Dear Annie: Confessing to work crush while wife remains oblivious

Sticky work situation.

Dear Annie: I have been employed at this local government agency for years and have had the pleasure of working closely with “Catie” for the past four years. While we are not in the same department, we have collaborated on numerous projects and have developed a close friendship.

Over the course of our friendship, I have come to care deeply for Catie. I have hinted at my feelings on occasion, and she has been receptive to them. However, I have never taken any physical advances, as we are both happily married.

Recently, I have been feeling dishonest with her by not directly discussing my feelings for her. I believe that it is important to be open and honest with her about what I have been going through, and I would like to make a confession to her in order to clear my mind and conscience.

I hope that you can provide me with some guidance on how to approach this situation in a respectful manner. -- Mutual Caring Friends

Dear Mutual Caring Friends: Interesting that you care so much about honesty with Catie, yet you deny your wife that same courtesy. If you really want to clear your conscience, drop the work crush and start focusing on your “happy marriage.”

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