I don’t want to write this but here I am, writing. Now Page 6 and US Weekly can get those quotes they want and you guys can get the truth.
I found out the same way you guys did: in the tabloids. I never left a voicemail for the other woman. I called Jimmy and he confessed to me that he had exchanged lewd photos with this woman over the course of several months and a physical relationship never existed. He paid her off to protect me so I’d never find out.
Yet here I am writing about it.
Do I believe him? I don’t know. Because I don’t trust him anymore. Physical or not, he still had an affair and he admits this to me.
I’m a simple girl. I wanted a solid marriage. I’m as loyal as they come and I wanted the vows we made when we exchanged our rings to be acted upon. Now my wedding ring symbolizes fraud.
I refuse to be humiliated by this.
Marriage is hard, we’ve been through our ups and downs, I’ve talked about it openly. A relationship takes two but it doesn’t take two to cheat.
I did nothing wrong, I don’t deserve this. I did nothing except be pregnant with our twins and try to have a healthy pregnancy. So what is so broken in him to propel him to do this to me? To us? It wasn’t one mistake, one lapse in judgement. I saw the texts – each one represents his decision to throw our marriage in the trash. Why did he self-sabotage? And who sends nudies? Doesn’t everyone know better than this in 2019? What drives someone to self-destruct in such a way?
I don’t care about my stupid massive house, I don’t care about my new car, I don’t care about my diamonds. What does any of that mean when I can’t have the most basic needs met? It means nothing. Smoke and mirrors.
I love him. How can I turn my feelings around so quickly? How can one person decide to utterly ruin me? It’s not fair. I sob so much my face stings from the salt from my tears. I am exhausted. My poor kids aren’t getting their devoted mother. And it’s only been 36 hours.
And all of this could not have come at a worse time. Again, something I wasn’t ready to share but here I am sharing it: we are worried our son, Hart, might have a neurological disorder. It’s been the most trying last couple months of my entire life and we still don’t have answers. Sometimes I leave the house after the kids go to bed so I can drive around and ugly cry in the dark with no one around. Now I have this to deal with: my one true love betraying me in the most disgusting and public way possible.
I feel sad. Oh, do I feel so sad! I feel abandoned. Lonely. My best friend, my number one person has lied to me. Who is he? Do I even know?
In the days of digital media what are we if we don’t have our reputation? Every job is dependent upon an unsoiled reputation. What was he thinking?
I am a victim, but I am not defined by this. I need space to heal.
Ultimately, I have hope our marriage can recover.
I do not fault any other person except my husband. There are so many people out there with bad intentions and it’s our responsibility to ignore and rise above. One slimy person doesn’t make another person cheat. And there are a million more slimy people to take “slimy person #1’s” place.
Marriage is a choice, every. damn. day. On the days I hate him, on the days I want to run from him, on the days I get approached by some hot dude on instagram luring me with trips or money or whatever the hell else the slimy people do. So yes, marriage is a choice on the bad days. And on the good days marriage is easy and beautiful.
No one said it would be easy, I just didn’t think it would be this hard.
My heart feels for you! Your beautiful family will prevail, whatever the outcome. Thank you for your openness. You are one of my role models! Much love Meghan
Wish I could just give you the biggest hug and we can cry together while binge eating your favorite stuff to eat then go to a place and release all your anger and just break a ton of stuff or light it on fire. Your choice and I’ll totally go along with it ha ha ha.
But.. on a more serious note. Thanks for opening up. It must be hard to have your private life all out in the open. Thanks for being so real and raw about your feelings and the situation. Sending you lots of positive energy for your son! As a mother, when something is wrong with your child and you can’t just snap your fingers and fix it can be a horrible feeling. So hang in there and eventually you will get your answers. As to everything else…. you know you are a great wife, you don’t need no scrub messing it all up.
Sending you so much love!
My heart breaks for you and your fam. All I can say is.. I am praying for you all as family, praying for healing, hope and forgiveness. Take it day by day, trust that their is ALWAYS light at the end!
I wish I could just give you a great big hug and tell you it’s gonna be ok. It’a going to suck for a while. Make sure to take care of yourself. Go stay with babies at a friend or relatives house for a while to get away from the crazy. Do things that make you happy. Hang in their my friend. Prayers and love headed your way
This same thing happened to me last week. I was rocked to my core. I thought we were so solid and never dreamed it would happen. I know your sadness. I’m so sorry. I hope you can find the strength to heal your heart. Much love
Hmm…you presented yourself as very narcissistic and pushed him into having kids he did not seem to really want!
Sorry but it does take TWO to cheat, one to push the other person away causing them to look elsewhere for the needs to be met that are not being met at home!!
I despise women that cannot see what they did to contribute to the situation. Jim should have just dumped your ass before he let you bully him into having more children that he did not really want! You put him in an unattainable situation. He had a mental affair NOT a physical one!! You cannot really be that stupid as to ask “who sends undies, its 2019”, that’s right its 2019, ALOT of people do it!
Instead of just blaming Jim for everything, why not look in the mirror long and hard and look past your narcissism, and see how your behaviours and attitude and treatment left something unfulfilled in jim that he looked elsewhere. Yes he is responsible for his mental (NOT PHYSICAL) affair, he should have just dumped you long before you bullied him into having more kids!
Wow, just wow! Judgmental much? I hope those closest to you don’t see this side of your personality. Imagine if you’d trash someone you’ve never met, someone who openly shared a personal struggle with you, and then let you trash their life, imagine what you say to those you are comfortable around.
I hope you never have to experience her pain. I hope you never let a strangers words cut you deep. I also hope she never sees the hate you have in your heart!
I’m sure your world is a lonely place. I hope you find the joy your are obviously missing. Maybe one day you can find some joy and compassion for others.
Gargramel, you , my dear, are an idiot.
Spoken like a true infidel, someone who’s cheated and can’t be trusted and must blame others for their shortcomings. When one partner cheats, it is THAT person who is to blame. Period.
Hang in there girl and concern yourself with you and your beautiful family, dont let your personal life be on display for all to judge, especially the press and all the he said she said BS, just say, no comment, or the press will tear you and Jim apart and that’s exactly what this tramp wants and is getting. Mums the word.
Ha! This is how a sham marriage plays out. You were in it for the attention and the money.
Now in your desperation, you’ve brought three kids into your scam. Sad indeed.
You’re beautiful and strong. Stronger than all of this. This is hard….you have to do the next thing. Every day. One day this will all be behind you it will mean you survived. Beautifully.
How brave, real and vulnerable of you to be so candid. You have expressed yourself so eloquently and collected. I am so very sorry this has happened to you, but you seem to be approaching it healthily and honestly (openly too, even when you do not have to be and owe NOTHING to the public). Hang in there, pray a lot and keep being you – a good and loyal person. Everything will unfold and heal in time as it should – you and your family WILL be OK one way or another. I am praying for you and your family and your son, Hart. One day at a time…
I am so sorry you’re going through this. Ignore the mean, snotty comments from haters.
It hurts, but you know what you have to do. Be strong for your babies. You have it in you. Dig deep.
Remember to take careful of yourself. I recommend therapy. For you. Find a good therapist and that will help you stay strong I’ve been through this and it’s not easy. My opinion about Jim is that he not self-sabotaging. He’s so used to being fawned over and fame, regular life isn’t enough for him. It’s not about you. Don’t take it on.
Take care of yourself, stay strong. Prayers for you.
Feeling your pain and betrayal. You said it. I know it. Been there. So very very sad and disgusted that another one of us has to go through this crap. Don’t try to make sense of a non sensual situation. You will go through all the phases but know you did nothing wrong.
This. Exactly this. The worst part is trying to “make sense” of it. There is none to be found. Also, as you already said this reflects not on you, but sadly on him. He chose this for himself and in turn you were merely in the path of his self loathing and self destruction – from that I wish all betrayed hearts could be spared, but life’s not fair. Head up sweet girl. You will get through this. Sending you all of the love.
Philippians4:6-7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Praying for you. Be wise in those you listen to and surround yourself with. God’s got this! And you will be stronger and wiser.
You are such example of love. The big picture is Jesus will return one day and that’s the only time everything will be perfect. Humans suck and we are in desperate need of our savior. He will give you strength, it’s nothing you did and you can’t fix it but the way you love and forgive (daily) heals you.
Meghan my heart aches for you and the children…tears are flowing as I write this. I truly believe you are an amazing & strong woman,great mother. You certainly dont need the upset & betrayal at a time when your baby has a problem! I’ll be praying for Hart and praying for God to give you peace,wisdom & strength through this emotional upheaval. I hope you’ll keep sharing the Joy’s of your life, your children, with us! We all live you & pray for the best for you. 😍😍 much love from St.Louis
💗Take a deep breath. One step, one minute, one hour and one day at a time, this all will pass and the reasons for the bumps will become clear. Hang in there, you are not alone.
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I wish you strength and peace. You will get through this.🙏🏻
I’m sorry Meghan. I agree with everything you said, except one thing. He didn’t pay her off to “protect you”. He paid her off to protect himself. Don’t let him write that narrative. Under the circumstances nothing he did was for or about you. You deserve better but only you know what is best for your family. Best of luck.
Meghan, my heart is breaking and the tears won’t stop. I have been with my husband for 28 years, 5kids and 12 grandbabies. It has been 6months since I found out about my husband’s indiscretions. I still don’t have all the answers and you can only do what you want to do. My prayers are with you sweetie and may God give you the strength to move on and feel whole again.
I’m so sorry, Meghan. I found out my husband was having an affair just days before we celebrated our 20 year anniversary. The other woman messaged me and when she didn’t get a response, she FB messaged most of my friends. She blasted him and insulted me on social media…the kiss of death. I never had a chance to deal with this privately. I chose to forgive him and we have been in counseling. I’m four months in and I’m hopeful but it is hard. It was our oldest child’s senior year of high school and like you, I feel like I haven’t been the best mom I would’ve been. Prayers for you and your sweet family. I’m inspired by your confidence that you did nothing wrong because I have blamed myself so many times. You’re so on point that it was our basic right to have a faithful marriage. We did not deserve this! Thank you for sharing your story. It will help so many. Best wishes to you…you deserve a happy life with a faithful husband.
My heart is with you, I am so sorry that you have been forced to address such a personal situation in the public. You are brave for writing this.
Meghan,
You my dear are an amazing wife and mother. You will get passed this, get counseling for yourself and your marriage. As for Hart, God gave you this child for a reason, and he doesn’t make mistakes. You will also get through this also.
God has a purpose for all things, you may not understand now, but trust in him.
I pray you and your husband can get through this. What you decide to do is your business, do not let anyone judge you or your husband.
Hugs, love, and prayers
I feel so bad for you and your children. He is the one that is broken and I don’t think he can be fixed. Just try to protect yourself and your kids, please. He broke the vows not you, and nothing you could have done would have changed the outcome. You deserve loyalty and most of all respect. Do not settle for less than you deserve. All the best
Meghan, this is the most disrespectful thing a person can do in a relationship & I’m sorry you have to deal with it publicly. I hope you start seeing him for what he is & has been, before you met. You are a smart, beautiful woman & a wonderful mom…focus on yourself & your children. Healing will take time, take care of yourself 💖 you deserve much better
I agree. He’s cheated on every wife. It’s a shame they both put the wrong things to the front …fame, money, arm candy….
Praying for you girl! This is so hard.. I’m crying with you and I don’t even know you. The only thing I know is that the pain doesn’t last forever. You can do this!
Meghan, I’m so so sorry that you’re going through this. Please consider going to a marriage counselor to help you work through this. You can’t do it on your own. You Are under so much stress now with the uncertainty of your precious son’s health and just dealing with day to day parenting. Now, add this abhorrent behavior of your husband, can put you in so much despair that you need help to work through this. You’re a tough woman and will survive. Rely on your family and friends to help you as well. It takes a village to be supported by loving people who want the best for you. You WILL get through this. Now that your fans are praying for your continued strength and guidance during this very upsetting and dark time. Sending love and hugs to you and your precious babies.
Agree 100% – therapy therapy therapy – if you BOTH have the same end goal of staying together – & you BOTH give it your everything – you will get thru it and possibly come out even stronger as a couple!
I am so very sorry that you have to take this on because you deserve better. You are strong but when you are not find someone to take over and be weak. Care for yourself until your strength comes back. Facing this head on is incredibly brave and one day your children will know what an amazing, strong, committed, brace mother they have.
Meghan- sorry for what has happened it’s just awful. I am reaching out because I heard your son may have neurological issues. I want to help you and get him back on track as soon as possible. You may think I am crazy but my own son was vaccine injured and presented with neurological issues and motor issues as well. We are seeing a functional medicine doctor/naturopath doctor. Healing his gut with advanced TRS spray (one spray daily) genetic testing.. he has MTHFR genetic SNP which severely slows down his detox pathways, and we do supplements and probiotics. Obviously had to stop vaccinating him. In addition, we did cranial sacral fascial Therapy, PT/OT and tons of speech therapy. The more you can do before three the better! My son was allergic to all foods and now we have “outgrew” all but one, also severe eczema occurred which we are still working on. But please seek alternative advice! I know California is impossible with vaccine laws but your kids health is your number one!!
I’m sorry for your sons illness but please don’t blame this on vaccines. Antivaxers have gotten us in the trouble we are in today, they put everyone at risk.
Wonderful advice Breanne! So glad to hear others speaking out. We can deny and bury our heads but it doesn’t change anything. I know many that have taken this advice with amazing outcomes. Keep speaking up all the facts are out there if people will research and not let the cognitive dissonance get the best of them. It’s hard as hell to have to deal with a possible sick little one in the midst of personal heartache, but there are steps to help as you’ve said. Prayers for everyone!
Yes you are crazy. Only on the anti-vaccine BS! Diseases that were once eradicated are coming back but EVERYONE in jeopardy because they were led to believe vaccines caused problems that are simply not true. SOME may be allergic to a vaccine, just like some are allergic to milk. To believe everyone should stop vaccinations is criminal and very reckless! I’m sorry your child may have been allergic, but he would be in the less than 3% of vaccinated children. Do not spread reckless information that will kill other people’s children. Deal with your own “beliefs” individually and don’t enroll your children in any public education. It’s not fair to expose the rest.
Your information an therapies is so good and so helpful! I pray every single helpful therapy available will help Hart as well as your child. To have a sick child is heartbreaking. For that, I am so very sorry. It sounds like Hart’s cane at some point during gestation. He will have awesome care I’m sure because Meghan and Jim are awesome parents and love their three children SO much. Oh, he’s in trouble, but I have no doubt that he loves his children and Meghan very much. Satin is a horrible factor in every corner and Jimmy made some terrible mistakes. I do think if he would have wanted to have a full blown affair with total sexual activity he would have. He could have. He could have flown this woman all over the world to meet up with him, but he didn’t take it to that next level. It’s more like a pornography addiction, unfortunately the pornography had a dialogue between the slime and Jimmy. Thank heavens he had even a tiny bit of discretion to not let it go any further.
Be weak, be sad, be angry, be lost. In the end this will make you stronger. Let your emotions come and live them & feel them truly. When the time is right and you truly feel like a partial human again find forgiveness! Not for him, definitely not for him but for you. Then make your decisions. Be true to yourself and be strong once you’ve grieved this moment & take the time you need to feel it.
I am So sorry for what you are going thru. I’ve been thru a cheating spouse. You are incredibly strong to share this publicly and I hope Those awful magazines and social media trolls let you grieve and try to heal and repair your marriage in peace. I have Followed you from the RHOC days and you are always so honest and real and strong. This is God giving you some obstacles but I’m praying for you and hoping that your sweet baby will be okay and that you and Jimmy can repair your relationship. Keep moving forward and know that many of your fans are cheering for you from afar!
I’m so sorry Megan. From the bottom of my heart. You’re so strong for being transparent. You did nothing nothing wrong. I hope you can remember these things when things are tough. There’s no answer on how to go forward. But you are in my prayers tonight and your son. And your family. Sending all my love.
Megan I feel so bad for what you are going through. You are a very strong woman. I’ve seen in on The Real Housewives and I’ve seen it in your post. I love the way you present yourself. Your the real deal. I agree you have been taken advantage of and you deserve better. Take time and don’t pay attention to the hater’s. Only you know what you need to do and no one else. Your a beautiful woman and I hope your able to get pass this. Take care and know you do have people out here who love and support you 😘
Take a break..spend some time with your children and pray. Is love enough? Being betrayed by your spouse is almost impossible to forgive. Give yourself time to heal. Your family, friends and fans are behind you all the way. He needs a good smack upside his head.
Praying for Hart ❤☹…such a precious child.
Stay strong…
May God lead you on your road to forgiveness. Meghan love yourself and move on with or without Jim. YOU matter most. Your self worth is not defined by a man… Your babies need a strong loving mommy YOU CAN DO THIS. You will survive. So cry your eyes out and let go of the anger at your pace NOBODY walks in your shoes. One day at a time. Baby steps is all it takes. You are a strong woman BE BRAVE
There are no words. I am just sorry that you are hurt and going through this. You are 100% correct in everything you said. Marriage is work , hard work. I have been married for 23 years and have 2 beautiful boys. Look into your faith and allow your friends and family to be there for you. You will get through it. Maybe not today, tomorrow or next week. But you will find a way. God does not throw at you anything you cannot handle. You got this.
Meghan: Jim has always treated you like absolute dirt, and you know it. It was a shock to the system for all of us to see how callous he is towards you, how uninterested. You were simply too young to understand that people are NOT supposed to act this way, that there is ZERO ‘normal’ about it. Now, you know better. Even in the throes of this hideous betrayal, look how mild his phony ‘apology’ is. This is unbelievable.
I think you understand now that you need to BELIEVE what people show you.
Please leave him and never look back.
Where is your empathy for someone in such pain? The only one treating anyone “like dirt” is you. Be supportive or be quiet.
Who the hell are you to me, and how is it you get to tell anyone how to react? Back off. I stand by my comments.
@Lola, I commented something similar, too. As a viewer of RHOC, I felt he was checked out IMO. Maybe, he’ll finally wake up upon getting all the scrutiny. It doesn’t feel good to be JUDGED, POKED AT, “investigated”…but here it is..all out for the world to see. I hope she does was best for her and her 3 children. You know? My opinion don’t matter to her but its mine.
You’re such a strong mom + a kind, genuine person. I don’t have advice or anything to add really other than I wish you and your children all the best and you definitely didn’t deserve this. One time I misunderstood a comment you made about formula and your explanation was so kind. I totally had misunderstood. You field so much criticism from strangers you have been so kind to share your life with sometimes I can’t even imagine how hard that pressure is. You’ve always remained graceful and acted with class and dignity and really I’m just so sad reading this know that lots of people care and are there for you
You’re right Lola we were all shocked at how standoffish and snarky Jim was to her. We expected a loving person because of who Megan is.
Who Meghan is? She’s a gold digger who wanted a famous rich hot older guy——you got what you wanted with all the consequences
Anna Lynne-Must speak up on this one- you are 100% incorrect, Meghan is NOT a gold digger by any stretch of the imagination. Please bring your FACTS to the table and I hope everyone disregards this comment. Meghan was already a very accomplished woman before she met Jim. She is from an exceptionally old money family who got their money the old fashioned way by earning it. Meghan had a very high paying job in the medical sales field earning into the hight 6 figures. Her brother and sister are very accomplished – not to mention she has relatives here in St. Louis who are prominent and respected attorneys. She is a smart cookie and she did not marry “UP” she had already had it. The St. Louis Post-Dispatch covered her in a full page article if you wish to actually educate yourself before you try to destroy someone you don’t even know.
I completely agree with you. It was uncomfortable to watch him disrespect and simply humor her conversations, all the while eagerly waiting to get out of town and back to his job in St. Louis. He never appeared to be “engaged” in their marriage. I felt sorry for her because his dismissive manner to her was blatant.
You got this girl,! Rise above you are strong and God will never leave you he will guide your thoughts and help you always. Now, take care of yourself so you can be there for your kids, sending you blessings!
Your testimony touches me to the core. I believe there are so many reasons a person may cheat. Not all of them mean they dont love you. But does that even matter. You are strong, Im not sure I am capable of that level of forgiveness. My heart is with you💜
You are strong, you are brave, you are honest. It’s not going to be easy but do what you need to do how you need to do it. Love and hugs to a beautiful lady xx
Meghan, my heart breaks for you. You are a wonderful woman, with a heart of gold. I pray that you take time to heal and do what is right for your family. I hope that you have a tremendous support system to comfort you and love you. I cannot even imagine your pain. Your bravery and honesty at this time is a true testament to your character. Many prayers for you, Hart and the rest of your family.
Sending you love today sweet girl!!! 💕
You’re beyond strong and I’m praying for you and your family! You got this. With every struggle comes a blessing.
I know how you are feeling, been there before. You will need time to heal and trust again and he needs to be patient with that and also fight for you. So if you two truly love each other, you can overcome this in time and come out stronger in the end. Praying for you and your family!
Sending love and healing. Appreciate your vulnerability.
You are brave and super woman/mom. Don’t let this take you down. Focus on your healing and kids !!!
When I was 36 weeks pregnant with my daughter, I found out my husband had been doing the same thing. Of all of the traumas that I have been through including losing my mom at six years old and skin cancer in my early 20s, this one has been the hardest to heal from. Although it has been over two years, I still have my moments. Thank you for describing the feelings that are so difficult to explain and I hope you find the healing you need.
Thank you for this post. As someone who has gone through the same thing this is touching and beautifully written. I was holding back tears at work. You are brave and strong. Let yourself ugly cry and listen to all the angry music. I hope your heart heals over time.
I choose to stay and admire your attitude as well. Love is sacred. And you deserve the strongest of loves. Take care of those wonderful babies and yourself.
You will survive and come out on the other end of this even stronger! I will pray for you and your family every chance I get. Hugs. 💛
Why did his other 2 marriages fail? I heard the voicemail and it sounds like you. Sorry for you and your children, but unfortunately this probably isn’t his first indiscretion while married to any of his wives.
This triggered PTSD. My husband of 19 years had an affair with my best friend.
I wanted to fix it but I knew I couldn’t live life looking over my shoulder. I left.
It was the worst and the best thing that ever happened to me. You are free now. You know, you know. Spread those wings and soar above this. Freedom is intoxicating. You did nothing wrong. Don’t be a victim. Be a survivor. Sending love and strength. Go live your truth.
I read this on my 17th wedding anniversary as my husband who has struggled with addiction abuse for years is now living with someone else as I keep our family going. I have filed for divorce because now is the time to put ME and my girls first. I get your pain and am deeply sorry 😞
So sorry this happened to you. Sadly,it is life. And if he did this time, he’ll do it again.
He has history of it unfortunately (with the ex wives).
You need to decide what is best for you and your family and if is giving him another chance. My advice marriage counseling. This is not an easy situation. Their is no solution or a way to make the trust, security and even the love not be in question. Doll is one thing you never do is blame yourself . Do not be sad be strong.
Rooting for you, Meghan. You deserve more. You deserve the best.
So sorry for you Meghan. Loved watching you on Tv and have been following you on Instagram. I sure it hit you like a ton of bricks but you are STRONG!!! You definitely need to give yourself the time to cry and think and feel. You have every right to feel the way you are feeling right now. My heart breaks for you, but you have the loving hearts of your children, family and friends with you. Take deep breaths and know you will survive this. And as cliche as it sounds, what doesn’t kill you does make you stronger. Just know you have a lot of people praying for you and sending you lots of love and support.
So sorry you’re going through this Meghan. My heart truly goes out to you and your children. You’re so brave for addressing such a personal issue publicly. Best wishes always. Xx
Meghan, You are strong! You got this. My baby has a neurological disorder. It is stressful and worrisome at times. My little boy is 20 months now and is nothing but the light of our lives. He is doing great. You will smile again!! You will get through this. God does not give you more than you can handle.
I’m so very sorry for your pain. I love your Instagram post And your family. Your a strong woman and you will come out of this stronger. I have an adult child with Asperger syndrome and a genetics disorder so I I’ll be in prayer for Hart.
No other words can help the hurt but I am praying for you and your family.
I’m so so sorry. What I see is a loving plugged in Mom and a devoted wife. Keep your head held high and pour your love onto your children. It will work out the way it’s supposed to. Praying for Hart and all of you.
My heart breaks for you. Thank you for being so open and telling your truth! I learned through the Grief Recovery Method that telling your truth will help to rid yourself of your hurt, pain and grirf(anything you want different better or more). I don’t have the magic words other than speak your truth and feelings, don’t let them pile up!! Thinking of you!!! Cheryll
My comment will probably catch some heat.
…Jim Edmonds is a slimeball for doing what he did. Not Only was text messages involved nude pictures was involved and to make it worse a masterbating video. Meghan you are one beautiful person. At no time should anyone EVER have to go through this…and in the public eye nothing can be worse. I have watched you on tv and followed your Instagram and find you to be such a devoted mom and I hate to see such a beautiful person have to hurt this bad. On another note…once they cheat the odds of them doing it again is pretty high (proven fact) Now you have to make the decision on what your next step will be and I can guarantee what ever it is we will all be here for you!!!! 😩💖💩💔👣🐍
Good heavens, what a horrible, judgmental, uneducated comment.
@Angela, “uneducated”?? Look who is judging. Not everyone will give a hug, cry with you, and play victims advocate when you have hardships and that’s okay too! Some people will give straight up honesty as difficult as that may be. What Jim did was slimy and scummy and low-down!! He DOES have a history of cheating on his other ex-wives!! Meghan shouldn’t call herself a victim. She should become strengthened by adversity not victimized by it. I pity him for throwing away a good woman. There is no harm in calling things out no matter how ugly. What he did was foul!
I admire you and all you stand for!!! You are a amazing mother and wife and I feel for you, but ultimately you will do what you need for yourself and your family. I think it’s disgusting how these tabloids exploit innocent people…. you deserve better!!! Hang in there Girl, you got this😊😊😊
I had this happen to me. My girls where older. I wanted to keep my marriage together, so I forgave. Then it happened a 2 nd time. My oldest daughter discovered it on his old phone he gave her.
Again I / we worked through it. With help this time. I thought we where headed for recovery this time. And 2 years later he left me for another woman. We are divorced. I feel your pain all over again. I am so sorry you are going through this. Stay strong. You’ll know what’s right for you and your family. I was exactly like you. Wanted the same things in my life and marriage you wanted.
Reading this really hit home. I’m so sorry.
Meghan,
I am so sorry this happened to you. It did me as well. I moved to Scottsdale and thought he was my world, so it was worth the move. It sucks in the worst way, but you dig deep and remind yourself IT WAS NOT YOU! You nailed it , something is wrong with HIM. No matter how GORGEOUS you are or amazing a person you are, it is Jim that is missing something down deep in his DNA that would do this. I know he loves you, mine loved me. But he could not stop himself from hiring high
end call girls, drinking Crystal off of them…as the pics I found showed. Or spending extravagant amounts of money at 5 star hotels for a night of God knows what. But HE did this…not me and I survived. You will. Too. No, mine was not in the media, but it was hard nonetheless. He made the mistake, you do not feel ashamed. Your beautiful children will be better in the long run as you will now be an even better mom to them. He hurt you to your core, but you have 3 amazing gifts now that will be there for you foever… whether he is or not. You might not think you will make it through this today, but I promise with prayer and family YOU WILL! AND you will be thankful it happened as you will be an even more amazing person and Mom because if it. Us midwest girls are tough. I am from Tulsa, OK. YOU GOT THIS, XOXO!
Im so sorry Meghan. I agree. I have been through that with my first marriage and realized so quickly how one person throws it away for themselves. He chose to disrespect you and continued to make that choice. I always told people marriage is you in an underwater cage with your spouse going shark sighting. The sharks will always be there, slimy and ready to devour your life. Do you stick with your partner and enjoy your safe life protecting each other? Did your partner let a shark in to devour you? Did you both leave the door open and let people in for a feeding frenzy? Your husband is your protector.. images or physical… never matters to me. He didnt protect you from the sharks when you always did for him. I hope you can get through it but in my experience I always resented the other person even when I thought I was over it. Im sad for you. God bless you and the beautiful babies you have made through all of this.
You are such a strong woman, not only with words but with actions. You hit this thing head on and did not try to sugar coat it, make excuses etc. You will heal, this will be put behind you one way or another. Keep it together, you are doing awesome. I’ll remember you in my prayers these next few weeks 🙂
I know you don’t know me, but I’m praying for you and your family. I’m so sorry for what you are going through. I can tell from your post, you’re a VERY strong woman. You can and will get through this.
Meghan you have 3 beautiful children Aspen, Hart and Hayes!!!❤ You don’t need this man to make you happy, move on and make the best life with your kids. Men can be so gross, they never have enough!! Jimmy had a beautiful wife who loved him and gave him three beautiful children but that wasn’t enough for him. You don’t need that huge house or the other material things. Be good to yourself and the kids and move on! #cheaterswillcheatagain We all love you so don’t be sad❤
Megan
Your marriage and your family are worth fighting for. Do yourself a big favor and reach out to the trained and skilled professionals that can help you and Jimmy through this…one day this will be so far behind you and you will be proud, happy and thankful you sought guidance from the right resources. We are human and not infallible. You’re hurting and I will take a leap here and say so is Jimmy. 😘
Oh Meghan you are no victim, this is simply karma returning the favor to you for cheating with Jimmy while he was married to his second wife. You knew his character and chose to marry him anyway. I guess your ego was so big you thought it wouldn’t happen to you. By the way you do too care about your new car, building your new mansion and all the diamonds you have because you brag about each one of these things on Instagram! You need to snap out of the pity party your in and get real. Of course he had a physical relationship with this woman plus many others. Of course you knew about this back in October because it was YOUR voice on the voicemail and the words you said were totally YOU! Once trust is broken you can never get it back. You will be miserable always wondering what he’s doing and he’ll get pissed trying to prove he’s not. If you really want self respect and trust find a new man. Once a cheater always a cheater.
When you choose the person that cheated WIYH you, they will cheat ON you.
What? He cheated with her on his first wife? How do you know this..
I commend you wholeheartedly for writing this for all of your fans out there worrying about you. This is no ones else’s business, yet, it is because here we are in 2019, where everything is public, and even more so for you two being in the public eye day in and day out. This blog proves you’re human, and you are going through the emotions. No one can tell you what to do, as you will figure this out. I listen to Jana Kramer’s podcast, and have followed her for a long time. They discuss this all the time considering what she went through. You will get through this, and whatever you decide, you have support from fans and your amazing family. Cry, be mad, whatever, but thank you for sharing this. I can only speak for myself, but I assure you there are tons of us out there worried about you, and beyond thankful you wrote this to check in.
Meghan you are a very strong lady I’m sorry you are going thru this…sending love prayers and positive energy to you and those beautiful children
I’m sad for your situation too. I hope you can find peace. You are a braver woman than I to hope the marriage survives as I would never be able to trust my husband again. My mind would go crazy over every late night he was working etc.. especially since he was caught and did not tell you about it due to his true regret. But I’m not you. I hope things go well for YOU and YOUR kids. However this story ends, I hope you count your many blessings to help lessen the sting of this betrayal.
Oh Meghan. I hope no matter what you choose to do there is resolution at the end of the journey. I’m so sorry you have to go through something so hard so publicly. Sending love from Canada 🇨🇦 xoxox
Love you for sharing your true, raw feelings. Sending love hugs and positive vibes. Hart and your hear abs family t are in my prayers. Noelle ❤️
My heart goes out to you and your beautiful children. You’ll get through this with your head held high.
Meghan, I have been following you for years. I have cried reading this as I have watched you go through your ivf journey and your struggles. My heart breaks for you! I will be praying for your sweet baby/babies and you!! You are beyond gorgeous and a wonderful mom!! Anyone who cheats on their pregnant wife is a monster and you most certainly don’t deserve it.
So sorry! It’s so hard to go through. Opening up about this to so many people must not be easy, but hopefully you’ll find comfort and support from doing so. You’ll know what best for you and your family. Sending you lots of love
Oh Meghan. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m sorry you are hurting right now; you don’t deserve this – no one does. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. Hopefully this will help others in similar situations. You’re an amazing woman, mother and wife. Never ever doubt your worth. Thinking of you xxx
My prayers are going out for you & Jim. You are beautiful, strong & an amazing mother! 🙏🏻
i’m so sorry sweetie, I hope you take the time to heal. forgive if it’s what you want to do. marriage is hard, and sometimes it sucks. a lot of the time it sucks. keeping you in my thoughts- stay strong for those sweet babies and hug them close. at least you have the benefit of leaving if you want to- if my husband cheated I don’t think i could leave because we rely on him financially so much. I put up with more than I should because of it. you are in the position that if you don’t want to put up with this- you don’t have to! remember that. you. are. worth. more!
xoxo
I am so sorry to have read this and you are so brave to have written this. I can’t begin to imagine how you feel or offer any advice. I don’t know you or your life. All I know is I’ve followed you from the first I saw you on the real housewives of OC all the way from the UK. I love your Instagram and think you are amazing. You are a fabulous mother and wife and don’t deserve this sadness in your life. You will get through this. All my love from the UK 🇬🇧
Meghan,
My heart goes out to you. You are a wonderful woman. And I am just heartbroken for the circumstance. For you to come out to be so real and spew your heart to anybody who would read this is amazing. And unfortunately because of your celebrity status, you have to. And it Shows a woman of tremendous strength. I really hope that you guys can heal your marriage. I hope that Jimmy has a repentant heart and truly feels horrible for his actions. And not because he was caught! Incredibly embarrassing and something that could be thrown in the face of your children for lifetime due to social media. Whatever you Choose to do. Is your choice. If he’s repentant, you’re not wrong to stay with him. God bless you, I feel like I’m your friend just from watching you on the show. And living in orange county just brings it even closer for some reason. Weird, I know. I wish you nothing but the best. And I really hope you guys sort this out for the best
My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry. Life is hard. But love is forgiving if you want it to be.
I am so sad for you. I really thought he was smarter. So stupid and unnecessary. The fallout is so hurtful.
That took strength. ♥️
I’m so sorry Meghan.. I know the pain and sadness you are experiencing .. my husband did it to me.. yet here we are 35 years strong.. it takes time to heal , time to trust and mostly time to grieve what you had. You will not have that again.. because the trust was broken.. but we made it through with counseling and time.. God bless you and those babies .. its had trying to be everything for them at this time .. give yourself some time to yourself.. turn off the noise of social media.. I love your story.. don’t let this one moment in life redefine who you are!!! You have this!!
This made me cry. I’m praying for you and Jimmy, and most especially your boy. Hugs to you.
Oh Meghan! Stay strong 🙌🏼 You will get passed this. Prayers to your family and your Son. Hope you get answers soon.
I went thru the same thing Megan. It’s been two years and I still have it in the back of my mind. The same with my husband. It was texts and phone conversations after I’d leave for work… or while I was taking our children to school. I felt INSANE when I found it. Sick and shaken. I understand temporary insanity now, totally get it! Keep your head up, it does get easier. I chose to stay by my husbands side but I’m still afraid. I trusted him with everything in me!!! And he totally betrayed me! I don’t know if my anger will really fully go away… or I’ll be able to trust him like before. It really did break us. And I kept blaming myself! Bullshit! I didn’t do anything but maintain our home and work full time. I’ll keep you in my prayers Megan!
Meghan, I have been in this exact situation. Truth is you cannot heal your marriage unless he takes responsibility that this IS cheating. He keeps saying he didn’t cheat, but whether it’s a physical, emotional, or lustful relationship it is cheating. You also have to allow yourself time to go through all of the emotions you will be angry, vengeful, sad, lonely, feel like you love him, hate him, and angry again. I always tell people give yourself time before making your decisions bc right now you arent in the right frame of mind. He has to allow you to do and feel whatever you need to in order to heal. If he can’t let you be angry or curse him out then he isn’t ready to be a man and take the blame. He also needs to give you full transparency, every detail and the 100% truth. If not, then something else comes out even if it’s a minor detail you will go through all of those emotions again. Take your time and if he can’t respect it and love you through it then it won’t work bc you will always hold those feelings and never be able to trust again. He is NOT the victim he is portraying and that’s unfair to you. You are also not to blame and shouldn’t feel like you haven’t done your part in this marriage. Praying for you as you heal.
Oh honey. I am so sorry. You are a very strong woman and the answer is yes it can recover from this but that is up to you. Know your value and your worth. I am so sorry
Dear Meghan
This is your call. Honestly you have to take time to think. It is nobody’s decision but yours.
Take care xx
You CAN get past this. There’s no doubt he loves you- somehow men are able to compartmentalize things like this and think it’s not going to hurt you. He didn’t DO THIS to hurt you, he did it out of selfish, thoughtless, disrespectful irresponsibility.
Well, he DID hurt you. And now he has to suffer the consequences, grovel at your feet for forgiveness, and expect that you will question his every move until you don’t. And that “until” isnup to you. It takes time. It takes patience. It takes letting go of fear. And most of all, it takes love.
You are an amazing woman.
You are a strong woman.
You will get through this and your family will be better for it, whatever that looks like. I will be praying for you and your sweet children. God bless.
Libby
Fellow St. Louisan
My heart goes out to you, I’m sorry you’re in pain.
Meghan, don’t give up on your family. Call Linda at the Relationship Center. She’s Gottmann trained and will help you no matter what you decide.
Oh I feel for you! I think we all ugly cry at some point in our life – I cannot imagine going thru this when you are famous. I truly believe our heartaches/ breaks make us stronger if we let it. Trust God and He will guide you thru this – and then you will have peace with your decisions. ❤️ From Mississippi
My husband cheated on me with my best friend, while we were building our dream house. I had 3 little kids under the age of 3. It was the most heartbreaking, devasting, time in my life! I was betrayed not only by my husband but my very best friend. I chose to forgive him and move on with my life! What I mean by that is, I chose to forgive him and not punish him for the rest of his life for making a mistake that I know he punishes himself about! Everyone makes mistakes! we just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary! You will get through this. I know exactly how you feel! I’m sorry, I’m sorry, that other women don’t respect other women and that men are who they are! Much love to you!
You are a strong woman and you will overcome this horrible pain that has descended into your life. Take one day at a time and hopefully time will heal.
Sweet Meghan,
I have been through similar to what your going through. Of course, being in the public eye I can only imagine the additional humiliation that you are suffering. It feels like death! It has been over 9 years since it happened to me and my family. There are days when it feels like yesterday that what I thought was my life was utterly destroyed. I chose to stay in my marriage and my husband sought help for his demons. He was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. In NO way is this an excuse for his slimy behavior or the slimy person who was well aware that he was a married man. However, it was an answer. Acting out inappropriately is an action of an underlying issue. You are right and it is not your fault! DO NOT let anyone tell you any different!!! Please take care of yourself and your beautiful family.
Jennifer
I’m sad for you. 💞💞
Fuck fuck fuck!!!!!! I’m so sorry Megan!!! Same thing happened to me when I was pregnant with our second child…I miscarried. We divorced. He was in a “non physical emotional” relationship but I didn’t believe that rubbish. You are lovely and a wonderful and fun person and Mamma. You deserve THE BEST. He fucked up! He’s old as FUCK! What’s his problem!!???? Chin up. Only stay if he makes you feel like he can’t live without you girl. Do not compromise. ❤️
Meghan, I have watched you on the show. I have seen your heart, and I am so very sorry this happened. I know that feeling and it sucks. The hurt, betrayal. I hope you can work through this! God Bless your family
sadly megan I dont think anything is forever but our children. it doesnt superise me because married women think/ feel their hubby’s would never, guess what ? They f… do.
Next step: A pattern of lies turned into a fake insecure life, my 2 cents. I’d rather u never make a fool of me again ✔
You are so brave to have written this. I can see pain but also pure honesty and I respect you so much for that. You are an inspiration. Stay strong. Rooting for you and your family. Marriage is so hard. I hope you and Jim can overcome this for your beautiful family and come out even stronger. Hugs!
Supporting you ALWAYS Meghan!!!!
My heart just breaks for you and your family. It’s so sad when our trust is shattered for the one person who is supposed to be our hero; our protector. I’m sure he doesn’t have the answers you so desperately want right now. Mine never did, but I forgave him (for myself) and sent him on his way to find whatever he thought was missing in our marriage.
Meghan,
I recently went through something very similar except my husband did cheat. We had a 3 year old and a 6 month old at home. We had been married almost 7 years and together almost 15 years. We had many ups and Downs but I could never imagine him doing this to me and the children we planned together. Everything we planned together was gone. I remember the stinging feeling of the tears. I remember driving around just so I could cry not in front of the kids. Everything I hoped and dreamed for our future was gone.
I urge you to dig deep inside and figure out what is BEST for you and your kids. Take your time. Pray on it. Talk to family, friends or anyone who can give you insight.
My thoughts are with you.
This too has happened to me, we survived but it takes time My heart breaks for you Stay strong. I’m sure he loves you. I will say a prayer for you. ❤️ We have been married 26 years and have been thru it all. I know what you mean. The nice car. The nice house does not mean a thing Love can not be bought but I do like those things. Hehe. This can only make you stronger. Sending love
You are a strong woman. You need time to heal. Jimmy needs time to prove himself. Time heals all. I pray you both find your way back as a family. You are really very atrong.
Be strong for your children. I love your honesty and no bullshit attitude! I’m sorry this happened to you but I also say leave, go now, leave because he won’t change. He is s narcissist, they don’t change . He may cry, apologize over and over but he is on s fourth marriage for a reason.
I pray you find peace in whatever you decide! 😘
Lisa
You don’t deserve this. I’m so sorry. It is hard enough to deal with this in private. I can’t imagine dealing with this publicly. You are beautiful, kind, and strong. My prayers are with you.
I’m so sorry Meghan! When I saw this I thought it was just a joke! You guys have looked so happy! You’re such a wonderful person! Keep doing you!! And your kids! You’re a good mom! 💙💙💙
I’ve always liked you. I think you’re a good, loving person. I saw that in the way you cared for your stepdaughter and his ex wife. I’m actually sorry this happened. You don’t deserve it.
My heart is broken for you. I’m sorry you were forced to share when you weren’t ready but thank you for being honest about the realities of marriage. It is a choice each and every second of every day. It’s hard. It’s hard to not be a total bitch for no reason or to be annoyed by the slightest of things- underwear on the floor, the smacking, these simples things really put me on edge. But, the easiest thing should be being true to your spouse. For nothing else other than you just care that damn much about them and your family. I will pray for you that you will find peace and happiness- whatever that is for you. With no judgement from others.
Amazing you can share so openly and honestly, give yourself time and space, be kind and gentle with your heart and your emotions
Been there, and we recovered! Its hard work, my husband confessed…dropped to his knees and met with my preacher and we built back up from there…that was 10 years ago this October!
Not always easy, he had to prove himself and I can honestly say…I love him more today than I ever have. We are all saved by Grace, true repentance and love!
I pray the same for you, your husband and your family!
Ps…I’m a fellow missourian..down by Branson!
I’m so sorry this has happened to you . Chin up better days ahead 💚😎
Hi Megan.
I hear your hurting heart & im so sorry. I’m sorry that this happened to you. I’m sorry you feel like you have to explain it because you’re in the public eye. I’m sorry for whatever lies ahead. I’ll be praying for you and your family and babies for some peace and joy in the days to come!
No one truly understands the devastation of being cheated on in a marriage unless it happens to them. It destroys your world, your truth, your trust in not just your spouse but your life. I applaud your honesty and openness because believe it or not, you are helping many many women who are in your same position thinking they are alone. My advice is concentrate on your children because as a wise person once told me, they are all that matters and that is the greatest love you will ever feel. I tried to stay in my marriage but for me I just became sadder and sadder till I realized if I didn’t get out it would impact my children and that I couldn’t tolerate. Fast forward, I found the love of my life-a man of kindness, honor and integrity who makes me laugh every day. He showed me that “real” love exists and I thank God I didn’t spend my life wishing for something that would never be. I hope you trust your instincts no matter what path you choose. Best of luck to you and your children.
What a jerk!!! I always wondered why he had so many kids…… (and so many different wives).
Again, what a jerk!!
Hi Meghan, everyone is quick to bash him and call you weak/dumb if you stay. Don’t listen to any negative comments. You are naturally a person full of love and light. Don’t let this BS ruin your heart and your ability to shine bright. Your heart ache will heal in time and you will become strong from this. Focus on 10 good things about your life and constantly remind yourself how amazing you are, because you are. Your kids are a blessing, and on days where you want to give up..look at them and they will fill your heart with love. I have 2 sets of twins and I thank God and the Universe for them.
Men have such huge egos and probably because you were making his babies, he felt neglected since he wasn’t the center of your attention.
None of this is your fault. It’s a problem with men in general.
Good luck to you and your precious family!
I am very sorry for your heart. I too have been betrayed by my husband (who I planned on being with forever) in the worst possible ways.
After 20 years, Our marriage could not be saved and here I am almost 8 years later alone…my kids are now grown,happy, and successful which is all I wanted.
Remember these words..This Too Shall Pass
Best wishes for you and your family.
So sorry it’s just sad. You don’t deserve this know one does. Sending prayers and hugs. 🙏
I love how open and vulnerable you are. You didn’t have to share this with your fans, but I’m glad you have. Thank you for being so honest. I hope you find peace in your heart and you heal from this. I hope your marriage can move forward from this. You take your time and focus on yours and your babies being. I support you and your family ❤️ Much love
I am so sorry this happened to you and whatever you decide to do don’t make that decision in haste or hurt! Get counseling it does wonders for sorting things out and getting to the root of things! I have been married for 28 years and it’s one of the hardest jobs besides being a mom I have ever had! Love is a choice not a feeling many people confuse that today! I choose my husband every day and I expect the same from him! You deserve to be chosen every day by Jimmy! Hugs and prayers for your son also.
This is the most honest and heartfelt post I have ever read! Please know that whatever happens, you WILL come out the other side a stronger version of yourself.
However, there will always be two versions of your life, before and after. Just know that your most important job is to take care of you so you can take care of those babies!
Let yourself be sad, grieve the loss of the man you thought you married, then, put your big girl panties on and figure out if it’s a marriage worth saving and only YOU can decide that, no one else gets a vote.
Wishing you Peace and Wisdom.
This is brave and transparent and I respect the shot out it. Keep your head up mama and take care of you!
https://markmanson.net/love
not trying to say what you should do, or feel, but i read that piece a couple of times a year. it’s really powerful, in my opinion. love isn’t enough for relationships to sustain
Thank you for being so brave and sharing this- I have recently been through something similar, except it was physical. It’s been hard because I had no one to relate to and the emotions are so hard to work through, ups-downs-ups-downs. Judgement from friends for staying, judging myself for staying. It’s a hard and such a sad path to endure…. flash backs of the messages between them, wondering how your partner could lie to you. I feel for you and I really appreciate you sharing this. This is the first time I have been able to relate to a woman and I hope you know you are not alone here. I’m so sorry for you and I hate that anyone has to ever endure the pain of this situation. But I really appreciate you being so open, it is so brave of you.
I’m so sorry Meghan! Don’t let people influence you in anyway on how to deal with this. Take it day by day. If you work together you can get through this together. It will be hard and you’ll have great days and bad but fight for it and you’ll be ok. I promise.
You are an amazing Mum. You need to be strong and looks after yourself and your boys. Sending you a hug.
My heart is breaking for you and I do t even know you. You have articulated your feelings so honestly and I just want to hug you, scream with you, be angry with you. My Mama heart is so angry for you! But I know you love him, it was so clear. So cry, be mad, accept the hurt and eventually accept his apology and hopefully, for you and the kids, you will recover and the trust will return. You are amazing and your kids love you. And you are going to be better than ever. But take your time. I’m praying for you. XO
You hang in there with your head held high.
Unfortunately, men do sometimes think with their small brain. No matter what you decide it is your decision. Trust is earned and lost, but it can be reearned
( if that is even a word).
Not sure what is happening with your son. Keeping him in my prayers. I work at then#1 children’s hospital, Boston
Children’s. If you ever need a referral free to reach out.
Maureen
I am so mad! I don’t know you- but No one deserves this! Walk the fuck away and take everything! You have friends that will need to fill the space. You will move on better. Don’t stay and say its ok rationalizing it. Remember this feeling, u will need it when u feel weak. F him and f that!
This is so sad. I thank her for sharing .
This was brutally honest and it will be appreciated. Bad things seem to happen all at once and I’m sure you feel broken into a million pieces. Triage your pain, get some good therapy, and take care of yourself. We are rooting for you!
This exact same thing happened to me ……3 times! I kept forgiving and forgetting and then it was the last straw, i told him to get out and it finally hit him. He goes to therapy now once a week since January. He’s a completely different person. We’ve watched tony Robbins videos together and read books (love language is one of our favorites) worse thing I’ve ever been through in my life. If you need an ear, message me back @amyhope47 on Instagram. It’s always nice to have someone to relate too & im truly sorry you’re going through this. You seem like a strong woman and you have a beautiful family! Sending positive vibes your way 💞
Megan , take time to heal so what’s best for you ! Done listen to what anyone else says. I’m praying for your son. Please take time to heal and take care of yourself.
