Person An Introduction To The Science of Personality Psychology 5th Edition Mcadams Test Bank
Person An Introduction To The Science of Personality Psychology 5th Edition Mcadams Test Bank
Chapter 1
Studying the Person
SUMMARY
7. In the third step, scientists derive hypotheses from theories and test
their adequacy in research. One general design of hypothesis-testing research is
the correlational design, in which the psychologist determines the extent to which
two or more variables relate to each other. A second general design is the
experiment, in which the psychologist manipulates the independent variable to
assess its impact on the dependent variable.
MULTIPLE-CHOICE QUESTIONS
4. A teenager who understands her entire life as a journey on the path to becoming an
accomplished musician provides us with an example of a
a. Dispositional trait
b. Characteristic adaptation
c. Life story
d. None of the above
N .—I read this part aloud to the efficient female and she says that
was not what she meant.
CHAPTER IV: TRADESMEN
The story of Mr. Jones’s sin, and how he failed to send the meat in time
for luncheon, has been told. But it must not be supposed that this was the
one sin of a lifetime, standing out clear and black against a white
background of habitual punctuality. Nor was he a lonely serpent in an
otherwise spotless Eden of tradesmen who walked with God. They were
all Sons of Belial. If I could turn the whole lot of them into pillars of salt,
and cheese, and mutton, and cabbage, and all the other dilatory and
perverse ingredients of my daily life I would do it, and they might go on
“never coming” as much as they liked. They might stay there all day
making apologies and it would not matter to me. I should simply come
and hack off the pieces I wanted and not listen to a word they said.
Of course, in one way, a shop answers the same purpose. But there is not
the same pleasure in asking for a thing as there would be in hewing it off
the person of one’s enemy. And, besides, the shops are always full of
women who want to look at everything they buy.
Sometimes I have waited quite a long time while some silly creature with
a long upper lip and a badly balanced hat fiddles about with two tins of
mustard and explains why neither will do. When it comes to my turn and
the shopman says: “Pepper, m’m; yes, m’m; I’ll just show it you,” and
rushes off before I can catch him, it makes me so angry that I forget all
the other things I wanted. I know all that there is to be said on the other
side about the advantages of shopping oneself. It is not for nothing that I
have encountered the efficient female on our own ground. But if I have
been flattered she has had exercise, that is one thing! Some are born
housekeepers, some achieve housekeeping, and some have the horrid
thing thrust upon them.
They say seeing is believing, but somehow I find it impossible to believe
in a tradesman even after I have seen him, and the few things I do
believe about him I don’t like. The ego of the fishmonger, as well as that
of his representative imp who scribbles his name daily on every available
wall-space near the back door, is to me wholly uncongenial, and I dislike
the exaggerated value he puts on the creatures whom he conjures from
the deep.
“Nice plaice,” he says, handing me a thing all face, like a certain type of
person who frequents concerts and goes on deputations and boards. It has
a deep frill of some scaly substance round its small body, and at one end
the frill becomes a regular flounce. “Eightpence a pound. I’ll fillet it
nicely for you, m’m.”
By the time he has filleted away the face, and the frill, and the flounce,
and half a square foot of backbone I am left with four elusive little rags
that no amount of heavy breadcrumbing on Ruth’s part will make into a
serviceable dish for a hungry man.
“I don’t think you are right in calling plaice a nice fish,” I said the first
time this happened. “Haven’t you got anything with a little more body to
it?”
He offered me turbot at two shillings a pound. There was certainly more
of it, but it looked thoroughly wet through and uncomfortable, and he
told me that the oily skin was the best part! There are all the smaller fish
of course, but I cannot help watching James when he has anything with
bones, it makes me as nervous as if I saw him eating a wet handkerchief
full of pins.
And there is nothing like fish for “never coming.” If my own grandfather
were a fishmonger and I saw him being chased up the street by a mad
bull I should refuse to believe that he would “be there as soon as I was.”
With butchers, too, I find that we pay for more than we either ask or
desire. A leg of mutton with a hairy cloven hoof on the end (I still live in
the hope of Mr. Jones lacing a neat boot on it some day when he thinks I
am not looking and then saying it is a mistake he cannot account for) is
an insult both to the living and to the dead. And there are tongues with a
ton of salt in them. Mr. Jones weighs the tongue as it comes soaking
from the tub and charges me for the heavy dripping mass of salt. He
sends it to the house by the hands of a little boy who is fond of marbles,
a keen spectator of football, and popular with his young associates. By
the time Ruth gets the tongue on to her weighing machine it differs by
several pounds from the little blood-stained hieroglyphic pinned to it.
