Managing Your Anxiety - Mental Health Workbook - Fall 2020
Managing Your Anxiety - Mental Health Workbook - Fall 2020
While Queen’s students are our intended audience, we hope this resource will be shared with
anyone who may benefit from its use.
Developed by:
Mary Acreman, PhD Candidate; Jenn Bossio, PhD Candidate;
Carole-Anne Vatcher, MSW, RSW; Freeman Woolnough, MEd, CCC;
Purpose of this Workbook
The purpose of this workbook is to improve the skills you use to manage your anxiety and general
functioning. It is important to note that anxiety can vary significantly in intensity and duration.
The workbook is designed as a useful guide to managing anxiety of varying intensity, but is not
intended to replace professional treatment where this is required.
The workbook is NOT intended as a sole resource for anyone experiencing significant
symptoms of anxiety. If you believe you may meet the criteria for a clinical anxiety disorder,
we strongly urge you to seek professional assistance.
The workbook is NOT a replacement for professional treatment. Please call Health, Counselling
and Accessibility services to arrange an appointment with a counsellor or family physician if
needed.
The workbook is based on empirically validated research and clinical experience related to the
effective treatment of mild to moderate anxiety. The book may be used alone when symptoms
are mild, or as an aid to treatment with a mental health professional.
1
Understanding Your Anxiety
Introduction
Sometimes life can be stressful – that is especially true for anyone in university. When stress gets the
better of us we can start to see it impact us in many realms of our life: school, family, friends, our health
and happiness. The purpose of this workbook is to help guide you through the challenges of dealing with
stress. Along the way, we will talk about what anxiety is, how it can be a positive thing, and when to
recognize that it is becoming too big for us to handle. We also include many helpful tools and
worksheets that you can learn how to use in order to manage your anxiety.
Remember, this workbook is intended to help reduce your anxiety, not become yet another thing on
your to-do list. With some persistence and dedication, you can learn to take control of your anxiety and
make it work for you instead of against you. Let’s get started!
Throughout this workbook, we will be using central concepts and strategies adapted from Cognitive
Behavioural Therapy (CBT). CBT is a short-term therapy that has been shown to be very effective in the
treatment of anxiety. One of the central concepts underlying the practice of CBT is the inter-relationship
between our thoughts, physical state, behaviour, and mood, in response to our situation or
environment.
Situation
Thoughts
Mood Behaviour
Physical
State
As you can see from the illustration above, our ability to function is influenced by these five factors. All
of these factors have an impact on one another; a change in one area will often produce change in
another.
To illustrate, let’s use the example of someone preparing to write an exam (situation). This could lead to
a number of different thoughts, such as “I don’t know the material” or “I’m going to fail”. Thinking these
thoughts, we might imagine that this student would become anxious (mood). Being anxious might lead
to unpleasant physical symptoms such as a nervous stomach or heart racing. The physical sensations
might then lead to more anxious thoughts, such as “If I’m anxious I won’t be able to focus when writing
my exam”. The thoughts and the physical sensations might then lead this student to get up and surf the
Internet for two hours (behaviour) in an effort to reduce their anxiety (mood).
Everyone’s pattern of how these five factors relate might be different, but if you look closely you’ll see
that these factors do indeed intertwine in your life as well. By using interventions that target each of the
five factors, you can develop healthy coping strategies that will reduce your anxiety and improve your
overall functioning. Throughout this workbook you’ll find strategies that will help you to intervene and
reduce your own anxiety in all of these five key areas.
Understanding Anxiety
Let’s talk a little bit about what anxiety is and where it comes from.
First, it’s important to understand that anxiety is a built-in human evolutionary survival mechanism. Just
like all animals have evolved some kind of built-in biological survival mechanism to help protect them
from predators, anxiety is our built-in response system for responding to physical danger. Our earliest
ancestors survived because they experienced anxiety–also called the fight-or-flight response—in the
face of a physical threat, which helped to mobilize them both mentally and physically to either stay and
fight a predator, or to flee to safety by running. In this way we are physiologically hardwired to be on
high alert in the face of danger. The fight-or-flight response immediately triggers multiple complex
changes in our bodies and minds that stomp on the gas pedal and take action in the face of danger. In
other words—from a survival perspective—anxiety is a good thing! The chart below describes the
changes that occur in our bodies when in fight-or-flight mode. Which of these do you experience when
you are feeling anxious?
Digestive system slows Loss of appetite, nausea, or in Energy from digestive system is
certain cases get cravings for directed toward maintaining
‘quick’ food (fats/sugars) other protective responses
The above table highlights many of the physiological changes (changes in the body) that happen as a
result of anxiety. To add a bit more context, you can think of each person as having a gas pedal and a
brake pedal for our stress. The gas pedal is what we call the sympathetic nervous system. This is what
kicks the fight-or-flight response into gear, and once that gas pedal has been pressed and the fight-or-
flight response has momentum, the only way to stop it is by hitting the brake pedal. That brake pedal is
known as the parasympathetic nervous system. Once we hit this brake pedal, it sends a signal from our
brain down the vagus nerve—a big long nerve that runs throughout our body and branches into all of
the body parts typically effected by stress (e.g., lungs, heart, GI tract). This nerve tells our brain to stop
searching for danger, it tells our heartbeat to slow down, our muscles to relax, and our GI track to
resume its regularly scheduled programming. You can learn to train your brake pedal to activate using a
number of different tools, which we will discuss soon.
In modern times, most of us rarely see physical threats to our lives anymore (except in exceptional
circumstances). Rather, we tend to experience anxiety at differing levels of intensity in response to life
stressors, or to perceived threats to our social survival, such as the fear of not getting a job, doing poorly
on an exam, or losing someone close to us. It is crucial to remember throughout this workbook that
anxiety is a normal human response to a stressor or perceived threat for which we are biologically
hardwired. We all experience anxiety at different times. It’s not desirable or even possible to eliminate
anxiety entirely.
The difficulty with anxiety in modern times, however, is that we get ‘stuck’ with our foot on the gas (as
though we are being threatened by a predator) and can’t let go. Over time, this can begin to impede
your ability to function in your life academically or personally. It can also lead you to experience ongoing
distress, reduce your ability to enjoy your life, and eventually can lead to symptoms of exhaustion and
burnout, which can further reduce your ability to function. While small amounts of anxiety in short
bursts can actually be beneficial (such bursts can help energize you to focus and be mentally sharp, for
Managing Your Anxiety - Page 5
Chapter 1 – Understanding Your Anxiety
example, when writing an exam or preparing an assignment under a tight deadline), we were not built
to withstand prolonged exposure to the fight-or-flight response, and long periods of moderate to high
anxiety take their toll.
Some of us are more prone to anxiety and worry than others. Regardless of your predisposition to
anxiety, it is certain that we live in a society that breeds stress. This is especially true in university where
the pressure for high grades, many extracurriculars, and trying to find a job after graduation are
omnipresent. At the same time stress does not end at graduation; learning anxiety management skills
now can be enormously beneficial for you in your life as you go forward. If you experience a great deal
of anxiety or stress, this workbook provides techniques and strategies that can help you to self-soothe,
calm, moderate, and reduce your anxiety to a more manageable level.
2
BASIC ANXIETY MANAGEMENT
SKILLS
In this section, we discuss some Basic Anxiety Management Skills. You can think of each skill as a tool
that you need to develop in order to help manage your anxiety. It`s important to remember that these
skills work like any other skill set; in order to get the most out of these tools you need to practice them.
Do you know how to drive a car? Think about learning how to drive. When you first get behind the
wheel of a car there are so many things to keep in mind: the steering wheel, a whole bunch of mirrors,
the back window, signals, traffic around you, try not to mix up the gas and the brake pedal! It’s very
difficult to keep all of these different things in your working memory at once. Everything is very
mechanical and forced and you need to put in a lot of effort to juggle all of these things in your working
memory at one time in order to drive safely.
Now think about driving after practicing for a long time. You can get from point A to point B without
even thinking about it. It becomes much easier because the skill set of driving moves from your working
memory (which is very limited!) to your long-term memory (which is very vast!). It becomes automatic.
Learning Basic Anxiety Management Skills follows the same principle; in the beginning, these skills are
awkward and difficult and may not seem all that helpful. In fact, some people may worry whether or not
they are doing the basic skills right or they may get anxious if they don’t feel instantly better. That’s all
normal; it’s a skill in development. But in time it gets easier, more automatic, and more effective.
In a similar vein, we don’t learn how to drive on the highway! We learn on the back roads or in parking
lots. We learn where there are less distractions from juggling all the parts of this new skill in our working
memory. If we only practice our Basic Skills when we really need them—like in the middle of a panic
attack, for example—we are basically learning how to drive in the fast lane of the highway… and that
isn’t the best way to make the most of this skill set.
Keep in mind that many of the techniques found in this book may seem fairly simple, so it`s tempting to
try them out and then not use them again until we absolutely need them. But to our brain, we are
adding an unfamiliar element to an already stressful situation, and our bodies do not like unfamiliar
situations! Therefore, it is important to practice the following Basic Skills when your stress isn’t at its
highest (when you’re on “the back roads” instead of on “the highway”), and to maintain a consistent
practice in order to make these skills more automatic and more effective. Practicing during “down
times”, or when our body is not at a high level of stress, helps make the techniques routine, and will
have a greater effect on decreasing the anxiety reaction when you actually need it!
Self Care/SPEMS
You may have heard of the term Self Care before. People talk about the concept of Self Care in a variety
of ways: taking some ‘me time’, hanging out with friends, getting outside for a bit. When dealing with
anxiety, however, it is important to unpack the idea of Self Care a bit more.
Self Care underlies healthy living in general, and it is particularly relevant for your mental health. For this
reason, we’ve put this section before all other Basic Skills—ideally, you should check-in with your
current Self Care and establish new, healthy Self Care habits before attempting any other Basic Skills.
You won’t become a world-class skater without first buying a pair of skates—and you wouldn’t get to be
very good if those skates were made of wood! Similarly, the Basic Skills and other techniques found in
this workbook require a solid foundation; in this case the bedrock of anxiety management is Self Care.
Within this workbook we divide Self Care into five domains. These domains can be thought of as buckets
that need filling. We are at our best when our buckets are full, or nearly full, but it takes work to keep
them that way. When we are feeling low, or our anxiety is high, it may be because our buckets are low
or—in some cases—empty. It’s important to look at all five buckets; it’s typical to lose sight of one or
two of the buckets every once in a while, and these are often the ones that need filling the most!
Self Care is unique to the individual. We can fill our buckets in many different ways. Because there are
so many ways to fill each bucket, something that works well for one person may not work well for
another. Many people find it easier to think about each bucket as having different ‘taps’ that are able to
fill it—maybe it’s a hot water tap, maybe it’s a cold water tap—but the crucial thing is that the bucket is
getting filled, and with a fuller bucket you are more able to enjoy parts of your life. For example, if your
friend’s social bucket is low, they may need to hang out with other people a bit more in order to fill it
(let`s call this using the `hot water` tap). But maybe when your social bucket is low, you find it gets filled
better by getting away from social situations and giving yourself some time alone (the `cold water` tap).
Even though this may seem contradictory, remember that it is what works for you that counts. As you
read through this section, think about how your buckets have been filled in the past and how are
currently being filled (or not filled, as the case may be).Use the spaces provided to reflect on what you
currently do to fill your buckets and how effective those practices are for you. You can also find this
information in Worksheet 2.1 SPEMS: How Do You Fill Your Bucket, in Appendix B.
Below, we’ve listed the five different domains of Self Care and some ideas for how you can fill them.
Note that we’ve listed two possible ‘taps’ for each of the buckets below, but you are not limited to two;
feel free to get creative! These five domains include: social, physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.
Together, they create the acronym SPEMS. Acronyms generally make things easier to remember;
however, this particular acronym is particularly appropriate because the word ‘spem’ is Latin for ‘hope’!
This is fantastic, as SPEMS—and Self Care in general—is meant to give you hope for a better future!
2. How can I disconnect when social interactions are getting too much?
Examples: Turning off your phone for an hour, going for a walk, going for coffee with yourself.
2. How can I give myself ‘me time’, and recognize that what I want matters?
Examples: Eating ice cream just because, watching TV, saying no to other people, making time for
solitude and quiet reflection.
Deep Breathing
Deep breathing, diaphragmatic breathing, or box breathing are all commonly-used names for this tool in
our Anxiety Management Workbook. This tool may not be new to you, however, we hope that this
workbook will help you understand why deep breathing can be helpful for you, and how to use it to
maximize its effectiveness. The purpose of this exercise is to hit the brake pedal on stress, or activate
the parasympathetic nervous system to calm our body’s fight-or-flight response. Let’s start by discussing
how to use deep breathing as an anxiety management tool.
2. Find a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Turn off your phone and, if you have housemates,
put a sign on your door so you can have some uninterrupted time for yourself.
3. Start out by simply bringing your attention to your breathing. Place one hand on your abdomen, and one
hand on your chest. When we are anxious, our breathing tends to be quick and shallow. If you are
engaging in shallow breathing, the hand on your chest is the one more likely to be moving up and down.
Notice which hand is moving, and how fast it is moving.
Getting Started:
4. Begin by taking a slow, easy, mindful breath in, through your nose, gently pulling the air deep down into
your abdomen. You should feel your abdomen rise with this inhalation and your chest should only move
a little. Inhale for a count of 5.
6. Slowly exhale, making sure to keep your mouth, jaw, and tongue relaxed. Exhale for a count of 5-7.
Notice which hand is moving (the one on your chest, or your abdomen?). As all of the air is released with
exhalation, gently contract your abdominal muscles to completely empty your lungs of all air. It is
important to remember that we deepen our breath by completely emptying our lungs on an exhale, not
by filling them with more air on an inhale.
7. Repeat.
Alternatively, you can also practice “rectangle” breathing, if you wish to hold your breath for shorter
periods of time. For example, the imaginary edges of the inhale and exhale may be 5 units long, but the
imaginary edges—where you hold your breath—may only be 2 or 3 units long (hence, “rectangle”
breathing).
Note that, sometimes, individuals practicing deep breathing may start to feel lightheaded. This sensation
simply means that your brain is getting more oxygen than it needs; absolutely nothing bad can come
from this! Some people fear that the lightheadedness means that they are going to faint, but fainting is
the result of the brain getting too little oxygen, not too much. If this happens to you, simply take a break
from the exercise and breathe normally for a few minutes; the lightheaded feeling will pass. When you
restart the exercise, just take it slow and easy. You can also try to leave a pause between breaths, or try
not to breathe quite as deeply.
With time, deep breathing becomes more effective, and its effects are noticeable more quickly (that is,
it takes less times for your brake pedal to fully reach the floor). So after a few weeks of practice, you can
start to feel the calming response of deep breathing with as little as one to three deep breaths. This is a
great tool to use when you don’t have time to take 10 minutes to breathe, but need something quick or
something in the moment to help reduce stress. It’s a great tool; no equipment or assembly required,
you can do it anywhere at any time and no one will even notice!
Mindfulness
Mindfulness is non-judgmental, purposeful attention to the present moment. This may seem simple
enough, but take a moment to reflect on how often you find yourself doing some sort of mundane
activity—like having a shower or walking to class—where you realize that you are “on autopilot”, “a
million miles away”, “off in space”, or just not really paying attention to what you’re doing. The
countless idioms to describe our state of mind when we are not present in the moment perhaps reflect
how often we engage in this behavior (whether we’re aware of it or not). Mindfulness is the exact
opposite of this; it is the act of staying present in the moment. In other words, mindfulness is the act of
keeping your mind here, in the present, instead of letting it wander.
Mindfulness is an important tool for anxiety management (and mental health, in general) because it
teaches us to observe our thoughts. Thoughts are critical in anxiety (see Five Part Model, Page 2); they
happen all of the time and are difficult to control. Mindfulness works by allowing us to view our
thoughts in a more objective, or non-judgmental way. Mindfully noticing our thoughts can be looked at
as the first step in recognizing the connection between our thoughts and our feelings or our behaviors,
and also as a way to minimize the impact of negative emotions attached to harmful or anxious thoughts.
Mindfulness is in no way a new concept. Mindfulness originates from Buddhist meditative practices. Its
conception dates back thousands of years; however, mindfulness is not necessarily religious or spiritual
in its nature. Recently, mindfulness has been incorporated into Western medicine practices as an
effective tool for improving mental health. This movement was largely the result of Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, a
former molecular biologist from MIT, who sparked interest in the medical applications of this practice.
As a result, the past few decades have produced a vast amount of scientific research demonstrating the
effectiveness of mindfulness as a treatment for the management of anxiety, depression, pain, and even
sexual dysfunction. This isn’t a “magic cure-all”, but instead, we are starting to learn that mindfulness
improves people’s mental health by providing people a tool to manage their thoughts, which, as you
know, play a key role in anxiety. Even brain-imaging studies have been used to show that people who
undergo short-term mindfulness training programs experience increases in brain matter, more
activation in the brain region associated with positive affect, and improved immune functioning. That is,
only now is science starting to acknowledge what the Buddhist monks knew all along: mindfulness can
help improve our thinking, our mood, and our overall health!