Oh Meghan, I am in tears having just finished reading your blog. Your words, though gut wrenching, are so moving. You are a beautiful person, a wonderful wife and an amazing mother. I follow you on Instagram and have continually been blown away by how fantastic of a mother you are. Hold on to your babies. Hold on to your family and remember you’re not alone. You don’t know those of us who only know you through your celebrity, but we are praying for you and your family. And where two or more gather..
.Hang in there Meghan. You are worthy. You are beautiful and you are loved. 💞
You are amazing. If your public truth is any testament of who you are, amazing doesn’t even come close to describe you. My heartaches for you, remember this: god gives you only what you can handle. You will get through this, learn from it, and be an even better person on the other side. The people who have your heart are lucky to have someone like you- Don’t forget it, and don’t ever question it. ❤️
This was so incredibly well said, raw, and transparent. It’s admirable.
I have so much respect for you for being so honest. You could have ignored the gossip but you rose above it to show what marriage is really like.
I know you are sad, but you are amazing and you will get through this.
Cyani
Jefferson City, MO
[email protected]
This too shall pass. You will be stronger and find gratitude in yours and your children’s health. In the grand scheme of life, a mans’s purpose is sometimes only for procreation. Xo
Aww sweetie I’m so sorry. I always How you were and still are a real person. I know strangers opinions are just that but I honestly felt he never fully appreciated you when I saw the two of you on the show. Your beautiful! You deserve to be happy and not to deal with this. It saddens me he did this to you ESPECIALLY with social media and how EVERYTHING gets out these days. You have beautiful children you love u no matter what ugly cry face you have. I’m sorry your dealing with this. Hugs
I hope you don’t mind me writing to you on your blog page.
I am so sorry to hear and read this. I don’t know you personally but feel I do from seeing you on TV and following you on Instagram. Your right. You don’t deserve to be going through this. You seem an amazing and a good person.
You do need time to digest what is and has happened.
I hope your husband is truly remorseful for his actions and deep hurt and pain he has caused you and understands what he has done to you and his beautiful children.
Only YOU can make the desicion to stay with him.
Marriages are worth fighting for if this is his first mistake. Only YOU can know the answer.
You need time to heal and space to think. I hope you get it.
My only advice to you both is to talk. Talk. And more talk. Be truthful about EVERYTHING…. Lay it all out on the table. And start from the truth and rebuild your marriage.
I hope in time you heart starts to heal and you get your sparkle back.
YOU WILL ….
much love Jan Daly. Xxx
That was the most honest blog I ever read, thank you for sharing your truth, especially when you don’t have to it’s not our business, and you did it so beautifully. Life can be so curl and hard some times but have faith this to shall past and i pray you and your family
Come out the other side stronger and better then before. Everything you said was 100
Percent right. Lots of luck
From just reading this you are one strong woman. A realist. You will get through this.
Meghan!
I’m so sorry this is happening to you – you do not deserve it. I hope that you can take solace in the fact that if truly there was nothing physical, just very bad decisions. I pray that your marriage survives and that you both can support & love those beautiful children you’ve brought into this world.
I just read you blog and felt compelled to let you know that I’m so sorry you are going through all of this!
They say that the Lord doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle, but during times like this you want to scream “uncle”; “I give” ~ Hold on tight to your faith and this too shall pass
xoxoxo
I’m praying about it for you… Many people overcome even the worst such as this. It will take plenty of time, you take all the time you need. If you choose not to stay with this man that is up to you he will always be the father of your children and that you can make happen. It is between the two of you And only the two of you. You did the right thing by sharing this because you both are public figures. Better that you tell it then for all the people to make up their own stories. God bless 🙏❣️
Sending you good thoughts, love and peace at a difficult time. You are so strong and brave to share your story and only deserve love and support during this time. I know I’m just a stranger, but I believe good thoughts from anyone can go a long way. More than anything, I hope you find answers for your sons health. I can’t imagine the pain and anguish that is causing you and to have to worry about this during that time is unimaginable. You do not deserve this and you will rise above. You are strong. You are supported. You are a beautiful mother and role model to your children.
Beautifully written in such an ugly time. I am so sorry this happened to you.
Sorry for what you are gong through. Stay strong!
I’m praying for you Meghan that God can give you wisdom and grace to be the mom your kids need and to protect your heart from growing bitter. One thing that helped me in a really dark place in my 32 year marriage was listening to a pod cast called “Grace to You” every morning while I got myself ready for work. It bolstered me up and got my head thinking about God and my relationship with him. Make God #1, kids and yourself #2 and #3 is Jim. He needs to cherish you and he isn’t doing that.
I am so sorry Meghan. 🙁
I’m so very sorry. Focus on your kids. YOU ARE A FABULOUS MOTHER!! Prayers and strength to you.
You and your children did not deserve to be treated so horribly. He has internal problems that he needs to get help for so that, if anything, he can at least have a relationship with his children one day and be able to look them in the eye. He made the mistake of believing that he and his name make him above everyone and everything. Get some help Jim.
Please do not let this mishap define who you truly are. Often times, more than none, men put their needs, sexual or not, above everyone else’s. It’s NOT OK. You have every right to cry, and to be sad. Your babies need their mama, but you need time for you. I wish you all well and hope for nothing but the best for you and your family.
My heart is breaking for you. Take care of your babies. Heal your heart in your time. Sending love.
((((Hugs)))) I admire your own honesty and authenticity.
You don’t deserve this, I’m so happy you can see it isn’t your fault. Don’t let the grief consume you. Your beautiful children need their mamma. I hope he takes full responsibility for his actions and works hard to regain your trust, if he doesn’t it’s his loss. You’re a beautiful person inside and out xxx
All of our hearts go out to you, Meghan. Know that their are positive thoughts out there for you!
This too shall pass. You will feel whole again, with or without him. You need time to heal and figure out if you can ever trust him again. If you cannot, that is ok. You are a strong lady with a good head on your shoulders. You will be ok. Lean on friends and family. I promise you will be ok. There may be some sort of hidden blessing in disguise that you cannot see now but will become clear later.
I am so sorry! I had no idea about any of this, until I saw your Instagram. How devastating. My heart is with you.
So sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. Sending you positive energy and hope that everything works out.
I am so sorry for your pain. Fight for your family. Jim needs to fight for his family even harder. I’ll be praying for your son. And I’ll be praying for your broken heart. You are strong. You deserved to be cherished, adored, and perused. Don’t settle for less.
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Oh my sweet sweet Meghan! I am crying as I am reading this! You’re are one of my absolute fav housewives and you’re such a good person. You deserve none of this and my heart is hurting knowing you’re so hurt. This is not your fault, this is his and hers. She’s a slime cunt! I hope it’s revealed who she is so we can all cuss her out for you! Nothing more nothing less. Just know that we love you and wish the best for you. All those morons who are saying horrible things right now should be ashamed of themselves! I am going to bat for you and calling all of these atrocious human beings out! You deserve the world. Wish I could actually be there for you 💜
Just know that you are not alone. That helped me. Knowing that so many other women have gone through the same thing and came out alive (and thriving), gave me hope that I too could get through it. I hope the best for you and my only advice is to remember that you have no deadline on making decisions for your family. Take your time to heal, however long it takes.
I’m just so sorry, Meghan. That’s all I can say. You are a beautiful soul and you’re right. You DON’T deserve this. I’m sending love and hugs❤️😘
this man always gave me cold dead fish energy on the show but you always showed yourself to be exactly what you wrote above. you were committed to this relationship, loving, and kind. any man would be so lucky to have a wife like you but a broken person like that will NEVER recognize that.
i wish you would leave him, you dont need this. but i respect your choices and wish you the best <3
Wow, you took the words out of my mouth. This is my story. My heart goes out to you. I went through a similar situation a few years ago. It’s utterly devastating. I’ve never been the same. It definitely changed me. It changed us. I was so confused and didn’t know what to do. There’s no right or wrong. You dont have to decide anything right now. Take it day by day. Went to therapy. It helped. He was the sad, damaged one, in desperate need of another woman’s validation. He ended up needing and getting more individual therapy. You can get through it but it will be hard and take time. There’s hope. Cry, scream be angry- let it all out as often as you need to. There’s no time frame for healing and getting through something like this. Everyone is different, every couple is different. Just know you’re not alone. I’m rooting for you and so are many other people. You’re beautiful, strong, smart, driven and an amazing mother. Don’t let this break or define you. Sending you love and prayers.
I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your family. Take some time to heal and love those babies they need their Mom and you need them. This makes me very sad and I only know you thru watching RHW and following your insta. Please know you are loved ❤️ And yes I don’t know Jimmy but the woman in me wants to slap
Some sense into him how could he!??? he had it all a beautiful devoted wife and children 😢
I have been where you are. It takes time. If he is really sorry he will prove it to you and over time it gets easier but you are never the same. You have to start over from here or end it. Its not your fault, you didn’t nothing wrong but he did. To blow up a family over this the hardest thing ever. Either way its hard. Thank you for sharing and I am really hopeful you will work on things.
I am so sorry Meghan. People screw up…My husband kissed someone he had been talking to at the gym for months when our kids were 3 and 1. Humiliating. It took a solid 2 months to stop waking up thinking about it. When you say “sad” I couldn’t agree with you more. I kept repeating that in therapy, “but I’m just so sad”. But then we moved on and got stronger than ever as partners and parents. It has nothing to do with you, it’s his issue and you were the one affected by it. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Take time to yourself and reflect. And ask him every crazy question until you’ve found everything out you needed to. Hang in there <3
This is a act that happens more than we know. Men and Cell Phones! They sneak and get fulfilled until they are caught!
No it may not be Physical but in the the moment of self gratification they feel it is.
Men get bored very bored. Now they can be in a car, hotel room, bedroom etc anywhere while not with the Spouse and they seek this trill.
I have to tell Meaghan it will always continue, I promise😩
As a fellow twin mom and St. Louis mom I enjoy following you on social media. Sadly we also have cheating spouse in common as I have been where you are and know the terrible emotions you are dealing with. My husband began his cheating both emotional and physical when I was pregnant with my own twins. I did not learn about it until several years (and women) later. Mine was also revealed very publicly but in no way at the level you are dealing with. My heart truly aches for you. I will tell you that my children, my friends and my family have helped me work through it but even though my husband has since taken his own life, you better believe it still makes me cry or fills me with anger on any given day. Hats off to you for hitting it head on. Prayers of strength for you and your sweet babies.
I feel for you. Stay strong and hold your head high. Remember, no one lives your life but you.
Hugs!!! I’m so sorry, I feel you as a mother who has a kiddo who had issues too. Is stressful and worrisome. Stay strong, you’re an amazing person
I am so so sorry!!! My heart aches for you but you are strong… You do what’s best for you and your kids… I am sending prayers for Hart that answers are found and im sending healing prayers to you!!
You deserve happiness
Meghan,
I have been where you are, the only difference is my life wasn’t on page 6 but in a one square mile of a small town. This happened when I was pregnant with my triplets which I lost 2 of from the stress. My husband and I went through years together me vomiting after having sex with him. I will tell you my one triplet that survived is 21 today and I am more in love with my husband today then when the other women knocked on my door. Have faith in you, your love of Jim and God will get you through. I promise.
You are beautiful in every way and a wonderful mother and wife… He does not deserve the purity of your love and your devotion. Although you have everything you are so humble and grounded .To be very honest if he loses you he will lose the best thing he ever had… Marriage is sacred and a covenant between a husband and wife and he has broken that.. Stay as strong and true to yourself as you are. God Bless!!
Been there! Just know you are not alone! Trust that God has a plan for you. ❤️
This makes me so angry! Remember you deserve better! Once a cheater always a cheater! If he was truly in love with you he would/could never do this to you and his beautiful family! He has no self respect! Kick him to the curb you and your babies deserve a completely devoted man/father! He is pathetic
I am so sorry for all your heartache. I experienced this throughout my marriage and my marriage was not as strong as yours. My prayers are for recovery and growth. I am sorry for your son’s tribulations. There is an AMAZING child neurologist at Cardinal Glennon that I would risk my children’s lives with. His name is Dr. Waseem Baig. Please feel free to tell him I sent you. He will give you hope and answers, and honesty.
His actions demonstrated a complete lack of respect for you and your marriage. On the other hand, I think he wanted to get caught. He’s not stupid. He knew the consequences. There’s a possibility the life he has isn’t the one he truly wants. A man who is happy would never betray or sabotage what he has……just something for you to think about. You deserve better. You deserve respect. Stay strong, beautiful 🙏 ❤ ❤
Same girl. Same.
My heart is broken for you !
My Question is……where is his heart now…Is it with you? Can you ever forgive and how does one trust again? Idiots do make mistakes. I hope he will spend his life making this up to you.
I’m so sad for you. You deserve more! I’ve been through something similar with inappropriate texts but thank God no photos or lewd comments. You are such a super and loving mom. Do you and take care of your babies. He needs to fix himself before you can trust him again. Much love from TN.
I am so sorry for all of this. You and your family do not deserve any of this. Take it day by day, hour by hour. It is about you and your beautiful children.
To be this vulnerable, transparent and honest in such a public way takes an immense amount of strength and courage. I have mad respect for you for doing this. Use that strength and courage to hold yourself together for the sake of your children.. That’s what has gotten me through some deep grief myself. You can get through this, I’m absolutely sure of it! All my best to you, sweet lady.
You have every right to feel betrayed! Let it out so that you can begin to heal. Your husband made those choices out of selfishness and lust. I don’t believe for a second that months of media exchanges didn’t’t lead to physical but that’s for you to decide. Like Dr Phil says, where there’s one lie, there’s 10 more behind it. You are not to blame. A cheater is always a cheater. It’s in their DNA so to speak. I truly hope you have enough love for yourself and the children to get through this and learn something positive out of all of it. Much love to you. Very sorry for your anguish.
I admire your honesty and bravery Meghan- I can’t imagine how hard these words are hard to say out loud. I hope that you can find comfort in knowing you are an amazing woman, devoted mother, and a beautiful person. All the best for Hart- he is lucky to have a mamma who will make sure he receives the best possible care! Wishing you all the strength and love you deserve in these coming days.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think your honesty with what you need will help your marriage not only survive but be better than before. One day at a time.
When I saw the article in US Weekly my heart broke for you. Marriage is a choice every day you are correct. My only advice for you is to get your power back – the thing that makes you you – the thing that helps you regain your control and power in your life. The thing that will give you The ability to tell him to hit the road if you chose, or to help you find your way back together. You are being hit from a lot of different directions but you have to know you are strong and powerful to deal with them. For me it was going to the gym and getting stronger. I promise you once you get your power back you will be so excited for whatever awaits you. Praying for you that you find peace and see hope in the future.
My heart hurts for you and your babies. I so enjoy watching your stories and your children growing up. I am so sorry to hear about Hart. You are a beautiful strong woman who will do what’s best for you and your children. Make sure you take care of yourself too. Lean on your parents and siblings. It seems like you have a wonderful support system around you.
Prayers for you and your family. Stay strong and hold her head high. You.did.nothing.wrong.
I support you dear. You don’t know me, but there are a lot of people out here ho love and support you. I hope it helps
❤ to you Meghan…just you…as a mother and grandmother here in Norway is it impossible to understand what you are going through now…just wanted to tell you that you and your kids make me smile every day due to Instagram…
You are a fantastic mom and wonderful in your self😘🤗 So sorry about Hart😪
Take care about you self a couple of days Meghan😘 The kids are well taking care of I think…
Love from me😘❤
I’m so sorry your the sweetest loving mother and person and I was hoping your marriage would be as beautiful as it started for the rest of your life and to think your Husband best friend would do this my heart hurts for you and your babies and I pray that you will heal be positive that everything will be ok with Hart it’s all we can all pray for hugs and Prayers ❤️
My heart goes out to you. You both can rise above this, even with this your marriage is strong. Don’t let the devil tell you anything else. I’ll be pray for you and your son! I can imagine because I too have a sick kid. He’s been on Chemotherapy since Feb 2016. Look at Jana Kramer, they went to counseling and have a beautiful strong marriage today. You are talking about it and that’s the first step to healing. Hugs Mama!
Meghan you need to remember one thing this is in no way your fault, there is nothing that you did or didn’t do this is something within himself and himself alone. I am so sorry for your pain and hurt.
I’m sad for you and those babies…I know the feeling all to well when you aren’t the only one that it feels he’s betrayed. As a mom and wife I know you feels he’s let the family down as a whole. God says this too shall pass and I pray you find a way, whatever way that is to find trust and be happy!!! If your do believe in God give it to him and pray through it!!!
I am so sorry for you and children . I’ve been married for 50 years and it is not easy but what u are going through I have never experienced .Good decent men do not do this please make sure this is only time or is it only time he got caught.the old saying he’s thinking w his dick. He will try to make u the bad guy so he doesn’t have to feel like a jerk. I don’t know u other than the beautiful pics of u and children on Instagram . Everything happens for a reason and it may be that someone else is out there that will show u how u are to be loved.I wish u the best.
Stay strong and do what is ultimately right for you and your children.
So sad for you.
Oh man…..I’m so sorry to read all of this.
I can say and I truly believe, God doesn’t give people more than they can handle.
You have three beautiful children and two great step kids.
I am the mother of a daughter with special needs. I blamed myself for the longest time, did I do something wrong? I didn’t take care of my pregnant self well enough…it’s all mental games. I have a child with special needs because I am strong, I advocate for her, I teach her to advocate for herself, I search out the best special ed intervention for her.
I just received her report card in the mail, she is on the honor roll again. She will be a freshmen in high school and is a counselor at summer camp this year.
Megan, there’s a reason you are the amazing mother to those babies. You’re strong and are a beautiful mom.
Peace and love to you.
You will get through this for you and for your kids.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
And I know you are Meghan with an H!!!! Sorry!
Prayers for you and your sweet babies! I know couples that have over come infidelity and are stronger today! Stay strong Momma!
Girl you are strong. I think your a fantastic person, wife and Mother. I appreciate you standing up for yourself. I am so sorry this has happened to you and your children. Shame on him for putting you through this. I truly hope you can work this out but if you can’t its okay. When trust is broken in a marriage it’s the hardest thing to get back. With work, love and patience I truly hope. I will be especially praying for your Sweet baby Hayes. He is beautiful boy. I also will pray for Hart & Aspen as well. You have such cute kids I truly enjoy you sharing them with us when you don’t have to.
You’re strong, you will get through this. Praying for you and your family!
I just prayed for you! Like earnestly! I pray for your broken heart. I love marriage and just like you everything it stands for. I lost my husband (age 49)of 30 years last year to colon cancer, he loved life, he loved me and he fought so hard for our marriage. I, again like you, don’t understand why one cheats but I do serve a God that knows our needs and hears our cries and wants to comfort us!
Again just know I’m praying, sometimes it’s the only thing to do!
From one Missouri girl to another! 💙
*hugs* I am sorry all of this happening to you – it seems that you still want to fight for your marriage and that is something that is your decision and should not be criticized or speculated upon by anyone – only you know whether or not the fight will be worth it – if so, then please, get the counseling you both need – and yes, marriage is HARD work – do what is best for YOU – you have beautiful children and their needs must always – always – come first – I am so sorry your son is having troubles as well – my prayers go with you, in both these battles – please know you are not alone in this – be strong and remember to be good to you – just hold on, dear one, whatever may come be strong through it, do not place blame at your feet and do not allow anyone to tell you how you feel or should feel about it all – deep breath – have faith – much love and prayer – shamrock
You are so brave to share this with the world. You WILL rise above this troubling time. Stay strong and graceful….don’t worry about the hideous individuals spreading ugliness….karma will take care of them. Your three beautiful babies need you….focus on that!
-Rachel Hart Howard
I just happened upon this blog and I am so very sorry to hear this. Nothing he did was because of you.
An escape perhaps, a selfish time, mid life crisis, whatever.. it does make you question everything. Maybe he doesn’t even know why he did it.
You will move on with grace and dignity because it’s his mistake not yours.
Hold your head high.
Take your time.
Breathe.
Get away by yourself
You don’t need to rush to solve a problem that wasn’t yours to begin with.
Good luck to you..
Lisa
Keep your head up and protect your family, you can recover and have a stronger marriage but he needs to do the work and decide once and for all that he is a man of honor and integrity something he has not been yet…you spent his 1st wife. These aren’t his act kids…there us a reason for that he is NOT A MAN, yet he’s a boy who likes to hunt not a dad and a husband yet…he is weak and selfish and self centered he needs constant attention, like a child …to stay with you he needs to become worthy…HIS WORK HAS JUST BEGUN…you owe I to your kids to make it work, they all deserve an intact family ..God bless you with strength and a forgiving heart but he needs to earn your love going forward…I am so sorry, no one deserves to be betrayed in this manner…you’re an amazing momma…and your courage is admirable chin up gorgeous hold thought to your family
Oh, Darling Girl,
The betrayer of your heart is always the one you need the most in these times. Which makes it suck more. Take your time, drive, ugly cry, yell, whatever you need to do. Will be praying for you, the kids, Jimmy. Saying extra prayers for Hart to. From one MoM to another. You’re so right about the cheating and the person and marriage being a choice. We’ll be here holding space for you while you take the time you and your family need. Hugs and love.
You and those sweet babies are in my prayers. Keep your head held high, this storm will pass.
Dear Meghan,
I’ve been where you are…it’s crazy when you turn on the TV or look outside & see that the world hasn’t stopped amidst your tragedy! It IS tragic…it’s worse than awful. The only thing that changed was when he found Jesus & I let Jesus heal my heart. It was a life changing event! Nothing you could ever have done in your marriaage would drive Jimmy to cheat, except him CHOOSING to cheat. Don’t beat yourself up. Get your babies & force yourself to go to church. Get plugged in w/your children. God will take care of the rest! You be strong!
You are beautiful inside and out. I love that you realize that it he that you are hurt by, not the other woman. I am sorry you are hurting. Hang in there, time is what you need💗
My heart breaks for you Meghan, your a good mom and a good wife. You didn’t deserve this.
Praying for you and your family. God can restore everything to you that the enemy has worked so hard to destroy. Find your strength in Jesus. “God is close to the broken-hearted and rescues those who are crushed in spirit.” psalm 34:18
Meagan, hold your heads up high and do what is best for you and your kids long term. This happened to me many years ago and I felt like I didn’t know who I was married to. After the divorce I found out. I was glad I got out and it hurt like crazy. Ten years later I married s man with morals, ethics and intelligence. It’s been twenty years and it gets better every year. A person is who they are and if it’s not who you can trust, get out and do your best. You have family to help with the kids and you are young with lots of time to have the life you desire. Best thoughts are here for you no matter which way you go and when you do.
🙏🏻💔
Healing prayers.
I’m so sorry. You are a very classy lady.
Meghan, I’m so so sorry you are going through this & especially your children. I wish I had magic words for you to feel better but I don’t. All I can say is in time things will get better. Just continue to love on your beautiful babies & don’t forget to take time for yourself. I will pray for God to give you strength & for healing.
I am so sad too. I feel your pain and your anguish. I have been in your shoes, keeping together a family, and a child that needed me to be her advocate in health. I understand your heart is shattered, magnified by the dagger of public viewing. You deserve to take care of yourself. Happy people don’t judge. Honey, one day at a time. You don’t have to figure it out now. Take a moment to breath. Take a moment to know you are loved and supported. Hold on Meghan .. each day will hold something new… new awareness, new pains and new blessings. Trust me- it will be alright.
Meghan,
You are a mother to these beautiful children who need you. This does NOT define you or who you are. I am praying for you to heal your heart, stand up tall, take control of where things will go… to be there for your kids. Each issue will be resolved with you as the guide in your heart, you know what you need to do and when to do it no matter what it is.
You did not do this. He did and is fully responsible. You will go through ups and downs. Be true to yourself now that is more important than ever. You will be finding out who he is. What he has done and where things will go. You have people in your life who will protect you and make sure you are safe in this journey.
Peace and love to you. Your children will be fine. You will find the answers with your child who needs some answers.
Keep the faith and stay strong. Lots of Love and light to guide you.
Stefany G
So so sorry… it is the ultimate betrayal. Cry, scream, whatever.. just feel the feelings. In the end YOU did nothing wrong. Repair and healing will take time. Lean on your family, sweet babies and friends.
From one Nerinx Marker to the other.. hugs to you.
So sorry of course I don’t know you but the few times I have seen you on TV I liked you ! You see real and down to earth and a great stepmom and mom . Hang in there !! Maria in NC
My heart goes out to you. You’re a wonderful mother, and i believe that your marriage can heal from this. I dont know if youre religious, but God never gives you more than you can handle. Were all rooting for you.
So very sorry to hear this! I hope you have close friends and family to be with you right now💔
I’m sorry Meghan. I’m so so very sorry. I truly admire you and all you do. I love watching your interactions with your children. I love you. I wish I had magic words that would make this all go away but I don’t. What I will say though is if you love him then fight for him but make him fight for you. Then fight together for your marriage. Because it’ll be worth it in the end. Sending you much love and the biggest of hugs. Xoxoxoxo
Keep your head up Mama you’re doing great. Trust yourself and don’t let anyone else tell you how you and your family choose to heal and deal from this.
Every family, marriage and relationship has their shit and ups and downs. You can and will come out of this. Take it one day or even moment at a time and be gentle and kind to yourself. ❤️❤️❤️
So sorry you are having to deal with this. No one deserves it. You can survive this. Will you ever trust him again? No, but your marriage can survive it. You are in my heart and prayers.
Meghan, I’m sorry for the pain you’re going through now. It is not your fault. There is nothing you done on your end. It is much easier to give up on your marriage but it’s your desision. To be in the public eye is 100% worst & feeling judged.
I’ve been a fan of RHOOC & I’ve always enjoyed your story. Just hold your head high & Do what you feel is Best for you & your family.
Just know that everyone will not judge you or give you “their” opinion on what you should do. That’s your choice. Love & Hugs❤💜
My heart breaks for you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
you can save this marriage; it can be done! you both of course will need counseling as it is near impossible to do on your own. he will need to go to therapy to work on himself to be able to be the man you deserve. and I’m sure he loves you enough to try. it isn’t easy, it’s damn hard, and it takes patience and time. lots of time. but can be so worth it. you love him and he loves you….you can do this!
I hope you see what the world may have seen years before. The time you were on the housewives may have only shown 5% of your reality but it showed him being 100% uncaring for you and your feelings. People don’t change. And sometimes it’s a hard lesson to learn when there may have been neon signs before.
Prayers of healing to you and your family
You are brave to open up to everyone about these painful experiences. You show a lot of character. I hope everything works out for your family.
Your kids need you more than ever. Stay healthy! Stay strong! Make him help you and make this up to you.
Sometimes pressure and stress can make people act out in ways that can even end up surprising themselves.
An escape , a break from reality. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. Don’t let anyone redirect or influence you about what you know is best for you!!
Good luck! And God bless your family and special prayers your son.
Nooooo..im saddened with you! I’ve loved you from a far and think you are so awesome. You will do great and just give yourself time to hurt,be sad,mad ,etc. I will keep you and your family in my continued thoughts n prayers,
With love ,
A loyal fan
I’m truly so sorry your dealing with this, even sadder than the idiot news people feel they have to shRe your pain with everyone in the world. Sending prayers for you your son and everyone involved in the hurt this is causing your family. 🙏
Wow, just wow. I never comment on blogs, but this post has stopped me in my tracks. I SO appreciate your truth, rawness. I can utterly feel your pain. I’ve been through infidelity. It’s a scary cycle. Sometimes time does heal. Sometimes the cheater feels so powerful they believe they will never be caught. However, public shame, humiliation, and true fear of losing a family can cause some people to change their tunes. All I can say is you have many people behind you, applauding your grace. You have your beautiful children there to remind you that you are stronger than you think. And you have your integrity intact through this mess. Big hugs…
I’m am so sorry you are dealing with this. My heart hurts for you. Marriage is hard and takes a lot of work. I strongly believe you two can get through this. I seen marriages succeed after such things. Stay strong. Stay beautiful. Don’t let the world make you hard. Your Children need their mommy. Trust in God and all things are possible.
so sad for her when a woamn gets pregnet she is going tru enough and needs her husbands support . she didnt get pregnet alone they are his kids too .also women dont feel very attractiev during this time and to fidn out out he was cheating is a blow .i watched the show when she was on the hosuewifes and she ahd so much love for this man and i noticed he wasnt always very nice to her. all she wanted was a good man and a good marriage .i hope they can either work tru this or seperate some nice man out there will appreciate her she is a sweet person. judi
My heart breaks for you. I hope you are able to take the time you need to make the best decision for you and your children. I chose to stay in my marriage after finding out about my husband’s infidelity. It’s a very long, hard, and exhausting road. And five years later, some days we struggle, some days we thrive.
As for your sweet baby, only positive thoughts, vibes and prayers your way! Being a Momma with no answers and no way to “fix” your baby is a nightmare. I only hope you are able to walk out the darkness soon.❤
You are such a strong person Megan. I did not know what an awesome person you were until I read this….You were as candid as possible. I respect you for stating your truth for everyone to understand and see and for speaking about Hart. It says a lot about your character. It’s says a lot. It says you are honest. It says you are strong & powerful and u wont hide from the truth. God bless you. Crying is the best therapy. So go and do it. You are not the first and u will not be the last to go through this. You can do this💪💜
I’m not the type of person that would normally leave a comment, but I’ll just want to tell you how poignant and well written this is – and brutally honest. This is happened to me and it’s taken many many years to get over and frankly there’s a part of me that will never get over it. My only advice is to stay strong and take care of yourself and your kids. Getting some time and space away from him might be a good idea. Sending some extra strength your way and know that this too shall pass.
Truly one of the most open and honest posts I have ever read. It’s probably what I would’ve wrote myself. I hope your son is ok. I’m sorry you’re hurting and I’m so sorry it’s playing out in public.
So sorry your going through this. Keep strong, pray and stay true to you and keep your head up. You’ve done nothing wrong. Keep being that great mother you are to those beautiful kids. Wish you the best and sending healing energy your way.
Meghan,
This is difficult, but you are strong. What this entails is pushing through the anguish, hurt, embarrassment and standing tall. I always hear, “be like a Palm Tree, they bend but never break.” So bend on your friends and family, but don’t break.
You have 3 littles who may not understand, but know that there is some confusion. Be strong as you can for them. Cuddle a bit longer, give a bit more kisses. Kids are way more intuitive than we know.
I pray for positive results for Hart. I pray for you all.
It is too soon Meghan. I don’t know what made me read your blog, only because I usually don’t read blogs. But, I do follow you on Instagram. I am 57 years old, and my husband is a high profile business man in our area. We have certainly had ours ups and downs. No decision has to be made anytime soon. You owe it to yourself to feel whatever you need to feel. Our issues were public as well ( not on your level of course). My advice, that you certainly didn’t ask for, is take time. Rely on family and girlfriends. Cry cry cry. You will know when it is time time to wipe those tears and straighten that crown! This is between you and your husband. No one else. Answers will come when the time is right. Good luck😘
You got this. Take it one day at a time. My husband cheated on me 4 yrs ago and to this day we are still together. I chose to forgive him.
My heart hurts for you! Your an amazing women and I’m in awe of your composure!
So hard and brutal. Thank you for your courage to write this, it is beautiful and heartbreaking. I am covering you in prayer.
Smart elegant and truthful. May God shine his love and light on you
I’m so sorry to read this. My ex had an affair – an all out affair. We divorced. And one thing that made me strong was remembering he was WEAK – it wasn’t my fault. He had been my only person ever through high school and college and I feel your pain. I had two children when we divorced. He never came around to see them. 21 years later, he doesn’t know his two grandchildren! He is living in the same awful house with his new family that he started in 21 years ago. He had to declare bankruptcy this year. Meanwhile we all moved to a warm southern state where it’s sunny year around living a wonderful life. So while it is devastating to begin with, you will survive. You got this girl!
My heart breaks for you. The worse feeling ever feel in the pit of your stomach. Take some time to process and then take time to figure out the next phase of your marriage. It won’t happen overnight but it is a process and one day the trust will come back because the live is still there.
Your husband is the one broken…not you!! HE needs counseling to find out WHY his ego needs to be stroked by women. You, my dear, need counseling to figure out how you are reacting to this heartwrenching betrayal…..not just privately but publicly as well. YOU cannot fix him! Set boundaries for you and your children and let him fix himself. You are not his mother or caregiver! He needs a whole lot of soul searching and IF he truly loves you…..you will know. Like you said…the big house and diamonds do not provide happiness unless you’re sharing your life with that special someone. God Bless you and your family 💖
Cry every tear you need to cry, scream into a pillow, go in the shower and hyperventilate if necessary. I hate that you or anyone should endure the result of adultry. IT SUCKS!!!!! No other way to say it…and you just need to walk it one day at a time. Even without your husband, you seem to have a good support system in your friends, family and even your social media family! Lean on them…use them to heal! I promise some day it will not hurt as bad. You can forgive, but you will never forget. But for today, tomorrow, and maybe even a month from now..don’t worry about forgiveness. Just focus on Meghan and those precious kids. I have continued tofollow you after RHOC because i love your REALNESS! And don’t stray from that..you can overcome this whatever the result is. But for TODAY..just one step and one day at a time.
Meghan
Hate that your going through it. Honestly did you not feel it??
Seriously, yes marriage is A Choice. And So is Cheating.
I stayed with my husband, first time for the children sake cause I too wanted & believed in the family & raising children in a Christian environment family.
Reality bites. I even was going to adopt my husbands baby that she was having.
After 10 years of marriage the affairs didn’t stop the cheating continued.
Our marriage didn’t.
I stayed divorced almost 10 yrs. Married again after 7 yrs here it comes again.
You know when. You ask the question what’s wrong?
When you already know the answer.
Filed right away divorce #2
Devastated at being a failure in my family that’s the way they looked at it.
We ended up getting back together but as soon as you trust again you’ll feel something tug at you.
Be aware of your surroundings sweetie
Don’t trust anyone when it comes to your husband.
Jim does have a bad rep for a reason.
After 4 marriages & when s woman is pregnant 🤰 that’s the time we feel the most amazing things but not the man
He is selfish I’m not here to bash Jim.
I’m strictly committed on what I’ve experienced.
What I see
We have women’s intuition for that reason your radar was up. You chose to not go there.
Your a warrior woman for what you’ve done to be a family & have children.
Best of luck with your beautiful babies
Prayers for Hart 🙏
Much Love on your path ❤️
Sincerely
Meghan you’re one brave woman. What you are dealing with is so unbelievably cruel. Please stay strong for yourself and your beautiful children. This is your husbands issue and he dragged you and your precious family into this unbearable situation. Please reach out for support just for yourself. I’m pulling for you sweetheart, sending lots of love and prayers. 💕
Thinking about you Megan stay strong keep positive you can pull thru this. Your such a good mommy focus on that only for the days ahead until you figure this shit out. 💗💗💗💗💗💗
I had no idea this happened. Maybe I live under a rock. You have a great head on your shoulders. I’m glad you are not blaming yourself. It has nothing to do with you. He really messed up. I’m so sorry this happened to you and your sweet little ones. They may not know, but they know mommy isn’t happy. That’s the worst part. Stay strong and keep being you. Your strength is your real beauty.
Stay strong Meghan.
Thanks for sharing your story and I want to encourage you that is a moment in what will be a beautiful life. Your family has been through very much in a short amount of time and we all deal with these challenges in different ways. It is often easier to disassociate, hide, hate, escape, but we grow the most when we face these situations. I believe your husband to be a good man, I don’t know him of course, but instead of judging, offer compassion and support. Try to be open to what he may be struggling with that has prompted this unfortunate behavior. Anyway sending my support and prayers to your lovely boy and strength to get you through this time .
Thank you for being so honest and raw about this. I too have been there. You are 100% right, this does not define you. Marriage is hard and you have to work at it every day. People give up easily or are easily tempted. Stay strong! You are beautiful inside and out. Prayers for you and your beautiful baby boy!
Omg. WTF. You have been agn amazing mother. I truly didn’t think he wanted more children from your days on rhoc. You cared for his ex wife during jet battle with cancer. He seems very self absorbed from just seeing him on your IG et al.
I thought I recognized something with your little guy from the beginning. Prayers for nothing but the best for him.
I pray your days become easier. Time to take care of yourself first always. If you don’t have your health, you have nothing.
Let people help you.
Big hugs and prayers and peace in your life.
My heart breaks for you, for your family! Through all your posts, we can all see your strength and the love you have for your family – Jim and your children! Thank you for always being honest and transparent! You will all be in my thoughts and prayers!
You are so strong and can get through this. I’m not sure I could trust my spouse if he had sent nude pics to another person but it is your decision if you decide to stay. Prayers for strength and healing. You are an amazing mom and will figure out whats right for you.
Prayers to you and our family. I pray you both can get through this and become stronger. Believe in yourself and what is in your heart. XO
Take all the time you need to heal for yourself and your kids thank you for being so authentic and powerful with your words … hopes and fears you didn’t have too you could have put out a PR statement and his but this took strength because you are right you did nothing wrong you are not and never will be a victim your a hero remember that .
Aww Meghan this breaks my heart. I only know you following you in Instagram and watching you when you were on RHOC. My daughter is almost the same age as Aspen so it’s fun watching your IG videos they crack me up. This has to be so hard and it made me tear up reading about this. My husband and I are having issues in our marriage too ever since I had our daughter. It’s seriously a struggle everyday to make it work and it’s not easy that’s for damn sure. It’s hard work! But try and stay strong and keep your head up. You look like you have a great family and this is the time to lean on them for support. It’s not going to be an easy road but you will some hoe over come this it’s going to take time to heal from it. Stay strong and know your fans have your back.
I’m so sorry! I’m sad for you.
I have never read any blog, or posted any comments on any of the “real house wives”, but this, this is as real as it gets. Love you Meghan King Edmonds. Sending you love and strength in this difficult time.
I know how your feeling , I’ve been where you are now , shock , hurt , numb , angry , sadness , its like a loss a terrible loss like someone has died because in a way the person you married , love , adored has died in a way , because this isn’t him its a stranger , where for God sake has my husband gone the one that stands before me I do not know ! ,,, marriage is hard hard work , I’m not in your shoes I don’t have the big big house or the money , I have been married for twenty years we have very little money we struggle and struggle , life is hard , my health has been bad , I was a alcoholic, I was a bad person , but I turned a corner gave up , 3 yrs dry , my marriage has suffered greatly and he turned to another woman , I was broken so broken , but as I believe in marriage and vowels , we worked and worked at it , I forgave him , if you both love one another you must not give up , you must both work and work at it , and Megan you will in time forgive , time is a great healer , you must both talk , be open and honest , but he must also know what he has done is WRONG ever so wrong , may God bless you and your family I hope your heart heals it will take time but you will get there ,,, Beverly fincham
So sad for you too.
Good luck with it all. We are all human. 😞
Praying for you Meghan! I agree – your marriage can recover and be better than before. Hang in there! Cheating isn’t a deal breaker. It isn’t fair and it hurts but you can heal together. Jim has a lot of work to do (individually and as a couple) but he can do it! I’m puking for you guys.
You got this! You’re a strong woman! I miss watching you on RHWOC. You’ll get through. Praying for son and your healing.
I’m really sorry for the horrible time you are going through. Sending prayers
I felt compelled to reply to your blog post today. Thank you for your honesty. It is very brave of you to lay it all out there and be so vulnerable. Marriage is so hard. I always tell people I have had many peaks and valleys in my marriage. Some real lows and some real highs. You have to decide what is best for you in the long run. Whatever you decide you and your babies will be fine. The hurt and pain is the hard part. Wishing you all the best and prayers for your sweet little boy.
I cannot imagine what this feels like, but you are strong and you will do what is best for you and your family. Hang tough, God only gives us what he feels we can handle… as hard as that might be to understand.
He fucked up. Take time to breathe. You did nothing wrong. He is lacking something in his ego he needed fed, don’t blame yourself. Take time to breathe, if you choose to , you can get past this. It will take time, don’t listen to the haters , you do what your heart tells you , go to counseling if you want , he really should be going , it’s him that is lacking and self loathing that made him do this. Sad… take time to breathe . We got you . Love you Megan .
Ps. I so love following your adorable children on Instagram, you rock this mommy thing! I’m 55 mom of 2 adults now , hats off momma!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I’m so sorry to have to read this. I love you guys both so much and I hope you can make it through. I feel for you sweet girl. I hope and pray that everything works out. On the upside he came clean didn’t try to deny it or push it off. You are a strong woman and you will overcome this. ❤️
I’m so sorry you have to go through all of this and so publicly at that. Screw the tabloids trying to make stories out of things like this and bug you for comments on something so hurtful and sensitive. I wish you all the best and your strength will carry you through.
I am really sorry for you…it is humiliating and no one should have to go through this much less publicaly…Lay low, be away with your children , it will blow over…you really deserve better…
Oh sweetie, my heart hurts so badly for you. Your plate is most definitely full. You need some space. Time to think. I lost my beautiful 24 year old son 2 1/2 years ago. Losing him, put everything in perspective for me. The death of a child is something no one could ever imagine. Some days it just doesn’t seem possible that he is gone and then the reality sets in, that he will never walk through my front door ever again. That I will never hear him say, hi mom. Life is too short not to forgive. If you want your marriage, than fight for it. Your life and the ones you love, is so valuable.
I am so sorry Meghan. You nor your beautiful kids deserve this. My heart goes out to you. I am praying for you. Hang. In there. God Bless
Hi Megan,
I’m so very sorry that this has happened. You do not deserve it.
If you decide to stay with him, you must move forward somehow and not dwell on the past. That is really difficult to do, some may say impossible. But you are strong. You have your 3 beautiful babies to give you strength.
Hopefully Jim has realized how lucky he is to have you.
Take Care,
Linda
I am so deeply sorry that he did this to you and those babies. I’m praying for you to heal and move on , however you chose to move forward. 💚🙏
Meghan,
I’m so sorry that you are going through this. You’re going to be ok no matter what. Keep your chin up. You’re not alone.❤️
Anastasia
I’m so so sorry you are dealing with this. It was good to get it out. You make a good point. He needs to see a counselor, to find out why why why he would risk everything for something so stupid. It’s some kind of guy thing but damn it you dont deserve it. Please make him see a counselor then you guys go together. I am sorry. But you can recover you can move on . Maybe you’ll never trust the same again, but thats not your doing….its his.
This broke my heart. I’m so sorry you have been put into this horrible situation. If I remember from the show, you have a big and tight knit family- lean on them.
You have a lot of people you don’t even know who are rooting for you and are hoping for your happiness- in whatever form that comes.
Good luck and take very gentle care of y our extremely bruised heart.
Xo
Meg
My heart goes out to you ♥️Be strong and my true saying is when one door closes another opens so make sure you never lock that door.
Awe my prayers go out to you Meghan. I can feel your pain- my ex was messaging women on the internet so I understand the betrayal. I don’t know what your religious beliefs are but look to a higher power for peace and hope. For me- I read, read, read different books, I would google whatever I was feeling to read articles on betrayal and avoidance and cheating etc. just to try and get some understanding on a situation that made no sense. Peace may not come for a long time but focus on you and taking care of you. Keep crying it out! None of this is your fault rather it’s his shit that he needs to work on and figure out. You keep staying faithful to yourself and those babies and everything will work out in your best interest. Sometimes terrible things happen so something more beautiful can come from it. During the most painful times is when growth can happen. I hope that you can find peace and hope admidst the pain your walking through. You don’t deserve this but time will heal. From one mama to another… XO
I’m sorry.
You have a huge decision to make.
Can you live with and have a happy life be a happy person for your kids with him around?
Go to the ocean Atlantic or Pacific to a house on the beach for the entire summer then decide.
I’d go to the Atlantic coast. It’s simpler there. And good doctors for kids in Boston.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. No one but you can decide what choice you make. People will say leave but again it’s your choice! I hope you two can work it out. You have 3 beautiful babies who need both of you. People make mistakes and sometimes they are ugly hurtful mistakes. I know a couple people close to me chose to stay and they are making it work through lots of counseling but they did it and have stronger marriages by doing so. I will keep you in my thoughts! ❤️
I’m so sorry Meghan. You continue to amaze me with your bravery and honesty. ❤️❤️
Oh Meghan…so wise at a young age. You are so right in directing your feelings to the one YOU know and have put trust in. Forget about the scum out there in the world for it is only scum. You are surrounded by wonderful family and friends, lean on them during this time of need. Hold on to your words and write them down (maybe not share) but if you feel better sharing….share away. Pray, pray for your peace and strength. I unfortunately speak from experience. The pain is disgustingly deep…puke level pain. It feels like he emotionally raped you, took everything you had and dumped in the trash, like it meant nothing. I get it! BUT, I believe you can rebuild if both of you want to rebuild your relationship. It takes FAITH, counseling, and precious time. I will pray for you. PEACE! (Went to St. Gabe’s ’75, my mom was good friends with your grandma-bridge group)
I love how YOU told YOUR story so the tabloids can be shut down with all the untruths. You are a good person who does not deserve this in life but don’t let it define YOU. I have faith that you and Jim will work this out and both become a stronger couple on the other side. It won’t be easy and will take time but let God help lead you. Many prayers to all your family.
You have a beautiful head on your shoulders. You are entitled to your sadness. I’ll pray for you and your family.
I’m so sorry to hear this, and hate that you have to endure this publicly. But you will get through this, and will come out the other end a better, stronger person–whatever the outcome. You are such an amazing mom, focus on that! Money, houses, cars all come and go, good/solid/valid relationships don’t. Focus on who is there for you during your most difficult time, and take as much time as you need to get through this.
Beautifully written. I feel your pain and feel terrible for you. God bless you and your family
Praying for you and your babies. And for him to find out why he did this and not to repeat. My heart hurts for you.
Meghan hang in there things will get better….concentrate on your children they need you more….Have been there so I know what you are going through….It takes time but you will get stronger….You and your children are in my prayers….
Oh marriage is hard as hell. Forty yrs later it does get easier. Hang in there you can forgive and the bad memories do fade-away a little at a time.
Oh Meghan! My heart breaks for you and your family! I hope with time you and Jimmy get back to your happy place and that your son Hart gets well and doesn’t have this disorder. Even though I have never met you, I have seen you in the public eye, watched you in TV, are you are so open, uplifting and an inspiration for all women. Stay strong beautiful!
I’m so sorry. Hugs. Focus on your healing and your babies. XO
Prayers and big hugs…..💔💗
Hang in there. I hope you can work things out if that’s what you want. Congratulations on the babies.
Megan,
My husband and I went through the almost exact situation in 2016. It took a lot of work and 14 months of counseling to get to the bottom of the real issue in our Marriage. We did it though and are marriage is better for it l. It still is work every day but we know we love each other and we start there. I can feel your anger as mine was 3 years ago. I applaud you for wanting to try and recover from the this. I know all to well the strength you’re going to have to find to do it. The sun will shine again. I watched RHOC and follow you on social media. I think you’re a great mom and wife from the outside looking in. Hang in there!
Lindsey Lobenstein, Wisconsin
sweetrn32 on insta
Hopefully he can figure his shit out and you can heal. Prayers for your son… and your neck! That’s a lot all at once.
She made broken look beautiful
and strong look invincible.
She walked with the Universe
on her shoulders and made it
look like a pair of wings.
Ariana Dancu
I’ve been there. You aren’t alone. We will overcome.
Meghan, I am so sorry you’re going through this. Please know you are not alone. Right now may seem like the darkest time of your life. I’m here to tell you it can get better. But it will take some work from both of you. I’ve been in your shoes, in this situation. It was 14 years ago, but today our marriage has never been stronger. I think, for me, although terribly sad and hurtful, my husband’s transgressions brought forth an understanding…a lesson…a teachable moment. Our communication opened up through the pain. We became closer. It took a while to trust again. It’s not immediate. Lots of tears and anger, but if you both love each other, you can get through this. I know I’m a complete stranger, but I am a woman and a mom who has felt your hurt and cried your tears. Peace to you. Hug your babies. Be with friends and family and let other women raise you up. My heart goes out to you. ❤
Wow. Thanks you for sharing how you feel to help so many others. This is so well-written and honest.
Meghan i feel ur pain, i was in ur shoes 8 yrs ago! Its not something that u can shrug it off, it takes time!!!! U might get passed it but i found til this day when hubby is off, i get that sinking feeling again. I dont think men know , like really know what we do in our day, kids, schools, groceries, pay bills, laundry, our regular jobs and if we get a few spare minutes, we still dont do enuff!!