Mr. Jones explains this by the theory that it has “shrunk on the way from
the shop.”
If I might bear a few of Mr. Jones’s misdeeds to the Judgment Seat they
should lose none of their full weight by my loitering on the errand!
I think Ananias the greengrocer became prosperous and has such a nice
large clean shop because he is so resourceful. I have never asked him any
question which he could not answer satisfactorily, and the matter I speak
of always seems to be one which he has already gone into very carefully
on his own account. I asked him once why his potatoes were dark purple
and full of holes, and he said that it was the time of year. But I was
prepared for that and brought in a neat rejoinder.
“Yes,” I said, “that is the proper answer, I know, but how is it that I can
get excellent ones in the shops lower down?”
“Ah, yes, m’m, those,” he replied; “of course we can get you that sort of
potato if you wish it, but I hardly think, if you knew the sort of places
they come from, you’d fancy them. A very nice, cheap potato for the
price, and has a nice appearance, but——”
He shook his head with an expression of such dark mystery that I let the
potatoes alone. In fact, I had a moment’s vague wonder whether the other
kind were grown in the hospitals or whether white slaves with maimed
hands dug unceasingly for them in a distant rubber plantation.
Another day I asked him why his lettuces were a penny more than
anyone else’s and whether he charged for the caterpillars sandwiched in
them. He said that it was quite a mistake my having had the one with the
caterpillar. He had noticed it at once when they were brought in, and had
particularly told the young lady to destroy the lot. He was very glad I had
mentioned it, and he could give me the best lettuces in the market for a
penny halfpenny if I did not object to their having no hearts. He always
sent those with hearts unless he was specially told otherwise by ladies
who were obliged to consider trifles.
CHAPTER V: THE DINNER PARTY
For some weeks after I began housekeeping I had a feeling that all was
not right with Ruth. She would not talk about food when I went to the
kitchen, but somehow or other she always managed to bring in some
remark about the people in the houses near us.
“Underdone, m’m? Yes, m’m, I quite understand,” she said one day in
answer to a criticism of mine. “Speaking of which, m’m, do you happen
to be acquainted with Raws, in Windermere Place?”
“Do you mean Colonel and Mrs. Raw?” I asked.
“Yes, m’m; the young person who lives with them as cook is sister to my
young man, and I just happened to mention who you were, m’m, and
how I was living with you. She was very pleased to think I was so well
off, and asked if we were very busy just now.”
She made two or three more references to the great and good on whose
cast-off legs of mutton we lived so happily (they had the loins and the
shoulders, and we had the necks and legs, and, I regret to say, the tripe).
At last she became more explicit.
“Hardly seems worth while making these fancy dishes just for you and
master, does it, m’m?” she said despondingly. “It would be different if
you were having company and we wanted to show what we could do.”
It dawned on me then that Ruth was craving for morbid excitement. She
longed to be at her wits’ end—that land of the leal where every true
domestic servant loves to wallow and bemoan her lot. It was not long
before she had her heart’s desire. People began to call, and when they
began there was no stopping them. They came in barouches and in
motors, on foot and in four-wheeled flys, from which the chaste kid
boots of the elderly and the Parisian shoes of the rejuvenated descended
in rich profusion. Clara found it more and more difficult to be dressed in
time; in fact, when Mrs. Ajax and Mrs. Beehive took me first on their
rounds and arrived at a quarter to three, it was Ruth, smutty and
indignant, who opened the door.
I spoke severely to Clara afterwards, and found that it was her migratory
instinct which had betrayed her again. She had been upstairs to get
dressed, and had wandered off to the washhouse in the middle of her
toilet to fetch a clean apron.
“Which reminds me, Clara,” I said. “Why does it take you so long to get
tea when people call? You were three-quarters of an hour yesterday after
I rang.”
“The kettle wouldn’t boil, m’m,” Clara replied.
She gave me the impression of having at last lost patience with her
former accomplice, the kettle, and decided to “tell on him.”
“Oh,” I said, “you don’t think we had better have a man in to see about
it, do you?”
