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PerDev. Final Mod.1
PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT
Self-Development
Before you work on this module, take time to read and ponder on this short but true story entitled “New Year’s Day – The
Second Chance”
On New Year’s Day of 1929, Georgia Tech played the University of California in the Rose Bowl. In that game, a
man named Roy Riegels recovered a fumble for California. Somehow, he became confused and started running in the
wrong direction with the ball. One of his teammates, Benny Lom, overtook and tackled him 65 yards away, just before he
was to score a touchdown for the opposing team.
That strange play came in the first half of the game and everyone who was watching was asking the same question:
“What will coach Nibbs Price do with Roy Riegels in the second half?”
The men filed off the field and went into their dressing rooms at the end of the first half. They sat down on the
benches and on the floor, all except Roy Riegels. He put his blanket around his shoulders, sat down in a corner, put his face
on his hands, and cried like a baby.
If you have played football, you know that a coach usually has a great deal to say to his team during halftime. That
day, Coach Price was quiet. No doubt he was trying to decide what to do with Roy Riegels..
The announcement came – three minutes before the second half was to begin. Coach Price looked at his team and
said simply, “Men, the same team that played the first half will start the second.”
The players got up and started out, all but Riegels. He did not budge. The Coach looked back and called him. Still,
he didn’t move. Coach Price went over to where Riegels sat and said, “Roy, didn’t you hear me? The same team that
played the first half will start the second.”
Then Roy Riegels looked up and his cheeks, were wet with tears. “Coach,” he said, “I can’t do it to save my life. I’ve
ruined you. I’ve ruined the university of California. I’ve ruined myself. I couldn’t face that crowd in the stadium to save my
life.”
Then coach Price reached out and put his hand on Reigel’s shoulder and said, “Roy get up and go back, the game
is only half over!” And Roy Riegels went back and those Tech men will tell you they had never seen a man played inspired
football as he played that second half!
My dear students, life’s not over yet! This New Year brings a new chance, a new beginning, another opportunity to
start again! Let’s get up one more time! God is the God of second chance!
Revelation 21:7 “He who overcomes will inherit all this, and I will be His God and he will be my son”
Have you experienced being given a second chance by anybody? What did you do on the second chance? Did you
give your best and overcame your mistake and changed it for better? Write a short reflection on the story above.
Start doing this in a long bond paper and secure/put it in a long folder with your corresponding folder color of your
section and the rest of your activities and tasks here in this subject.
1. Use the module with care. Use separate long bond paper and put it in a long folder in answering all the
exercises from the meditation part, activities, portfolio up to the performance tasks. (For Section Humility
section, use yellow folder, for Honesty section, use green folder and for trustworthy section, use red folder)
Make sure you have written your names on. Please label your answers accordingly so that your teacher will
not be confused in checking it.
2. Don’t forget to answer What I Know before moving on to the other activities included in the module.
3. Read the instructions carefully before doing each task.
4. Finish the task at hand before proceeding to the next.
5. Keep the module, pass ONLY your answers written in a long bond paper secured and compiled in a folder
once you are through with it.
6. Please write your names and your answers clearly.
If you encounter any difficulty in answering the tasks in this module, do not hesitate to consult your teacher or
facilitator. Always bear in mind that you are not alone.
We hope that through this material, you will experience meaningful learning and gain deep understanding of the
relevant competencies. You can do it!
Happy new year everyone! We thank God for the year 2020 and we praise Him for this new year. It’s my fervent
prayer that this bring will bring us all joy and happy learning together. I just hope that you learn something in every module
that you received.
Unit 1: Self-Development
MODULE 1: Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and
Late Adolescence
Unit 1: Self-Development
Big Question: How can understanding yourself pave the way to self acceptance and better relationship with
others?
Objectives: At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. explain that knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and limitations and dealing with others
better;
2. share your unique characteristics, habits and experiences; and, 3. start and maintain a journal.
3. start and maintain a journal.
