Becoming

A
Femme
Fatale
How to Be a
Femme Fatale
Contents
Introduction
Phase One: Inner Being
The feminine types
Dark feminine energy
Benefits of the dark feminine
Part one: Say hello to your dark side
Dark femininity + shadow work
questions
Self-reinvention: The femme fatale
persona
The 3 Components of a femme fatale
How to have sex appeal
Part two: Investing in yourself
Mental, emotional and spiritual health
Physical appearance
Sexy and powerful affirmations to use
 Affirmations to speed up your
manifestation results
Phase Two: Seduction and
Manipulation
How does the femme fatale treat men?
The three ultimate rules of the femme fatale
Detachment
Step by Step: how to make someone obsessed
with you
The Nine Target Types and how to
conquer them all
What are the main reasons for someone’s
obsession?
Why would you want someone to be
obsessed with you?
The Steps: choosing your target, get their
attention, building a friendship, selling
the fantasy, destroying your prey
Step by step how to heal from a breakup and
how to your ex back
 Introduction
For many years of my life, I had never been
called beautiful.

I’d had my heart broken four times. I had been

cheated on in all my relationships. My self-esteem
was in the gutter. I was unpopular, unimportant,
an emotional wreck. The few friends I had would
leave me out and call me sensitive. My boyfriends
all saw me as ‘needy’ and overly dependent. I had
no control over people’s perception of me and the
way I was treated.

I wanted to be popular, sexy and confident. But I

just didn’t know how. I found myself comparing
myself to the other beautiful women in the media
and feeling worse every second. I tried to
manifest myself into a more seductive person but
because of my limiting self-beliefs and terrible
self-esteem, nothing worked.
On my birthday last year I realised this had to
change.

For 6 months I engrossed myself in learning

manipulation techniques and power. I took 3
courses on dark psychology and realised how
applicable everything was to the real world. I
started therapy, shadow work, got a dark
femininity guru, and completely reinvented
myself. I became a spiritual person, in touch with
my sexuality and a confident manipulator. Then I
put everything into practice.

I started going out to certain places and getting

pulled up by guys almost immediately. I started
getting asked on dates by guys I would’ve
considered way out of my league. I had my
cheating ex at my door every day, holding
flowers, even though I didn’t want him anymore.
Outside of the realm of men my life had changed
dramatically too. I was now the confident,
mysterious and seductive woman I never thought
I could be before.

This ebook is a collection of what I’ve learnt.

How to connect to your dark femininity, how to
manipulate men and how to be a femme fatale.

It also contains intense tactics to make a man

obsessed with you. Obsession is an
uncomfortable, painful and extremely distressing
phenomenon. It takes a huge emotional toll on
you and gives people a lot of power over you.
And contrary to popular belief, obsession is
purely psychology. You can occupy anyone’s
mind and with practice control it. You can make
someone think of you all the time and fall in love
with you.

This book is not for the weak. I’m very

straightforward and to the point with my advice
and this may come across cruel to some people. In
my eyes, giving you this information is okay. It is
all down to how you use it. I’ve crushed enough
men with these tactics to know that it’s not fun
anymore. I’ve had enough people fall for me to
know that obsession can have some dangerous
consequences. But it can also benefit you in many
ways which is why I knew I had to share this with
other women across the world.

Learning how to seduce, manipulate and conquer

isn’t just to teach you how to destroy men. It also
protects you from being hurt by them. If you
don’t want to annihilate a man I still suggest
reading this book. It will teach you how to avoid
them being able to annihilate you. Depriving
yourself of this awareness will only hinder you –
even if you choose not to use it, knowledge is
power. The girls that get it, get it.

I hope you enjoy this guide. Make sure you keep

this information a secret. <3
 Phase one: inner
being
Before you even find a male target, or start your
self-reinvention, you need to decide on a feminine
type. Connecting to your divine femininity is
integral to your self-love journey. And contrary to
popular belief, femininity doesn’t have to be all
pink, gentle and air-like.

THE FEMININE TYPES

There are two most poignant forms of femininity
are the dark and the light feminine. As this e-book
is for the femme fatales, vixens and sirens we will
be focusing on how to channel dark feminine
energy and using it to get what you want.

A lot of women choose to only acknowledge their

light feminine side whilst attempting to suppress
their dark femininity. They don’t tap into the rage,
the ability to seduce and manipulate, and even
manifest because they’re told these are
“masculine” traits.

Additionally, some women are completely

controlled by their dark femininity, falling prey to
it and letting it consume them. Untamed dark
feminine energy is very dangerous and results in
extreme emotional/sexual/physical complications.
It can even lead to an inability to tap into light
feminine traits such as being nurturing,
empathetic or loving.

The trick is to access your dark femininity and

control it without letting it control you. Many
TikTok sources constantly discuss dark
femininity but don’t explore the risks, or even
explain the broad extent of its effects. The Dark
Feminine is a powerful entity that you need to
fully understand before you channel which
luckily, this book will provide you the tools for.
DARK FEMININE ENERGY
The paramount and most important stage of
beginning your transformation into dark
femininity, divinity and power is transforming the
inner persona.

Do not underestimate the divine feminine energy

you already have locked within you. Before you
can move onto controlling others and
manipulating the world around you, the first thing
you must do is transform yourself. The everyday
woman does not have power. She is low in power.
Normal women do not flourish. Normal women
are not powerful. Divine women are.

How to know if you haven’t tapped into your dark

feminine

Are you:
• Dependent on others? (friends/partners)
• Experiencing shame and self-doubt?
 • Struggling with repressed emotions, desires
and trauma?
• Emotionally unstable (not in control of the
release of your emotions and/or reactive to
external behaviours)?
• Insecure?
• Unable to predict the behaviours of those
around you?
• Wanting the ability to seduce and
manipulate but unable to do so?
• Quick to lose friends and unable to sustain
positive relationships with others without
conflict?
• Struggle to be understood by others?

We’ve all been there.

For so many years of my life I struggled.

Struggled to be understood. Struggled to be
respected by others. Struggled to make and keep
valuable friendships. Struggled to get a man to
treat me the way that I deserved. If this is the
same for you just know that dark femininity will
change your life. This book is your cure.

What does dark femininity look like?

• Passion
• Power
• Intensity
• Manipulation
• Control
• Magnetism

Dark femininity comes when you strip back and

delve deep into your rawest form.

One myth about the dark feminine woman is that

it will turn you into a stoic, cold residue of a
woman. This is wrong. It involves connecting
with your emotional roots and connecting with
the most feminine form of yourself to facilitate
the control of your emotions. The dark feminine
woman uses her emotions to fuel her success.
Another myth about the dark feminine is that it is
the embodiment of the “whore” or is the negative
side of divine femininity. Neither is the case.

Dark feminism is not cruelty, evil and bitterness.

It represents chaos, seduction and destruction and
can be manipulated to challenge and control the
masculine energy.

If you want to be able to control men and make

them obsessed with you, you need to channel this
darkness.

ANCIENT DEITIES THAT REPRESENTED

DARK FEMININE ENERGY:
• Kali
• Tara
• Lilith
• Isis
 • Innana

The dark feminine woman, and the femme fatale,

have not only been explored in modern society.
The story of Tara and the story of Kali are two
ancient stories that show that this dark divinity
has been explored by women for centuries.

MODERN WOMEN THAT CHANNEL

DARK FEMININE ENERGY:
• Angelina Jolie
• Alexa Demie
• Rihanna
• Megan Fox

If you admire these women and look up to them,

then divine dark femininity is for you.