So how does mindfulness work? The neurons in our brains are constantly firing, which means that our
minds are constantly thinking. How do you just “turn it off?” The answer is: you don’t. Instead, you learn
to simply observe the thoughts as they happen, observe any feelings that may be attached to those
thoughts, and then actively bring your attention back to the present. To illustrate: Imagine that it is a
beautiful summer day and you are lying in the soft grass on top of a hill watching the clouds go by. Each
thought that you have is like a passing cloud. You watch it as it passes, but you don’t get caught up in all
of the intricate details of the cloud, or get swept away by whatever feelings come to mind when you see
that cloud. Instead, you simply notice the cloud and allow it to pass as you continue to stare into the sky.
More clouds will come, and that’s ok. You simply acknowledge them, and let them pass gently by.
There are many different mindfulness exercises. You will need to find what practice works best for you.
In the beginning, staying present in the moment can be a difficult task, especially if you are someone
who tends to have lots of anxious (worrying) thoughts! Below, we outline three simple mindfulness
techniques. Get a feel for which is right for you, and remember that there are many other alterative
mindfulness exercises out there.
2. Set aside 15-30 minutes. Set an alarm to go off after the decided amount of time so you don’t
have to worry about the time while you are practicing your mindfulness.
3. Decide whether you would like your eyes open or closed. Some people prefer their eyes closed
in order to reduce distractions. Others prefer to keep their eyes open; if this is you, simply focus
on a spot a little distance in front of your nose.
Getting Started
4. Pick a point of focus. This could be anything, for example a short saying or mantra (e.g., “I am
good”; “I am enough”; “everything is ok”), or your breath. Breath is a very common point of
focus in mindfulness because it is constant, rhythmic, and it is always present.
5. Slowly ease yourself into your practice. Spend about one minute simply brining awareness to
yourself, giving your mind the opportunity to settle in to its practice. What sensations do you
notice in your body? Do you have the urge to fidget? Is there anything around or within you that
is calling your attention to it? Simply notice these things without attaching any labels or values
to them.
6. Bring your attention to your point of focus. Actively bring you attention to your point of focus
with the intention of keeping yourself in the present moment. That is, if your breath is your
point of focus, simply pay attention to the sensation of air moving in through your nostrils,
down your throat, notice as the air fills your lungs and as your chest and belly expand. Don’t do
anything to change your breath, simply sit with it. Notice when you mind begins to wander and
simply bring your attention back to your point of focus when this happens.
7. Bring your attention back to your point of focus. Know that your mind will wander. Simply
recognize when this happens and try to use non-judgment to bring your attention back to your
point of focus. Try to observe your thoughts with a passive curiosity, but do not get caught up in
the emotions that may be attached to those thoughts. Bring your focus back to your point of
focus. Thoughts will come and that is ok. Simply acknowledge where you mind has wandered
each time, and bring your focus back each time.
8. Bring your attention back to your point of focus some more. In the beginning it may feel like
you are doing this a lot. That’s ok. Our mind is used to jumping all over the place; this is
especially true for people who tend to be anxious. This is why we call it a mindfulness practice. It
takes time to develop the skill.
Option 2: Grounding
In this option, you will use your five senses to bring yourself into the present moment and sustain this
mindful presence.
2. Again, you will slowly ease yourself into the practice by taking one or two minutes to notice any
sensations and begin to calm your mind. Start to bring your focus into the present moment.
Recognize where your mind is and bring it back to the present if you find it is wandering.
Getting Started
3. You will begin with your sense of sight. Take note of five things that you can see around you.
Spend a moment really noticing each of the five things that you see. What colour is each object?
What texture does it have? How is the light hitting it? Is it moving or stationary? Acknowledge
each sensation with passive acceptance.
4. Next, take note of five things that you can hear around you. Feel free to close your eyes if this
will help you be more present with each sound. Notice what you notice about each sound. Is the
sound loud? Is it pleasant or unpleasant? What quality does the sound have? Sit with each
sensation for a moment, just noticing them.
5. Now take note of five things that you can feel, just where you are. Perhaps you can feel your
body resting on a chair or pillow? Is there a breeze where you are? What is the temperature
like? Are there any internal sensations, from inside of your body that you can notice? Just be
aware of these sensations, as you sit with each sensation in turn.
6. Finally, notice five things that you can smell and/or taste. Is this sensation strong or subtle?
Pleasant or unpleasant or neutral? Simply notice and sit with each sensation before you move
onto the next one.
2. Begin the activity you have planned. Allow yourself a minute or two to ease yourself into your
practice. Simply observe what you notice about your experience in the present moment. Are
there any internal sensations that you are having? Are there any external sensations? Where is
your mind? Notice where your thoughts are, acknowledge this, and begin to actively bring them
back to the present moment.
Getting Started
3. Bring your attention to what you are doing in the present moment. For example, if you have
chosen to walk, bring your attention to all of the physical sensations of walking. Notice as you
lift one foot in the air and feel each muscle and tendon as you swing that leg forward. Bring your
attention to the pad of your foot as it touches down on the ground. What part of your foot
touches the ground first? What does the sensation of the weight of your body feel like coming
down on your foot? On your leg? On your hip? What is happening to the other foot? At what
point does the heel of your other foot come off the ground? What is happening to your hands
and your arms? What does the contrast feel like between the left and the right side of your body
at any given moment?
4. As you keep your attention on the physical sensations of the activity of your choice, remember
to notice where your thoughts are. When you thoughts move away from the present moment—
and they will—acknowledge this and simply bring them back to the moment. Notice if emotions
are attached to those thoughts, but do not get engaged in those feelings; simply notice them as
if you would notice clouds in the sky and gently bring your focus back to your activity and the
present moment.
That brings us to the next thought; practice! Remember that mindfulness is not an easy skill to master,
and that is ok! In the beginning, you will find that you are constantly bringing your thoughts back to the
present moment. Sometimes, it may feel as if you spend most of your practice bringing your thoughts to
the present and very little time in the present at all! Other times, you may not even realize that your
thoughts have wandered until it’s been a few minutes. This is all part of the practice of mindfulness.
With time, it will get easier and it will become more effective.
Mindfulness is a tool that can be done anywhere, for any amount of time. We highly recommend setting
up a daily mindfulness practice for at least 15-30 minutes once a day, but the more your practice the
more benefit you will receive from this tool. Reminding yourself to be present at regular intervals
throughout the day can help, too. Putting your phone away for chunks of time during the day is one
great way to help. When you set up your practice, make it a part of your routine, like brushing your
teeth, and resolve to practice mindfulness even (especially) when you don’t feel like it. This is not a skill
that you “need to be in the mood” for. In fact, some of your most effective mindfulness practice will
likely be done when you “didn’t really feel like it”.
Take a moment in the space below to develop a plan for working a regular mindfulness practice into
your daily routine. Remember to be specific with your plan. Finding a way to piggyback your mindfulness
practice onto pre-existing routines can be very helpful (e.g., I will practice mindfulness when I wash the
dishes after dinner, or when I walk to class).
Although high muscle tension is a perfect mechanism for escaping danger, what happens when there is
no immediate threat? Well, why don’t you try it out. Make a tight first with your hand, as tight as you
can. Now tense up your wrist really tightly and bend it in towards your biceps, now bend in your biceps
until your entire arm is as tense as you can possibly make it. Now hold and squeeze as hard as you can
while you count to 10! Squeeze! Squeeze! Squeeze! Tight! Tight! Tight!
Now let go. Let your arm drop loosely to your side. Let all the tension melt away. Ahhh…
So what just happened? When you are anxious for long periods of time, your body is going through the
same thing that your arm just went through; holding onto all of that muscle tension requires a lot of
energy. Holding onto muscle tension throughout your body for the entire day is… well, exhausting.
Highly anxious people tend to feel completely drained by the end of the day, but are unable to explain
why. High muscle tension resulting from sympathetic nervous system activation is a good guess as to
why that is; it’s like running a marathon, even while you’re sitting in your seat!
PMR works to promote relaxation by letting the tension out of the muscles. Similar to deep breathing,
this sends a message through the vagus nerve, which runs throughout the body, to calm down and this,
in turn, activates the parasympathetic nervous system, or the brake pedal of stress. Typically, PMR is
practiced for a minimum of 15 minutes; however, we also include a shorter alternative in this chapter to
use if anxiety strikes you in the moment. Follow the directions below to practice:
2. Get comfortable. Ideally, you want to be seated in a comfortable chair that can support your
legs, arms, head, and neck. It is also possible to practice PMR when you are lying down, but
make sure that you are not practicing in your bed (according to rules of sleep hygiene, your bed
is only for sleeping! Using it to practice PMR may actually disrupt your sleep schedule). If you
choose to practice PRM lying down, try not to do it at a time or place where sleep would come
easily; you don’t want to sleep through this important tool!
3. Set a timer. If you are going through the exercise without an audio recording (i.e., running
through the steps in your mind), make sure to set an alarm in order to remove the need to
worry about keeping track of time. If you are really prone to worrying, set two alarms!
Getting Started
4. Tensing. In order to truly relax each muscle group, you will first need to tense it as hard as you
can. This is so that your body can recognize the contrast between tense and relaxed muscles.
You will go in order from the tip of your toes to the top of your head (see page 29 for a full list of
the muscle groups to focus on in your PMR exercise). Make sure that you are isolating your
tension to only one muscle group at a time; don’t let the tension seep into another muscle
group. For example, if you are tensing your chest, make sure that your shoulders are not
creeping up to your ears. Watch that your jaw is not tensing with other muscle groups, as well (it
has a tendency to do that!).
As you tense each muscle group, focus on all of the sensations your body creates. Tease apart all
of the feelings. Does it feel warm? Cold? Does the muscle feel strong? Is the muscle shaking?
What values do you place on these feelings? Does it feel pleasant or not so nice? Stay with all of
the feelings. Remember to squeeze as hard as you can for the entire time you are tensing the
muscle group, but not so hard that it causes serious pain or injury. Continue to hold the tension
for about 10 seconds.
5. Relaxing. Once you are done tensing, completely let go of all tension. Let that body part drop
back down or feel that body part sink deeper into the chair/couch/floor that it’s resting on.
Imagine that all of the tension is flowing out of that muscle group like water (e.g., picture the
tension dripping from your fingertips, or flowing down your legs to the floor). Focus on the new
sensations that your body creates as the tension seeps out of that muscle group. See if you can
contrast the feelings of relaxation with the sensations you experienced when the muscles were
tense. What temperature is the muscle group now? What values would you place on the
feelings now? Continue to release all tension for about 15 seconds (longer than the time you
tensed it).
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6. Repeat. Follow the same format for each muscle group in order from your toes to your head.
Use the list below, and tense each muscle group one at a time. Remember to keep the tension
isolated just to a single muscle group.
7. Final check. Once you’ve gone through flexing and relaxing all of the muscle groups, scan your
body one last time. Is there any area that is still holding tension? If so, repeat the tensing and
relaxing procedure a final time on those muscle groups. Once all of your body is feeling relaxed,
take the remainder of your 15-30 minutes to sit with this sensation of full-body relaxation. Note
if tension starts to creep into any muscle group and repeat the tense/relax procedures.
Otherwise, sit with the feeling of relaxation. Be as present in your body as you can be. Enjoy.
2. Calves (lower legs). Flex your toes and ankle upward, as if you are trying to reach your calves
with the tip of your toes.
3. Thighs (upper legs). Squeeze the muscles in your thighs as tightly as you can.
4. Glutes (buttocks). Pull your glute muscles towards each other. You should notice you are rising
in your seat.
5. Lower back. Arch your back by tilting your pelvis forward, focusing on your low back. Note that
this step should be skipped if you have chronic low back pain.
6. Stomach. Suck your stomach in; try to pull your bellybutton back to touch your spine.
7. Chest. Take a big, deep breath into your chest; puff out your ribs.
8. Shoulders. Pull your shoulders up and back; try to touch your ears with your shoulders without
moving your neck.
9. Biceps (upper arm). Draw your fists up towards your shoulders, bending at the elbow. Squeeze
the muscles in your biceps as tightly as you can.
10. Triceps (lower arm). Stretch your arms out and lock your elbows; reach your triceps up to the
ceiling without moving your arms up.
11. Wrist and hands. Tighten your hands into a tight fist; draw your wrist up and back as if you’re
trying to touch your wrist with your knuckles.
12. Neck. Push your head into whatever your head is laying on as hard as you can. Note that this
step should be skipped if you have chronic neck pain.
13. Jaw. Open your mouth as wide as you can, stretching your jaw out as much as you can.
14. Face. Scrunch your face up as tightly as you can. Purse your lips, scrunch up your nose, close
your eyes as hard as you can, and scrunch down your eyebrows as far as they will go.
Wherever you are, simply pick the muscle group that you would like to focus on. Tense that group as
much as you can without causing pain and hold for 5-10 seconds. Then release all of the muscle tension
for 10-15 seconds (remember to spend more time relaxing it than flexing it). Focus on the sensations in
that part of your body and try to contrast the feeling of tension compared to relaxation.
With some practice, you will start to recognize certain body parts that you tend to tense more. For
example, common points of tension tend to be the jaw (common cause of headaches) and the
shoulders. These tend to be good sites on which to practice PMG on the go.
If you think it would be easier to practice PMR with an audio-recording, as opposed to running through
the script in your head, there are many options. First, you can consider recording yourself or ask a friend
if you can record them reciting an adaptation of the script we provide. Alternatively, you can find many
guided Progressive Muscle Relaxation scripts online.
Worry Time
Everyone experiences worries at one point or another, but sometimes those worries can start to get in
the way of other things. Worrying can act like a chain reaction: one worrying thought pops up, which
tends to bring a different worrying thought, and that is attached to a number of additional worrying
thoughts. Worry tends to increase in response to two different situations: (1) When we have a particular
thing that is making us anxious (e.g., an upcoming exam); or (2) When our over-all anxiety is high.
Worrying maintains or increases our anxiety, and it can eat up a lot of time and energy.
Thoughts tend to come up as if they’re acting of their own accord. No one enjoys having worrying
thoughts, but we all have them on occasion. Worry Time is a tool that gives you permission to worry in a
controlled way, so that the worrying thoughts that pop up over the course of a day can be dealt with,
instead of allowing them to eat up more than their share of your precious time and energy. Here’s how
it works:
3. Set a timer for no more than 15 minutes. This is the time that you are allowed to worry for. You
don’t want to make that time too long, otherwise you may cross over from “worrying” to
“ruminating” (when the same negative thoughts just go round and round and round in your
head), which is not helpful!
Getting Started
4. Sit down with a pen and paper, or open up a new word processing document on your computer.
Once your timer starts, begin writing down all of your worries. Use this time to worry your heart
out! There is no worry too big or too small for Worry Time.
5. When the timer goes off, stop! Turn the paper over or take your hands away from the keyboard.
Some people do not like to hold onto their worries, so feel free to rip up that paper or close the
document without saving. That is it; the end of your Worry Time.
6. Try to immerse yourself in a different activity as soon as you can, in order to help prevent your
mind from continuing on the trail of some of those worrying thoughts.
7. Throughout the day, if a worrying thought comes up for you, take note. Tell yourself “ok, that is
something I will need to worry about in Worry Time tonight”. If it helps, you can even write that
thought down on a notepad or in your phone to remember for Worry Time.
Variation 1:
Instead of writing out your worries during Worry Time, you can talk them out. If you have a trusted
person who wouldn’t mind sitting with you and quietly listen to you vent, you can use them as a
sounding board. It’s not necessary for this person to provide feedback (in fact, this person should be
silent during your Worry Time). This is a chance for you to get your worries out, not work them out!
Alternatively, you can talk your worries out to yourself, if that would be easier for you.
Also, it is very important to leave your worries at Worry Time. This doesn’t mean that you can absolutely
stop thoughts from popping up during the day, but you can decide to limit the time you give these
thoughts. This is why it is a good idea to have another activity planned for immediately after Worry
Time; so you can move on from these thoughts. Additionally, consider using Mindfulness (page 18),
Time Management Skills (page 30) or Thought Records (page 36) for more directive ways of dealing with
worry outside of your Worry Time. This skill isn’t intended for you to avoid your worries outside of
Worry Time, it’s meant to teach you how to tolerate these worries, and stop them from taking up too
much of your valuable time.
Time Management
When we don’t have very effective time management strategies it can seem as if it’s impossible to fit in
the millions of assignments and readings that need to be finished before their due dates. Naturally, this
leads to an increase in stress and anxiety. Managing your time is a skill that—when done effectively—
can decrease the sensation of overwhelm by developing a strategy to manage the various tasks that
often build up day-to-day.
The use of a well thought out schedule decreases the amount of pressure for individual tasks, and
crossing items off the (do-able!) to-do list garners an incredible sense of achievement that can help to
counteract anxiety. By practicing and developing the skill of Time Management, you will be setting
yourself up for success in your studies. Properly navigating the time that you do have can increase your
productivity, which affords you more energy to devote to the tasks that you truly enjoy (and, in turn,
helps decrease overall levels of stress)! The wonderful part about learning Time Management skills is
that you will be able to use these skills throughout the rest of your life—in jobs, with family, and even in
relationships.
2. Prioritize
Write down everything that you have to do. Once this list is complete, take a look at all of the things that
need to get done. Note that seeing your entire to-do list on one page may increase your stress levels
slightly at first, but it will be worth it in the end! By writing a list of everything you have to do, it allows
you to plan the order to complete the tasks in a logical way that will most benefit you (i.e., prioritize!).
Typically, you will want to deal with the most urgent and important items first. Once these “big ticket”
items are completed, your stress should decrease, which makes it easier to complete the rest of your
list.
