Addiction And Recovery Quotes

“Not the world, not what’s outside of us, but what we hold inside traps us. We may not be responsible for the world that created our minds, but we can take responsibility for the mind with which we create our world.”
― Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

“I wanted a drink. There were a hundred reasons why a man will want a drink, but I wanted one now for the most elementary reason of all. I didn't want to feel what I was feeling, and a voice within was telling me that I needed a drink, that I couldn't bear it without it.

But that voice is a liar. You can always bear the pain. It'll hurt, it'll burn like acid in an open wound, but you can stand it. And, as long as you can make yourself go on choosing the pain over the relief, you can keep going.”
― Lawrence Block, Out on the Cutting Edge

“Someone who is trying to be sober is often trying to work out deeper emotional issues and is attempting to undo years of habitual behavior. When you reduce recovery to just abstinence, it simplifies what is really a much more complex issue.”
― Sasha Bronner

“You don't have to be our worst case, to be a worthy case.”
― Courtney Summers, The Project

“Quit while you’re ahead.
All the best gamblers do.”
― Baltasar Gracián y Morales

“Until you find out what you are running from, you will never figure out where you are going.”
― Joseph A, Meyering Sr

“If you don’t know how to self-love, if you were never taught how, like a lot of us were never taught how, then you will attempt to fill that void with all kinds of things.”
― Rachel D. Greenwell, How To Wear A Crown: A Practical Guide To Knowing Your Worth

“Sometimes, no matter how hard we try for someone and hope that they will get better in time – they never do. Abusive relationships shouldn’t have a key to your chambers of heart. Hold your key and keep it close. Don’t end up getting addicted to such pain or human beings – for that matter. You might not be Thor but they can surely be Loki & hold you prisoner to their trickster nature.”
― Sijdah Hussain, Red Sugar, No More

“Prostitution isn't illegal to protect women. Prostitutes would be much safer if it was legal. It's illegal to protect men. Men are addicted to sex. Sex is like heroin to men. If all women were allowed to charge admission to their pussy, they would have total control over men and it would cause a giant wealth transfer. Men would go broke and women would end up with all the money and power.”
― Oliver Markus Malloy, Inside The Mind of an Introvert

“Acceptance in the context of adult-to-adult relationships may mean simply acknowledging that the other is the way he or she is, not judging them and not corroding one’s own soul with resentment that they are not different. Acceptance does not mean saintly self-sacrifice or tolerating an eternity of broken promises and hurtful eruptions of frustration and rage.”
― Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

“Addiction is a battle between love and hate. My therapist was right about that.”
― Garry Crystal, Red Lights

“And like a baby, I didn't want to do the inner work for so long, because if a pill fixes it, well, that's easier, and that's what I was taught.”
― Matthew Perry, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing

“The value of sensuality is that it provides you with pleasure from the pain of itself.

Sensuality touches you with pain, but at the same time, it offers you a solution for that same pain. It’s just like racketeering: “Okay, if you pay me, I’ll make your problems go away, problems that I put on you so that you will pay me”. So you get extorted by your own sensuality, your own desires. Sensual desires hurt, and giving in to them will remove that hurt and reward you with more pleasure. It’s a win-win. Or so it seems, until you realize that the true win is to not be pressured by the desires in the first place. The win is not having to pay the racketeering thugs for your safety; the win is to not have the thugs pressure you at all.

The more you give in to the pressure of sensuality, the more you will have to give in since its nature can never be changed. The Nature of sensuality is that it hurts, burns, and pressures you.”
― Ajahn Nyanamoli Thero, Dhamma Within Reach: A Guide to Endurance, Patience and Wisdom

“God can free a thousand slaves, but he could have freed more if only they knew they were slaves.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“There is a God in heaven; and he is a
loving, caring, and compassionate God
who wants to help you.”
― Greg Schmalhofer, The Hope Recovery Devotional: There is Always Hope with God

“Your new found hope is not in just a wish or hope for good luck, but your hope is in the loving and all powerful God of the Bible.”
― Greg Schmalhofer, The Twelve Keys of Faith-Based Recovery: How to Be Successful in Recovery By Embracing Key Biblical Truths

“The Twelve Steps have helped many millions of people be successful in recovery and it is unmistakable that God and a spiritual relationship with God are key components of why The Twelve Steps have been so successful.”
― Greg Schmalhofer, The Twelve Steps of Recovery: Success in Recovery Through a Faith-Based Journey