Activity:
SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY
Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the following self-concept inventory in your journal. Give
yourself a rating using the scale: 0 = very weak; 1 = weak; 2 = somewhat weak or somewhat strong; 3 = strong;
4 = very strong
___1. I have strong sex appeal.
___2. I am proud of my physical figure.
___3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
___4. I exude with charm and poise.
___5. I am easy to get along with.
___6. I can adjust to different people and different situations.
___7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with me.
___8. I am lovable and easy to love.
___9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
___10. I am intelligent.
___11. I have special talents and abilities.
___12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
___13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
___14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty feeling.
___15. I have integrity and good reputation.
___16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth emulating.
___17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
___18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to accept what I say.
___19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
___20. I am a good listener.
___21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with trouble.
___22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
___23. I feel and act with confidence.
___24. I am a mature person.
Physical appeal Human Relations Intelligence
1 __________ 5 __________ 9 __________
2 __________ 6 __________ 10 __________
3 __________ 7 __________ 11 __________
4 __________ 8 __________ 12 __________
Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:
Character Communications Maturity
13 __________ 17 __________ 21 __________
14 __________ 18 __________ 22 __________
15 __________ 19 __________ 23 __________
16 __________ 20 __________ 24 __________
Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:
Reading: SELF-CONCEPT .
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self or your actual self? Your
ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of
a mentor or some other worldly figure. Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is
the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.
The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self-concept refers to your
awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two selves. In other words, it connotes first the
identification of the ideal self as separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in
the actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self.
The actual self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide
insight into how others react to you. The actual self is who we actually are. It is how we think, how we feel, look,
and act. The actual self can be seen by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view
us, the actual self is our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that we have developed over
time, based on what we have learned and experienced. The ideal self could include components of what our
parents have taught us, what we admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we think is
in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because there are numerous
exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are exemplified in social roles that are adjusted
and re-adjusted, and are derived from outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development.
Alignment is important. If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (the ideal
self), then I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I am is not aligned with how I
want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental distress or anxiety. The greater the level
of incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the greater the level of resulting distress. Personal
development modules ultimate aim is greater self-knowledge that will lead to higher alignment between these
two personality domains.
Source: http://study.com/academy/lesson/what-is-self-concept-in-psychology-definitionlesson-quiz.html
http://study.com/academy/lesson/ideal-self-vs-real-self-definition-lesson-quiz.html
Scan on your picture albums our your FB accounts at home and pass/print a picture of yours wherein you
showcase your talent. Just below on your picture, explain what you did on that picture and what talent of yours
you were trying to showcase during that time. Maybe you were singing, dancing or anything were you show and
used your talent.
What are your talents? List down top 5 things you usually do, where you are very good at.
Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not recognized or probably recognized but not given appropriate
attention or remedy. This could be a weakness in communications, personality or ability. Instead of giving up or indulging
in self-pity, take action. Go for speech lessons, get skills upgrading, attend personality development sessions or whatever
appropriate remedies to your perceived weaknesses.
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses, recognize your own talents and abilities, build on them, utilize
them to your greatest advantage. This is where you can build your name and popularity. Handicapped people like Jose
Feliciano and other blind singers did not brood over their physical handicap. They recognized that they have a golden
voice so they search for ways to enrich that talent and now they have won international fame in the field of music.
Source: Roldan, Amelia S. 2003. On Becoming a Winner: A Workbook on Personality Development and Character
Building. AR Skills Development and Management Services (SDMS), Paranaque City, Metro Manila.
Portfolio Output No. 2: Journal Reflection from My Banner Write about your banner.
1. What do you consider as your weaknesses, abilities and talents?
2. What are the remedies you will take to improve or compensate for your weakness?
3. How can you further enrich your assets and strengths?
4. Where and how do you use it to your best advantage?
The purpose of journal writing is to help you become the Scriptwriter of your life. There are four (4) practical
reasons to maintain a journal:
1. It is cost-efficient and available. Emotional stress can be dealt in many ways like talking to a friend over a cup of
coffee, eating, travelling, shopping, painting and many more but writing is the most inexpensive. Notebook and
pens are easy to find, available and do not cost so much.
