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    This document discusses differences in communication styles between men and women. It finds that from a young age, boys tend to socialize in groups and value teamwork, while girls prefer one-on-one interactions and value close friendships. In conversations, men tend to avoid eye contact and view opposition as a way to explore ideas, while women use eye contact to connect and see opposition as confrontational. The document provides tips for improving cross-gender communication, such as men giving more compliments and women being more direct.

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    Gender Communication

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    This document discusses differences in communication styles between men and women. It finds that from a young age, boys tend to socialize in groups and value teamwork, while girls prefer one-on-one interactions and value close friendships. In conversations, men tend to avoid eye contact and view opposition as a way to explore ideas, while women use eye contact to connect and see opposition as confrontational. The document provides tips for improving cross-gender communication, such as men giving more compliments and women being more direct.

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    Gender Communication

    Differences:
    Men are from Mars. Women
    are from Venus, and Im your
    interpreter.

    Childhood Study: Development

    of social skills begins at a very early age.


    BOYS:

    group-oriented
    teamwork= strong group
    of friends

    GIRLS:

    individual-oriented
    one-on-one talking= one
    or two best friends

    Differing Perceptions:

    STATUS LENS:

    CONNECTION LENS:

    (males)

    (females)

    looking for differences to


    achieve status
    young boys try to one up
    each other
    stronger personalities give
    orders= leader=
    HIGHER STATUS
    weaker personalities accept
    orders= subordinate=
    LOWER STATUS

    look for similarities to


    achieve connection
    try to achieve equality

    Communication: LISTENING
    RITUALS

    Parallel Chairs Study: when speaking, boys kept chairs side by


    side, but girls turned their chairs to face each other.

    MEN:

    avoid direct eye contact


    are still listening,
    although they may not
    look directly at you
    misinterpret direct eye
    contact as
    confrontational or
    flirtatious

    WOMEN:

    direct, face-to-face gaze


    used to focus on
    connection
    misinterpret no eye
    contact as a sign of not
    listening

    VERBAL COMMUNICATION:
    CONVERSATION RITUALS

    not to be taken literally


    tools used for establishing friendly
    connections to facilitate
    communication

    example: How are you?... Fine,


    thanks

    CONVERSATION RITUALS
    RITUAL OPPOSITION:

    RITUAL APOLOGY:

    (MEN)

    (WOMEN)

    boys play fight


    playing Devils Advocate
    used NOT to challenge but
    rather to explore possibilities

    Women misinterpret oppostion


    as:
    indication of bad idea or
    mistake
    personal attack

    Im not sorry Im sorry


    means Im sorry that
    happened
    NOT a personal apology
    used as a transition in
    conversation

    Men misinterpret apology as:


    disorganization
    incompetence

    CONVERSATION RITUALS

    MEN:
    use playful insults
    and teasing
    related to the
    status dimension

    WOMEN:
    use compliments
    related to the
    connection
    dimension

    SMALL TALK: Greasing the


    Wheels

    REPORT TALK:

    RAPPORT TALK:

    (men)

    (women)

    focuses on information-details, statistics


    sports and hobbies

    talking about personal


    subjects in order to give
    sense of connection
    Hows your family?

    GIVING ORDERS:

    DIRECT:

    INDIRECT:

    (men)

    (women)

    dictate orders
    not bossy or offensive

    Women misinterpret direct orders


    as:
    impoliteness
    overbearing

    use strategies not to appear


    bossy
    could we do this
    do you think its
    possible
    I would do it this way

    Men misinterpret indirect


    approach as:
    not being managerial
    easier to say NO

    THE DOUBLE BIND FOR


    WOMEN:
    Expectations for how an authority figure should speak is
    based upon men in authority.

    If a woman is direct (masculine) she appears


    pushy or bossy.

    If woman is indirect (feminine) she appears


    incompetent.

    Quick Tips:
    FOR MEN:

    give compliments more


    freely
    use praise to temper
    criticism
    asks for anothers
    opinion to make them
    feel included

    FOR WOMEN:

    give ideas outright


    without disclaimer
    be more concrete when
    giving orders

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