Texting 101 Book
Texting 101 Book
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TABLE OF CONTENT
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INTRODUCTION
Now you are here, I want you to know this fact. The barrier
between you and the kind of relationships you want with women
is simply KNOWLEDGE.
too shy”. These questions are now common placed among men
because most men do not know how to go about improving their
dating lives, the bulk of the dating process has been put on men
by society and it’s our job to do it well.
Some guys are averagely good with ladies while others know
nothing about women altogether. This e-book is for both the
former and latter. There is always more to learn.
As you read, please pick out the best information you need
and tweak others when necessary.
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You’ve got to be planning the first date from the first time
you text her. If she’s not willing to see you physically then please
MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. She isn’t worth the stress. Girls
who give out their numbers to guys without the intent of meeting
up physically are either not interested in these guys or are just
attention seekers. They will waste your time, play around with
you online, bill you or ask for favors and anytime you don’t do as
they please, they disappear.
Girls will always love “fun” and “new experiences”. This is the
kind of man you should be naturally whether through texting or
in-person. Focus on being a charismatic and witty person when
interacting with girls rather being her comedian.
Let’s say you met this girl during the course of your day,
and immediately you get home, you pull out your phone, go to
WhatsApp and text her “Hi, Its Charles”, you wait a few hours
later and still no reply. You then text her “Remember me, we met
this morning”.
You check the next day and she hasn’t still replied and you
get paranoid. Time goes by and you forget about her, you meet a
new girl and the cycle continues.
This happens most times when guys do not know the proper
way to get a girls’ contact or when they engage with girls who are
not interested in them but just give out her number for the fun
of it.
When you meet a girl in person for the first time, you have
to make sure you get her interest in you up a bit before collecting
her number if not she’s just going to give you her number and not
reply you or use you for what I call “online attention”.
This is what you do, when you meet a girl, you shouldn’t
be texting her within the first few minutes or hours, if you do,
it tells her you have been thinking about her and you don’t have
anything better to do. That’s too much validation for someone
you just met and if she can read your desperate energy, it kills the
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Let’s say you met this girl in the afternoon at the fragrance
section of a mall, you walk up to her, calmly with two perfume
bottles in your hands and say;
YOU: That’s nice, I’m Harry, you come here very often?
YOU: I come here very often too, how is it possible that we’ve
never bumped into each other, I could say you’ve been avoiding
me.
HER: (laughs) far from it, I haven’t. I just come to get stuffs
and off I go.
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YOU: Groceries, you like to stay healthy yeah? I see you are
in your workout wear.
HER: Yeah I’m just coming from the gym; I love to exercise
a lot.
A reason to see you again for a fun idea that interests and
benefits her
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Secondly, you have to come off as a fun guy, one thing you
can never separate women from is fun, they love to have fun and
experience new things. Using lines like “I could say you’ve been
avoiding me” tells her subconsciously that you are a confident
and witty guy. It scores you some extra points.
Thirdly, you seeded a reason for you guys to meet again, this
is the most important strategy, this will get her thinking about
the next time she’ll see you again and what you have planned out
for the date, if she’s already interested enough. There is no set date
or place for the next time you guys meet and this would create
a subconscious sensation of the possibility of she not having the
most fun she’s ever had in her life.
Fourthly, you made sure she had your name and number
stored in her phone, you don’t want her replying you with “who
is this” after you send the first text. Which is very unlikely since
you saved your name as “Harry Perfume”. It’s both funny and
positively corny. It gets her remembering the fun you elicited on
your first meet and it also makes you unforgettable.
No woman will want or respect a man who has all the time
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and attention to give her without making out time and attention
for other things and people that matter in life. If she first initiates
contact, If she calls or texts first before you do, it tells you that
she has really high interest and you were successful in showing
her you are her kind of man from just the first interaction.
I’ve put you guys on some free “approach” game here already
so please feel free to have a good time and remember to be fluid
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Do not try to use the above template word for word even if
you find yourself in the exact same situation. It’s going to be a
total disaster. Don’t try it.
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You get home after coming from the mall, you send her the
default message every guy sends when texting a lady for the first
time.
“Hey Monica, how are you doing, Its Harry, hope you
remember me”
This is not a bad first message but why not continue being
the fun guy you were in-person?
“It’s been a long while I tried it, but I bet I can do more
pushups than you in one go!”
When you only take her number, it puts you in a weaker plate
on a relational balance scale, but when you exchange numbers,
even though you asked for her phone to input your number in it,
she will almost never remember that you did that, and she will
feel as if it was an equal transaction.
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If you don’t want to ask for her phone, you could also call
her phone right there, so she can have it and make sure to tell her
your name so she saves it.
The second instance just continues the fun online using call
back humor, she will be so excited and pumped up to reply you
while smiling once she sees your text message because it shows
she’s been on your mind and that you are committed to talking
about what you both have an interest in. It’s also a fun idea which
can engage her interest in exercising.
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“catch cruise”
These are the only two reasons why you should be texting a
girl you just met, except she left town a day after you met her or
you met her online.
If you met her online, you should be planning for the first
visit within a month of conversation, except there are tangible
hindrances, perhaps she stays in another country or she stays in
the same country but in a state very far from you or it could be
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that she has no transport money and you don’t have too, then I
would wonder if you’ve got your priorities right.
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There are certain dos and don’ts when texting a girl you just
met.