BENEFITS OF THE DARK FEMININE

Women who are in touch with the dark femininity
experience a lot of creative, sexual and sensual
energy. Tapping into this side of yourself will
release the ability to engulf and overtake
masculine energy and will result in men literally
falling at your feet. It is almost a form of
alchemy, one that is available to all women but
that little have knowledge on.

The wild seduction that comes from dark

femininity too is also a plus, and affects both men
& women alike. For example, Alexa Demie is a
key femme fatale figure in modern society. She
attracts the adoration of both men and women,
without channelling too much jealousy and
dislike. We know little about her but are
constantly eager to learn more, and she’s very
careful about what she posts online. She’s a
complete mystery, so much so that we aren’t even
sure about her age.
Likewise, Rihanna is a figure who has used her
dark femininity to build an empire. She is
evidence that this form of femininity can be
utilised to conquer all aspects of life, not just
men.

Dark feminine energy is also a source of healing.

Tapping into your dark femininity not only
transforms yourself but enables you to
communicate your wants and needs clearly, set
clear boundaries and protects your heart from
being destroyed.

Being madly in love with someone who cheated

on me completely broke me. I didn’t know how to
heal or process anything that I was feeling. Dark
femininity saved me. Many women channel dark
feminine energy after breakups without even
realising it. In my case, connecting to my dark
feminine energy changed my life.
Part One: Say hello to
your dark side
Carl Jung, a depth psychologist, conceived the
idea of a “shadow”, with it being described as a
part of our identity that we conceal in day to day
life.

Most often, we tend to suppress and feel shame

towards the shadow aspects of our personality.
We hide them away in fear that they make us
terrible or evil people. In actuality, this is not the
case. Everyone has a shadow self and in turn, we
all have shadow work to do.

Shadow work involves getting in touch with the

‘dark side’ of ourselves and is an essential part of
the self growth process. It unveils primitive
human emotions such as rage, shame and
jealousy, and burrows down to discover their
origins. Exiling certain parts of yourself does not
give you more control or make you a better
person - in fact, this just enables these emotions to
flare up and become present in many unnecessary
circumstances.

Connecting with your shadow enables you to

become fully comfortable with the dark and light
aspects of your feminine self. It will draw
awareness to the suppressed sides of yourself,
increase control and give you full access to the
dark feminine persona.

You will need to embark on a spiritual and

emotional process of purging and acceptance of
any shame, repressed emotions, trauma and
desires that have been buried. On the next few
pages I have included shadow work questions to
ask yourself. Write your answers in a journal and
spend time deliberating over the results. These are
designed to bring forth repressed emotions and
begin connecting you to your dark feminine.
Dark Femininity and
Shadow Work Questions
1. Describe yourself as a person, being as
brutally honest as possible.
2. What do I not love about myself?
a. Why?
b. How can I change this/learn to
accept it?
3. What makes me feel jealous?
a. How can I turn this jealousy into
something that will benefit me in a
healthy way?
4. What things are triggers for you?
a. Where do you think these negative
feelings stem from?
5. When is the last time you felt let down (by
yourself or by others)? Describe that
feeling and whether it was rational
 6. What is a promise you have made to
yourself that you have continued to break?
a. Why?
7. What is an emotion I like to avoid?
a. Why do I avoid it?
b. What can I do to express this
emotion in a healthy way?
8. What am I addicted to?
a. Where do these addictions come
from and do they help or hinder me?
9. Are you a victim of trauma and if so how?
a. If yes, how can you heal from this
trauma?
b. How has this trauma made you who
you are today?
10. What is something your inner child needs
to hear?
11. What is something your younger self
needed but never received?
a. How can you give this to your inner
child?
12. What is something that makes you feel
shameful?
a. Why is this the case?
b. What is one way you can transform
this shame into confidence?
13. Does being vulnerable make me
uncomfortable?
a. Where does this come from?
It is important to honour your good and bad. The
light and dark sides to your personality. The dark
feminine doesn’t let her dark side fully consume
her – she instead acknowledges and embraces her
painful qualities and transforms them into
something that will benefit her. Bring the
darkness to the forefront and celebrate it.

I recommend also getting therapy, to help you

uncover past traumas completely, in a safe space.

Once you’ve done the shadow work, open your

heart to allow yourself to awaken your dark
femininity. Meditate and fill your heart with your
own love, adoration and acceptance. Use the Isha
system for deep meditation to attain peace and
develop your intuition. Get ready for the process
ahead.
 Self-reinvention: The
Femme Fatale Persona
After engaging in shadow work and uncovering
the dark sides of ourselves, we begin the process
of uncovering our full potential. The next stage is
complete reinvention.

DARK FEMININE TRAITS TO

ACKNOWLEDGE AND EMBRACE
• Sexual expression
• Destruction and Rebirth
• Mystery
• Rage
• Emotional intelligence
• Emotional embracement
THE FEMME FATALE PERSONA
First, lets establish what the traditional femme
fatale is like. How she behaves, how she thinks
and how you can apply this to yourself and
become one.

“Femme Fatale” directly translates to mean

“deadly woman” in French. The dark feminine
femme fatale you’ll become takes this one step
further. She has learnt how to seduce, manipulate
and destroy.

Whilst people think being a femme fatale relies

on appearance, as we’ll establish later in the book
it is your attitude that changes everything.

So how does one become a femme fatale?

Through research and evidence from my own life,
I have created a short list of three key components
of transforming into the femme fatale:
• BECOME A MYSTERY
• SHOW GLIMMERS OF A SHADOW
SELF
• SEX APPEAL

1. Become a mystery
This will be touched on a little later in the
book but this is an important stage in the
reinvention process. A femme fatale is a
mystery to others. She is difficult to
comprehend, unpredictable and different to
the rest of the herd.
As humans are minds thirst for certainty
and stability. Therefore, when we are met
with something that cannot be fully
gauged, our minds work overtime trying to
figure it out. This is why being a mystery
works – it is one of the things that makes
people obsessed with you and their
imagination begins to run wild.
Lets look at Alexa Demie as an example
again. Part of her widespread admiration
and magnetism lies in what we don’t know
about her. What we’re unsure about. She’s
the perfect example of how ambiguity and
mystery triggers curiosity and obsession.

Another reason why being a mystery is

important is because it protects your peace
and prevents you from being too
susceptible to the actions of other people.
The normalisation of social media and
cellphone addiction has led people to
believe that sharing your highlight reels
and posting every single day is necessary to
be considered interesting. In reality, being
too prevalent on socials negatively affects
your mental health more than anything
else.

How do you become mysterious?

 • Post less, talk less, be less available
– post every so often on socials and
when you do, make it good.
• Be unpredictable to breed
uncertainty
• Practice strategic absence and
periods of being away
• Conceal your intentions
• Allow other people to speak highly
of you but never brag about yourself
– let word spread organically about
your accomplishments

2. Show glimmers of a shadow self

The “shadow” as described by Carl Jung, is
usually suppressed and hidden from outside view.
By hinting at the darkness, you become more
thrilling and powerful in comparison to those who
are constantly trying to be perfect.
This is the reason and evidence why dark
feminine women are so alluring and exhilarating.
They represent a connection to a side of ourselves
we’re all afraid to unlock.

You must be careful and selective with doing

this.

Only reveal this side of you when appropriate.

Formal, depressing or tragic situations are not the
place for revealing your darkness.

Never get too dark or reveal too much. Remember

it is supposed to be a glimmer. Your dark side is
supposed to be something to intrigue people not
the scare them.