In order to help decide which task needs doing first, use the following table to break up which items are
urgent, which are important, and which are both (or neither). Items that are urgent and important
should be at the top of your list. Ideally, you are aiming to minimize the number of urgent tasks you
have, and mostly focus on important tasks. Typically, we define important as having at least one of the
following characteristics:
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1. It’s a challenge
2. Completing it will put you ahead in some way
3. You are the only person who can do it
Use the following table to prioritize your to-do list according to the important/urgent criteria. You can
also find this table in Appendix B (Worksheet 2.3 Time Management: Prioritizing Your To-Do List)
Remember that you have 168 hours every week–minus those hours during which you are sleeping, of
course. That’s still quite a bit of time, and sometimes seeing how much space there is can lessen the
overwhelm!
Using the blank schedule in Appendix B (Worksheet 2.2 Time Management: Scheduling Your Time); start
by filling in those items that you cannot change, for example lectures and fixed appointments. Take a
look at your schedule now and consider all of the free spaces you have! Fill in the rest of the schedule
according to your priorities. Don’t forget to include downtime/SPEMS, and time for a good night’s sleep.
Remember that it’s okay (and actually quite necessary) to have unplanned or white space, too.
• Is the timing that I’ve laid out appropriate? Am I better at doing certain tasks at certain times of
the day?
• If I was an employer, would I pay myself to do what I’m doing/want to do?
• Put things into perspective—what will the impact of my decision be five minutes from now? Five
hours? Five days? Five years?
If you are still having difficulties choosing between various priorities, have a look at the Decisional
Balance Tool, found on page 34 and in Appendix B (Worksheet 2.4 Decision Making: Decisional Balance
Sheet).
5. Ensure Accountability
Many people will get through the above steps, pat themselves on the back, walk away feeling great
about their Time Management skills… and never end up completing any of the plans that they set out to
do! This is because they may be lacking accountability. Accountability is something (or someone) that
will ensure you will actually complete the tasks that you have set out to do. Everybody is held
accountable in different ways. For some people, it is enough to have a to-do list, because those people
are able to stay accountable to themselves; however, these people are the exception, not the rule. Most
of us need something more. Maybe it’s having a friend or family member call and check in, or maybe it’s
setting up a game between classmates with challenges and rewards. How do you stay accountable?
6. Be Adaptable!
This is much easier said than done, but it is important to remember that no matter how much effort
we’ve put into planning and managing our time, unexpected things always come up. Remember: it’s
okay to change your schedule, even if the reason is outside of your control. If some things on your list
don’t get completed as a result of schedule changes, there is literally another 168 hours waiting for you
next week!
Some additional tips or strategies that students often find helpful in managing their time and becoming
motivated:
• If to-do lists don’t work for you, try making a ‘not-to-do’ list. Figure out what things you do that are
not helping (e.g., things you do to procrastinate), and tell yourself that you will not do them for a
certain period of time. For example, ‘I will not go on any social media sites from 6:00-8:00pm
tonight’.
• Try the five-minute rule. Starting on a task is often the most difficult part of the process, so rather
than looking at it as multiple hours of work, set a timer for just five minutes. Start the task and fully
devote yourself to working on the task for those five minutes. When the timer rings, give yourself
permission to stop. But if you are motivated to keep going, then continue! Remember, if you find
yourself not wanting to continue, that’s fine. At the very least, you still have completed five minutes’
worth of work!
• Try to find ways to build up motivation over the long-term. Often times, once we’ve started
working we can stay motivated for a while, but trying to get re-started after taking a break—
whether it be a few minutes or a few days—can be very challenging. If you are taking a short break,
try to keep your motivation going by stopping for your break five or ten minutes before you “run out
of steam”. If you work until you are completely out of steam every time, it will very difficult to get
back to work after a break. Alternatively, if you’re taking a longer break (e.g., you’re finishing up for
the night and plan to keep working in the morning), consider leaving yourself a “fun” or engaging
task to start up with after your long break. This way, you will be more motivated to start working
tomorrow compared to if you stopped right before a task you really don’t enjoy.
• Routine is very important—and helpful! Train your brain to know that certain times of the day are
study times, and other times are relaxation times. The more you can keep up a similar schedule, the
easier tasks become. Having a routine lets you go into “auto-pilot” mode, which takes away a lot of
the decision-making that anxious people find so difficult, and therefore frees up a lot of time and
valuable mental energy!
• Discover your “productivity helpers”. For those activities you must do yourself, find ways to be as
efficient as you can, that is, your “productivity helpers”. How can you take the pressure off of
yourself as much as possible? For example, create reusable templates for anything that you do
repeatedly, or write out study notes now so you have them ready during exam time. Your time is
your most valuable resource—don’t squander it.
Decision Making
Making decisions can be challenging for anybody, but anxiety can make it even more difficult. Anxiety
often comes in the form of the fear of the unknown. In order to minimize anxiety, it’s not uncommon to
try to plan for every possible outcome (see Chapter 3 on GAD, page 53). The problem is that planning for
all possible outcomes can be incredibly overwhelming, and often cripple our ability to make a decision.
Alternatively, it may just be easier to avoid the situation all together, and not make a decision at all.
Below is a tool to help evaluate your options in order to make a decision; it’s called a Decisional Balance
Tool. This tool can be used for big decisions (e.g., “What do I want to major in?”; “Should I take this part-
time job?”), or smaller decisions (“What do I want to eat for lunch?”; “Should I go out with friends
tonight, or stay in and study?”).
Example
Andria is in her second year of BioChem, and is very unhappy with her program so far. She is
considering changing into Philosophy, because she believes that she will enjoy it more, but she is
having a very difficult time making this decision. Andria uses a Decisional Balance Sheet to work
through this tough decision.
(1) Stay in BioChem • I’ve already spent 2 years in the • I do not enjoy the material
program • I find the material very difficult to
• …??? (nothing else) understand, and I am struggling
to keep up with the workload
• My levels of anxiety are very high
because I am struggling in the
program
• I am unhappy
• I have few friends in my program
(2) Switch into Philosophy • I will be doing something that I • My future job prospects may be
love less certain (but I can’t know for
• I will be happier and less stressed sure)
out • I may need to take an extra year
• In my philosophy elective, my to catch up on courses; financial
mark was very high and I expect I expenses
could maintain a high average in
the program
• I find writing easy, so I will likely
have less difficulty keeping up
with the workload
• I already have 3 friends in the
program
In the back of this workbook, you will find a handout with a full-sized Decisional Balance Sheet
(Appendix B, Worksheet 2.4 Decision Making: Decisional Balance Sheet). Use this handout to tackle a
decision that you are struggling with now. Write down all possible options first, and then take some time
to explore the benefits and costs of each option. At the bottom of the handout there is a space to write
the decision that you come to. Be sure to fill this out when you have completed the Decisional Balance
Sheet.
Thoughts pass through our minds all the time, including benign thoughts and more emotionally charged
thoughts. This is what our minds love to do—our minds love to be busy and to think things. This is part
of the benefit—and at times the liability—of being in possession of a higher order brain! Ideally, we
want to be able to take advantage of the amazing things our brains can do, while also being able to slow
and calm down our minds when they behave in ways that are unhelpful. Anxiety tends to ramp up the
speed of our thoughts and compel us to think increasingly worrisome, extreme, and frightening
thoughts. Getting pulled into this cycle is definitely unhelpful.
Recall that there is an evolutionary basis for anxiety. When our bodies, minds, and emotions get revved
into high gear, this is known as the fight-or-flight response, and it is a survival mechanism that was
useful early in human history when we needed to keep ourselves safe from predators. We needed to be
able to think quickly (which is why our minds often race when anxious), and accurately assess danger
(which is why our brains focus on all the bad things that can happen when we are feeling anxious).
When we think anxious thoughts, our bodies can’t differentiate between an actual physical threat in the
world (like a sabre-toothed tiger) or a non-physical threat (like worry about passing a course or getting a
job). Our bodies respond as though we are actually in physical danger. This is why anxiety is often
accompanied by emotional and physical symptoms. Our bodies and minds are hardwired to do this and
can handle this in short bursts. The problem with anxiety is that we get stuck in this high gear and can’t
get out, which in turn leads to emotional distress, and over time, exhaustion and burnout.
So what can you do to intervene with your anxious thoughts? Well, you can’t control what you think. In
fact, trying to do so sometimes increases anxiety. What does work is subjecting your anxious thoughts to
the light of day by saying them out loud to someone else, or, as you’ll see below, writing them down on
paper. Getting anxious thoughts out of our head is the first step in helping us to see the distortion in our
thinking. The next step is to subject our thoughts to questioning, critique, or inquiry. When we do so,
the anxious thought usually lessens in intensity and may even be released entirely from our mind, at
least for a period of time, giving us some relief from our anxiety.
In order to go through this process, we use a widely-used tool called a Thought Record. The Thought
Record helps us to articulate our anxious thoughts, and then walks us through a process of inquiry to
question those thoughts. Finally, the Thought Record helps us to create a list of calmer, more balanced
and reasonable ways of thinking about ourselves and our situation.
In the following section, you will find step-by-step instructions for how to complete your own Thought
Record. Sample Thought Records will be included in subsequent chapters so that you can look at case
examples for the specific type of anxiety you are experiencing. In addition, there are two versions of the
blank Thought Record template in Appendix B for your use; one version is two pages (Worksheet 2.5a
Thought Record (2 page version)), for when you have a lot on your mind; the second version is a single
page (Worksheet 2.5b Thought Record (1 page version)), for quicker Thought Records.
Over the next few days, practice Mindful Awareness of your anxious thoughts (for more information on
Mindfulness, see page 18). Simply begin to bring your attention to the thoughts that go through your
mind. As you go to class, get in the shower, or stand in line to get your lunch, notice what thoughts you
are having. Pay special attention to what thoughts occur just before your anxiety spikes or during the
times that you feel anxious. These are your anxious cognitions. You may wish to write the thoughts
down in a special notebook or in your phone when they happen. Then you can transfer these anxious
thoughts into a Thought Record at a later time.
Once you have listed your current or most pressing Anxious/Negative Thoughts, circle your Hot Thought
or group of related Hot Thoughts. Generally speaking, your Hot Thought is the anxious thought that
triggers the most intense anxiety. The thought or thoughts you have circled will be the one(s) you will be
working with for the remaining two columns of the Thought Record.
Here is a list of the most common Anxious Thought Distortions. See if you can recognize your own
anxious thinking in any of these:
1. Catastrophizing. This is probably the most common Anxious Thought Distortion. Catastrophizing
occurs when your anxiety leads you to focus on and worry about the worst possible outcome of
a given situation. Typically, people begin by worrying about some concerning aspect of their
situation, then a snowball effect occurs in which one anxious thought leads to an even worse
anxious thought, and so on, until finally they are worrying about the worst possible case
scenario, which they then anxiously focus on. This leads us to the next Thought Distortion.
2. Overestimating Probability. When we anxiously worry about the worst possible outcome, we
also tend to vastly overestimate the statistical probability of the worst thing happening. In life,
terrible things usually only happen rarely. Most of the time things work out fine, or when we
encounter difficulties we are able to resolve them. When we are anxious, we tend to believe
that the worst possible outcome is very likely to occur when in fact, usually, it is statistically very
unlikely to occur.
4. Focusing on only the Negatives. Anxious thoughts tend to be (no surprise here) very negative.
Anxiety drives scary thoughts about ourselves and the world. In the process, we lose sight of
positive aspects of ourselves, our abilities, and our experiences in the world. We need to take a
step back and look at the whole picture—which usually includes both negative and positive.
5. Predicting the Future. This is also sometimes called Fortune Telling. When we are anxious we
tend to start having “What If?” thoughts. What if this bad thing happens or that bad thing
happens? We get into a mindset where we are predicting what will happen and then we start
believing our own predictions as though they are reality. We need to remind ourselves that we
can’t know what the future will bring, and reassure ourselves that it’s okay to be in a state of
openness and not knowing.
6. Generalizing. Generalizing happens when we believe that something will happen in a particular
way because it has happened that way before. “Because I failed my Christmas exam in this
course I know I’m going to fail the final”. Just because something has happened badly once
doesn’t mean it will necessarily happen that way again. This is especially true if you are using
new skills, such as Basic Anxiety Management Skills. Circumstances may have changed or be
different now. It is important to look realistically at the unique aspects of each situation.
7. Underestimating Your Ability to Cope. The fact is that, occasionally, bad or difficult things do
happen to us in life. We can’t prevent all bad things from ever happening. The question is how
do we cope or handle it when something difficult or upsetting does occur? This Anxious
Thought Distortion tells us that we couldn’t handle it, that we would fall apart, die of
embarrassment, or lose everything if something bad happened. But studies have shown that, on
average, people are much better at coping with terrible events than even they expect. Handling
difficult life experiences can help people to discover their own inner strengths, receive support
from others they didn’t know they had, and learn important lessons in their lives. When bad
things happen, we cope, we grow, and others rise up to help us. Try asking yourself “What
would I do if my worst fear happened?”; “How would I handle it?”; “What are my options?”
8. Mind Reading. We Mind Read when we imagine that we know what someone else is thinking,
for example: “She thinks I did a terrible job on my presentation”. Once we assume we know
what others are thinking or feeling we start worrying and become anxious about that. People
think all kinds of things; none of us can possibly know what someone else is thinking. Also, we
can’t control what people think about us; often what others think is filtered through their own
subjective perspective. Have you ever thought something not so great about someone else? Is it
possible to do that but still absolutely like the person? Of course it is! Practice letting go of
worrying about something you can’t control: other people’s thoughts.
• Is the Hot Thought true? Is it always true? Is it partially true? Are there ways in which it is not
true? Are there times when it is not true?
• What is the evidence to support the Hot Thought? What is the evidence against it?
• If you had to debate this thought or make a counterargument against it, what would you say?
• Is there another way of looking at this?
• What’s the bigger picture?
• If you are catastrophizing, what is the probability of this thought actually happening? If your
feared outcome does happen, how terrible would it be? Could you handle it, figure out how to
move on with your life?
• What would a good friend say to you about your perspective on this?
• Are there kinder, more respectful ways of thinking about yourself in your life that allow you to
be a human being who makes mistakes, with strengths and limitations?
Then, using these questions as guides, write down your new insights and alternative perspectives in
Column 3.
2. Use the present tense. E.g., “I am now calm and grounded while I figure out how to get all my
work done”.
3. Use positive assertions, not negative ones. E.g. “I now use my Basic Skills to calm myself”
versus “I’m not going to have a Panic Attack”.
4. Use simple, balanced statements of reality. E.g., “I can be anxious and still do this.”
1. Read through the list repeatedly throughout the day to remind yourself of your balanced
perspective.
And/Or
2. Pick one statement from the list and repeat it over and over to yourself in your own mind. This is
especially important if you are entering a situation that triggers anxiety for you, or if you are
experiencing a higher than usual level of anxiety. By doing this you are effectively interrupting
your mind from thinking about and dwelling on anxious thoughts that ramp up your anxiety
levels. Instead, you are consciously focusing your mind on more realistic, calming thoughts.
You can return to your Balanced/Realistic Self-Talk sheet any time your anxiety begins to spike.
Remember that you can complete a Thought Record any time you are feeling anxious.
Take some time now to complete a Thought Record of your own. Or, review the chapter that addresses
the particular form of anxiety that you are experiencing, then complete a Thought Record. Don’t forget
that there are one- and two-page Thought Record templates in Appendix B.
Remember that by doing this work consistently with your anxious thoughts, you are creating new, more
positive and calming mental habits for yourself. Be patient with yourself; it takes time to retrain your
brain after months or even years of anxious thoughts taking hold. Be consistent, use your Thought
Record whenever anxiety arises, and you will reap the rewards over time.
Thought ..
1. Anxious/Negative Thoughts: 2. Identify Thought Distortions:
(select from list below)
Record
3. Balanced/Realistic Self-Talk:
(use the questions below)
3. Balanced/Realistic Self-Talk:
(Ask yourself…)
• Is the Hot Thought true? Is it always true? Is it partially true? Are there ways in which it is
not true? Are there times when it is not true?
• What is the evidence to support the Hot Thought? What is the evidence against it?
• If you had to debate this thought or make a counterargument against it, what would you
say?
• Is there another way of looking at this?
• What’s the bigger picture?
• If you are catastrophizing, what is the probability of this thought actually happening? If
your feared outcome does happen, how terrible would it be? Could you handle it, figure
out how to move on with your life?
• What would a good friend say to you about this?
• Are there kinder, more respectful ways of thinking about yourself in your life that allow
you to be a human being who makes mistakes, with strengths and limitations?
Behavioural Experiments
Keep in mind the Five Part Model (page 2), and how multiple factors impact anxiety. One tool that uses
this model to manage anxiety is the Behavioural Experiment, which helps create more balanced, healthy
thoughts by targeting your behaviour. Behavioural Experiments can be used in two different ways: (1)
To test out an anxious thought in order to help build up evidence against that thought; or (2) To build up
evidence in favour of a new, balanced alternative thought after filling out a Thought Record.