2. It is preventive and pro-
active. Writing yields self-
awareness. When you
write, you can discover
your strengths and
limitations. You will know
what your reactions are in
different situations and
what better ways to
prevent, avoid, or face
your fears.
It is creative and
productive. Journal writing
expounds your
imagination. You can see
various dimensions of your
problem, different points
of view and better solution
3. It is creative and
productive. Journal writing
expounds your
imagination. You can see
various dimensions of
your problem, different
points of view and better
solutions.
4. Lastly, it is personal and
private. Unless you want
to share your stories, you
have the choice to keep
them to yourself. Writing
is your time alone. It is
your way of loving
yourself. You will not be
judged by your writing.
You just need to write in a long bond paper to maintain a personal journal. You may use these questions as you
write in your journal:
1. How do you find this day? What are the positive things that happened? What are those things that made you
irritated or upset?
2. As you reflect the ups and downs of your day, what may be the greatest lesson you can learn from them? What
actions have you done well and what actions you can do better?
3. What do you really want in life? What do you want to achieve for yourself, your family, your community, and your
country?
4. As you close the day, what are the small and big things you are thankful of? Who are the people that made your
day extra special?
MODULE 2:
Big Question: What is the relationship of the different aspects of development with your
thoughts, feelings and actions in dealing with life situations?
Objectives:
At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. discuss the relationship among physiological, cognitive, psychological, spiritual and social
aspects of development, to understand your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors,
2. evaluate your own thoughts, feelings and actions, and
3. show the connection of your thoughts, feelings and actions to actual life situations.
smelling, touching? How do you feel about the different ways you take in information -
through the eyes, ears, mouth, nose, pores, and skin. In what ways do you let information
in and out of your body?
5. Interactional Self. Include descriptions of your strengths and weaknesses in intimate
relationships and relationships to friends, family, co-students and strangers in social
settings. Describe the strengths and weaknesses which your friends and family have
noticed. Describe what kind of son or daughter, brother or sister you are.
6. Nutritional Self. How do you nourish yourself? What foods do you like and dislike? What
do you like and dislike about these?
7. Contextual Self. Descriptors could be in the areas of maintenance of your living
environment: reaction to light, temperature, space, weather, colors, sound and seasons and
your impact on the environment.
8. Spiritual Self or Life Force. Write words or phrases which tell about how you feel in this
area. This could include your feelings about yourself and organized religion, reactions about
your spiritual connections to others, feelings about your spiritual development and history,
and thought about your metaphysical self. Think about your inner peace and joy. Think
about your spiritual regimen or routine.
Portfolio Output No. 3: Personal
Assessment of Aspects of
Development with Plan of Action
Write about the eight
segments of your development.
What are the words or phrases
which represent aspects about
yourself which you like? What are
the items which you consider to
be weaknesses or areas for
improvement? What words which
are neutral or factual, such as “5
feet 4 inches tall, 120 pounds”?
Do some categories have more
minus than plus areas? The larger
proportion of minus to plus areas
you have, the more effort will be
needed to achieve positive self-
esteem. If the vast majority of
your minus responses are in one
or two areas, your self-esteem is
likely to be good but has a few
self-estimates which need to be
improved. Name some ways in
which you can improve the minus
areas and further enhance the
positive aspects.
Source:
http://www.innerwisdom.com/aspect-of-the-self.htm
Activity: Analyze this … THREE SUCCESS STORIES 1. Manny Pacquiao’s Unbelievable Success Story Will Inspire You
It’s 1990 in the province of General Santos in the Philippines. Manny Pacquiao is 12 years old.
Pacquiao often speaks of his debt to his maternal uncle, Sardo Mejia, who introduced him to boxing after he
dropped out of school. It was this moment that would spark an unforeseen passion and drive in Pacquiao to be one of the
best boxers in the entire world. According to his autobiography, he describes watching Mike Tyson’s shocking defeat to
James “Buster” Douglas in 1990 on television with his uncle as an experience that “changed [his] life forever.” In his
hometown, he set up an open-for-all boxing match and beat every opponent who came. He was well on the road of
transforming himself from a lanky school dropout to a junior boxing champion.
