destruction you are
delivering to your target.
The old saying in all the revenge movies is to first dig two graves. Ideally,
you would use these, your enemies would leave you alone and that would be
that. But we humans are unpredictable creatures. If you are thinking of using
these on somebody you work with, and will have to deal with in a
professional manner, then it is very likely you will naturally be very hesitant
about using these. There is a reason they are your enemy in the first place.
There is a reason they are treating you in a way that causes you to think of
them as an enemy. Chances are those reasons won't go away because you've
given them nightmares. Many of these nested loop stories contain elements
meant to fade their memory slightly. There is no telling what the response
might be. Consider using these only as an absolute last resort, and only when
you can ensure that you will never have any legitimate need to be near them
again. If you can ghost them effectively, that is a much better solution. Just
like in self-defense, only when retreat is not an option, and your back is too
the wall, should you bring out these patterns.
"You are living your life wrong. Unless you believe the things we believe, we
believe you are going to end up in hell forever."
That's not a nice message to try and convince somebody of! Also, if you
practice on unexpected guests and telemarketers, it will give you a real sense
of the power of these stories. Even if you don't have it in you to tell them
about Mr. and Mrs. Torture, you can simply look for the presuppositions
within their statements, and ask them why they think those things are true.
You'll find that even the most stringent believers in any religion won't last
very long when you keep asking them variations of, "How do you know that
is true?"
Practicing One Liners
The one liner presuppositional ego slams are easy to practice. Go through
them until you find three or four that work well. You can rewrite them based
on various situations, but once you've got five or six down, you can practice
those on strangers with deadly effectiveness. Just be careful of who you
practice them. Don't walk up to people on the street, politely interrupt them
and then drop an ego bomb. That wouldn't be nice! But with people who call
at dinner time, or people who come knocking, with a little bit of effort you
can come up with five or six go-to lines to say to telemarketers who call
unexpectedly. For example, if you get a call from a telemarketer, tell them
you're interested and ask for their name. Then say something like this:
"OK, John, now I'm at my computer. I see that your name and the number
you are calling from has already been put on that national list, you know the
one they've been talking about? The blacklist they'll circulate to all
employers and credit agencies? I wonder why they haven't told everybody
about that yet, I guess as long as you're already going to jail, they'll figure
they'll get a few more calls out of you, what time is it there?"
Just take whatever structure they are coming from (we have a product you'd
like, we are part of a religion you need to join, we have some political beliefs
you need to support, we have a cause you should give money to, etc.) and
then go through the ego slams, and write a few out for the situations you
commonly come across. You'll find that writing these out for a specific
purpose makes them much more interesting.
Keep a Journal
If you are momentarily stumped, later write down what they said. Look for
the idea that is presupposed in their statement. Come up with three or four
ways to ask why they think that's true from as neutral a standpoint as
possible. Then practice an ego slam. Take the time to come up with an
effective attack, and practice saying it. Finally, find an appropriate story, or
collection of stories and practice saying them. These are skills, and like any
other skills, the more you practice, the better you'll get.
Final Words
You now have the information you need to never, ever be verbally or
emotionally bullied again. Many of these techniques will take practice, a lot
of practice. But just like spending the time and energy to learn martial arts,
programming these skills into your mind will give you incredible amounts of
confidence. Even if you never use any of these, (other than the neutral
questions, which even for some are too bold), you will gain confidence
simply by learning them well enough so that you could use them.
If you haven't started already, start writing out the linguistic presuppositions
today. Choose things you'd like to be true and wrap them inside the
presuppositional structure, and write them out, over and over and over. In
teaching language, instructors know there is a big difference between
recognition and production. Recognizing structures happens a lot more
quickly than developing the ability to produce those same structures. By
writing out your own presuppositions, you'll gain an incredible amount of
power. Much more than discussed in this guide, being able to deliver any
ideas consciously wrapped in the linguistic presupposition structure will give
you incredible conversational flexibility and power. Far beyond only
recognizing what others believe to be true yet hide within their language,
you'll be able to covertly put any idea out there, good or bad, at will. Most
people have jumbled up thoughts and spit them out via jumbled up words. By
taking the time to write out the linguistic presuppositions, your thoughts will
gain clarity as will your speech. If all you did was spend the next several
months writing out the presuppositions, you will gain an incredible amount of
confidence and emotional resilience.
One big belief is that we live in a world with laws and ethics and morals. The
harsh truth is somewhat different. There are many people around you that
believe if they can get away with something, right or wrong, legal or illegal,
moral or immoral, they should get away with it. By learning and practicing
the techniques in this guide, you will not only develop the ability to see
which of those around you are worthy, and which are unworthy, you will be
able to defend yourself against all comers. Despite our modern societies, our
governments, are system of laws, we are still the same creatures that
wandered the Earth for hundreds of thousands of years. We are very much
the same animals that thrived in "might makes right," or even "kill or be
killed" environment. Up to now, you may have felt comfortable around some,
and uncomfortable around others, without knowing exactly why. Now you
have the tools to determine who is living ruthlessly and who isn't. And you
have the means to defend yourself, or even be as ruthless as you want to be, if
that is your choice (and it is your choice, no one else's). Your beliefs are
yours. Your ethics and morals are yours. Your decisions are yours, and the
desire to live your life your way is yours. And unfortunately, contrary to the
promise of justice and our legal systems, often it is up to you on a real street
level to defend yourself. Nobody likes being punched in the face, but if a
mugger decides to punch you in the face and steal your stuff, the police won't
be of much use if they aren't around. For this reason, millions (or perhaps
even billions) of people study self-defense in one form of another. These
skills are no different. Strengthen these skills and make your mind, your
emotions, your thoughts impervious to attack. Consider these skills to be anti-
malware protection for your brain, to keep attacks from happening. To
eradicate them before they begin.
Final Warning
This does not come without a cost. They say that ignorance is bliss, and you
will know precisely what means after a month or two of writing out the
linguistic presuppositions. Those who you may respect now may not warrant
your respect later. Those you admire now may not warrant your admiration
later. Understanding how the structure of human language works on an
operational level will peel back the layer of falsehoods that most surround
themselves with. Dorothy and her friends believed the Wizard of Oz to be a
great and powerful wizard, capable of great magic. But then they realized he
was on old man behind a screen, pushing buttons and pulling levers. That his
authority and power were nothing but a con. You too will realize the same
about many around you. But you will also discover what Dorothy and her
friends also discovered. That her power to return home was always with her.
That she nor her friends needed the wizard for what they sought. That their
power was always within themselves. Once you gain the conversational
power of self-defense practicing these structures will give you, you will have
a sense of confidence and understanding few realize is possible. You will
become the wizard. And you won't need a curtain to hide behind, because for
you, the truth of what is secretly hidden in everybody's mind will be plain as
day. What you do with that information is up to you. But as long as we are
using movie metaphors, let's toss in one more. Remember what Spiderman's
Uncle said:
Make no mistake. Learning these patterns and structures will give you great
power. If you are willing to temper that with your own responsibility, you'll
be fine. You'll never fear another verbal attack from anybody, and the world
will be yours for the taking.
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