To illustrate how Behavioural Experiments work, think of your old, anxious thought as a comfort food,
like grandma’s fried chicken. You know fried chicken isn’t really good for you, but you’ve been eating it
for as long as you can remember and you can’t see yourself without it. Now think of a helpful, balanced
thought as a healthy habit, like going to the gym. You know that going to the gym is much better for you
than grandma’s fried chicken, but you’re hesitant to move on: “What if I don’t know how to use the
machines at the gym and people laugh at me?”; “I’m not in as good shape as other people at the gym,
they’re going to feel sorry for me”; “I’m probably going to end up hurting myself”; “I don’t think I’ll like
the gym that much anyway”. But soon you find a workout class that you enjoy and those anxious
thoughts suddenly hold less weight because you learn that they aren’t true. After going to the gym for a
few weeks you don’t hurt yourself and you have no objective evidence to support that people feel sorry
for you. Eventually, you start to crave the post-workout high, and one day you may even choose a salad
over your grandma’s grease-soaked poultry.
In the above example, the idea of going to the gym produced anxious thoughts predicting awful
outcomes about embarrassment or injuries. Behavioural Experiments help us learn that we never know
how things will turn out unless we test it out. “Facing your fears” is one of the most important skills you
can use for managing or even eliminating anxiety. Additionally, the creation of new, balanced alternative
thoughts may require some time and active practice before they become more believable, but
Behavioural Experiments offer us a way to buy into the new thoughts, like one might buy into a new
workout routine. So by testing out anxious thoughts (with behaviours), Behavioural Experiments help:
(1) Reduce or eliminate anxious thoughts (your brain won’t want to hold onto the thoughts if you see
they aren’t accurate); and (2) Give more weight to balanced, alternative thoughts (your brain will want
to hold onto these thoughts if it sees they are more accurate). The more you expose yourself to these
Behavioural Experiments, the more effective they become. That is, repeated exposure to these
experiments helps condition our minds to accept new, more balanced ways of thinking. Behavioural
Experiments offer a safe, structured way to disprove worrisome thoughts and give more support to
balanced alternative thoughts!
After you explore the examples, find the blank Behavioural Experiment sheet in Appendix B (Worksheet
2.6 Behavioural Experiment) and complete your own!
Things to Remember
It is important to remember that changes in our thoughts do not happen right away. Sometimes it will
take many repeated Behavioural Experiments before you start to truly believe a new, healthy thought.
Be patient with yourself, but also consider using this as incentive to practice regularly.
Start small and work your way up. If you need to, you can break down your Behavioural Experiment into
multiple small experiments. With most of the skills we speak about in this workbook, you don’t want to
set impossible goals for yourself or else you will just end up discouraged. If you are ever in doubt, make
your behavioural experiment smaller or easier than you think you can handle and work your way up
from there. This will help create a sense of accomplishment (just don’t make the goals too small so as
not to make serious progress).
Sean has trouble saying no. He is in the fourth year of his engineering degree, and he is a coach
at the gym 3 nights per week. Sean is very busy finishing up his degree, but the director at the
gym asked Sean to take over another coach’s classes for a few weeks while that coach was
recovering from an injury. Sean is very stressed out about this situation, so he did a Thought
Record to help cope with this stress. His Hot Thought was “if I don’t say yes to the gym director,
then he won’t be able to find a replacement coach and he’ll be disappointed in me” His
balanced, alternative thought was “There are at least two other coaches the gym director could
ask to help; just because I say no doesn’t mean I am completely letting him down”.
The thought to test “There are at least two other I believe This is a:
coaches the gym director could this _x_ Balanced
Write down the thought you are going to ask to help; just because I say no thought alternative
test; is it a balanced alternative thought, doesn’t mean I am completely _30 % thought
or an anxious thought? letting him down”
Make note of how much you believe the Anxious
thought you are testing thought
Design your experiment • I will call the gym director on Thursday night
• I will respectfully tell him that I cannot coach more than 3
How can you put this thought to the test? days per week right now
Include specific information. Break it into
small, manageable steps.
Problem-solving • I might get too scared to call him I will address this by
practicing deep breathing before I call him, I will set an alarm
What problems might come up during the on my phone to remind me when to call him, and I will
experiment? mention to him at the gym on Wednesday night to expect a
How can you solve those problems? call from me on Thursday, so I am accountable
Have you ever faced a problem like this in • I might forget what I want to say I will write it down
the past? If so, how did you handle it? • My anxiety is telling me to… avoid the phone call I will use
What is your anxiety telling you to do? my above plan to make myself accountable and remember to
Remember to consider “Safety call him
Behaviours”, or small, subtle things we do • My anxiety is telling me to… give in and agree to coach I
to avoid anxiety. Don’t forget to plan for will remind myself that school is my first priority. I will use
reducing those behaviours. this behavioural experiment to try saying “no”
See if you can identify any Thinking Traps • The gym director might be disappointed in me this is a
popping up here, like overestimating thinking trap (mind-reading, predicting the future). The only
probability or mind-reading. way I will know if he is disappointed is if he tells me so. If this
happens, I will be able to deal with it by using my Basic Skills,
or by responding with “Sorry I’m not to be able to help but
school is my first priority right now”.
Lila worries about looking stupid in front of her classmates. She is in her second year of Commerce,
and she feels that all of her friends are very intelligent and accomplished. She has a regular worry that
she will say something wrong in front of her classmates, so she tends to be very quiet and only speak
up if she knows something is right with absolute certainty.
Make note of how much you believe the thought you me” _95 % alternative
are testing thought
_x_
Anxious
thought
Design your experiment • During our study group tomorrow night I will
How can you put this thought to the test? purposefully answer a question wrong
Include specific information. Break it into small,
manageable steps.
I don’t have to be right all of the time; it’s ok if I I believe this thought
make a mistake, I’m a human being. _80 %
3
TYPES OF ANXIETY:
GENERALIZED ANXIETY DISORDER
Curtis’ Story
Curtis is in the first year of his Master’s degree in Physiotherapy. For as long as Curtis can
remember, he has been a “worrier”. His friends and family are constantly telling him to “relax”.
Curtis always thought that as soon as he made it into the physiotherapy program he would be
able to relax a little, but recently he has been finding the opposite. Curtis feels as if he is putting
more time into his work than any of his peers, and for the first time in his life he handed in two
assignments past their due date. Curtis has a difficult time getting started on assignments
because he feels that he needs to read all of the information on a topic before he can begin.
Other times, Curtis will avoid his schoolwork altogether, because if he limits the amount of time
he works on it, he can also limit the amount of time he spends worrying about it. Curtis spends
most of his days either in class, working at the library, organizing his Frisbee league, or at the
gym. He doesn’t like to relax because that is when he worries the most. He feels exhausted
most of the time, but he also has a very difficult time falling asleep because he tends to worry
and make mental to-do lists when he’s lying in bed. Curtis’ friends have mentioned that he is
very irritable lately, and he has noticed that he has been having a hard time finding joy in
anything these days.
Lucy’s Story
Lucy is a second year Psychology student. She worked very hard in high school and received a
prestigious scholarship to attend university. Lucy really enjoys her program and her new friends,
but she constantly feels “keyed up” and “on edge”. Lucy works very hard to be the top in her
class because she fears that if she doesn’t work hard all of the time she will lose her scholarship
and be unable to afford school. Her friends joke that she is a perfectionist. Lucy will spend hours
re-reading her assignments before handing them in and will often ask friends to check over her
emails before sending them. She even finds herself worrying about the emails after they are sent,
like her choice of words or the font she used. Lucy has many fears, including fears about money,
her future career, and her health—as well as the health of her family. She constantly checks up
on her family members to make sure they are safe and healthy, and she spends a lot of time on
the internet researching illnesses that she’s afraid she might have. After exams were finished last
semester, Lucy’s anxiety became so high that she had what she thought was a panic attack. It
seemed to come out of nowhere. Lucy feels like she doesn’t know where her anxiety comes from
sometimes, and she worries that she could have another panic attack at any time.
If you could wake up tomorrow and have all of your anxiety magically disappear, what would you be
able to do that you are not doing now? What would change in your life? What is anxiety or worrying
keeping you from doing now?
Examples:
If Curtis could stop his constant worrying, he would be able to get a good night’s rest; he has a
difficult time falling asleep because he frequently worries in bed. If Curtis’ anxiety magically
disappeared, he would stop avoiding his schoolwork, and he would finish work on time.
Last year, Lucy turned down a vacation with her family so that she could study over the winter
holiday in order to maintain a very high average. She also regularly turns down invitations from
her friends to spend time together on weekends. If Lucy’s fears about having a panic attack
were to magically disappear, she would not have missed out on these opportunities.
Avoidance. Putting off going things that lead you to experience anxiety, not doing those things
at all, or distracting yourself from your worrying or anxious thoughts. E.g., watching TV or
surfing the internet instead of starting on school assignments; not answering phone calls or text
messages, even if they’re from friends; trying to “keep busy” all day long so you don’t have time
to worry.
“What if” questions. Regularly worrying about possible outcomes to even small decisions, and
trying to plan for each possible outcome. E.g., spending large amounts of time thinking about
what would happen if you fail a course or get kicked out of school; spending time worrying
about what would happen if a close relative or friend died.
Checking behaviour. Making sure that things were completed, “done right”, or done without
error. E.g., re-reading emails or assignments a number times before sending them; calling or
texting a loved one to make sure they are safe; re-reading messages multiple times to make sure
you have the right meeting time/place.
Reassurance-seeking. Relying on someone else to help alleviate your worries. E.g., making
regular doctor’s appointments to reduce health concerns; asking teachers or TAs to confirm
information that you already know to be correct, like due dates or assignment guidelines;
consulting with others before making even minor decisions.
Refusal to delegate tasks to others. Having a difficult time letting others contribute out of fear
that they will not do the task “right” or because you like it “just so”. E.g., insisting on doing
house chores because you’re the only one who does it the proper way; being unable to say “no”
to doing more work; having difficulty working in a group, or doing other group members work
for them without discussing it with them.
Using recreational drugs or alcohol to relax. Using substances to help “turn off your mind” and
reducing or stopping worries. E.g., smoking weed before bed in order to fall asleep; having a few
drinks in the evening to “unwind” or calm yourself down.
How many of the above behaviours did you check off as having engaged in? How do you tend to feel as
soon as you do one of these behaviours? You probably feel pretty good! For example, if you have an
assignment due in a week and you decided to catch up on your favorite show instead of doing some
research, it might feel really good in the moment to forget about the stressful assignment. Or if you
discover a skin spot that you never noticed before, it might feel good to have a friend tell you it’s
nothing to worry about. But let’s fast-forward a few hours or a few days. How might you feel then?
Suddenly you are three seasons deep into your show, but your assignment is now due in two days and it
still hasn’t been touched. Or fears about the skin spot continue to bug you, and internet searches about
frightening skin lesions have you wanting to make a doctor’s appointment ASAP.
Unfortunately, although commonly used, many of the behaviours listed above help reduce our anxiety
or our worries in the short-term, but they tend to make anxiety even worse in the long-term. We call
these unhelpful coping strategies, or tools that we may think help with our anxiety—and maybe they do
in the short-term—but they ultimately do not help in the long-term.
What are some helpful coping strategies that you can start using today in order to help reduce your
anxiety in the long-term? What are some things that you are avoiding now? What to you need to do in
order to stop putting things off?
Examples:
Curtis discovered techniques to reduce his procrastination by checking out the Learning
Commons Resource Center at Stauffer library. Curtis found that what worked for him was to set
an alarm for 5 minutes and try to get started in that time. If he couldn’t “get into” his work in
that time he would take a short break and try again, but most of the time that was enough to
get started. Curtis also asked for help organizing the Frisbee league, and used his free time to
relax by practicing Deep Breathing (page 15) and Mindfulness techniques (page 18) to help him
actually enjoy his down time.
Lucy decided to test what would happen if she sent an email to her professor after reading it
over only one time. She also decided to reduce the number of times she would text her younger
brother to check if he was safe. She resolved to send only one text a day to her brother, and
promised herself that it would be something other than a question asking if he is ok. Whenever
she got the urge to text him during the day, she would instead send a joke to her friend.
In the spaces below, write down two unhelpful coping strategies that you tend to use to reduce your
anxiety in the short-term. In the column beside it, write a plan for how you can reduce these behaviours.
Strategies I use that reduce my anxiety How can I reduce this behaviour?
in the short-term only:
Now, in the space below, write down some new strategies that you can use to help reduce your anxiety
in the long-term (hint: you may want to check out the chapter on Basic Anxiety Management Skills to
help you fill out this part). Ask yourself: “what can I do instead, that will help me in the long-term?”
It is important to remember that regular practice of Basic Anxiety Management Skills, as well as using
the self-help plan that you are formulating in this chapter are ways to help reduce your overall anxiety,
and as a result, you will eventually begin to find that you have fewer worries, too. But what happens
when worries continue to be a problem?
Worry
In this chapter we’ve been discussing worry, and how this is one of the biggest issues for people with
generalized anxiety. In the Introduction of the workbook we talked about the Five Part model of anxiety
(page 2), and how thoughts, behaviours, feelings, physical sensations, and situation all interact to lead to
anxiety. Worries are thoughts, and we know that we don’t have much control over our thoughts—but
that doesn’t mean that we are totally powerless against them. Let’s discuss worrying thoughts a bit
more before we discuss what to do about them. There are two types of worries:
1. Worries about things that are happening right now, or current worries.
Examples:
“Have I written enough information for the answer to this test question?”; “Am I going to be late
to class?”; “I want to get together with my friend right now, but I don’t want to bother him if
he’s busy or uninterested.”
Examples:
“What if I don’t get a good enough job when I graduate?”; “What if my mom gets cancer one
day?”; “What am I going to do if I get kicked out of school for doing poorly on exams at the end
of the term?”
The major difference between current worries and future worries is the amount of control you have
over them. When you worry about a situation that is happening right now, you generally have some
control over those worries because you can do something about it.
Examples:
Curtis is worried because he needs to find extra players for his Frisbee game tonight, but he is
really busy trying to finish an assignment.
This is an example of a current worry. Curtis has some control over this worry because he can do
something right now to work towards fixing the problem. Curtis can call a friend who is less busy
with homework and delegate this task by asking for help finding extra players for tonight’s
game.
Lucy worries about maintaining her high average so that she doesn’t lose her scholarship.
This is an example of a future worry. There is nothing that Lucy can do right now about her
scholarship or her grades. She cannot write her final exams right now, in the middle of the term,
and she has no say over the criteria for maintaining scholarships. Lucy has very little control over
this worry in the moment.
What sorts of worries tend to occupy your thoughts? In the spaces below, write down a list of some of
your top worries. Make sure you don’t give yourself too much time on this task (if you feel like you need
more time getting your worries out, consider trying “Worry Time” on page 28). Beside each worry, check
the box indicating whether this is a current worry or a future worry.
Take a look at the thoughts that you marked as current worries. What can you do about these worries
right now? Dealing with these worries is likely going to require some problem solving skills. Be sure to
check out information about Time Management and Problem Solving on page 30 to help make a plan for
dealing with these issues, instead of just dwelling on them.
In the future, learn to cope with anxiety in a healthy way by keeping track of your worries. Remember
that worries like to eat up time, so use “Worry Time” (page 28) in order to limit the amount of time that
these worries are allowed to take up.
One of the hardest things for people with generalized anxiety to cope with is the second type of worry:
future worries, or things that you have very little control over. Time travel hasn’t been invented yet (that
we know of!), so until then, none of us can say that we know what is going to happen in the future.
Sometimes we might have an idea of what will happen; we may even believe that we have a good idea
of what will happen. But the bottom line is we cannot be 100% sure (not without a time travel
machine). Yet, many of us invest a huge amount of our time thinking and worrying about what will
happen. People with generalized anxiety tend to spend a large amount of time planning for what could
or what might happen. But there is no way to know 100% for sure how things will play out, so it would
be impossible to plan for the unknown because no matter how much time we spend thinking about it,
there is always going to be a possibility that we miss. So all of that time spent thinking and planning and
worrying about the future is—brace yourself—completely useless!
Tolerating Uncertainty
People with generalized anxiety are intolerant of uncertainty. That is, they have a very difficult time
coping with situations for which they do not know the outcome. It is absolutely normal to have some
discomfort about the unknown, and people tend to vary in their ability to tolerate uncertainty. People
who have a very difficult time dealing with uncertainty spend a great deal of time worrying about that
uncertainty. It’s an exhausting, fruitless game to play.
You can think of intolerance of uncertainty in the same way you would think of a dietary allergy, like
lactose intolerance. When someone who is lactose intolerant drinks a large glass of milk, they will
experience bloating, painful cramps, and gas. When someone who is intolerant of uncertainty faces an
unknown, they will experience anxiety, worry, and excessive planning. Both experiences can be
debilitating, but just as there are treatment protocols for lactose intolerance, one can learn to cope with
uncertainty.
1. Make a list of all of the behaviours you engage in when you are unable to tolerate uncertainty.
Consider referring to the list you filled out earlier about behaviours used to reduce anxiety in the
short-term. Do you typically try to plan for every possible outcome? Do you seek reassurance from
others? Do you avoid the situation all together? Use the space below (under “Step 1”) to outline
typical behaviours you use when faced with uncertainty.
2. Take a look at the behaviours you just filled out. Imagine how you would feel if you were not able to
do them. How anxious, on a scale of 0 (not at all) to 10 (most anxious ever) would you feel if you
weren’t allowed to do each behaviour? Write down this rating in the space provided beside each
behaviour (under “Step 2”).