Despite his success, his family was still living in extreme poverty and hunger. They became so desperate to the
point that his father had to kill his pet dog for dinner. Pacquiao couldn’t forgive his father for what he did so he left home,
slept on cardboard boxes, and sold bread on the streets just to make a meager living. At that point, he also used boxing
and won matches for $2 each, as a means of escaping poverty.
He soon moved to Manila and continued winning several boxing matches, but given the increased standards of
living, he wasn’t making enough to survive. He soon got a job at a local gym doing gardening, cleaning and construction
while boxing on the side. He trained crazily all day and all night when possible, waking up the earliest and leaving the gym
at the latest possible time. Early on, his perseverance and determination to be a part of the boxing world swayed him to
cheat and add on some weights to meet the featherweight class requirements.
As the fights got more serious, Pacquiao started getting more famous as well. He would beat fighters from South
Korea, Japan and Thailand and at the very young age of 19, he won his first World Champion title by beating Chatchai
Sasakul, the reigning World Boxing Council (WBC) World Flyweight Champion at that time. The turning point for Pacquiao
came when he won against world-class featherweight boxer Marco Antonio Barrera at the Alamodome in Texas with a
TKO. After that fight, he was recognized internationally as a force to be reckoned with.
Today, at 37, he is one of the most respected boxers. Despite his loss during the Mayweather match, he still has
won the hearts of many boxing fans both in the Philippines and worldwide. His one-of-a-kind story will continue to inspire
and it will always portray the journey of what millions of Filipinos continue to aspire for. Source:
https://www.kalibrr.com/advice/2015/05/manny-pacquiao-success-story-willl-inspireyou/
2. The Pia Wurtzbach Success Story
Pia Alonzo Wurtzbach was crowned “Miss Universe” at the 64 th Miss Universe 2015 pageant held at Las Vegas,
Nevada, USA. Pia is an actress and model of German-Philippine origin. She is Miss Philippines 2015. She symbolizes the
deadly combination of beauty with brains. Pia is a beauty-writer, chef and make-up artist.
Pia Wurtzbach was born on 24 September 1989 in Stuttgart, BadenWürttemberg. Her father is a German and her
mother is a Filipino. Pia has a younger sister. Pia was named in keeping with the Philippines' tradition. Her middle name
'Alonzo' is her mother's maiden name. Pia did her secondary education from ABSCBN Distance Learning School in Quezon
City. She studied Culinary Arts from the Centre for Asian Culinary Studies, San Juan, Metro Manila.
Pia ventured into the
world of glitz and glamour at the
tender age of fourteen. She joined
an acting and modelling agency
for children, 'Star Magic Talent'.
Pia got a break in television when
she featured in K2BU, a series for
teenagers, the romance collection,
'Your Song' and the concert
programme, 'ASAP'. Pia has acted
in films; 'All My Life', 'All About
Love' and 'Kung Ako Na Lang
Sana'. Pia was the brand
ambassador for 'Avon Teen' for a
period of five years. She has
graced the cover of several
prestigious fashion magazines. Pia
writes for the 2bU column of
'Inquirer Lifestyle'. She is popular
as Pia Romero, her screen name.
Pia is a pageant title-
holder. Her first beauty contest
was the 'Binibining Pilipinas 2013'.
She was the 'first runner-up'. She
participated in the 'Binibining
Pilipinas 2015' as a representative
of Cagayan de Oro and won the
title, paving the path for bigger
victories.
Pia Alonzo walked away
with the “Miss Universe” title at
the Miss Universe Pageant 2015
held on December 20 at The Axis, Las Vegas, Nevada, USA. The 26year old beauty set the stage ablaze with her poise,
incredible class and talent in her exotically gorgeous ball gown and costumes. Pia was crowned by her predecessor,
Paulina Vega. As Miss Universe, Pia aspires to lead the youth and spread awareness about HIV, especially in Philippines.