I feel your pain, anger, confusion etc. Ive been right where you are. At 6 months pregnant with a 2nd daughter that we tried for my ex husband cheated…with a then 18 year old coworker. My husband was the manager of one of the stores his family owned. We were in the middle of remodeling our 1st house together. So I did what I thought I was supposed to do to keep my family together. I stayed. I fought. I fought for him to stay to keep a father in the home for my girls. For 5 more years I fought. Then after more cheating was uncovered I left. I fought. He didnt. He caved to self entitlement. $52,000 owed now in back support. Im in debt $50,000 with debt and student loans so I could fight for a better life. I fight. Every day. My kids now have abandonment issues, ptsd, anxiety. I fight still. My kids are now 19 and 16. Parents who cheat will never change. The ones who do are rare. Cheating in any format destroys not the cheater but those closest to them. I drown. Ive contemplated suicide from feeling the very low of lows. But then he wins. Everyone says get over it. Move on. Hes not going to change. But how can people tell you that? They arent you. They dont feel as I do. They dont get it. Ive done counseling. It helps but I havent healed and i dont know if i ever will. Im still 11 years later fighting. Internally. I wish you nothing but internal peace. Be blessed you have those 3 precious beings who will always make you smile. The money and fame mean 0. Your children mean everything. Its the one thing you can thank him for…….God bless 💜
I hope you can empower yourself to move forward for you and your children’s sakes. Life can be beautiful even during struggles. Don’t let his weakness take that beauty away. There are so many people that would give anything for one more day with their loved ones or so many women that would love to be able to have a child to raise. Look at all of your blessings and work through your struggles.
My ❤️ hurts for you. I wish the best for your family. And your boy is in my prayers! So sorry Megan
I’m sorry to hear about this Meghan (if you see these comments). Also sorry to hear about the potential health issues of one of your precious boys. I’ll keep you & your family in my prayers.
I am so very sorry for your pain. I am sending you a big hug because it sounds like you really need one. You have every right to feel sad because what you are going thru is very sad. I am sorry your husband made the stupid choices that he did. They were incredibly STUPID! You alone can decide what you want to do. But right now, your precious son needs your attention and I am so sorry that you and he have to go thru this awful time. I will pray that he comes out of this happy and healthy. Best of luck to you. You will be in my prayers.
I’m sorry to hear this. I wish you the best. You seem like an amazing mother and wife. Whatever you do, it will be right for you and your kids.
Meghan, I was you 28 yrs ago. I had small baby and I found out my husband cheated me. Before pregnancy, during pregnancy and after pregnsncy.
When I was trying recover my labour he was fucking someone else.
After yrs of marriage.
I have always admire you in the show. Your loyalty, your strickness, your truth, the way you think motherhood.
via show I m sorry, I did not like your husband at all.
He did not treat you well. Not nice. Not lovingly.
But I saw your efforts how much you tried. All the time.
I dont know how is your life now, but pls believe me, If you have any doubts from him, any wonders inside you, listen that voice.
I know you want to keep family together, sometimes its not worth it. Not, if you suffer, if you always be abandon, left alone with your needs and dreams. Treated as now.
Pls listen that voice. Many times we woman want to believe in love. We want to cure man with our love. But it never ever succeed if man is like Jim.
I dont see any real love his behavior. He treats you nasty. Belueve all these women who say same.
We see it outside.
Some marriages are not ment to be lifetime. Im sure you will find that man who look you with love in his eyes. Dont waste you life.
And kids… they will always see the truth. Do you want your sons grow up seeing how men treat women? Or you daughter seeing how women malest by men?
Despite my words its you who deside. We women feel the truth inside but we dont listen it bc kid and hopes.
Listen yours now.
Love angelina
Girl yes! Coming from a woman whos husband has cheated, but used the “ it wasn’t physical” excuse it doesn’t change the pain. My husband has been married 4 times and I had hoped I would be the last. Unfortunately it seems these men tend to always run when things get hard or their ego isn’t stroked hard enough. They turn to the filth willing to jump in and be the new toy. I hope you are able to work through it and if you aren’t I hope you are able to move on. I pray that Hart is healthy and you are strong. You are amazing and powerful!
My heart bleeds for you, it happened to me as well. Love blessings and prayers
I’m sad for you too. I know this kind of betrayal all too well. Sending you love and hugs❤
I too suffered betrayal! Our marriage survived, but it took time! A LOT of time! But now, we are stronger than ever!! I’ll be praying for you!
Praying for you. Praying for your family. It’s not going to be easy at all, but I trust in you to do what’s right for you first, then for your family. Sending love your way ♥️
I know exactly what you are going through. My husband had an affair 3 years ago and I haven’t been the same since. I wish I could be a stronger person. I wish I. Did not rely on alcohol to get me through the bad days. Thank you for sharing your story
So well written! You are so beautiful inside and out, you will get through this and grow from it. You deserve the world, and those kids do too! Praying for you.
It takes one day at a time to heal. Whether that is with him or without isn’t a decision you have to make alone. Counseling helps. Depending on your religious beliefs will tell you if you need a pastor or a licensed professional. Take your time. Don’t rush it. Writing helps. Whether it’s blogging or Journaling, it helps. Prayers for clarity.
Been there honey! Take the space and time that you need to heal. Cry if you need too! Yell if you need too! Take care of you!
My husband and I sought counseling after an infidelity and it took time, but God is helping to repair what’s been broken. I will be lifting your family up in prayer!
Hi Megan I’ve been through this as well. It nearly broke me but I’ve watched you on the Real Houswives your strong, fiesta you will find a way.
Just take some advice look after yourself
Jenny UK
I watched you since OC Housewives. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this hurt and sadness. You have been greatly betrayed. You’re a good person, wonderful mother, wife, step-mother and friend. You’re a strong woman. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will heal from this trauma with time. I went through a trauma too twelve years ago. I recovered, and God has blessed me. I put Humpty Dumpty together again. It’s up to you how you want to go forward. I would seek professional help to decide. Pray, cry and know that God is with you.
Your baby boy will be ok. You’ve got this. 🙏🏻
God bless you and your beautiful family.
Praying for you and your family.
I’m sorry Meghan! I hope your marriage works out!
I am sorry you are going through this. You stated your feelings perfectly in this blog post. The big house, new car, and money does not mean a thing if your life is based on a lie. I hope Jim makes the choice to 100% commit to the marriage, you, and the children. The beautiful life you two created together is too good to give up on.
Praying for you and a healing heart to make the very best decisions for you and your children.
I went through the same thing! And someone to me ” it’s your life whatever decision you make for your family it’s tour decision, nobody else will live your life only you. ” Hope the best for you and your family. Also hope everything getts better for your son.
My heart breaks for you Meghan. I will pray, I am praying for you now. You are strong, beautiful and deserving! This is not on you but in him. God has you in the palm of his hand. Focus on your children and on our creator. He has a perfect plan for your life. Hold on…you got this! 🙏🏼
First time I have ever sent a message to someone I don’t know but I felt God led. God bless.
Omg gut wrenching – you don’t deserve any of this and I pray you will get the strength – the strength to forgive if even possible; the strength to leave if need be and the strength to get through the difficulties with your son. Your friends and family and all your bloggers will be here for you – one day at time – one step at a time – with love
I understand your pain. Betrayal on any level is hard to understand. No one can tell you how to feel or what to do next. You are a strong woman, even though you don’t feel strong right now. Trust in your marriage has been broken and only the two of you can figure the way forward. Please know that you will be in my prayers. I apologize for intruding into this situation.
Hi Meghan,
Reading this entry literally ripped my heart out for you. I am SO SORRY.
I want you to know, I HEAR YOU, I SEE YOU, I FEEL YOUR PAIN.
I was married to a man for 23 years, I have been divorced for 7. I recently became aware that he has been stealing from me for all 7 of those years, deducting amounts from my Alimony for ‘bills I owed’ & trying to sell our marital home out from under me. I feel as though I have NEVER KNOWN this man at this point, so I GET IT.
I admire your honesty, strength & resilience.
You WILL get through this. You will come out a SURVIVOR & you will THRIVE.
Take good care of yourself & remember, Self love is the most IMPORTANT love in your life.
Blessings to you & your beautiful children always-
Nicole Buckner
I’m so sorry this happened to you, honey. You and your family are in my prayers.
Sweet Meghan- That was raw and hard to read. And I’m just a “fan” not directly impacted whatsoever. So I can’t even pretend to know how you deep the wound is. I do think you will come out of this stronger, better..just different. Tackling this head on and not sticking your head in the sand will get you to the solution.
Hang in there! I’m sending positive energy your way and a prayer or two or three.
Hugs,
Dixie Van Landingham
Hate your going Through This
I just want to hug you. I’m so sorry. I hope everything will be okay with Hart. Marriage is tough but that is unacceptable. I hope you’ll be able to find your happiness again, however you choose. I’m praying for you.
Bless you honey. You are beautiful and deserve the best. Prayers ❤️
Praying for you and your family.
Meghan, we are with you beautiful, sweet lady. This does not define you in anyway but reflects your courage and strength. We love you. Your family are in our prayers. I hope Jim realizes how very lucky he is to have you and spends the rest of his life trying to deserve you.
I feel so bad for you right now. My heart is just breaking for you because I have been through the same thing and it is so hurtful. Being cheating on is something you never really get over. You are very brave for sharing this and for dealing with the tabloids head on. You are so right that you have done nothing wrong!! Always remember that. He made the choice to make a bad decision. Stay strong and do what your heart allows you to do.
I feel your pain
So sorry Meghan- you’re strong enough to handle all of this. One day at a time as they say, keep your head up.
Dear Meghan,
I am so very sorry that this happened to you. You did not deserve it.
When my husband and I watched RHOC a few years back, before you were pregnant, upon seeing how your husband interacted with you, his constant dismissal of you, his annoyance of you, my husband mentioned that there would be zero doubt in his mind that he was already cheating on you or would be soon. You can’t tell me you did not see this behavior as well. Again, YOU did nothing to deserve it, but there are definitely tell-tale observations. Please be aware and protect yourself in the future.
Love and prayers for you and your precious babies!
I’m so sorry to read this. Stay strong Meghan. Sending love from the UK.
Sometimes people just suck. They suck out of weakness. Be sad, be mad. Just be what you need to be for this moment. Shitty way to test your strength but you will be stronger in the end. Take care of you.
My heart aches for you… people say I can’t imagine what you are going through… and they can’t. Only those of us that have had to live through it. My husband cheated…. while we were going through a very stressful legal trial of his doing, with a toddler at home and I was pregnant for our second babe. Our son was born needing immediate surgery and 5 more to follow, he stayed “for me” until the surgeries were complete then continued on his way with the slimy one. I made it, one day, one minute, sometimes one breath at a time. There is no advice to give, just keep breathing because I’m telling you some days that’s all you will be able to accomplish. Just breathe❤️
Meghan I am so sorry to hear about this! You do not deserve any of this. Coming from someone who has been cheated on before, it is the worst feeling in the world. But you have been a role model of mine since your days on RHOC. You are strong and reliant! I know you can get through this! There is always light at the end of the tunnel.. keep your head up!
My heart hurts for you. I have been broken like this before and can only say that you will come out of this – changed – but you will see the other side. I pray for you.
You said it yourself. It’s only been 36 hours. Give yourself some space and time to heal and reflect on how YOU want to move forward. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Hugs and good vibes to you.
My heart aches for you! Thank you for being so vulnerable and always using your platform to help others. No one can tell you what do or how to feel. The right thing is what is best for you and your beautiful family as none of us walk in your shoes. We can be hear to listen, learn and support you in a positive non-judgmental way. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
How dare he embarrass you like this. Thank you for your honestly. Will pray for you and your lovely children. You have matured into a wonderful mother, too bad the same can’t be said for their father. Shame on him!!
I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve this. Trust is a very precious thing. I hope you can find it again in your husband.
Ive been here sister. You arent alone. Your words are beautiful and so true. There is hope, I am living proof. Hugs, kisses, tears and prayers to you, beautiful daughter of God!
It’s ok to be feeling all those feelings . Your doing a great job and are a great mom and wife . Whatever you decide to do it will be ok I do know this !
Thanks for being so transparent through your difficult situation . It’s nice to see transparency for once! Keep praying and moving forward don’t stay in that same spot and if you decide to stay together and forgive don’t hold him in that same spot day to day because that will do nothing but destroy your chance of true happiness! All the best to you and your family . Sincerely , Tara
I’m sorry bout your Heartbreak! U really don’t have to heal u can forgive and b at peace with it, but reality is things r never the Same!!! How could one do that with such a Beautiful caring Wife, what is it he was After? Such a hateful thing to Do! We love U ♥️ Dont take No Shit!!
I am so sorry
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! YOUR ARE AMAZING!! YOUR ARE DESERVING OF ONLY THE BEST!!! YOU Meghan Edmonds LOOK IN THAT MIRRIOR AND SAY I AM WORTH SO MUCH MORE!!! Your babies know your hurting as well as those who love you the most. It isn’t fair that you and your kiddos have to deal with all the pain. Jimmy needs help in someway, BUT you need to realize truly that it is ALL him….. NOT YOU!
Please now that I will be praying for you, the situation at hand and for your adorable son. May GOD bring you peace of mind and you feel his comfort and warmth at all times.
Xoxo – mom of 5
I’m sorry you are having to go through this!
You are right, it isn’t fair!
If you don’t have a psychologist that you can meet with weekly all to yourself, find one!
Seriously I know they will help you figure out why someone would chest in this manner.
From my own experience of severe abuse in my childhood and up to age 28 (I’m 58 now),
I know that before I started with the best psychologist ever (my opinion), I had no idea why I would self sabotage. I’m not giving him a “ get of guilt free” card. However, I did things not knowing why or even how to stop.
Thankfully, now married 28 years, I’ve managed not to cheat and am learning why I wanted to in my last marriage.
You are a wonderful woman and mom!
Please start with helping yourself and find a psychologist you can trust and connect with.
It’s not always the first one you meet, but there are great ones out there!
Also, look on Youtube and check out Kati Morton.
I watch her station in between visits to my therapist.
Hang in there!
I’m so sorry ‘ life can be very hard ‘ but you didn’t make the bad choices ‘ he did ‘ We are all here to learn ‘ we grow the most in Pain ‘ if your husband has pain ‘ over his bad choices pain of what he’s done to you ‘ his entire family ‘ he may eventually grow from it
My advice is once the sting of it all isn’t burning as much ‘ like it is today ‘
Get into therapy together ‘ and get to the bottom of yours and his feelings ‘ unfortunately so many men feel the need to behave in crazy ways ‘ without even thinking of the harm it can do ‘ yes they are both guilty ‘
But you need not be his mommy asking him why ‘ let him find that reason on his own ‘ we cannot fix others they must fix themselves
just focus on your beautiful kids .. and take one day at a time 💜 prayers for you and your little one ‘
Marriage is work every.damn.day. As someone who’s marriage has been to hell and back and survived I know if you put the work in yours can too.
Just put one foot in front of the other!
Sending love and prayers!
Xo
Stay strong for your beautiful children. I’ve been through it pregnant after struggling for so long to conceive. I will tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Let yourself cry and feel all the feels and you’ll get through it. Your a mother, we always come out on top <3
Meghan I’ve never respected you more. Yours is the first honest and honorable disclosure I’ve ever seen. And you place responsibility right where it belongs. Hold your head high for yourself and every other woman who has been in your shoes but was too afraid to stand up against wrong.. you are a hero!!!!!
So sorry Meghan. I understand very well how you feel. Wishing you the best … healing, clarity and wisdom to make the right decisions for yourself and your family, at the right time.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this heart wrenching pain, especially when you ha e little children to care for. God bless you and may he give you strength and perseverance, during these trying times. I really hope things work out for you, in the best personal way. And when I say you I mean just that! It is you and your life and your children that deserve the most utmost care. Take this time to concentrate on your life and your future ahead. Make time for your children, even though you are silently suffering. God will guide you in the right directions, just ask him for his help and he will give you the answers you need to move on, whether it is with or without Jim. No one deserves this kind of treatment. Think through this carefully and try not to put blame on yourself. You have done nothing wrong! You are a beautiful and intelligent woman, who has been mistreated and deceived. You need to know in your heart that you will be ok, with your children, family and friends. Eventually, you will see the light at the end of the tunnel and you will have the confidence to walk through that tunnel. You will find yourself again. God bless your son and may things go well for him too. You are all in my prayers.
Tammy McCarron Elsner
I’m so sorry this happened to you, my heart utterly hurts for you. Yes, healing will take time , and whatever you decide people will always judge but you must be strong and have faith & trust in the Lord. I will be praying for you and you’re family.
God Bless you during this time ❤️🙏🏻
I am so sorry Meghan, I don’t know what it is that makes people think the grass is always greener and to do such things. My god if you have a stable home and a spouse and children that love you, listen up, it’s not going to get better than that. I don’t know why people always need to search for more when it’s been proven time over and again that it never really makes them happy. I will not tell you to leave or stay, that is none of my business nor anybody else’s, the decision you come to will be the one that’s best for you and your children . And as a mother of twin boys myself, one of whom has autism, I do understand that roller coaster of emotions too. I will pray for you, I will pray that you remain strong and get where you need to for you and your children.
Strong words Meghan. I’m really proud of you for sharing this and being so vulnerable. I think a lot of women will take this to heart.
Much love from Nebraska
Oh Meghan, I’m so heartbroken for you. I don’t have the words to comfort you or let you know how much I care, & so many other people too. It’s so hard at any stage of life but with three sweet babies & health issues for your little guy, it’s just too much. Bits of advice to help you get through this: Accept help and care from friends & your family. Take care of yourself & try to keep food down, it may be hard. You may want to stay home & hide (cry) but if need be, see your doctor for help when you feel emotionally overwhelmed. I hope you can get back to the love you shared & get back on track but either way, you are strong & smart & will land on your feet. Hugs, prayers and positive thoughts ❤️ & Baby hugs really do help. Susie
Don’t give up on this marriage or Jimmy, you two belong together!!
I will pray for you. I’ve been through this. A marriage can survive.
You will come out of this stronger than you evee thought you could possibly be, I can promise you!!!!!! My husband cheated on me while I was in the hospital with my premature son in the neo natal unit!! We survive for our children…that’s what makes us mothers
Praying for you❤️
Megan,
You are an amazing woman and mother. You did nothing to deserve this and that is the most heartfelt, open and honest response a person could share. And it’s a feat to even be able to share it. You will be sad for a time, but your wounds will heal. I hope you can forgive him but that should be the last thing on your mind right now. Focus on those beautiful babies, and we will all pray for you all and that Hart is healthy and will be alright. God has a plan. You are a strong woman. I hope you can find some peace in this mess.
Good luck!
You are strong. You can over come this. Your an amazing mother. Whatever is going on with Hart you will overcome. No matter what we all support you.
Hi Meghan, I’ve been through this and with much hard work and Godly intervention were able to reconcile. If you need to talk please reach out ❤️ Praying for you, I feel your pain.
Praying for you! You do what is right for you and your kids and DO NOT let others tell you your decision is wrong. No one has walked in your shoes no one knows your heart no one knows jimmys heart. Humans fail but there is hope and there is forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you give up on your marriage it also doesn’t have to mean you stay. Don’t make any fast decisions about the future and except nothing less then you deserve. You are a strong smart person who will do what is right for you and your kids whatever that is. Healing takes time it can be done. Give yourself that time
Big hugs to you. Xxx
What do I know about marriage, I’m divorced?!!…
Time does heal tho, if you love one another fight for it xxxx
I don’t normally comment on celebrity blogs but I’m really sorry you’re going through this.
It took a lot of courage to write this. ❤️
Meghan I loved reading this. Your response was perfect. I am much older than you and more his age and I have been with a lot of narcissist acting men. Just remember your worth and what you deserve. I saw how he spoke to you on camera and felt bad for you. However I have been with similar men and make excuses for them. I am not saying leave him, but at the end of the day always know your worth and what you deserve!
❤️
I commend your bravery to share your feelings at this time. I pray for your son and your family to heal from all of this and I hope your husband try’s every damn day to win your trust back. Either way you will survive and continue to be strong . Tomorrow is a new day and each will get better after that . Do what makes YOU HAPPY in the end .
I feel so bad for you. Thank you for being so honest. It will help a lot of women.
I am so sorry for you. Beautiful, heartfelt post
Wow. I’m just absolutely speechless. You’re a beautiful person both inside and out!! We don’t know each other but I’m currently going thru the same thing!! Say whatever you need to say, don’t hold back. He needs to take it and accept responsibility. Stay strong sissy!! 💗
Hugs!!! I was put in a similar position a few years ago when my husband decided to confess to me inappropriate behavior he had On a business trip. Do I really believe nothing happened? I can’t say that 100%. I feel like our relationship is a great example of a piece of paper that you tear the corner off and then tape it back on , it might look OK but there still that rip in it. I love him with all my heart we’re still together but it makes me sad when I think about it also. I was sad for a good year or more. I still get sad thinking about it. Just wanted to say that I understand and I’m sending hugs your way.
I am so sorry that at a time in your life where you should be enjoying every single second, you have to deal with this situation that you did not create. As hard as it may be try to keep your time and thoughts occupied with your three gifts. Do not give away this precious time. These years with your babies fly by and can never be turned back. Everything else will work itself out and if not at least you made the very best of every second with your kids and you will have no regrets. Stay positive and focused it will pass. Keeping you in my prayers.
Praying for you.
I lived your sad reality. It happened to me when I was pregnant with our first child. I stayed – hoping, praying, believing it COULD change. At 45, 26 years and two more kids later, and many, many, many affairs later, I finally left. My adult children tell me they wish I had left early on. They were hurt and embarrassed over and over, and still. I wish I had left after the first time. These men don’t change. They cannot change. It is not in their dna. Leave. You have family and friends who love and value you. There is a man in your future who will love and value you. Leave. He’s one of the slimy ones. They don’t change. I’m sorry you’re sad and I ache for you. Leave. The next time will be worse. There will be a next time. You’re 100% right, you don’t deserve this. Your children don’t deserve it. Leave.
Wow! You’ve expressed yourself in the most eloquent way, and you deserve all the respect in the world. Your words…man oh man – they resonate in such a profound way. You are truly a class act. It will get better, and whatever the result ends up being, you/the relationship/both will be stronger for it. ps – of course you won’t be humiliated by this – there is nothing whatsoever for YOU to be humiliated by. Your soul is entirely in tact – you are a beautiful human (inside and out).
I am so sorry Megan. I watched you and adore you. You are a truth seeker. You are strong, beautiful, and very smart. So happy to hear you knownthis really is aboutnhim and not you! Keep crying if you have to. Do whatever it takes to make it to the other side. Take your time, you will figure out the relationship. Love those babies ❤️ Ps I have been there
Meghan, I am so truly sorry about what your husband has done to you. Just remember you are a beautiful human inside and out and loved by so many! You’re an amazing mama and your kids will forever love you and Look up to you in more ways than one. You are not defined by his actions. Although, it is 100% ok to be sad and be hurt- you’re allowed to grieve and take all the time the need you need to be able to heal at your own speed. There’s going to be a light at the end of this tunnel. I’m too going through a difficult time, but I promise it gets better! Keep your head up girlfriend!
I’m so sorry for you. I went throug a very similar situation and know how difficult it is for you. My heart breaks for you and all the other women in this situation. It’s been 12 years for me, yet when I read your blog it feels like it was yesterday. Hold your children close and allow yourself to grieve. Sending you my love.
Meghan my heart is with you! Your words are also what I needed to hear. “Not defined by this”. My husband cheated after I gave birth in the same way. Via text with a ex. Almost 3 years later I still don’t trust him, I got very depressed but we are still together. You are right marriage is work every damn day and now you will have new work. To try and repair and forgive. You are so strong and I am always inspired by your wonderful heart, words and gratitude. You are a fantastic loving mother. You are enough and wonderful just as you are. You are brave for sharing and posting this just know your true fans will help hold up your heart during this time.
Whatever it is that you ultimately decide for your marriage and family, I hope you do it knowing your full worth as a woman, mother and wife. You are so brave to be sharing this all publicly and stronger than you realize now. Take all the time you need now to heal and lean on your supporters, that is what they are there for. Time away from your kids now to focus on the issues will lead to a stronger Mommy that will once again be able to fully focus on them. You deserve peace and happiness too.
Hi Meaghan! When I saw something about this on Facebook I didn’t finish reading it because I thought it was fake. I’m sorry this has happened to you. I went through the same thing your going through. I found out when I was cleaning house and went to move my husbands computer. He had forgot to log out of his email with his girlfriend.
It’s hard but if you both want to fix what happened it can work. Don’t let him or anyone tell you what to do or how to feel. This is up to you.
I’ll be praying that you somehow find peace with what happened.
Take care,
Rhonda W
Clearwater florida
Stay strong as you are, but allow yourself to feel sad, too. You deserve whatever you want to feel. Your babies still have their wonderful mother, even if you don’t feel as yourself for now. Don’t beat yourself up about that. They are young and they’ll feel your love no matter what. Lots of love your way. Thank you for sharing to mothers who can relate.
Thank you for sharing. I too am going through similar and it is not easy one bit. Betrayal is wrong. I am as loyal as they come! And my one request to my husband is that if he ever felt the need to betray and cheat..leave! Don’t do my heart wrong like that. The worse part of our story is she was my friend, our sons were best friends. That all ended and I can’t explain to my 10 year old why he can’t see his best friend. It’s a living nightmare. This is no reflection of you and who you are. Stay strong, those babies need you. I’m praying for your healing heart. I’m not one to comment on “famous” peoples stuff, but this touched me in a way I can’t explain. Just today I found more stuff my husband has done. It’s so hard. But we are woman, we are born strong. And their wrongs will only diminish their self worth, while ours will grow over time. ♥️ I hope this comment is private and for your eyes only. Lol!!! Hang in there!
You are very brave for posting this and you are absolutely correct. You did nothing wrong and do not deserve this. Stay strong and focus on you and you
r adorable kids! Dont be concerned with anyone else’s negativity!!
Thank you for the courage to be honest and real!
I’ve been there and the pain doesn’t go away. It only makes you stronger. Your words were beautiful and you will make it through this. Prayers for peace and strength.
Hate This For Yu you,Wish The BEST For You And Your Children,WISH I Could Be More Like You When my EX Cheated on ME,But After 25 Years I DIVORCED Him.
Meghan, I cannot begin to Imagine what you’re going through. I’m sorry.
I obviously, do not know anything about your little guy. My son is Autistic, diagnosed at 4YO. It was beyond hard for us to admit he was delayed, and on the spectrum. However, I’ve devoted every day to making sure he gets services, and anything he needs to grow in every aspect.
Therapy helps immensely! Throw all of your remaining strength and energy into your children. especially your little guy that needs whatever service or therapy to help him grow in every way!
Hugs to you!
Once a cheater, always……………………….If he cheated during your PREGNANCY, NOTHING will stop him in the future. Shame on him. It’s really disgusting that he would do that to you. You need to leave him. He’ll never earn your trust again and without that, you two have nothing. So sorry but it’s true. He doesn’t deserve you or his kids.
Meaghan I feel for you and know that it will get better. Hope the best for you and most importantly your babies. I got to like you when you were on the RHWOC. Wis you the best
Oh, I am so very sorry for you Meghan! Trust is very easy to lose and very hard to regain. I will pray for your beautiful little boy, I will pray for your marriage and I will pray for your family! It is completely unfair. You are absolutely right that marriage is a choice and you did absolutely nothing wrong and you don’t deserve this! Stay strong for your three beautiful children and for yourself! You are an amazing woman and I sincerely hope this turns out the way you want. More importantly, I hope your precious baby is ok!
Wow. Meghan. That was written so well and from the heart. I’m so sorry that this happened…..my therapist told me a long time ago when I was dealing with something similar: u may not feel like eating, but just make sure u keep drinking water… Hahahah. Silly but true. Good luck.
Meghan-
I am so sorry this is happening to you!
Bless you & your babies!
You got this!
Whatever your path- you got this!
Don’t let his actions crush you!
I have 6 Children- 3 Adopted with special needs, it can be hard but at the end of the day we get through it and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Hugs,
Keri
You are a very special person. Just remember that.
Stay strong mama. Allow yourself to heal in your own time x Nothing hurts more than being deceived by the one you love but you can both repair the damage over time.
I’m very sorry you’re going through this.
My heart is so heavy for you. I feel the pit in my stomach for you. I am so sorry. I don’t know what to say to make it better ( total stranger or dear friend) except that I am so sorry.
Try not to drown in the emotions. For your own sake and the sake of your kids. When the going gets tough I am terrible at this – my emotions get the best of me. Just try to be aware of it. You and Hart and your family are in my prayers.
Meghan:
My heart breaks for you, as i share your pain in both my Ex cheating on me after 25yrs of marriage and also had been through medical crisis with two of my daughter’s. My eldest almost died on the OR table.
This destroyed me. I am a simple person too, taking care of my girl’s, working & just living life. Yet on Christmas eve at my sister in law house i found out through my Mother in law with my husband sitting right there that he wanted a divorce. Out of the blue, literally blew me and my kid’s away!
Next day he confessed that he had met someone and as time went by more info just kept coming out.
In a split second your life is ripped apart. Nothing means anything anymore.
I couldn’t feel anything i was numb.
My Thoughts and Prayers are with you now and always❤🙏
Just know that only you can make that final decision on your marriage.
Don’t get caught up in the haters or the one’s that say stay for the children.
Do what your heart tells you feels safe and right!
I don’t know why men feel they need to do these sort of thing’s, if they only knew how it destroys our trust..faith..our very being in other’s. God Bless you and your children! My Prayers are also with your son & the doctor’s that they figure all of this out🙏🙏
I know exactly how you feel.
My husband did something so unimaginable I never thought he could do.
My good old boy, my prince…
A lady of previously divorced, domestic abuse in the first marriage, porn, drinking abuse, whored me out to his friends & family. I have triggers- now over 52 going thru menopause, lack low drive over the last few years, I caught my husband watching porn for close to three years. He words, I thought it would bring us closer, it would help us in the bedroom? I found three yrs worth of history on his computer 💻. How is that gonna help me or us. Especially times when I’m not home, or working in the yard, or out running errands, or in bed by myself? Men are selfish pigs. That want self gratification, bottom line it’s sex sex sex.
Beautifully written. Your authenticity speaks volumes! Tremendous wife & mother. Lots of love.
And don’t forget !!! You are a wonderful wife, mom and stepmom. You are a terrific example to many women !!!!
You deserve so much more. It isn’t that simple though and none of us have a right to judge. You have so much more to consider than yourself, you have your children and whatever is best for them and yourself is what you should do. Stay strong mama ❤️
Meghan, I am praying for you. Praying for clarity, peace, and renewed confidence—whether in your stance, yourself, or your marriage. The rawness of your writing is vivid and I hope time brings you comfort.
Wow, that got me in the feels. Stay strong. You deserve nothing but the best and you will rise above this. 💪🏽
You are a strong woman and mother. That was beautifully written and I hope your heart heals and you get to a place that you are happy again, whatever that may mean.
I have been in your shoes, except my husbands was a physical affair. It was the worst thing to go through. My 23 year marriage did not survive. But I will say this if he is willing to give you everything YOU need to work through this, give him that chance. You will most likely never trust him again but time does help that. Men are weak, it’s not an excuse but I know that they are. My heart is broken for you, I know this pain and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
You are in my prayers.
Kim
Meghan,
I wish I didn’t know exactly what you are feeling, but I do. I never understood what the word SORROW meant until my husband betrayed me not once, but twice, and for two years at least. We have five children so I swallowed my pride and lost myself in trying to make it work. It was mortifying and exhausting. Long story.
My heart breaks for you. He chose to let some stranger disrupt your bond and penetrate into your safe family bubble. This was the hardest part for me. You may be able to forgive with time, but you will never forget and will never fully trust him like you did before. If I can offer any advice it would be that this is YOUR life and YOUR journey. Follow your instincts. I kept everything a secret and went it alone. It wasn’t healthy. If you have good people in your life who support you that’s great but use your therapist. There are things you will need their guidance on as you try to process and work through all of this. Especially with the added concern for your son.
You seem so wonderful and I am sending positive vibes and will pray for you, your son and wish you peace! You will find your way.
PS Find a silly comedy show or something that will make you laugh a little. It really is the best medicine! (May I recommend Schitt’s Creek?)
Xoxo
You threw lots of stones. You should not be so judgmental and respect others pain. Learn from this.
This was beautifully written. My heart goes out to you and your children.
Meghan, so sorry to hear this.
The LORD is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit –
Psalms 34:18
Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Meghan you are truly in my thoughts and prayers. This is so much for you right now. Hoping your family is helping you if nothing else, to clean the kitchen or just give you time to rest. You are strong, you are smart, and you are human. There is no need for you to keep up any social media stuff for a long time- we all have you and your heart in our positive thinking, and positive prayers. ❤️
My husband cheated on me while I was pregnant. We had a 1 year old daughter and I was carrying our second child when I caught him. It destroyed me. It literally changed my dna. I cried for years as a broken person. I think because I had no idea that something like this was possible. This was 22 years ago and although I’ve moved on, I never really recovered.
♥️♥️♥️To you.
Sending you love from Canada. 😢❤
I am so sad to hear your pain, you truly don’t desythis at all. He should look at you and pinch himself in disbelief. You are an amazing wife and mother. The fact that he has someone next to him that is so loyal and beautiful makes me so mad! I know you have children and you want to make it work but it’s very hard to build the trust back. I wish you peace and strength in this hard time. Please keep us posted, sending you lots of love and blessings 💗💗💗
Praying for Hart most of all! I have a child with an neurological disorder and believe me I know the all alone ugly cries. Deep breaths and focus on helping your baby get all the early intervention he can!
You are a strong, beautiful woman and amazing mother. Sending prayers your way.
Unfortunately Beautiful soul, its called arrogance (the Bill Clinton kind) . I pray for you, your children,,your entire family going forward. I’m a prayer warrior,I’m on this ✝️🙏…….Kathlyn Poncino
Hang in there mama ♥️ Thoughts and prayers. Also for your little one, that alone is way to much to bear.
Omg Meghan. My heart literally aches for you. I went through something similar (just emails no pictures ) but we are older and have grown kids . First I have to say your article is wonderful. What you wrote is just so clear and spot on. You have such a great head on your shoulders. Long story short, I moved out for two years but we kept seeing each other and I moved back in. Whatever you decide to do is your decision and yours only. Don’t listen to or read any garbage out there ! Take one day at a time I always think of Kathie Lee Gifford and what she went through and how she handled it. With grace and class. Showing exactly what you said : it’s not your fault , you did nothing wrong and you deserve the best . I’m praying for you and your children. Go to a good therapist if you’re not already. Just to have a 3rd party to talk to. Hang in there ! You have wonderful parents and siblings that are so supportive too. Wish you all the best xo.
Pray for strength and take it day by day right now. My husband did same thing. The pain is unimaginable.
Focus on those beautiful babies and don’t make any major life decisions for a while. Wait until the pain subsides, however long that takes.
Look after yourself, talk to a therapist, councillor or some one who can guide you through this life struggle when you are ready.
You will be happy again, it will take time and healing. And pick your own road, once you are ready to go forward down your new life path
This world is wonderful, and you will see that again, I’m sure as you are a strong person. Sending you strength and healing prayers
Prayers and positive thoughts. My ex husband did the same but more when I was pregnant with twins. One twin passed away. All I can say is stay strong for those beautiful babies and time will heal. I gave up the house etc everyone is different. I pray that God will guide you.
You dont know me. I follow you cos you are YOU. I am thinking about you. Wrapping my heart around yours.
Hart has a strong mummy. What ever comes his way he will be able to deal with his what hand life dealt, cos of you.
Its okay to be hurt, sad, dazed and fuming mad. Each feeling brings us closer to the next step of accepting what has happened. Dark days will come and dark days will go but you have your rainbows to bring back the sunshine.
Much love xx
Healing is definitely a process and I’ve followed you though your journey with IVF (both times) and noticed Jimmy’s absence physically & emotionally.
I didn’t put much merit into his disconnect from the situation as you have said many times “that’s his personality”, I trusted and believed that to be true…it was believable as everyone is different.
My heart breaks for you, as I read your blog, my eyes filled with tears for you. I believed in you as a couple, and still do.
You’re absolutely still raw over this and a lot of damage has been done.
You can either choose to save your marriage or move on, on your own and grow from this.
Either way: YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!!
There is still a lot more crap that you will have to go through to get on the other side of this issue, but: YOU’VE GOT THIS!
When all is said and done: YOU’VE GOT THIS!
So be Sad, Mad, Grieve it to your final core!!!
Only you know what to do, and damn anyone who judges you for it.
YOU’VE GOT THIS MEGHAN KING EDMONDS 💕
I pray for you and your family as you go through this difficult time.
XO
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings when you certainly owed it no one❤️
I am so sorry you are going through this.. just terrible.. my prayers for you to find some sort of peace and guidence.. look to God and just keep your beautiful children in your arms…❤
I feel for you so much. As a woman who has experienced her husband having an affair, it is like no other. The betrayal is like no other. After 7 years post affair, I still think about it. I still hate him some days. We work at it every single day. I hate that you have to deal with this publicly. I didn’t want to tell my friends and family, let alone half the world! NOONE understands your position more than you. You are strong and brave, but don’t hesitate to lean on those close to you. You can take as much time as you need to decide what is best for you, whether you decide to stay married, or feel it’s too much and you have to part ways, that is your choice and no one else gets an opinion on that. You have 3 beautiful babies who need you and that is your focus. I wish you all the peace you can handle. It’s going to be a roller coaster, but just take it one minute at a time.
Just wanted to say you do YOU, for you & then your children. They need a healthy mom, among many other things. Jim has to fix himself should he choose to do so. You cannot make that decision for him. It’s all about YOU. Sending you lots of positive juju from NorCal. 🙏🏻💗💗💗 You got this.
XOXO
– Cara
Meghan, I don’t know you. But I’ve always liked you. I live in STL too. We’re all rooting for you and your kids. Hopefully you’re rough road ahead will lighten soon. Keep your head high.
Meghan. Push for your marriage ! If you have proof there was no physical relationship. If you are not sure or he won’t tell you the truth. Take time to heal. With or without him. I am so sorry I will be praying for you
Men are stupid creatures. How is it they have so much power in the world when they are such idiots!
Focus on your kids and you. Grow them into respectful humans who don’t behave like that.
He has to work his arse off to earn your trust again…but it will take time.
You’re a great mum though…believe it.
All the best from New Zealand!
: )
For whatever it’s worth you are right it doesn’t take two to cheat – he needs to figure out why he would do this. You remain strong and do what feels right for you and your family absolutely nobody has a right to comment. Love and hugs in this hard time. 🙏🏼
I’m so sorry Meghan. At least you know. I was married to a high school athlete, entertainer , musician. He confessed to being like all men. He cheated the entire 43 year marriage. At least you know now. Fly free!
Joellen
I am so sorry. I too went thru something similar. My son was in children’s hospital for a solid 2 years off and on and his father was cheating on me with someone who was known as “the whore “ of our town. I found out I made him leave as I couldn’t look at his face . It took 2 1/2 months before I let him come back to the house and that was because my kids wanted their dad. It took baby steps but we survived it. Do I trust him now, yes 5 years later I can 100%. The fact he did this when I needed him most and our son needed him most I can’t get over. He knows my punishment was and still is he will never receive a blow job from me again or anyone else. I needed a lifetime punishment for that pain and he has it! We are as strong as ever too.
I’m so upset for you. All I can say is maybe you need some time away to heal and work out what happens next.
Me and my husband split for 10 years but I’m happy to say we’ve been back together now for 8 years and are planning to get re-married. The first marriage last 21 years and we have two children. Don’t give up, just take some time out and figure out how to overcome this awful situation. It’s not the end of the world, yet it feels very much like that right now.
My heart goes out to you Megan. Stay strong, but if you feel weak, then let yourself be weak for a while, then strength will return. Weakness isn’t all bad, it can make you stronger, sometimes bad things happen and you must let your feelings happen. We are allowed to have all sorts of emotions, after all we are human beings. Don’t beat yourself up – be sad today, but pick yourself up tomorrow and work it out.
I don’t know you and you don’t know me, but if you need a shoulder……..
You have many frienda and fans who are fully supportive of you. I can’t imagine going through this, not to mention being in the public eye. Thank you for being open and honest. I think that is the best way to crush any rumors. We all feel for you and hope the best for you and your family!
Surely this didn’t come as a surprise to you. My goodness are you dumb? I’ve been saying for years that he is cheating on you, especially when he goes on his business trips. He will be moving on to wife number 4 any time now. Hahaha you idiot!
Meghan- I’m So sorry! Sending you strength and prayers.
I am so sorry Megan. I can’t tell you how to feel but your blog is amazing. So true so right. I am shocked I can’t believe in this day and age he could be so dumb to think you would not find out. I wish I could give you a hug. I can’t imagine how hard it is to go threw this. You are an amazing person and you loved your family as you should but didn’t deserve this. I don’t know why a man is not smarter than even think it was ok for a moment or months. Why don’t they have more to lose than they think to not cheat. . Why do men get weak. Women don’t deserve it. You are an amazing mama to three beautiful babies and I know how hard it would be to even function While your heart is broken. The trust is something that it will take years to get threw it. . Take your time try to heal and figure it out. But now put yourself first. Lies and abandonment and dishonesty is all your feeling. Hope you have some help with your babies to have moments to yourself. I will pray for you everyday. Till your heart heals. Take care Debra Taber
Well said. Can’t add to that. I know your hurt. Lesson learned. Be strong for you and those beautiful babies.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I don’t know you but you are determined and strong, or so it seems. Listen to yourself. Take the time you need to recover. And figure out what’s best for you/kids. Reach out to your friends and family. Forgive. Be happy. I am in St. Louis and am sending positive vibes to you. Wish I could give you a hug. 💝
I’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. I can’t imagine the thoughts, feelings and anger that you are feeling. I hope and pray for you, your kids, and Jimmy. I admire your openness about your relationship and your courage to put it out there! Much love to you!!
Girl,
When I saw the article, I just felt sick for you. Every statement you wrote above was so truthful and open. You’re far more kinder than me. I know you’re hurting and the initial reaction is to crawl in a hole, but you are correct, you did nothing wrong. I pray for your hurting heart and your fragile marriage. I pray you can forgive and make an honest decision regarding your life. I wish I had magic words, but I do not, I will just pray and wish good will for you. I’m sorry 😔
I wish I could remove this life shattering pain you are having to endure. You never really know anyone until they prove themselves under fire. I’m almost 70 and betrayal will always bring down the “ perfect” relationship. Please love yourself and your gorgeous children. Demand the truth. Take Care!
Words cannot express how sorry I am for what you are enduring, but your courage, grace and dignity are evident and truly an inspiration to those of us who have endured the same thing.
Sending you so much love and strength as you are faced with such a challenge, especially as you are dealing with Hart’s health issue. I will keep you in my prayers and have faith that all will be well, and you will rise and be an even better version of the lovely person you already are!
Barbara
I’m so sorry for your pain, especially when it’s made public! I will keep you in my prayers sweet girl! I do care and know there are many people out here that love and respect you! Love and hugs to you and your precious family!❤️
Sending you love, strength, courage, and anything else you need to pull through. There is a place beyond this hurt, on the other side of the pain and anguish, that you will reach with time. Stay strong, and know that so many are rooting for you, and are there in spirit to lift you up.
I am
So sorry for what you feel. Life is not always as we think it will be- your heart and your words are the truth. Marriage IS a choice- and as time goes on whether you choose to stay or go with Jim- it’s a choice and he must make it as well. I am overwhelmed and amazed at your honesty and strength- just know you are a hero to so many who are so afraid to be honest about what lies behind the “smoke and mirrors”. You are wonderful. Chin up. You inspire me. Thank you.
You are brave, you are strong. You did not deserve this. You are 100% correct about choices in life and we must rise above. In a marriage you choose not to have an affair. Temptation is part of life, it’s what you do with it that shows your true devotion. Thinking of you during this time and wishing you the best. You are a great wife and an awesome mother.
I’m so truly sorry you’re going thru this…I’ve been cheated on too and it was awful and it took me time to forgive but I certainly did not forget. He’s apologized a thousand times but it did not make my heart feel better. All I kept thinking is why, why would he do that to me and to us. Two years later I feel it made us stronger and it made him realize how the grass is never greener on the other side. Hang in there, it’s so hard to get over it and you will be sad for a while. But it helps to talk it out with him and your closest ones. Sending you lots of prayers xo
Take your time to do what you think is best. Turn off the comments section. No one walks in ur shoes. Been there, stayed and though he didn’t change so grateful I took my time so I would not have any regrets. Had to look at my babies and truthfully tell them I did every single thing I could to keep their fam together self care as much as u can- face cream, lots of love on urself ♥️
There was something about him that was unsettling the first time he was on air with you. He showed a lack of support or attention to you. I am not shocked or surprised by his actions. I am sorry you have been hurt so badly by his selfish inclinations and that everything is exposed for all to see.
Meghan , I have been there. I am not a “celebrity”. We were living in a small town. Everyone in my church knew my friends , family. I went into a deep depression .
Hold on to your babies. Pray for strength . If Jim is willing to work on your marriage . Try to keep your marriage intact.
Trust is so hard. But leaning on God will pull you through anything. God Blesss.
I am I awe of you. And although I can’t relate, I can feel what you’re feeling because you are so great at putting it into words. So many are rooting for you although you are feeling so alone. I am sending you strength and comfort. No one deserves this. You will get through it. I believe you know this. Hugs.
Big hug Megan please take care of yourself too. Mom’s forget to do that. I pray you son is healthy and they find out what is going on with him Tracy – XOXO
In shocked. I am praying right now for you, your family,and your marriage. I hope Jim can make this right. I wish someone with the right words can comfort you. In the end , I can only depend on God. He is our Savior. I personally pray for my marriage to God and let Him transform him. We can’t control our husband. He is the father. Give it to Him. Have faith. It may sound foolish,but prayers work!! Huggies!!
You are brave and strong and beautiful. I give you so much credit for putting this out there…not easy to do by any means. Do why is best for you and your kids. Much love.
I am so sorry this is happened! It’s so sad . You have a beautiful family, amazing parents and siblings. Please rest find a good Christian church and heal. GOD loves all of us . He can heal your hurt , and HE can heal Jim who doesn’t love himself and they that live maybe Jim can charity you the way you need ! Take one day at a time for you , heal and don’t let anger get the best of you that you become bitter like Vicky your much to amazing to let that over come you. Your a wonderful person . This is about Jim and his ego that needs to be checked once he removed the self hate he has for himself he will treat others better. Unfortunately the Baseball life sets these people to be untouchable however they often kill things along the way and they need a reality check..
heal sweet Meghan
Your strength and perseverance are remarkable and empowering! I cannot imagine the pain you feel and how you hurt to the soul from this betrayal. All I can say is I am sorry. I know it does nothing for you but I truly hate this for you and your babies. Take time for you to clear your head and heart so you can get back to the best version of yourself for those beautiful babies! They love you as mommy UNCONDITIONALLY!!! Feel your feelings, masking them of hiding them will just prolong your pain! Those babies love YOU!!!
I am in the same position at this moment, though my husbands affair was mostly emotional. I have been going through it. The crying eventually stops. You begin to heal, but you aren’t the same. I pray you have peace.
This makes me so sad for you. You and your family and especially Hart are in our prayers.
Love and prayers
Meghan, I’m so sad you are going through this. I’ve been there and made the “hardest” choice, I stayed and decided to make my marriage succeed. Some days I question everything and some days are wonderful. Wishing you peace and happiness. Prayers for your family.
Sadly I’ve always thought Jim was your “slime-ball #1”. Take your kids and go to a healing place with love and support. Your kids just need you. Forget him. Call an attorney. Move forward. You are raising a young woman, show her how she should be treated and show your sons what they should never do to a woman. Be the example your husband is not.
My husband did the same to me.. it’s been two years since I found out about the slimy one in his life. She was a “friend” of ours a bartender it’s unreal the defeat and betrayal you feel. You do you! Keep your head held high.. thank you for sharing your story. I know it’s not easy it’s almost a shameful feeling you get when you have to admit this and it wasn’t even your mistake.. Prayers for you and your sweet children..
Your message breaks me because I know what it is to feel abandoned. It’s so lonely and I am hoping you can find some solace in all this. Maybe it’s just with your words but you are letting other people out there know they are not alone and sadly we all might go through something like this. It’s awful, it’s underserved, it doesn’t feel good but time will help you cope with this pain. Stay strong, ugly cry when you need to and be a great mother to your children. Rooting for you and hopefully you can heal from this trying time in your life. Thank you.
I’m so sorry Meghan. Will keep you and your babies in my prayers.😘
My heart breaks for you. May you find peace and healing. We love you Megan! God Bless xoxo
I am so sorry you’re having to go through this…I truly feel for you. No one deserves to be lied to, humiliated or made to feel like they aren’t enough. What happens will happen, but just remember that better days will eventually come and you WILL make it through no matter how it turns out. You have family (luckily now, nearby) that will have your back no matter what decisions are made. Hold close to them. They will never let you down.
Meghan
I am praying for you. You will be ok. You are strong. You are bright. You are a survivor. I am a teacher and the grandmother of 2 special needs boys. You will be ok. Hart will be fine….I promise. He may not be the Hart you envisioned but he will be the Hart he was created to be. He will bring joy. He has a purpose. Look for it every single day. It’s up to your husband to make this right….if he can’t….then you need to do what’s right for you and those precious kids. Keep your chin up.
