You Are A Badass
You Are A Badass
You Are A Badass
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INTRODUCTION
In this summary
As the title states, this summary will provide you with ways to stop doubting your
greatness and live an awesome life! Jen Sincero starts by explaining how and why
we are the way we are. She moves on to showing us how you can embrace you ‘inner
badass’. Sincero discusses how to get over your own B.S and finally how to get out
there and kick some ass.
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BOOK SUMMARY
Be in the moment
Jen emphasises the importance of embracing the moment and being present.
Doing this will let you lead a richer, joy-filled life.
”Being present gets you out of your head and connects you to Source Energy,
which raises your frequency, which attracts things of like frequency to you.
And all of those high-frequency things and experiences are already here, just
waiting for you to join the party, all you have to do is shut up, show up, and
usher them in.”
Ego
It’s pretty clear that Jen is not a fan of the ego. She describes it as a false self, the self
that’s essentially being an asshole. It really only acts so sabotage our lives, our
happiness. And usually it rears it’s ugly head only because deep down, we don’t feel
worthy.
Jen refers to the Ego is the ‘Big Snooze’ - because she believes that if our ego’s are
acting up, its because we are still asleep and haven’t yet realised how amazing we
are and how wonderful the universe is.
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The ego limits your beliefs, it’s based on fear and is the reason we don’t step outside
our comfort zones, it constantly holds you back and restricts you from doing the
things you want to do the most.
Jen compares your ego to what she calls your true self or your ‘superhero self’. The
part that is based on love and joy, allows you to be proactive and productive and
believes that your potential is limitless, you can do and be whatever you want.
”The Big Snooze will do everything it can to stop you from changing and
growing, especially since you’re attempting to obliterate the very identity that
you and everyone else has come to know as ‘you.’”
Jen’s steps to taking control back, preventing the ugly ego are;
- stop at nothing
- have faith
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BE A BADASS, EMBRACE IT!
7. Forgive yourself!
Jen emphasises that you cannot control what people think or do, the only thing you
can control is what YOU say and do. People’s opinions of you says more about them
than it does you. Stay true to yourself!
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Her steps to finding this happiness are;
1. Start NOW. Don’t waste time worrying about whether what your doing is
right, just make the first move!
3. Don’t necessarily mix it up too much. If you love it, don’t question it, you
don’t have to be different.
4. Remember that we all evolve, you don’t necessarily have only one true
calling, you can change career paths. It’s OK.
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TAKE IT FURTHER!
Meditate
Something that Jen highly recommends is meditation. So many people worry about
how to meditate, have you done it for long enough? Were you in the right position?
Did your mind wander too much?
Jen suggests you stop worrying about how your doing it and just start meditating.
There’s no right or wrong. But she recons, that starting, will change your life. So give
it a go!
”Positive thinking is key. Our thoughts are the most powerful tools we’ve got.
Through our thoughts we create our realities.”
Jen says that it’s only after you change your thinking, that things change. We often sit
here thinking that if only something changes, then we’ll be able to be more positive.
But really, you have to think positively FIRST, then changes will over. Trust the process
and believe you can.
”If you want to attract good things and feelings into your life, send
awesomeness out to everyone around you. It can be as simple as leaving a
dollar more than you normally would every time you tip. Or smiling,
complimenting people and making them laugh.”
Have gratitude
Gratitude, Jen describes, as much more than just manners or niceties, it’s a state of
being. She credits feeling awesome to being in a state of gratitude. Not only does it
make you feel good, but it actually strengthens your faith.
”Faith is having the audacity to believe in the not-yet seen. Faith is the muscle
you use when you decide to blast outside of your comfort zone and transform
your life into something that’s practically unrecognizable to you in your
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present reality. Faith smothers your fear of the unknown. Faith allows you to
take risks. Faith is the stuff of “leap and the net will appear.”
Forgive or Fester
We all know that forgiveness is hard, but Jen identifies forgiveness, as an act of
looking after yourself, it’s not at all about the person you need to forgive. By allowing
yourself to eliminate the negative feelings you may have had, it means you put
yourself first and allow yourself to be happy and free from those thoughts. Don’t
hold onto feelings of anger, resentment or hurt, you have to let go and move on.
Don’t let someone else be responsible for your happiness.
” It’s about putting your desire to feel good before your desire to be right. It’s
about taking responsibility for your own happiness instead of pretending it’s
in somebody else’s hands. “
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HOW TO GET OVER YOUR OWN B.S
We get to choose and experience our own reality, it comes down to making a choice
Jen describes, making a choice to create an life you want to live, let go of things that
don’t serve you well, any negativity or pessimism, and change your reality to one
filled with joy and happy experiences.