Clara wavered for a moment between professional scorn of this
suggestion and the irresistible bait I had thrown out. She hesitated and
compromised.
“Well, m’m, it ought to boil quicker; but perhaps next time Mr. Whistle
is in the house we might get him to have a look at it; it may be too heavy
a make.”
I regard this as Clara’s masterpiece.
But Ruth’s prayers were answered. The “neighbourhood” called, we
dined out, and by and by we had to feed others in return.
James and I decided against the professional cook and “hired help,” so it
remained to break the news to Ruth and Clara. I told them separately, on
a bright morning in June when the little juicy lambs were hanging in
clusters in the shops, and expectant peas burst through their pods in
every market garden of our hospitable suburb. Ruth bore up wonderfully;
in fact, after the first sob of terrified ecstasy I had very little trouble with
her. But Clara cried a good deal, and was afraid that her waiting would
not do justice either to herself or to me.
However, I told her how Napoleon had risen from quite a little chap to
what he afterwards became, entirely by his own efforts; and I also
reminded her of a famous judge in my own family who had once been an
office boy. And then we all three began to “see about” one thing and
another. I felt like an ophthalmic fly by the time we had done, with all its
numerous eyes in a state of acute inflammation. I saw the stock for the
soup. I saw the fish, and the paper it came in (which means a lot), I saw
the sweetbreads, and wondered how James can be so fond of them. I saw
the potatoes and the peas; that was nothing, really—half an eye did it,
and the other half-eye caught the salad, just to be sure it was fresh. The
tournedos of beef took an immense lot of seeing, and when they came up
James saw them all over again, and they were not good. The efficient
female has since explained to me why theirs are always perfect, but in
my soul I believe that there is hanky-panky, if not plain swank about her
fillets. Anyhow, some evil planet always shines on mine, so I have made
up my mind now that Providence does not wish me to have fillets, and
that He knows best, so we have saddle of mutton instead.
There was more brain-work and less inspection required for the pudding.
When Ruth asked me if I would like to see the eggs, I said no, that was a
question for the hen’s conscience, and one must leave something to
somebody. Neither would I waste precious eyesight on the butter. I knew
it was a lot, and the less seen about it the better. If I could have seen an
ice-machine amongst our kitchen properties I should have felt less
irritable. I know that the efficient female makes hers in something very
simple—a biscuit tin or a boot, I forget which—but we were all too
amateurish for these conjuring tricks. We have to get our rabbits out of
shops like other people, and I would not trust an omelette made in
James’s hat. We bought a machine at great expense, and when at last, wet
to the knee and chilled to the bone, I hurried upstairs to dress, I saw with
my last eye a vision of two alternatives—one, successive platefuls of
congealed cream; the other, a petrified mass, bounding at the first touch
of the spoon from end to end of our parquet floor. Which would it be?
I once read in the “Book of the Home” that the cook should lie down for
a couple of hours before beginning the serious work of a dinner party.
According to the author of the book all preparations should be made the
day before; then, when the generalissima is roused from her bed at 5
p.m., there is practically nothing to do except to put the heavy guns in
the oven and pass a salamander over the light infantry. The key to the
situation, the brainy part, the staff office, whatever you like to call it, lies
in the sauce-boats, and the gods alone decide what goes on there.
As a matter of fact, everything turned out quite differently. Ruth prepared
nothing the day before; she rose late on the morning of the engagement,
and omitted to clean the flues. We had a terrific fire going all day, and
she ran about the kitchen at top speed, purple in the face, trembling and
uncomplimentary. Far from the two hours of peaceful sleep anticipated
by the “Book of the Home,” she had not even time to wash up after
luncheon, and, as it was, dinner was more than ten minutes late. It is sad,
but remarkable, that nothing ever happens to me in the way that books
and efficient people claim as a certainty; but I am sure that Ruth enjoyed
the dinner more than Mrs. Beeton ever enjoyed anything. You lose half
the fun of a dish if you know beforehand what it is going to look like.
The range, with his unfailing common sense and utter lack of artistic
feeling, behaved strictly in accordance with his flues, slightly
undercooking some things and burning others just a trifle: but the ice was
perfect. I have often made ices in the same way, and they have turned out
failures, which just proves what I have always said, that cookery books
are written in the same spirit as “The Home Conjurer,” “Every Man His
Own Chauffeur,” “How to Become a Golf Champion by Post,” and so
on. The people who write them do not want us to know how they do the
things, so they keep us harmlessly employed with a few simple rules
while they themselves go on cooking and conjuring and get paid for it.