Example:
3. Now it is time to practice. Start out by choosing the behaviour that would cause the least amount of
anxiety if you weren’t allowed to do it. Make a plan to practice tolerating anxiety by not engaging in
this behaviour. Is there a healthy coping strategy that you can do instead? Use the space below to
write out your plan (under “Step 3”), and begin practicing. Don’t forget to include how many times
you plan to practice not engaging in old behaviours to tolerate uncertainty this week. We suggest 3
times:
4. After you practice, write down how it went. It’s important to remember that when we are dealing
with uncertainty, things are bound to go differently than we expect. If this happens, and you are still
around to write about it, congratulations! This is a big step in learning to tolerate uncertainty:
realizing that things usually don’t go as poorly as we imagine they will. Use the space below (under
“Step 4”) to record how it went when you “acted as if”. Try to answer as many of the following
questions as you can:
• What happened?
• How did you feel at first when you didn’t engage in your typical behaviour?
• How did you feel after it was all over?
• Did things go well, even if you weren’t 100% certain of the outcome beforehand?
• If things didn’t go well, were you able to handle it?
• If things didn’t go well, what did you do to cope with it?
Example:
This week I plan to I will check my course syllabus one I followed my plan for the week. In the
practice tolerating time for the assignment due date, beginning of the week I felt anxious. My
uncertainty by not and I will write this due date in my anxiety felt like a heavy weight on my
sending an email to my agenda. If I have the urge to chest and I was jittery. After about 15
professor confirming the check, I will ask myself “what’s minutes my anxiety became less
due date of our next the worst that could happen if the unpleasant.
assignment, and asking date in the syllabus is wrong?”
for more information My plan did not go exactly as I expected. I
about the format he I will also practice “Worry Time” missed the part in the instructions that
would like the (see Page 28) twice each day, so I explained how the paper’s headings
assignment to be. can write down my worries about should be organized. I coped with this by
the assignment during this time. reminding myself that the content of my
paper was good, so I probably will not fail
the assignment just because my headings
didn’t meet the exact criteria. I know that
my friend Faye also missed that part of
the instructions, so I am not the only
student in the class to make this mistake.
5. After you’ve gotten enough practice with the behaviours that trigger lower levels of anxiety, try to
push yourself a little bit with behaviours that trigger higher levels of anxiety. Remember not to push
too hard, though, or else you won’t want to continue working towards becoming tolerant of
uncertainty. And don’t forget: reward yourself for being brave! Write down two things that you can
do to reward yourself for being brave by “acting as if” you are tolerant of anxiety.
Remember that a great deal of anxiety comes from Future Thoughts; that is, worrying about or planning
for what might happen. One simple tool is to challenge these Future Thoughts by asking yourself
“what’s the worst that can happen?” This tool can either be incorporated into your GAD Thought
Record (challenging your thoughts) or it can be used as a standalone tool whenever you notice Future
Thoughts creeping into your mind. Anxious thoughts can hold a lot of power when they are not fully
defined; anything could happen! But by forcing yourself to explicitly outline what you think will happen,
you will begin to realize that likely outcomes are rarely as horrible as the notion that something
“unknown but terrible” will happen.
After looking over the example of Curtis’ Thought Record, try filling one out for yourself. There are blank
Thought Records in Appendix B. Refer to the section on Thought Records (page 36) for additional
guidance.
1. This assignment is too big and difficult 1. Underestimating ability to cope, 1. This assignment may be challenging, but I have
for me to do! focusing only on the negative managed to start and complete other similarly
difficult assignments in the past. I’ve done well in
Chapter 3 – Generalized Anxiety Disorder
then there’s no point even trying. school up to this point and I believe I can continue
• Write down Anxious/Negative Thoughts Cata stro p h izin g – focusing on the • Is the Hot Thought true? Is it always true? Is it
worst possible outcome partially true? Are there ways in which it is not
• Circle your Hot Thought or group of Ov eresti mat in g p ro b ab ility – true? Are there times when it is not true?
related Hot Thoughts of bad things happening • What is the evidence to support the Hot Thought?
Perfe ctio n is m – pressuring the self to What is the evidence against it?
be perfect: “I should..” • If you had to debate this thought or make a
Focu sin g o n o n ly t h e n egat iv es – counterargument against it, what would you say?
ignoring • Is there another way of looking at this?
positives
• If you are catastrophizing, what is the probability of
Predicting the future – how can you know this thought actually happening? If your feared
what will happen? outcome does happen, how terrible would it be?
Generalizing – ignoring differences in
circumstances
Un d ere stimatin g y o u r ab ility t o co
p e – if
something bad does happen
Letting Go of Worry
Worrying isn’t a completely random behaviour. Behind our worries there is generally a purpose. That is,
worrying usually accomplishes something for us, or at least we believe that it does. Think about the
reasons why you worry and write it in the space below. What are you afraid will happen if you stopped
worrying all together?
Many people with generalized anxiety feel like they need to worry in order to stay motivated or on
track. They believe that if they didn’t worry, they might fail or stop getting as much done. But is this logic
really sound? Earlier in the book we spoke about many of the physiological symptoms of stress and
anxiety (see page 4). Some of the core features of anxiety include reduced concentration (our brain is
scanning for danger!), fatigue (our muscles have been readying to fight or run all day long!), and upset
stomachs (our GI tract grinds to a halt!). This does not sound like the ideal situation for getting work
done.
Remember that there is a fine balance between a good amount of anxiety (i.e., enough to motivate you
to study for an exam) and too much anxiety (i.e., can’t concentrate on the exam). Anxiety is a normal
human experience that we all face at different times. No matter how hard you work at it, it’s not going
away. But the goal isn’t to completely get rid of anxiety—that’s just not possible! The goal is to learn
how to manage anxiety. We want to reduce anxiety and find that “sweet spot” of anxiety, where we are
motivated, not overwhelmed.
4
TYPES OF ANXIETY:
PANIC
Panic
Anxiety can come on very quickly; sometimes in response to a specific cause, but other times for no
identifiable reason at all. For people who have high anxiety to begin with, this can feel like their anxiety
is “bubbling over” or quickly rising to an “anxiety peak”. These periods of intense anxiety—which are
very unpleasant and frightening—are called panic attacks. Panic attacks are not uncommon, but when
they reoccur they can case a great deal of distress and begin to affect our lives in very negative ways. In
this chapter, we discuss what panic attacks are and how to deal with them. Although panic attacks can
be a very unpleasant, and often terrifying experiences, they actually tend to be very responsive to
treatment. With consistent practice, the tools outlined in this chapter can be used to effectively reduce
the frequency and severity of panic attacks.
Danielle’s Story
Danielle is a third year student in Film and Media studies. Danielle has always been an anxious
person, but she felt that she had it under control. Recently, however, Danielle has started
experiencing regular panic attacks. The first panic attack happened when Danielle was in a
lecture; it was terrifying. She started to feel her heart beat fast and hard in her chest, her palms
began to sweat, she started shaking, and she became afraid that she would faint or vomit.
Danielle’s anxiety became so severe so quickly that she thought she was having a heart attack or
maybe going crazy. Although the panic attack only lasted about 10 minutes, it was a very
traumatic experience for her, and she remained more anxious than usual the rest of the day.
Since the first attack, Danielle has started having panic attacks on an increasingly regular basis;
they are now happening about 3 times a week. At first they would only happen in lecture, but
they have started happening at other times, too. Danielle is quickly becoming preoccupied with
worries about when and where the next panic attack will happen.
A panic attack is a sudden onset of high anxiety. It can be very unpleasant, uncomfortable, and
frightening; it is not uncommon for someone’s first panic attack to be viewed as a traumatic event.
Although very unpleasant, panic attacks are actually very common. It has been estimated that 1 in 3
people will experience a panic attack in a year, so if you have had a panic attack, you are certainly not
alone. It’s important to remember that panic attacks are simply the body’s fight-or-flight response
kicked into gear very quickly; they are a completely natural response and you cannot be hurt or die by
one.
Use the table on the next page to start understanding your panic attacks better. Place a checkmark in
the box beside each symptom that you have experienced. Next to that, rate how bad the symptom is
for you, or how anxious each symptom makes you on a scale of 0 (not at all upsetting/anxious) to 10
(most upsetting/anxious possible). Note that this table is also available in Appendix B (Worksheet 4.1
What Do My Panic Attacks Look Like?). The first step to treating panic attacks is to understand what they
look like for you, since panic attacks can look different in different people. But more on this later…
2. Sweating
3. Trembling or shaking
5. Feeling of choking
What is Agoraphobia?
Agoraphobia is the fear and avoidance of places or situations where one feels they would not be able to
escape easily in the event of a panic attack. Agoraphobia often—but not always—develops as a result of
panic attacks. That means that not everyone who experiences panic attacks will go on to develop
agoraphobia, and not everyone with agoraphobia experiences panic attacks. Examples of situations that
people with agoraphobia typically try to avoid include:
• Being alone (without someone they consider safe, who could help in the event of a panic attack)
• Being in a new or unfamiliar environment (e.g., leaving the house; visiting a new city)
• Crowded or noisy (public) spaces (e.g., shopping mall, concert hall)
• Driving (either as a passenger, as a driver, or both)
Panic attacks are very unpleasant; nobody wants to have one. People often believe that the best way to
stop panic attacks from happening is to avoid whatever might have brought on the panic attack in the
first place. People who experience regular panic attacks will often avoid situations where an attack has
happened (e.g., standing in a crowded room), places where an attack has happened (e.g., the library), or
activities that they were doing when an attack has happened (e.g., running, exercise). Really,
agoraphobia is meant to be a coping strategy (e.g., “I don’t want another panic attack, so I will avoid
anything I think is likely to make me have another one”). Unfortunately, like other strategies discussed
in previous chapters, this is an example of an unhealthy coping strategy; one that actually makes
matters worse in the long-term. Read on as we discuss what’s going on when a panic attack is
happening, and how you can use this information to work towards the goal of reducing—and ultimately
eliminating—panic attacks from your life.
A panic attack is just the body’s normal response to fear, but it happens out of context. Experiencing
those feelings before jumping out of a plane may be exhilarating and an exciting part of the skydiving
experience—in fact many people choose to skydive in order to experience those intense feelings—but
facing those feelings with no easily identifiable cause can be just plain terrifying.
In order to understand panic, there are a few things that you need to understand about anxiety and the
body. First, be sure to read the section of this workbook about Anxiety in the Body (page 4). As we
know, anxiety is a physiological reaction in the body, typically in response to a stressor, like a threat to
our safety. It was adaptive for our ancestors to feel anxious because it acted as a security system to help
keep them from getting killed in the face of danger. Think about it: if you were faced with real, imminent
danger, like an angry bear rushing at you, you need to have an instantaneous reaction in response to
that threat in order to keep you safe. That is, your body really needs to “step on it!” in order to keep you
out of danger. Our body “steps on it” by releasing a big dose of adrenaline, which triggers the fight-or-
flight response and all of the physiological symptoms that come along with it in. This is the fuel your
body needs to help you escape the threat. But sometimes that security system is set off by a false alarm,
and our stress peaks with no real threat present. This is when a panic attack happens.
It is important to understand how panic attacks work in order to take some of the fear out of them, as
fear about having future panic attacks is one of the core features of panic disorder. Take a look at the
graph below:
This graph depicts the course of a panic attack over approximately 15 minutes (some are shorter, some
are longer, but none last for very long). Anxiety levels start out relatively low but they peak very rapidly.
After anxiety peaks, it may take some time for anxiety to come all the way back to the pre-attack levels;
sometimes even hours. But pay special attention to the peak. This is when anxiety is at its absolute
worst. Now, how long does the peak last? What’s very important message here is that if you understand
how anxiety works in the body, then you know acute panic is only sustainable for 5-10 minutes,
maximum. Certainly some of the symptoms of panic may take a while to fully subside (we know that
general anxiety can last for a very long time), but acute panic is simply not sustainable in our body for
longer than a few minutes. One of the reasons why panic attacks are so scary is because we forget that
panic is not sustainable. We think (irrationally), that the curve of that graph will never stop rising once it
has started and it will continue to go up and up and up until we die or go crazy. This is neither true nor is
it even possible.
So what sets people who experience reoccurring panic attacks apart from those who do not? Well,
research has shown us that there is some genetic component (e.g., twin and family studies have shown
a strong heritable component to panic attacks). Environment has also been shown to impact the
likelihood of an individual experiencing panic attacks (e.g., panic attacks often follow a recent stressor,
such as the loss of a loved one, or a major change in one’s life, like moving away from home for the first
time). But one of the most important differences between people who do and those who do not
experience regular panic attacks is that people who do experience reoccurring panic attacks tend to be
much more introspective about their bodily reactions. In other words, these people tend to be very in-
tuned with even small changes that go on inside of their body. So when the sympathetic nervous system
is activated and their body starts to experience some normal responses to stress (e.g., increased heart
rate), these people tend to interpret these normal and healthy changes as a catastrophic sign of
something horrible (e.g., a heart attack). These thoughts and interpretations of normal responses lead
to increased anxiety, which in turn leads to a stronger physiological reaction, and this feedback loop can
easily cause anxiety to spiral up into a full blown panic attack, sometimes very quickly.
At this stage, we are only going to be practicing recognizing our reactions or thoughts in response to
stress. Managing panic attacks starts by learning to recognize the thoughts behind the panic, because
you can’t fight against something if you don’t know it’s there, and oftentimes our anxious thoughts have
a special way of creeping below the surface without us knowing it.
Example:
Danielle experiences regular panic attacks. She uses this Worksheet to document what reactions
she has to stress, whether they are body reactions or thoughts, and how she interprets these
experiences.
Body
reaction or Feeling in your body: Your panic interpretation:
thought?
I can feel my heart pounding really hard “I’m having a heart attack!”
Body in chest; I get bad chest pains
I feel very dizzy, lightheaded “I’m going to pass out right here, and
everyone is going to see it and make a big
Body deal about it.”
It feels hard to catch my breath; It’s like “I’m going to stop breathing and I will
there is a heavy weight on my chest suffocate.”
Body
It feels like I’m watching myself from “I’m going to lose control of myself and
outside of my body just go crazy.”
Thought
Use the example on the previous page to fill out your own Panic Interpretation. Note that you can also
find this Worksheet in Appendix B (Worksheet 4.2 My Panic Interpretation).
Body
reaction or Feeling in your body: Your panic interpretation:
thought?
Body
Body
Body
Thought
Thought
Example:
Danielle developed a plan to practice her Basic Skills on a daily basis. She started by making new,
healthier eating habits; she made sure she was not skipping meals, and became careful about
having three balanced meals a day. Danielle had always gone to the gym on and off, but she
started going more regularly, and even arranged to go with a “workout buddy” to keep her
motivated and on task. Danielle made realistic goals to practice at least one Basic Skill for 30
minutes each day; usually in the late afternoon when she knew her anxiety tended to be
highest.
In the space below, develop a game plan for practicing the Basic Skills. Be sure to keep your plan
realistic, and include measurable and timely goals:
Example:
After completing earlier sections of this chapter (“What do my panic attacks look like?” and
“Panic Interpretation”), Danielle has a better grip on her anxiety attacks, and what they look like
for her.
Before a panic attack: Danielle’s panic attacks feel like they come out of nowhere; they do not
come with much warning, so this part was tricky for her. After monitoring herself for a few
weeks by paying attention to her body’s reactions to stress, she was able to recognize that, right
before a panic attack, she will often experience racing thoughts, and her palms will sweat.
During a panic attack: While Danielle is having a panic attack she noticed that she tends to focus
her attention on her racing heart (in “What do my panic attacks look like?” she rated this as an
10 out of 10 for the amount of anxiety this causes her), and feeling dizzy or lightheaded (she
rated this 8 out of 10). She also worries that she is going crazy or that she will lose control (9 out
of 10). Other symptoms cause less anxiety for her, like her sweating palms (1 out of 10), and
shaking (3 out of 10).
What I feel before a panic attack: What I feel during a panic attack:
Example:
Danielle has stopped attending the class where her first panic attack took place. She also refuses
to drive in a car unless her boyfriend—who she feels safe with—is driving.
Danielle makes a plan to start reducing her avoidance, slowly. She starts by going to the lecture
hall after hours with a friend. Next, she walks to class during class time and leaves without
staying the entire lecture. Finally, she is able to attend the entire class with no panic attacks. She
makes a plan for the same gradual process for driving. First, she sits in a stationary car with a
trusted friend behind the wheel. Next, she lets her friend drive around but only in a parking lot.
Eventually, Danielle gets in the car with a friend to drive to the mall. Danielle practices Deep
Breathing, and Grounding techniques while she tries to reduce and eventually stop her
avoidance behaviours.
In the space below, write out some of the things that you are avoiding, whether they are situations,
places, or activities. Don’t forget to include some of the more subtle avoidance, or “safety” behaviours.
Next to each point write out 3 or 4 steps that you can take to reduce your avoidance behaviour, with the
eventual goal of eliminating it all together.
One of the most important steps towards managing panic attacks is to reduce how frightening the
physical sensations of panic are to you. If panic attacks weren’t so frightening, well, they wouldn’t be
panic attacks at all, right? Recall that panic attacks are the result of a feedback loop that happens when
someone is very sensitive to the physiological responses to stress. These people feel anxiety in their
body and as a result they have very frightening and upsetting thoughts about those reactions; thoughts
such as “I’m doing to die”, “This isn’t right”, or “I’m going to vomit or faint and everyone will stare at
me”. Now, if anxiety is natural and we can’t get rid of the effect anxiety has on our body, how do we
deflate the fear attached to those nasty sensations, or get used to those feelings? The answer is in the
form of another natural aspect of our human wiring: something called habituation.
