Table of Contents
Introduction xi
#1 Places We Go When Things Are uncertain or Too Much
Stress, Overwhelm, Anxiety, Worry, Avoidance, Excitement, Dread, Fear, Vulnerability 2
#2 Places We Go When We Compare
Comparison, Admiration, Reverence, Envy, Jealousy, Resentment, Schadenfreude, Freudenfreude 16
#3 Places We Go When Things Don't Go as Planned
Boredom, Disappointment, Expectations, Regret, Discouragement, Resignation, Frustration 38
#4 Places We Go When It's Beyond Us
Awe, Wonder, Confusion, Curiosity, interest, Surprise 56
#5 Places We Go When Things Aren't What They Seem
Amusement, Bittersweetness, Nostalgia, Cognitive Dissonance, Paradox, Irony, Sarcasm 68
#6 Places We Go When We're Hurting
Anguish, Hopelessness, Despair, Sadness, Grief 88
#7 Places We Go with Others
Compassion, Pity, Empathy, Sympathy, Boundaries, Comparative Suffering 114
#8 Places We Go When We Fall Short
Shame, Self-Compassion, Perfectionism, Guilt, Humiliation, Embarrassment 132
#9 Places We Go When We Search for Connection
Belonging, Fitting In, Connection, Disconnection, Insecurity, Invisibility, Loneliness 152
#10 Places We Go When the Heart Is Open
Love, Lovelessness, Heartbreak, Trust, Self-Trust, Betrayal, Defensiveness, Flooding, Hurt 182
#11 Places We Go When Life Is Good
Joy, Happiness, Calm, Contentment, Gratitude, Foreboding Joy, Relief, Tranquility 202
#12 Places We Go When We Feel Wronged
Anger, Contempt, Disgust, Dehumanization, Hate, Self-Righteousness 218
#13 Places We Go to Self-Assess
Pride, Hubris, Humility 240
Cultivating Meaningful Connection 249
Gratitude 275
Notes 277