Arranged V Love Marriage
Arranged V Love Marriage
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History of
Arranged
Marriage
Myth
the concept of marriage of romantic love did
options
Regardless of their social status and position
women and men were expected to marry.
During that time, single women are thought
to be witches by their neighbors.
marriage portion.
After marriage, they were expected to run the
descents
Parents of the bride would ordinarily offer their daughter
to the son of a family of the same economic status.
mixing.
In Japan, arranged marriage was initially
Past: Taiwan
They would sell a young daughter to a
Modern: India
Parents will choose several possible
Modern: Pakistan
In certain tribal regions and rural areas
Modern: Pakistan
The second type is Watta satta
Urdu:
, literally give and take
Exchange brides between two groups of
LOVE
MARRIAGE
ADVANTAGES
Is build when the couple is dating
UNDERSTANDIN
G
Known
each
other
As mental preparation
When dispute arise, they will be able
to handle it
Prevent themselves from making
their partner angry.
happiness
freedom
Family
ties
DISADVANTA
GES
LOVE
1. Love by desiring
any other factors
Ex: beauty
Had not
chosen
wisely
Lack of support
from family
member
Tired of
each
other
Lose interest
Try to seek the company of another
person
Why ?
ADVANTAGES
AND
DISADVANTAGES
OF ARRANGED
MARRIAGE
Marriage is built on a
DISCOVERY AND
DEVELOPMENT
OF LOVE EVERY
DAY
DISADVANTAGES
OF ARRANGED
MARRIAGE
Arranged marriages are the cultural norm for many Muslims across the
world. Men and women who are ready to get married may meet their
future spouse through family or friends. Generally, since, Muslims do
not date in the popular Western cultural sense.
Forcing a woman to marry a man means that there was no qubul, this
is the right of a woman, regardless of her age. Without it the marriage
is a sham, like living in zin.
In the Shfi'i and anbali school of thought- the majority of scholars are of the view that if a woman is married off without her
consent, then the marriage contract is invalid, because it is a forbidden contract which cannot be validated.
According to the anafi school of thought, the contract is dependent upon the woman's acceptance. If she gives her consent then
it is valid, otherwise she may annul it. See al-Mughni, 7/364; Fath al-Bri, 9/194
Ibn Muflih al-anbali (may Allh have mercy on him) said: The parents have no right to force their son to marry someone he does
not want.
Shaykh Ibn Tayymiyyah said: Neither of the parents has the right to force their son to marry someone whom he does not want, and
if he refuses, he is not sinning by disobeying them, because no one has the right to force him to eat food he finds off-putting when
there is food that he wants to eat, and marriage is like that and more so. Food that one is forced to eat is unpleasant for a short
while, but a forced marriage lasts for a long time, and it harms a person and he cannot leave it. Al-Adb al-Shar'iyyah (1/447)
Concerning a minor
According to Mufti E. Desai, since Islm does not allow a minor to conduct business or make
financial decisions for himself or herself, a marital contract of a minor falls under the same
premise. However Islm does not give a father the right to use his children's wealth without
their permission, so how can he be allowed to decide, without the daughter's permission, how
her body (which is more important than her wealth) is to be used, specially when she disagrees.
Concerning a young woman or a widow or divorcee
Abu Hurayrah reported that the Prophet said: A previously married woman may not be married
without her command, and a never married woman may not be married without her permission; and
permission for her is to remain silent. (Al-Bukhri, Muslim, and others) The exegis of this Prophetic
tradition is that if she does not speak up that means that she is giving consent. A wali (close male
relative) is a command-executor in the case of the previously married woman, and is permissionseeker in the case of a never-married woman.
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