Performative Quotes

“It all had to be squeezed and squeezed again, to provide a thrill, to provide enjoyment. What did people mean, with their simply determined enjoying of themselves?”
― D.H. Lawrence, Lady Chatterley’s Lover

“I'd rather be at Wragby, where I can go about and be still, and not stare at anything or do any performing of any sort. This tourist performance of enjoying oneself is too hopelessly humiliating: it's such a failure.”
― D.H. Lawrence, Lady Chatterley’s Lover

“For if there are (at a venture) seventy-six different times all ticking in the mind at once, how many different people are there not - Heaven help us _ all having lodgement at one time or another in the human spirit? Some say two thousand and fifty two. So that it is the most usual thing in the world for a person to call, directly they are alone...Come, come! I'm sick to death of this particular self. I want another. But it is not altogether plain sailing either...these selves of which we are built up, one on top of another, as plates are piled up on a waiter's hand, have attachments elsewhere, sympathies, little constitutions and rights of their own...so that one will only come if it is raining....another if you can promise it a glass of wine - and so on...”
― Virginia Woolf

“Allyship born of heroism- not altruism- will ultimately be performative and harmful.”
― Jamie Arpin-Ricci

“Selective solidarity exposes the self-serving impulse to bolster ones ego (and ease ones conscience), all while avoiding the necessarily difficult and costly practices of allyship for the cheap knock-off of performative compassion.”
― Jamie Arpin-Ricci

“You may think we are called to holy things that involve praying on your knees and going to church. And maybe we are. But I haven't known God to regulate holiness.”
― Cole Arthur Riley, This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us

“I dislike that kind of man. He has the Chaplin Disease; that particular combination of arrogance and timidity sets my teeth on edge. Like all people with timid personalities his arrogance is unlimited. Anybody who speaks quietly and shrivels up in company is unbelievably arrogant. He acts shy, but he loves himself; a very tense situation. It's people like me who have to carry on and pretend to be modest. To me, it's the most embarrassing thing in the world - a man who presents himself at his worst to get laughs, in order to free himself from his hang-ups.”
― Orson Welles, My Lunches with Orson