Source: http://successstory.com/people/pia-alonzo-wurtzbac
I am blissfully married and a proud mother to three young men. My husband Leo knows that I am also engaged in
another love affair, a sweet and enduring one. And he approves, so do my sons.
This love affair is with research, and it started during my pediatric residency training. I can still remember vividly
the excitement and the long nights, the discovery of meaningful developments, the joy of reading medical journals, the
eagerness to prepare something thorough and relevant. The excitement I felt continued up to my postgraduate
internship, my fellowship in infectious diseases and it has lasted till now. My husband was never jealous and my
relationship with my sons never soured despite this other ongoing and never-ending love affair. I could not ask for more.
This is the best life.
So last May 23, the family accompanied me to Vigan, Ilocos Sur, to attend the 107th annual convention hosted by
the Philippine Medical Association (PMA). Being included as one of the 15 finalists for the coveted Dr. Jose P. Rizal
Memorial Awards is a proud moment for my family. With them around, I was the proudest wife, mom and doctor.
While individual citations were being read on stage for the top awardees for Community Leadership (Dr. Purisima
A. Bueno), Government Service (Dr. Maria Victoria M. Abesamis), Clinical Practice (Dr. Bonaleth M. De Vera) and Academe
(Dr. Estrella B. Paje-Villar), I never expected that the final citation was all about the fruits of my other love affair, with
research.
“Lead investigator for the much-awaited clinical trials on the multivalent dengue vaccine…” “repeatedly cited by
researchers here and abroad…” “served as the springboard for the Expanded Program of Immunization (EPI) of the
Department of Health…” “provided the evidence and the science…” “extended her work to the communities…” “greater
things to come that will benefit science, medicine and the Filipino people…” “epitomizes the virtues of Dr. Jose P. Rizal…”
“…love of country and service to
our countrymen…” All these
brought me back to the
past 30 years of my medical,
family and community life.
My love affair with
research did not happen
overnight. It was a journey
that began with a case
presentation as a first-
year pediatric resident, and a
prospective study on how
to prevent early jaundice in
newborns. My
recommendation that a
nursery should always be
facing the direction the sun rises
so that a newborn can benefit
from exposure to morning
sunlight won the top prize
for the hospital’s annual research
competition. This did not
happen once. It was a
back- to-back win for three
straight years. I got
hooked. Who would not
be? Year 1991 was my first
immersion in dengue
research. Twenty-three
years later, I am now the lead
investigator of the
country’s clinical trials for
dengue vaccine, in the countries where dengue is a major public health problem. It’s a vaccine the medical community
worldwide is waiting for.
In Vigan, the Philippine Medical Association (PMA) bore witness to the conferment of the award. The title comes
with a specially designed trophy in the image of Dr. Jose P. Rizal by National Artist Napoleon V. Abueva, a gold medallion,
free trip to the United States to attend the convention of the American Academy of Family Physicians and P150, 000
worth of medicines that I can share with a civic organization of my choice.
Was it just a coincidence or pure fate that it is also the 23rd year of the presentation of the prestigious Dr. Jose P.
Rizal Memorial Awards? If the number “23” is a coincidence, what a joyful one. If this is destiny, let me accept it with
gratitude.
This award is a fitting tribute to those who have encouraged and inspired me to continue my love affair with
research — participants and their families as well as my teams in clinical trials, officials of the local health, school and
government units, the Research Institute for Tropical Medicine, collaborators/ partners and sponsors of my researches,
Basaynon Katiguban, Inc. and my town mates in Basey, Samar, who continue to show resiliency despite the tragedy during
the super typhoon Yolanda, the Philippine Pediatric Society and Manila Medical Society for the recognition of my works
and the nomination.
For more than three decades, I have never felt happier and accomplished than when doing medical research. It is
tiring but exciting, demanding yet humbling, intimidating but empowering, exacting yet fulfilling. My work is my loving
tribute to a great Filipino and a fellow doctor, Jose P. Rizal, MD.