Ruth, Clara, the charwoman, and a borrowed housemaid sat up until
twelve washing dishes, breaking a few, and filling the air with hilarity
born of tea, fatigue, and insufficient food. But Ruth was happy. We had
had company and she had been at her wits’ end.
CHAPTER VI: THE JOB GARDENER
After all I had suffered at the hands of Elizabeth Tique’s gardener I
determined not to keep one at all. That is the kind of resolution one
makes, judging a whole class from a single specimen, and then buying
experience. But it seemed to me that just as a cook is too pervasive in a
small house, so a gardener occupies too much space in a small garden. I
remembered the mowing machine, and the manure, and one thing and
another, and thought how much enjoyment I should get from doing the
garden myself, with the help of an occasional man. I did not know that in
our neighbourhood that particular breed of garden pest is called a
Saturday scratcher. If I had heard the term sooner I might have guessed
what he would be like, but I engaged one in my innocence, and bought
experience like other people. I engaged him on the recommendation of
an enemy, and he tramped over the flower-beds to my door early one
morning. He was just the sort of working man who gets caricatured on
the music-hall stage: infinitely ugly and full of inane conversation. His
opening remark annoyed me.
“Pretty little bit o’ garden you’ve got ’ere mum.”
“That’s a liar,” I thought, considering the weeds and the seedy laurel
bushes, but I resolved not to give way to prejudice.
“There is a good deal to be done, Mr. Mullins,” I said vaguely. The fact
was, I knew what I wanted the garden to look like when it was done, but
my ideas began and ended there. I was as ignorant as Mullins himself;
the difference between us was that I was not nearly so stupid. That is
why we could not get on; if his wits had been equal to mine we should
have devised something between us in spite of our ignorance—I was
going to say, with the help of our ignorance—because we should have
done something entirely original. Being unhampered by foregone
conclusions born of knowledge, we should not have had our inspirations
blighted, as so many people have who understand the possibilities of an
art. And we might have revolutionised the laws of Nature; one never
knows! But Mullins was a fool; he did not understand when I said that I
wanted the garden to look as if the things grew there by themselves.
“You’ll want some nice beddin’-out plants, mum, if that’s so,” he
observed.
“But, Mullins,” I said feverishly, “surely—do pull yourself together—
isn’t bedding out that horrid thing you do with a plumb-line?”
“No, mum, no,” he replied, “pardon me, I don’t think you quite
understand. Beddin’ out is nice young ’ardy plants that comes to their
prime durin’ the summer months; gives far more effect they do than
anything else.”
I remained doubtful, but weakened; he smiled in such a kindly,
authoritative way.
“I used to be gardener with your ’usband’s pa, mum,” he ventured, just at
the critical moment. “What a nice gentleman ’e was! and what a fine
garden they always ’ad! We used to commence beddin’ out just about
now, mum.”
I fell headlong into the gin. Mullins was utterly stupid and never took a
point, but he made them sometimes and scored.
“He must know,” I thought, “why James’s father had acres and acres of
hot-houses!” Then I remembered something; I clutched at a memory of
my mother walking round the gardens at home. “The herbaceous border
is getting rather thin, Ptarmigan,” I seemed to hear her say; “there won’t
be enough flowers for the house. I can’t bear your stiff hot-house
things.”
“Ah, yes, Mullins,” I said, upon this dim vision, “but I must have a good
herbaceous border, or else we shall not have enough flowers for the
house.”
“Make you a nice ’erbaceous border along that ’ere wall, mum,” he
replied obligingly.
So we set to work. I bought catalogues and books of instructions; I also
took in the Amateur Gardener. But this is the kind of way one gets let in.
The book says:
“Pyrox gypsomanica (poor man’s rose). A very free flowering perennial;
deep bright purple, standard growth; May to October; suits any soil.”
“Mopincosa juicyflorum. (English hibiscus); orange, scarlet, and blue;
very prolific; suitable for damp waste places where soil occurs rarely;
flowers all the year round.”