I’m sad now too. I am married too. Last summer my husband of 17 yrs had a flirty thing with a woman who picked up his card at a party. It was all via text. We have two beautiful girls. How could he do this? How could your husband do this? The betrayal is real. But my eyes are opened to these crazy woman who have ZERO regard for marriage. Men are weak but these bitches are ruthless.
I don’t trust most women and that is sad.
Hugs to you Meghan…. love from Canada
-Chris
Every. Damn. Word. I have felt it for the last 5 years. I was a true and faithful wife for 10 years. A dozen deployments. A special needs child. And I’m still told it was my fault. If I was a better wife or better mother. It’s a lost blessing marriage. And I am forever ruined by the ideal of forever. My only advice, do whatever it takes to be the mother your children need. Unfortunately I work ridiculous hours and over time to take care of mine.
Stay strong! Make sure your sons are not raised that way. I think even if it is 2019, a lot of men still do what they want to do. They need therapy but they don not want to do that. It is sad! I wish they were raised kinder
Healing Hugs Sent
My heart goes out to you. My sons father cheated on me as well when I was pregnant. The pain and humiliation and depression are only understood if you go through it. I would sit and cry on my floor when the baby was sleeping in the crib and pray to God that I will be strong enough to overcome some day. That day came when my son was three. I packed up and left. Never look back I would sit and cry on my floor when the baby was sleeping in the crib and pray to God that I will be strong enough to overcome some day. That day came when my son was three. I packed up and left. His cheating on me broke me in a way that just cannot be healed. I pray for you and hope that things work out for you the way you want them to be. God bless you and your children
All I can say is, hugs. I hope you have a strong support network to help you through this. This doesn’t reflect on YOU at all. I’m also dealing with some unknowns with a child’s health and it’s…gut wrenching. I can’t imagine what you are going through.
Thank you for being so transparent. I went through the exact same thing and I still struggle 3 years later. You have put my exact thoughts into perfect words. I hate this for you and I’m so sorry. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you find peace in this.
What a difficult time for you . I am so sorry. I have a therapist friend whose husband was unfaithful. She said, for her it took five years to move past the pain. They have enjoyed nearly twenty years of marriage since. It was hard work. It is not for everyone. You are beautiful and thoughtful and regardless of your decision, life will bring you happiness again someday…I will pray someday means soon for you.
Be sad, Meghan. We can’t heal until we first feel. God bless you and your family, and best wishes to Hart. Stay strong.
I, too, have twin sons and there may be something wrong with my 17-year old Anthony. I’ll pray for your Hart if you’ll pray for my Anthony. Stay strong.
Girl, THIS. My husband met a “slimy” woman on deployment who he began an illicit email relationship with. I couldn’t figure out why he was being so mean, so hateful towards me upon his return. I didn’t know if it was because if his experience while overseas—I’d never been through a deployment before—so I doubled up on my acts of love, grace, and compassion hoping he would experience healing. It didn’t take me long to find the messages and Lord did it sting. I’m still working through it with a stellar therapist almost 3 years later. We’re still together, he’s growing, but it doesn’t mean I’ll stay forever. When do I get to experience grace? Sure, “hurt people hurt people” and I know he was acting out of pain and self loathing when he chose to betray me, but at some point… man up. Be a decent human. It’s not that hard.
I just want you to know… you are not alone. His actions reflect on him alone. And don’t let people shame you for your decision, whether it’s to stay or go. You have people rooting for you and your marriage if that’s what you choose. God bless.
Meghan,
You write about your pain so eloquently. I applaud you for your willingness to be vulnerable and not “put on a brave face” for the press. My heart breaks for you. I pray that in the coming days, you will still be able to feel some joy and smile with your children. Stay brave. Hugs from NY
We all support you. Sending you love and healing during this difficult time. You are a strong woman and will rise to the top. ❤️
I understand all to well! Exact same thing, we are still married but a level of trust is still broken. In the end it is still your choice to stay or not. He may need counseling as to why HE chooses to act this way. You have my all postive energy to help. Main thing is to understand YOU did not cause him to act the way he did!
I am so sorry you are going through something g so hurtful so publicly. I have followed you through your ivf Instagram because I have gone through it right after you & you helped me so much. Wishing you & your family the time & space to process & heal.
No. Marriage should not be difficult. I’m so sorry that you feel this way. It should not be an uphill battle. Don’t settle for this as your reality. Cheating is not an accident. It’s a deliberate choice.
Beautiful stated. I commend you for speaking out and speaking so freely from your heart. Let your heart and instincts guide and with time, you shall heal and have more answers.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so sorry this happened to you.
Prayers it no one business but your sorry the world got know prayers
Get off of social media and focus on what you want and what you believe. Don’t give a shit about what anyone says or believes. Do not be embarrassed because this has everything to do with him and not you. He needs to work on his character. He MIGHT turn out much better after this.
I’m so very, very sorry & sad for your situation. I hope there are people around you who will hold you, comfort you and just “listen” if you need to vent. Lastly, I’ll pray for your heart, that will not become hardened or cold.
Wow, I am in tears and goosebumps reading this. Reading about your basic need – to be loved by the one you have devoted your love to in return. The basic need of authentic, real, honest love. Something you have given to someone else. It is not fair that took that and shamed it.
Reading this I want to tell you that you are strong, amazing and will get through it. And you will get through it, it won’t be wasted. You deserve to ugly cry, us gals need that and for whatever reason we never feel that it is just okay to cry. So cry and be sad. You are not alone in those feelings.
Trust is a earned – reading you do not trust him was so powerful. You have been beyond disrespected, if you are in the public or not.
Thank you for so eloquently sharing what you are going through- even though it was forced. There is such strength in this. Please continue to respect yourself, your kids and your belief in what marriage is to you.
I’m so sorry, Meghan <3 I hope whatever you need to have happen does and that you can move on in whatever way works for you and your children.
I’m so sorry you are going through this! Try to stay positive! Your family is in my prayers!
You are beautiful and I believe every word you wrote wholeheartedly. You are loyal. You are devoted. You want your family. Thanks for being so raw.
Praying for your peace. Thank you for your honesty and sharing, as so many of us have been there.
Oh gosh Meghan I’m so so sorry. Know that you are strong you will endure and you have to for your kids
I’m so so sorry you didn’t deserve that shame on him.
So sorry! Praying for peace and guidance! ♥️
You speak so much truth!
Beautifully written. No matter what choice you make. Weather it is to stay in your marriage or divorce it is yours and it is the right one. It is ok to still love him. It is ok to hate him. Whatever you feel it is ok. Do not let judgement of othes push you to make a decision. No one knows your marriage but you and your husband. No one knows what is best for you but you. It appears you have a strong support system. If this is correct allow them to hold you up when don’t have the strength. I so wish you were not in the public eye. That you could have the privacy you deserve to find your way through this. I am sending positive thoughts.
I’m pulling for you Meghan. I’m praying for your babies and for you, whatever choice you make going forward. You don’t owe us anything, do what’s best for you and yours. ❤️
Meghan, Every single thing you said is RIGHT! Bravo for addressing this as you did! You are intelligent, beautiful inside and out, real, a great mother, a great wife and can unquestionably have a great life with your children without Jim. If he wants to fix his marriage he has to fix himself. Don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed. This is his fail not yours. Hold your head up, be strong for you and your children and move forward purposefully as you always do. I will pray for you. I will pray for Hart. No matter what the problem is you will deal with it well as you deal with other problems. Worrying accomplishes nothing. Don’t give it your time. Be very kind to yourself right now. Be your own best friend. Trust me. I’ve been in your shoes also with three babies. Tomorrow is a new day! ♥️
I love you! You’re amazing & I’m so thankful to have worked with you! My heart hurts for you in this time ❤️ If you need anything let me know!
My heart breaks for you. I hope you and Jimmy can find a way to save your marriage. You have a beautiful family and he’s an idiot. I pray that Hart is okay and there is nothing wrong.
I’m from Australia and barely know your public figure, but read your article because it’s a situation I found myself in, My slim had a 10 year affair with his ex… devastated, sad, lost, sick.
Not sure if you are into pod casts but I found them quite healing when I wanted to escape, but the silence killed me. There is one particular that could help, it’s called “healing broken trust” helped me understand, not quite except for me, the thoughts of my slime.
I’m not part of a promotion campaign for them, just gave me insight
I M so sorry this happened to you and your children, I know it’s not easy it happened to me also when my kids were young and I was busy being a Mom. I tried not to let my kids feel my pain but I know they did. It can get better with a lot of time. He has to be willing to work on his marriage and your trust! Trust is what takes the longest. It is so hard to gain it back once you lost it. I hope things work out for you and your marriage ! You are not alone! Good Luck and continue being the best Mommy that we all see!
Hang in there!! Marriage is tough even on the good days. Hugs and prayers and please know there’s an army of women/moms sending you support!
I never comment on IG or people I follow that I do not know and who knows if you read these. I follow you and watch your stories about clothes and your beautiful babies. I have twins too but they are ten now so I love to see yours so little. I just wanted to write that I am sending you good vibes and I am so sorry for what you are going thru. Praying for your baby and praying for your strength. You are stronger than you know. Remember that. Namaste
Very sad but men are stupid, you deserve better. That Prince Charming is out there for you…I don’t and never did think your husband was that man for you. God bless and don’t be sad, your alive heathy with beautiful healthy children. Xoxo
I’m so sorry. I get it. Been there. Always doubting. Thank you for your honest words.
So sorry, I’m sure your Hirt and broken hearted . For the sake of those babies I hope you can recover and he realizes what he has done and changes. I have never been through this but I’m hoping and praying you will find a way out of the dark.
Meghan I know exactly what you are going through unfortunately. Marriage does take two to make it work every day all day 24/7 365. I had been married to my husband for 20 years with 2 grown kids and grand babies on the way and had no clue that things were not golden. We are still together and on 30 years now. We struggled, mostly me, but we finally got a new start. I know you want and deserve the best for you and your kids and maybe with separation and time and some hard work you can save your marriage but remember maybe not. Prioritize in the moment day to day because when you have kids it is hard to balance life in general but with the unknown for your son it makes it harder. Only you know what is right for you and your kids. Take time for yourself and don’t feel guilty for it because you have to be the best you for your kids also. You seem like a strong and very intelligent woman. You got this and no matter what just be true to you and your heart.
Im so sorry you have to go thru with this & at the same time Hart is going thru a bad time. I truly hope he gets better and live a healthy life.
On the other thing we always wonder why cheat if you are with someone. Leave them if you’re not happy but don’t cheat. You need to be sad & angry right now but in time everything will be better with or without Jimmy. If you decide to give your marriage another chance go to counseling and do everything you need to do to make it work but if it doesn’t work don’t let it take you down bc it wasn’t you who did something wrong. Wish you a lot of strength and a big hug.
Xoxo Carol friend from Puerto Rico
I’m so sorry for your broken trust, It is the worst kind of betrayal. I have Friends and family who have forgiven and been able to move on- but I know it can’t be easy. Prayers for you and your family.
I’m so sorry sweetie you didn’t deserve this I’ve been going through the same situation for eight years but you know what I put myself here I allowed myself to be walked on and cheated on no more and that’s what you have to say❤️💔💋
Shut up. You’re insane if you think this is the first time this has happened. You’re kind of annoying. He just needed a break. No need to air your dirty laundry and humiliate yourself further.
Hi Meghan,
I’m not a crazy super-fan, but I’ve enjoyed watching/reading about your journey over the last few years.
Native St. Louisan, Cards fan, 48-year-old mom of triplets. (Had them when I was 36, they are now 12!)
Married 2 times- once for 7 years from age 24-30 (no kids). Ended because of infidelity on his part…but in the final analysis, we both played a roll in where things went wrong. He won the prize for the most radically stupid.
2nd marriage from age 34 to 48. He’s a keeper. (triplets)
My reply would be more of a series of questions that you probably already know the answer to…but from the little peek we get to see into your life, this is my observation/question(s).
1. When you all first started dating, was Jim “love bombing” ? Did he do that to all of his dates/wives?
2. Is Jim a narcissist? He comes off that way. (His actions)
3. You are the work-horse in this family. I’m sure he can be an amazing dad (and husband!)when he has the time. But it’s obvious that his schedule is demanding and he travels a lot. Leaving you to take care of 90% of the everyday stuff, issues, appointments, appearances etc.
4. Have similar cheating situations happened in his previous marriages? Once a cheater in any capacity, always a cheater.
5. I feel like male-celebs (local and national) are so prone to this behavior. Power, money, attractive. You know this better than I do!
6. I don’t think you are too young or too dumb to have known the potential here. I believe you are super smart, super brave, and an amazing spouse and mother.
7. If he has the whole package, in you (I know – no one is perfect), what’s the drive to mess around, especially with someone (slimy #1) who is known for this kind of thing? THAT is STUPID and DESPERATE on his part. So, why?
It will probably take years for you to leave him, because it’s soooo hard to leave when kids are involved. It’s sooooo disappointing, embarassing and heartbreaking when a spouse does this. When “forever” turns into… meh, it sucks.
Just know, that you girl, are squeeky clean, and did NOTHING to deserve this behavior. Don’t waste a minute of your life on “pretending” it’s going to work, while secretly he is dismissive, pouty, and unwilling to make a change. In the immediacy, oh yes, save the marriage, he’ll do anything, right? Therapy together, therapy alone…whatever it takes. 6 months from now….1 year from now….does it look like the same effort?
You’ve seen that meme/quote: “Your apology should be as loud and meaningful as your disrespect was….”
Also, Jim went a LONG way to cover this up. To protect you? Come on sister, it was to protect him and MAYBE the heartbreak of the older kids who can read tabloids.
Those are my thoughts. Don’t stay too long. I understand the need to try to work things out, believe me, any woman who has been through this has to make hard choices. Some of those choices are impossible for outsiders to understand. Do what you need to do. But in the back of your brain, start formulating the exit strategy. Don’t waste your life on a man/relationship that doesn’t value YOU or your children.
Here’s how a real professional defines some of the things I mentioned. Gotta love Quora.
Love Bombing is external and observable
Narcissistic “Love Bombing” is a description of a series of actions that are aimed at getting someone else infatuated with the Narcissist. One can think of it as an externalization of an internal intention. “Love Bombing” is a choice with a goal in mind. It involves showering the other person with over-the-top compliments and attention.
Note: I am using the term “Narcissist” here as shorthand for someone who had made a childhood adaptation to a home situation that resulted in the set of issues that is more formally called “Narcissistic Personality Disorder.”
Infatuation is internal
Infatuation is an internal feeling, not a set of actions. One can be secretly infatuated with someone, without ever letting that person know.
Infatuation + Love Bombing
It is also possible for someone to be both infatuated with someone else and then “Love Bomb” the person in an attempt to get them to feel similarly. In this situation, the Narcissist has real feelings towards the person that they are “Love Bombing” and is hoping for a fulfilling relationship to result from their pursuit. They are not intentionally lying to mislead the object of their affection.
Love Bombing without Infatuation
Some Narcissists coldly use “Love Bombing” as a way of getting sex, affection, and a sense of winning. In this case, they are not infatuated with the person that they are “Love Bombing.” They are simply using it as a seduction tactic to get Narcissistic supplies and sex. In essence, they are lying about their feelings.
Punchline: Narcissistic “Love Bombing” can be done as a result of infatuation, but it may also be used in a coldly, manipulative manner that is intended to mislead the other person.
There is a very interesting and relatively easy to spot difference between people with Borderline Personality Disorder and those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder that very few people seem to notice. But…it is my go to question, especially when I am seeing a new client who is looking for a romantic partner.
Are they hierarchal or egalitarian?
Early on in my practice, I was young and my clients were young. I began to notice that very often I could easily differentiate my more Borderline clients from my Narcissistic clients by looking at who they dated and why.
Borderline Personality Disorder
My clients with BPD were usually extremely needy and wanted to be in a love relationship all the time.
Feelings of Emptiness: In between relationships, they reported feeling a profound, very uncomfortable sense of emptiness when they were alone.
Negative feelings from the past would start to break through their psychological defenses. They felt desperate for connection and reassurance that they were lovable.
Low Standards: This sense of desperation made them much less picky than the average person about whom they dated. They would impulsively form intense relationships with people they barely knew. They ignored very obvious signs that their new lover was inappropriate or unable to form a normal, stable, loving relationship.
These are another version of the women who date guys in jail because they are available and cannot very easily dump them for anyone else.
Mother/Lover—Many men with BPD tend end up with women who combine the qualities of a mother and a lover. Often the woman is more stable than they are and provides a home structure in which they can remain a Man-Child.
Father/Lover—There is a subtype of women with BPD who desperately want the nurturing that they missed as a child. They tend to get involved with men (sometimes older men with NPD) who want to make decisions for both of them and treat them like a little girl.
Always in a Relationship: Most of my Borderline clients tend to always need to be in a romantic relationship with someone. They rarely leave a relationship (no matter how bad it is) unless they have a new person who is there to welcome them with open arms.
Egalitarian: Most of my Borderline clients are quite egalitarian in their choices of mates. They basically are relatively indifferent to their new lover’s status, money, or fame. They also are not very practical in their choices. If they feel loved and nurtured and the sex is good, they do not care what the person does for a living or what he or she has done in the past.
I think the Backstreet boys sing “As Long As You Love Me” expresses this type of Borderline attitude perfectly. A line in the chorus says:
I don’t care who you are.
Where you’re from.
What you’ve done.
As long as you love me.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
My clients with NPD are not at all egalitarian in their choice of whom to date. They are very influenced by the person’s perceived status in some hierarchy that they value. They also tend to be quite aware of and interested in how this person’s status might affect their own.
Dating Up—The women all wanted to date “up.” As one unmarried woman with NPD bluntly told me: “I would rather live my life alone, then be with someone I couldn’t look up to.”
The men tended to define “up” somewhat differently. “Up” to them was usually about perceived attractiveness. As one of my male clients with NPD said: “I want someone on my arm that will cause all the other men in the room to envy me. If I could, I would only date Victoria’s Secret models—or porn stars. It would be really cool to date a porn star.”
People Are Interchangeable—My clients with NPD tend to go for “types.” Within the group that meets their criteria for enough status and personal attractiveness, they often happily shift their affections and attentions to a new person when they get bored, angry, or disenchanted with whomever they are with.
One of my narcissistic male clients admitted the following:
I know I am shallow and get bored easily. I tend to drop whomever I am with for someone new when I get angry or bored, or if a newer and better version of them comes along. When I am being honest with myself, I admit that I see people as interchangeable—like hamburgers or tissues.
Punchline: If we look at how the person chooses their romantic partners and friends, it is fairly easy to distinguish people with BPD from those with NPD. People with BPD tend to be more egalitarian in their choice of partners. People with NPD are more status driven.
A2A
Elinor Greenberg, PhD, CGP
In private practice in NYC and the author of the book: Borderline, Narcissistic, and Schizoid Adaptations.
http://www.elinorgreenberg.com
I’m so sorry this happened to you and you’re right this is t your fault in any way . It’s one of the most hardest things to go through in a marriage, believe me I know I had it done to me too , but we made it work we’re still together 25 years and I couldn’t be more happier.,So please don’t think this is the end of your marriage because it isn’t, yes it’s going to take time to heal just like any heartache, but if you both want it badly enough you can pull through and be stronger and happier than ever! My prayers are with you … and I’ll be praying for your precious baby boy ♥️
Meghan,
You are strong, you are classy, you are a MOM!! You will get through this…so so sorry this happened.
I would give you 3 things to right now if I could…
1. A hug
2. My shoulder
3. My ear
❤️ I’m so sorry you are going through this❤️
Something like this happened to me. We went to counseling. I forgave him. We have 4 beautiful daughters and a healthy marriage today. It has taken 7 years of hard work. But worth every bit.
There is work you both have to do on yourself. We are broken and need to learn how to get our needs met in a healthy way. All the best my friend.
This is marriage #3 for him. Shouldn’t that have said something to you???? Hope love didn’t blind you. On one of the RHWOOC episodes where you two first appeared as a couple the ladies were saying it was just a matter of time. You fell for him and the baggage he came with. He’s a stupid loser to do that to you with three little kids. But still…
Very honest post. It’s terrible that you are going through this. I’m glad you realize you don’t deserve it and he in fact made a choice. Hopefully, you will be able to heal.
Marriage is hard you’re right. Raising children is a challenge also. Add having a hold that has special needs, physical disability, chronic illness, or new disease and that adds another level of stress you never imagined.
My son was diagnosed 5 months ago with a neurological spinal cord injury that left him paralyzed. It has tested each of us and our marriage. Be strong!! You are the mom!! You can rise up!!
This is 💔 yet so eloquently stated. I am sorry that this has happened to you. You are a strong and amazing woman worthy of love and respect. Never forget that! May God give you strength and help you through these difficult times. Y
I’m so sorry you are going through this!!! God bless you and your precious children 🙏🏻
Your marriage can recover. You will be a survivor and your strength will define you.
I know it’s really sucks right now Meghan & my heart breaks for you and your beautiful family. I went through the same after 25 years of marriage I found out my husband had a few but only did it during the day & came home & sat down with our family like it was a normal thing 🤯🤯🤯🤯 only to find out he was he was diagnosed with severe bi polar. So my advice to you is to stay classy & take one thing on at a time also take breaks for yourself. Sending lots of love and prayers
Don’t waste anymore of your time on earth on that piece of shit . Life’s too short trust me x
This kind of betrayal hurts the most. You will come through this I promise. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Get the help you need for you! Make your own survival (with your children) your top priority. I encourage you to lean on God, get into a close relationship with Him & He will see you through to even better days than before. Lot’s of Love to you! 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Been there. Respect you immensely for opening up in this way. Cry it out. Pray. Meditate. You will have 1,001 opinions. Listen to your inner voice. Virtual hugs to you.
I feel bad for you- I do but what is the voicemail? How do you explain that? It is clearly your voice.
Im not sure you will ever be able to trust him again! I wish you all the best and the strength to see and do whats best for you and your family.
I am sorry to hear that this has happened. Please be strong for you and your beautiful children. It will take time to heal, It will take time to forgive and it will take time to trust again. He made a horrible mistake and I hope he does everything he can to make up to you and the kids. You are strong and you can do this. Take small steps have a good cry yell and scream if you have to. Sending you lots of hugs and love all the way from Australia. Kathryn
I’m so sorry! Men are pigs! It’s not just him! But what you have to ask yourself is, when he’s not with you can you trust him? Take care of yourself and take care of the kids. ♥️ This isn’t the first time he’s cheated on a woman. So I think you know the answer.
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. I have no words of wisdom other than I believe you can recover as a family, but it will take time and work and lots of patience and love. Easy to say; most difficult to do. But I know you are strong and if willing, you will get through this… You have a lovely family…he was wrong. But love does conquer all (sounds cliché’) but it’s true. I pray that God will give you the right choices to prevail…with Him, you can DO this. My prayers are for you, your children (especially Hart) and for your husband. This.Too.Shall.Pass. Lots of love…
Honey Bunny,
It pains me to see such suffering in you,
but your openness shows YOUR BEAUTY AND STRENGTH.
YOU WILL PREVAIL AND YOU WILL BE HAPPIER AND STRONGER THAN EVER.
Have No Doubt.
For your own good :
Recognize that ANGER IS A SELF INDUCED POISON
and find an outlet to heal your pain.
Surround yourself with those who lift you up and heal your soul with family, nature, yoga…
I am here for you…Please reach out.. Alla P.
You’re a strong beautiful wonderful mother & wife & have done absolutely nothing wrong in all of this! Sadly these women tempt guys emotionally physically it doesn’t matter into cheating on amazing women like you but he obviously played the biggest role as your husband and made the worst choices possible! You’re going through something so deep and tragic right now but there could be hope to recover from if he agrees to counseling and absolutely changing his ways! It’s your choice now though whether you feel you can trust him again and if you want to go down that path given the history with this woman involved! It’s a difficult choice but given children are involved it’s one very personal and made even harder with your little ones medical challenges!
Stay strong and be true to you and hang in there as you’ve got the 3 most beautiful children to be so proud of and you’re such a wonderful woman yourself too so always remember you ARE enough too if you choose to go alone on this journey with your kids! Take care and I’m sure you’ll make the best choices xx
Thanks for putting that out there. Marriage is hard and sometimes, no matter how faithful and committed you are, the other person is just never satisfied. When children are involved, it makes decisions that much harder…..but it also makes you stronger. Thinking of you and prayers for Hart.
Wow… what you have written is just…. wow!! Stay strong, and remember that you ARE strong! You are a phenomenal mother and an amazing woman, I just wanted you to hear that from someone today! Hopefully you do read these?!?
You are so loved. Don’t lose hope. We are all behind you and love and care for you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers
You are a strong women. This is hard. I could not imagine what you are going through, but you are right. Marriage is a choice. You choose the path you want to go at this time, whatever makes you happy. Know that you have support and love from people in your life that know you and those who haven’t met you. Stay strong and loved ❤️
Sad for you. But you were very correct in that you did nothing wrong so hold your head up! What is sad also is you are your children’s #1 person who they rely on so you have to appear strong for them and act like nothings wrong. I will pray for your son.
Oh Meghan. You are a very good person and a great mom. Whatever you decide, whatever choices you make, make them with what is right for you. You owe everyone else nothing. Be proud, be strong and be the amazing woman we all see in you.
My heart aches for you. I have never been the one to say “I know how you feel”; but because I have been you… I do know. Lingering 33 years ago still broke my 8 month pregnant newly married selfs heart. I wish I could simply hold your hand or wipe your tears or rock one of your beautiful children to sleep while you go through this agony. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Always here if you need a shoulder to lean on. From Texas Grandmother ; Yalanda Reeves
Hugs, Meghan 🙁 There are no words. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing. Sending a virtual hug to you as you navigate this very challenging time.
Sooo sorry you are going through this. I’m sorry for your son and all your children. Put your faith in God and have Jimmy do the same! God heals all in time. Good bless you.
I am so sorry that you have had your heart broken like this. I don’t know you personally, of course, but I know this pain, and no one deserves this. I will never understand why men thrown away the best thing they ever had for quick, nasty, temporary pleasure. They have no idea how it changes everything. Praying for your shattered heart.
Sister. You hang in there. I 100 percent empathize and support you. XO
I am so sorry Meghan. You don’t deserve this. You are a detonated wife and mother. I will keep you in my prayers. I will also pray for your baby. Just know that God never leaves you in the valley. Praying for peace for your broken heart!
If you want to forgive, truly forgive, then put it behind you and NEVER bring it up again. Reach down deep and ask yourself if you can do it.
Hi, Meghan. My heart hurts for you. I don’t know you. I’m a 66 yr old woman living in Raleigh, N.C. I would love to share some things privately that you may benefit from. I don’t want to talk publicly about my thoughts/help. If you want to reach out, please feel free to do so. Remember some words that Kathi Lee Gifford (upon hearing of her dear husband cheating on her)….”He’s a good man that did a bad thing.” That seems to minimize his total guilt in this, but the words are powerful. I hope you and Jim can heal and save your precious family. I’d love to share some things with you that I experienced many years ago. We have now been married ( happily 😍) for over 47 years. Totally shattered hearts can be healed. You intimately, though, have choices. I’m very sorry for the sadness and hurt…..thinking of you. Julia
So terribly sorry for you. I personally couldn’t forgive. Once betrayed it’s never the same. Sending you and your children love and hope
My gosh my heart absolutely breaks for you and your kiddos . May god guide you through this difficult time and hopefully heal your heart and somehow find forgiveness . You are a beautiful soul ❤️
You’re a strong and determined woman! Whatever you decide to do about your marriage….we are behind you! Men are for the most part, egotists, spoiled, not terribly faithful, and child-like.. It’s up to us women to do the right thing and to hold the course!
My heart hurts for the hurt you are going through. I’ve been there sadly and well… it’s hard and the trust never really ever returns. A piece of your heart will always be gone and put into a compartment with the hurt you have gone through. Thank you for sharing your life thenups the downs the down down downs. As Moms we have to put on the happy face and keep morning… while the other gets to… whatever it is they do.
I feel you. I’ve been there. I am there. I found out my husband did this while I too was pregnant with our second child. Found out when she was 3 weeks old. I have been there and thank you for speaking out. I feel/felt so much shame for trying to work through it. It’s been the hardest 6 months of my life and I still struggle. You are not alone. And you did nothing wrong. Hugs during this terrible time.
I will be praying for your beautiful little Hart!!!!
Trust me when I say I know exactly how betrayed you feel. It takes such bravery to speak out loudly about this betrayal because usually women are too ashamed. After a year of therapy and five years later it still creeps up on me. We worked through it and you’re right marriage is so damn hard but if it there isn’t two of you in it and fighting for it it won’t work. He has a lot of humble grovelling to do. You recognised way before I did that it isn’t your fault and it’s on him. I hope for your family he corrects his behaviour and you guys work through it. If he doesn’t you are an amazing woman who has a lot to offer the world. Good luck my thoughts are with you.
I am so sorry you are going through this heartbreak. As a marriage counselor, I can tell you that I have seen couples come back stronger after an affair. Will you ever trust him 100 percent again? Maybe not sweetheart. At the end of the day, the person you need to trust the most…is yourself. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be alright. And you will. You will be alright. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 For your son and hugs to you.
I am so sad for you. I can only imagine your heartbreak. But this too shall pass oh my and I pray you come out stronger for it. What you really need to figure out is the exact question you asked, who does this? Sends nude pictures to someone on social media in 2019. SMH not a very caring thoughtful or smart person that’s for sure. You obviously don’t know that side of Jim and he has gone out of his way so desperately to hide from you. That in and of itself is the worst type of betrayal. You deserve more. And you are valid in all the ways you are feeling right now. Allow yourself the time to be in shock, sad angry , pissed off and disgusted by his vile Behavior. Take care of you, be there for your kids and I hope all the health issues are solved soon. Woman to Woman we all love you. Stand strong, and don’t let him turn this around on you. Men like that tend to be able to deflect or make it less than it truly was. Stand for nothing but the truth and his willingness to go get help or his abnormal behavior of a married man and father. He needs it
You are so sweet…. but don’t forget how strong you are too. My heart hurts for you! Sending love and healing your way 😘
Meghan, you are enough! You have married a former professional athlete. Sadly our society glorifies these people and when they step to the side or start to age they feel the need to get that adoration from “fans”. In no way did he want to hurt you , but because he didn’t tell you he knew he was doing something wrong. Jimmy has had several marriages as well which I am sure you had some concerns over when you were dating him. Forgiveness is the most difficult thing to do. Trusting him may never come again, but that is part of living. His behaviour is just that!!! His behaviour, which does not affect your reputation! Hold your head up high and continue to love him as you have before if this is what you want to do. Hoping that your baby will be ok as well. You are an awesome mother! One day at a time!!!!❤️🇨🇦
I’m so sorry Meghan. You don’t deserve this and my heart aches for you and your beautiful, sweet kids. You don’t know me, but I really wish I could give you a big hug. I have no profound words of wisdom and I don’t think there’s any magic elixir of language that can soothe you right now anyway. One way or another, you will heal from this betrayal. It will leave scar tissue, but this horrible, painful wound will heal. You will also find the answers, therapies, and coping mechanisms for Hart, because that is what good, loving moms do and you’re a good, loving mom. In our darkest hours, sometimes what sustains us is living for the day when it just stops hurting. That day will come. Hold on, Sister, just hold on.
You’re an amazing woman. Shame on him. You do not deserve such a betrayal. He doesn’t deserve you, and you need to realize that. Nobody can tel you what to do, but a life with a man without trust is no life to live. I wish you peace and solitude.
You don’t know me and I don’t know you..but I am a woman, a mother and a wife who just celebrated her 40th wedding anniversary. Was it easy..hell no, if you asked me at year 10 if I would do it all over again I would’ve said no. We had separated twice and although I could never prove it, I’m sure there was some cheating going on. Thank goodness this was before cell phone, internet and social media. But we were both two people that refused to give up on each other, mostly out of stubbornness. We once filed for divorce and showed up to court with our attorneys, sat next to each other and realized we loved each other – do people that in love really divorce each other?
Now 40 years later, would I do it all again…absolutely! It was worth every tear, every time I thought my heart was broken, every moment I thought about facing life as a single parent. We moved forward and made a pact that we would never look..only forward and to never bring up the past.
Go with your heart…it will lead to the right decision for you and your family.
men like jimmy are serial baby makers but loss interest the minute you get pregnant…he’s a whore and loves whorie girls
I’m so sorry this is happening to you, stay strong you will get through this but it will be hard. It’s going to take time to learn how to start trusting him, only if your still committed to the marriage. Some men can’t seem to stop straying outside of the marriage even just flirting and that says more about them than the spouses. I have been there and it was hard, but we came out the other side and it’s been thirty five years. I always wonder if it’s happened again or even now, but I focus on me and not fret over it. It will get better and easier but it’s going to take time and everyone will be there for you. Your children are your saving grace!!
Meghan, you are awesome and don’t let this bring you down! Love how honest you are with us!
I am so Sad for you. Sending positive vibes , prayers & strength your way. 💗
Don’t stop being who you are , because you are beautiful & amazing.
I am so sad for you. I am So sorry for your sadness and what’s happened to you. This happened to me as well. I pray For healing for you beautiful Meghan, and hope you find some peace in the coming days. Xoxoxo
God bless you! I will be praying for you daily.
Ugh. I’ve been there and it sucks. I’m sorry. Feeling so sad for you and what you’re going through ❤️
My god my heart hurts for you!
You are such an amazing woman, Meghan. Do not allow this slimy person or your husband bring you to the brink of such deep sadness. I’ve not been in your shoes, but, I do know that you did NOT deserve this, and it sounds like you know this already. God bless you & your precious little ones, as you swim through this pool of sadness.
Oh Sweet Meghan, my heart absolutely just breaks for you. I could tell just by watching HOUSEWIVES OF OC, he didn’t deserve you. You are so much better than he could ever be. Please take care of yourself and those precious children. We love you Meghan.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My exhusband cheated on me when I was eight months pregnant with our baby we tried for, for many years. I like your perspective about nothing being wrong with you, about this being his decision, and not blaming the slimy person who was on the other end, because he cheated. You are amazing. You will survive this. Keep being strong, extend grace but demand what is needed to be able to get past this. ❤️
Stay strong
You are extraordinary and a fabulous mom. I see that and don’t even know you.
Everything happens for a reason , it may suck sometimes but you will prevail in the end!
I did:)
How awful! You’re such a strong woman, you will get through this! I’ve admired you since RHOC and I’m a Missouri girl too! I hate that you’re in this position but if there’s anyone that can handle it,
It’s you!
That’s crazy he did this! Do not feel embarrassed for this, he clearly needs to! The whole world right now has your back. How can he do that to his wife and mother of his children? You’re right, marriage is hard. But just because it’s hard, it doesn’t give someone an excuse to do this.
I pray your little boy is ok. I will be thinking of you and your family. Xoxo
This is so honest and real and done with CLASS and DIGNITY❤️. Those are things that no one can take from you, ever. Hold your head high and take it Day by day. When that does not work, hour by hour. You are in control of your destiny and how you proceed forward with your beautiful family. And all else fails…I say “pray and rose’!”
Be well!
Meghan,
I am so sorry you are going through this – as a fan all I can do and promise to do is pray for your sweet family! I loved watching your family on the show. But know that we are behind you and support and love you. I will be praying for renewed energy, love and for you to have grace as you continue to be the best mom you can be for you kids.
Lots of Love,
Fan from Kansas
❌⭕️❌⭕️
Lovely to read and not lovely to read… you know what I mean.. hang in there you are strong and your babies need you.xo
Stay strong.
Please take care of yourself and those beautiful babies. You have a wonderful support network with your Mom. Happiness is the best revenge dear …
Thank you for baring your soul. Your words touched me. I feel your pain. I’m so sorry.
Stay strong Meghan. You can get through this. All of it. I love what you wrote. So honest and real. And you’re right, marriage is hard work. Your husband is weak and selfish. I hope he’s told you everything so you can move forward in whichever direction you chose. Keep your head up and ugly cry whenever you need to. Then get back in the trenches and do the mom thing. You seem like you’re made for it. I wish you well. JD
I feel so bad for you and don’t even know you.
I pray that you guys can grow from this and find peace.
I will never say stay or leave .
Just find peace and laugh and from there you will learn to love again
I pray that God give you the strength to do what’s right for you and your family.
This too shall pass.
You nailed it perfectly and heartbrokenly for everyone of us who’s person, has betrayed us. I’m so sorry for your pain. I know that pain well and nothing compares to it. I pray you stay strong for your children’s sake. You deserve better.
As a mother who also had a spouse cheat in an embarrassing way, I am so thrilled to see you say all that many of us want to say but can’t articulate. I feel your pain and felt the same during my ordeal. Luckily, my ex was not publicly popular outside of an area so I didn’t have the world watching our marriage deconstruct. I pray for your children and for you.
Prayers for you! I’ve said this a million and one times At the end of the day what’s Most important to us is our Children!!!!! You will over come this and come out even stronger!! Your children need a strong moma not one that just is barely hanging in there!!! Let God guide your ways!! ❤
Megan, you are very brave to publically share the details. Very smart of you because it takes the head off the snake and the Media can’t makeup what happened, what you are doing or feeling. No person can walk in you and Jims shoes. You will find the answer(s) that work for you. I would pray and I would immediately get into counseling. For you alone and also as a couple. You are right, commitment is a choice. It needs to be continually made. Again, no one can make any decisions for you. The right decision will come from you alone.
I agree that God does not make mistakes and Hart has you so he will be able to conquer whatever the path forward is. You are a wonderful Mother and Step Mother.
I hope you are able to look away from negative comments. Again, no one walks in your shoes but you! Sending you hugs and keeping you in my prayers.
Oh Meghan, I am so sorry to hear your pain through this horrible experience! Stay gracious sweet girl ✨❤️
Meghan I’m so sorry you are going thru this . You are brave to put it out there and tell the true side of the story . Anne k
Hang in there! Marriage is hard, but worth fighting for! Don’t let this awful woman win! You are stronger than she is!! God Bless!!
Meaghan, I am not one to normally comment, especially on someone’s public blog. I am so sorry you have to live this out publicly. You are doing it with such real grit, grace and emotion, as you should. You are an amazing loving and giving mother and I have always admired you as a person. Balancing your emotions the next few days regarding this situation, Hart’s possible condition and your marriage will take great strength, which you have in you. Please remember to take care of YOU too! As mothers, we tend to care for others and our children so much, we forget about ourselves. Know you are worthy of love and you have every right to feel the emotions you are feeling. Sending positive thoughts and prayers as you go through this.
I am so sad to hear about what has happened to you. Nobody deserves to go through such a heartbreaking ordeal. I went through something very similar with my husband and I have worked very hard to save our marriage. There are times I ask myself “ are you stupid to stay”? Or “ would I be better off leaving”? It is a situation unique to each of us. I do wish you the best in getting through this no matter which direction you choose. Just know you are not at fault, he is. It’s his issue and you are just the victim. Lots of love to you and your babies.
Lots of love and hugs!!!
I’m so sorry what you are going through and in the public eye. I love how you wrote this, so raw and real… real emotions….
I hope you heal and get through this with your head held up high regardless of what you decide.
Sending big hugs and positivity your way
Alexandra
😥 What a jerk he is, BUT this is WHO he is – has been for a long time.
You will make it and be so much stronger thru it. I know, I have been there. You inspire me and I’m sure all these words mean nothing right now. Thank you for sharing. It’s no ones business but maybe I can encourage you a bit. BTW, you are an awesome mom.
Meghan, my heart hurts for you. It is such a betrayal of ones love. Now here is the deal, make sure he has done nothing else. This is so disgusting that he is that proud of his manlihood that he feels compel to share it in such a public way. Get into counseling. Air it all out. He made a huge mistake but I hope by him telling you everything there is room for healing. If you both love one another, heal together. This impacts the whole family and there is children. I am going to pray for you Meghan. You did nothing wrong but take your time and figure out what you want. If you want your marriage and you love him, work together. If you can’t get past this and you feel your heart will not mend, don’t stay in the marriage. Trust is so important and if you feel you can’t trust him when he leaves the house, what is there left. Go to counseling if you two love one another and start the healing process. There is going to be talk and the shame of this, I am sure, is just overwhelming. Focus on you!! You will read where people say the worst things, don’t read!! Heal. My heart is hurting for you. Teresa
Hello Meghan,
I wanted to share something with you. I went through an affair, my ex husband cheated on me for 7 years with one of my best friends. The pain I endured is like no other. I feel for you and know your pain. I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I raised my 4 kids on my own after I finally got the courage to leave him. Put myself through college while working full time. It was very hard to do but I had no choice. Trust is a huge factor in a marriage, without it, you cannot make it. I know the feeling of lost of trust, it’s so so painful!!! I would have rather he passed away than cheating on me. I want you to know you will get through this, with the love and support of your dear friends and family. One step at a time. I pray that all will work out for you. Thank you for sharing something so personal. I know that he to have been very difficult to do, yet your strength allowed you to. Remember…. You never know how strong you are, until strong is all you have. Hang in there!
Love Kathi
So sorry fo you. I have been through infidelity in a marriage and a child sick with cancer and remember those days of fear and hurt and anger and unhappiness. Surround yourself with you close friends and family…you know the ones…and take all the time you need to heal. Focusing on my children helped me, if even in a small way, because they needed me so very much.
Praying for your family.
Hi Meghan,
You are a darling! You have been the most normal, decent and grounded woman of all of the housewives, within the entire franchise. And you are beautiful and sweet along with it. This is a rarity. You are a special girl.
You are not going to want to hear this, but you picked the wrong guy for a husband. He is not of your caliber, his character is weak and I have always found him to be completely selfish, spoiled and shallow.
There are good men out there and God has someone very special waiting for you. (Everything happens for a reason.) But you will not find him if you remain with Jim. And you will remain unhappy and publicly humiliated if you do!
Heal, pray for strength to do what you need to do, embrace your three angels and give ALL of your love to them, for the time being. Make your decision and hire a brilliant lawyer to do the rest.
I’m rooting for you! Stay strong and know that you are not the only one going through this. Love yourself enough to choose someone else who is better suited for you and is a more honorable man. You deserve the very best!
Irene
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So sorry this is happening. Sending hugs and love your way. I hope your son is okay and hopefully you will be able to come out of this stronger. Take the time you need and take care of you. Jimmy was wrong, not you. Good luck. ❤️
I’m so sorry your going thru this. My husband had an affair with my best friend. I divorced him cause I knew I could never trust him. You have to follow your heart sweetie. Keeping you in my prayers
You have such strength even while in the think of this heartache, destruction. I am sorry for all the hurt you have and the sadness. I really do admire you for stating how you are filled with lots of emotions, but still know rebuilding is a possibility. Postpartum was difficult for me and my husband wasn’t a healthy support and added so much stress and heartache too. Stay strong, take your time. Prayers for your whole family
Xoxo
Meghan you will get stronger every day. Your children need you and not him. He is sick. You can do much better in the future. Stay strong and God will help you heal. All men are not like that. You will survive this. You are in my Prayers and so are your children. Have faith. Talk with a Professional who can help guide you to a good place in life. Trust a good friend but be careful with what you say at first. I believe in you. Many Blessings dear Meghan.! 🙏🙏🌷🌷🌷💕
my heart hurts for you. You do not deserve this, no one does, and it’s awful. But you are truly brave to write about it and be so transparent. Godspeed
Oh, Meghan….I am so sorry that you are going thru this pain. I hate that because you are a public person that you cannot have your privacy. Relationships and marriages can go through betrayals of many kinds….addictions, heart, finances…you are not alone. I do believe self sabotage is another type of addiction. I don’t know Jim….but the way he looks at you…I only see love for you. I want him to wake up before he loses you. You are one special girl!
You are a strong woman. If you want to fight for your marriage, then fight for it. Don’t let others tell what you do in your marriage. All things are possible with Jesus! He can heal a marriage. It’s going to take time. A LOT of time. See a good counselor . I’ve been though this in my marriage. I could feel your pain. Feels like someone died . Hurts to breath. Things will get better as time goes by. Remember tomorrow a new day . I’ll will pray for you and your family. ❤️
I can’t imagine what you are going through. Please know that there are many who are praying for you in this difficult time. Thank you for being so honest and bold. I am sure having to speak on something so painful makes it that much worse. Also sending prayers for answers for Hart!
You are incredibly brave to come out and face it head on. The public isn’t owed a response by you but by doing this you are taking the power away from tabloids or any social media. Take your time and make decisions that are right for your family.
God bless
Hi I am praying for you I don’t know why ppl behave this way I really don’t all I know is you have a beautiful family and there are women out there who love this who live by this to make money off this and it’s so sad that families do break apart bc of this -please stay strong for you and those beautiful kids!
Just a fan from Boston 💝
Deborah
Meghan
You are one strong woman- and you do not deserve this – None of it.
Just pray and always remember who you are and never waver from it,
Take it one day at a time and take those drives and cry as much as you need to.
I admire you and your strength- and please know this: you have an army of women behind you sending love and support.
This does not define you – you are amazing!
Meghan – you are an amazing wife, mother and all around good person. You’re completely right- this will NOT define you. He has no idea what he’s lost, and will forever spend the rest of his life regretting his actions. This will sting for you now, but will be an everlasting burn for him. If you stay with him, I hope he recognizes the colossal mistake(s) he’s made. If you don’t, he never deserved you to begin with. Sending you love and positive thoughts.
I only know of you through the Real Housewives I have followed Aspen grow up through Instagram I’ve watched the new house be built and I said here in tears for you no you did nothing to deserve this and just to read you say that you drive around and cry just truly broke my heart if I’ve been there whichever way it goes you are one tough cookie but just one piece of advice listen to your gut not your heart
Hang in there. I know that kind of advice is almost annoying but don’t make decisions with an emotional heart. Make decisions for you and the family with a clear head but also making your health, self worth, and confidence a priority. You are smart and savvy. I have been a fan of yours for a while. Not a fan because you are on TV but a kick ass mom, step mom, and person.
Diane Cinalli
Thank you – needed this.
Meghan, you are a beautiful soul. You have obvious external beauty but, you are so kind even in bad times. I don’t think cheaters set out to hurt their partner. I don’t even think they consider what the repercussions will be. I think he does love you. But he has this massive ego that he needs to feed. As women when we are such involved mothers and have medical issues we are to tired to feed that ego. I hope you listen to Esther Perle a relationship expert. Don’t blame yourself. It is his insecurities he has fed. Wishing you all the best. Take care of yourself because if you can’t be your best your children will want the happy, wonderful mom. Also, I have been to the best spinal surgeon in OC Dr. Jeffrey Deckey. Take care of yourself. Prayers for your baby.
God bless!
“There are so many people out there with bad intentions and it’s our responsibility to ignore and rise above. One slimy person doesn’t make another person cheat.” That’s exactly it…I’m sorry you’re going through this. No one deserves to be treated like this, and if someone chooses to treat you like this, they don’t deserve you. There’s someone out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated! Don’t settle!!
Sorry Meg. You don’t deserve to be treated like that and neither do your children. Praying for Hart.
Oh man. Words can not express how truly sorry I am. Be kind to yourself.
Much love.
I am so sorry for what has happened to you. Forgive me for a comment I posted on Twitter, I believe that was about you threatening the “mistress”. I should’ve known better no to trust those “reports”. I want to say “thank you” for speaking so poignantly & with such raw honesty. You did not deserve this. But, it is your choice to save your marriage regardless of what anyone else thinks. I pray that you will find peace in all this.
This makes my stomach hurt, I’m so sorry. You’re obviously a very strong woman and an amazing mother and wife. Keep your head up, stay strong! You got this. 🧡
Sad is obviously very understandable but hope your marriage can survive? Wake Up!!!! You have been with a narcissistic dirt bag lying cheat! All the words in the world don’t matter … his actions said it ALL. He doesn’t have one ounce of respect for you, that’s proven in writing in the texts.. it’s like you don’t exist.. sure, he’ll grovel now but that’s every narcissists way of maintaining their supply.. I.e you today. There is ZERO excuse in this world for sending dick pics and videos or meeting up women on the road. And if you believe they didn’t have sex… I am sorry to tell you those texts prove they did. I write this because I’ve been there and learned the hard way by wanting to believe differently for fear of losing what I thought I had… but really didn’t, it was all for show. You know what they say… fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. I was fooled twice. Don’t let that be you. Sorry you’re going through this in such a public way. Best of luck.
God bless you Meghan ! What thoughtful and poised words… sadly, I have been through this as well. I was you just a few years ago… a devoted mother with young children, doing her best to be everything to everyone. I was blindsided by my husbands betrayal. People asked me how I didn’t see it, how I couldn’t know… It broke me into a million pieces, but Im not broken. I clawed my way out of that deep, dark place I know you Know all too well and with the help of God, found peace. People asked me how I could forgive him. They saw me as weak… I am far from weak. It took the greatest amount of strength and pure grace to forgive someone who unquestionably did not deserve it. But it wasn’t about what he deserved… it was about what I did… what my kids did. And what we deserved was what we were promised — a loving and happy family. If he was willing to right his wrongs every single day by honoring our original commitment…then I was willing to let him try. You will come out on the other side of this, I know it. What that side looks like is entirely up to you and I believe you will do what is right for both you are and your babies. Sweet girl, you are far stronger and braver than you even know. Your unconditional love for your children will carry you through this … just know there is another mama out there, praying for you….Cheering for you…. and hoping you find your peace. Sending big hugs and tons of prayers for Hart ❤️ xxx
Sending love Meghan. I am sorry for the pain you are going through. I really respect you writing this, because I know it’s such a hard time and you’re trying to be open and vulnerable bc the press writes so many bad things. Thank you for being raw, and I will say a special prayer for you tonight. I hope time will heal your heart and things work out in your best interest whatever that may be.