”Most of the time it’s not lack of experience that’s holding us back, but rather
the lack of determination to do what we need to do to be successful. We put
so much energy into coming up with excuses why we can’t be, do, or have the
things we want, and designing the perfect distractions to keep us from our
dreams—imagine how far we’d get if we just shut up and used all that energy
to go for it instead?”
Jen highlights procrastination as one of the key ways you constantly self-sabotage.
Procrastination is simply another way to let excuses get in the way of what you really
want. If you are serious about living a better life, you have to stop procrastinating.
”All it takes to turn the fear factor around is learning to be comfortable in,
instead of terrified of, the unknown. And this is done through faith. On the
other side of your fear is your freedom.”
Mirrors
Jen explains that those who you consider the closest to you, are essentially a mirror
of yourself, they reflect how much (or little) you love and respect yourself.
”Your reality is created by what you focus on and how you choose to interpret
it. This goes for everything, including the things you focus on about the
people in your world.”
Jen believes that people come into your life for a reason, and you into theirs for a
reason. You need to see how you can help them grow and develop as a person and
how they can help you in return. Seek the beauty in people, and they will seek and
celebrate the beauty in you.
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GET OUT THERE AND KICK ASS
”So often, we pretend we’ve made a decision, when what we’ve really done is
signed up to try until it gets too uncomfortable. Nobody gets to the top of the
mountain without falling on his face over and over again. The only failure is
quitting. Everything else is just gathering information.”
Money
Jen acknowledges, that in todays world, if you really want to do something big, make
drastic changes and better your life, you’re likely going to have to spend some
money. Whether it’s money you’ve been saving up, getting a loan, racking up a
credit card bull or borrowing from friends and family, do it. Do whatever it takes to
change your life. It’s scary when it means parting with money but it’s about having
faith in the process and following your dreams.
”This is about taking a leap of faith into a new realm that you strongly desire
to be in, demanding of yourself that you rise to the occasion and start living
your damn life already.”
Jen emphasises the importance on balancing the strength of your faith versus your
fear, you have to have faith in the universe, and that has to outweigh your fear of
failure. Essentially, in the words of Jen, you need to surrender to the universe.
Too often, we think that we need to try and take charge of the situation (fear
based thinking) instead of having faith and gratitude and allowing The
Universe to deliver (love based thinking). In short, we think we can do a better
job of manifesting than The Universe can.”
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Do it
Jen discusses how too often, people want change, they can invest in it, both time
and money, but they still don’t follow through and make things happen. Jen
recognises, that obviously, the people that don’t follow through, didn’t really want is
as much as they said they did.
You have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone, take risks, and continue
to follow through if you want to reap the benefits. Challenge yourself, grow and
develop, always be moving forward, never stay stationary, never get comfortable.
”Give yourself the permission and the means, to be who you are
REGARDLESS OF WHAT ANYBODY ELSE THINKS OR BELIEVES IS POSSIBLE.”
”You are powerful. You are loved. You are surrounded by miracles. Believe,
really believe that what you desire is here and available to you. And you can
have it all.”
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CONCLUSION
Key Takeaways
- Don’t let your ego get in the way.
- Always be positive
- Love yourself
- Don’t let money hold you back, get it wherever you can
- Just start now, take the first step to transforming your life!
Further Reading
Ryan Holiday’s book, Ego is the Enemy is a great read about how when pursuing
success and our goals, we mustn’t let our ego get in the way and hold us back.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F^ck by Mark Manson is a great book that in many
ways agrees with Jen Sincero’s points but also challenges some. Manson makes us
realise that not everything in life is always great, and he aims to teach you that you
can suffer better, with more meaning and compassion.
If you enjoy Jen Sincero’s attitude and approach to life, I think you’ll also really enjoy
#GIRLBOSS by Sophia Amoruso as she tells her journey to becoming a girl boss.
The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwatrz is a great read that focuses on teaching
you how to think in a way that can cultivate success, it’s all about mindset!
Guidelines is my eBook that summarises the main lessons from 33 of the best-selling
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Action Steps
1. Start meditating, start small and don’t put pressure on yourself. Try it for
2 weeks and see if you feel any different.
3. Look at the people you spend your time with, do they encourage self-
love and positivity? Or are they bringing you down.
5. If you liked this book summary, you can purchase the book on Amazon.
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