3. Sex Appeal and Magnetism

Sex Appeal and Magnetism are two of the most

poignant and rememberable qualities of the
femme fatale. In contrary to popular belief, these
have less to do with your physical appearance,
body, or face and are instead entirely reliant upon
how you feel about yourself and how connected
you are you to your sexuality. The reason why
most women cannot get in touch with their sexual
side and feel fully confident is because they have
repressed feelings of shame and insecurity when
it comes to sex.

Sex appeal and sensuality has been argued to be

something innate that cannot be learned or
develop. I disagree. I went from being wildly
socially anxious and uncomfortable around men
especially in a sexual sense to being a sexual
siren. Connecting to your sexual side and tapping
into that part of yourself is part of the dark
feminine. Sex appeal is something you discover
within yourself and looks different with everyone.
Whilst some people may find it easier than others,
it is a skill not a trait.
Ways you can develop your sex
appeal/magnetism:
• Practice mirror work. Mirror Work was a
technique developed by Louise Hay as a
gateway into the inner psyche. It involves
saying affirmations to yourself, examining
your features, dancing, being naked, all
while looking in the mirror. It is a
transformative experience and positively
impacts your sensual and sexual energy.
• Decide which features you like about
yourself and capitalise on them. Are your
eyes your favourite part of your face?
Draw attention to them by wearing bold
and colourful eye looks or thick eyeliner.
Got a great bum that you want to flaunt?
Change your wardrobe into something
flattering to your body type to accentuate
your curves. It’s all about emphasising the
things you love about yourself to boost
your confidence and use it as a tool to
translate your sexual energy.
 • Explore your body and learn how to make
yourself feel good. Invest in a vibrator.
• Speak slowly and sustain eye contact.
Careful speech that is in a low voice, with
calculated word choices, as well as being
the last person to break eye contact are
signs of confidence. However, be careful
not to speak too slowly as you’ll ruin the
effect – use it sparingly, for example when
you meet someone for a first time or if
you’ll trying to create sexual tension.
• Buy lingerie. Lingerie is not just for
women with partners – it is for yourself
too. Underwear can revolutionise your
perspective on your body so invest in some
quality, sexy pieces, even if you have no
aim to show anyone.

EXAMINE YOURSELF FROM AN

OUTSIDE PERSPECTIVE AND HOLD
YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE.
This stage of the process requires intense and
unforgiving honesty with yourself. You must
separate your emotions from reality and look at
yourself objectively. It first involves asking more
hard questions. This isn’t to make you dislike,
doubt or hate yourself – rather the opposite. It
aims to eliminate your flaws and be 100% real.
The biggest defence against your competitors in
life is to figure out your flaws before they can,
erase or hide them, and reinvent yourself
completely.

Ask yourself these questions – make sure to be

honest with yourself:
• What are my attractive/best qualities?
• What are my unattractive qualities?
• How do other people describe me?
• What do I like and dislike the most about
myself?
• What is my biggest flaw?
 • What makes me vulnerable to others?
• What can I change?
• What bad behaviours do I justify?
• How have I been a bad friend/partner to
others?
• What do I most want to improve about
myself?
• How can I better embrace my emotions?

Now, envision the femme fatale version of

yourself you’ve always wanted to be. You want to
get specific and answer these questions:

• What does the ideal version of myself

look like?
• How does she speak? Walk? Dress?
• How would other people describe her?
• If I became this person, what would my
life look like now?
 • What would her life look like in five
years?
• How do men see her?

Ways you can enhance your understanding of

the femme fatale:
• Construct her daily routine – from the time
she wakes up to when she goes to bed. You
can also use this as an opportunity to script
an ordinary day in her life
• Create a vision board to demonstrate her
aesthetic and manifest her into your reality
• Go online and find the clothes she would
wear. Compare it to your wardrobe and
make necessary adjustments.

You can become this version of yourself at any

moment. It is not necessary to change your
appearance to do so – in fact, looks have little to
do with being a femme fatale. Anyone can
overpower and manipulate a man. This is all
down to recognising your power, connecting to
your dark feminine persona and channelling it
into your present reality.

This is a message for all my bad bitches who have

low self-esteem and don’t believe they have
power to harness. The first step to taking control
is believing you have it. There are plenty of
beautiful and conventionally attractive women
who are treated terribly by men because they have
no clue how powerful they are. They haven’t
tapped into it yet and are facing the consequences.
And there are also women who are “ordinary” or
unconventionally attractive at first glance but
have men literally wrapped around their finger.

It is the energy that makes you hot and

mysterious. And energy doesn’t lie. Tell the
world that you are sexy and important, and
everyone will believe you. Ever looked back on
photos of an old hairstyle you had that you
absolutely loved at the time, but now absolutely
hated it? However, when you got it everyone was
complimenting you and treating you like you’re
the shit? If you believe you’re the shit everyone
else will too.

When it comes to men specifically it all becomes

a lot easier. But first, work on your self concept,
reinvent yourself and invest in yourself.
 Part Two:
Investing in yourself
Investing in yourself is putting time, money and
resources into bettering yourself, your life and
your future. This is an integral part of the femme
fatale transition.

Often, us women unconsciously invest in the

people around us, especially the men we are
involved with. This is not necessarily a bad thing
but can result in overcompensation, neediness
and dependency. What do these things look like?
• Needing validation from others to feel
good about yourself
• Jumping at every chance a man throws at
you to hang out
 • Sacrificing vital needs (sleep, studying,
eating) for a man and working around HIS
schedule
• Working overtime to impress other people
especially men
• Comparing yourself to other women and
doing everything you can to be more
physically attractive to other men

The secret to ending this negative cycle of

chasing and depending on others is to redistribute
this energy towards improving and loving
yourself. This will enable you to detach from
social outcomes and see yourself as a prize. Once
I started investing in myself, I saw the world start
to invest in me too. Men started courting me
rather than just trying to fuck and duck. I started
getting flowers, gifts and most importantly,
respect. And I eliminated every man that wasn’t
worth my time because I knew exactly what I
deserved.
Investing in yourself is an adventure. It means
becoming the person you’ve always dreamed of
and realising that she’s been there locked inside
of you all along. It’s allowing the dark feminine
to shine and catering to her needs, refocusing
your energy on the things that matter and
watching your manifestations come to life.

So how can you invest in yourself?

MENTAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL

HEALTH

• Eliminate the toxic and bad in your life.

This relates to foods, behaviours and
people. Cut off people who do not make
you feel good about yourself. If this means
losing a lot of people this is okay – what is
meant to be will be.
• Practice using affirmations (see next part)
to reprogram your subconscious mind and
ensure you speak to yourself with love
 always. Never ever talk down on yourself
and speak highly about yourself around
others. They will unconsciously digest
these beliefs too.
• Replace bad habits with healthy ones
• Become selective with how you utilise
your time – consider time to be a currency
with which you need to spend wisely
• Exercise regularly and put your physical
health to the forefront (health is wealth)
• Invest in good skincare products and have
weekly self-care routines to show yourself
extra love
• Read more books especially self-help
• Become comfortable with your own
company – in order to stop depending on
others you need to develop independence

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
Although energy, attitude and your aura are
fundamentally the most important traits when
becoming a femme fatale, it would be ridiculous
of me to gloss over the blatant power of pretty
privilege and how this can advantage you in your
seduction process. However, the difference
between this and common knowledge is such: you
don’t have to have a specific look or even
conform to modern beauty standards to be a
powerful and seductive woman. You should aim
to look your best (emphasis on your best). No two
women are the same and comparison is a
complete waste of time. Your focus should be to
enhance your appearance and play on your
features to be more attractive.