I really hope for the sake of your family & YOUR heart’s sake, you and your husband can mend this pain. If not, you will be okay. Women were born to overcome ANYTHING this life throws at us. Your babies need a happy mommy. Be there for them. Love them, squeeze and nurture them. THEY deserve the best version of YOU! My mom said this to me a very long time ago..when people show you who THEY are, LISTEN to them.
I really wish you all the best love.
I’m so sorry you are going through this, and in the public’s eye no less. I cannot fathom what that must be like. Infidelity can destroy a relationship, but sometimes they can still be salvaged, so depending on what path you want to take, I think the strength you’ve shown will take you there. Perhaps this happening at the same time you battle health issues with your baby boy will be an unseen silver lining, because your mind will need to be focused there. I wish there were straight firm answers when these happenstances occur. Keep your head up to the best of your ability and thank you for sharing such a personal moment.
Meghan, I wish you all the best and ultimately the strength to do what is best for you and your children.
Wow Meghan you are incredible STRONG! My heart hurts for you and I cannot imagine what you are going through. But I know you will make it through the darkness because you are one tough woman. Keep fighting for what you believe in. Sending lots of Love.
I simple do not think he can be trusted again. It’s not about love now . He new what he was doing and it is very selfish. You would have never known if he would not have gotten caught . He not only did this to you but he did it to y’all s children. It seems like this would be the time when y’all are the closest after everything you have been through. You deserve better and no I don’t know you, but you seem like a really nice, genuine lady. I’m sorry you are going through this. Just know you can rise above it, but he does not deserve a second chance at this point.
I feel for you. I have been betrayed too, while pregnant. I know you will find a way to be strong for your kids. To forgive for your kids. To heal for your kids. My husband and I worked it out. It took time and so much work. But it’s possible. Also, fuck everyone’s opinions. You stay. You leave. Who knows? But do what feels right for you and your kids.
Sending you peace and prayers for you both!! Trust in your faith and your family. God will be there for you. Keep your kids and family around you for support and you will get through this a stronger woman! I will keep you in my prayers!
Megan, sending you all the love that a stranger is allowed to send . I am sorry that you are going through such a hard time. I hope your heart heals and either you guys become a stronger couple or you just become stronger than you ever thought you could be.
I am so sorry. You are such a good person with a beautiful ❤️ heart. Be strong. Thoughts and prayers are with you. God does not give us more then we can handle. I know that doesn’t seem true at this moment😢 But you are strong and can do this🙏 Prayers for you Meghan.
Hokd your head high, and focus on your children and let Jimmy focus on the marriage! Bitterness will not fix what needs fixing, and that is YOU first, so that you can be the mother your babies need. Where your marriage was first before babies, now first is your children. Infidelity is not the end of the world, or a relationship, but it is the end of trust for many years to come, I know this from experience over 25 years ago…we celebrate 45 years next month and he has never strayed since the first time and I am his whole world…it was when I told him that it was up to him to prove he wanted me and our marriage because I would survive alone, that the light bulb went off and he knew I was serious. Money doesn’t buy healing, only time does.
Best of luck Megan and prayers for Hart, you and your babies.
I’m so sorry this has happened to you too! I know what it feels like. Don’t make any rash decisions with it being so fresh.
You wrote how crippling this feels to have happen to you by your person. I applaud your honesty. And yes, no material possessions could ever take place of the most vulnerable necessity – love.
I am sorry your son, Hart, is having medical issues. I am sending you all love, light and healing vibes.
Be kind to yourself Meghan!
So sorry this is happening to you. Praying for your heart to heal.😘
I have been where you are and my marriage ended. Peace comes through strength and healing comes through forgiveness. I wish you both. Prayers and blessings your way.
Your feelings are justified and validated. You have every right to be upset and demand that he seek help. He needs to understand this extra attention he craved. Why??? He is obviously broken in some way in is no reflection on you as a human, a wife, a lover, a mother etc. Heal at your own pace and take all the time you need. No one needs an explanation but of it helps to share than you go girl. Hugs xoxo
Your children see you, always choose to rise above ❤️
You were “the other woman” when you met him. And the way he treated you on the show….. Why would this behavior surprise you? He is disgusting and a liar. Of course he had relations with this woman, why else would she be called a “mistress”?? Sorry this happened to you, but really, open your eyes. Kick him to the curb and worry about your babies.
Give it to God sweetie.
My prayers are with you and your family, darlin. I find it so courageous that you have spoken your feelings and done it in such an eloquent manner, despite the hurt. Despite the anger. I claim healing in your heart, in the name.of Jesus. ♡x
Ugh. That sucks!! You are beautiful, strong, a mama raising beautiful children. Keep your head up! Cheating has nothing to do with you-it’s an issue with him. One you could never change. I’ve been there. You will only grow to be stronger. Xoxoxo.
Wow! What a good woman you are! I had the same situation happen to me. While I was busy bei g a good Mom my husband decided to have a emotional affair with a co worker. Nothing physical but hurts just as bad. After 15 yrs of marriage and being my best friend. I know exactly what your feeling. You are a good wife and mother. Do what you think is best for you and your babies. You can go wrong doing it that way. Your husband’s poor choice doesn’t define your family. He chose poorly and now you will choose correctly! Stay strong it will be alright!
I am reading this, feeling that utter pit of betrayal that was my life just 4 years & 45 days ago. I’m so so sorry for your pain……my husband & I celebrated 23yrs 3/30/19, 28yrs total together.
God was/is greater than any sin or brokenness in our marriage. Prayers for you & your beautiful family🙏🏼♥️
Much love Xx
Wow.. you’re painfully honest. I always liked you on the RHOC. You always had a good head on your shoulders, and it’s clear you still do.
You’re right. You didn’t cheat. He’s a repeat cheater so he has a lot of work to do to figure that all out. You have to figure out how to navigate through to forgiveness for your family.
I hope you get there. Best wishes for your son.
Girl this is not about you! This guy needs a lot of work. He needs to be told what a big deal he is way too often. That is not your job! Manly as you think he is, he is NOT. And you are correct, it’s cheating plain and simple. He cheated on you, your kids, your marriage. 100%. If you can commit to telling him he has a big dick every day it might work out, if that’s what you want. God bless!
Im sorry Meghan. You are loved and admired. I am wishing you the healing your heart so deserves.
Oh honey, life is hard. I am so sorry this had happened. It will take time, and a lot of effort between both of you. Focus more on yourself and your child. You will be in my thoughts.
Meghan, I can totally relate to your circumstances, 4 years ago I to found inappropriate messages and pictures between my husband and his female co worker. I had just had our third baby girl and was already dealing with postpartum and of course the weight gain. I couldn’t believe that the man I married could do this to me and our children it broke me. I never thought I could get over it but we stayed together and everyday he has done everything to make me feel comfortable and secure in our marriage. I still have triggers though like stories like yours is a reminder that humans fail us and that’s why it’s important to love ourselves our children and especially have God in our lives to give us the strength and unconditional love we need and deserve. I’ll be praying for you that God heals your broken heart and mends your marriage.
I am so sorry you have to deal with this and in such a public way. I’ve been in the same position and my marriage survived! I chose forgiveness and love. It took time but as the days got further away from finding out the truth the trust came back. I hope nothing but love for you.
I’m sorry, he doesn’t deserve you…I’ve been following you for quite some time…and Jimmy has just confirmed all my skepticism…he’s a 🐷 He May love you, but he simply pacifiers you. Jimmy is sooooo all about Jimmy. I’m so sorry for this betrayal, and if he just blows this off, with whatever he says to pacify you , well then you are the fool. He’s going to need to commit to some serious marriage counseling, therapy for himself as well. Good luck honey, I know you love him, but this needs to be nipped in the bud, if this is truly the first incident! KZ
My heart breaks for you. I think you need to give it some time and then really truly think about whether or not you truly want to stay in this marriage. With as much as he was traveling while you were on the housewives and if he is still traveling like that, would you be able to trust him again? I hope that everything works out however you want it to work out.
I am sorry you are going through this, my first marriage ended because of his cheating.
. it hurts!! That said, you chose to marry a man who had multiple children with multiple women, Obviously, I do not know you nor your heart, but I watched you on TV and from there can garner the finer things in life are important to you. Marriage is a choice every single day whether there are men hitting on you, or it is a beautiful day. Marriage is a choice every single day be they good days or bad. You and your children have a better life than most and you have the choice and the means to leave a bad situation, where so many women cannot. Please keep that in mind.
Oh Meghan, im so sorry you have to go thru this. The only thing i can say if you love him forgive him and move on leave the past in the past. It will be hard but we’re all human we make mistakes if he did it more than once it’s pathological? You have to go thru the dark to get to the light. Only you will know what to do, do what’s right for you? I will say this some women don’t care if your husband is married or not their only thinking about the money and status. Some women are evil calculated disingenuous cunning malicious conniving and crazy. I’m not making excuses for Jim but like i said we’re human we all make mistakes.
I’ve been where you are. My husband cheated and I had four children ages 8, 7, 5 and 3 at the time. It’s humiliating, shocking, embarrassing and shameful. It’s not about you. It’s him. Took me a long time to realize that. You’re right. You did nothing wrong. Focus all your energy and love on your beautiful babies because that is what will help you through. (I wish I could give you the wisdom I’ve learned the last seventeen years) This is the hardest part. I pray your faith carries you through. 💕🙏
Been there.. in my opinion, they might as well had sex. Emotional cheating is worse than physical cheating. It’s premeditated. Some people don’t know what it takes to be married and what the meaning of marriage is. Taking the kids out of it, how do you trust him again? When he goes to the golf course, business trip or a night out without you? It’s such betrayal. Someone who truly loves you won’t do that. I hope you find strength in this and know your self worth. Once you find that, the perfect man for you will come in your life.
Thank you for your raw honesty and willingness to open up to us all. While I personally have not been through this feeling, I have consoled and held the hands of many near and dear to me. They suffered silently. You were not given that option/luxury. And while I’m sure you would rather crawl under a rock, your openness has empowered countless. I truly hope your marriage can recover. And when it does, I want to ensure you it does not make you weak or a push over. It makes you willing to put love before anger and resentment.
Meghan, I’m only 28 and cannot even begin to understand marriage or the hardships that come along with it. But what I do know is watching you over the years, you are an incredibly strong willed and intelligent role model who has come this far. Life will try to tear you down but someone like you won’t allow that to happen. My prayers go to your son and time will heal all else.
MKE so many of us have been in the same spot just not as public. I’m sorry you’re sad and going through everything. I still don’t FULLY trust but have to work on that every stupid day!
Sending you hugs.
Hi Meghan, I know you call her slimy …. But ultimately it was Jim who didn’t have to act … it is not her responsibility to stay away it was his to say NO. They cheat once they will always cheat always. He is not worthy of you. You are so above this … for Jim to dishonour you is unforgivable. I wish for nothing more than you to be happy again. Time and for you to realize none of this is you none it is all him … do not lay blame on slimy …. It’s Jim.
Thank you for your openness and candor. I’m impressed by you. You have a good head on you and you will get through all of this. You give me hope in my own life.
You are beautiful soul and deserve nothing but happiness. Everything happens for a reason and this will only make you stronger. As much as you didn’t deserve this, you’ll learn things about yourself that you’ve never learned before. Things that will make you more confident, happy, and at peace. I have both been cheated on and cheated myself. Cheating stems from underlying fear, unhappiness, and insecurities. The road to recovery is hard, but doable. Take time to heal, focus on your happiness, and to pamper yourself. Everything will be okay, healing takes time.
Being a mom is the hardest job we will ever have in our life. Being a wife at the same time as raising little ones is even harder. YOU did NOTHING wrong!!!!!!! I for one can sympathize and understand that not being a complete mom for your kids is the worst feeling and a ton of guilt that comes with that. The fact that your putting one foot in front of the other through your pain everyday makes you the best mom!! Take time to really heal your heart and don’t put yourself down again YOU did nothing wrong!! Thanks for being so open and honest.
Your an amazing mommy and WIFE!!!! Your so right, this will not define who you are. You will get through this and prevail like no other. Meghan please reach out to Jana Kramer. She went through something so public and similar and her marriage is better than ever. Communication is key in any relationship. Keep your head up and your babies close to heal your broken heart. You will recover.
I am in awe of your strength and encouraged by your ability to (perhaps) forgive…in time. We had babies around the same time and I have been following your happiness…the ups and the downs. You ARE what the definition of strength is….ugly cries and all.
I was never a big fan of yours. But this? This rawness, this transparency – will save someone’s life. Not your intention, but your bravery to write this, will compel another woman, not as strong as you, to read it. Maybe feel less alone. Maybe feel that it couldn’t be that she wasn’t good enough since she can see you’re beyond stunning and it happened to you. She won’t feel so alone – and she may not hurt herself. Know this as you grow past this. Which you will. And be stronger on the other end. ~ some woman you will never know.
Meghan, time to say goodbye to him, is he sorry? Or just sorry he got caught! Believe me once the trust has gone you never really get it back and I speak from personal experience, life it too short to be wondering what he’s getting up to when you are apart! You have your beautiful family….. be happy ❤
Oh my goodness. My heart is broken for you. Pray like you e never prayed before and hopefully you can find some sort of peace. Your children are beautiful just like you. You are blessed and you always have your family and friends. 💕
so glad to see you understand the problem is HIM not HER He owed you fidelity and honesty and truth She owed you nothing and SHE can be replaced by any one of the millions of other women who are not YOU but YOU can never be replaced by anyone. You WILL learn to trust again but it will never be the same. But it might be worth it in the end and only time will tell
a woman who has been there
If he was your one true love, he wouldn’t have done this at all. He isn’t your one true love. I feel so bad for you and the kids, but this is perhaps not the right man to raise his kids with you. I wouldn’t share custody with him because he can’t be trusted and your kids will be around other raunchy women. It is a hard decision. I hope your little boy will be okay.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. No matter what happens, better days are ahead.
Be mad as hell, forgive in time, and move forward. Wishing you future happiness
I’m sorry you are feeling this pain. I always thought you were to good for him! You have a lot on your plate and he takes his time to disrespect you in the worst way. He new what he was doing! You will , in time , rise above this! He doesn’t deserve you!
Im sorry Meghan. Take your time and take special care of yourself. xo
My heart goes out to you. You didn’t deserve this. My thoughts and prayers are with you while you heal from this betrayal.
My dearest Megan.
I have been flowing you since RHOC and honestly you have been the most humble, honest and beautiful wives of them all.
You dont deserve this my dear.
My heart cries reading your words and feeling your pain.
Be strong for your children, keep your head up high with pride, dont let it destroy you as you have 3 wonderful children to look after especially Hart.
You are young and beautiful and I pray that God will look after you at this time and whatever falls into place is meant to be.
His a loving God and he will be there for you..💗
God bless you my dear
Meghan, my heart truly breaks for you. I don’t have answers to many of your questions especially why some men self-sabotage their marriages. Makes no sense. You’re right, who are these people? I guess you have to try to put yourself in his mind to figure out why he did this to you, but because women are unique creatures and we think differently than men, it’ll be so hard to find out that answer. Maybe speak with your father or your brother? They might have some insight .Just know one thing Meghan and i don’t mean to hurt you more, but this man will undoubtedly do this to you again and again. You can be certain of it. You can try to heal your marriage, but I think it’s going to be nearly impossible especially when you say yourself that you don’t trust him anymore. If there is no trust in a marriage, then there is no marriage. Full stop. Anytime he will be out of town or out with the boys, you will stress and wonder if he’s cheating. Do you really want to live your life that way, always worrying what he’s doing? Look what happened to Shannon Bedor. In the end, all her hard work in mending and healing their marriage was just another betrayal. Don’t put yourself in that situation Meghan. You are a young and beautiful woman. You will find your soulmate. You will, but right now just think and work at healing yourself, not your marriage. I think that’s done. He’s an aging man, much older than you and he knows he’s aging and he’ll regret doing what he did to you. So please just watch over yourself and your beautiful children. Put all your energy in them and stay strong. Fan from Canada.💖💖
You are stronger than you realize. Just take each day as it comes. You are the only one who can ultimately decide where this takes you in terms of your marriage. Whether you decide to stay or leave, your relationship doesn’t define you. You are enough. Never forget that. If you have a faith, times like these are when it will be your source of strength and peace. I’m praying for you and your precious family. God bless you.
Oh Meghan my heart aches for you! I’ve been there, you really can salvage your marriage if you both want the work. He would have to be completely transparent to regain trust. Also if he uses porn that should be an issue to address. I absolutely feel porn is destructive to relationships. If the work is put in your marriage can be stronger than ever! Men are very visual and that’s why they are so easily trapped by images. You are an amazing women and do not doubt your worth. I don’t know if you are a woman of faith but I am and you will be in my prayers!!!
You’re amazing!
I’m so sorry as a woman a mother and a wife that you are having to deal with and address this. No woman wants to EVER feel second best. I hope you can find healing somehow, please remember your worth. You a such a beautiful soul and only wants to be loved as you love others. I hope your heart heals Meghan xxx Love Kelly J xx
You’re not only sad but raw, it takes a lot to put this out, and to do so genuinely. It is going to take time, but there’s beauty on the other end. Whatever your next chapter brings, it WILL be better… hang in, and focus on yourself, that’s all you can do.
Chin up Meghan.
Hugs from a fan,
Susan
You are lovely and genuine. You dont deserve it. Love your babies and yourself. In time you will learn to trust yourself again.
So sorry Meghan. I’ve been through 3 affairs with my former husband. Each during times of difficulty. Pregnancies and breast cancer. I hope you don’t have to go through what I’ve been through, but you have to take time before you decide. Read about narcissism and sociopathy. They can’t change. They don’t feel empathy. They don’t feel what they did is wrong. I stayed for my kids too and unfortunately, when they are a narcissist it can’t get better. Hang in there.
Love from KC
So so sorry Meghan. Take care of YOU and everything else will fall into place as it is meant to be.
Be strong for your babies and continue with those “ugly cry drives”. They are necessary and they hurt no one. Prayers for baby Hart 🙏🏻
I’m so so sorry. I’m holding you close in prayer.
I don’t really do this, comment on a public figure’s blog. But I feel for you, and I am impressed and proud of your honesty. 30 years ago, I went through a betrayal, tried to make it work, ultimately divorced and recovered my self esteem and faith in my judgement. Today is my 22nd anniversary of being married to a wonderful, patient and trustworthy man! There ARE good men out there. While I hope you can work things out, my experience and intuition tell me it’s a lost cause because you will never trust him again. You deserve better. You will recover, you will be stronger, and you will live well. ❤️
I love your quote: Marriage is a choice on bad days and is easy and beautiful on a good day…you’re right. I hope someday soon you’ll feel that again.
I am so very sorry. I can relate as I’ve been there. To have married your soulmate for this to happen is cruel on every level. Again, I understand asIve been through it. Please know that it can be repaired and that it can be forgiven. Not now, but in time. I’m 3 years into my very similar situation as yours. You will get through this just stay focused on your beautiful babies as they need all of their mommy. Remember, He isn’t going anywhere so he can wait for you. Take this time to heal. Prayers to you and your beautiful children.
Megan, you and your family are in my prayers. I pray that you able able to get a diagnosis for Hart and he is able to receive the medical help he needs. As a mother with child that has a medical condition I know heartache to see your child go through something that is out of our control. I hope that your marriage is able to recover and become stronger than ever.
I know how you feel. My husband of 35 years did the same thing last fall. He’s not a public figure, like yours, but our children found out and made him tell me. I was devastated… our feelings of hurt, anger, and overwhelming sadness are the same. I did nothing wrong but yet I feel guilty. I know it is totally his fault, but so angry with those who targeted him. Hurt by him for not fighting for US; Giving into his own selfishness. I wish you the best of luck in finding the right thing to do for you and your family. Only you can decide. I’m sorry that your family has to experience this publicly when the focus should be on their feelings and how they will get through this horrible experience. Four of my 5 children know and we have chosen to keep it from the last one. I hope she never finds out because it will be just as devastating to her as it was to me I chose to stay with my husband. We have been seeing a therapist. It is a challenge everyday. I think about what he did all the time, just much as as he tries to not think about it. His trust will be questioned. His love for me must be proven all over again. I have forgiven him, but have not forgotten. My goal is to make new memories that will push the hurtful ones aside and eventually out of my mind. Don’t let this experience steal away your happiness. You have so much to be thankful for. Dwell on the love and support from your family. I wish you the best in your painful journey. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you go down this bumpy road of decisions and reparation. I am sorry for your sadness. Don’t let this define you. Don’t look at life before the betrayal. Only look forward and be hopeful. I hope your husband will understand the importance of CHOOSING YOU! And proving that to you once again. Good luck and continue to love your children like you always have.
Stay strong girl. Love you and you have support from so many of us!
Happened to me when I was 6 months pregnant and again when my daughter was 8 months. I empathize with you. It is hard. You can find your way out of the darkness, whichever direction you chose. But most importantly you have your babies and their happiness will help you heal. This is the first time I’ve ever commented on a blog of any kind. That’s how much your candidness speaks to me because it was me. You are in my prayers.
The humiliation alone is enough to eat away at you. Knowing they were lying their asses off while smiling in your face. How does one do that to their spouse? I don’t think I’ll ever understand it. My ex-husband did the exact same thing. My oldest daughter was three when we got together. And had twins. (boy/girl) one with a neuromuscular syndrome called Caudal Regression Syndrome. I was 26 and he walked away from me and his kids. I am the one that was there for my son through 15 surgeries in 13 years (five before the age of four). It was hard as hell but I let my hurt, anger, and humiliation motivate me to do the best I could do. They’re all adults now. Both girls are married and my son is still here at home with me (cognitively he is 100%) More than anything, I am sorry this happened to you. From the bottom of my heart. Hopefully, you can heal and move forward. You’re so right, it takes time. Xx
I think you are amazing for writing this. You gave him the boy he always wanted n did not deserve this. I dont think fixing it is gonna work. He never was liked by anyone from the show but u loved him so u prob ignored red flags we all saw. Edited show or not he was never not a jerk! Your strong smart and beautiful u can do way better. A leopard doesn’t change their spots n he seems to not be able to stay married to anyone…THIS DRAMA HAD ZERO TO DO WITH ANYTHING YOU DID HE IS JUST A POS N IM SURE HIS EXS WERE ALL TREATED THE SAME MARRIED TO A BLOCK OF ICE. SENDING U POSITIVITY N HEALING VIBES AT THIS TIME….MUCH RESPECT TO YOU ♡
The tone may come off as harsh to some, but she is speaking the truth. I feel for her and this situation; but the facts are that love shouldn’t hurt. The timing is off, but when is the timing right….. he needs help because there is clearly a pattern going on. Love to all, and blessing to M and her babies.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. No matter which decision you make, staying and working it out or leaving, is ok, and I’ll pray you make the decision that’s best for you and your family. So many people are rooting for you.
Fight for your family.
I am currently going through this exact same thing in my marriage, found out a week ago yesterday. It’s hard, it sucks, and it’s the worst thing I have ever been through. In a world where everyone says leave him, divorce him, my heart is convicted, and it tells me this story isn’t over yet. God is going to heal this marriage and make it stronger than ever. Does that mean it’s going to happen tomorrow? Absolutely not, but He is saying I’ve got this, just have faith and know that I will take you two to the finish line. I’m sorry you are going through this, I know how tough it is and to have your little nugget to worry about on top of it! Good luck!
I’m so sorry this happened to you Meghan. I will be praying you make it through this and find your way back to the Love you’ve shared. Also prayers that everything turns out ok for sweet little Hart
You definitely do not deserve this. Nor does any woman.
I hope you have warm and wonderful people around you to help you during this very trying time. Bad enough this happens to those of us not in the public eye, but worse for you, as it is so public.
You are worth more than being the wife of a man who cheats. You are beautiful, young, vivacious, thoughtful and smart. You can do whatever you want and be happy. You do not need to be publicly disrespected.
I hope you can navigate these terribly rough waters, but I know, from experience, once trust is beoken, it is almost impossible to get it back. Without trust in a relationship, you have nothing. I admire you for wanting to work through this, and for this blog post.
I wish you and your children the very best, and hope, whatever happens, YOU put your happiness and that of your children, first. Sometimes that means starting over.
Maria.
I respect you more now for being transparent. I know what you mean. My didn’t cheat but did betray my trust and that’s gut wrenching. I didn’t do anything to deserve it. I love what you said #iamavictimbutitwillnotdefineme
I’m so sorry for the pain and suffering you are going through. You are so right you do deserve better. You chose love and marriage and chose to rise above any slime coming at you. Continue to choose to rise. God Bless you and your children.
sending thoughts of peace and healing for you and your beautiful children.
Meghan
My heart breaks for you. You don’t deserve this! You are a beautiful person with such a kind and compassionate heart. Hold your head up high. You are better than all of this, but he will do it again. So just think about that.
I am praying for you and your family,
Midge Elkins
I’m so sorry you’re going through this 😞. You and your lovely family will be in my prayers. Thank you for sharing and I wish you the best. 🙏
I am SO SO sorry. Take time to feel you’re feelings. Cry, scream, throw things. Then when you’re ready, figure out what you want to do and how to do it. You are an amazing, beautiful, strong, kind, loving and loyal wife. You will be ok and heal. It won’t always be easy but it will be worth it
From a wife who’s husband wasn’t faithful and we stayed together.
Kimberly
Damn. This sucks. Sending love from another mama who understands that all the money, gifts, big house etc. doesn’t replace love and loyalty. I wish you all that you’re praying for, and I’m speaking from
experience when I say prayer works. Anything is possible through God, who strengthens us.
My heart goes out to you. I don’t have any words really-I just hope your broken heart can heal. I wish your baby boy the best. 💔
I appreciate your honesty and I see and feel your pain. You have done nothing wrong, and you are right, no humiliation should sit with you. You appear to be a woman who lives and trusts with her whole heart and I hope this ugly experience doesn’t rob that from you. You will heal, regardless if you stay with him or choose to move on, a choice that is yours and yours only. I wish the very best for you, your beautiful children, including best wishes for Hart. Don’t doubt yourself or second guess your strength. Whatever happens you will rise above and have joy in your life. ❤️💕
Keep the faith. Don’t forget to love yourself and love your beautiful children. You are a strong woman, hell you stood up to the OG Vicki on RH 🙂
You’re right, this doesn’t define you whatsoever. And there’s something broken in Jimmy that is causing him to seek out this attention instead of be honest and communicate his needs to you. You have always been a very real celebrity and so many people appreciate that.
Go through the motions….hurt, anger, denial, sorrow, whatever it is because you’re human. And then be your normal BADASS self and take charge of your life and the lives of your littles. ❤️❤️❤️
My heart breaks for you but in the end I know everything will work out the way you want it to. You’re a beautiful soul and person you deserve better than the best.
You are a strong woman. Surround yourself with friends and family that will not speak ill of your husband. You need to be with people that will help you and your husband find a way. Marriage is hard but and there are alot of ups and downs. I have been married for 32 years and even though there were hard times. I love the achievements we have made. We have happy healthy children and now grandchildren. The only way to survive a marriage is with growth and forgiveness.
Take care.
Margarita
So many are sad with you. Cry in your mama’s arms if you need. You will survive because that’s what women and mommies do. All will be ok.
I have messaged you before my dear. And this saddens me. My daughter is married to a MLB player.
I too am afraid that she will endure what you are going through someday.
And she will react in the same way.
She is in the public eye everyday as well.
My heart hurts for you in so many ways I can’t begin to tell you just how it makes me feel.
I am sure you have your Mother with you. You need her.
You need space and time to think and time to heal.
I can tell you from experience that it truly never goes away.
It doesn’t matter how badly you want it to it just doesn’t.
I loved my husband more than anything and he cheated on me and our four daughters.
But you were pregnant and to me that’s just unforgivable. I know you love him but you need to LOVE yourself more!
Men don’t change my dear. They have a choice and he made it.
He feels remorse because he got caught. And if he truly loved you he would never have done any of it in the first place. He is a grown man and knows the repercussions that will precede if he would get caught.
You are better than this and so are your children. He disrespected not only you but he disrespected Aspen. His other children. I am glad that I am not your Mother because he would be out of that house and probably out of your lives. You have some decisions to make and you have time to make them but for the love of God make smart choices that you can live with.
NEVER COMPROMISE YOUR INTEGRITY FOR ANY MAN! IF YOU DO HE WILL DO IT AGAIN!
I will keep you in my prayers and I hope you really give this the thought process it deserves because he didn’t give it any. You were not even in the equation. Now that is sad.
From the Mother of four daughters!
Julie Neely Sellers
I cried reading this. Love and hugs to you. One foot in front of the other, one breath at a time. This too shall pass.
Saying prayers for Hart. ❤️❤️❤️
Been there. The betrayal and the lies can bring you to your knees. Not knowing what happened and what went on behind your back can be utter torment. Looking at your children and wondering why your family wasn’t good enough or worth it. Been there. Still there. I forgave. Things are good. But, I will never be the same. It changes you. I’m sad. I smile. But I’m sad. It will take time to heal. When he’s gone for work, it will make you crazy with suspicion. The torment continues. I’m so sorry for you. Because I know how you feel. If he’s smart, he will stay home by your side and never leave it. He will answer all your questions and give you the truth you deserve. I will pray for you. For strength and grace.
I’m so sorry, Meghan. You deserve much better. You always did.
i am sorry, i’m with an addict and liar and i’m struggling with you. i’m in a really dark place right now, thinking of you. we don’t deserve this.
You are strong, brave and an amazing mom. Take the time you next to be angry. To be sad. To heal. To decide what is right for you and your children. I am so sorry this happened to your family. Cheating sucks and betrayal is something that is very difficult to get over. Once you cross that bridge, it is very difficult to come back across with a clear mind and clear heart and go on as if nothing has happened. I hope with all my heart nothing but the best for you all ♥️
Sending you hugs momma, I’ve been there😔 not so public obviously but there just the same. It sucks! I’ve got 9 month old triplets and my oldest is 10yrs old. My husband and I’ve been through it😣 you do what you think is best for you!❤️
I’ve never responded on a blog but my heart hurts for you. First, prayers for your son. You have what it takes to deal with this. Barnes is a wonderful hospital and you will get an action plan. (I have ALS so I know what the process is like. You surround yourself with positive people you trust and be the best mama you can. I wont advise you on Jim, you can do what you need to do to support your kids. You dont owe anyone any more details so know that thousands of people wish you and your children all the happiness. 🙏
Extremely well said! Hope’s for your healing! Stay strong Meghan you got this!!
Stay strong and hold your head up high. You did nothing wrong!! Praying for your baby Hart and family.
Oh Meghan, I used to watch you on Housewives. You weren’t my favorite, but then you became a mother. And girl, you have come into your own! I love seeing your sweet family when you post. It’s so refreshing to hear your honest take on whatever is occurring in your life. This though. You are exactly right. You didn’t deserve this and do not have to be humiliated by your husband’s poor choices. Stay strong and stay focused on your children. They need you so much at this stage. As far as your marriage, I highly recommend counseling to work through this indiscretion. You are right in saying that anyone who would do this is broken. Something is broken within, likely a dysfunctional mother, or he wouldn’t have sought attention in this manner, especially to hurt the woman who bore him 3 beautiful babies. My faith is the only thing that gets me through the tough times. Please know you are a special person who is doing an amazing job. These were his choices so he needs to do the hard and tough work to discover and heal what drove him to make such a devastating choice. Chin up, Mama! Hug those babies and know someone is praying for you in Texas. All the best to you.
I am so sorry to hear not only about your marriage but your precious little boy. You are all in my prayers! I hope you get the ending you desire whatever that is in the end. Marriage IS tough, parenting IS tough and what you are dealing with I cannot begin to imagine. I follow your blog and love seeing you with your children! You don’t think they are getting their devoted mom but they feel the love you have for them!
My heart goes out to you…so sorry..it is only you & you alone can decide what to do about it. Big hugs.
Hi Meghan,
You are young and beautiful inside and out. Easier said than done, but please cut your losses. He doesnt deserve to have you as his wife. This is who he is and nithing will change him. Wishing tou and your children all the best.
Sometimes we have to get through hell to see that there’s always something greater on the other side. In my prayers and stay strong! You’re a great mom and woman.
My heart and love goes out to you. That you be blessed with internal peace and abundance of love and joy. You are an amazing mom and wife.
Time is what is needed to heal and he needs to do his part big time.
You a wonderful human and you are strong 💪🏼.
You will get through this. 💕
I have been married for 23 years and together for 25. I am 46 years old and I agree marriage is something we all work At it everyday. I have two kids one now going to college and my son 9 who last year was diagnosed with ADHD.
As moms and wives so much falls on our plates. Don’t be afraid to ask for help because you need your time too especially now to just take time for yourself.
I totally get it.
Tons of love for you and your family.
You will get through this. You are a strong woman. It is amazing what you have done and will do when you put your mind to it. When you think you can’t go on, you will. Have faith. Have faith in you. Good things come to an end. Equally, all bad things will end too and be replaced with new and wonderful memories. Peace
I am so very sorry this happened to you . I know it sounds harsh but you will come out stringer , better and healthier in the end . You know you are a good person no one can take that from you . If he walked out the door tomorrow it would be his loss . He has already lost your respect hopefully in time he can gain it back Right now you have to take care of you ,
I am so sorry sweet lady. Remember the rainbows always return.
I love you
Meg’s
I just cannot believe what I just read!!! Pls know I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers. Pray about this. God will give you the answers you need just have FAITH in him and his timing…..
I’m Sooo sorry you and your beautiful children have got to suffer because of your husband’s unfaithful doings. It’s not like he did not have EVERYTHING @ home that any man would be proud to have. I’m sorry but being unfaithful in marriage is a NONO!!!!! My heart breaks for you. Love you, Mrs Kristy in Savannah Georgia
Watched you on bravo; run, he never appreciated or “got you”. There is a great fella out there that will love you and your children…..kick that pompous ass to the curb!
My heart aches for you. Hugs.
Heart wrenching. I’m sorry this happened to you and your family. I’m sorry your world is turned upside down. I hope you can right it in time. Why can’t two people have equal devotion towards each other and the family they created? It’s impossible to read anyone else’s mind no matter how close you are to them. Hold your head high and feel proud that you upheld your part in the relationship. We can never control someone else but we can choose what is right for ourselves. Thank you for sharing your feelings, it truly touched me. Every person that is part of a couple should read this. I hope your heart is healed soon.
Out of ALL of the Real Housewives shows, I only ever watched was the OC. And stopped watching when you left. I have been a loyal follower through all of your ups & downs with pregnancy & childbirth & just plain life. You seem to be one of the most caring, genuine, honest women out there. And very “down to earth & not snobby” You remind me of a friend from college, tried & true. This whole news about Jimmy came as a huge shock to me (and all of your family, friends & followers) and OF COURSE YOU, the most important of all. I don’t have any advice, just know that there are people in this world that care about you & your family.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this…I pray things get easier…follow your heart…I’m pulling for you💕
Meghan,
Very sorry you are going through this. Believe me I know the pain of finding out about an affair can be unbearable. The man you are committed to and love and have been faithful to has betrayed you in the worst way. I have been there. My husband of 10 years had a long term affair. I first kicked him out of our home and was planning on divorcing him but a few months later I decided to give our marriage another chance because we truly love each other and wanted to save our marriage. You will go through a lot of different emotions. Don’t feel shame if you decide to stay with him. Nobody should judge anyone else’s marriage and really it’s none of their business anyway. It’s not going to be easy but if you really love each other and he can be honest and faithful going forward then you will get through this. But he needs to be 100% completely honest with you! My husband initially lied at first telling me the same thing Jim told you, that he didn’t have a physical relationship with her but that was not true. In order for you to ever forgive him and work on your marriage he has to be completely honest with you. And never think for a second this was because of something you did wrong. It will be a long process for you to heal and forgive him and it is not something that can be rushed but you will get through it a stronger woman. I wish you and your family the best and hope your marriage can heal someday and come out better in the end. ❤️
Hey there.. Jesus loves you and we are all broken. What he did was sin against God and you but it’s not because of you.. I have been on the other side of this scenario…. I was broken and hurt my husband I was seeking things from a human that only the Lord can satisfy.. being needed, feeling sexy, admired, loved, wanting attention, but it’s never enough until we can surrender to our creator. I hope God brings Jim to repentance and that your marriage and hearts will be restored. We all don’t deserve Grace but we have been given it through Gods sacrifice of Jesus. He is the only one who will hold you and heal you. I don’t know you, but my heart aches for you. I have a singleton 13 year old and identical twin almost 11 year olds.. I will pray for you. Thank you for sharing your deepest wounds. God heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.. You will get through this!! Let the Lord carry you and your sweet babies..
Ashley M.
Hi. I am in the end stages of a relationship I thought would be my last. I gave him everything and yet he chose to cheat on me. I was sent pics and videos of him at “our bar” cheating on me. I have cried 1000 tears and I keep trying to figure out what I could have done differently. I am alone in my cute little Kirkwood house tonight, yet again, crying. But I opened my notepad & wrote a few things I want to share with you:
I am deaf to what you say until your changes behavior gives me a reason to listen.
Dont fall in love with potential. Don’t fall in love with who someone could be make you blind to who they truly are.
When someone is showing you red flags don’t ignore them; believe them. The more you ignore red flags the more you are putting yourself in a position to get your heart destroyed.
I keep reading these over and over again.
I too married a St. Louis Cardinal player, a decade ago, so I understand. I am close if you need someone 314-478-6151.
Im so very sorry you are facing this but you are so brave.
❤️ girl, I have been there… literally almost the same exact position but without the horrible media. Much love to you. As women, it’s never “fair” or “equal”. I can’t speak to why men do these things, but just know you are incredibly strong and as a mother, you are a special and ever important human. It will never be easy, we can only believe that it will be worth it. Take care of yourself first, then your babies. Everything else will fall into place.
You are strong and did not have to share but you did. I hope by sharing it helps to heal the pain you are going there. Praying for you during this hard time.
This blog post is nothing but honest and courageous. Your son’s health has to be your number one concern. My daughter had a sudden neurological disorder that put her in a wheelchair in a few days of the onset. My husband chose then to abandon our already rocky marriage. It made it harder. Meghan I know you know this but your responsibility now is to your kids and devoting all your energy towards finding a diagnosis for your son. Neurological conditions are tricky and often misdiagnosed. Study everything you learn. If what your Dr is saying doesn’t sound right – get another opinion. This could be a long and difficult road. Prepare for it and let Jim know you hope he has time to participate. If he doesn’t keep moving forward. Early diagnosis and interventions are key. Keep breathing Mama. 💜
I don’t even know you but I wish I could give you the biggest hug.
Just take one deep breath, one step in front of the other. You need to otherwise the anxiety pain and depression will overwhelm you.
You will get thru this. Your son will be ok, no matter the outcome. Your heart will heal. Your trust in marriage will change but it may be for the better.
You will come out better 💗
Hang in there. It’ll get better
Meghan,
Though I don’t claim to know you, going on what we have seen on the show, you are nothing more than a beautiful trophy wife for him. He doesn’t respect you. While not an excuse, men are cut from a different fabric than women. I’m 50 years old and I haven’t met a man who hasn’t cheated on their wife. Jimmy just got caught. We men struggle every day with our wish to want to be monogamous but our inability to actually achieve it. Our impulses do tame down as we get older and his intentions were honest when he married you. I know that this will mean nothing now, but in due time, you will see that this was the best thing that could have happened. Give yourself some time to heal and be the best mom to your kids. They are the reason for you being here. Stay strong. XO
My heart breaks for you. We are in the same boat with one of our 22 mo old twins and I couldn’t imagine going through what you are st a time like this. You are in my thoughts and praying your heart heals.
So so sad …. so so unfair.. I’m sad-mad with you. Who de hell does he think he is to do this to a family HE chose to protect and love.
he KNEW what he was doing wasn’t right… and he would still be doing it if he wasn’t caught. That my beautiful woman is the problem. He destroyed the trust that can never be mended … ever. You will always wonder, is he really going to the store .. is he really traveling for work. You will be exhausted trying to stay sane.
Walk away..
I am so sorry you are going through this. Focus on you and your kids, the rest will come , or won’t, but you WILL be ok in the end. No matter what the end result you will always have those beautiful babies, they deserve the best and so do you. This is not a reflection of you, but him, his character, his weakness and his lack of respect for you. Never let him turn it on you. I hope and pray Hart will be ok. Let that be your focus. Demand more, you deserve it.
I am sad for you. Megan. I know your herat is breaking. Do not make rash decisions. You have been betrayed. The job your husband does requires he stay away from you and your children. It is a high profile mess. There is always somrone happily luring a man from his family. It takes a super human male to resist that. They all stumble and fall. Sometimes we are none the wiser. Be grateful it is in the open. Counseling is imperative. Make certain he is aware how deeply he has wounded you. Only you can be the one to decide what is right for you and your family. Do not take crap from anyone. Their opinions do not concern you. You have my prsyers for your strength and guidance.
Meghan,
I am reading all this while watching the Cardinals game with Jim announcing the game. Now I want to throw something at the tv every time he talks. I loved watching you on the Housewives and still like to check in on you now that you’ve moved back here to STL.
I am so heartsick for you. All you’ve wanted was a beautiful life and family with Jim and now this happened. It’s bad enough to go through this, but to do it publicly is even more devastating.
I will pray for you, your marriage, and your 3 beautiful children. You are a strong woman, but it’s ok to “ugly cry”. You don’t have to hide it. It helps cleanse your soul and clear your mind.
Surround yourself with those who love you and take the time you need to make the best decision for you and your kids.
Good for you to get a m top it!! Your telling your story!! You are brave and truly have your stuff together. Definitely Hart needs to be your priority and even though you have it together , Jimmy needs to be with 💯 with this. You have 3 kids and they deserve the best father possible they have the amazing mother. I have been married 31 years on September and marriage is definitely not easy. We have no infidelity issues, but trust me we have problems. I think your heart will help you either forgive or not, quite possibly as you both deal with issues on Hart’s health you will know if Jimmy deserves your forgiveness. I am not defending but I know of couples who have gone through circumstances very similar to yours. You are such a strong person and amazing mother but you deserve to have the support as well, You are amazing follow your heart and pray things work out the way they should. Keep your faith you will make the right decision.
God Bless you. 🙏💗
Megan,
You don’t know me but I went through something similar. My husband posted on Craig’s list and they exchanged text and pics. My best friend was then contacted by said woman and he made her send him everything. It’s been a 1 year 3 1/2 months. It’s been a slow process but we are still together and working on our marriage. Write things out that frustrate you, take time for yourself so that the kids can have the best mom possible. You will be in my prayers !
I watched you in the housewives and I loved you. You’re so beautiful and so open and so honest. My heart is breaking for you. I’ll keep you in my prayers. I can’t imagine. My grandmother in law told me when I got married “you don’t marry someone you can live with. You marry someone you cannot live without”. I wish the best for you and your family.
Thinking of you xoxo
Zadien
Meghan you are so beautiful inside and out. I am so sorry you are going through this, it will take time like you said.. Praying for you all 💕.
Poor girl. Sorry kiddo
Maybe this is wrong for me to say but I have always thought he wasn’t good enough for you. I watched you guys and the way he treated you and I think you were emotionally abused. Run girl run.
Have never read something more raw and honest!!! You go mama! Thank you for sharing! So many women go through this and feel alone in the private struggles of marriage. I pray you can find strength, grace, and happiness in the days to come! All the love ❤️
Oh I am so very sad for you. You are an amazing Mom and a beautiful woman inside and out. This has happened to me and it really hurts more than any words can explain. I will pray for you and your healing from the pain you are feeling. It’s so hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t experienced this. I ended up staying with my husband in the end but only after separating for a while and going to therapy alone and together. Things will never be the same but I still love him. You will have to go with what your heart and brain decide in the end. I will say a prayer for you and your beautiful children. I hope your little one gets a better diagnosis then what you are thinking.
Dump him it’ll never be the same, you’ll always be angry and sad
My heart breaks for you. You don’t deserve this. And I pray for Hart.
I’m really sorry that you’re going through this pain Meghan.. but I hope you realise that if you stay with him he will 100% do this again and you may have to go through this entire ordeal again. If you want a solid, honest and faithful marriage you need to be two solid, honest and faithful people – he has shown you that he is not that person and he never will be – that is a fact.
So beautifully said. No one can twist these words! Praying for Hart, and heart 💜
Meghan, as hard as it is now, the quicker you move on the better. As you’ll read many of us were married to similar men: multiple previous marriages, innocent children from different marriages, ex-wives made out to be villains the one thing people seldom address or recognize is that they were married to a sociopath.
Go a quick Google search then please make an appointment with a qualified therapist.
Sociopaths cannot change, they are incapable. No matter how much we want to believe they can or believe them when they say they can change, they cannot. Caught is not accountable. Look back through his life and note the times he claims he’s a victim. He’s not, he leaves a trail of victims. I wish you and your children all the best.
Im so sorry 🤗🤗🤗🤗.. please do not listen to any I told you so’s or any rude comments only listen to the people who support you most of all you are the only one that can decide what’s best for you I don’t know you I’ve only seen you on the housewives shows and I always thought you were amazing in every way I wish I could give you a hug.. no one can heal your pain that will come in time you’re a smart lady and a beautiful beautiful woman and I’m sure a great mother I wish you nothing but the best I wish you nothing but happiness and love please take care of yourself first and foremost you and your children are what’s most important right now.🤗🤗🤗
Deep pain for this event. I pray that your marriage will overcome this horrific bad decision on his part. The Babies, older kids, you…. everything hurts on this sad day; cry, meditate, breath, keep it simple and 1 day at a time. I am truly sorry, I will pray for you and him. Your family needs the both of you!! He needs to buckle up and get back to his Family. e-Hugs!
So sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay close to God and he’ll see you through. Praying for Jim that he will return to God too
This makes me want to ugly cry with you. So well said. You poor thing. Not fair. Not cool.
Thinking of you and your babies ❤️. My son had a very severe speech delay when he was a toddler – in short he didn’t have any language – other than to point to something and tell me what it was until he was about 4. When he started kindergarten at 5 he was maybe putting 3 word sentences together but could not carry on a conversation. Early intervention was the key – he went right into speech therapy at 3 and continued for years – he’s now 13 and you would never know – we are so incredibly proud of him. Stay strong and know it’s ok to sit and cry – – you’re his best advocate and voice!! Take care ❤️❤️
You’re one classy lady 👏 I will have you and your beautiful family in my prayers and don’t let anyone take your blessings..
Be blessed!
Well said…so raw, honest and true…sending you strength. XOXO
Meghan, so sorry you are dealing with this. I’m a mother to a 10 month old baby boy and can’t imagine how you are feeling while trying to be the best mommy to your boys. I’m sure you’re trying to stay strong for the babies, but allow yourself some grace. Thinking of you.
Meghan,
Your feelings are clearly raw and you expressed them so well. You can feel the authenticity dripping off your words, along with the pain. I, like millions of others, watched every episode of your show and it was apparent you’re a very genuine person. Your family is your everything. Even the way you mothered his daughter while she watched her mother pass away was beautiful. You don’t deserve this and I am so sorry. Take time to think, take time to heal and take time to keep your eyes open and possibly see other things you haven’t seen. I don’t know you and this is probably not the best time to say this but as an outsider looking in, from just a TV set, I always had the feeling this was the case. I don’t know why but I said so to my husband many times. As you said, you don’t deserve this. You deserve so much better. I know you love him and you want to keep your family in tact but look more before you make any decisions. It’s your decision to make about your family and since you’re in the public eye, you will be judged on whatever decision you make but it’s your family and it will affect no one on this side of the TV. No one! It affects you, Jim and your 3 beautiful children. I just don’t want to see you get hurt again and I certainly don’t want to see you forgive him when and if you don’t know everything. I always had a gut feeling that he wasn’t faithful. Again, I am a stranger and you may have already stopped reading this but I felt the need to tell you because you need to know ALL the truth. Best of luck to you and I will certainly be praying for your inspiration, strength and peace.
Man, so so sorry, Meghan. I agree with everything you said. What was he thinking? His life will be forever stained because of this. You will rise above it. I’d love to think you two could go to counseling and figure out why this happened and why he sabotaged his wonderful marriage and life with you and your three beautiful kids.
I’m sorry about Hart and will be sending prayers out to you all. Of course, hopefully, it won’t be as bad as it sounds now.
Much love to you.