All this is just the cookery-book trick in another form. The people who
write these books evidently form a ring, like oil magnates and deceivers
of that sort; they monopolise the cooking and gardening that is done, and
then they send out misleading literature telling us how simple it all is and
getting us to buy their wares. I bought what the seedsmen’s lists called
“strong hardy plants” of all sorts of beautiful things that were guaranteed
to flower freely in damp waste places. Mullins and I planted them, and
that was the last we heard of them. The places we chose were quite damp
enough; I am sure about that. Of course Mullins made it a point of
honour to disapprove of everything I planted—one must expect that of
any gardener—but in fact his were not any more successful than mine,
and they cost more to buy. My private opinion is that on the night after I
sowed any seeds Mullins came out with a small lantern, collected the
soil, sifted it, and made Quaker oats for his breakfast next morning out of
my godetia and poppy. I have read that mandragora or poppy is a
powerful drug, and I suspect that is partly what is the matter with
Mullins.
We put in bulbs, too, which no doubt he stuffs with some savoury
compound and finds an excellent substitute for onions, and more
digestible; either that, or else the entire gardening trade is riddled with
the direct descendants of Ananias, and that seems almost too sweeping a
statement to be credible. I prefer the Mullins’ meals hypothesis.
At present I have quite a bright little garden, and this is the plan on
which I have achieved it. I have a border of stuffed cats down one side;
they are of various sizes, and their glass eyes make a bright spot of
colour amongst the misty duns and greys of their outer coatings; they are
perennial, and not easily dashed by rain. Down the other side I have
spread a wide border of coarse red flannel, and on this I contrive to raise
quite a number of little evergreens. In the round beds (where the efficient
female tells me there is nothing to prevent my having a capital show of
roses) I have planted a nice lot of aspidistras. James has a friend who
owned an aspidistra which he sent to a cold-storage place with a van-
load of furniture when he went abroad for five years. The aspidistra was
not valuable, and he did not much care if he never saw it again. But it
was all right when he came back, and had put out a number of green
shoots.
My third contrivance in the greenhouse where I have some plants is to
put up wire netting to keep off Mullins. He used to go in there two or
three times a day “just to give a look round,” as he called it, and after his
visits it was impossible to keep anything alive except large families of
green fly, which he seemed to bring with him. I had quite a promising
collection there one week—some geraniums, a fuchsia or two, a hardy
palm, and the remains of a good rose: it was nothing like dead when I
left it that morning at ten o’clock. At twelve Mullins humped up the iron
stair which leads to the greenhouse, spat once on the floor, exclaimed
“Hum! ha! ho!” in a loud voice, and sent a message by Clara asking me
for four-and-sixpence. By the afternoon there was not a living plant in
the place, and the air was thick with green fly.
I once counted the number of pests (exclusive of Mullins) which I
collected from the greenhouse and garden. I used to scrape balls of
animated grey fluff off the staging and bottle different specimens of the
attenuated orange and black works of the Almighty which I caught
skating in and out of the soil, either on their stomachs, or with a pianola-
like flexibility of touch on an unnecessary number of legs. I sent all these
specimens to a friend at the University, and some of them turned out to
be very rare and quite unusually destructive. There were forms of
fungus, too, in the greenhouse that were quite pretty but very infectious,
and were really animals—at least I think that was what he said—and I
am absolutely certain that they were all brought by Mullins. He still
comes, and I still pay him four-and-sixpence a week, because he keeps
out other Mullinses. And I have learned now, as I said, to stop him from
doing any active harm; I let him trundle the mowing machine when I am
out, and talk to the cook, and at Christmas-time he dirties the house with
large bunches of sooty holly, but it all makes for what the servants call
“nice feeling.”
CHAPTER VII: THE DOCTOR
James had often said that we must get to know of a good doctor whom
we could call in if either of us was ill; but neither of us was ill, and we
put off our inquiries until it was too late. Mrs. Beehive called one day,
boasting that she had just recovered from influenza and really had no
business to be out. Within forty-eight hours I wished she had never been
born, and James brought a captive gentleman in spectacles to my
bedside.
He held counsel with my inner works through the usual formulæ and
then rang for hot water. While Clara was bringing it he adjusted his
spectacles, put his hands in his pockets, and walked over to the
mantelpiece.
“Fond of Alpine climbing?” he asked.
“No,” I gasped, coughing.