This isn’t about winning the genetic lottery but

instead investing in your physical appearance.
This doesn’t refer to getting lip fillers, spending
£££ on designer clothes or getting a BBL (unless
you want to do all those things of course). Instead
I’m talking about the simple things that lead to
big results: taking care of your teeth, getting a
flattering hairstyle, wearing makeup that suits
your face.

Have you ever tried to replicate a celebrity’s

makeup or style and it just looked so bad on you?
But then you try something else and it completely
works? This demonstrates the importance of
individuality. We all have our own aesthetic and
there’s something out there for all of us. Taking
inspiration from others is a start but instead of
trying to look like someone else, the femme fatale
develops her own style and finesse.

Do you notice that in Euphoria every woman in

the cast is incredibly beautiful and seductive in
their own way, and yet none of them look similar
or even have the same aesthetic? Sydney
Sweeney and Alexa Demie look nothing alike but
they both are sexy and seductive. They both
radiate confidence and decorate themselves
differently, and both are magnetic in their energy.
But again, they’re almost polar opposites in
appearance and dress sense. This shows that we
all shine, and can be magnetic, but in different
ways.

For me personally, I had to learn which makeup

suited my face. I tried it all. The 90s thin brow.
The 2014 Instagram brow. The dewy and glowy
makeup looks. Intense eye looks. It took me a lot
of experimenting as well as dedication to find
what worked for me. But once you find what
works the time invested is so worth it.

Practical tips for finding your aesthetic and

improving your physical appearance:
• Determine your face shape (oval, long,
round, square, heart, diamond) and skin
undertone. Base your makeup around these.
• Draw emphasis to your favourite facial
features. Love your lips? Invest in lots of
different lipsticks and find the shades that
work for you. Love your eyes? Try out
 eyeshadow. It takes a lot of experimenting
but this is why it’s called investing – a lot
of time needs to be spent perfecting your
look.
• Invest in teeth whitening and take care of
them. It’s no secret that a brighter smile
makes you more physically attractive. No
need to elaborate on this
• Figure out your aesthetic and refine your
wardrobe. Throw out the clothes that don’t
suit you. Stop feeding microtrends.
 Sexy and Powerful
Affirmations to use
These affirmations are designed to
change your self-concept and help you
to quantum-leap into the best version of
yourself. Feeling sexy and confident is
the biggest key to become a hot and
mysterious femme fatale. By saying
these affirmations and believing them,
you will train your self-conscious to
believe you are these things (and you
are!). The difference between you and
the girl you want to be is the energy.

Fake it until you make it. Eventually you’ll

believe the words you’re saying, even if you don’t
right now.
 • I am divinely protected
• I have a completely magnetic seductive
vibe that people fall for
• I am sexy and mysterious
• Why am I so powerful?
• I radiate confidence wherever I go
• I’m so hot without even trying
• I can get anyone and anything I want
• People always get lost in my eyes
because of how alluring and
mesmerising they are
• I am the most powerful woman in the
world
• I’m completely unfazed by the
behaviours of others
• I can manipulate any situation to get
what I want
• I am in complete control of my
emotions
 • People are in awe of my beauty
• Everyone is so intrigued by me – I am a
complete mystery
• I am the IT girl
• I am the embodiment of the femme
fatale
• I’m so intimidating
• The world is my runway
• I am filled with extreme love for myself
• I am letting go entirely of all negativity,
dislike and self-hatred towards myself
• Anything I want I get
• Everything I wish for is already mine
• I am the main character, and my life is
amazing
• I radiate mystery, sensuality and
magnetism
• I am the best version of myself
 • There is not a single man on Earth that
can hurt me or make me upset. I make
them upset.
Affirmations to speed up your
manifestation results
• I manifest whatever I want, whenever I
want, and the results come to me
immediately
• Everything I think of that I desire,
arrives immediately
• The moment I see something I want, I
always get it
• All my positive wishes for myself are
fulfilled instantly
• My life is perfect in every shape and
form
• Immediately in this present moment I
have an amazing life
 Phase two:
Seduction and
Manipulation
HOW DOES THE FEMME FATALE TREAT
MEN?

Now onto the nitty gritty. Upon research I found

that out of all the seducer traits a woman could
inhibit, the femme fatale was the most powerful,
seductive and manipulative type out there.
Embodying this took me from the needy, crying
ex-girlfriend into the vengeful dark feminine
fiancé, ready to destroy the shitty man I had let
into my life.
There are three ultimate rules for you to
remember. If you take anything away from this
book take these! Take notes, open your eyes and
focus on these vital pieces of wisdom:

THE THREE ULTIMATE RULES OF THE

FEMME FATALE
1. Anyone you chase in life, runs
away
2. The less you need him, the more he
wants you
3. If you act like a prize, the world will
believe you

Rule One: Anyone you chase in

life, runs away
The Femme Fatale never, ever chases a man.
The secret that men don’t want you to know is
that they love the chase. They love the process of
trying to get what they want. This relates to sex,
relationships and any other type of intimacy from
a woman.

As a woman it is okay to have one-night stands,

sleep with a guy soon into knowing them and
enter a relationship quickly. There is no shame in
this and I will never criticise women for the same
things that men do.

However, if you want to control a man you need

to put these things on hold and take it slow. The
longer you take to give him what he wants the
more he will work for it.

A dark feminine woman, a femme fatale, knows

that men must earn the ability to touch her. She
doesn’t settle for less and wants proof that they
desire her as much as they claim. She sets
boundaries and never ever ignores them, and
when a man does not respect these boundaries,
she quickly disposes of them.

Not chasing a man means several things. It means

not centring your world around them. It means
not texting first and not planning dates. It means
having options. All these things force men into
their masculine and makes them more likely to
court you.

A feminine woman is a receiver. She falls back

into her passivity and allows men to put in the
work to prove themselves. Taking this further, the
dark feminine woman accepts no less than what
she deserves. She puts men in her place when
needed but is still loving, seductive and sensual
when he is doing well. She never
overcompensates or acts needy for a man.

Rule Two: The less you need him,

the more he wants you
Neediness and dependency is the quickest way to
lose a man. When trying to win a man over, show
that you have your own life. You don’t need him,
he can only add to your life not become it. When
he messages you at 2am to come over you won’t
respond because you’ll be fast asleep preparing
for the day ahead. When he goes on a date with
you but doesn’t get you flowers, doesn’t pay or
compliment you, you will be extremely
unimpressed and won’t put up with it. Why?
Because you love yourself.

By investing in yourself, your goals and your

dreams, this will become your reality regardless.

The trick is to detach from other people and love

yourself so much that you won’t allow anyone to
impress you so easily. This is beneficial in all
aspects of life, not just dating.
Rule Three: If you act like a prize,
the world will believe you
Here’s a powerful teaching tool from a woman
who spent the day with Marilyn Monroe that
changed my life:

“I’ll never forget the day Marilyn and I were

walking around New York City, just having a
stroll on a nice day. She loved New York because
no one bothered her there like they did in
Hollywood, she could put on her plain-Jane
clothes and no one would notice her. She loved
that. So, as we we’re walking down Broadway,
she turns to me and says, ‘Do you want to see me
become her?’ I didn’t know what she meant but I
just said ‘Yes’ — and then I saw it. I don’t know
how to explain what she did because it was so
very subtle, but she turned something on within
herself that was almost like magic. And suddenly
cars were slowing, and people were turning their
heads and stopping to stare. They were
recognizing that this was Marilyn Monroe as if
she pulled off a mask or something, even though a
second ago nobody noticed her. I had never seen
anything like it before.”