Robin
Megan so sorry you are dealing with this! You are a strong beautiful lady and wonderful mother. Praying that everything will come out the way you want it to . Hope everything goes well for Hart, just love your beautiful children & family!❤️
Hey. I generally follow no one. But I did you because I think you are the real deal. My advise, I’ve been where you are and I will say you have to do what is right for you. No one can tell you. There is no one right answer. What an ass for sure though. Freaking idiot. But you decide what is right for you. Not you and the kids. You!
Praying for you and your marriage and your precious little boy. Draw close to Jesus for he can help all that is broken and he will never forsake you.
Hang in there I’m so sorry but you have to stay strong for your children. There are brighter days in your horizon. Good people do win
💞My heart goes out to you. You have stated perfectly the despair of infidelity. May God hold you tight Meghan.
Oh MEGHAN, I’m so sorry…. I will keep you in my
Thoughts. Prayers for you and your family. I hope he does everything to help heal your broken heart. You are a amazing woman. ❤️
Hi,
I get your pain, been there but I wanted to share there is hope. Even Jesus was betrayed at a point. Its a hard and painful process but it’s definitly a battle that can have a positive outcome. I went through it and now we are stronger than ever. You can do it..I wanted to attach a link of articles that helped me survived this times. If u can’t open it then visit JW.org under Marriage in the front page. It gives you counsel on how to deal with betrayal, how to move forward and forgive, how to trust again( yes it is possible). You are strong, but remeber in this process u need to listen to your heart and not others opinion. The phrase ” Ones a cheater allways one” not true. Is sad but something like this uncovers many things that only gives you a chance to make better. It’s not your fault but together you can gain all you think u have lost. https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/marriage-gods-view/
Only 2 words I can say to you Meghan, I’m sorry.
I too am going through this, my husband and I have been together 26 yrs. I do feel hurt, sad etc. trust is everything and it is hard to trust again. Prayers for you I totally understand.
Praying for you Meghan!!!! There are no answers or an easy way to navigate though this devastation, just take things one day at a time and put God before everything!
I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your children! Prayers also for your precious Hart!
MKE,
All I can say is that I’m praying for you. This is the most beautifully written, raw, heartbreaking post I’ve ever read. As alone as you feel, please know there are other sisters out there who have walked in similar shoes, supporting you, crying with you, loving you. Leaving is the easy road. I respect you for trying to work through the bad. You are an inspiration. Stay strong ❤
So sorry. Try listening to Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel, a podcast. If those people can get through it, so can you. It may give you hope. Thank you for letting us support you.
I’m sorry and I understand!
Marrying an ex-athlete must be 100 x’s harder than marrying a regular 9-5pm guy! He is at fault and you are so brave to call him out and tell everyone how it has effected you!
Good Luck! I hope you find happiness whether you stay with him or leave him! Do what your gut and heart tell you which is easier said than done. Pray before bed and see what comes to you in in dreams! There will be a sign on what you should do!
I’m praying for you. I’m praying for Hart. Hang tough, sweet girl.
He is garbage. A real narcissist. Dump him
Whatever you decide is best for your family, you will come out ahead. You are worth it, and deserve to be happy, loved and valued fully! Praying that your heart heals soon.
I went thru this. He also introduced us and I thought I had a new best friend. I was going to get her a job working in my office. They had this phone, text, email, video sex thing going on for a year. I posted some of her porn pics and screenshots of their emails for everyone to see. My soul was hallowed out and filled with rage, pain, confusion, depression, disbelief—— why, why, WHY!? Just wanted to know why. I would rather die than live through that year. I played detective and I found more email addresses, aliases, and dating profiles. We went though couples counseling and we have remained in therapy for 3 years for what happened and for our own issues. He has narcissistic personality disorder. He was manipulative and mentally abusive back then and I had no idea, so brain washed. Is our marriage better now 3 years later? We function better, he treats me well, we feel closer to one another, I haven’t caught him doing any of those betraying things since… however, it has forever tainted our wedding and our marriage. It is always in the corner of my mind and I will always be sad that I cannot have a truly faithful marriage as that ship has sailed. But, we decided to stay together for many reasons and we have a great life. If only the affair and betrayals could be erased so I wouldn’t have it all to periodically remind me that (at least I feel) I am not good enough.
I am sorry for anyone who goes through this, especially publicly. My advice for right now is to have him leave for now, keep crying your eyes out and talk to anyone who will listen. Call and yell at him when you need to, ask him all the questions you need to, break his favorite posession if you feel like it— he broke yours! Then, after this initial shock and devastation is over you need to go to counseling. Counseling will help you figure out what chapter is next. Keep eating and taking care of yourself and ask for help with the kids. You should also make an appointment to see your own therapist right away. I wish you peace and love with whatever path you take. xoxo
Meghan, I cried and cried so hard when I read this, thinking and hoping it was a sick joke. I watched you evolve into a strong beautiful woman, step mother, mother, daughter and wife, Be sad, be angry and this will pass…no- you will never trust him again but you may forgive him for being insane. I will tell you this, tomorrow is my 51st anniversary, my husband never got caught cheating with a woman or man but he is a liar every day of his life about things that aren’t important. He can look directly in my eyes to this day and tell me something I know if not true and I consider the kind, gentle, adoring man he is to me and I don’t over look the daily lies I remember them and just know what my mom use to say “a man will never change” . Seriously I divorced him and 20 yrs later because I thought everyone was honest well we remarried using same date because he was so sentimental when we chose the date the second time, he wanted it to be June 15. Well my darling, I just want to say, if you do forgive but “not forget” it’s ok. You will never get those years back with your young beautiful babies if you divorce. It will consume you in every way. I would put it under my belt and use it. Blessings, hugs and prayers for you.
So sorry to read this Meghan.I have followed you for years on Real Housewives.I admired your honesty and fairness.I was so happy when you had Aspen.I cried when you miscarried.
I am praying for you,Jimmy and your beautiful kiddos
I’m so sorry Meghan… I love your blogs but this one isn’t good. Love and prayers to you and your beautiful children💕
You are right. You don’t deserve it and you will get through it stronger. Hang tough girl. We got your back.
Meghan, your word truly touched me and I will be praying for you and Jim’s marriage but even more so, for precious baby Hart! I will be praying that all will be well with him and praying for the doctors that will be caring for him!
Praying for you! I’m so sorry this is happening to you! Praying for your sweet, perfect babies as well! Things will get better mommy! 💜
I am so very sorry you are having to go through this. My heart breaks and weeps with you. I will never understand why people have to cheat. It cuts to the bones. It is the worst feeling in the word and the cheater doesn’t get it. You lose everything that you once stood for and wonder if you will ever get it back. The betrayal, the trust and the wondering why am I not enough. I’m sorry but your husband is an ass. You might not be perfect and your marriage may not be perfect but y’all chose each other and you work at it even on the worst days. You are a smart beautiful young lady and he better realize what he has before someone else shows him. Praying for you and your family. I pray you can forgive and start over if this is what you want to do. It’s your life and your choice. May God be with you and screw everyone else and their mean comments. Do what you think is best for you and your family ❤️❤️❤️💔💔💔
So sorry to hear this! Sending you strength to g t through this (((Hugs)))
I am so sorry you are a strong woman
Meghan,
I am praying for you and your family! Please hang in there. I have never met you but from watching the show—you seem like such a real, kind hearted person. Keep your friends and family close by during this time. Prayers for your son as well, I personally know how hard that can be.
Keep being you:)
Megan M.
I feel you Meghan,
My husband did exactly the same to me & my children 8 years ago, I say children because they are effected as much as I was, it was not a physical affair but and emotional affair with another woman, you can forgive but you will never forget and trust well still working on that, it’s all about their ego it’s not us at all. Good luck 💕💕
Holy moly. I’m saying tons of prayers for you all. You do what’s best for you and your children. It’s so so sad but your a strong woman who will make the right decision for you and your family minus all of the social medial stuff.
I feel for you! Stay strong, you will find the strength for your babies! Praying for Hart.
I literally hurt for you. I have been there. Finding out you were deceived when you were at your most vulnerable, by the one person who was supposed be there unconditionally. I am sorry and really really wanted this to not be true. I love following your journey and always wished the best for you. Hang in there and I hope you and your husband can get through this.
I’m sad for you Meghan King Edmonds!! Can’t even imagine what you are going through. It’s not fair. It hurts. Yes, you need to heal but focus on your three darlings❣️Your amazing, smart and beautiful and come from good strong roots. Don’t ever forget it.
Meghan I feel you ,it happened to me after 28 years of marriage I decided to take time to heal and I did you will never be 100% but you can work three it if you decide too… it’s been 2 years after and I still struggle specially with trust but that’s going to have to be up to me now !…if is worth saving the marriage do it I’d bless you and stay strong !!!
I am so sorry you are going through this. I recently went through something very similar. My husband of 12 years was leading a double life. He also cheated with texts, phone calls and nude pics. It left me completely broken. I cried all day and night. I felt so bad for our 11yr old son who had to watch me try to keep it together. I didn’t do very well. It has been 8 months and I did divorce him. My marriage was a lie and the man I loved wasn’t who I thought he was. Time does heal. You can’t turn your feelings off. Just hang in there. Love your sweet babies. You are stronger than you think. Praying for you. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is absolutely beautiful and raw and honest and I commend your your bravery and courage! You stand tall and know you didn’t do anything to cause this. You are worthy! You fight for you, for your children and allow Jimmy to win you back. Love takes time. Healing takes time. But determination is something you already carry so head up sister and smile through the tears. Remember that doesn’t kills us indeed makes us stronger and wiser and that sweetie is something the slimy people can’t take away!
Just make it through the next hour then the next day… i am so sorry
Please walk away. Leave him. You deserve better. Your children deserve better.
Your future self will THANK YOU for leaving.
Im sorry you had to deal with this. I always thought you were a arm piece for an old man. Leave him now.
To thine own self be true.
Stay strong.
Men in sports are constantly bombarded by these women with no morals. Your husband suffered a few weak moments. Please forgive him, he loves you. Don’t let this ruin your marriage.
There are no words that can make this horrific pain go away. Just know that at the end of the day, it’s his lost. It is a lost because although you may forgive him; you will never forget and the trust you had in him is gone forever
I’m so sorry for the pain you’re enduring.
Trust your gut instincts on how to move forward. It will guide you if you listen. It is your truest self.
Positive vibes and energies to you and your children.
You are stronger then you know !! Follow your heart , no one can judge you for whichever way you choose to go. Praying for you ❤️
I’m so sorry. It happened to me I never told anyone, I wanted to protect my kids. Was cheated on when my baby was 6 weeks old. I’m sorry you have to publicly go through the pain, if there was a way around it I know I would have found it. Go through it is better than avoiding it. Let the stress out, crying, raging, whatever, don’t keep it in it will make you sick. Self care first, so you can be the parent you need for your kids. Just like oxygen on the plane, you have to help you, so you can help others. Hugs, it isn’t easy, but you aren’t alone, even if it feels like it. So many many women have been where you are. Xoxo
Hi. Marriage is about 2 imperfect people, that refuse to give up on each other.
Praying for you.
Keep your head up. Only you can decide if you want to forgive. It’s not your fault so don’t ever think it is. I hope the baby is okay. In my prayers
I also have twins and a toddler-Amelia & Oliver are 16 months and Emerson is 3 1/2. He had just turned 2 when they were born. Even though they are my greatest joy, I know the strain it causes on a marriage. You’ll find our way through this. You’ll come out the other side. It won’t feel like the end forever because so often what seems to be the end is actually the beginning. Maybe the beginning of something different than you thought, but a beginning none the less. Lean into what feels solid even that’s only yourself because that is enough. You are enough.
Well said.
I wish you all the strength to get through this. I was actually diagnosed with PISD (post infidelity stress disorder). It’s hard. It’s really fucking hard. I applaud you for putting the responsibility on him and not make excuses or blame “her”. That’s not easy. Continue to write, it helped me so much. I would just vomit words into a journal whenever I felt them start to cloud my head. I had to get them out otherwise the tornado of what if’s and why’s would cause so much damage. Wishing you strength and closure however you may need it.
Well said…. you are amazing
My heart feels your pain Meghan, found out my spouse has been doing the same. Be careful, trust your instincts and most of all hold your head high.🤗🤗
I am so sorry you have to go through this. Praying for you and your children. You deserve happiness.
Meghan I’ve followed since RHOC and I truly saw how you LOVED your husband. You showed how the materialistic bs didn’t matter to you and for that I saw you as one of the few real ones on that show. If you do choose to stay in your marriage, ITS YOUR DECISION. I feel sad for you also because of this big mistake he did, he should fix everyday from here on out. I hope you find some sort of peace eventually to get out of your sadness. And be the best woman and mom to your beautiful little ones. Stay strong. You have many rooting for you always. ♥️
I fear for the day this happens. But it happens more
Often or not. Marriage is hard, and the fantasy of the pure love and your life being destroyed takes ultimately just time to heal. Whether you decide to work or not one day, there is a big world and life out there. Do not ever fear. Stay strong, you are a woman, a mother, and will be ok. Sending love and compassion to you. XXXXOXOOO
I’m so sorry Meghan ! This is terrible news and I can’t even imagine what you have been feeling. No one deserves this. Obviously, I do not know you, but You seem to be so strong so you will get through this. I pray that everything is ok with your son. You and your family will be in my prayers. Stay strong 💪🏼.
I am sorry honey…keep on keeping your dignity!
So sorry to hear you are dealing with this! Hang in there and only time will tell what will become of your marriage. Praying you find some comfort and praying your son is alright!
Yes, girl!!! You are strong, give yourself a hug!
Meghan, my heart breaks for you. I so admire you for saying you will not be humiliated by this. You are a devoted mother and you will always put your children first. Concentrate on Hart and getting him the best help possible. Also never forget to be kind to others (excluding Jimmy). You deserve your own pity party but you get right back up and charge forward. God gives his toughest battles to his strongest warriors.
Good for you, Meghan, it takes a strong woman to be so vulnerable about this. Do what’s best for you!
Bad enough when no one knows you.. really difficult when it happens so publicly. No one has any right to say anything because this has happened to all of us at one time or another. Do what will be best for you . Hold you head up and keep moving..
Meg, let me just say I am so sad to hear this very horrible news especially regarding Hart. I will keep him in. My prayers. I personally thought you were too good for that cold hearted Jim. He is cold maybe becasue he is somewhere sneaky taking nasty azz photos. He is. A creep and a old creep. U are too good for him most of your fans always thought that. Peace be with you sister. Take care of yourself and your kids and let that leach go. He is so disrespectful and will do it again. And again.
Praying for you and the kids.
Bernie Daniel
I feel every word of this so very deeply except for the fact that my husband took his affair to a physical level. It was at a time when I was struggling with our oldest son leaving for college and I was a mess but what he did caused me to spiral even further down then where I was already. I tried to commit suicide because I thought there was no other way out. It takes a lot of time to heal yourself then even longer to repair your marriage if that’s the route you decide to take. We did I was not willing to let 19 years of marriage go without a fight. We packed up and moved far away and essentially started over. It was one of the best decisions we’ve ever made. We still have tough moments and really bad days but we are fighting for us. Now we are in our 23rd year of marriage and our youngest baby just graduated high school so we are entering a whole new chapter. I will pray for you for peace for guidance and healing.
You are SO brave. And an inspiration. Your honesty, candor, and intelligence shine brightly and will continue to shine no matter what. I am so sorry for the road you might have to travel with your son. I am so sorry for the road you are traveling now with your husband. But there will be blue skies and sunny days head. I just know it!! Thoughts and prayers with you, Meghan.
Keep your head up and thank you for being the strength for so many women who are probably too afraid to share their truth. So often ppl look at those on TV, esp reality TV, and think about how perfect your life must be bc happiness is equated with money and “things.” What we fail to forget that ppl are all just ppl in their core and this type of betrayal doesn’t skip you just because of the balance on your checking account. Good luck to you and keep being an amazing mom!
Meghan. I’ve been through it and I’m sure you’ll get plenty of people who have as well. I’m also pretty sure you won’t ever read this reply. However i felt compelled to write to you because every feeling and thought you’ve written is almost verbatim what i wrote about when it happened to me. No matter what happens, your healing belongs to you and you alone. Others will be quick to tell you what to do and what they would do if it happened to them. Here’s the thing, it’s not happening to them. It’s happening to you. Even if the same exact thing did, in fact, happen to them. This belongs to you and you heal at your own pace. I will say , no matter what should happen in your relationship with Jim, forgiveness will be a gift for you and your children. It’s not easy and it’s not simple. It doesn’t mean you forget and it doesn’t mean things will return to the way you thought things were before this situation. It’s now new. You are in mourning. Let yourself mourn. I don’t know you and you don’t know me. But i do know the pain and the anger and the disappointment. I know the mourning and i am sending you a hug. I watched you on that show and I could see your strength. Hugs and love from a person who’s living through it too.
Meghan
My heart breaks for you. All you wanted was to be a wife and mother. However, it was a big rd flag when Jim wasn’t there when you had the embryo transplant. You had your mother tgere and that’s wonderful but your HUSBAND should have been there with you. It wasn’t as important to him as it was to you. He had already had two marriages and several children. Did you see or feel that was wrong at the time?
I think you deserve You deserve so much better. You’re beautiful, talented and have a tender heart. I wish you nothing but happiness. You will forever be connected to Jim for the rest of your life because of your children.
I wish you peace and comfort and strength. I don’t think you could ever trust Jim again. This is the one time he got caught. Think about how many other times there may be that you don’t know about. He will never tell you the truth. He paid this woman off so you wouldn’t find out.
If you forgive him, you will wonder every second he is gone. It’s not worth it.
This makes me so sad! I hate this for you! I’ve been through this. I had a 1 and 2 year old. My mind was so cloudy and focused on his actions that I wasn’t at my best as a mother. I truly hate this for you! I literally have a pit in my stomach thinking about what you must be feeling!
Meghan, This may seem weird and invasive, because your followers aren’t your family or your friends…BUT you have been sharing every aspect of your life for quite some time now. We’ve watched those women bash you for the way you spoke about your love for Jim’s children. We’ve watched your heartbreaking story about losing Aspen’s twin. And lastly, we have watched you through everything that went into bringing those beautiful boys into the world. All that to say…I will put you on my prayer list. This is certainly one heck of a ride you’re on now. As you said, the timing really sucks. You must be united in your diligent search for answers regarding Hart, not-to-mention shoulders for each other to lean on. I don’t have advice regarding your marriage(not that you want 1000s of people’s advice anyway). I can only offer prayer. I wish you weren’t going through this.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. It is very difficult and painful when you find out your best friend has betrayed you. I have gone through it and I completely understand what you are feeling. You are right… You didn’t do anything wrong. He did. You are in my prayers. May the Lord comfort you and heal your broken heart.
Just so you know we went to therapy and he changed and I was able to forgive him. This happened 15 years ago. This year we will celebrate 23 years of marriage. Blessing to you.😘
Oh sister. How honest and true… I’m so incredibly sorry you have to face this obstacle. You’re right, every. Damn . Day… it’s work. I wish you the best going forward. Your openness will help others, and I hate that it’s under bad circumstances. Lots of love to you.
I am so sorry you have to go through this. It is God awful that the media had to make this story public. I pray for you and your family. Hang in there.
Oh how my heart breaks for you. If you do anything, please get some counseling for your self. Your children need you and you need to feel whole. I will be praying for you and your family 😍
Meghan,
I am so very sorry because I know how you feel. Infidelity is traumatic, it’s a betrayal like no other. And hurts so deep. But if I can give you any advice it would be to feel it, push through it, work through it but don’t live there. It feels like a rollercoaster ride that you can’t get off of. Some days will be good and some will not but you are stronger than you think. Your children will help you through this, sounds strange but true. Thank the lord they are too young to understand. My ex and I were married for 15 years together 17. He cheated with a woman who befriended me and it was emotional and physical between them. My family was blown apart. Now in hindsight it was for the best. This is your story and yours alone. Only you can decide where to go from here, no one else. Take all the time you need to make this very important decision. This is your life and only you can live it. Don’t stay for the children, stay and work it out because it’s what you want or don’t stay, but again your choice. I wish you all the best and know that I am praying for you.
My heart breaks for you! You will do what is right for you and your beautiful children. No matter how tough things get you are stronger than you think. Trust is a hard thing to get back but you can with a lot work and tears. Those sweet smiles and hugs from your babies make things better and give you the strength you need to get through this. Prayers for your sweet Hart. Love on your babies, laugh at the things they do and be who you are! The press and the people who try to hurt you with their words are miserable and want to make others that way. You are a wonderful person and mom.
Seriously. Can I relate. What a well penned raw emotive blog you wrote. Btw. No one deserves this. And frankly. You’re gorgeous. And probably know this. I applaud you penning this … I commune with the honesty. I had a story similar to this. Of course no one so famous. But minor league… be you. Love you. Choose you. If you can heal and trustful. Do it. If you can’t. Move the f*^% on! Strong women support strong women.
BIG HUG! I’m so sorry this has happened. No, it’s not your fault, it was your husband’s choice. The pain is breathtaking. One day at a time. Trust has to be earned. It is difficult to trust someone so close to you when they have broken that trust. My prayers are with you.
Stay strong love. You have an incredible transparency that has touched my heart. Only you know what is best for you and your family. My prayers are with you, your family and extra ones for your baby.
Hey listen. I don’t know you. But I know you because this is life today. In life we have to sleep with one open ,, with our partners our friends and of course our enemies.
That stupid chick ( who he sent pictures to – and she to him ) she owes you nothing. May karma play out her destiny- but him – he owes you ,, he owes you loyalty – he made a commitment to you – she did not.
Take a real good look at his lack of integrity, his lack of character, his moral make up – this is who he is. It’s black and white.
You can stay ,, and try to forgive ( like Kathy lee Gifford ) move forward for your kids ,, try to forget
But in your gut you must understand,, this may happen again because it simply is who he is.
I never write people on social media. I’m writing because I’ve been where you are. I left. I raised my boys as a single mother. They turned out great. He had no place in our life. I’ve never seen him again. Sadly either did they. I’m not saying it was the right move for everyone but it’s what I had to do for me. I could no longer sleep with who I knew was not my best friend. I was no going to allow him to hold my hand at my last breath. I deserved more. I was better and I couldn’t fake that it was going to be ok. I’m not capable of “ getting over it “
My guy did far worse by the way. He had sex.
Let me tell you. I found the guy 25 years later that I deserve. I want to feel his love when I leave this earth ,, knowing he’s been my true partner.
Think long and hard. I hope you are capable of getting over this and moving on. But know. This is in him. He is capable. Always keep one eye open girl. Love and peace to you
Lisa
I’m sad for you too. But you have those precious babies who will make your face hurting from tears, hurt from smiling with them soon. And you’ll recover, you’ll move forward, even if it’s not “moving on” from this betrayal. Praying for you and your kids tonight (never thought I would be praying for a celebrity, but you’ve always seemed different, your priorities were never fame and it showed)
No reason to put this out there other than to shame him or give everyone advance knowledge of your impending divorce action. Social media is the bane of current times
O Meghan, my heart breaks for you. It’s truly heartbreaking. Reading this makes me lose my faith in humanity & marriage. I hope you can rise above this. I was a loyal fan of yours on Housewives. From the moment I read this story this morning, I have literally been checking my phone all day to see an update. As much as you want to not do this, you put him on the back burner. You are a Good Mother. And as hard as it may be to be present for your babies, you do the best you can til you can get over the worst part of this. Succeeding is the absolute best revenge. Hold your head up, and try your best to stay sane & go on with your life. Marriage is hard, but Jim showing you the respect you deserve is what hopefully is going to happen. My heart goes out to you. And I wish you the absolute best! XXOO
Wow. Powerful. Raw… real. Praying for you, for your son, and for your heart to heal. 🙏🏻❤️
Meghan, I’m just so sorry. I know there’s not words for me to say that will bring comfort to you. I’ve been your fan since day one and I feel betrayed for you. My heart hurts for you.
I’m sorry.
I commented on your instagram as well. I’m not sure if you will see this as you have so many comments. This exact thing happened to me while pregnant with our twins. It “wasn’t physical” but what does that mean? To me it was physical, it was emotional, it was mental. It was everything it should not have been and even more. During the time of my life where it should have been full of happiness and joy and love and trust and solid foundations. I also found out after they were born and it was like a punch to my uterus. It took away every joyful memory I had of my pregnancy. It took away all the memories of “he was SO good to me while I was pregnant. So patient and he took such good care of me” but no he didn’t. So much hurt now around my most beautiful time of my life. I will NEVER forgive him for marring my memories of my beautiful twin pregnancy.
I tried for three years to get over it but I couldn’t. We are now going through a divorce. I found out there were others. No that wasn’t the first time. He seemed sorry, regretful, all of that good stuff. It was for nothing. There were others over the course of 17 years that I finally found out about. Our marriage is done and my four beautiful children have to live through it. But they need to see their momma as a worthy proud woman, deserving of respect. And they need respect. I took it as the biggest disrespect to my children and especially those two babies I was growing.
You are not alone. I can relate and I’m sure there are others as well who can. And So many people support you. I’m sorry this happened to you. It is a sad crying shame. Keep your beautiful head up. Your babies love you more than anything.
Dearest Meghan,
January 25, 2018 was the date of my discovery that my perfect husband and my perfect life was a sham. He had been messaging with women and exchanging photos. It took weeks to get the truth out of him, but ultimately, we discovered he was a sex addict. I lost my father when I was young and that pain still didn’t compare to the trauma of discovering my husband’s indiscretions. I will not tell you I know your situation, but I will tell you that you sound EXACTLY like I did early last year. The things you describe sound EXACTLY like what I went through. If you feel any sense of similarity, I urge you to seek a therapist with specialized experience with partners of sex addicts. I urge you to discuss with your husband that he seek out a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. I urge you both to seek a couples therapist with experience in sex addiction treatment for addicts, partners, and couples. I didn’t think I could get through the year. My husband dedicated himself to his recovery and discovered trauma of ongoing abuse he endured throughout his childhood. He has grown tremendously in the past year and I’ve decided to stay. I’d be happy to offer insight if you ever need a kindred spirit. All the love and light. Jen
I’m SO sorry to hear this…. I wish I could say that I can’t imagine what you are going through…. but you are not alone. We are probably about the same age & when my youngest was 1 I found out the same- lewd texts & pictures between my husband & several girls during my pregnancy & after. I am so sorry and sad for you. I remember feeling my my whole world imploded. I called friends & family & saw a psychologist several times per week & went back & forth between divorce & staying together many times. He went to counseling & promised to be completely open & honest with all of my questions. I asked a lot of difficult & uncomfortable questions. The best metaphor I heard is that it’s like a heart attack- it can kill some relationships or make others stronger. He went to counseling. We went together. It’s been 2 years, we are together & slowly getting trust back but last night I had s nightmare that it happened again. One day at a time. Take care of yourself. You have a lot of women here to support you. ::hugs::
It was just a matter of time. I used to watch how condescending he spoke to you while on television. I knew then he was a person with problems. His pattern has probably been the same with every wife. Every woman he has been involved with because he is a male chauvinist. He sees women as vessels for his pleasure, he doesn’t value them as human beings. It is obvious just in how he speaks and treats you. Too bad you didn’t see it coming..But maybe you did. Three kids later here he is. But for how long? and how many? Why did he have kids and ruin their lives too. It seems this is not his first rodeo as his adult daughter seems self entitled and very angry. Just like him. What did he expose her to as she was growing up? Why have more children to do this to? Why was he so motivated to create another family at his age? only to do this again. He knows who he is….Now you do too. don’t expect change Maghan. He will just hide it better. A man like him will never, never, never change. You either live with it or walk away. You are not the first, and if you leave, you won’t be the last. How could he resent you so much that he could expose you and his children in such a public way? You are beautiful. Its not you. He is who he is and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. Best of luck to you and your family. But don’t live with your head in the sand as the signs have been there since I saw how he treated you on Real Housewives…
It’s. So hard.
I always hate hearing other women who have to experience this.
My only advice – listen to yourself. Everyone will have an opinion and I wasn’t even an influencer such as yourself.
I mean literally everyone and years later those who had such strong opinions made such different decisions than they preached when life threw them similar curve balls.
I remember thinking I would never feel real joy or have an honest smile again … but you will. .. eventually.
I am so sorry for you. You are right, a relationship takes two, but it doesn’t take two to chest. Don’t ever question that. This is about him, not you.
Stay strong. Those kids need you and they will make you smile everyday.
Whatever happens, do not settle.
I’m very sorry for the humiliation this has put you through. Forgive me for being candid but Jim seems like a complete jerk and cares only about his wants and needs. Maybe it’s the pro athlete thing. Obviously he wasn’t getting th attention he felt he needed but he should know better. He’s a grown man with six (or is it 7) kids that he is responsible for -but acting like a 20 something with his reckless behavior. He is going have a rude awakening if you decide to move on . He has three toddlers now-wake up Jim!!!
He was always talking down to you on the RHOC and I found it very disrespectful. You deserve more than that!!!!!
He needs to change his controlling ways and treat you with honor, love, honesty and respect as his wife and the mother of those three babies . I wish you all the best …….
You’re a wonderful person. Please don’t lose your self esteem . So sad he chose that route. Hopefully you can forgive, but will never forget. So sorry for the pain your feeling now. You have a lot of thinking to do . God bless you and give you the strength to get through this.
You are a beautiful person and a wonderful mom. Healing prayers and warm wishes to you and your beautiful family. Remember self care always.
Thank you for being real and honest during the hardest time. You are strong, stay strong, you will get through this. Its now time for your husband to gain the trust he lost, but I honestly believe that you will always feel just a little bit cautious bc thats the side effect of cheating XO
Sending all of my love to you
So proud of you. Period. From one woman to another trying to choose to live every damn day with dignity. I salute you. 👏🏻
You are incredibly strong and only you know how much forgiveness you have inside, if any at all. I pray for your continued strength and for your children. God bless.
You poor thing. What you wrote was perfect
Beautifully said. I’m sorry you are going through this. Sending you love and strength, from one stranger (wife, Mom) to another. May you find healing and peace.
Choose you, and choose your kids. You are worth more, even if you love him, Meghan. Your kids deserve a happy mom, and you cannot thrive without trust. You deserve someone now who chooses you every day despite temptation. Not one who chooses you out of guilt or wanting forgiveness. Choose you. xo
Sending you so much love… there are so many women out there that totally understand.. I am one of them.. your feelings are normal… you WILL get through this.. the important thing is to hold your head high and know you didnt do anything wrong.. YOU ARE AMAZING AND DOING A GREAT JOB ! cry in the shower… let the tears flow out with the water and be gone ! <3. sending strength from Australia Victoria xx
My heart goes out to you at this time. 💕
Yikes. Praying for you. You are strong you will be fine. I follow you bc I’m a ole miss girl too and enjoy your mom posts. I hate that this happened to you.
Marriage is hard. I’ve been working on mine for 28 years. Five kids are the proof we have we love each other ( that’s what Grandma called them) . When he worked retail, it would boil my blood to watch these women hit on him. When they would ask him to fit their shoes….and they are not wearing underwear with their skirt, I hated them. I was lucky. He only had eyes for me. I’m so sorry Jimmy did this. Stay strong. Do cry. Get mad. But find a way to forgive. If not for your heart, for the kids. Marriage is hard. But not near as hard as divorce.
Meghan, I am sad for you 😢. Stay strong as you always do, you are an amazing person, mother, wife, friend and instagram friend 🙂
My close friend’s husband did something dishonest and disrespectful to her also. With 3 young children she decided she wanted to keep her family together so she insisted on counceling, it took a couple of years but they reconciled and remained married. It is now 10 years later, they are still married. Since the incident he takes the family on the most expensive elaborate vacations around the world twice a year and also bought a multi million $ home and vacation home (guilt). The people who knew what happened want nothing to do with him, including her family. But she has stuck it out. We are still close friends but I will always know what he did and will never forget. She is happy as are the grown children (they never knew). They grew up with lots of $ and a dad giving them everything so they were pretty happy lol.
For you it is more difficult as it is not private. But your friends and family will be there for you and help you navigate through this. But only you can decide what is good for you, don’t make decisions because of the children, they are young and so are you! I hope this is helpful. 😘. I typed on my iPhone so this is probably not well written.
Aw, honey, I’m so sorry. But if you both love each other and want to stay together, the trust CAN be earned back. It takes a loooong tome. But he has to lay aside any pride and work on it with you. Marriage counseling weekly for at least a year. Probably more. I hope that you will be able to stay together. May I also suggest finding faith, Meghan. I know you’re not crazy about the topic of God. But faith in God has helped me through SO much. I’m going to put you and your family in my daily prayers. I also pray that little Hart’s suspected neurological issue is minor and can be overcome. I think he will be fine. God bless and keep you, dear one, and give you peace and strength.
Wishing you all the best. Stay strong and cry when you need too. Crying equal strength to purge the sorrow in this situation. Get rest and be kind to yourself. You’ll figure it all out. Peace to you. Maddie
Beautiful. I’ve been here. I’ve been the mom at home serving, and trying, and working so hard to be completely betrayed by the man who you have built this life with. Piece by piece. Moment by moment. Memory by memory. I have to say that you will experience a gauntlet of emotions. You will feel broken and sad- to completely magnetized and desperate for his physical love. You will be fired up, and you will be depleted. It’s all a part of the process. My husband and I are on the other side, and are happier than we’ve ever been. It forged a peculiar bond between us. I chose to hold on, and to truly love him at his worst. He had done the same for me- only I had never cheated. I had offered up my brokenness in other ways. We both hurt each other in various ways. I didn’t choose to stay because of our three children. I truly wanted him and needed him. I felt ALL of the emotions you expressed. It doesn’t take some special talent to cheat. It’s readily available for any willing to go there. To truly chose your partner faithfully is true strength. I realized my husbands broken childhood played a massive part in his decisions, which of course is no excuse. —something broke in both of us the day that I decided to love him full throttle. It healed us both in ways we couldn’t understand. I’m so praying for you and your beautiful family. Give yourself tons of grace. And this may sound crazy, but I’m so confident that your husband adores you and your babies. He just doesn’t feel worthy and so that’s where that self sabotage comes in. It’s a real thing. ❤️
Dear Meghan, I’m so sorry you are going through this. No one deserves that pain. And what worse way to be repaid for recently giving him the best gifts of his life – your children. I’ve been in your situation before. You are going to go through a rollercoaster of emotions. And part of you is going to want to lean back on him. And he will victimize himself.
Meghan, fuck this guy. I watched him be dismissive of you through the entire show. He’s a narcissist and the world revolves around him and it always will. He’s not capable of loving you – or anyone – in the way that you deserve. You can’t save him. And frankly, he doesn’t want to be saved. If you choose to stay with him it will be an unfair, painful, uphill road for you and your kids. People will say “save your family” – but again, Meghan, fuck this guy. Save yourself and run while you have the chance. He gave you full reason. Don’t go back and have him do this again and lose time, energy, youth, and the best years and memories of your motherhood. Quietly step back, take care of yourself and your kids, and live a luxurious, comfortable, peaceful life far away from his selfish ass. Someone else can and will love you better. Trust me.
Dodge the Bullet.
The worst betrayal ever, I’m so sorry this has happened to you, it has also happened to me and ended in divorce. I told husband #2 that should he not want to be with me to let me be the first to know, not the last. Marriage is hard, life is hard but cheating is the lowest thing one person can do to another. I pray you find clarity and happiness.
I’m sad for u but walk with god and you two will get through it!!! Your blog was spot on.
Sending you prayers for peace in your heart — whatever that looks like and means for you. I have newborn twins, and 2 toddlers, it’s hard as hell. The good days are amazing, the bad days take strength you didn’t know you had. But I cannot imagine this in addition — so I simply say prayers for peace in your heart.
Meghan is this the first time he has betrayed you? A sick child of an unknown diagnosis can put pressure on any marriage. Oh no I do not condone a cheater, it’s the lowest form of a human being. What I do stand for is open, honest communication, with a marriage counselor. If you both want to save your marriage, it has to be 100% or nothing. I truly know that a decision will be made on what you both believe is the right thing for your family. My prayers, hugs to you Meghan, right now it stings, but you dear are stronger than you think. Go through all the emotions, it can only make things clearer!!
Meghan,
Hundreds of messages will be posted on here so I hope this one does not get lost. Your life is open to the public and having to go through such betrayal with an audience must be beyond hurtful, I’m sorry . We do not know the pain you are enduring and never will because we are not in your shoes. However, please know you are alone many of us have gone through similar situations but we didn’t have millions watching our next move. You do not owe anyone any explanations on how you will heal or what you will do next. Cry and when you need to, let the emotions run through you but not consume your soul. Find a good therapist to help you heal. Take care of yourself. Love yourself and know that this is not for you to own. Let your husband own his mistakes but if you can find forgiveness in your heart it will be more for you than him. I speak to you from the bottom of my heart. I wish you the best and know you will overcome this ugliness despite it all. Toss the tabloids because they will only poison your heart as they live off of other people’s mistakes. Be well and peace be with you.
Best,
Mimi
What I know and you need to know is..You are Strong, you are a wonderful women,mother,wife,person. I’m not here to tell you what to do, you are the one that is living it. I was cheated on for many years, he promised to never do it again and was good for awhile, and then I went thru the whole thing again, as much as i wanted him to change, he didn’t. Every time he left the house or his phone rang, I thought the worse, you never will be able to trust him again, and you may forgive but you will never forget. You are not me, you will do what is best for you, only you can make that choice. You are very brave for telling your story, I wish you and your family everything you deserve.
I hurt for you. I simply cannot imagine the pain, loss and deceit you must be dealing with.
You got this 👊 you are a strong woman and what I have perceived have always been. You will rise above! I pray for you and your son that you will receive the answers you are looking for. God is close to the broken hearted I’m rooting for you.
💗
A married woman of 44+ years now… Feels your pain! Marriage is hard especially in the public eye! My heart goes out to you and I wish I could talk to you privately because I have so much to say about my own marriage and challenges!
I will be praying for you tonight and Your beautiful children and especially Jimmy to help him see what a hurtful situation this has become on all levels!
I’m so very sorry you are going through this. My prayers are with you and hoping all will be ok with Hart. 💝
I’m so sorry you are going through this horrible mess… I just need you to do just one thing.. BE STRONG for your beautiful children… Don’t let this break you. I’m praying for you and your family.
Wanda M.
Holmdel, NJ
My heart breaks for you. 💔 You are so right. You don’t deserve this. Stay strong. 💚
Sending love from a twin mom that’s been “ there”. Feel all the feels and grieve at your own pace. I wouldn’t wish this pain on my worst enemy but I can tell you it’s not forever, not in the “ how is it possible to be alive when my heart is so broken” way. I found healing through survinginfidelity.com if you want support from an anonymous community of people who wish they never had to come together this way. You are braver than you know.
Prayers for you and your family. I have been through something similar. We worked through it and stayed together. I am glad we did. We did not have nor do we now have children. It’s just the two of us. It took time to be able to trust him again. I hope you can do the same. You have a beautiful family. God Bless you all!
Meghan Sweet girl I’m sorry this is happening to you. You don’t deserve this , I have read so many comments on Facebook that say he was also married when he met you, so they say you deserve this. I don’t want you to pay any attention to those nasty people. They aren’t happy unless they can hurt others . The truth is it doesn’t matter how you and Jimmy got together. He chose to marry you and to have children with you. You are a wonderful mama and wife. He has lost the besst thing to ever happen to him. Even if you choose to forgive him and stay married to him. You will never look at him with the same love or the same trust ever again. I pray that whatever choice you make , that you won’t let others opinions influence you. They don’t have to live your life. I pray that your sweet baby boy Hart is well and that you are able to get him seen by the right doctors. Remember doctors aren’t God they make mistakes all the time. Make sure you get a second and even a third opinion if you feel the need to.
I hope that everything works out for you sweetheart. You deserve better. Don’t let him forget it.💛
Wow that is so raw and real and emotional that my heart physically aches reading it.
Megan, I’m so sorry you’re hurting,,, God WLL heal you,,, HE IS close to the Broken hearted.
I have been where you are. Your words were my words. You will heal. Take it day by day, hour by hour. If you need a shoulder to lean on reach out. You can even reach out to me. Love and many prayers sent your way.
I hurt for you!! You will get through this if you want to. Dont allow the “slime” of someone else & your husbands weakness define you. xoxo
Prayers for you sweetheart. You are a lovely woman with s beautiful heart God is with you and your precious babies. Stay strong in the confidence of this and who you are!!! May you be blessed double for your trouble. Better days ahead with a fabulous future. You deserve so much better.
Sending you love. This happened to me when I was 8 months pregnant with our son. Those little kiddos will be the ones to give you the smiles and hugs that you need right now. Their little personalities made things better while I worked to put the pieces back together
Wow I was so happy he was making house for kids and you😓.. shocked but not… sex is so important to men to be lured to do the luring game .. the high of getting caught.. being wanted.. whatever the excuse. I am truly sorry you are going through this… doesn’t matter when.. it never does… your heart will be broken forever. I pray he can fix this storm…. if not your so strong Megan you have family 100%….. prays for you from the Universe to mend😱❤️❤️❤️🙄💥💥💥💥
Ditto, happened to me. You have my support and I can tell you what I learned. I learned I was stronger than I ever thought. I learned I became a better person after what I went through, more understanding in general. I learned this most valuable thing. I am me. Just me. With or without a man, I stand alone as me and I like me. Whether you stay or leave, you are the you that you choose to be. And that has NOTHING to do with if you have a man at your side or not. Everyday, you will continue to be you and I bet that you don’t let yourself down, regardless of any decision, because you choose to be the person that you want to be. Probably the same person that you have always been. I will think good thoughts for you.
This is real life shit. I didn’t think I could relate , love, and understand you this much. Thank you for being so honest , raw and real. I read this is in your voice and in my heart. Whatever you decide to you, it will make you a stronger person. Good luck with this little bump in your journey.
My heart hurts for you and your family. Meghan, do what you feel is best for you. It will take time to heal and feel trust again. Hold your head high. God will be with you . You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
With much respect,
Linda
Meghan, I can’t say that I know exactly what you are going thru because you and he are different than my ex and I. However, he deployed and came back with another woman. I was being the dutiful wife, loyal, hardworking, and he was betraying our marriage. I tried to make it work because I believed in one marriage. After going thru all of it in my mind, body, and soul i knew after a few months i just could never trust him again. I chose to leave. We didnt have children so that made things easier. Anyway, it is like a grieving process and you must go thru that process and most likely multiple times before you can make a firm decision. For now surround yourself with the love of your children, the love of your mom, friends, and anything that makes you happy. You are a brave and positive woman and no matter what you decide you will rise above and be a conqueror. I wish you ma y blessings.
Meghan, do what you feel is best for you. It will take time to heal and feel trust again. Hold your head high. Always remember God is with you through good and bad times. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
With much respect,
Linda
Hang in there
I’ve been there. Reading your raw emotion brought me to tears. I remember. I remember like it was yesterday, despite it being almost 12 years ago, just weeks before we were to marry. I married him, terrified as I was, despite what had happened. I will never forget, standing on the beach before the pastor, closing my eyes for the prayer. I’m not
Even sure what the pastor said, but I know what
I was praying… please God, don’t let him ever hurt me like this again. I hate the pictures the photographer captured of that fear-filled prayer.
I’m happy to say, he has not repeated his mistake. It took a long time for me to stop punishing him, but I did. It was hard to fight the urge to retaliate, but I’m better than that. But I can’t forget. Even though it was never physical, I can’t forget.
Thankfully, I recognized, as you do, the incident was created by a flaw in him, not me.
Thank you for your honesty and sharing like this, in YOUR words, not through a slimy invasive “news” source. You can get through this. We St Louis girls have to stick together. Wish I could offer you a glass of wine and a hug!
If you wanna go for a drink this weekend to talk, email me. I know you probably have a lot of support and love around you, I’ve been in the same boat as you. Just thought I would reach out. Don’t forget his actions don’t reflect who you are.
I am sad with you, but you have two choices, one way you can put your chin up and show your kids that this will not defeat you or you can shrivel up and hide. What kind of woman do you want to be? This is not your fault but this happens to millions of women and they have supported each other so from me to you is a hug and a promise that you are stronger than you think ❤️
You will get past this. But first you have to go thru it. Let yourself get to a place where you can make a true decision about keeping him as your husband or letting him go. Either way your a fighter. I saw it the first season on the show. This is on Jim not you. You are still the loyal , loving, compassionate MOTHER you were before he screwed up. Cry , shout, scream or just be silent if you need to. Take your time and feel your way thru this. God bless you and your children.
A big hug to you, sweet woman.
Not fair. Not easy. Never simple. Do what’s best and what you feel in your heart, put your family first.
I am so sorry to hear this. I wish there was some magical words to make you feel better. I can only say that you are a beautiful woman inside and out and you deserve so much more. Sending you lots of prayers and hugs.
Perfectly written, marriage is very hard and you are handling this with grace and honesty. You will be ok, whatever happens and whatever you chose to do. You do have a choice and whatever YOU decide is the best, will be the best. I am rooting for you! You are an amazing woman and should be treated like a queen with the utmost respect and honor. My heart is with you, sending love 💗
Meghan. I have been married for almost 15 years and if I didn’t have my husband, Alex, I’d be lost!
A few years ago, I found questionable texts on his phone. He was flirting with someone he works with.
I can’t tell you why, I suddenly felt the need to search his phone but i did. I’ve always trusted him but something drew me to his phone that day. What I found, made me physically sick!
Over a year has passed and I can tell you, you can can heal together and you can move forward. You should take time to figure out what YOU want!
Just know, that NO marriage is perfect. We all have flaws.
Please take care of yourself and know your not alone!!
I’m so sorry this happened. My husband kissed a co worker in the back of a cab. Once. And he was wasted drunk then told me the next night. I was devastated. We had two kids. A new house. His business. WHY did he have to do that? But we pushed through. Sure – I’m not celebrity with my life in Page6 – but just because you are doesn’t mean it has to define your path. Work on it, if you both want to. And see where it goes. Then, if it doesn’t work you know you’ll have done everything you could have. And if it does – you’ll be sooooo much stronger for it. And you’ll be hero’s to those who WANT to try again but fear they’ll be laughed at for trying.
Be strong. Us twin mummas are unlike other people. We’re built for more, chosen for special things. Much love and peace to you x
Stay strong in your Faith, and in prayer! Pray and God will take care of you, love you, and keep you.
Meghan, thanks for being honest in the public eye and not being fake about what is happening to you. For those of us who have also had to bear the betrayal of our best friend and the partner we hoped to spend our forever with, we respect and support you and empathize and we relate.
Megan, I am truly sorry you are going through this horrific time. You have a beautiful family and I have followed your struggles with pregnancy, marriage and step parenting. You are loved!
You Meghan are a strong mom who will get through this! Your children will so admire your loyalty, devotion and strength to stay and fight for your family! You are all in my prayers! ❤️
Take a deep breath, Meghan.
Your children come first, so focus and concentrate on that. Your happiness comes second. When you married Jimmy, you knew he was removed, he wasn’t a truly hands-on parent like children deserve. So you made that choice, based on love, a huge, swelling of your heart that wanted to do the best for your relationship and the family you have now made with him. There is no solution to this problem, it’s the heartache of the ages. I’ve lived it, as countless other women have as well.
He got caught. And now he is weighing his options, and the consequences of his actions. That is going to sway him to your side and the family that you have made for him. Because he is getting older, and his options are narrowing. You’re a strong, confident and very smart woman. Keep your eyes open. This wound will never, ever heal. It is as if someone punched you in the stomach and laughed in your face at the same time, right? Someone you trusted and loved. Marital strife has nothing on betrayal. Betrayal is the ultimate force that can suck the life out of you in 10 seconds.
You can stay, or you can go. If you stay, you will be in therapy and counseling sessions and watching his every move, but you will never trust him again. Men are just built that way unfortunately. Some are different than others, more loyal and some not as much. They show their true colors… when they get caught.
You think it could never happen to you because you’re so beautiful, intelligent, sparkling and make him happy. Yet it does, and Meghan, it is not your fault. NOT your fault. This is all him.
You fortunately have the option of living a wonderful life with enough money to take care of your lovely children and be a parent to them that actually cares and sacrifices for their well-being. If that is what you need to do, then do it. If you want to be in a relationship without trust for the sake of your children, then do it. This is not about you, it is about them.
Think about the rule of 10, 10, 10.
In a very decisive time of your life, what is going to happen with the decision you make in 10 minutes? 10 months? Or 10 years… You can look this up in previous articles such as Oprah Magazine which brought it to my attention years ago and it has been a very grounding rule to follow when making huge decisions.
Meghan, you may feel that Jimmy is in control of what goes forward and what it will mean to both of you, but that is wrong. YOU are. And if you have the wherewithal to make their lives comfortable, and you are the most loving mother ever, you can make it work. Your children are very, very young. If you need to take a break, so be it. I believe that you come from a good family and you are a very grounded person. Sometimes people make the wrong choices, but they live through them and they rise above, to even greater heights.
Take a breath.
Kindest regards,
Valerie King Cash
Your honesty is so refreshing. It will get better with or without him. The sun will shine again at some point. It’s just hard to imagine right now.