Have you ever had the experience of working in an office or library with a big, droning air conditioner?
At first the noise is really loud and distracting, but after a time you forget about it. That is, until the air
conditioner clicks off and suddenly you realize how quiet it is! This is the process of habituation; your
nervous system desensitizes, or becomes numb to a new stimulus after repeated or continuous
exposure to it. After a while, the new stimulus (e.g., the drone of the AC) just fades into the background.
We use this natural principle of habituation to get used to the otherwise frightening reactions in our
body when we experience stress.
In order to begin desensitizing yourself to an unpleasant feeling, you need to expose yourself to that
unpleasant feeling. This important step involves inducing a symptom of panic (e.g., pounding heart) in a
safe, controlled environment, and using your Basic Skills to keep your anxiety under control so that you
can practice coping with the feeling. With enough practice your body becomes desensitized and the
sensation that was once very distressing becomes less and less so until it is not frightening at all.
Although this may not sound like fun at first, it’s important to remind yourself that this step is necessary
for getting panic attacks under control. Remember, too, that this can—and in fact should—be done in
small baby steps.
Look back at Worksheet 4.1 What Do My Panic Attacks Look Like? and rank your feared panic sensations
from the least to the most anxiety provoking. Starting with the sensation that is least anxiety provoking,
come up with a plan to induce this feeling. Practice this multiple times until it is no longer frightening
(that is, your body has habituated to it). This should take at least a few days. Remember to focus on only
one step at a time; don’t move onto your next highest step until the step you are on is causing you very
little anxiety on multiple occasions. This isn’t a race! Below is a list of common anxiety symptoms that
cause fear along with ways to artificially and safely induce these feelings:
Pounding heart: Run on the spot, or run up and down stairs as fast as you can for 30 – 60 seconds
Faint/lightheadedness: Hyperventilate (breathe in and out very rapidly) for 30 – 60 seconds while
seated, and stand up very quickly when you’re done
Example.
Danielle practiced facing her feared sensations every day. It wasn’t always easy, especially in the
beginning, but with time she started to get used to some of the sensations that had been very
distressing to her previously. She made sure that she built these skills up slowly. For example,
when it was time to face her fear of dizziness, she tried just shaking her head for 30 seconds,
which brought her anxiety up to a 6 out of 10. She practiced this a few times every day, until
eventually it only brought her anxiety up to 2 out of 10. Danielle was sure to practice this step 3
or 4 more times, and each time her anxiety went up to a 2 or 3 out of 10. At this point, she
started to practice spinning in a circle for 20 seconds, which brought her anxiety up to 6 out of
10. Her next planned step is to spin for 45 seconds.
Use the worksheet on the next page to write out your plan for facing your feared body reactions. Make
sure to include the following:
List of exposures:
Amount of anxiety it
Ranked order Sensation
causes me
1
Exposure 1:
My anxiety ratings:
See Appendix B (Worksheet 4.4 Facing Your Fears) for a full Worksheet on Fear Exposures. Filly this
sheet out and keep it somewhere you can look at if often (e.g., in your wallet, under your pillow, on your
bathroom mirror).
When panic attacks occur—or anxiety in general, for that matter—our otherwise rational thoughts are
suddenly over-taken by anxiety. If you’ve read the Thought Record section of this workbook (page 36),
then you already have a pretty good understanding of how these anxious Thought Filters can severely
alter the way you interpret your surroundings. Panic attacks are usually associated with two specific
thought filters: overestimating probability (just because something could happen doesn't mean it will
happen), and catastrophizing (focusing on the worst possible outcome instead of a likely outcome). Take
Danielle’s thoughts, for example. She overestimates the probability of dying or passing out, while she
catastrophizes about how bad it would be if everyone knew she was having a panic attack.
In order to fight panic attacks, you will need to practice fighting these Thought Filters. A very useful tool
for this is one that we have already introduced: Thought Records (page 36). In this chapter, we have
adapted the Thought Record to help you specifically challenge the panic attack thinking filters
overestimating probability and catastrophizing. First, see Danielle’s sample Thought Record, then use
the blank Thought Record template (see Appendix B Worksheets 2.5ab) to complete your own.
- What’s the WORST that could happen? Everyone in lecture will turn to If I did have a panic attack in
This is so embarrassing!
Catastrophizing look at me. I will be so embarrassed I’ll just sit there and look dumb class, it’s unlikely anyone would
Use the space below to write out your plan for practicing:
Finally, don’t forget to reward yourself for your bravery and your strength. Write out some possible
rewards below:
5
TYPES OF ANXIETY:
EXAM ANXIETY
Exam Anxiety
Most people experience some degree of stress or anxiety before writing an exam. Mild nervousness can
actually help improve exam performance. However, high levels of anxiety can impede your ability to
think clearly and answer questions effectively. Fortunately there are some straightforward strategies
that you can use to help reduce anxiety to a manageable level and improve your grades at exam time.
This chapter will walk you through those strategies and help you to create your own unique anxiety
reduction program before, during, and after the exam period.
Cal’s Story
Cal is a second year Biology student. He became very anxious when writing exams in first year,
as exams were much more difficult than they had been in high school. In addition, last year he
failed an exam for the first time ever, although he did manage to pass the course. Since then, Cal
has been experiencing increasing levels of anxiety prior to each exam, including shortness of
breath and tightness in his chest. To make matters worse, Cal’s anxiety makes it difficult to fall
asleep the night before his exam and so he has to write on only four hours’ sleep. During a recent
exam, Cal “blanked out” and had great difficulty remembering the answers to exam questions;
as a result he ran out of time and wrote incomplete answers, leading him to receive a lower grade
than was reflective of his actual knowledge. Cal’s housemates are all in the same program as he
is; they talk about the exam material at home and on the way to the exam hall, which only
increases Cal’s anxiety. Cal is gripped by thoughts like “I’m going to fail”, “I’ll end up on academic
probation”, “I can’t do this” “I’ll get kicked out of Queen’s”, “I’m not as smart as other people”,
and “I’ll never get into medical school”.
Lisa’s Story
Lisa is a fourth year Engineering student. She is set to graduate at the end of this year. Lisa is a
straight A student. She has always had some exam anxiety but this year her anxiety has become
much worse. Lisa now becomes so anxious that it is difficult for her to concentrate while studying.
Her anxiety is further elevated as she is conducting a job search in her field for after she
graduates. Lisa is plagued by thoughts like “I have to memorize every detail perfectly or I will
fail”, “If I don’t get the highest grades I will never get a job” and “I can never do enough”.
Find some quiet time and work through the following Worksheet, also located in Appendix B (Worksheet
5.1 Exam Anxiety: Before Exams). Consider what you could put in place for yourself now that would help
reduce your exam anxiety later in the term.
Examples:
Cal noticed that the more he kept up with course material through the term, the more confident
he felt, and the less anxious he was about writing exams.
For Lisa, maintaining her regular yoga practice and exercise routine greatly helped keep her
anxiety at a lower baseline level through the term and heading into exams.
On the lines below write down two things that you have done in the past throughout the term that have
helped you to reduce your exam anxiety. Commit to resuming or maintaining those things above that
you know from past experience work for you. Block them into your daily or weekly schedule. (Need help
planning your schedule? See page 30 for techniques to improve Time Management!)
1.
2.
How can you begin practicing these skills early in the term? Use the space below to help you plan:
Review the chapter on Basic Anxiety Management Skills (Page 4). On the lines below write down three
Basic Skills you will begin to practice regularly in your daily life:
Examples.
1.
2.
3.
Remember, what helps reduce anxiety is the regular practice of Basic Anxiety Management Skills. These
don’t need to take up a lot of time but they do need to be practiced regularly in order to be effective.
Block these into your daily and weekly schedule and commit to maintaining them (see page 30 for tips).
Examples.
Cal realized that he had a strong tendency to procrastinate. He decided to challenge himself to
be consistently proactive by speaking to his professor or TA if there was material he didn’t
understand during the term rather than waiting until he was studying for finals to understand
the material. He also decided to put a study schedule in place for himself prior to the exam
period; this would help him to minimize procrastination and reduce anxiety by having a plan for
how to get through his heavy workload.
Lisa decided to backburner her job search until after the final exam period. She gave herself
permission to relax her expectations on herself and to move back home before pursuing her job
search during the summer months. This helped to lower Lisa’s general anxiety level and
therefore reduced her exam anxiety as well.
On the lines below write down two things you haven’t tried before that you could begin doing early on
in the term to help reduce your exam anxiety later on:
1.
2.
Experiment with these ideas. Try them for one term and see if they do in fact reduce your exam anxiety.
If they do, keep them. If they don’t, you can always tweak or change them next term, or try something
else entirely.
Good work! You’ve now set the stage for an easier and less anxious exam period.
During Exams:
During the exam period it is very important that you make working on your anxiety a priority. What does
this mean? It means a regular practice with your Basic Anxiety Management Skills: practice abdominal
breathing at least twice a day and whenever anxious, and relaxation at least once a day. It also means
practicing the basics of good Self Care (SPEMS) as much as you can make time for. It’s very easy to
neglect these when the academic demands on you are high. However, now is the time when you need
to be practicing these more than ever. Doing so will help keep your anxiety at a lower level, which will
help you to feel better, study more productively, and, ultimately, perform better on your exams.
At this time, it’s also important that you deal with your anxious thoughts, which are likely to increase
during this period.
Let’s look at Cal and Lisa’s Exam Anxiety Thought Records. Then, you can complete your own Exam
Anxiety Thought Record, found in Appendix B (Worksheet 2.5 ab Thought Record).
probation. Underestimating my ability to cope been successful in many areas of my life. I now choose
7. I’m not as smart as other to value my strengths. I can’t control whether I am
people. accepted or not. All I can do is my best.
1. I have to memorize every 2. Focusing only on the negatives, 2. I have two full days to study and I will use that time
detail perfectly or I will fail. Catastrophizing as productively as I can.
2. I don’t have enough time to
study.
4. Catastrophizing, Predicting the future 4. I have never failed an exam before so it is unlikely
3. I’m going to do badly.
4. I’m going to fail. that I would do so now. I may do less well but it is
5. If I don’t get the highest unlikely that I would fail. If I do fail, I will handle it.
Now, it’s your turn to complete your own Thought Record, which can be found in Appendix B. Make
some quiet time to do this exercise when you won’t be interrupted. First, list your anxious thoughts in
the left hand column, circle the Hot Thought(s) that you wish to work on, then use the prompts at the
bottom of the form to question those thoughts. List your Balanced/Realistic thoughts in the right hand
column. You can complete a Thought Record for any anxious thought that arises about your exam
anxiety; you can complete as many as you need to in order to get relief.
1. Read through the list repeatedly throughout the day to remind yourself of your balanced
perspective. If you are permitted to bring allowed materials into the exam room, you may wish to
bring your list or lists into the exam with you.
And/or
2. Pick one statement from the list and repeat it over and over to yourself in your own mind. This is
especially important when you are walking to your exam, sitting down preparing to write your exam,
and anytime you become anxious during the exam. By doing this, you are effectively interrupting
and distracting your mind from thinking about and dwelling on anxious thoughts that ramp up your
anxiety levels. Instead, you are consciously focusing your mind on more realistic, calming thoughts.
Mindful Awareness
Remember that you can also practice Mindful Awareness in regards to your anxious thoughts about
exams. Review the section on Mindfulness in the chapter on Basic Anxiety Management Skills (page 4). If
a new anxious thought appears, just notice, take a step back from the thought, and say “That’s just an
anxious thought.” Let the thought float through your mind like a cloud blowing across the sky.
Remember that just because you have an anxious thought doesn’t mean you have to believe it, engage
with it, start working on it or worry about what it says. You just name it as an anxious thought and
practice mindfulness by allowing it to pass on through.
Write down one major personal concern or stressor that you could postpone dealing with until after
exams:
What action would you need to take in order to effectively postpone dealing with the stressor? For
example, do you need to let someone know you’ll get back to them after exams? Or that they won’t be
hearing from you for the next few weeks? Do you need to put the issue out of your own mind using self-
talk or mindfulness techniques? Would making a To-do list or a list of your concerns and then putting
the list away somewhere help get the issue off your mind?
When could you carve out some alone time in the days and hours leading up to an exam? What alone
time would be most impactful in reducing your exam anxiety? Walking to your exam alone? Not
hanging out with others the night before who are writing the same exam as you?
How can you handle this in your relationships? Let others know that you need time to study? Or that
you need to take a little alone time to get in the zone?
While writing the exam, slow yourself down. Often when people are anxious they tend to rush and then
either make mistakes or forget to include things in their answers that would get additional marks. Tell
yourself that you can take the time you need to answer each question. Breathe. Sit with each question
for a minute until you can start to think through each answer. Don’t let your mind rush ahead and start
worrying about future questions. Remember, a present-minded focus means focusing on just one thing
at a time.
On the lines below write down three things that you can do during your exams to maintain a present-
minded focus:
Breathe
Use the self-statement “I now choose to focus on one question at a time”
If my mind wanders and starts worrying about my grades, I’ll interrupt my thoughts and gently
bring my focus back to my exam
1.
2.
3.
Example:
For Cal, it was important to put a relaxing bedtime routine in place to help him to fall asleep
earlier. He decided what time he would get up, what he was going to have for breakfast, and
what time he was going to leave for the exam hall.
What three things will you do the night before you write your exam?
1.
2.
3.
Your anxiety will likely be elevated during this period. That’s okay. Say “My anxiety is a little high right
now; I will use my Basic Skills and focus on my exams.”
Know that you are in survival mode. This is as tough as it gets. Remind yourself that you can do it, even if
you are feeling anxious. Say “I can feel anxious and write my exam anyway”. Acknowledge that you are
not only experiencing the pressure that writing exams brings; on top of it you are also doing work on
your anxiety. You are doing double the work compared with students who aren’t also coping with exam
anxiety. Be gentle, caring and compassionate with yourself during this period. If your anxiety spikes
during this period, simply re-start your Basic Skills and go to your Thought Record for relief.
1. De-stress. Take a break. Relax. Use your Basic Skills. Allow your body and mind to go back to a lower
baseline level of anxiety.
2. Reward yourself. Take the opportunity to recognize and reward all of your hard work throughout
the term and the exam period. Acknowledge your successes. Give yourself a pat on the back.
Reward yourself by splurging on a special treat or do something that you really enjoy.
Examples:
Cal rewarded himself by taking a trip to Montreal for two days with friends.
Lisa celebrated the end of exams by taking a week off to pack up, hang out, and say goodbye to
people before heading home to look for work.
What can you do to de-stress and reward yourself now that exams are over?
Write down two things you could do that would help bring your stress levels down and enable you to
relax:
1.
2.
What reward could you give yourself for the hard academic and personal work you’ve done?
I c ould give mys elf the followin g r ewa r d after exa ms…
3. Take stock. Now that you are calmer and on the other side of the exam period, take the opportunity
to do a review or “autopsy” of what worked and what didn’t work for you to reduce your exam
anxiety. Take as objective a perspective as you can—no judging or blaming—just look for ways to
strengthen and help yourself further going forward. Recommit to doing what worked at the start of
next term and the next exam period. Remind yourself what a difference it made.
Next, take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Are there any larger issues that need to get
addressed? Be totally honest with yourself. Note that the following strategies for assessing yourself
can also be found in Appendix B (Worksheet 5.3 Exam Anxiety: Assessing Yourself).
• How are your essay writing skills? Do you struggle to answer essay questions on exams? An
appointment at The Writing Centre could help you get better at structuring your exam essay
questions (see the Resources section in the Appendix for The Writing Centre contact
information).
• Are you engaging enough help? Would it be useful to join a study group or get a study partner?
Ask questions of your professor or your TA when you don’t understand something? Hire a
tutor?
• Are you happy with your program? Is the program you are in aligned with your strengths and
interests? If not, consider speaking with an Academic Advisor to explore your options (see the
Appendix Resources section to find your program’s Academic Advisor).
• Are you overstretched, not giving yourself enough time to study? Are you working too many
hours in a part-time job? Consider cutting back your hours, especially at exam time. Are you
taking more courses than is manageable? Reducing your course load might be something for
you to consider. Do you have too many extracurricular activities or volunteer commitments?
Take a hard look at how much you are loading on your plate. For more on this, see the chapter
on Overwhelm. What would you need to change, remove from your schedule, or cut back on in
order to feel calmer and more confident when writing your exams?
Sit quietly and reflect on the previous term and exam period. As truthfully as you can, identify what
academic area(s) could use improvement. On the lines below write down two areas in which you could
improve:
1.
2.
Next, write down what action you will take in order to improve in these areas. Is there something you
can do on your own? Or will you reach out for some on-campus help for new ideas about how to
manage your academics?
1.
2.
Make some quiet time and reflect on your personal life. Are you experiencing any personal issues or
close relationships that are increasing your anxiety or stress levels? Write these down on the lines
below:
Next, write down any steps you could take to reduce stress in these areas. Set new boundaries in
relationships? Seek Personal Counselling for a difficult issue?
1.
2.
