Family

SENSE OF FAMILY
The common notion of the Filipino Family

Traditional View of Family
 Composed of father, mother and child/children.
 Extended family - includes other members of the
family (e.g. grandfather/mother, uncle/aunt etc.)

 Combination of two or more nuclear families
What is the Filipino Family today?
Modern and Present View of Family
 Single parents
 Live-in arrangements
 Domestic partnerships of homosexuals (LGBTQ)
 Blended Families/“Stepfamilies”
 Couples opting to delay having a child or choosing
not to have any. (Cruz, G., 2014).

 The society changes, the technology advances and
so as the family.
 The Filipino Family is in Transition (Cruz, G.,
2014)
Challenges Confronting the
Filipino Family Today
Migration (Local and Foreign)

 (Nuclear) Families have become smaller
 ‘Seasonal Orphans’
Changing Role of Women

 More women are becoming breadwinners and head
of households
 ‘Househusbands’ or ‘housebands’
of a child
 Gadgets become the substitute parent.
Effects of Mass Media
 Exposure to violent crimes brings negative effects
to the development and growth of children.

 Socialization in the family is neglected
 ‘Millennials’ as ‘digital generation’.

Common notion of a Nuclear Family & Self-
Identification
 It is not about the composition, what matters is the
quality of relationship.
 Family is getting to be more common among
groups no matter if they do not fit the traditional

definition of what a family is.
Changes in Family Composition
 Emergence of solo parent family –
Approximately 14‐15% of the population are solo
parents (DOH‐NIH, 2012)
– 7.5% of Filipinoyouth15‐24were raised by solo
parents i.e. father only or mother only (YAFS, 2013)
Conflict with parents and guardians
 Common reasons for arguing with your parents,
guardians or carers are:
 your opinions and values are different from theirs
 poor communication: you misunderstand each other and jump to
conclusions
 you want more independence than they're willing to give you
 you feel like you’re being treated like a kid
 they don’t respect your privacy
 massive changes are happening in the family: separation, new
baby, moving
 there’s pressure or expectations regarding your friends, exams,
chores, even your personal style.
Conflict with brothers and sisters
 Things that can make these conflicts

harder to deal with are:
 differences in age
 jealousy, or feeling like you're not good
enough
 lack of space
 step-brothers, step-sisters or step-families
 competitiveness over study, sport or other
achievements.
How to deal with conflict
 Don't sweat the small stuff- If it's something
small, like teasing, try not to get wound up.
 Count to 10- walking away and counting to ten
can be a good way to avoid saying something
you’ll regret later
 Get some space- it can be good to get some head
space either with friends or by yourself
 Talk it over with someone else
Tips for talking it out
 Pick a time when no one is angry, upset, stressed or
tired.
 Choose a place where you can sit and talk without
being interrupted.
 Be willing to compromise, and come up with
options you're willing to accept.

 Avoid being sarcastic or verbally attacking the other
person.
Tips for talking it out
 Be honest. If something really upsets you, let the
other person know.
 Listen to what the other person has to say, and
accept that their point of view might be just as valid

as yours. (This is easier said than done, but it’s well
worth it!)
 Once you’ve settled on something you can agree to,
stick to it – maybe for a set period of time.

 If talking feels impossible, try writing an email or a
letter, explaining how you feel.

Some ways to develop trust in your family are:
 Show your parents that you can be

trusted
 Allow people in your family to make
amends.
 Everyone must learn how to say “I’m
sorry.”
 Be truthful and honest about how you
feel when talking to your parents

PROCESSING
 What constitutes your family?
 Who do you consider as part of your family?
 How are you going to adapt to these changes?
 What impact has separation/ modern day living had on the
family?
 How can we fill our family life with love?
 What role does the family play in your education and
development?
 Describe your own family and the importance of having a
family.
Activity: Letter To My Parents/
Guardian/Carer
Compose a letter to your

parents/guardian/carer
and tell them how you
feel.
SYNTHESIS
 Our family teaches us how to function in the world.
It should provide love and warmth to all of its
members. A strong family gives its members the
support they need to make it through life’s toughest
spots.
How to build a strong family relationship?
Strong families have good communication.

 Give the person your full attention, turn off the TV
or put down what you are doing.

 Focus on what the person is telling you -- rather
than thinking about your reaction or response to

what is being said. (There will be time for that.)
 Listen for how the other person is feeling and relay
back what you think they were saying and how

they are feeling.
Use “I” messages rather than “You” messages when talking.
 talk with "I" ― messages as much a possible.

―I am feeling…. (upset) when I…(am being
compared to someone).
How to build a strong family relationship?
 Encourage all family members to share their

thoughts and feelings
 Strong families spend time together.
 Look for opportunities to connect with your parents.
 Strong families handle their conflict fairly.
 Strong Families Develop Trust.
sources
 http://extension.udel.edu/factsheets/building-strong
-family-relationships
/
 http://www.acup.org.ph/downloads/speech/2018/14
%20Mr.%20Mark%20Godwin%20B.%
20Villareal.pdf
 https://
au.reachout.com/articles/conflict-with-family

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SENSE OF FAMILY

The common notion of the Filipino Family

 Extended family - includes other members of the

family (e.g. grandfather/mother, uncle/aunt etc.)

 Domestic partnerships of homosexuals (LGBTQ)

 Couples opting to delay having a child or choosing

not to have any. (Cruz, G., 2014).

Migration (Local and Foreign)

Changing Role of Women

to the development and growth of children.

 ‘Millennials’ as ‘digital generation’.

groups no matter if they do not fit the traditional

 Things that can make these conflicts

options you're willing to accept.

accept that their point of view might be just as valid

stick to it – maybe for a set period of time.

letter, explaining how you feel.

 Show your parents that you can be

feel when talking to your parents

Compose a letter to your

Strong families have good communication.

or put down what you are doing.

than thinking about your reaction or response to

back what you think they were saying and how

 talk with "I" ― messages as much a possible.

 Encourage all family members to share their

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