Thinking about you – time will heal. Time heals everything and sometimes answers questions – sometimes not. It just is. Sucks but true.
Can’t imagine what you’re going through but love and support are out there – even if you don’t see it xoxo
Adrienne mealy ❤️
I feel sad you are going this horrific betrayal. You and only you can make the decision to heal or move on. I pray you find the strength to prioritize what’s important now, Hart. I’m a fan if yours and only wish you the best. Hang in there and listen to your thoughts because your love for him will confuse you. Take your time and things will fall into place and it will be your decision how things will end. Hugs to you and the babies.
Wow! I have never responded to any social media post EVER. But this is so powerful. I will be honest, I watch RH of OC abs never really formed an opinion about you on the show but this raw statements makes me see how honesty and sincere you are and that is true class. Your husband made a mistake ( a gross and horrible one) but I hope you two can find your way back to each other. Just know that you deserve a man who wakes up every damn day thanking God you are his wife. I wish you the best as you navigate this storm in your life. Your kids will only be better for having you as their mother. Stay strong. You have a lot of support behind you.
Dear Megan,
Find a great Attorney ASAP!!!
Leave him… as You t so beautiful & kind!
You will find a wonderful man…
He will betray u again!
I always sensed how lonely & sad u were on the OC Housewives… he was leading a Secret Life then ..& I felt u wanted to get pregnant to hold onto him…
Please don’t waste any time!
So sorry ur so sad!
Go away on vacation to heal… May God Bless ur family & heal u…
Love , ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Debra
So sorry you have to go through this! Keep your head up, your children are the most important thing in life that one can ever have, they are your strength and your purpose. Shame on him for doing this to you and your children, he will never be able to look at himself in the mirror the same way. You are an amazing woman and no one can ever take that away from you. Focus of the most important things in life, your kids and everything else will fall into place. You are a strong woman and a force to be reckoned with. This will make you even stronger not just for yourself but for your family!
Your heartache is real. You are allowed the ugly cries, the anger, the fits of rage and yes, the feeling of defeat The one person you trusted most betrayed you. Talk about it to who ever ever you want, say nothing to who ever you want. There is no cookie cutter way to deal with the grief. In time you will find the answer within. The answer for your sanity, your mind, your heart, your soul and no less your babies. When there seems to be no answers watch your babies sleep. Their peaceful, innocent smirks and smiles while sleeping will warm even the the coldest hearts. You are a strong woman Meghan, I have no doubt you will persevere.
My heart goes out to you. I’ve walked in your shoes, but unfortunately my marriage didn’t last. I’m sending prayers your way. You’re a beautiful soul and you shall rise above it. Prayers for your little boy!
Self care and pulling your village close is your lifeline. Days will be lived an hour at a time until this pain lessens.
If you have the same feelings post affair that I experienced, the words people throw at you for the next year will feel impenetrable.. you’ll want to find a way to let it go, to be all understanding and loving of your man even though he betrayed you and your trust- you’ll wish it just never existed.. was it worth it? There’s no way he thinks it was worth it. But it happened. People make mistakes, but sometimes mistakes aren’t excusable, and ultimately, there’s some pain that you just deserve to excuse yourself from. You shouldn’t allow his decisions to make you miserable- and yet, if you leave, it could be years before all of this is truly in your rear view.. and you have children to think about. I don’t have the answer, but I genuinely hope you are able to take some time for yourself to reflect on what’s next- not in a reactionary way but to really understand that after the dust settles, will you be able to fully forgive and forget.. will the man you thought would never betray you, do it again? Is it worth the risk? How can you live again and make your own joy… I know you will!
I am so sorry Meghan. You finally got the children you always wanted and now this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your kiddos.
Been there done that with my first husband.. He cheated I was 21 years old in this country with no family..I left my family to moved here with him..he betrayed me..I’m married now , and for the last twenty years with the love of my life..seems like you never saw it But i did and I’m sure a lot of viewers saw it too..he did not looked like he was in love with you at all.. sorry but just the true..we learned and move on and I’m sure you will find real love.. it is though now but it will get better I promise you..you are great!! Mom and woman hanging in there with your loving mom and your kids better days to come..❤️
I’m so sorry for you. It’s the worst feeling in the world to be betrayed by the person you love the most but you will be alright and I pray God will heal your heart ❤️
Find out the “why”
Find out what’s broke. can it be fixed? Is it worth fixing?
Then you process…. and process…. and you figure out if you can or if you can’t forgive…. and you make decisions on what is going to make YOU happy, and allow YOUto be the best Mom you can be…..
And SADLY this won’t be easy….. and you don’t deserve this.
The ball is in your glove now, and yes their is a storm delay…
I know your pain. I’m still with the man who cheated on me. It took a lot of soul searching, knowing who he was and my vows to him. For better or WORSE. Can’t get any worse than that. I prayed on it and here I am. It took a while, but I trust him again. I also trust God to take care of me. He wanted me to stay with my husband. I do love him. He did not get off easy for hurting me like he did. He had paid dearly for what he did to me. He had to work very hard to get me to trust him again. He wanted it to work with us too. I will pray for you and what is best for your marriage. I will also pray for Hart for his healing. I’m so sorry for this deep deep pain. It hurts badly. I vomited when I found out. It’s that deep and sickening. Trust in your vows and faith. You have to be able to learn to trust again. Can you do that? Of course it’s his job to help you with that. It took 3 years before I could trust again. I’m so sorry. No one deserves this. 🤗
I’m sorry you are going through this it’s ugly and it’s painful.. and you can only heal at your own pace.. but you can move on and you can forgive and grow by your self or with him but that’s a decision you and you only came come to. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel or mourn because it is a loss of trust and honesty between the two of you!! If you decided to stay and fight it can be done by two people who are willing to put the work in everyday.. but you have to and some point forgive.. when you reach that put and are ready to leave it in the past.. forgiveness is hard but you can also become stronger and better from it.. my heart is sad for your pain I’ve also felt that heart break from true love that cheated.. but I stayed and I fought to get it back and it’s better then ever 24 years and going strong… Girl power you can get through it! Believe.
How strong and courageous you are! Some people only share the good stuff, you share the good and the bad, that makes you so human and relatable! Life will be tough for a while bit you will rise from this and you will be even stronger and determined. Ride the waves for now!
Wow! So amazingly honest and real. Not that you needed to explain anything to anybody but this was very sad to read. I hope your son is given answers and begins a road to being healed. I suppose if you want your marriage to recover then people should allow you to explore that. I wish you happiness for your future in any shape that comes. Because no one should feel this sadness.
This is very raw and heartfelt. You are brave. You will make it through this even stronger than you are now, with or without your husband, whichever you decide. I wish you peace
I am sorry you had to go through this. IF BOTH of you are comitted to getting your marriage to work it can be done. Keep your lines of communication open and work on rebuilding the trust in your relationship. Keep your faith close and work on letting go of your pain and anger.
xxoo
Love you. Married 25yrs ago and I caught my husband txting another woman and it was crushing to the soul. So I know what you’re going thru and I pray you stay strong and work on your self and be the best possible mom and person you can be. And marriage is hard and has to be worked every damn day. Just like you said. If you love him and he loves you, you will be able to work on it. As long as there is love. It’s worth fighting for People will always try to tear a good marriage apart. Not sure why, jealousy. Idk. I’ve had women flirt with my husband right in front of me And sometimes men love the attention. Idk. It’s still no excuse. I pray you find peace and patience. I pray your babies are fine and know nothing but love ❤️ R
wow I’m sorry this has happened and hope the healing will come and you both can work towards a end . This happened to me after 28 years but couldn’t be repaired….huggggssss and prayers for you both
I never write but I feel so bad for you hearing this…cuz no women deserves this. I’m just your normal wife and mom of 4 grown kids now. You will overcome all this and eventually if you decide to stay you will forgive but this will always be on your mind, you just have to be there for the babies. I have now been married for 34 yrs and I still think about it but it in the past. Prayers for Hart he will be fine. Nothing is ever perfect even though you want it to be. We are all human. Good luck to you and your family Meghan.
Meghan hang in there girl. I’ve had to deal with slimey people my whole life. Take care of your kids and yourself. Please don’t drive around at night by yourself. Take care
I’m so very sorry for your heartache. Somehow you will find the strength to make the right choice for your family. Don’t rush. He can stay wherever you tell him, spare room or away. For now I pray for the pain to stop, so you can be the mum your children deserve. The little faces that will make you laugh on your toughest days. But I pray hard for your son. If he has special needs in the future, he was gifted to you, because you will be the mummy who will see him live his best life. Be joyful for what you have, rather than a person who perhaps doesn’t appreciate all that he has .🤗🤗❤️
I’m sorry you are going through this!! I will pray for you and your family that God gives you strength to take care of your kids. I will pray for God to give you clarity on how to go forward!! Good luck 🙏🏻❤️
Dear sweet Meghan. I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this… and in the public eye. You will weather this storm with dignity and grace. Prayers for your heart as I’m sure it is broken in a million pieces. Prayers also for sweet boy.
I feel broken hearted for you. I’ve followed you with your children and see how hard you work and his much you give. I don’t know if he deserves you. I pray for you xo
Oh little one, I’m so sorry but the fact that you’ve said all this makes me soooo proud of you.
Beautifully written! Props to you If you are willing to make it work… But I must agree with everyone else did he did it once and most likely he’ll do it again. Life is too short Megan Believe me when I tell you I Lost my daughter 3 years ago she was 24 years old . Now that is pain and life changing.. we never know what tomorrow brings if there is another tomorrow.
You are young and beautiful So I ask why stay in this marriage ? A marriage that no longer has trust and will never be the same again unfortunately.
It is obvious that a man who is on his 4th(?) wife is not a keeper. You wanted the love, the kids, the picket fence, the commitment. He could not give that to you. It is not in his DNA. He has played this role many times before. For you it is New and wonderful. For him, it’s been there, done that. He’ll never be the man you need or deserve. Take time to heal and move on. Respect yourself enough to know you deserve so much better! He can’t change.
I’m so sorry for your sadness right now. I know Jana Kramer has been through this with her husband and they talk a lot about it on their podcast. Maybe listening to them can help you see the light at the end. I hope you heal from this and things look up from here.
I’m sorry. I know your pain. I’ve been married twice but have had no husband. Cheaters both. It’s been 15 years and there is no recovery. I’m 70 and sad. We Co exist
My grandchildren are everything to me
My friends mean so much.
You deserve better. So do I
My heart breaks for your family. Please know I will be praying for your entire family. Forgiveness and healing can come with repentance and time; I truly believe that.
When I read this, my thoughts immediately went to Kathy and Frank Gifford. His betrayal was also displayed publicly for all to see, and Kathie handled it with grace and dignity. You can do the same, sweet lady🙏💙
God bless you and yours.
Meghan,
I am sad for you. I was always under the impression that you two had the perfect marriage. Alas, I would be unsure it existed if I hadn’t seen my parents living it. I am confident Jimmy will do what he needs to to regain your trust as he loves you so. You can do it. It’s not always perfect and it’s not always pretty, but in time the perfect and the pretty outweigh the others.
Prayers to you. Best wishes on this journey.
Thank you so much for your honesty and sharing.
Liz
I’m so sorry for you. I’m dealing with 1/2 my marriage of 22 yrs my husband lived a secret life. I just found out by accident. Now I dealing w the truths as my 20, 18year old daughters know what he did and we are protecting my 15 yr daughter from the ugly truth. Your confidence in yourself and what WE deserve has helped me tonight .
Please research vaccines. Neurological disorders are the single most common adverse effect, but its rarely discussed. Especially in boys. Please read the inserts. The peer reviewed, fraudulent and inadequate studies. Wii th brief safety studies, and periods of time they measure for adverse reactions, or the lack of inert placebo control groups. BEest of luck to you in this difficult time.
Stay strong girl! 💕💪🏻
Oh Shit, Megan, I truly have a story to share with you, I’d love the opportunity to do so. I’m SAD for you and have a righteous anger towards J. In the midst of pain, destruction and deceit God will be there for the kids and you!!!!!! I love you, always, Karen in Napa from Ladera.
So sorry you’re sad. You are 100% marriage is hard. However, there is life after cheating. If your marriage can survive it can be stronger than ever.
This brings tears to my eyes. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I wish you strength and the ability to make it through this stronger.
mom of three here, left an amazing career in engineering to care for my three kids (now all neurologically non-typical and yet still kickin’ ass in life!)… i read on People one of your twins might be neurologically non-typical as well… I just want you to know you are never alone on this journey. If you need to real life support, there’s a lot of us out here to support you who have had deep success and joy with babies and youth who might have what most consider challenges… ASD, SPD, epilepsy here! kick butt mama
You prob won’t read this but in the off chance someone else finds it encouraging I’m writing it anyway. I don’t know you, I’ve never watched the show you were on but reading an article from people.com brought me here bc I want to tell you, you’re not alone. Unfortunately or fortunately this has happened to others. It happened to me and it was devastating. We decided to stay together and made a commitment to work through all the hurt and pain. He had to be willing to listen to me and answer my ?’s. But he wanted “us” to work just as much as I did. Every story is different but you’re right, physical or not sharing w/ someone who isn’t your partner is an affair. You decide what’s best for you and your children and go from there. Love and strength to you.
Meghan you are amazing and your babies are lucky to have you!!!
So sorry you are dealing with a such an intimate, devastating experience in such a public forum. You’ve always come across as an authentic, loyal woman and completely committed to your husband. Even this post shows your loyalty and venerability. You are an outstanding woman and a super mom! Hug your babies and heal your heart. Your husband should know better. Shame on him. He’s lucky if you keep him.
You are strong and you will get through this!!!
Meghan. Much love to you. My son has what we think is sleep apnea and hyperactivity and I hope your sons is a simple diagnosis-pls reach out if I can help you with this. My heart breaks for you reading this, so raw and truthful. I’m sending such a big hug and much love to you. Devastating, you will be ok. I know it, but process the pain in a healthy way which it sounds like you’re doing. Much love, Julie
Meghan,
I admire your strength and honesty. I am so very sorry that you are not only baring the weight of your sons neurological concerns but your “person” in life isn’t someone you can even recognize. I pray and hope your husband has the fight and love for you and your family you have built together. I pray for your family and again my apologies that you are going through this.
My ex had an affair. Best advice, listen to your gut. Whatever is screaming in your head to do, do it it’s the right thing to do. My ex left me and it was the best decision ever. Very sorry for your pain. Think of your kids but you also need to be happy. Best of luck to you. You got this!!
Meghan this sucks so bad. My heart goes out to you. Four months ago I had the same betrayal after a two year relationship with a person I had given my everything too. It is a process and all I can say is take care of yourself first. The little I know of you from briefly meeting you in an airport in IA once and seeing you on TV.. is you seem like the kind of person that is naturally a giver. Right now you need to give to yourself only and the sweet kiddos. Space and processing the grief will give you clarity. The pain of having your reality ripped from under your feet, is something that takes time to process and absorb. Let your friends and family be there for you. Be selective who you lean on but make sure you put yourself first. As givers, it’s not our comfort zone I know. You having time, space and solid support will get you where you can breathe again. I’m finally starting to. It’s really like having PTSD for a bit, the shock, the why’s, the how could they, what should I do… it’s all so much to process.
I will keep you uplifted in my prayers. ❤❤❤
<3 <3 <3
You are such a strong and brave woman, and a wonderful mother.
I can not imagine the immense pain you are feeling. I am praying for you and your family, and I hope you find peace and healing. May you be feel loved, cared for, and valued.
I’m so very sorry this happened.
I’m sad for you. This was so heartfelt…I feel your pain. Beautifully written. You. Are. Amazing. May you heal and make the best decision for your family. Prayers.
I agree with you, I’m sorry for all this pain but it will be hard to trust and be in this marriage I’m married to a man in baseball for 18 years and it’s been tough and horrible I don’t know if it’s their ego or narcism or both. I have all the material wealth a girl can ask for but I don’t have the love or the faith and I remind him of it all the time I haven’t healed but I stay yes for the kids yes because I can’t financially support myself and children and finally my belief to stay married. Good luck I say if your family supports you and u have friend leave I have no family that would support divorce and I don’t have any friends just neighbors that don’t know what’s going on in my mansion
I’m really sorry that you’re going through all of this. You were always one of my favorites on RHOC. Remember the acronym for TIME–Things I Must Earn. Your husband made mistakes and it’s up to him to prove that he can be trusted. I hope for your family’s sake that you guys are able to work through this if that is what you truly want.
You are strong! Follow your heart! Don’t let the chatter influence you. I’ve got your back!
Stay strong Meghan, I and rooting for you
Oh Meghan.. I feel your pain so deeply. I to unfortunately gone thru this. Not in the public eye of course but it still hurt the same. Weve been married 15yrs and i tell you the first 8 were pure hell. My husband and I knew we were meant to be and loved each other so much and without listening to others opinions on what we should do we decided to stay together and worked it out and its been the best choice of my life to not give up. We have a wonderful marriage today. All that garbage is in the past and we learned to trust eachother with our whole hearts again. If theres one piece of advice i can give you is if you choose to stay… Go thru your pain feel it cry about it tell him everything in your heart and then let it go.. I know thats hard to think about right now but our biggest problem was every time we got into an argument we would throw our mistakes back up to eachother and then we would be back at square one. We both had to learn to forgive and trust and honestly we had to fall back in love again. It was ROUGH. But i dont regret it. We have a beautiful life and 3 beautiful girls and a love now that will last a lifetime. Your such a beatiful woman inside in the time you was on tv and interactions on IG i see how wonderful you are.. You deserve a strong healthy marriage and i hope you guys can get thru this pain.
Sending love and strength your way.
Your a strong woman….go cry…go kick something….but stay strong!!!! Men….they don’t get it…an I’m sorry fixes it all to them…..Strong women are what kids of today need …Storong women are what this country needs……I am on a rant…..take care of your son….takencare of you!!!! Let “Jimmy” figure out his own crap!!!!
Hi Meghan,
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You may never even see this message. But,..I’m compelled to send it anyway. Miracles happen every day. I see them.
Breathe my dear girl – as a parent of a child with challenges, you will figure this out and handle it one day at a time – breathing is the first step- as far as hubby- it’s tough to say if redemption is the answer or extinction- focus on the kids right now and as you do this the other piece of hubby will start to become clear one way or the other. As someone who has hit the wall of challenge this year you can’t look too far ahead and – sometimes God puts really weird issues in your path to bring unbelievable gifts – focus on finding the gifts and they will appear.😘😘😘 wish I could come over for coffee to convince you of this but I live in Jersey;)
Thank you for being so transparent. I hope you find true, deep heart healing and that however you both choose to move forward from this isnt judged. This is hard but see how strong you are? See how amazingly resilient you are?
Regardless of the outcome, you and those sweet babies will persevere. Its who you are.
Hold your head high Meghan. Know YOU are worth it. YOU matter and YOU will survive.
Hug those babies. Have your ugly cries. You do you, boo.
Much love to you and your sweet children.
I was cheated in and pregnant by my one and only, high school sweethearts, the only love I knew. He also started the affair ON MY BIRTHDAY. I was in so much emotional pain it became physical pain. I wanted to hurt myself, but with a baby inside of me I of course couldn’t.
Mine also sent d*ck pics…
This was over 7 years ago (it’s easy to count since my son is now 7) and our marriage is better than ever. I want you to know THERE IS HOPE. These darkest days will seem hopeless… pour yourself a glass of wine and take a long hot bath. I went to a therapist because I felt trapped, helpless, self destructive. She reminded me that I have a CHOICE. I CAN LEAVE. And also she made me realize that anytime I’d ask for details and he didn’t want to tell me, that’s still a part of him being deceitful. I needed to know EVERYTHING. When he was hesitant to tell me, I realized we cannot move on until he keeps it real with me. 100%. I learned how to LET GO. Gave it to God. I stopped trying to control him and focused on ME. MY NEEDS. I pulled back from him. I stopped basing my happiness off HIM. It really helped me recover from the trauma of discovering your soulmate isn’t who you thought they were. Hang in there. You’ll be ok.
My heart goes out to you Meghan. Heartbreaking times. Physically and mentally. Prayer, rest, breathe, surround yourself with your family. Get very, very professional help so YOU can drive this ship in any direction YOU wish. Praying for you and Hayes. Infact praying for youe husband to wake the hell up and be a husband and a father that he should be. Take care of yourself.
Oh Meghan..how brave of you to share your pain and what you are going through. Ive been where you are..lied to and cheated on. Stay strong..its not going to be an easy road. You are beautiful and worthy..dont lose sight of that! Prayers..
Love you. Love your truth. Love that you are open. Love that you are a fabulous mother & person. Just love.
I am so sad for you. I’ve been there; and felt all you said/wrote down to my core. Especially about not being the Mommy my kids are used to. I’ve been where you are. It sucks plain and simple. I don’t know the magic words to say other than; life is tough hun; but so are you.❤️ Nina
-Prayers for you & your precious babies tonight
Stay strong ❤️
Prayers 🙏🏼
Meghan, of course I don’t actually know you personally but I will tell you that IF both of you decide your marriage and family are worth fighting for, FIGHT HARD. We all make mistakes, we all disregard and disrespect those we love most at times. We sometimes don’t realize what we truly have until we’re in a position to lose it. Sometimes it isn’t until that time that we realize we’re in the ring and must fight for what we love, want, and deserve. Indiscretions change everyone involved, and sometimes in the best ways. Decide if this is worth fighting for. If it is, and you both come out committed to each other, I promise you will be stronger and more bonded to each other than you can even imagine. Love and respect yourself and make the choice that is best for you and leaves the best legacy for your sweet babies. Love and prayers to you.
Wow Meagan so strong and bold for sharing this
Meghan, I am so sorry you are going through this! You are an amazing and strong woman, even when you feel weak. Lean on Christ for his ever loving comfort. Each day will get a little better. You don’t have to decide now what the future holds. Give yourself time to grieve and process your thoughts and talking through it with a counselor for awhile may help tremendously.
Remember, you did not do this, he did. It was a choice he made, for no other reason than attention seeking and boost of confidence, all in all, selfishness! You said it couldn’t be worse, how about what Lamar and Tristan did or what Hank Baskett did to Kendra. Khloe and Kendra came out stronger and have the best gifts yet, their beautiful children! Same with your old Housewives, Shannon and Camille. If anyone should be humiliated, it should not be you!
Praying for you for strength, comfort, discernment, and positive outcomes for your son and your family. Ask, believe and receive! Lean on your friends and family when you need to and take all the time you need! Enjoy the summer with your kiddos and they will always instill smiles and laughter, from the eyes of babes! May God bless you and keep you! Cela
I feel your anguish, I’ve been there too. My best advice is to not make any major decisions when this situation is so new. Give yourself time to begin the steps to wellness for you and your little ones. There will be a long and arduous grieving process which includes loss of trust, etc., so painful… You deserve the tears you shed, you earned them. Don’t ever justify his actions because he wasn’t physical, the emotional betrayal is far worse to bear…
I’m sorry this happened to you. My husband did the exact same thing. I forgave him and chose to work in my marriage. In the end he did it again. 34 years of marriage and a family unit destroyed. I met him when I was 17 years old and have never been on my own before. In truth I tried to forgive him for the sake of our children and because I was terrified of being left on my own. Since then, the last 3 years have been incredibly difficult. I was chronically obsessed with suicide for over a year but how can one do that to your children. It has taken years of therapy and medication to try and heal. I’m still that sad and no end in sight. I’m hoping i will be able to overcome eventually but I’m not holding my breath. You have a very long road ahead of you and I wish I could tell you that it will get better. I’m old now and my youth was wasted. At least you still have that going for you but I’m sure you feel just as broken. I know I’m not being much help but I hope you can heal much quicker. Just keep getting up and putting one foot in front of the other. Take all the support you can get from friends and family. It’s so hard and once again, I’m so very sorry you are going through this.
Meghan – we are rooting for you.
This is so raw, heartbreaking and brave.
Wishing you much peace and love.
This is truly devastating. I really thought that Jimmy had learned from his past mistakes and was going to cherish this marriage. It is really unfortunate that this man has these deep insecurities and has continued to carry them throughout his life, self destructing this marriage, all to feed his insecure ego. All my sympathies during this absolute horrendous period of time, you are a truly magnificent woman Meghan and never doubt yourself for a moment. HE IS THE ONE WHO HAS SOMETHING WRONG.
Hang on Megan your going to go through so many emotions and you choose what’s best for you and your children and you will have lots of support.
Meghan I found out about my husband cheating on me after 35 years. My precious son caught him. My heart was broken not only for me but for my three young adult children. My son was getting married less than one year when he caught him. Walked out of our life and never looked back. I was devastated. Once a cheater always a cheater, once a liar always a liar. Life does go on and it only makes you stronger. You are a beautiful person and have so much love to give. I pray your marriage can recover and make it better than ever. Someone once told me and I will never forget it ….there is life after death of a marriage and it is so true. Hang in there hope things work out for you.
Not sure what what to say or how to comfort you..,,
Your post is scary real….
I’m sending you as much love and support as I can!
Not sure if you believe in god… and don’t want to push that on you , but believe in angels …
They will watch over you and the kids..
And if it’s ment to be your marriage will survive.
Love a Canadian girl
Xox
Meghan.
I am sorry you are having to deal with this! You do not deserve it and nothing you could ever do could have made you deserve this. You are a good person and I admire that you still have hope for your marriage. In this day and age many give up on that right here. You are not and to me that shows you sis take your vows seriously, love through the good and the bad. Does that mean it’s easy, hell no, does that mean it won’t take time, absolutely not! I will be praying for your children, you, and your husband.
Meghan,
I am so sorry to hear this!!! Hugs to you!! You don’t deserve this!!! I pray you find peace and comfort! Praying for your little guy as well!!
Very sad indeed.
You are amazing! Thank you for NOT putting this on yourself! We as women do that too much God blesd you and your beautiful children!
Sweet Meghan, I’m so sorry you are dealing with this terrible reality that so many of us have had to navigate. I married “the love of my life” in 2007 and in 2008 got the phone call from the girlfriend stating they’d been together 6 months of our one year marriage. I’m always the optimist, but a realist, and made demands to continue our marriage. I wanted him to change careers (she was an employee) I wanted him to go to counseling and finally get tested. Believe it or not his only objection was getting tested- really dude? So I pressed him, said if he didn’t do all 3 it was a divorce- as we talked his phone rang and it was the mistress- he proceeded to speak cordially to her in my home in front of me. I was livid!!!!!!! I threw him out dumped his stuff on the front porch and as it turns out his laptop confirmed so many other indiscretions. I ran to the coast to a family place to get myself together- IT WAS HARD- I filed for divorce on my own, no attorney and it felt good. A year after it was finalized I met my current husband and the man that I never knew I had waited on my entire life. He puts coffee on my night stand every morning, packs lunch for our daughter every day, and accepted my inability to trust until I was ready. Life is hard, love is hard, but in the end our journey molds us and we are better for it. Hard to believe in the middle of the storm, but the sun will come out tomorrow and your children will need you and your heart will heal. Don’t force yourself in any direction, let each day unfold as it needs to unfold and allow yourself to feel it all. He will be sorry and he will make promises, but you sweet girl do not need to make any decisions until you are ready. Best wishes and kindest regards- AC from SC
I been in your shoes. Oh how it hurts!!! I pray for you and your children. Trust me you will overcome this. XOXO
Meghan I have always been a fan of yours and love your love of your children. Im a mother of 3 teenagers so i too go above and beyond for them
..many words can be spoken about your husband but that would only hurt you more..You are strong and will do whats best for you and your kids. Dont ever doubt you do deserve a better man but we dont always pick who we love so deeeply so follow your heart..prayers of strength are wished for you above all..❤
Wow I’m so sorry you are going thru this. I love how you have expressed yourself. Stay honest as each day comes. You will get thru it 💪🏻❤️
You’re response to the chaos you are going through is so raw and powerful. It takes a special woman to be vulnerable yet strong in the same moment. My prayers are with you and your family and for continued strength during this difficult time.
It’s takes a lot of guts to just write everything you did. I am so sorry you are going through this, i truly feel your pain. i hope you can over come this although it will take time. God bless you and your children at this trying time.
I’m so sorry you are going through this, I was in your place 5 years ago. This might sound absurd but it was the best thing to happen to our marriage, I knew it wasn’t a good or happy marriage but didn’t fight for it, just sat back and expected it to mend itself. When I found out my husband was sending and receiving explicit photos with another woman but swore it had never gone any further, it made me realize I still loved that man and we both worked, hard, to save the marriage. The woman tried her best to break our marriage once she realized he wanted nothing more to do with her, but we stood together and put our defenses up and stayed strong because even though it took something devastating, it made us realize what we had and that we didn’t want to loose it. Your outcome may be completely different and it’s still early days but I just want you to know that this doesn’t have to be the end, unless that’s what you both want, but you both have to want the same thing.
I’m so sorry.
Awe honey, im so sorry. You are such a strong woman, and now its time to count on that strength within to pull you through. Lean on your family, let them help. Say your prayers and ask for guidance. Be good to yourself too. Take time to care of your needs. You’re in my prayers. I hope Hart gets all the medical help he needs to get better and you get good news about his condition. Bless his heart.
Cry hard, get it out….heal yourself first. ❤🙏
Dear meghan I know exactly how you feel something similar happened to me after struggling so much to get pregnant my husband deceived me in the same way … because I still think it is cheating even if they don’t have physical contact. At 8 months of pregnancy I found a conversations between him and an ex that he had more than 15 years ago. It was humiliating and unfair to me. Even more to you who are in the public eye constantly. My prayers are with you and your kids as a Mom you need to get stronger and that will take time. First you need to keep loving yourself and know that you are an amazing Mom. Things will get better with time. Stay away from Social Media is filled with hate.
I was married for 33 years and dated 10 years prior to marriage. He cheats once he will do it again. U will never feel at peace. Very hard. Finally had the courage to file for divorce. U didn’t do anything wrong. Never blame yourself. Concentrate on your babies.
Sending prayers with love to you and your family ❤️
Wow. I’m so sorry. Thank you for opening up so honestly. You are inspirational and everything you said makes 100% sense!! Thoughts and prayers with you and your family and the healing of all of this!
Meghan we don’t each other’s any never will but I follow you because I love who you are, what you represent as a strong woman, how you love and raise your children and you honesty! You are an incredible woman you and will get through this. Take care of you during this difficult time.
So sorry you are living this nightmare … heal at your own pace; you deserve the time and space. One single advice, make him miss you; ok 2; kill him with love; ok the last one; treat him the way you would like to be treated if it were you the one who cheated.
Beautifully written.
My heart goes out to you at this time. I wish I could give you a big hug and make it better. Stay strong and keep focused on what’s important to you – your children. Wishing you the best. Sincerely – Rhonda
I’m so sorry honey. Just remember You do You. Whatever you decide works for you and your family. Honestly he’s an idiot but we humans are perfectly Imperfect. Maybe you can forgive and move on with time? Ultimately it’s you’re life and your call.
Stay strong sweetie.
Traci Strale
I am so sorry for your broken heart! I wish I could hug you from one mom to another – you are the best thing that happen to him and he needs to figure out how to earn your trust back.. this is not you , it’s 100% him. He made this choice so now he has to work his butt off for you and those beautiful babies. I have great friends who are neurologists at the Mayo in Rochester MN- happy yo connect you. I will keep your heart in my prayers
Stay strong
Heidi
Now, I’m ugly crying too. I’m so sad to read this, Meghan but, I can tell you’re a fighter, a survivor and a wonderful mother and wife. Take it one day at a time and hold your head high. Sending Prayers up for your family and especially Baby Hart. xoxoxo
My heart goes out to you. You did not deserve this. No one does. You will be okay. You will figure this out. You will do what is best for you. Soon, you will know. Thinking of you and your family. Sending you strength.
I’m so sorry and I know exactly what you are feeling and what you will feel later. It’s so painful of the thought of what they did. I know all to well only differences is we weren’t famous, in the media nor do we have 3% of the money and nice things.
I also know the feeling of something wrong with one of my babies, we found out at 6 mos. he had Hirschprunges Disease and could not make it through, very rare, mostly in boys.
I know all these feelings, they are very painful, I will being praying for all 🙏🏻
Wow I have so much respect for you and everything you just wrote. It is always so easy to blame the slimy woman but you did not you were honest and on the money. It is a choice. I am heart broken for you. You are clearly such a strong woman and I know this wont break you. Sending so much love your way. Al the best.
I’m so so sorry. You are loved and needed and never alone. You are strong and you’re a momma, so you know how to survive. Keep breathing. Hold your babies—it’s ok to be a full on wreck. You will get through this. Xoxo
So beautifully written. This was raw and honest. I’m so sorry you are dealing with the most painful of betrayals. He is supposed to be your rock. What he did is shameful. I hope he is truly sorry and knows how wrong he was. I hope you find strength, whatever the outcome. Lean on your friends and family now. Sending so many positive thoughts for both you and your gorgeous baby boy. Just one stressful thing on top of another…but you can do this.
You’re brave to share this with with all of us. Life has funny ways of doing things but I hope something great comes out of all of this. Best wishes.
Stay strong! You are brave for sharing this. Its a sucky situation, but…You will get through it.
The saying is, how you come into a marriage, is how you’ll leave it…………….
I feel so sad for you Meghan. You have such a young and beautiful family and your husband/best friend has betrayed you. I always liked you on RHOOC. You were always so strong and I thought for your age you were more mature than most of the other women. You always seemed to do the right thing, you have a big heart and I admired you for that. I never really warmed to Jim. He always seemed to be emotionally distant and you always seemed to adore him. But I have no idea what went on behind closed doors. He could have been a totally different person to the one we saw on our television screens. He now needs to give you some space for you to work this all out. You need him to support you but also have space. You will work this out. Whether you move forward with or without Jim whatever you do, do it for you and your beautiful babies. They will help you get through this. With time things will get easier. You need to know that through all of this you will come out the other side with your head held high and know that if you can get through this you can get through anything. I also hope that everything is OK with Hart. OOXX
I am so so sorry Meghan. I don’t pretend to know you but I love watching your insta stories and seeing your every day life. You are being so honest and that’s the sign of a woman who’s strong. I just want you to know I’ll be praying for you-for peace and healing because ultimately, that’s probably what you may need most. ❤️
My heart breaks for you. But above all you need to remember as you stated, that this is his fault not yours. This is a malfunction with in your husband not with in you or anything you’ve done or anything that you could’ve done differently in your marriage. You are 100% correct, marriage is a choice every day and he made the wrong choice. Stay strong and keep your head above water, you have beautiful babies depending on you.
I’m truly sorry you have to experience this pain especially the loss of trust .
I am concerned about your child’s health issues, l remember replying to you when you were pregnant with the twins to educate yourself on vaccines, neurological disorders are from exactly that vaccines, please don’t vaccinate until you are absolutely sure , lm here with an open heart ❤️ l also had twins only one survived unfortunately vaccines were catastrophic to his injuries.
Regards
I am sorry this happened to you. Be strong. You don’t know me or ever will. But please you are strong and beautiful and don’t need a man to feel this way. This shall pass.
This news to me is mind boggling. It’s your news, it’s sad news. I’ve had my share of this and luckily salvaged my relationship. I have to be honest, I suggest you RUN! Cut your losses now. The time is now. Your kids are little babies and need you and him at your best FOREVER! You will never be your best with him. That is the lowest of the low- as you are giving birth??? You are NOT dumb, you know how he is. Stop it. Tomorrow is your new you and your new mom hood just different without him under the roof. Stop. It will NEVER work.
Xo
My heart goes out to you whilst yours probably feels like it’s breaking right now. You will be feeling so many emotions which you need time to work through along with some pretty tough decisions ahead.
Lots of great advice and support for you from everyone on here but ultimately you need space and time to work through this day by day to think…. surround yourself with close friends and family and let no one rush you not even your husband..
This will feel like the ultimate betrayal and I for the life of me cannot understand what he was thinking, you are such a beautiful soul with a kind heart. However love and communication between you both means if you want to you can work through it. You will come through this although right now you probably don’t feel that. Take care of you and be strong for your little ones and hug them close.
My thoughts and support go to you Meghan x
I’m sorry and I understand! My heart aches for you! 💔, but whatever you do, don’t think you’re to blame whatsoever! I’ve been married for 24+ years and I still feel like I don’t belong. Some men are weak and some truly LOVE. I married a weak man.
I’m so so sorry 😢… my heart has felt this kind of pain. Prayers for you and your family
Oh Megan I’m so sorry to read this and so angry at at him for making such a stupid decision! I live in UK so haven’t read about this in tabloids. Shocked to read about it now through your blog. Remember you are a strong, beautiful and intelligent woman. But, also remember that you are allowed that time to grieve and be sad and upset. It’s such betrayal and so utterly unfair. Whatever your decision I hope you are able to fix the relation ship and grow or walk away knowing you did nothing wrong. Sending you lots of love x
my heart aches for you. you are never alone. there is a sisterhood of good people who know your pain. be strong for your babies. let you family and friends embrace you. don’t listen to social media haters who cannot be kind to others and thrive on suffering. pray. breathe. cry. build.
M – First time in my life I’ve ever responded to a post from someone I don’t know. I have been right where you are… not in public view…. but all the rest – the ‘revered’ sportsman husband, the 3 kids, the “perfect family” – whatever that means.. And then the unfathomable, meaningless (yet destroys everything) betrayal. I thought I might die – and certainly thought that would be a blessed relief from the pain more than once. Our marriage didn’t make it – I know of some that do, and that with work and time they are all the better for it. My ex just didn’t have the capacity for the hard work required to change and heal. And yet here I am – 4 years later, with a simpler (i.e. poorer lol!), honest, happy life. You’ll get through this M – and you don’t have to know what it will look like now. One breath, one step at a time – you’ll get through it x
I’m crying as I read this. You are a strong woman and for what I see a wonderful mother you will get though this. And I just hope people respect whatever Decisions you make. Sending you big ((( hugs))) xoxo
I know you don’t me. I’m just a devoted fan, loving mom to my boys and someone who understands the pain you are feeling. No matter what your decision, make it for you and your kids. Don’t let anyone influence you. If you chose to stay with your husband, you will have good and bad days. If you chose to leave, you will know in your heart. Take the time you need. Calmer heads prevail is what they say. Woman to woman, you got this… promise. Sending you peace, love, calmness for your mind, positivity and healthy love towards your babies and clarity to make the decision you chose. ❤️🙏
I am so sorry your going through this right now, I have no real advice but take it day by day. I’ve been in your situation but with different circumstances. Just do what you feel is right when you feel it’s right, if you feel like crying then cry, if you feel angry find somewhere healthy to take that anger out and if you just feel like talking then maybe counselling would be best. As for Hart I agree with a previous comment made that god has given you hart for a reason and that reason will become clear in the future. Sending love and prayers to you Meghan you are strong and you will get through this! Take care.
I have been following you on IG and have been admiring your parenting style, patience and elegance while raising 3 kids under 3. It is clear you are very involved and hands on, and make a point of being present with the kids all the time even though you could have chosen otherwise. It is so heartbreaking that you have to be humiliated in this public manner while you yourself have been nothing but a truthful, honest, loving, devoted mother and spouse. This is probably particularly hurtful for you because unlike most of the OC girls, you have always championed honesty, transparency and the truth. You were the first one to call out Brooks fake cancer and you were right! It looks like it would be hard to forgive Jim in light of his confession and hard evidence, but I hope you listen only to what your heart tells you. Only you know what’s best for you. Sending you support and good thoughts.
This is so poignantly we’ll written and REAL. Thank you for sharing your truth Meghan. I’m newly married and my heart would split in two if I had to endure his emotional fracture. I’m so sorry. I hope you two get through it and come out the other side stronger. Ultimately you’re going to do what’s best for you and your kids and it may take time to rebuilt and discover what that looks like, but we as humans be are more resilient than we realize! Sending love and light xoxo
God bless you, don’t make decisions in haste. Put your all in to your kids while they are around make them your number one focus. One day at a time, try not to overwhelm yourself in thought. Enjoy the precious moments with your kids you’ll never get back.
You are going to go through a lot of emotions over the nex weeks and months. Feel them as ugly as they will be. Make no decisions based on emotion. I am sorry you are going through this. Always trust your gut feeling. Praying for you and yours.
Dear Meghan,
I hope you will read the comments people are leaving for you. Please know that though it might feel lonely it in those sad, quiet moments where it is just you and your thoughts going over and over things or asking why?!? You are not alone and not the only woman going through this. Something very similar happened to me in my marriage only a few months ago. Sending d*ck pics, inappropriate messages with women. My husband tried to say he didn’t physically cheat too. But that is absolutely cheating. I will never look at my husband the same way, even if I’m able to forgive him and we try to fix it. Trust is the foundation to a relationship. Once its eroded you can patch it up, try to rebuild, but it will never be the same or as strong as it was originally. I am stuck at the point where I look at all of it and ask myself- if he really loved me as he says he does, how could he even think to do this? Why would he want to do this? And why would he risk hurting me or losing me? I think my head knows the answer. Just waiting around on my broken heart to accept it. I feel so bad for you. Wishing you nothing but peace, self respect, healing and strength to get through it for your children and doggy. Hugs girl.
He may have broken your heart but your spirit is alive and well. This too shall pass 🙏❤
It hurts. I’m dealing with it too. I feel like a psycho obsessing and checking their fb profile every day. I want to run through his phone and see what hes doing. I feel shut out. He said it wasnt physical and 2 years have gone by and he says hes paid for his mistakes and I shouldnt constantly bring them up. I feel a part of me left the day I found out. I think your amazing for sharing your story. I understand the heartbreak.
My heart is breaking for you. You will go through many emotions, anger, hurt, pride, and feel very sad, allow yourself time to grieve and to go through each process. Whether you decide to stay or go, is a decision only you can make. But you have your beautiful children and they need their wonderful mum! It’s ok, to ugly cry in the dark! I also hope you get some answers for Hart soon, so you know what you are dealing with. Stay strong, you got this! Lots of love and positive vibes, xxxxx
Oh my goodness I’m so sorry!!! I was cheated on too in my first marriage. But I found out after our divorce was final and behind me. But I have no children and I am not in the public eye. I hope everything works out. Especially with your children and their health. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. You’re wrong!!! You’re not alone!!! We’re all hear for you!!! Stay strong!!!
I feel so sad for you and the kids, hope you both can work through it and come out stronger the other side.
I feel you. I’ve lived with lies for so long it became the new reality. The worst is behind you, from here it will only get better!
Sending you soo much love x
I’m SO sorry!!! This hasn’t happened to me personally but I see it happen often & all I think is. why destroy another persons entire life? Not only that but then your children? I question why if someone didn’t want their marriage, they didn’t just leave. The problem is they do want their perfect family & have their side piece. It’s not possible.
You are so beautiful, generous, intelligent & committed, among a million other wonderful things! My favorite is your interactions with Aspen. That is my favorite age. To hear you give him the excuse that something is “broken” in him breaks my heart. I know you aren’t thinking right. You’re broken right now, not him. He’s just selfish.
I know my
Opinion doesn’t matter but I hope you talk to someone who’s opinion does matter to you & realize that a cheater is always a cheater & that he didn’t do that just to you, he took those babies innocence & made a conscious decision to harm all of you.
You are such a strong lady! You’re going to get through this. My heart hopes so much that you realize what you deserve! He risked losing the best thing that happened to him & there are great men in this world. I have one. I hope you choose one too.
My 11 year old was just dx with a neuro condition too. It’s terrifying. It’s going to be ok though. We almost lost his twin when he was 5. It was the worst time of my life! He was in Seattle Childrens for 3 months. Exactly 2 years before, I was an active, fit, mom with 3 teenagers & twin toddlers. I woke up & was paralyzed. I also spent 3 months in the hospital. I was told that st the most, I had 5 years to live. They were wrong. I’m on 8. I was fortunate to reverse the attack from the disease & can walk again. I won’t ever be cured or strong & can have an attack anytime.
My point is my husband went through all that, including the financial ruin we continually experience from medical expenses. I have to be on chemo forever. My little babies were taken & put in day care. He had to take them & cried every day in the parking lot for a week. We struggle at a level that makes us wish morning wouldn’t come. My point is, through all the stress, we never strayed from each other. There’s just no excuse. I know you don’t know me, I just hope you know that I just want you to know how many of us out here feel
like we know you & want to be there for you & protect you from this pain. I wish I could take it away if I could. Don’t forget how strong you are!! All my love to you
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I feel like crying for you, it hurts enough when it happens but when the whole world knows I can’t imagine. Sending love and hugs ♥️
You can salvage your marriage if you both choose that. But this is the only time he should get a second chance. Everybody makes mistakes but if he does it again it’s not a mistake. I will keep you all in my prayers and I hope your little guy will be healthy and happy always.
Thanks for sharing Meghan. Really brave. You deserve better than this. I hope you can heal and move on and most of all I pray that Hart gets better.
Some battles are not worth fighting. Know that you are ENOUGH. Then keep it moving, in this world NO ONE is perfect. Love your man and understand that he made a mistake. He is living with shame and regret don’t add salt to the wound by putting your business in the streets. Talk to him and your spiritual leader. Pray because this too shall pass. At least he didn’t leave you broke on public assistance. With no transportation. With a STD or UTI….. men are visual so I blame the chick she knew he had a woman in his life. Temptation is a MF and for a man today….. girl bye!!!
You are one of the few celebrities I follow. I find you interesting, honest, beautiful, kind and fragile.
This is your life. Take time. Listen to your family and close friends.
I know social media and reality TV are not ‘real’. They are augmented, scripted, doctored.
But I can tell you that you love your husband much more than he loves you. His attitude to you on the show was arrogant, dismissive, cold, domineering. He won’t change.
You have beautiful children and a beautiful soul. Take care of yourself. X
Megan Thank you for your honesty and sharing this with us your fans. I remember being the same age as you on your 1st season of housewives and I thought “damn shes smart, strong, and beautiful”. You don’t deserve this, But I just want you to know whatever you decide to do for your future I totally a 100% support you.( I’m sure my support help you a lot lol just kidding) We go through things in life and We just ask why? So now you know you don’t have to make any decisions quickly. You’re beautiful your children are beautiful and I’m sorry you’re hurting. With time this pain will go away. I hope you can just try to take it one day at a time and just now you are a very strong smart young woman.
In time you may forgive him…until that time Give Him Hell, Girl!
Oh sweetie! You don’t deserve this! It is also not your fault. I hope you both get counseling to try and resolve your issues. I’m the person who says ,”Fuck him! Divorce him and take all his money!” 😂 I know this isn’t real life and other marriages have overcome worse betrayals. Sending healing thoughts and even if he doesn’t do the counseling, you need to for your sanity.
I’m so sorry you are going through this and very very sorry about Hart! You are such a beautiful and strong woman. You will have people tell you all day and night what THEY would do but really, it’s all about you. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel or what to do. I trust you will do what’s best for you! Sending you hugs, love, light, strength ❤️ Just know, you have tons of support, if you know them or not. Praying for you and that handsome baby!!!
Oh girl. I was exactly where you are a year ago and I’m so sorry for your pain. It’s gruieling it’s visceral and it damaging. I wish I could say it will get easier but it takes a long time.
I really feel for you Meghan , I’ve had this happen to me as well .
Once trust is gone it’s gone . You are a very decent woman with maturity way beyond your years . That is something I noticed about you early on in housewives .
You WILL get past this and there ARE decent men in the world you just happened to get mixed up with a narcissistic self centred human being that doesn’t deserve you at all .
If it was meant to be it would have worked out . Just keep that in mind while you are trying to muddle through this mess he’s created .
Shame on him .
I wish you and your babies all the very best .
Cheers
Lynda Godfrey
Australia
Your courageous and brave. You spoke your truth. Surround yourself with people who love you and have your best interest at heart. It’s going to take time, just take it day by day..sometimes minute by minute. I hope the best for you and whatever you feel is the best for you. Sending reiki and positive vibes your way.
Meghan it will take time but you will see that your babies are the priority not any man, even one you love still. Don’t let him keep you in a prison in your own head. Constantly wondering where he is, what he’s doing. That negativity is no good for those beautiful babies you have. I suggest leaving him for your kids sake. The relationship you have with him is not going to be a good one for kids to learn from. I’m sorry this is harsh but honestly, I never liked how he treated you on the show and now he’s really put you in a shitty place. Be about your kids not him, he doesn’t deserve you honey. Be strong’
Love this and love you and your family! Stay strong like I know you will and always hold your head high. Like you said don’t let this define you. It wasn’t a choice made by you. I pray for your son and that everything will be ok. Remember God can only give you as much as you can handle and welp, you’re pretty much one tough kick ass chick! Thoughts and prayers from Jupiter, FL <3
Meghan,
I went to high school with Jim and used to count his pitches. But know, nothing that life throws at you will ever be more than you decide you can handle.
I, too, although a month before my wedding found out my fiancé was cheating. I say, once of anything can be considered a mistake, but more than once are choices . However, I was not the first he’d cheated on, but I believe I’ll be the last. Through his own individual counseling and couples counseling he did the work that helped him put the pieces back together. As my husband now, he explains that he was ready to face his ugly truths because the facades and lies were so tiring and it is no way to live. Ultimately, our demise was communication, or lack thereof. He would have entire conversations in his head; I was never to be included. His father also cheated. So many things uncovered. Point being, if Jim is willing to get help, it is a step in the right direction, although you may not know where it will lead.