Marilyn Monroe was living proof that confidence

and self-belief can change your reality. When she
said “do you want to see me become her” that was
evidence that you can become a femme fatale at
any moment. You do not have to dramatically
alter your appearance or spend thousands on new
cosmetic and aesthetic items to do so. But if you
believe you’re a prize and shift your self-concept,
everyone else will see you as one.

Men will bow at your feet. You won’t have to lift

a finger but will still have them wrapped around
it. And you know what’s even better? Your
control over men is just a minor side-effect to
changing your energy. Everything else in life will
fall into place simply because you adore yourself.
Detachment
One of the most important skills to learn
when it comes to seduction is detachment.
The definition of detachment is “the state
of being objective or aloof” – this is
exactly what you need to be. It means you
are disconnected from the individual

There are several benefits to practicing

detachment:

• Being detached allows you to act in

a rationale way and ensure your
seduction is not soured by your
emotions. It allows you to see things
for how they are and not how you
want them to be and enable others to
be themselves without looking for
their potential. It removes your
expectations
 • Remaining detached also makes
people more dependent on you –
when they realise you don’t need
them they are more inclined to
respect you.

• Detachment is also beneficial when

it comes to your manifestations.

HOW TO BECOME DETACHED FROM

PEOPLE, THINGS AND
MANIFESTATIONS:

1. Acceptance

Realise that not everything is meant for

you, what is meant for you will find you
and everything else will dissipate. You are
responsible for your own happiness and
when you place it in the hands of other
people you’re at risk to their own
behaviour and decisions. No matter how
much you want something, or someone,
 they can leave at any moment and you
can’t let it destroy you. It’s how life works.

2. Release

Learn to let go of things that aren’t

working out. Stop forcing situations.
Embrace the mindset that “everything
happens for a reason”.

With manifestations, utilise the law of

assumption to detach. When you are
obsessed with the outcome you hold onto
any limiting beliefs you may have, which
prevent your manifestation to come into
your reality.

3. Allowance

Allow yourself and others to be your

unrestricted selves, free from judgement.
Accept yourself and others in their entirety.
Step by Step how to
make someone obsessed
with you
Now let’s get right into it. The reason why you
bought this book. These steps are the reason I was
able to get every man /person I wanted to be
obsessed with me. This information was retrieved
from several books found in old charity shops,
speaking powerful dark feminine women and
combined with my own knowledge and practice.

Use this wisely. Obsession is not always

beneficial and sometimes it can be dangerous and
scary. Make sure you don’t go too far, unless you
want someone stalking you and thinking about
you obsessively every second (this has happened
to me).
 Before beginning the process of obsession, you
need to make sure you are susceptible to these
techniques yourself. This is why I recommend
becoming fully comfortable in your dark
femininity and encapsulating the femme fatale
persona before starting the seduction/obsession
process. You need to be confident in yourself and
make sure you aren’t in a vulnerable position
otherwise it will not work.

Once you’re ready you’ll know.

The first step to inflicting obsession with

someone is choosing your target. Every single
man fits into a category and every single man can
be manipulated into obsession. It is important to
analyse, observe and understand your target
before you start the manipulation process.

With each target there is one thing they are

missing from their lives. Use this to make
yourself alluring to them and begin the seductive
process.
 TARGET TYPES:

1. THE GEEK

The geek is the term for men who take everything

logically. They compartmentalise everything in
their lives to be explored through thorough
analysis and are usually incredibly intelligent.

How can I tell if a man is the Geek?

They usually have an interest in sciences, maths

and computers as well as a “geek” social label on
them already. They speak logically and rationally,
rarely using emotion to dictate their decisions.
They analyse things deeply and observe. They
actively enjoy reading and writing.

How do you make them obsessed with you?

The geek is missing excitement and adventure in

their lives and their need to feel superior due to
their intelligence leaves them in a complete
 mental prison. To make them obsessed you need
to do one of two things. To start, you cannot
threaten their intellectual superiority by appearing
smarter than them: this will push them away.
Instead you must seem superior as a student of
life – be exciting, spontaneous, full of new
adventures and experiences. Be impulsive without
explaining the reason behind your actions. Let
them dominate you when it comes to logic and
intelligence but dominate them and lead when it
comes to experiencing life.

Do NOT threaten their intellect or try to be

smarter than them. This is a quick way to get
them to hate you.

2. THE INNOCENT

The innocent man is the easiest to manipulate.

They see the world through a lens of kindness and
vulnerability. They lack bias towards the world
and see the good in everyone. I personally don’t
 enjoy manipulating the innocent as there is not
much to gain.

How can you tell a man is the Innocent?

They tend to be quite submissive and naïve. They

act vulnerable.

How do you make them obsessed with you?

Completely avoid being innocent like them.

Instead, reveal your dark femininity to them and
life experience. Pose as a leader, someone who is
superior to them. Innocent types are innately
submissive and feel inferior. Once you get them
to like you and create enough rapport, bring them
into your big bad world and make them feel like
they can’t got forwards without you.

3. THE COLD ONE

This type refers to the men who show little to no

emotions and are seen as “cold” or “tough”. They
 appear to lack vulnerability, and this is often due
to wanting to protect themselves emotionally as a
result of past traumas, miseducation etc.

This is easy to tell as it is an obvious guard they

put up daily.

How to make them obsessed with you?

The cold one takes a lot of work. You have to be

slow and careful with the process as they are
extremely resistant to taking their walls down and
are very detached. You have to affirm their
toughness and masculinity. Be fun and playful,
never too serious.

When you see a moment of genuine happiness in

between the coldness, that is a path to their
emotions. Make a mental note and then use that
topic to slowly break down their walls.
 Never ever try and force a connection between
you. They will see right through you and you will
lose the opportunity for obsession.

4. THE NARCISSIST

We’ve all met a narcissistic man. They’re self -

absorbed, think the world revolves around them
and are incredibly high maintenance. They are
obsessed with themselves (but in the worst way
possible).

How do you make them obsessed with you?

The secret to the narcissistic man is that they are

completely unsatisfied with themselves and their
lives, and therefore seek validation as much as
possible. Therefore the pathway to their obsession
is to fuel their self-obsession by feeding their
egos. Keep feeding it, and then, every so often
completely stop. Give them no attention,
compliments or validation. Their constant thirst
for attention will make them hungry for more.
 Keep doing this cycle and they’ll be wrapped
around your thumb completely.

If you want them to do something for you tell

them they can’t do it. Challenge them. They’ll
drive themselves crazy trying to convince you
they can.

However, when threatening their ego make sure

you don’t overdo it. Find balance with it: validate,
then pull away, then challenge.

5. THE CONTROLLING ONE

These are men that have an uncanny thirst for

domination in all aspects of life. Their desire for
control is usually psychological, due to feelings of
powerlessness and vulnerability in childhood.
They are usually the boyfriends that try to control
what you wear, who you’re friends with and what
you do with your life.

How do you make them obsessed with you?

 Controlling men lack a sense of security in their
lives and so they attempt to gain control of
everything to override this. All you have to do is
make them feel like they’re in control. They don’t
actually have to be in control and you will
secretly be the one pulling all the strings. Which
is why after a while you’ll start being
unpredictable. They can longer pull the strings
and go obsessed trying to reel you back in. This
process of lunacy will help you keep them
forever.

6. THE ONE THAT IS SCARED OF

COMMITMENT

These are the most popular men that I would use

my techniques on. These are the men that are
scared of being in a relationship and pull away
when things start getting serious. You can tell
these men by the way they act: if they shut down
emotionally and act nonchalant most of the time,
it’s highly likely that they are this type of man.
 How do you make them obsessed with you?