“Ah, it’s a grand sport!” he said. “Does your husband climb?”
I shook my head.
“What a wonderful woman his aunt, Miss Molyneux, is! I remember
meeting her at a whist-drive ten years ago, and she must be now—let me
see—what is her age?”
“I don’t know,” I whispered, weary after his pommelling and longing for
sleep.
“Pardon?”
I felt myself growing hot. “Ninety-eight,” I said hoarsely, at a venture. I
did not know how old James’s aunt was, nor whether she climbed.
“Ah, is she so much?” he reflected, swaying on his toes. “That’s a nice
little fellow” (pointing to a photograph on the mantelpiece). “Puts me in
mind of Prince Olaf. It has a great look of him; don’t you think so?
What?”
I nodded and shook my head at the same time, and kicked the
bedclothes. My temperature was rising rapidly.
“Ah, thank you,” he said, as Clara came in with the hot water, and then
he began washing his hands. I never knew a man use so much soap; it
was my special kind at two-and-sixpence a tablet, and he left it in the
water while he lathered and messed and went on with the Alpine
business. He told me the names of all the mountains he had been up, and
the routes by which he had unfortunately come down. He described how
splendidly fit one felt tearing down the snow slopes on a toboggan (“I
wish you would slide downstairs on what is left of my soap, and have
done with it,” I thought). He said that he used to have a touch of
bronchitis himself every winter, but it completely left him after a week at
Mürren. After we had been all round Switzerland with the soap we came
back to one of my favourite towels, which he reduced to something like a
bread poultice during a ten minutes’ inquiry as to how many Wagner
operas I had heard in my life, and whether my grandmother was the wife
of a famous fisherman.
I lay panting and exhausted on the bed, feeling as one does after a long
afternoon spent with a garrulous and deaf old lady. Finally the wretch
came back to me, fiddled with the books at my side, criticised them all,
gave me a list of those he had read during the past forty years, and then
got as far as the door.
“Now keep quiet,” he remarked, looking down his nose at me with a
judicial air, “don’t have people in here chattering.”
Ill as I was, I could not take this lying down. I sat up and croaked, “What
about you?”
“Oh, I’ll come round to-morrow morning,” he replied, unscathed by my
sarcasm.
When James came home I said I was a little better and would get up.
“What did you think of Smithson?” he asked. “I am told he is a clever
chap.”
“He’s a first-rate musician,” I said.
“What?”
“And Alpine climber.”
“How the deuce do you know?” asked James.
“He has been up the Markhorn, the Rotterham, the Bungleberg, the
Sloshwald, all over Borenpest range; then in Wales, the Greater and
smaller Bosh, the Gwaddear, the——”
James felt my pulse and passed his hand over my forehead.
“I wonder if I had better ask him to come round this evening?” he
suggested.
“No,” I said, “don’t do that; in fact I was going to ask you to ring up and
say I am so much better, that I think he had better not call to-morrow. He
is fearfully busy, and if I am as well as this I want to go into town and
get some soap—and a hatchet——”
James thought me extremely silly, and said the man was a deuced clever
chap. I bided my time and had my reward later.
James got a bad chill, and I sent at once for Dr. Smithson. I provided him
with a bag of the ordinary Castile soap, four thick towels, and my
clinical thermometer, and left the room.
From the study downstairs I could hear the gentle monotonous flow of
sound, and the hands of the clock moved peacefully on. Presently the
stream of sound became fuller as it was joined by another and more
familiar current. There was a prolonged duet. I thought of the Zonophone
Opera Company in the last part of “Home to our Mountains”; the clock
struck another hour, and I heard the door open. The first single stream of
sound flowed down the stairs alone, and died away as the front door
banged. I left James five minutes to get his breath, and then I went up.
“Well, dear,” I said, “I hope he is going to do you good. I suppose he
does not want you to have many visitors, no talking——”
“The man’s a damn fool!” said James. “I couldn’t get a word in
edgewise.”
“Did he take your temperature?” I asked.
“Yes,” replied James. “I wanted to put the thing under my arm—it’s the
proper way to take a temperature—but he stuck it in my mouth and left it
there an hour while he talked.”
“Did he? Then how did you manage to tell him what the treatment ought
to be?”
