Is that a bad idea?

Sex has fallen by the wayside. I think she is hoping this holiday will change things, but I'm already worried about the pressure to perform...

"Sometimes adversity brings people closer together and, during hardship, sex can soothe in a way that kind words can't. It's not a cure-all, though..."

It is almost impossible to feel desire for someone you don't trust

Sleeping together keeps you connected and obviously increases the opportunities for spontaneous sex

"Bereavement affects everyone differently, but it is not uncommon for people who are grieving to seek physical intimacy as a way to feel connected, comforted and less alone."

"Sex headaches are not common, but are well documented and well researched. Men are nearly twice as likely to have them as women and they can occur at any age."

"When someone starts camping in your head, it often means that you are camping in their head too. It always begins very innocently..."

My girlfriend and I are in our early 30s and our sex life has dwindled massively. We’ve only been together for two years, living together for one.

"It sounds as though, having spent the past 10 years prioritising your children's needs over your own, some part of you is afraid that they will judge you for enjoying yourself."

"Like all new medications, Ozempic has various side effects, the most common being nausea, vomiting, stomach pain, diarrhoea and constipation, but recently there have been rumblings about its impact on libido and sexual function."

'How do we make sure we don't let things drift too long?'

"There is no consensus on what is the right amount of noise to make during sex, but most people consider some to be a valuable form of communication."

'Throuples' seeking professional therapy are changing the face of traditional marriage counselling as demand for three-way therapy sessions rises, says one Cork-based practitioner

"Doing something you have not done for a long time is always scary, but it can help to break it down into steps."

"You feel exhausted by your wife's determination to reinvigorate your sex life, but her new-found energy and enthusiasm is not an unusual response to the empty nest."

She's suggested watching it together or incorporating things she's seen into our sex life

I feel sad at the thought of never having the kind of sex I've fantasised about

The term 'friends with benefits' is often misused. Most of the time, the people involved are not actually interested in being friends, they are only interested in finding someone to have casual sex with.

"...[chemotherapy] can cause nerve damage which can interfere with sexual function. Although sexual problems are usually at their worst during and right after treatment, they can also begin after it ends."

Infidelity rocks a marriage to its core, and rebuilding it can take years

Quickies are a great way to remain sexually connected. They offer passion, intensity and spontaneity

He has become obsessed with his hobbies and he seems less interested in spending time together than before

"Often, when there is mismatched desire, it is assumed that the woman is the one who doesn't want sex, but low libido affects just as many men."

"People don't suddenly double in size for no reason — serious weight gain can often be traced to chronic stress or other changes in a person's life"

Who can tell whether people who have more sex have happier relationships, or people who have happier relationships have more sex?

"Unless a couple make a mutually agreed decision to open up their relationship, sleeping with someone else throws a hand grenade into any marriage, and people often react in strange ways."

'It's definitely not make-up sex, I'm clear I want to move on, so why can't I stop?'

'My husband and I are doing Dry January and potentially the months beyond'

When we get to bed he says he's tired but then reaches for his screen

"That you and your wife are questioning your routine means you have already made a start. Making the decision to change things is half the battle, and it's fantastic you are both in agreement."

Being asked to deliver any kind of sexual narrative when it does not come naturally can feel awkward

"Why can't Stephen's Day morning be a time for lazy lovemaking? Even if you don't feel particularly sexy, get naked and get close."

"Being considerate and not putting her under pressure is the best way to build trust, and if you are patient, intercourse is likely to happen in time."

"There is, I suppose, a very small chance that your partner is trying to boost your already healthy body confidence by giving you "exquisite" underwear, but it is a very small chance. It is much more likely that he googled "what to get a lady for her big birthday", and hey presto!"

"Couples with young children tend to acknowledge the big changes in their lives, but they often don't recognise the cumulative impact of all the minor ones."

The sex I have with my husband of 17 years has actually improved, as I find myself thinking of my colleague instead

Our sex life is suffering. What do we do?

Are there any good rules we can set ourselves from the start?

"Stress, which has a negative impact on libido, is not something your wife can automatically switch off when she comes home at night."

How do I lose the pounds without losing what they've done for our sex life?

He claimed I've always been selfish in bed, expecting him to do most of the work

You may find that when you start discussing the specifics of a real interaction, as opposed to a Feeld fantasy, the idea loses some of its appeal.

Dirty talk requires confidence and experience, and in their absence it is destined to sound embarrassingly unconvincing