One of the number one rules of dating is that

everyone wants what they can’t have. Therefore
the number one way to make them obsessed is to
keep your intentions a secret and never discuss
the future/what you want from them. Have other
options, almost mirror their nonchalance. Never
put a label on your relationship or even call them
a friend. Allow them to be the one to chase you.

7. THE ROMANTIC

The romantic is another easy type to seduce.

These are the men who are in love with the idea
of love. They want a girlfriend; they want the
commitment, and they want to be with you until
they die. You can tell a romantic by how much
effort they put into your situation. They’re usually
readers, or like movies, as they engage well with
the fantasy world. The reason why it is easy to
make these types obsessed with you is because
they think that is what love is.
 How do you make them obsessed with you?

You have to give them the fantasy. The romance,

the sweetness, the exciting adventures. But the
key here is to make sure you do not get attached.
This is because at the last moment, when they get
too comfortable or when they mess up, you will
turn completely cold. They will miss the kind and
sweet side to you and go obsessive trying to get it
back.

8. THE PLAYER

These are men that play with the emotions of

women. They have multiple partners with the
hope to gain approval from others, and feel
validated when they leave girls that are in love
with them. They tend to have lots of hook-ups,
intimate relationships and continuously keep their
options open. They’re usually quite cheeky, flirty
and make a lot of dirty jokes. In their mind they
can never be tied down.
 How do you make them obsessed with you?

Never be straight with them. Be flirty, show a fun,

sexual side. But never give it to them. Insult them
playfully to slightly damage their ego but then
pair it with a laugh to show that you’re just
playing around. Keep your cards close to your
chest. It is also helpful to analyse their behaviour
and try to deduce why they are the way they are.
Once you find their weakness you can directly
point it out and watch their shock at the accuracy.

Another way to seduce them is to act completely

innocent. This is because it makes them believe
they are in complete control over you, when
secretly, you’re the one pulling the reigns.

9. THE IGNORED AND UNAPPRECIATED

These are the men that are usually out shadowed

by their peers. They are most often considered the
least attractive of their group and as a result have
become the self-proclaimed comedic relief of the
cohort. They are most often inexperienced when it
comes to women but most often have a genuine
and sweet personality. What they want most
secretly is to be the Player. They want the
attention and adoration from women. But as they
never get it, and never have, they’ve learnt to
lower their expectation and are comfortable in
their position.

How do you make them obsessed with you?

The first step is to build rapport. These types are

usually incredibly funny so get to know them,
make them laugh. The next step is to show them
the most attention when they are with their
friends. Give them a light, but not too excessive
compliment, one that is true but won’t raise too
much suspicion. Give his friends little to no
attention. By doing this you raise the intrigue of
the other men whilst also giving this type the
attention they’ve never received. Continue
building a relationship with them and showing
 them favour. This is all you need to do to make
them obsessed: it is attention and validation they
crave, so continue sustaining it and they’ll be
loyal to you forever.

Be careful never to feed their ego too much. Also

give them a little, inch by inch. They’ll fall in
love with your kindness and sincerity.

WHAT ARE THE MAIN REASONS FOR

SOMEONES OBSESSION?

1. You are the ideal versions of themselves

2. You fill a void in their psyche

3. You bring out the most suppressed sides of

themselves

Why would you want someone to be obsessed

with you?

There are several reasons why you would want to

make someone obsessed with you. For one,
someone has severely hurt you and you’d like to
get revenge.

This was my ultimate purpose for learning

manipulation. I had been cheated on several times
by one particular guy and he had completely
broken my heart. So, by learning these techniques
I managed to make him infatuated with me. He
descended into a hole I’d created of passion,
delusion and mania. And as soon as he thought
everything was perfect I completely destroyed
him. His obsession with me still exists to this day.
Every few days I’ll get bombarded with calls,
emails and texts, all from him begging me to
come back. If he sees me getting to know a new
guy, he does everything in his power to ruin it.
For me, this is annoying and one of the downsides
to making someone obsessed however it is
evidence of how extreme the consequences of
seduction can be.
Another reason is to get something you want out
of a guy. Infatuation breeds compliance. When
you’re obsessed with someone you’ll do anything
to make them happy with you. Guys are easily
influenced especially when they’re being driven
by seduction.

The last reason why I purposefully invoke

obsession in a guy is to control them. Obsession
makes you weak and vulnerable. It debilitates
your defence mechanisms and leaves you serving
someone other than yourself. Men have hurt me
so much in my life that being the one in control
brings me peace. And it has also made me realise
how weak they are. So much so that even when I
have completely shifted my priorities onto
myself, my goals and future, they’ll still be
chasing me.
 The Steps
Now let’s proceed with the steps and strategies
for obsession. The target types are your main
foundation for setting your traps. Once you’ve
deduced what kind of category they fall into,
you can begin implementing the following
strategies:

Choose your target.

Make sure when you’re choosing a target
you’re choosing someone you’ve had time to
initially observe. Have a brief understanding
of their character before you act. What type of
girls do they usually go for? What target type
do they most reflect? How easy will the
seduction process be? Try to gauge an
understanding of them through the way people
describe them, but don’t ask too many
questions so as not to raise suspicions. Make
sure you’ve established which target category
they fall into and understand how to appease
to them.

Get their attention.

It is important to be receptive and practice
open body language when trying to get the
attention of a target. The dark feminine
woman can be intimidating but when trying to
get the attention of a target she is peaceful and
wears a broad smile. (Note this is only in the
early stages to get their attention and increase
the likelihood of them coming to you. When
you need to establish boundaries or they’re
disrespectful turn the friendly stance off.)

The best way to gauge the interest of a target

is to be different and stand out. As a femme
fatale, this would come naturally to you
anyway. You are mysterious, hot and
unattainable, but at the same time you are also
fun, charismatic and social. You’re a walking
juxtaposition. Depending on their type, exude
an air of superiority, importance (men tend to
subconsciously compare themselves / pay
attention to intimidating women).

Do the opposite of what everyone else is

doing. Don’t post often on social media. The
femme fatale is selective with what she gives
her time and attention to – so don’t be at every
function. But when you do show up, look your
best and feel your most confident. Be
confusing and unpredictable, have unpopular
opinions and make people laugh. Good
memories are facilitated by emotion. Want
someone to remember you? Look them
directly in the eyes and be bold. Speak openly
and. Reveal little things about yourself to
make someone feel special. People are led by
their emotions, not rationale.
 Be charismatic and build a
friendship.
This is a necessary step in the seduction
process as it is what begins to disintegrate
their walls. However, there are some important
things you need to keep in mind. Despite the
overtly flirty and sexual nature of the femme
fatale, although you shouldn’t suppress your
sex appeal, you mustn’t flirt with them at all at
this stage. This is to ensure that they cannot
gauge your intentions and you can sustain an
aura of mystery and keep them uncertain.

Mirror their body language during

conversation. This is playing on a
phenomenon that occurs in the human body
known as mirror neurons which illustrate
closeness or empathy. This technique therefore
is incredibly clever, as it stimulates these
feelings in the opposite person. Again, make
sure this is not obvious. Mimic the person a
few seconds after they’ve gotten into a
position.

Use your own body language to subtly

seduce. This can be done by tilting your head
slightly and leaning in to show good listening
skills; pointing your feet in their direction;
keeping your gestures and physical posture
open and keeping your mouth slightly open
every so often. These are all considered
attractive subconsciously.