DOs
No one wants to read these days, when you send her long
note texts, you come off as a try hard. It tells her that you put in
too much effort into sending just a text and that you have so much
time on your hands instead of being productive. Altogether, it’s
never an advisable thing to do. It turns off most women when
they see a long text from a guy they just met.
just got back from work some minutes ago” say “guess how long
it took me to get back from work” though this is not a perfect
example but you get my point. The latter increases your chances
of getting a quick reply by about 80%. It brings her into the
conversation and makes her engage with you.
Be sure of yourself and tease her a bit through text, flirt with
her and make jokes that can be understood through text so that
they might not be taken out of context by her or you having to
explain your joke. It kills the fun.
This is because, the first date should be the date where you
get to know her, talk extensively and get to know each other at a
deeper level, this can almost never be done through a dinner date
with food in your mouths or a meal actively digesting in your
gastrointestinal system. That’s no fun. On the first date you have
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DON’TS
I can bet you with all my money that she saw your first text
come in, and just didn’t want to reply you. In my opinion sending
another message to make her reply you or notice you is stupid.
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behavior. You either tell her outrightly that you don’t like her
energy or you move on with your life. It shows that she doesn’t
value communication with you as much, so you have to tread
carefully.
Never Be Texting All The Time: The last way you want to
come off to her is as a creepy try-hard guy who texts her at odd
hours of the day when you guys literally just met. It’s a huge turn
off. You want to be texting her probably towards late evenings
at the cool of the day or around 8am in the morning at the
beginning of work hours. Usually a very short and simple text
will work here (in the morning). Something like
“Hey Monica, I feel great today, it seems like a good day for
me, hopefully it extends to you. Have a great day.”
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mistake most guys make. They try to impress a girl over text
either through jokes or amplifying themselves. This is the
wrong way to go. Women are very perceptive and most guys are
oblivious to this fact. She can read your energy and innuendos
almost immediately while conversing with you and detect foul
play or self-aggrandizement on your part. This is a huge turn
off for women. Just be your own same self over texts and if you
still want to play the self-aggrandizement game, at least play it
in-person. Texting jokes that are not clear or straight to the point
or have a corny innuendo to them can be taken the wrong way
by her, she just met you and doesn’t know you so well remember.
Don’t Ask Boring Questions: Never ask her about her life
and family through text. This is better done verbally through a
phone call or in person. Most guys resort to asking her about her
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life when they have used up all their texting mental capacity and
have nothing more to say. It is a wrong move.
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For example, use this text the next time you want to ask a girl
out on a date. Instead of saying “Can I See You” or “When Are
We Seeing”, say “You should join me out for drinks tomorrow, so
we could talk better” or “Let’s go to the beach tomorrow, it will be
a perfect day” or “I want you to join me to the beach tomorrow,
lets ride horses and play in the sand” or ‘Let’s take a walk this
evening while gossiping about everyone who’s done us wrong”
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“We should check out the new spot that just opened in town
last week, I heard it’s an amazing place”
This one lets her know that you acknowledge that she might
be busy as you are also busy but you could make out time to
spend with her when she has the chance.
You could copy this lines word for word or you can
interchange them based on your scenario.
“Just got back from work a while ago, preparing my fit, see
you soon”
This works in more ways that you think. It makes her know
you are sticking to the plan and that you gave a whole lot of
thought to your appearance. It also lets you remind her about
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the date without outrightly saying it. It also makes her know she
has to keep to her words and also gives her a chance to back out
earlier, if she can’t make it. You don’t want to get dressed before
reaching out to her.
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It’s been some days after you had the best date of your life
and you’re feeling positive about her, you both had a connection
and you felt the spark. She’s the one. She’s showing a healthy
amount of interest in you.
Now this is how you want things to be for a while until she’s
ready to be in a committed relationship with you.
There are some things you could do through text that can
kill her budding attraction for you and there are also things you
can do to make her want you more. Things you can do in person
to increase her attraction and craving for you are beyond the
scope of this book.
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This is the only way to stand out from other guys texting her.
You have to show that you are different.
All the other guys in her inbox are texting her the same
boring way every day. Messages like
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This tells her that you are a fun and “creative” person.
Say you were cooking stew, you take a picture of it and send
it to her with the funny caption
“Let’s make a 5000 naira bet, my stew will taste better than
yours”
This puts her in challenge mode and makes her try to prove
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Tell her your feelings: Wait a minute, I’m not telling you to
tell her how much you love her or how you can’t stop thinking
about her or how much you wished you were there with her. NO.
I mean you should tell her how you feel at any given moment
in time. This is a very crucial one and any mistakes done while
doing this could be fatal and irreparable. Make sure to have a
balance of positive and negative feels. You can’t be telling her you
feel bad all the time and you can’t be telling her you feel good all
the time. This is one of the fastest way to make a girl emotionally
attached to you and is best done verbally(in-person) but also
works through text. Send this to her,
“Today doesn’t just feel like a good day, I wish I could curl
up and hibernate for a few days”
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The truth remains that voice notes is not really a good way
to converse with a girl you just met, but it can be used from time
to time until you guys become comfortable with it. You have to
send voice notes often to become comfortable with using it in
the future.
Play Games: I will always say that girls love to have fun and
catch cruise and trips, so play games through text, go online and
search for games you can play through texts, pick about four you
can play through texts and have fun. Make sure not to play a
particular game all the time, that’s boring. There’s also iMessage
games, so have fun there and make sure to let her win some times.
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EPILOGUE
If you thought I was just going to give you word for word
texts in this book that you can use in all situations when texting
a girl, then you just read the wrong book. I gave some templates
you can use in some situations but the rest is up to you That
doesn’t work in the long term. You have to read this book a few
times to totally digest the information here.
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