(Dr. Rose Zeta Capeding is
the 23rd Dr. Jose P. Rizal Memorial
Awardee for Research. She is
currently the head of the
Microbiology Department of the
Research Institute for Tropical
Medicine (RITM) and head of the
Dengue Research Group. She is the
head, Section of Infectious Diseases,
Department of Pediatrics, Asian
Hospital and Medical Center.)
Source: http://www.philstar.com/business-life/2014/06/30/1340085/love-affair-got-me-closegreat-doctor
Processing Questions:
1. Can you identify with any of the characters mentioned – Manny, Pia and Dr. Rose? In what way?
2. What lessons can you learn from the character you have chosen?
3. How would you like your life story to be told?
• win over his/her battles and difficulties in life and turns them into
a learning and glorifying experience;
• find meaning in pleasant and unpleasant events in his
life;
• live in peace with difficult people and difficult situations;
• win the goodwill of others, their respect and admiration;
• get what he wants using win-win strategies; never at the expense
of others;
• discover and use opportunities to his best advantage;
• develop and use his talents and abilities to the best advantage
Portfolio Output No. 4: Personal Recipe for Success with Reflection
and in so doing, make meaningful contribution in making this
Review the success stories of Manny Pacquiao, Pia Alonzo and Dr.
world a better place to live in.
Rose Zeta-Capeding. What do you think was the recipe for the success of
these well-featured individuals?
Now make your personal recipe for achieving personal goals. Identify
Source: Roldan, Amelia S.
your goal (you may refer to the previous activity of aspects of self inspired by (2003). On Becoming a
the success stories) and break it down into a recipe. Here are two samples of Winner: A Workbook on
recipes: Personality Development
and Character Building. AR
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Reading: THE STORY OF THE TWO WOLVES
The following is an old Cherokee Indian story that is
enlightening and helpful.
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson
about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son,
the battle is between two wolves inside us all."
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves.
One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed,
arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false
pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is
good - he is
joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The
same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather,
"Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed".
Source: http://www.psychologymatters.asia/article/65/the-story-of-the-two-wolves-managingyour-thoughts-feelings-and-
actions.html
Knowing which wolf to feed is the first step towards recognizing you have control over your own self.
Have you ever had thoughts, feelings or acted in ways that were unacceptable to yourself but felt powerless to
control? The purpose of this story is to help you find ways to manage your mind so that you can live your life more in
accordance with what your own judgment says is best for you.
As we grow up, we gradually become aware of the many things in the external world which are largely beyond
our ability to control. These include other people in general and most events in our lives. Initially this is difficult to accept,
but a more shocking realization is that there are many things about ourselves that we seem powerless to control.
Some of these are our own thoughts, feelings, and actions which unfortunately can be the source of much
distress. It may be thoughts such as “I cannot stop hating my teacher for not giving me high grades.” It may involve an
emotion e.g. “My girlfriend left me and I cannot stop feeling sad, lonely and unloved.” It can also be in the form of a
behavior such as the inability to control one's craving for food such as cakes and chocolates.”
But are we indeed really powerless to control our own maladaptive thoughts, feelings and actions? The
grandfather’s answer "The one you feed" is deceivingly simple. The results of psychological research indicate that there
are at least four important concepts or ideas implied by the answer:
1. The mind is not the unitary entity it seems to us but consists of different parts.
For example in the story there are the two wolves and the “you” that chooses between them.
2. These parts of the mind/brain can interact and be in conflict with each other
i.e. the two wolves fight for dominance over our mind and behavior.
3. The “you” has the ability to decide which wolf it will feed.
4. Having made a choice, “you” can decide specifically how to “feed” or nurture the selected wolf.
Source: http://www.psychologymatters.asia/article/65/the-story-of-the-two-wolvesmanaging-your-thoughts-feelings-and-
actions.html
Source:
http://www.psychologymatters.asia/article/65/the-story-of-the-two-wolvesmanaging-your-thoughts-feelings-and-
actions.html
I hope guys you discover something of YOU in these modules and you change for the better, for
your own benefit..see next learning modules on this PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT Subject