“I told him what he didn’t seem to know—that in cases of inflammation
what you want to do is——”
“To set up counter-irritation. I know. And so you each talked one against
——”
“I want some soup,” interrupted James.
“Did you say soup or soap?” I asked.
“Soup, and as hot as possible.”
“Did he say you were to have hot things?”
“No; but it is obviously the thing to do.”
I turned, just as I was leaving the room, to say: “By the way, that’s a nice
little water-colour sketch; do you——”
A leather slipper whizzed past my head and struck the door.
We have been in many parts of the world since then, and I have come
across a great number of doctors. Many of them are amongst the dearest
creatures on earth, but, like all our other loved ones, they have their little
ways. Clara was ill once, and Dr. Smithson’s partner came. He explained
everything to me with the greatest care.
“What I should get, Mrs. Molyneux, if I were you,” he said with great
emphasis, “is a piece of bread. Get your cook to give you some nice
bread, not new you know, stale—stale bread a couple of days old—and
steep it in a little milk. Heat the milk (you have a saucepan I expect?
that’s capital!)—get a nice saucepan, then, and I should wash it first—get
it washed for you—your maid can do that—get it well washed with soap
and hot water, that’s right, wash it, and then pour the milk in. You have
the milk, say, in a jug—a china jug—quite so—no doubt it stands in the
larder, precisely—well, you get your cook to give you that jug of milk,
and pour a little into the saucepan and heat it; I shouldn’t boil it—no, I
shouldn’t indeed. I should heat it and pour it very gently on the bread.
Cut the bread, you know—get a knife and cut it; don’t crumb it—that
would be too small—cut it into nice pieces and pour the milk over it—
you’ll find the girl will do capitally on it.”
We all hear from doctors about the tendency of women to be faddy about
their health. The truth of the matter is that every one likes to feel that
something about them is of importance to some one, and not only to
some one in their own family, but to the outside world. I used to feel that
James was an interesting personality to many people; he expounded his
views to them, his remarks were received with sympathy, and he got a
great deal of patting on the back. I didn’t. Clara and Ruth thought me an
eccentric, amiable creature of another breed from themselves, a sort of
finish to the house in a way, an ultimate cat on whom to lay
responsibility for failure and domestic sin; but they were not interested in
me. My women friends were more interested in my habits than in my
personal psychology; James was mainly interested in my interest in him.
It was sometimes a sore temptation to have a disease, something that
would make at least three men shake their heads and wonder what I was
doing. They would find out then what an exceptional character I had—
what courage, what wit under trying circumstances, what intelligence in
household management (the vacant chair, the cold bacon, that would
bring it all home to them). James would hurry home in the evening and
read letters to me from people who were all interested; he would chat—
not quite so long as I wanted, so that I could have the pleasant qualm of
missing him—then he would be dispatched downstairs to horrid
discomfort where his darling was not, and I should not have to change
into a cold evening dress. At last I should fall asleep, comfortable, warm,
and washed, knowing that I need not get up next morning and slave and
worry in unrecognised monotony. Can anyone wonder that we do it?
But anyone will do as well as a doctor; a clergyman or a lover if they
will take an interest in one’s soul. I believe that a chiropodist who was
really concerned for one’s toes would fill a long-felt want. It is a curious
fact that no one goes to a lawyer for sympathy, and yet why we suppose
that abnormalities in our liver will make us interesting in the eyes of a
doctor to whom livers are no treat, while we neglect our lawyers who
will investigate disorders in our conduct for the moderate sum of six-
and-eightpence, must remain a mystery.
Suppose that one of us went to a solicitor’s office and said: “Do you
know, such a queer thing has happened to me! I went and burgled a poor
old gentleman the other day—stole his watch and a lot of valuable plate
—and outside I met a policeman, whom I drugged with chloroform on a
handkerchief.” One imagines the solicitor gravely investigating the
matter, finding no old gentleman, no watch, no stolen plate, and no
policeman. He charges the usual fee, puts a pair of handcuffs on the lady,
and tells her to come back in a fortnight and have them altered.
A doctor whom I love very much once made this startling remark to me:
“You lead a very nice life for a lady.”
The words brought to my mind such pictures as I have never forgotten.
Such vistas of flat, dull landscape stretched before me; such dead seas of
sensible conversation; such mountains made of interminable molehills;
such continents of golf links and tennis lawns. All the shores were