Conclusion
Good for you for doing this work on yourself. Know that you are not alone—many students experience
exam anxiety. Take good care of yourself, breathe, challenge your thoughts, and be caring and
supportive of yourself as you write your exams. If you need additional support or resources, help is just
a phone call away. Don’t hesitate to reach out for the support that you need.
6
TYPES OF ANXIETY:
OVERWHELM
Overwhelm
Overwhelm occurs when the demands being placed upon us exceed our ability to cope with them. We
can be overwhelmed intellectually, organizationally, or emotionally. Generally speaking, overwhelm
happens under one of three circumstances:
(1) We have too much to do and a limited time in which to do it. This is what most of us experience
as a ‘time crunch’;
(2) We have an enormous task to complete (such as a project or an assignment) and we don’t know
where to begin;
(3) We are trying to cope emotionally or psychologically with a difficult personal situation while
simultaneously trying to deal with a high level of academic demand.
When you are overwhelmed you are likely to experience one or more of the following:
On an emotional level:
On an intellectual level:
• A racing mind
• Difficulty focusing or concentrating on any one thing
• A feeling of mental paralysis; an inability to ‘think straight’
• The experience of trying to work on one thing while your mind is simultaneously thinking about
all of the other things that you also need to get done
On a behavioural level:
If your overwhelm goes on for an extended period of time, you will likely start to experience worsening
fatigue, exhaustion, reduced productivity levels, physical symptoms such as headaches or stomach
upset, and a deteriorating ability to cope emotionally. This occurs for the simple reason that our bodies
and minds have been taxed at too high a level for too long and need a rest. As a result, we begin to
experience a level of exhaustion commonly known as “burnout”.
It is important to note that we all get overwhelmed at times and for different reasons. Fortunately,
there is a lot you can do to reduce overwhelm. In this chapter we’ll discuss concrete practical, academic,
and personal strategies for reducing overwhelm before, during, and after the more stressful academic
times of the year.
Ana’s Story
Ana is a third year Political Science major. She has been a high achiever all her life. Ana has always
been active with extracurricular activities and done well in school. Ana enjoys being engaged and
involved in things, and has an ongoing need to be busy. She has experienced periods of high
stress and overwhelm at peak times throughout High School and in University. Recently,
however, Ana has experienced a lengthier period of overwhelm that—for the first time in her
life—is interfering in her ability to function. Ana is enrolled in 5 courses, volunteers at the Peer
Support Centre, works part-time as a lifeguard 10 hours per week, and is on the Varsity
Gymnastics Team. She has begun having difficulty concentrating and has 4 essays due in the next
3 weeks. Even when she has time to work on her papers she finds she gets overwhelmed, doesn’t
know where to start, and can’t begin to organize herself. Her feeling of stress and overwhelm is
increasing as each day goes by and she is unable to get almost any work done. Lately, she has
begun to feel exhausted; she noticed she is drinking more coffee than usual and is experiencing
low energy during the day, which is reducing her productivity further. Ana has thoughts like “I
have to get everything done”, “I have to hurry up”, “I’m so behind”, “I should be able to do this”,
and “I have to be productive at all times”.
Ben’s Story
Ben is a first year Engineering student. He has always worked hard in order to do well in school,
and has many friends. Ben was excited to come to Queen’s, is enjoying Res, and has made new
friends. Ben has found adjusting to academics at the University level quite challenging; both the
volume and difficulty of the work have been much greater and, therefore, more challenging
compared with High School. Ben had been struggling to keep up and do the work but was learning
to manage by developing some new study skills, such as joining a study group. At Thanksgiving,
Ben and his girlfriend of two years mutually decided to break up, and his grandfather passed
away. When Ben returned to Queen’s after Thanksgiving, he found himself feeling upset and was
preoccupied with thoughts of both his ex-girlfriend and his grandfather. Ben found it very difficult
to focus enough to do his work. He began to feel overwhelmed with the work that was piling up
and the material that he did not understand. Ben began engaging in avoidance behaviours in
order to protect himself from feelings of overwhelm. He spent more and more time playing
computer games, and missed several quizzes and short assignments. Heading into his December
final exams, Ben felt totally overwhelmed. His grades had already suffered, and, most concerning
of all, Ben was way behind in studying for his exams. Ben was afraid that, for the first time in his
life, he might not pass some of his finals. He still felt great difficulty being able to focus, and was
beginning to feel powerless to deal with the academic mountain of work in front of him. Ben had
thoughts like “I can’t do this,” “I might fail,” and “I just want to give up.”
Looking Ahead
It can be enormously helpful to plan ahead in order to ward off overwhelm during more demanding
times to come. For most University students, overwhelm is more likely to occur at key times in the year,
notably midterms, end of term, and heading into final fall- and spring-time exams. Of course, depending
on your own personal circumstances, you may feel overwhelm at other times as well. Here are some
proactive steps that you can take early in the term (or even during the summer months, looking to the
academic year ahead) to reduce your overwhelm later on:
1. Make a Schedule.
Making a schedule and following it is the single best way to stay on top of your academics. It helps
protect you from getting behind on your readings, studying, and assignments, thereby preventing you
from hitting a wall of overwhelm that comes when trying to write multiple essays at the last minute or
cram for an exam the night before.
See the section on Time Management in Basic Anxiety Management Skills for more information about
scheduling your time (page 30). Alternatively, you can visit the Queen’s University Learning Strategies
website for helpful scheduling tips and strategist, or to make an appointment to meet one-one-one with
a Learning Strategist at Learning Strategies in Student Academic Success Services in the Stauffer library
(see their contact information in the list of Resources in Appendix A).
Examples:
When Ana made up her term schedule, she realized that she couldn’t possibly do everything she
had committed to do. Ana used the schedule template as a guide to help her to set a limit on
what she could take on and what she couldn’t.
Ben met with a Learning Strategist when he returned to campus in January and created a term
schedule for himself. Having a plan in place for how his work was going to get done was
enormously relieving. Because Ben was calmer and less overwhelmed, he was able to think
more clearly and grasp the material more easily, getting work done in a shorter amount of time.
Ben also felt increased motivation to do his work, and stopped avoiding study time.
Setting up a schedule for yourself in September or January can be enormously helpful in keeping your
academic stress and overwhelm at more manageable levels throughout the term. As an added bonus,
you might see your grades improve as well!
What does this mean? It means ensuring that we are getting approximately 8 hours of sleep a night,
eating regular healthy snacks and meals throughout the day, engaging in moderate exercise, making
time to spend with supportive friends or family, and finding ways to nourish ourselves emotionally.
Don’t overlook one important aspect of Self Care: DOING NOTHING. You need to make time to do
nothing at regular intervals in order to keep stress levels down by giving your body and mind a chance to
recover from stress. You will be more productive when you return to your work if you do this. Finally,
doing nothing affords us the opportunity to follow our bliss or to do something just because we feel like
it; a luxury in our highly structured lives where there is so much that we have to get done every day.
When we have a lot that we need to do, or are in a state of stress or overwhelm, our tendency is to
neglect our basic needs in order to get the things done that we need to get done. This is a crucial
mistake: The more demands placed upon us, the more we need to be engaging in good Self Care. Of
course we all drop the ball on our Self Care sometimes. However, it’s important that if you do, you
resume these activities as soon as possible and not neglect them for prolonged periods of time.
Remember, too, that caring for yourself will boost your productivity and your ability to perform
academically, as our brains work better when our bodies and selves are well cared for. The time spent
on yourself in these areas is time well spent.
Examples.
Ana realized that she had almost no time available for Self Care, personal time, or time to do
nothing. On some days, Ana didn’t even leave herself enough time to eat! Ana committed to
booking time in her schedule for SPEMS in order to re-balance her life and live in a state of
wellness. She realized that she couldn’t keep on driving herself like this without her academics
starting to fall apart.
Ben had previously been very good about working out regularly at the gym. However, when he
became overwhelmed, he stopped going. Ben made the commitment to resume and maintain
his workouts three times per week throughout the term.
Remember to block all of your Self Care activities into your Weekly Schedule (including doing nothing!).
This is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself: committing to and prioritizing taking care of YOU
first.
On the lines below write down two things that you are good at maintaining with regards to your Self
Care:
1.
2.
On the lines below write down two Self Care priorities that you could either introduce or be more
consistent with that could help reduce anxiety and prevent overwhelm:
Two Self Car e s tr a tegies I wou ld like to pr ior itize in clu de…
1.
2.
Now, book all four of these items into your weekly schedule for the remainder of the term. Commit to
maintaining them. Over the course of the term, notice how practicing regular Self Care helps your
anxiety/stress, physical well-being, emotions, and productivity level.
Briefly review the sections on Breathing, Grounding/Mindfulness, Yoga, Progressive Muscle Relaxation,
and Thought Records in the Basic Anxiety Management Skills chapter (Page10).
On the lines below, write down two Basic Anxiety Management Skills that you will practice for one term:
Examples:
Two Basic Anxiety Management Skills I will practice for one ter m i nclu de…
1.
2.
Notice over the course of the term how these practices affect your anxiety/stress, physical well-being,
emotions, and productivity level.
Take some time early in the term to consider what it is that tends to make you personally vulnerable to
overwhelm. First, we’ll review some common contributing causes for students. Then you’ll have a
chance to reflect on yourself
For Ana, overwhelm was the result of overcommitting herself. On top of her schoolwork, Ana
was volunteering, participating in extracurricular activities, and working a part-time job. Ana
realized that she wasn’t being realistic about how much time and energy she actually had to
dedicate to her various activities in addition to her academics. She came to understand that
anyone would become overwhelmed with a plate this overloaded.
Always keep in mind that being enrolled in five courses is a full-time job in and of itself. Queen’s
students are known for being engaged, involved, and active students—which is great—as long as it’s
within a healthy range. Past that point, once you are in overwhelm you aren’t much good to yourself or
to anybody else. You need to take care of yourself, too.
If, like Ana, you tend to get overwhelmed by overcommitting, try the following:
1. Make space for your own needs. People who overcommit tend to deny their own needs. When we
do this chronically, we get burned out. When are you going to eat? Sleep? Exercise? Spend time
with friends? Do nothing? Ask yourself, how do you want to feel in your life? Stressed, rushed,
overloaded, chaotic, disorganized, running from one thing to the next? Or more relaxed, grounded,
able to laugh and enjoy your life, calmer, on top of things, confident that things will get done, with
time to also do things you like to do?
2. Consider your priorities at this time. Set priorities or goals and evaluate requests made of you in
relation to those priorities. No matter how interesting a given opportunity might be, ask yourself,
does this activity align with my personal goals right now? For example, if your priority is to increase
your grades in order to apply to Grad school, then you will want to make more time for your
academic work. That will necessitate that you reduce the amount of time you are dedicating to
other commitments. Similarly, if a volunteer commitment is in the same area that you intend to
pursue as a career, you may want to prioritize making time for that commitment, and something
else will have to go.
3. Be thoughtful about what you commit to. Really take time before you say yes to evaluate the
merits of each opportunity. Think about what this commitment will actually require of your time and
energy. Be realistic. Think ahead. It’s easy to feel enthusiastic about an opportunity in the first week
of September but how will this be for you at crunch time when midterms arrive, not to mention at
end of term and heading into exams? How busy are you going to choose to be? At the more
extreme end, is it possible that being this busy could jeopardize something in your life, like your
grades, your relationship(s), or your health?
4. Feel entitled to say yes or no. Be assertively in charge of your life choices. Take the driver’s seat of
your life. Be protective of your time and health. Put your highest best interest first before
committing to anything. If an activity isn’t a clear “yes” according to these criteria, then consider
saying no. If you are ambivalent or concerned about something you are taking on and you can’t
resolve your concern, say no. For help saying no, consider Sean’s example in the Behaviour
Experiment Basic Skill (page 44).
Listen to your own deepest needs, have your own back, and stand for your own highest interests. Be
very realistic about what and how much you can commit to. No matter how high your enthusiasm is, or
how badly others want you to be involved in something, you need to take stock of the rest of your life
too, and where and how this new opportunity will fit in.
Do you overcommit yourself? On the lines below, list the top two ways in which you get pulled in to
overcommit. Note that this Worksheet is also available in Appendix B (Worksheet 6.1 Overwhelm:
Overcommitting Yourself). For example, is it hard for you to say no? Are you a time optimist—always
thinking you’ll have more time available than you do? Is it hard for you to be assertive about your own
life priorities? Do you feel as though you always need to be there for others or can’t let others down?
What specifically gets you emotionally “hooked in” to overcommit?
Two wa ys I overcommit a r e…
1.
2.
Next, write down two small steps you could take this term to let go of, or challenge, your “emotional
hooks” and reduce your overwhelm down the road. For example, “I will remind myself that it’s not my
job to meet everyone else’s needs,” “I will say no to requests to cover other people’s shifts from mid-
October onwards this term,” “I will cut out one of my extracurricular activities that isn’t aligned with the
priorities I’ve set for myself this academic year.”
1.
2.
5. Do You Avoid?
Example.
When Ben became overwhelmed academically, his coping strategy was to engage in a pattern of
avoidance in order to reduce feelings of overwhelm. As Ben did so, his academic situation grew
worse and worse as work continued to pile up, and he became more and more behind. Ben
realized that he needed to challenge this pull to avoid in the future and be more active and
assertive in dealing with difficulties when they arose in his life.
Avoidance is a common coping strategy that people employ—often without realizing it—in the face of
overwhelm. If opening your textbook floods you with feelings of anxiety and overwhelm, isn’t it easier in
the moment to go for a coffee, answer a friend’s text, or go play a computer game for a while? As we
talked about in the chapter on Generalized Anxiety, avoidance gives short-term relief but creates a
snowball effect of problems in the medium- and long-term, which only serves to increase your anxiety
and overwhelm further. Most of us avoid sometimes. But when avoidance becomes a pattern for
managing stress or overwhelm, it can start to have negative effects on our lives.
• Practice Mindful Awareness of your internal pull to avoid. Notice the powerful emotional draw
to escape feelings of overwhelm, and to distract yourself with another activity (see Mindfulness
on page 18).
• Rather than the escapism of avoidance, challenge yourself to stop and face the situation
directly. Breathe. Come up with a plan for how to deal with what is happening in reality. Remind
yourself that, as difficult as it might feel, you will feel so much better if you deal with the issue
head-on rather than letting things fester and worsen over time. Reach out for help. People who
avoid tend to go off alone to deal with their difficulties.
• Ask a friend to help you with a problem set you don’t understand. Go talk to your professor.
Make an appointment in Counselling Services to deal with personal difficulties or go to Learning
Strategies to put an academic plan in place.
Use the worksheet on the following page (and in Appendix B). In the Worksheet 6.2 Overwhelm:
Avoiding, list two things that you tend to do to avoid in the first column, and what the consequences of
those are in the second.
Example.
Next, in the third column, write down two strategies you will begin using this term to resist the urge to
avoid:
Example.
Overcoming avoidance can increase your stress in the short-term. However, as you practice being more
assertive and engaged, you will feel stronger, more confident, and more emotionally present—in short,
more alive—in your life. And you will develop and build important life skills that will enhance your work
and your relationships going forward.
Some of the common academic difficulties that people encounter include the following (see if you
recognize yourself anywhere on this list):
• It’s difficult for you to organize yourself. You work in chaos, usually completing assignments at
the last minute when you realize they are due.
• You find it hard to get motivated. You procrastinate during the term, hanging out during your
days, and then you have to learn large amounts of new material heading into midterms or final
exams.
• You have difficulty writing essays; you feel you never really learned the skills you need to write
easily or well.
• You are in first year, or a later more challenging year, and like Ben in the case example above,
you are trying to get used to the increased volume and difficulty of work. Perhaps you are also
getting used to working independently and having to be so responsible for your learning
compared with High School.
• Your study habits need updating. You don’t have a study strategy, you don’t take breaks, you are
a perfectionist who tries to learn every detail versus focusing in on important material, you are
easily distracted when somebody calls or texts you.
• You have a learning disability that makes learning more challenging than someone else as smart
as you.
Don’t let academic difficulties become chronic. Take charge of your learning, and make life easier on
yourself. Learning Strategies is an excellent resource for developing better skills, from improving
motivation, to studying ‘smarter not harder’. Don’t try to soldier on alone. Make life easier on yourself
by being proactive and learning some new ways of doing things.
If you have a learning disability, make an appointment with Disability Services (See Appendix A for
Contact information). Staff there can advise you whether you qualify for accommodations or specialized
learning tools. Also, Learning Strategies offers many adaptive strategies that can be helpful to
counteract the challenges that a learning disability presents. Make an appointment with a Learning
Strategist for help (Appendix A).
Are there longstanding patterns or personal situations in your life that are overloading you that need to
be addressed in order to reduce your overwhelm? Here are some common situations that students
face. See if any of these apply to you:
• Do you manage a mental health issue, such as depression? Are you taking steps to manage that,
such as seeking out professional care, or following strategies that you’ve previously learned that
work for you?
• Do you overfunction in your relationships? For example, are you the ‘go to’ person for your
friends? Do friends consistently call only you for support when they’re upset about something
in their own lives to the extent that you are becoming upset or stressed? Do you spend time
being there for them when you really need to be studying? Or are you taking a high level of
responsibility for someone else’s ongoing significant life problems? Seriously consider setting
some limits on your availability in order to preserve your own well-being and reduce
overwhelm. There’s nothing wrong with supporting others, as long as it’s not compromising
your own health and ability to function. Consider setting limits on the time you spend providing
support to others, or suggest a friend in need make an appointment in Counselling Services for
needed support.