Listen well. An important trait for a seducer is

being a good listener. People’s favourite thing
to talk about is themselves, and it’s a way you
can closely observe their behaviour. The more
you listen, the less you have to say about
yourself too sustaining the mystery. Ask them
open-ended questions and remove any
judgement you may have.
 Sell the fantasy.
This stage of the process is important. It is
simple but not easy. Before this stage ensure
you are completely confident in your dark
femininity and sensuality. You are the fantasy,
the prize. Believe it and demonstrate it and
people’s imaginations will ruin wild with
ideas. Show little snippets of your exciting
life. Turn up to a small number of selective
events and wear your best outfits. Tell stories,
be charismatic, play the character. You can
have complete fun with this – it’s like telling a
story.

The way you carry yourself is the way you

will be treated. If you want to be perceived as
the mysterious, hot femme fatale, you have to
act the part. Be dreamy, romanticise your life
and be passionate. There are exceptions
though. Turn on the realism at serious
moments unless you want to be perceived as a
terrible person. Timing is everything, suss out
situations and determine where and when to
amp up the magnetism.

Appeal to more than the physical. Most

seducers aim to rely on their physical
appearance to sell the fantasy. Although your
appearance can help, this is an amateur move.
Suggest a higher power and illustrate a belief
in it. This can be for any religion or simply
spirituality – you have to show a dislike of the
physical plane. Find a connection between you
and the target and milk it. Make them feel like
you’re the only person in the world who truly
understands their perspective. Put effort in to
educate yourself in general and develop an
open mind. The goal is to appear superior
intellectually than your counterparts (this
doesn’t necessarily mean in intelligence, but
how you think and the type of knowledge you
know about). This elevates the seduction to a
point where they are completely unaware that
they’re under your spell – physical attraction
is obvious and playing with it to get what you
want can raise suspicion. But when someone is
attracted to the way you think and feels like
you understand them completely? You’ve got
them in the perfect trap.

Create an association. People

psychologically associate you with different
characteristics, colours and environments
without you even realising. How do you
manipulate this to your advantage? If people
are going to associate you with certain things,
you might as well decide what they are. Give
yourself certain features so they indirectly
associate you with certain traits. Decide on the
characteristic you want and work down. Want
to be associated with sexiness and seduction?
Discuss things that you consider sexy (things,
books, films) and wear sexy things. Wear the
colour red a lot as it is associated with lust or
wear black if you want to channel your dark
femininity and be associated with
mystery/power. However, don’t tell people
what you are, act the part and let them realise
for themselves. Constantly mention the sexy,
and you’ll become it in their minds without
them knowing.

Create an experience. Their time with you

has to be something to remember. It’s about
creating a fantasy, using emotions to drive
their experience and blurring the lines between
real life and illusion. Seduction is

Strategically disappear to induce mystery.

Strategic absence is one of the most alluring
behaviours of the femme fatale. Keeping the
upper hand is the only way to lead the seduced
and the only way to do this is by breeding
uncertainty. Calculated surprises cloud their
vision making the seduction process more
difficult to escape. It makes you one step
ahead and leaves them incapable of predicting
your intentions. So as soon as people get
comfortable with your presence and know
what to expect from you, taking a small hiatus
is what will bring back the intrigue. This is
what adds to your unpredictability and
mystery. No one can ever be sure of what
you’re doing, where you’re going and when
you’ll be back. This will also teach people to
respect your presence and value your time.

Make them feel as if they are important and

the only person you want/care about. Instil
hope through showing them non-verbal
interest. Give them ambiguous compliments
but never ever directly state how you feel
about them or your intentions. Make sure your
attraction to them isn’t too obvious or
obsessive – the point is to make them unsure.

After a while, destroy their expectations by

pulling back. This is called pattern interrupt,
where someone becomes accustomed to a
specific thing or behaviour, but the pattern is
suddenly disrupted. How this works is as soon
as they start to be a little bit certain about your
behaviour, you’ll switch up and they’ll be
forced back into uncertainty. You can use this
to help you emotionally detach from them also
– with every pull back use it to adjust and
reprocess. Be careful not to do the push-and-
pull process to soon and to sloppily – it all
must be subtle. Pattern interrupt is what makes
them constantly wonder and obsess.

Blur the lines between hope and fear.

Pain and pleasure is the core of desire.
We’ve already clarified that mixed signals
and uncertainty is what obsession feeds on.
It breeds overthinking and every time you
alternate between each emotion you
maintain an intense obsessive cycle
between you and the target.
So how do you do this? First implement
hope by demonstrating interest & attraction
but never verbal confirming it. Be sensual,
seductive but never give them too much
attention. Never say your intentions.
Destroy this hope by creating grief. After a
period of things going well and them
getting too cosy, withdraw their pleasure.
Deprive them of what they want almost
entirely, and they’ll fall to your feet. But
leave enough to tease them, just enough so
they’ll keep trying. Play with their hope.

Silence is a powerful thing. It both can

make you appear more confident/sure of
yourself, as well as breed insecurity in
others. When you pull back and fall silent
they will believe they were at fault. When
the target does something wrong, or
something that would traditionally upset
you, do not react. Instead fall quiet and
cold. When prompted, be vague, say you’ll
 discuss the reason with him later. And then
when he asks you enough times tell him
firmly but politely that he irritated you with
his behaviour. Hold back on giving him
any pleasure or warmth for a little while.
You’ll notice them doing everything they
can to compensate for their poor behaviour,
as well as never doing it again. Their ego
will be on overdrive trying to win you
back. You can also turn on the coldness
when you notice the target starting to get to
comfortable and relaxed with you. Silence
overall encourages people to step up their
game and be on their best behaviour again.

Using time to your advantage – Take things

slow with men. Use the time you’ve been
blessed with to analyse them, observe their
behaviour, gain an understanding of who they
are. Don’t give them too much too soon. The
Femme Fatale is careful and calculated. She
doesn’t act on impulse. She carefully watches
her prey and then, when the time is right, she
strikes. Patience is extremely important as
well as remaining emotionally detached from
the person.

Be exclusive. As a mysterious woman, it is

integral to your aesthetic to have an exclusive
aura about you. Exclusivity represents the elite
and superiority. It also acts as a defence agent
against unsupervised negative energy, and by
keeping your circle small you protect yourself.
Additionally, when others see that you are
selective with who you surround yourself
with, it makes them even more determined to
get involved with you.

Destroying your prey

Combatting resistance is something
you’ll also have to do to overcome the
target completely. Humans can naturally be
resistant to seduction if they feel like
you’re either 1) not their type or 2) scared
of change. This is perfectly fine and is a
natural part of the process. In order to
respond to this, just be patient. In fact,
sometimes you want to conjure tension to
stimulate desire. Creating a forbidden
romance is the best kind of resistance.
Insuiating a sexual or romantic tension that
cannot be fulfilled increases desire –
everyone wants what they can’t have so if
you convince them that you can’t be theirs,
they’ll want you 10x more.

Get them to do anything you want by

using reverse psychology and calculated
disdain. Reverse psychology is when you
convince someone to do something by
telling them to the opposite. It’s also
known as strategic self anti-conformity and
is a popular manipulation tactic. This can
be helpful or harmful, but using this to your
advantage will allow you to get exactly
what you want from men. The
normalisation of the term “reverse
psychology” has led people to be too
conspicuous with it, reducing its effect.
You cannot be too obvious when doing this
as the minute you make them suspicious
they will raise their guard. The trick is to
rely on one of two voice tones: flirty &
seductive or nonchalant. You can also
manipulate their actions by becoming
immediately cold when they don’t do what
you want them to do, however this only
works when they’re deep in their obsession
with you. Use this wisely and not too
generously.