“But I was still so often just a tourist in sobriety.”
― Matthew Perry

“The truth is, the path to skid row isn't always laced in crystal meth - there is no concrete path that leads to insanity. Crazy is really just you or me and one bad day that leads to several more bad days. It's those of us who were forgotten about. Those of us who couldn't get help in time. Those of us with a disease that was misdiagnosed.”
― Trevor Church, The Gospel According to a Basket-Case

“But she'd clawed her way out of addiction because she believed that she was destined for greater things than an undignified death slumped over a toilet cistern”
― Louise O'Neill, Idol

“What we can't control should not dictate the emotions we can control.”
― D.C. Hyden, The Sober Addict

“Constant Reminder - Constant Deterrent”
― D.C. Hyden, The Sober Addict

“When you're stoned, a month feels like a minute, but when it's leaving your system, a minute can last several years, maybe even the rest of your life.”
― Trevor Church, The Gospel According to a Basket-Case

“A recovery friend of mine once belonged to an AA group called “What’s Your Motivation?” She said she’d always ask herself that in situations where she had to say or do something she might regret, and she’d ask others as well. She asked me that once or twice. So, you start out by asking yourself that question when the situation arises, and a lot of time you realize there is no good motive behind the thing you want to do or say, so you don’t say it. You don’t do it. After a while, it becomes second nature.

Unfortunately, however, so many people out there are living their lives while untreated for their afflictions. Whether it’s addiction, including alcoholism, or a type of personality disorder, their behavior often stems from how they feel about themselves based on other people’s words and actions, things they had inadvertently taken on and clung to fiercely. They may have a desperate need for attention, validation, admiration, and respect. Maybe their delusions distort their perception of themselves and how others view them. They are so busy worrying about themselves that they are often oblivious to their motives and may not realize how little regard they have for others. In a genuine sense, they are fighting for themselves, but they’re not winning.

Many of us have lived that way once upon a time and, because of it, spent a copious amount of energy on damage control. Knowing we said something we shouldn’t have said or did something we shouldn’t have done and going into this anxiety-ridden desperation to save our “image”—an image that likely isn’t real but a delusion. When we should be more concerned about apologizing or making amends, we’re more obsessed with not wanting to be seen in a negative light and having to act in order to change the negative perception.

It takes recovery, healing, and time to learn that if you are intent on doing the right thing, doing right by people, and having everyone’s best interests at heart, you’ll know how to react and respond to things. And if you ever say or do something you regret, you simply say you were wrong and apologize.

Empathy for others and for ourselves is what makes it possible. It makes us care about how we treat people and the effect it’s having on not only them but on our lives and the lives of anyone who cares about us. We eventually understand that how we treat people is just as important as catering to our own needs.

I think it’s important to understand what made us a certain way in life and to acknowledge that, but then we have to fix it. It becomes our job and responsibility to heal that so that we grow and change. Too many people never get to a point where they can see it, let alone understand it, so those of us who do are quite fortunate.”
― D.K. Sanz

“Addiction to evil habits is a surrender to Satan's grip, a rebellion against God's love, and a sacrifice of one's life to the altar of destruction. When we succumb to addictive habits, we relinquish our freedom, our relationships, and our very souls to the enemy of our souls. But, there is hope in God's redeeming grace, which can set us free and restore us to a life of purpose and victory.”
― Shaila Touchton

“Spiritual exploration ploughs the same ground but is less concerned with ‘fixing’ or improving things than with rediscovering what is whole and has not been absent, just obscured.”
― Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

“Don't confuse shame with guilt…Shame says, 'I am the mistake,' while guilt says, 'I made the mistake.' You made a mistake, but you are not a mistake.”
― Abraham Verghese

“Sex, drugs 'n' rock n roll, ya dig?”
― Nicci Boots, Bad Luck Boots: A Memoir

“Uh, because then I would definitely relapse. There would be no one to... perform sanity for.”
― Rufi Thorpe, Margo's Got Money Troubles

“An addicts brain engages in all manner of acrobatics to justify her idol.”
― Ashley Lande, The Thing That Would Make Everything Okay Forever: Transcendence, Psychedelics, and Jesus Christ