• Do you have financial difficulties? Create a budget, or re-work an existing budget, speak with
your parents, or go to the Queen’s Financial Aid office for assistance (see Appendix A for contact
information). University can place significant financial stresses on students, but remember that
you are not alone. There are resources available to help!
• Do you deal with challenges in your immediate family, such as parental separation or conflicts in
family relationships? Are there ways that you can protect yourself from the effects of your
situation, by distancing yourself or setting limits? Consider making an appointment in
Counselling Services for support.
It’s crucial to determine how to change, manage, or set limits on ongoing personal matters so that you
can do what you’re here to do: study, get your degree, and have a positive, rich experience of your time
here at Queen’s.
On the lines below, write down a personal situation in your own life that tends to elevate your anxiety
or overwhelm:
Next, write down two things that you could do to reduce the negative effect of this on yourself. This
could be a course of action, or it could be as simple as the decision to reach out for help:
I can r educ e the n ega tiv e effect of the a bove pers ona l situa tion
by…
1.
2.
Academic Overwhelm:
If it is crunch time and you are hitting a wall of academic overwhelm:
Strongly resist the urge to either avoid, or run around trying to get everything done all at once. Neither
one of these coping approaches will help you if you are in over your head, for the reasons discussed
above. Instead, put an Emergency Plan in place for yourself.
When creating your Emergency Plan, ask yourself what you would need to remove from your life in
order to get your work done. This is especially true if you tend to overcommit. Be creative and also be
ruthless. For example, do you need to take a break from your volunteer commitment(s), cancel plans
you have with friends, or cut back your hours at your part-time job? Remember that cutting things out
can be temporary while you get through your period of overwhelm.
What do you need to remove from your plate in order to make your Emergency Plan work? Remember
to be creative and ruthless. On the lines below, list two things you could remove from your schedule in
order to be able to meet your academic deadlines.
1.
2.
Ask yourself, what can you do for yourself that is the most impactful and least time-consuming that will
deliver the biggest payoff for what your body and mind need right now? The bare minimum involves
getting enough sleep and eating healthily and regularly through the day. In addition, getting even a
minimum amount of exercise will be helpful. For example, maybe a 20 minute run in the morning twice
a week is all you have time for right now but is just enough to get energy flowing in your body and to
reduce your stress level. Note that creating a survival mode plan can also be found in Appendix B
(Worksheet 6.3 Overwhelm: Survival Mode).
Being realistic with regards to everything you have to get done, what Self Care strategies can you focus
on and prioritize in order to boost your productivity and reduce overwhelm?
1.
2.
Where can you strategically place these in your schedule to maximize their effectiveness and ensure
they will get done?
1.
2.
If you are having difficulty creating a workable plan, make an appointment at Learning Strategies or
Counselling Services to help you create and put a plan in place. If your academic situation is so serious as
to warrant withdrawal or academic accommodation, or if you want more information about your
options, speak with your professor or with an Academic Advisor in your program.
Take a break. Often times with writing, an idea will come to you when you aren’t actually working on
the paper, for example, when you are walking home from the library, grabbing a coffee, or getting out of
the shower in the morning.
Move away from your computer to write. Instead, do some reading on the subject; input some new
ideas and see what gets sparked. Or go sit somewhere else with a pen and paper and just brainstorm
some rough ideas; often getting away from the felt pressure that comes when sitting at a computer
screen can allow for ideas to flow.
Make an appointment in The Writing Centre. A Writing Consultant can help give you tips on how to
start a paper, organize or re-organize a paper, or do a final edit to create a more polished essay. This can
be enormously helpful to move things along, as well as to learn skills that will make writing essays easier
in the future.
Get organized. Break course materials down into parts. Create a study schedule to review those parts.
Visit the Learning Strategies Online Resources web page for tips on how to study smarter not harder.
Focus on key concepts. Now is not the time to get bogged down by the fine details. If you focus your
energy on understanding the key concepts, you will likely be able to deduce the finer details from your
understanding of the material.
Attend a Workshop at Learning Strategies. Prior to each exam period, Learning Strategies runs
specialized workshops, for example: “How to Prepare for Multiple Choice Exams”, “How to Prepare for
Math and Science Exams”, “How to Prepare for Essay and Short Answer Exams”.
If you are struggling academically, don’t try to soldier on alone, doing what you’ve always done. Get
help and support to get things done quicker, better, and easier. Learn new skills that will make things
easier and reduce your overwhelm going forward.
Ben was just barely able to manage his academics; breaking up with his girlfriend and the death
of his grandfather tipped Ben over into overwhelm.
If you are experiencing a personal difficulty or are feeling emotionally overwhelmed about a situation in
your personal life, try the following:
Backburner It. If it is crunch time or you have pressing academic demands on you presently, see if there
is a way that you can ‘backburner’ the issue. Backburnering means that you find a way to defer, delay, or
put off dealing with a personal matter until after your academic deadlines are behind you.
Examples.
You have been experiencing conflict in your relationship with your girlfriend. Since the
arguments upset you and make it difficult for you to study, you decide you will not raise
contentious issues with her until after your exams are over.
Your brother has been calling you for support about a difficult situation in his own life.
You have two essays due and talking to him for an hour every night is seriously
interrupting your ability to write. You tell your brother that you’re very sorry but you
need to focus on your essays for the next week. Is there someone else he could talk to
about what he’s dealing with?
An important aspect of the backburnering technique involves being able to put matters out of your mind
as well so that you can concentrate on your work. Some people can do this fairly easily while others
have a more difficult time with it. Of course, the ability to do this also depends on the seriousness of
your circumstances. See if you can try putting ruminations and worry out of your mind when thoughts
about your situation arise. Say “I now choose to focus on my work. I will deal with this issue in two
weeks’ time”. Practicing the Backburnering technique can often be enormously relieving when feeling
overwhelmed with academics and a personal matter at the same time. In addition, letting things sit can
sometimes help put things into perspective when you do return to address the situation, or allow things
to work themselves out without your intervention.
Get support. Is there someone you can talk to about your situation, such as a trusted friend or family
member? It can be very helpful in reducing distress to tell someone else what’s going on. It can be
especially helpful to get advice or feedback from someone you respect who knows you well and cares
about you. Choose someone safe who isn’t going to judge you and who will keep the information
confidential.
Create An Outlet. Make space to emotionally process what it is you are dealing with. Journaling can be
very helpful to release pent up emotions and to gain insight or clarity about complex situations in our
lives. Such a release can help you feel better emotionally, thereby reducing overwhelm to a lower level
where things feel more manageable. Try to journal with the intent of releasing powerful emotion or
moving towards more empowering ways of seeing your situation. Just remember to be mindful of how
you journal; it should be used as a tool for working through difficulties, not ruminating on issues.
Example.
Ben talked to his best friend since childhood about the breakup. Just talking about it felt better,
and he was reminded that other people in his life besides his ex-girlfriend are there for him and
care about him. For the next few days Ben was better able to sit down and study.
Let’s look at Ana and Ben’s Overwhelm Thought Records. Then, you can complete your own Overwhelm
Thought Record, found in Appendix B (Worksheet 2.5ab Thought Record):
1. I have to get everything 3. Focusing on only the negatives, 3. I’m exactly where I need to be. I now choose to
done. Perfectionism focus on how to go forward from here. I now calmly
2. I have to hurry up. focus on creating workable solutions.
3. I’m so behind.
5. Perfectionism
4. I should be able to do 5. I now choose to put my own needs in a place of
this.
priority in my life. I now make room for Self Care,
5. I have to be productive
1. Catastrophizing, Focusing on only the 1. This is a difficult time but I can get through it.
1. I can’t do this. negatives, Predicting the future, I now choose to get help and support with this
Underestimating your ability to cope. problem. I have options for how to handle this
2. I might fail.
situation. I will decide on my options and take steps to
3. I just want to give up. help myself feel better so that I can cope.
• Write down Anxious/Negative Cata stro p h izin g – focusing on the • Is the Hot Thought true? Is it always true? Is it
Thoughts worst possible outcome partially true? Are there ways in which it is not
Ov eresti mat in g p ro b ab ility – of bad true? Are there times when it is not true?
• Circle your Hot Thought or things happening • What is the evidence to support the Hot Thought?
group of related Hot Perfe ctio n is m – pressuring the self to be What is the evidence against it?
Thoughts perfect: “I should..” • If you had to debate this thought or make a
Focu sin g o n o n ly t h e n egat iv es – counterargument against it, what would you say?
ignoring positives • Is there another way of looking at this?
Predicting the future – how can you know • If you are catastrophizing, what is the probability of
what will happen? this thought actually happening? If your feared
Underestimating your ability to cope – if outcome does happen, how terrible would it be?
something bad does happen
Min d Read in g – imagining you know
h
another is thinking
Chapter 6 – Overwhelm
Examples.
Ana realized when doing her Thought Record that she was harshly perfectionistic, and put an
unfair amount of pressure on herself to do things perfectly. She committed to treat herself with
greater care and gentleness going forward, and to make more time for downtime and Self Care.
Ben developed both academic and personal strategies while overwhelmed. Academically, he got
better at assertiveness skills such as asking friends for help and meeting with his TA for help
outside of class. Personally, he learned how to reach out to a friend for personal support when
dealing with life stressors. Ben was proud of himself for learning and practicing these skills while
under pressure.
Find some quiet time when you won’t be interrupted. Ask yourself the following questions:
How did I do with regards to overwhelm this year? Did I do better or worse than the term before?
How did I do with regards to overwhelm this year? Did I do better or worse than the
term before?
What am I most proud of myself for handling, changing, or doing differently this term
or year?
Conclusion:
Good for you for taking care of yourself by doing this work. Know that you are not alone—many
students experience overwhelm. As you go forward, continue to do what works for you to reduce your
own personal overwhelm. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, and remember to prioritize your
own personal needs. If you need any additional support, don’t hesitate to reach out: help is just a
phone call away.
7
Putting it All Together
The aim of this workbook is to increase your competency in managing your anxiety and your overall
ability to cope with stress. This workbook contains information and many tools that have been shown to
be effective for many people. Recall, however, that practice is a key component needed to achieve this
goal (see page 8 on the Importance of Practice). Now that you have the knowledge and the skills, it is
time to develop a plan and put it into action.
Use this final chapter to develop a plan for continuing to manage your anxiety. Don’t forget to check in
with your expectations, too. Recall that anxiety is a natural part of being a human being; that means we
can’t absolutely get rid of anxiety (in fact, we wouldn’t want to! Anxiety can be helpful!), but we can
learn to manage it so it doesn’t control our lives. Use this final Worksheet (also found in Appendix B
Worksheet 7.1 Putting it All Together) to formalize your plan for the future. Don’t forget to check in
from time to time and adjust the plan as situations in your life change. If one strategy really works for
you, plan to use it more; if another strategy really doesn’t work, stop using you! You are the expert on
you, and with a little help, you can build up the skills required to manage your anxiety.
Below is a list of Basic Anxiety Management Skills. In the first column below, select the strategies you’ve tried so far.
In the second column, select the strategies that you are planning to try in the future. Use the space at the bottom to
make note of strategies not mentioned in this workbook that you have or plan to try.
Deep Breathing
Mindfulness
Worry Time
Time Management
Decision Making
Behavioural Experiments
Other (specify):
Use the space below to set goals for the future. What is your game plan to practice your Basic Anxiety Management
Skills moving forward? Be sure to set goals that are SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely).
Worksheets
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WORKSHEET 2.3 Time
Management: Prioritizing Your
To-Do List
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My Decision is:
WORKSHEET 2.5a Thought Record (2 page version)
Thought ..
1. Anxious/Negative Thoughts: 2. Identify Thought Distortions:
(select from list below)
Record
3. Balanced/Realistic Self-Talk:
(use the questions below)
3. Balanced/Realistic Self-Talk:
(Ask yourself…)
• Is the Hot Thought true? Is it always true? Is it partially true? Are there ways in which it
is not true? Are there times when it is not true?
• What is the evidence to support the Hot Thought? What is the evidence against it?
• If you had to debate this thought or make a counterargument against it, what would you
say?
• Is there another way of looking at this?
• What’s the bigger picture?
• If you are catastrophizing, what is the probability of this thought actually happening? If
your feared outcome does happen, how terrible would it be? Could you handle it, figure
out how to move on with your life?
• What would a good friend say to you about this?
• Are there kinder, more respectful ways of thinking about yourself in your life that allow
you to be a human being who makes mistakes, with strengths and limitations?
Anxiety Thought Record
1. Anxious/Negative Thoughts: 2. Identify Thought Distortions: 3. Balanced/Realistic Self-Talk:
(Select from list in box below) (Use the questions below)
WORKSHEET 2.5b Thought Record (1 page
Problem-solving
What problems might come up during the
experiment?
Outcome
After the behavioural experiment, write down
what actually happened
Strategies I use that How can I reduce this new strategies to help
reduce my anxiety in the behaviour? reduce anxiety in the
short-term only: long-term
WORKSHEET 3.3 GAD: What Are My Worries?
2. Sweating
3. Trembling or shaking
Body Reactions:
5. Feeling of choking
Body
reaction or Feeling in your body: Your panic interpretation:
thought?
Body
Body
Body
Thought
Thought
Thought
WORKSHEET 4.3ab Managing My Panic Attacks
What I feel before a panic attack: What I feel during a panic attack:
My plan for pr acticing the B asic An xiety Mana gemen t Skills is…
List of exposures:
Amount of anxiety it
Ranked order Sensation
causes me
1
Exposure 1:
The symptom I am inducing is:
My anxiety ratings:
Pre-inducing anxiety Post-inducing anxiety
Date of practice
(out of 10) (out of 10)
WORKSHEET 4.4 Facing Your
Exposure 2:
My anxiety ratings:
Exposure 3:
My anxiety ratings:
Pre-inducing anxiety Post-inducing anxiety
Date of practice
(out of 10) (out of 10)
Adapted Panic Thought Record
Anxious/Negative Thinking Challenge Yourself: Balanced/Realistic
Thoughts: Errors: Alternative Thought:
WORKSHEET 4.5 Adapted Panic Thought
1. Reflect on your strengths. On the lines below write down two things that you have done in the past
throughout the term that have helped you to reduce your exam anxiety:
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2.
2. Review your Basic Skills. Review the chapter on Basic Anxiety Management Skills. On the lines below
write down three Basic Skills you will begin to practice regularly in your daily life:
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3.
3. Try something new. On the lines below write down two things you haven’t tried before that you could
begin doing early on in the term to help reduce your exam anxiety later on:
1.
2.
WORKSHEET 5.2 Exam Anxiety:
Additional Behavioural Strategies to Use
During Exams
1. Backburner other life concerns. Write down one major personal concern or stressor that you could
postpone dealing with until after exams. What action you would need to take in order to effectively
postpone dealing with the stressor?
2. Take some alone time. When could you carve out some alone time in the days and hours leading up to
an exam? What alone time would be most impactful in reducing your exam anxiety? Walking to your
exam alone? Not hanging out with others the night before who are writing the same exam as you? How
can you handle this in your relationships? Let others know that you need time to study? Or that you need
to take a little alone time to get in the zone?
Ho w ca n I t a ke some al on e t ime … …
3. Bring a present-minded focus while writing your exams. On the lines below write down three things
that you can do during your exams to maintain a present-minded focus:
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WORKSHEET 5.2 Exam Anxiety: Additional
Behavioural Strategies to Use During Exams
4. Have a plan in place that you follow prior to writing each exam. What three things will you do the night
before you write your exam?
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5. Practice radical acceptance of your anxiety. What can you do to de-stress and reward yourself now that
exams are over? Write down two things you could do that would help bring your stress levels down and
enable you to relax?
Academic areas I could improve: How I will reduce stress in this area:
Personal areas I could improve: How I will reduce stress in this area:
WORKSHEET 6.1 Overwhelm: Overcommitting Yourself
On the lines below, list the top two ways in which you get pulled in to overcommit. For example, is it hard
for you to say no? Are you a time optimist—always thinking you’ll have more time available than you do?
Is it hard for you to be assertive about your own life priorities? Do you feel as though you always need to
be there for others or can’t let others down? What specifically gets you emotionally “hooked in” to
overcommit?
Two wa ys I overcommit a r e…
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Next, write down two small steps you could take this term to let go of, or challenge, your “emotional
hooks” and reduce your overwhelm down the road. For example, I will remind myself that it’s not my job
to meet everyone else’s needs. I will say no to requests to cover other people’s shifts from mid-October
onwards this term. I will cut out one of my extracurricular activities that isn’t aligned with the priorities I’ve
set for myself this academic year.
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2.
WORKSHEET 6.2 Overwhelm: Avoiding
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How did I do with regards to overwhelm this year? Did I do better or worse than
the term before?
What am I most proud of myself for handling, changing, or doing differently this
term or year?
Below is a list of Basic Anxiety Management Skills. In the first column below, select the strategies you’ve tried so far.
In the second column, select the strategies that you are planning to try in the future. Use the space at the bottom to
make note of strategies not mentioned in this workbook that you have or plan to try.
Deep Breathing
Mindfulness
Worry Time
Time Management
Decision Making
Behavioural Experiments
Other (specify):