Inflict insecurity. Insecurity is one of the

most powerful seduction components.
Why? Because the people we most want to
impress are those who make us feel the
most insecure. When you go from being
complimented, paid attention to and made
to feel special by someone and then they
make you feel the complete opposite, it
hurts. Then, once they soothe your
insecurities, feed your ego, you start to feel
better, seeing this as a sign that they truly
want and adore you. But then the cycle
continues and you’re completely destroyed,
over and over again.

Making your target feel insecure is the part

of the process where their emotions take
the forefront, preventing them to make
rational decisions and breeding their
obsession with you.

How do you make them insecure? First you

must find what they are insecure about.
People do not overtly say what they are
insecure about, so you have to infer this
from their behaviour. This can be deduced
from their body language and if they
exhibit defensiveness about a certain topic.
For example, if someone is completely
happy with their dress sense, when
someone insults it they’ll laugh it off.
However, if they are insecure about it,
you’ll see through their tone and body
language a slight shift. They’ll get
defensive. Observation is the only way
you’ll be able to figure these things out so
you have to pay attention.

Next, you have to find a connection

between you and their insecurity and use
this to trigger it. For example, if they are
insecure about you leaving them, hint at it
playfully.

Immediately after this you must soothe this

burn by suggesting the exact opposite. Give
them hope, e.g. by telling them you’ll
never leave or abandon them. This begins
the cycle of validation. By creating this
cycle you create an environment where you
control how good they feel. They’ll go mad
trying to impress you.

Make sure the digs aren’t too obvious

otherwise they’ll be confrontational. Act as
if you’re joking, as if you haven’t noticed
this is something they’re insecure about.

Keep them at an emotional distance.

Never commit to them emotionally and the
second they think they’ve seduced you,
immediately withdraw and turn on the cold
switch. Fluctuate between how much of
yourself you give to them. Never give too
much or too little. You have to make them
scared of losing you. People don’t value
what they think will last forever. If you get
in an argument with them and they threaten
to leave/stop talking to, encourage them.
This will communicate your independence
and the fact you don’t need them.
Leave them at their most happiest. If you
want to sustain their obsession and desire
for you forever you have to leave at some
point to inculcate the ultimate trap: keeping
their locked in you seduction forever.
When you’ve had them wrapped around
your finger for a certain amount of time (I
recommend a year) and have gotten all that
you want out of them, showcase their
desires before their very eyes. Give them
one last taste of a future with you, make
them believe they finally have it. Once
they’re certain, pull away and leave them.
Go completely ghost. Do this and you will
have successfully conquered them, leaving
them hypnotised forever.
 Step by step on how to heal
from a breakup (and get
your ex back)
If you’re reading this chapter, I’m assuming one
of two situations: either it is because you got
dumped and you want your ex to realise that
you’re the one for them and take you back; or you
broke up with someone and now they won’t take
you back. There’s no shame in either however for
this I will be focusing on the primary scenario.
I’ve been dumped several times – but after
following these steps and taking this seriously I
got several exes to run back. By the end of it, I
didn’t even take half of them back anyway.

These steps won’t just help you to get an ex back

who dumped you but will also help you to
recentre, improve and enhance your life after a
breakup. It will help you to heal quickly, reflect
on the situation and decide if you even want them
back. And the ultimate glow up is a mental glow
up if you ask me.

The Steps
1. Immediately after you get dumped,
cut off all contact from your ex. Do
not text, call or grovel with them.
Act completely content with their
decision and do not show them any
vulnerability. Be mature about
things and if you can, end on a good
note. From this you will begin the no
contact period.

WHAT IS THE NO CONTACT PERIOD?

The no-contact period is a period of 30 days

where you completely ignore and stop speaking to
your ex. Once the relationship has ended and
they’ve dumped you, you stop speaking to them
completely. You don’t reach out, you unfollow
them on all socials and you stop posting on social
media. This is only for a month.

This is proven to make exes see you in a better

light. During a period of separation, people forget
the bad memories. They forget the reason they
dumped you and instead reminisce on the good
times. Taking time away gives them a chance to
remember why they loved you and forget where it
went wrong.

This no-contact period also allows you to begin

Project Rejuvenation. By not posting on social
media this leaves him wondering what you’re
doing, but also enables you to enhance yourself
and your world behind the scenes. Once no
contact has ended he will be met with a whole
new, improved version of yourself that is doing
amazing without him.

2. Begin Project Rejuvenation. During

the 30 days of no contact, you will
 place all focus onto yourself. You
will invest in yourself using the
methods given previously. You will
create a vision board, morning &
night routines, and follow them
strictly. You will reconnect with
friends and make new ones. You’ll
go out when you want and meet new
people. But you won’t post it where
he can see it.

3. Start a new hobby. This hobby can

be anything in the world as long as it
keeps you busy. There are two
reasons for this. First, the opposition
to sexual and romantic energy is
creative energy. So therefore, in the
healing process it is integral to do
something creative to replace the
romantic void. Secondly, by having
something that keeps you busy and
entertained that isn’t another person,
 it will enable you to detach from
other people as you are the one
making yourself happy. Hobbies
also make you more attractive – they
show you’re interested in something
other than men.

4. Practise meditation, saying

affirmations and listening to dark
feminine subliminals. These will
directly target your subconscious to
change your self-concept. This way,
if and when you do come into
contact with your ex again they’ll be
introduced to a completely new
version of yourself: the femme
fatale.

5. Release your rage and purge your

emotions from the breakup.
Although you may not be
completely healed, make sure that by
 the end of the no contact period you
are more emotionally stable and
secure than you were at the start.

HOW DO YOU EMOTIONALLY PURGE

FROM A BREAKUP?

Releasing your rage, sadness and heartbreak

freely is a key characteristic of the dark feminine
woman. The dark feminine woman is mature, but
she feels her emotions in its entirety. The
difference between her and an emotionally
unstable woman is she has control over her
emotions but doesn’t let her emotions control her.
You can do this through cathartic art, meditation
and writing letters that you’ll never send.

6. Take yourself on three dates. One of

the dates will be with a friend you
haven’t spoken to in a while, one
will be with a family member and
one will be solo.
7. When the 30 days are up this means
two things. The first means that you
can reply to a text or call from your
ex from this point forwards. It also
means that you can now start posting
on social media. After a long period
of time of not hearing from you, not
knowing what or how you’re doing,
when you return make sure it is
good. Post while still retaining your
mystery. It will turn your ex mad.

8. Decentre your ex from your mind

and life. Although this is a time you
can now communicate with them,
you need to remain emotionally
detached and patient. You need to
wait for them to come to you (and
believe me they will). Men always
come back at some point however
 the waiting will be the hardest part.
If they dumped you it is integral to
not be the one to message them first
as they need to feel like they’re
initiating things. Use the law of
assumption to help with this.
Mentally move on from the situation
and if you’re ready, onto other
people. Having options is something
that will benefit you in the long run
regardless.

9. When he returns (and he will) put

your seduction steps into action.
This is why emotional detachment is
so important: you cannot see your ex
as the man who loved/hurt you.
Instead, you have to metamorphosise
him into your target, your prey
otherwise you will not conduct the
seduction process properly.
10. If you want to destroy your ex, carry
out the seduction process until the
very end. If you want to get back
with them, eliminate the last two
stages of the process. Instead mirror
their behaviour. Use mirroring to
disarm and manipulate. In other
words, match their energy. If your ex
has other options, you must get other
options too. If you and your ex have
agreed to be exclusive, respect that
and be loyal. However the instant
they disrespect you or show signs of
disloyalty, proceed to conquer them
completely until they surrender. If
they aren’t showing signs of
commitment, leave. They’ll come
running back.