I feel for you. It was two years before we were engaged again. Time is your friend for healing and repairing.
Trust in God. He was and is there for me and is for you too.
R
I am so sorry you are going through this. I am praying for you and your family. God can heal you and your marriage. Your marriage can survive infidelity and be stronger because of it.
Please find a good Christian marriage counselor.
I am also praying for your children.
Oh Meghan, you are a truly genuine person, I feel so sad for you. But I have to say this a cheater will lie for him/her self, you will never get the whole truth from him, believe me. You may not see it now but you will move on, it will take a long time. Your pain will eventually go but the betrayal will never. You are number one, you must look after yourself to recover, so you can look after your children.
I feel for you, you seem to have a substantial support system around you, they will be there for your love and support.
stay true to yourself and your children stay strong even when you feel and thing that you can not do it. this too shall pass and did nothing wrong do not let others judge you or mistreat you… you do not deserve this no one deserves this to happy to them… your children need you and you need to be true to yourself.
My heart goes out to you and my prayers will go to you and your beautiful family. In the name of God I declare Hart’s brain and body clean of any bad matter. Fight for your marriage, fight for your kids and let God guide you during this process.
Dear Meghan,
I, too, was cheated on and it was the most devastating and life changing event ever to happen to me. The affair woman outed the relationship to me and I have often wanted to write her a thank you note, but never did. I had a 6 mo old baby girl and a 2.5 yr old son when this happened. God plucked me out of this marriage when I didn’t know what was happening b/c I believe he wanted something better for me. It made me be choose God above everything else and that has changed my life for the better.
It’s not fair. But God wants something better for you and you have to look to him for guidance and support. He will lift you up and show you the way
I’m praying for your heart to slowly heal, your son’s health to improve and for you to feel safe knowing that God is taking care or you and has you right where he wants you to be despite these difficult life challenges.
Big hugs and bigger prayers for you sweet Meghan
I’m truly sorry for your pain and anguish, most especially about Hart. Praying for him. You were wise to share. If people are going to gossip, let them gossip the truth. I do hope your marriage can overcome this. Imagine an inch on a yard stick as being the bad times and the other 35 as happy times. Do you really want to give up all of that for a relatively small amount? I agree, physical contact would be an absolute deal breaker. Whatever happens, you are worth to be loved completely. Peace to you.
I’m sorry. I’m in a 18 year marriage. The first time I found nude photos in the glovebox in my husband’s car. I had a 1 year old at home, in the thick of life, so I let it go. 6 months ago, I noticed some communication with an ex girlfriend on his phone. I warned him that time I won’t tolerate it. 2 weeks ago, something happened again. The fire inside me lit up and I’m now in counseling to consider leaving. I hope this is a one time thing for you. But if not, your fire will light at some point too. It’s a terrible, terrible feeling.
Your his third wife leave the SOB !!!! Theres a reason hes been married three times .Your kids need a strong mother -you stay with him your kids will lose out ! He has opened a door for you to always have doute-the seal of trust has been broken!Take your kids and run-you dont need a man that wants to roll around with dogs-hes just a pig ! Nothing agaisnt you within in 2-3 years he will be on wife number 4 Meghan let her have him !!!
I am so truly heartbroken for you. You are such an open, kind and caring person and I know this is just ripping you apart. I wish you peace as you work through this and I hope you get back to the happiness and love you deserve. Hang in there and know MANY people are supporting you. 💛
I’m praying for you- you are a wonderful person
I’m so sorry for your pain Meghan. This is beautifully written. ❤️
Hi I don’t know where to begin. I’m 6 months post finding out about husbands work affair that lasted a year. The texts, the gifts and yes the seedy meeting they had. We have been married 23 years and he is my best friend. I’m getting better but it’s hard. I was also told he was trying to protect me. I kept investigating and would find more out everyday. I had the right to know everything, but I know I will never truly know the 100% truth. I used to watch you on RHOC and wow just as you probably thought, I never thought Jim would do this to you. I never thought my husband would do this either. My mistress is nothing like me. She’s uneducated, not cultured, trashy, I could go on and on. Megan I don’t have the answers as I to am still struggling but I do know if you can learn to live with it and you love him and want to be with him you have to try. I don’t know if that’s the answer but I know that you will find your way each day as I have. I’m just a woman like you, I take care of myself, I love my man, I try and be an awesome wife and it still happened to me. If you ever want to talk to a real woman about the same exact thing, the creepy text, the creepy everything you know how to find me. Love ya, Tracy
So sorry, what a shame. No one deserves that! Especially to find out while you were pregnant, just plain shameful. Unfortunately, usually the saying is true: ‘once a cheater, always a cheater.’ He can change for a bit, will be begging at your feet, but in the end, it’s hard for a man to truly change. Or anyone for that matter! Prayers for you and your lovely children.
My heart breaks for you! You are the one person in “celebrity world” who ever came out and shared there rawest actual feelings. Trust will be hard… but right now your children need you so… continue your late night ugly cries… they will eventually end… prayers are with you and your son! Somethings happen for a reason… why don’t know.. but as difficult as it might be…time will heal…. but work together for your children xxxxooo
Understand his behavior has nothing to do with you and everything to do with how he handles life. He is self sabotaging. Probably due to never learning how to make healthy choices when things get tough. He needs to get into therapy ASAP.
Please know that I never reply on any celebrity news story, but this has compelled me. Thank you for sharing because your honesty and frankness are most refreshing in these days and times. Many choose to live with smoke and mirrors simply for financial gain. You are an exception to the rule and should be commended.
My heart breaks for you. My best advice is for you to concentrate on your children fully during each day, until you are exhausted and can sleep at night. Try to make the best out of every dark day because, without a doubt, there is a light at the end of this depressing tunnel. You will smile again, though it doesn’t feel like it today, and you will be happy. But for today, just get through it.
I have been through this. I am sad for you and your family……enough said. Stay strong beautiful xo
I am so very sorry to hear this. I had thoughts that with your lifestyle and money that happiness was a given. I know that this is small comfort when you have devoted yourself to Jimmy and the children. I always thought you had every thing a woman could ever want. I see that money doesn’t always buy happiness. I am so sorry that you feel the need to get in the car to “ugly cry”. I was cheated on by my husband of 22 years. I am lucky to have found happiness again with my now husband of nearly 15 years (after a 6 year courtship). I was not wanting to jump back in, because once you lose trust, its hard to get it back. Counseling helped me understand it was not my fault. Maybe you could try doing that, not just couples therapy, but just for you. I had 2 great daughters with my ex. I keep in touch with him, and we are amicable. I can honestly say I am really glad I am not married to him any more. The years have NOT been good to him. He married the other woman, and suffice to say they are not supremely happy together and his health has destroyed him. I didn’t wish it on him, but I am smart enough to know I am glad I’m not still with him. I have a really loving relationship and strong friendship with some one who loves and respects me now. I wish you healing, and comfort. I will keep reading your blogs and following you and your little band of children. I will pray for your son, and hope that he can be helped medically. My personal motto, is “There but by the Grace of God, go I.” There is always someone out there who has greater problems and worse situations. Feel Blessed. There is always someone Greater than ourselves who can comfort you and loves you no mater what may come. Take it to Him in prayer if you are a believer. Love, Mrs. PJFunnybunny. XOXO.
You deserve better…. I’m so very sorry.
He is an idiot.
All that matters now is your children. Pour yourself into them. They will love, appreciate and respect you the way you deserve (until they’re teenagers… but it’s only a phase) for the rest of your life.
Life is short.
Too short and precious for this humiliation and betrayal.
Protect yourself.
Believe nothing more he says; be guided only by his actions and allow what you see and feel to determine where you go from here. And, take it day by day.
Do not relegate yourself to being someone’s probation officer and to a life that’s wrapped in always wondering why you weren’t enough or when he’s going to stray again. It may not happen today or tomorrow but one day… you will discover the strength to reclaim the peace and security of the true and faithful love you deserve.
You know who you are… Be your father’s daughter.
Don’t be afraid.
xo
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Megan you are a beautiful woman inside and out. I’m sorry you’re hurting so much. And for all your going through.
I don’t know if you’ll even read this but if you except stranger hugs and prayers I am here ((())).
Take care of yourself… make sure you’re eating and try to give yourself a break focus on your kiddos.
I’m wishing the best for your son. He has a strong mom who will help him navigate whatever life brings.
Sincerely. Michele Kellems
So emotionally raw..your wounds so fresh….thank you for your pure heart and vulnerability!! Your words are relateable and eloquent…I’m so sorry for the emotional rollercoaster you never chose to ride:(
You will get through this. Praying for you, your family and a little extra for Hart.
I’m so sorry your going through this it’s so unfair I relate to a lot of what you have said and have been dealing with similar issues in my marriage for ten years. We have two beautiful children together and I can’t face tearing their little world apart so I carry on and try to forgive but I never forget it’s permanent damage like a bereavement. Then he begs for forgiveness and tells me it’s my decision to end the marriage or not well thanks a bunch it’s a decision I never want to have to make, it’s a huge burden of responsibility which he caused but somehow I end up with it and that makes you more angry. My thoughts are with you I hope you get through it lovely stay strong x
You are an awesome mom and wife! I’m so sorry for what you’re going through! Unfortunately…you are NOT the first person to go through this and you won’t be the last! Stay strong and pray, pray, pray! God will give you strength!!
I never reply to stuff like this but in my own personal experience with this exact situation it takes a lot of time to process. Being in the public eye makes things that more magnified and it leaves people to judge you without knowing you. I think you are a great mom and do your best to navigate through life. You will make the best decision for you and your family and only you know what’s best. Take care and stay strong!!
My heart is broken for you! You can get past this & find someone who is 100% loyal- you deserve more & will get it. Don’t waste energy on that shithead. You will overcome this! I am so sorry!
Keeping you in prayer and hoping for the best. I have been through this and reconciled with my husband, now married 28 years. It was extremely difficult and I wasn’t in the public eye like you so I can imagine it is even more difficult. 12 years have passed for me and it gets easier and better, but you have to chose to trust if you chose to stay. It is a gaping wound today that will become merely a scar that you’ll always remember but the hurt goes away.
So sorry you’re having to go through this, Meghan. Especially publicly. Know you are not alone. Hope is a powerful thing. You will find healing within this. I pray that your little family make it through the storm and thrive. I pray that you find a way to trust your best friend again, and I pray that he finds a way to heal himself so that he can repair what he broke with you. I don’t know if you are Christian. That doesn’t matter. But I wanted to leave you these words for whatever comfort you may find in them…. the Lord is close to the broken hearted and rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
All the best to you and your family,
Kayla
Keep your head held high. Focus on the kids. They need Mom sing dance and laugh. That will keep your mind busy The rest will fall into place.
So sorry to see you sad. But you are one strong bitch!! X0 Robin
I’m so sorry.
Continue to be brave, warrior.
This is the best thing I’ve ever read as a response to a public scandal. Ever.
I, too, was in pretty much your exact situation at about your age…. 3 small kids, focusing my life on raising them, Being a GOOD mother, trusting that I had a good man having my back. I remember the empty feeling. I can sometimes still feel that VOID if I allow myself to go to that buried place in my heart and mind. This WILL NOT define you, but it will shape you. Don’t allow it to ruin your heart. Don’t allow it to ruin the reasons you fell in love with your husband. Don’t allow it to make you cynical. You will never be the person you were before you found out, but allow yourself to embrace the woman you become. You will find yourself focusing on being the woman you want your daughter to become and raising your boys to become men who never make a woman feel the way you do now. Although it doesn’t be feel like it now, you WILL survive this. I pray you find peace in your journey ♥️
Honey, you betrayed him every time you forced him with the children issue. He told you (on camera!) that he didn’t want kids but you wouldn’t let him have that choice. It would have worked better for you to find someone younger who wanted kids as much as you. Now the kids will suffer because he needed to go elsewhere for validation. Im sure he loves the kids but he just didnt want fatherhood again. Next time, really listen.
Well said . My heart hurts for you . I hope time heals your broken heart .
My heart broke when I saw this. My heart breaks for you. Dig deep within yourself and find your OWN strength. It’s there. You can get through this. <3
To error is human…to forgive is devine. Praying for you and your little angels🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for sharing all of this with us. We have no right to know any of it but yet you shared it. I hope it helps you to be able to tell your side. You are understandably hurt and sad. But you are also strong and brave. And you will get through it. I am so sorry to hear about your son. You don’t know me, but I am sending you wishes of peace and healing. I always liked you on RHOC but now I like you even more.
We’re sad too Meghan. Sad that this has happened to a wonderful person like yourself. Unfortunately in today’s society, it happens too often to marriages. Marriage is already tough without this type of betrayal. Keep in mind your honesty and release of emotion is helping someone else who is too ashamed and defined by the experience to talk openly. I’ve told my husband early in our marriage that I don’t know if I’m the type of person that could get over it if it happened. I know people do and i commend them for it. It’s hard and there is a community hearing you and wishing only what is best for you.
I am praying for you💖 For wisdom ! Your such a beautiful person & should be respected! It’s going to hurt for awhile but pray God heals you & restores your joy!💞
Proud of you! You are an example to many woman out there and to your kids. Thanks for sharing your journey. Beautiful lady inside and out.
Keep your head up and your heart open. Jimmy needs to get to the root of why he would do such a thing and work from that. It’s not you. It’s not your kids. It’s something he has to work on and you have to decide to support him on that work or not. I wish both of you nothing but happiness and love to endure the hard things life throws our way.
Many blessings.
The same thing happened to me recently so I know exactly how you feel. Stay strong and know that you are worthy and deserve love and respect. Men stray because they are weak. They can’t face the hard times. If he can look within himself and find out why he did what he did and decide that he wants to be there for you 100%, there is a chance to save the marriage. I wish you the best!! Keep talking about it because it will help you heal. And best wishes for Hart’s good health!!
I’m heartbroken for you Meghan as a woman,sister, mother and wife who has been through this. I would not wish this feeling of betrayal on anyone. I send you love and a hope for strength and wellness. From a sister sending love ♥️
Girl you got this! Life is tough, no matter what your zip code is! Keep in mind he didn’t do this to or because of you. Albeit it may feel very personal, it is not! It is something in him, he is human, he is hurting or struggling in some way and made some bad choices in his coping. He may not even understand the totality of his struggles. If he is your person, then this is a blerp in life and this to shall pass! Not to minimize your feelings, his choices do affect you (they are just not because of you), so take all the time you need to process and heal! Just remember to keep it in perspective and keep your head up. I applaud your positive out look already! You will do a phenomenal job healing as a family if you are able to keep your current outlook! Regardless of the outcome, your family must heal together! Sending my love to you and yours!
It pains me to say something mean on the internet, but your life is/was public and I saw how badly he treated you on TV, The guy is a self centered douche. Period. Get rid of him. You seem to have the means to make it on your own. You’re smart and one of the most physically beautiful women I have ever seen. You can find someone that will treate you like the Goddess that you are.
I am very sorry you are going through this. You (and your children) deserve so much better. He should be humiliated – not you. What I find the most egregious is that once he was caught, he continued lyiing to you by saying that he paid her off to protect you. No way, that was solely to protect himself. If he was concerned about protecting you and his family, he would not have made the decision to repeatedly engage in that behavior. I am so sorry he put you in this difficult position. You are strong and will get through this. I hope you find peace with whatever decision you make regarding your marriage
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He seems to be very needy & extremely immature seeking attention to what he thinks is excitement outside the marriage. It’s not you, it’s him.
If trust is broken, it never works the same again.
Relationships are built on trust & loyalty, without that you have nothing.
Stay strong. My heart aches for you and I know I don’t know you, but no woman should be betrayed by her best friend and husband. Sending love and healing for your family my darling, from just a Hershey Pa mum and wife.
I feel your pain. I know you have babies BUT it’s time to go while you are still young. He will never change although he will promise to. You will always be on edge after every night he comes home late! Seeing his phone on a table..you will want to check it. It will be the ruination of YOU….you will never feel a true peace. You WILL go through a ‘new honeymoon phase’ due to his being contrite…but, after that hot minute, you will still remember and it will eat away your spirit which will, in the long run, affect your children. You will have the finances to make a new life, I urge you to do so, or prepare to never, ever feel completely happy with him again…or yourself for staying….
Perfectly written. I feel your pain in each of your words. I am so sorry this happened to you. I myself am a firm believer in once someone cheats…its over.
How do you come back from that? Are you now the wife having to check his phone, question every response to your many questions?? It’s a crazy unfair and selfish rollercoaster he has brought you two on. And unfortunately not many can come back from this. You deserve peace. I wonder what issues he truly has to do such dumb disgusting things to his beautiful wife. As if you couldn’t get any man you want? How foolish of him. He my have just lost the best thing about him. You!
I Wish you well. Whatever path you choose. Blessings to your children for good health and happiness.
Meghan, you are so brave and strong to share this with the World. This will not break you!!!! I know the pain of betrayal is so deep that it makes it hard to breathe, but you will get through this. I hope you find solace in your beautiful children.
You are amazing! You got this! ❤️
My heart is broken and sad for you. I’m so sorry but stay the strong women you are! Thinking and praying for you and the kids. Also praying you can work this out. Love has girl ❤
I’m so sorry that you are going through this, marriage is sacred. Take it one day at a time, stay strong for yourself and the children. Saying a prayer for Hart🙏🏻 And sending a hug 🤗 to you.
You have to do what is right for you and your family no one can tell you how to feel an act every one reacts differently take time away from social media and rebuild your marriage x your a strong women a amazing mum and a loyal wife but u need time huge big hugs from me xxx
I’ve been where you are. The ugly cry. The worry. The hurt. My husband had a non-physical relationship with another woman 2.5 years ago. We are getting stronger each day. But it’s been a process. We have 2 amazing little girls and I fought for our marriage for them. And I’m glad that I did. It will not be easy. But if you both want it. You will do it. Good luck and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
You are one brave & super strong woman that has been inflicted with the ultimate betrayal by your husband. First, you need self care in or to process at your pace. Seeking & speaking to a professional will help you tremendously. Secondly, your husband needs to seek the same assistance. He has to figure out why he behaves & acts out this way. From your words; there is no doubt you love him and willing to work towards understanding, healing & a renwal of trust. May God be with you all.
I will pray for you both. I have been through a similar situation with my husband and even eight years later I can’t let it go. It’s been eating me alive all this time and I have never even gotten an I’m sorry from him. Unlike you I’m a nobody so no one out there cares about the hurt and anger I carry towards this man every day. I should have left and not looked back but it’s too late for that. I realize that no matter how good our intentions are and how much we love some people are just to broken and we can’t fix them. Please concentrate on healing yourself and your beautiful children.
I’m so sorry to hear of this heartache. You will get through this. YOU are the rock of your family.
My fiancé and father of my 2 year old son recently cheated on me. He and I worked together in a law firm. I am an attorney he is also an attorney. He started up with a secretary from our firm… my boss found out and my fiancé was asked to leave the firm. I found out about the affair from my boss! I felt like I was going to have a nervous breakdown… like you said, this had nothing to do with me.
Now I’m a month post the nuclear explosion of my life. My fiancé and I are “still together” but not the same. We are starting fresh, starting over for our son and ourselves. Taking it day by day. Putting work in. In a strange way this has been liberating. I feel strong. I’m prioritizing my needs. I don’t give F*** what anyone else thinks. I’m doing what is best for me and our family.
Best to you and your family send love and positive vibes! ❤️🙏
So well written. Thinking of you and your children.
Very well said Meghan. I can tell you from experience, you can overcome this and your marriage can work after something like this. My husband cheated on me during our engagement it took 110% commitment and alot of effort on his part to right his wrong. Did it work ? Yes, I will be honest it took many years to regain trust but I am happy to say we have been married for 27 years and we have two wonderful sons. You are so right marriage does take work but the work two people are willing to put into it will determine it’s success. If he loves you he will fight to make things right with you, it make take years to trust again as it did for me but it can happen. He has much work to do, Hang in there sweetie.
no one, no man, is perfect. Sometimes all we can do is forgive. Your children need a father, a human father, one who when he errors, apologizes and means it, and continues to love. Your kids also need a mother, who considers them first and shows them how to forgive. They need strong , solid parents, who learn from and conquer their mistakes. Keeping your family together will be the best for everyone, so try. Love can still conquer all.
I have been where you are. You need to put you first. Do your healing and insist that Jimmy get help so that he can figure out why he is choosing this behavior. Your marriage can be saved if you both want it to but you will never trust him the same. Once betrayed like that by the one you really love and you thought really loved you, it is never the same again. His selfish behavior ruined that sense is security forever. Hang in there, surround your self with positive people, go to a therapist that you trust. You cannot change what happened so move forward, your babies need you. You will get through this and you will remain strong this will not break you. Much love.
Meghan – I recently found out my husband was in an affair and it was not the only one. Details do not matter. Pain is pain. Betrayal is betrayal. I feel for you. I am no one. This is happening to you for the entire world to see and you don’t deserve that. You don’t deserve any of it. Your emotions will be on a rollercoaster. Believe me. I hope you can trust him again but truth be told it’s only the weak who trick themselves into believing it won’t happen again. A strong and smart girl knows her worth and refuses to have her sparkle dulled. The saying, “once a cheater, always a cheater” exists because it is true. I hope you feel the love and support from every woman who has been humiliated. We’ve got you.
I’m glad you got it out ! As a woman who has been in your shoes, I totally feel your pain all over again. It’s very healing to talk about it and tell people, if you hold it in it makes you physically sick! I tried but just couldn’t stay. You have to do what’s right for you and it may be not now that you leave, it may be later. Or you may not. My point is it’s good to talk about it ,don’t hold it in, and find out other women have been through this and you’re not alone ❤️
I’m so sorry you’re going through this on top of all the other things you have to deal with. Hart, your neck, everyday life as a mom of 3 young babies. You are strong, you are an amazing mom. This doesn’t have to be the end. But, you’ll both need counseling both together and individually. I wish you the very best and am praying for you and your family.
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My heart breaks for you Meghan. You deserve to be happy and loved and feel safe and secure. I hope he hears your voice asking why. I hope he understands your anguish. I hope he understands he broke his most sacred contract with you. Mostly I hope you both can repair your marriage. Trust is the most important thing to get back but unfortunately the hardest. You have many people behind you including people you don’t know (obviously me). Wishing you a bit of relief from your despair at this terribly trying time. ♥️
It’s happened to the best of us, Meghan … no matter which path you choose, through the grace of God, time will heal this …I know when I was where you are, ppl told me this and it almost angered me bc I felt like it was minimizing my pain, but now that I’m 10 years on the other side of it, it’s true and life has gone on …. I watched you on tv and if I came away with one impression of you, it’s that you’re a very strong woman …take strength in your kids, family, and the ppl closest to you …they’re going to be the ones who help you navigate through this in a loving and sheltering way …I’m very sorry this happened to you and I just want you to know you’re gonna be ok – keep your chin up & stay beautiful ❤️
I feel so bad for you and I will says prayers of healing for both you and your husband! You are such an amazing and sweet woman. Love to you and those adorable babies. I will say prayers for your children too. 💜🙏🏻💜🙏🏻💜
Been there after 24 years of marriage. Pray.
Half the battle is him recognizing, acknowledging and embracing his moral deception and poor judgement. He needs to love you and that beautiful family of yours more than his risk of losing it. Sounds like he needs to weigh out his actions and work hard to move in the direction that his heart leads him in. You got this Meghan, never lose sight of your worth. Xoxo
Sweetheart, I went through the same thing a decade ago. I found out my husband was having an affair and one week later my 2 year son was diagnosed with autism.
The pain was unbearable. The pain was more from the fact that I had suspected that something was wrong with my son and for a year my husband ignored me, called me crazy, told me that I was dramatic and that our son was fine.
All that time that I sat and worried about our son, my husband was having an affair and dropping a ton of money on her.
That felt like even more of a betrayal. All I can tell you is, it is NOT YOUR FAULT.
I am suggesting a family Therapist named Terry Real. He is well known throughout the country and has vast experience breaking down very powerful and wealthy Men and putting their massive egos in check.
We went to him and he very skillfully made my husband realize what an incredible prick he had become and it truly saved our marriage. One last bit of advice… If Jim shows true remorse and does everything in his power to win you and your family back, then that is a man who deserves another chance. This pain will pass. It takes time honey.
You are an incredibly strong woman, You got this girl!
So sorry Megan. Will pray for you and your precious children. Have faith in better days to come. Tomorrow is promised to no man so try to live each day for yourself and your children who need the loving mother they have known.
I am so sorry that you are going through this! It hits home to me because I also went through the betrayal, humiliation and devastation of cheating too. First, just remember that you did NOTHING to deserve this to happen. Conscious choices were made that had nothing to do with you. Secondly, it’s your choice how you handle the situation. Some people will want you to kick him to the curb. Some will want you to work it out. Everyone has an opinion of what THEY would do in this situation! But until someone is in that situation themselves, they really don’t know what they would do, Whatever you decide to do, make it the decision that is best for you. Unfortunately, it just takes time to get through something like this. You have the raw pain to deal with right now. Find your best support system of loved ones who will be there for you but support whatever decision that you make. I know it was hard to share these details. But you ARE on the road to healing when you can talk about what is going on and share your feelings and not hold everything in. I am a good example that you CAN be happy after being betrayed and that life can be great! It just takes time, patience and a lot of work. Hang in there and stay strong even though you feel like you are dying inside! You’ve got this!
Meghan, that was beautifully written and straight from the heart! Continue to focus on yourself and all of your miraculous babies and that will allow you to keep going in the right direction for you. No one is judging you, we are all supporting you and want to see you get through this with dignity. You need you and your babies need you and that’s all you can control right now. The rest will work itself out in the end.
I’m so sorry for this to happen!! But what you just said is so true in so many ways!! You are awesome!! Keep your head up!!
You are such a strong before woman Meg!! Keep pushing those tall mountains forward you will become stronger in the end!! Sending a big hug to you. ❤️
I thought you were the only honest and decent housewife on RHOC. You made a wise choice to leave that show and move on. Now, just finding out about your husband’s infidelity (physical or digital) is so sad I have never written any person I don’t know, but I was drawn to your blog. Your raw emotion and stance that nothing matters outside of your family unit says it all. Why? Why? Why? In this age of digital media their is no privacy, only the choice to chose wisely what you post, text, etc. This woman has obviously found some weird, convoluted ‘pride’ in her notoriety and the invasion into someones life that did nothing to deserve or be a part of this public humiliation. Yes, Jim’s choices (multiple) make NO logical sense. But, then again, he wouldn’t be the first husband to cheat on a pregnant wife. Sometimes I think the dick rules their head. Who knows? It’s sad indeed. Praying for you to stay strong, be the best Mom you can be during this difficult time.
Prayers for your heart & soul
Do what ever you have to do for you
Hold tight to YOUR family
I have been there
Marriage of 25 years 4 days before our Anniversary
Sexting CRAZY stuff for 2 months
3 years later & I am a different person from all of this but like you said it is your CHOICE
Do what YOU have to do for YOU
God watches over all
May you have some moments of love & kindness
Prayers for you & your children
God NEVER Fails
Dont be so hard on yourself in reflecktion
Take time to heal .cause betrayal Hurts
I have been where u are .It takes a whole loy of forgivness..And Time A lot of Time but 59 years later .we made it until he passed 3 years ago ..Because under his cheating ways .He was a good father and a good man .who i loved .You can forgive but you will never forget .Men are hard to understand..But look for the man u feel in love with .He his still there .Men are very Vain Humand beings .always looking for valiation of there man hood..Magan i wish nothing but Hope and Love of family for you
Mary .
You are loyal and loving. He was always aloof and cold. He is a liar. You don’t deserve that. Get out now. You are young and gorgeous and have so much to give to a good man. He is not a good man. He is a cheater…an old, funny looking has been. He will regret what he has done and you will always remember his betrayal. Picture yourself in love with someone else…younger, truer, a solid trustworthy man. As time goes in, you’ll get over the pain. Run!
Baby girl you are strong. It’s okay to be sad and angry. It’s okay to stay and work through it. It’s okay to leave and work through it. What is not okay is the entire world in your business. It is the downside of public life. Ignore the haters. Talk to someone who has gone through it and come out the other side, like Kathie Lee Gifford, and heal.
Sorry you are dealing with this crap but his history with marriage should have been your first clue. Leave his ass!
Most important thing right now is your sons neurological disorder. Sounds like you are addressing that. If you don’t get the answers you need then please contact Mayo Clinic. Go right away. Don’t waste time with local doctors if you feel they aren’t getting you anywhere. I’m sorry about Jimmy but you have Shannon you can always ask advice from. People make mistakes but God is able. Now is the time to seek out the Lord because he will go before you and give you the victory. You’re not alone. God is drawing you near him during this time. Seek and you will find. Knock and the door will be opened. Prayers for you and your sweet baby!
God bless you and the children. I know how you feel. I tried to repair my relationship with counseling, etc. But the trust factor was never repaired. It was hard but for my own well being I finally decided to move on. You seem to be a strong woman. Just have faith that things will get better. I realized I was a happier person out of the relationship than to remain and constantly worry if he was cheating again. The only bad thing is that I am having difficulty trusting any man now. Good luck Megan.💕
Megan,
I don’t ever respond to posts or blogs but yours touched me. I wanted to read your blog after seeing the social media stories.
I’m sad for you. My husband did this exact thing and I found out three years ago while we were on a ski trip with our daughter. I felt compelled to stay as his father had passed away two weeks prior to my discovery of what he did. I’m still healing and we are still broken. I just recently started wearing my wedding ring again. I chose to stay because I love him. He’s a wonderful father. And how could I shut off 20 years of loving him? I couldn’t. But he broke trust and stepped outside of our marriage vows.
It’s a struggle every single day. I still have days where I replay moments and conversations. I contacted the other woman and her story doesn’t match his, of course. Who do I believe?
He’s remorseful and embarrassed. As he should be. This did not define me. But it changed me. I am stronger, more confident and know I will be alright. With or without him.
My situation is not public as yours is but I relate. I’ll pray for your strength to get through the darkest of days when your anger and sadness may feel so overwhelming that you struggle to get dressed or eat as I did.
It will get better. I don’t know when but it will.
I am so sad for you, words cannot express how hurtful this situation is. I know from experience sweet girl that the choice you have to make now is probably going to be the hardest you’ll ever have to. Think of yourself!!! Yes I said it, think of yourself!!! I am giving you this advice because an unhappy marriage is more scarring than a single parent/ see Dad on the weekend arrangement. I will keep Hart in my prayers.
I am interested that not a single male responded to this article.
Get to joint counselling immediately. If he won’t go, that’s a bad sign, but go on your own anyway.
Only he can decide how he wants to go forward in this marriage (as is or faithful). Only you can accept the answer.
Were you aware of his numerous infidelities throughout marriages 1 & 2 (most who followed baseball and more were)? Did you talk about those ahead of time? Or did you at least talk about why he divorced before? Did he lie about it?
Best wishes. You are in a sick spot and men like him make me sick.
I am so sorry for you. You are totally right , you don’t and didn’t deserve this at all. You need to stay strong for you and for your kids. It will be hard to trust again and you may never get past this but hopefully with time you can trust him again. I hope everything works out for you and your family. Sheryl
Oh, Meghan. My heart hurts for you.
My husband and I have walked through this experience (although not so publicly) and I knew that fundamentally it would either break or bind us.
I may only offer the medicine that worked for us:
Return to Christ.
So sorry this happened in your life, but sometimes it takes a jolt to bring you closer…if two people love each other and there children it can be put back together…people do stray not that it is right but it happens…have faith in Jesus. Time will heal all for you your husband and children. Have faith it will take time but it will happen for you and your beautiful children.
A fan of yours
So sorry Meghan. Sending hugs and love from Minnesota. Praying for you and your kids.
Sweetie my heart breaks for you💔i know this all to well but i will say it has taken a long time but we were able to work threw the darkness i have found light again with my best friend i pray for the peace love and light for you both🙏🙏♥️ God Bless you and your beautiful babies you son will get threw this with your love momma🙏♥️♥️
Oh no my dear sweet Meaghan… my heart breaks for… everything you did to have a family and to have this happen to you is just so hurtful…. Please know there are so many in your corner thinking and praying for you! 😱💔🙏🏼💔😭
Sending you all the love I can Meghan xoxo
Well, I think that if Jimmy didn’t have a prenup with you, he would have thought twice about doing stupid crap like that. That prenup gave him the balance of power. I think that what he did really stinks. It’s so low, gross and petty. And then he paid her off? That is very dishonest. If I were you, I wouldn’t talk to him for about a year. He needs to have severe consequences for his actions. You should just go away on a trip and not come back for a long time. He will feel really bad and then start to miss you and realize how dumb he was to do that.
I feel really bad for you because I know I would be devastated if my husband ever did this to me. I have nightmares about it sometimes. Sorry this happened. I think you should take a really hard line against him and make him pay. Don’t just forgive him right away. Make him feel horrible and make his life miserable for a long time. That is what he deserves, and giving him severe consequences is the way to make sure he doesn’t do it again. If I were you I wouldn’t speak to him for a year, I would go away on a trip, and I would spend a lot of money on whatever I wanted. He needs to pay for breaking his vows. Good luck to you.
God bless you Meghan. I know your heart is ripped to shreds. Focus on your babies. God’s got you.
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I am so sorry. You have no reason to be ashamed or embarrassed. Walk with your head high. This is his burden to live with for the rest of his life. Sending you peace.
I’’m sad for you and your adorable kids. Prayers for healing:-)
You’re Brave.
My heart breaks for you. Been where you are when the person who was supposed to protect chose destruction. And, yes, while pregnant with our 2nd child. Therapy and “us” didn’t work. He’s still with the woman and I’ve spent the last 15 years raising our kids. He’s a good guy and financially supportive just always needs validation from a woman to feel whole; to be first in line even above children. I was “lucky” in that I was an older mom/wife and had years of growth to realize this behavior and choices made was not an environment I wanted my kids raised in. All the therapy in the world wasn’t going to change his choices. Dumb choices. Selfish choices. My respect for him was shot and how do you recover when trust and respect aren’t the first item on the list for one of the two? It hadn’t been easy but my children have made the road joyous and perfect. I had to reinvent myself at 45 with a new career to contribute. No nanny, no help. Film industry hours don’t work for raising of kids. But I did it and I know for a fact my children wouldn’t be the stellar humans they are if I’d tried to “make it work” because kids know…no matter how hard we try to protect, they know and I wasn’t willing to walk that rocky path of reconciliation at their expense. Because… it wouldn’t have worked for me… that trust and respect is sooo hard to repair. Whichever path you choose, trust your gut. I wish you well. Take it one step at a time. You’ve got this cuz you’re a momma.
It is okay to be sad but stand up for u and your kids. You definitely don’t need deserve as of any woman deserve. I really hate when a woman tries to break up a family. What a piece of shit this person is!!! Take care of yourself.
That was beautifully written. I’m praying for you your family and your son. Stay strong.
You are awesome. I am a gay man. So I just want you to know WE LOVE YOU and SUPPORT you. Whatever decision you make. Come back to Bravo TV and speak your truth. Get on WWHL with Andy and speak your truth. There are so many who need to hear your journey. Take it easy on you. God Bless your family. Let.us all help you. Want to hear more about your son. Time will heal. Love, Jim
Hi Meghan, my heart goes out to you. Praying Your little son Hart is ok too! You poor gal, you are a great mom and want only to live your life with a husband you thought you could trust. You are no different than the rest of us. You are so right having “things” means nothing if your basic needs i.e. a loving, trustworthy husband aren’t met.
Fingers crossed you and Jim are able to resolve this mess and hopefully he proves he deserves your trust. You deserve so much better girlfriend.
Hugs for you,
Carol
So you are going to try and work it out? Is that what I’m hearing from your blog? Do what you need to but be strong. If you try and work it out you’ll get hell from every end, be prepared if you end it you’ll get hell from everywhere. Regardless stand by your convictions and just be true to yourself
This sucks! Plain and simple. I’ve been there. And the pain that makes you want to vomit doesn’t just hit you and is gone. It seeps in to your very core and sits there rotting your self worth away. But here is the thing. It has NOTHING to do with you. This is All his shit. You wrote, “what is so broken in him for him to do this to me?” You are spot on about his brokenness, but it wasn’t to hurt you. It was to hurt himself… and that question, when you two are alone and calm, should be asked to Jimmy… and once you ask, put on virtual duck tape and say nothing until he is able to answer. And if you give him the time to answer… and the waiting can be grueling but worth it… you will get an answer. But don’t interrupt… wait until he tells you all of it. I learned this from Alison Armstrong and it works. Big hug to you. You got this!
Save yourself future heartache. He won’t change unfortunately. I’ve been in this exact situation. You don’t deserve this and neither do your children. He clearly doesn’t have the ability to be a loyal husband. He got caught this time, can you imagine how many other times he’s done this? You’ll drive yourself insane wondering. You’re beautiful and seem so sweet. You’ll eventually find someone worthy.
Meghan, I feel your pain, I was married for almost 23 yrs. We didn’t have children until over 10yrs into it, then twin boys, then they had autism, then he changed, then I found emails, etc, then he left us when they were 9, stupid me I thought we were in it forever, I thought our mutual goal was to help our boys have the best lives possible. Nope he let his dick take over. Im alone, Im old, Im fat, and my boys are 17, and still in trouble. They needed a Father, I am not one, they aren’t ever going to get to live their best lives because I am one tired old person. But YOU, Meghan, you are gorgeous inside and out, you have the ability to support yourself and your children. AND you still have your youth and health. Please listen to me. Dump that sorry ass looser. YOU do your life, and your kids lives, get all the money from him you can. If you are facing autism with your little boy then you will need money and a lot of it. YOU can do this. Please live your best life. You are incredible and don’t you forget it!!!!!!
I wish you nothing but a strong soul. Everyone forgets between being a wife, mom, caregivers, daughter. At the heart , there is a woman first. You have a heart and soul that needs to be cared for too. I hope you remember that , so you can be strong for your children. I’m not sure were this devastating blow in your marriage takes you. I just hope your able to look for strength in counseling, friends, and family. You’re able to tune out the harsh words of media and unkind people. Take courage and heart with healing words if encouragement. Only you will know you. What is best course of action for your family. I hope healing can happen for you. That things work out only for the best. Sending hope, strength, love and kindness.
Praying for you and family. So sad. I hope you guys can make it. Truly. 🌸
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
My heart breaks for you Meghan. You are right that him saying he didn’t have a physical affair is still and affair. Your top priority now is the kids. They will look back and see how you handled the situation and looked out for them. You are strong and will do the best.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I have been there. I’m 8 years on the other side – of course mine was not public. My marriage did not survive it and I’m thankful for that now. I remember every feeling you expressed. I’ll pray for you and your family. You are a beautiful person and have beautiful children. Also, praying you get results on Hart soon. You will get through all of this. Stay true to who you are.
I just want you to know I am praying for you and your marriage! And no it’s not easy but God can restore it and make it better just trust him!
My heart breaks for you. My ex husband cheated on me as well. It’s an insecurity and self doubt within themselves to crave the attention and consistent ego stroking. My situation was different. I didn’t have any kids so I chose to walk away. I pray for the sake of your children and for you that you can work through this and move forward. It takes time and therapy to heal. Prayers and hugs sent your way for you and your children. Xo
beautifully written. Xo on path of healing. We are stronger than we know.
Dear Meghan
It is dissapointing that how important your family is for you than it is for him. I believe you were blindsided by him.Does he feel sorry? Did he ask for a second chance? Does he have any regrets? Or he beleves this is ok in his world, not big deal? He believes you can continue with your lives as nothing had happened?
You need to analize his thoughts.
You have 3 beautiful children that no matter what desicion you make, they will always have their mom and dad.
If you give him another chance, it is not an easy task but achivable. with time he needs to fill you and your babies with all the attention and love he has never give you before as long as he leaves. You deserve this and more girl.
If you decide to.move on, you can learn coparenting which is not an easy task either. The children will have mom and dad even if they get divorce. You ate beUtiful and can may remarry with a real men that adore you and your children.
Be strong for your kids, they need you.
Love you
Meghan — I am so sorry. I’ve been a follower of yours since you started OC housewives and I think that you are so brave and strong! You will rise up. I hope your sad turns to happy. xx
I know the heartbreak and the betrayal. My husband oof 25 years betrayed me. He was out of control, he lied and he betrayed our marriage. I threw him out and lots of drama ensued. My grown kids were thrown into the mix and my family and friend said rallied around me. I was ruined. I didn’t make him leave bc I didn’t love him, he broke my trust in every way possible. Yet, over the year my heart still loves him. We are working on our marriage and he hadn’t many things to change. I am still raw and unsure if I can ever trust him. He works everyday to try to win back my trust. My family and many friends disapprove of our coming back together. If I can have the man I thought I knew and he can regain my trust, I am better off. Living with him and not with my outer family is tough and just as heartbreaking. But everyday I pray we can all move on. Stay strong and take it moment by moment. You are in my thoughts.
Hello Meghan.
I’m a widower with a unique perspective on situations. My love passed last December and left behind a daughter, a son, and her other half (me). The kiddos were my step children, but thier bio-dad didn’t want them so I petitioned and was awarded guardianship. 2nd best day of my life…lol. After my wife passed, I came to realize there aren’t many truly dedicated husbands/wives out there any more. They do exist, but are definitively a minority. A person that chooses to step off the path of being faithful to his/her other half, has metaphorically dropped and shattered s bottle of wine. It can’t be put back together, and can never be replaced with “something similar”. The choice is yours if you want a second chance copy with a touch of vinegar, or decide to find a new bottle that shines and starts pure. Regardless, it seems you are one of us that still believe marriage is a union of two halves to make one. Walk with pride that YOU are truly one of the gems in the pile of rocks. Happiness will find you again, I promise.
Sincerely and with true admiration,
Brett.
I am so sorry Meghan. You should not have this in your life. I’ve read and watched your posts over the years. I admire your strength as a mother, as an individual. You are beautiful inside and out. I’ve always admired your honesty. Your babies are beautiful and have a wonderful mommy. I’m sure you’re getting tons of responses to your post. If you do read this just know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Hart is going to be OK. Precious baby boy! 💙🙏💗
Devastating…I’ve been there (pregnant while cheated on). I was heartbroken and felt very vulnerable. I pray that every day you find strength to help you heal and care for your babies.
So sad hun u can take advice from numerous people bit only u can make the choice I have not been in this situation as coming up for 35 yrs wed for me yes we have our ups and downs we work through it I hope you make the right decision for yourself and your babies xxxx
Your are exceptional!!!
Thank you for sharing, there are so many women hurting alone. Xoxoxo
Sending prayers and strength you can get through this, you are an amazing woman
Hi Meghan I have no idea who you are, have never seen your show. I’m commenting because the same thing happened to me in 2014. Except my husband did cheat physically, many times. It absolutely wrecked me and my world, but it stopped stinging so badly after the first year I found out. We are still married and have a brilliant 4 year old, amazing 3 year old, & a sassy 8 month old. The road to stay married has been fraught with much pain, sorrow, prayer and trust in Jesus, serious contemplation of divorce by me many times, and lots of work. Lots and lots of work. It sucks so much. But, five yearslater, we are both heading in the same direction, together. Wishing you the best as you navigate one of the most difficult things you’ll ever face. Dont listen to nay-sayers. This is your life and your kids’ lives and whatever you choose, it’s your choice to make.
I feel sad for you you are an amazing mother movie star beautiful devoted totally 2 anything you put your mind to. Trust is the most important thing in a marriage I’ve been married for 54 years and it’s the most beautiful feeling to have it totally. I pray that somehow you can work this out that he can realize what a total idiot he was and you can find it in your heart to forgive him but never forget it. I think he has a screw loose and needs to address it and get professional help.
Sending you strength and love Meghan. From one woman, from one Momma to another. Your feelings are validated. Take your time. Love your babies…..the rest will take time to heal, but eventually life will fall into place again. ❤️
Steve Dunn, Jim Edmonds former roommate and teammate at Palm Springs Angels single A, did this and physically cheated on his wife Linda Dunn about 15 years ago. They are all lowlife cheaters Meghan. This isn’t Jims first issue with infidelity, ask him why his girlfriend dumped him before he became pro. I am so sorry Meghan, you seem like a wonderful person.
I’m so sorry to see another sister go through this. The EXACT same thing happened to me. After 22 years my husband pulled exactly ‘nothing physical happened’ phone/go cut her grass affair on me. Of course to him it’s not an affair. I found a picture. Of him. The cell phone bills showed 30-35 phone calls mostly & texts per day between him and this old woman he went to high school with. At least! She’s an old woman now. She was the slut of the class of 73 and he decided to look her up. But the lies he told me! Omg the lies. I trusted him implicitly so I’m ashamed to say it took me seven to eight weeks to really suspect and find out details. Then I confronted him. There was little to no remorse on his part. Two years ago this month and I still don’t trust him. I don’t know if I ever will. And sad. So sad my heart broke in half. I’m so so sorry for you Meghan. Because we went thru almost exactly the same thing. I live here in St. Louis too. I wish there was a way to talk to other women who’ve dealt with such lying, sneaking and cheating. And it never goes away. So many thing I enjoyed now make me think of him talking to her. While I was in the shower, in another part of the building at the business we both own and work at. Hurts so so bad. I hope for the best for you. I would say you are free to contact me if you feel like commiserating but I’m sure you have a ton of people who bother you and don’t have time for much more. Especially with the little ones. The offer will stand open though. I felt like you were telling my thoughts when I read this blog. 😞 sad. Sincerely, Lore (pronounced like Lori)
I am sorry. But you will get thru this, for you and your babies . Sending you prayers …
Here’s some real talk from someone that has been married for 37 years. You can’t have a healthy marriage when someone is living half the time in another city. Too much time without your spouse makes you feel like you aren’t married. It always leads to trouble. When you are married with children, especially, someone needs to make the sacrifice so you can live in the same place. It is necessary for a family. The children come first. Not a career. Nothing comes before the children. As for what he did, he did cheat. Not just once. I wouldn’t trust that they didn’t have sex. Sorry, but you can never, ever trust him again. You can go on with your marriage but you can never trust him and need to figure out what you will do when infidelity happens again. If you are thinking, if he does it again I will leave him, well then, leave him now because he is a cheater. You have a big heart and are very sweet. Don’t believe that everyone thinks the same way you do. They don’t. Open your eyes to reality.
Oh meghan! So sorry you are going thru this. You are right about everything, especially you are Not To blame.
I so feel for you. For him not to tell YOU first, is not something I think I could forgive. And you with twins? My first husband pulled similar crap and I stayed with him because I wanted to have children and I was running out of time. We went on to have two sons (both just graduated from college–USC and UT-Austin…so proud), but the marriage was never the same. We finally split when the boys were in middle school and you know what? They survived and flourished. Do NOT think you have to stay together for the kids; that’s a big mistake. You just end up resentful, angry, suspicious and mean. I remarried 6 years later to a fantastic man and I now know what its like to have someone CHERISH the love you give them, put your marriage above all else (including the male ego, which is often what these things are about) and be a fantastic stepfather to my boys.
Give it some time and your heart AND head will show you the right direction.
CC from Texas
My heart goes out to you , hugs from Connecticut
I’m so sorry you are in my prayers . I went through this . I had 2 kids and was pregnant with our 3rd I ended up telling him to get out , I didn’t need that I think I did a great job raising them by myself . My second marriage we together we’re supposed to move well I was the only one to move . Guys just love to cheat . I’m doing great without him it 19 years since I saw him . I’m telling you it might be hard at first but you well feel so much better without him , you are beautiful and well find your soulmate God Bless ❤️❤️❤️
Find Shannon. She will be your greatest gift. Blessings.
I’ve walked in your shoes. Take all the time you need but don’t shut him out. Listen to him work it out if possible.
I am so sorry you have to go through this and you don’t deserve it.
You will survive this. Take time to be good to yourself and your precious children. Pull your very best girlfriends in and let them support you.
He needs to figure out WHY he did this and then fix it.
Sending you prayers for you and your son!
This brings me back to my own life. My now ex husband cheated on me when I was pregnant with my daughter. I found out when she was 2months old. Like you I felt incredible pain.
We tried to make it work but I ended up leaving 2yrs after. That was my situation everyone’s is different.
I remember the pain and sadness. If anything I can tell you is to focus on the kids right now. I regret any energy I gave the affair and energy I took away from the babies. Easier said than done. But 12 yrs later I regret not being fully present and enjoying those special moments fully with my daughter.
I think this impacted her as well.
You will get through this. It will be hard but you can.
My heart hurts for you. My daughter has a neurological disorder (epilepsy) diagnosed when she was eight. She is now 23. Whatever Harts diagnosis is you are the perfect mom to championing for him and guide him to living a full and happy life! My thoughts are with you.
Oh Mrs. Edmonds, my heart breaks for you. I know every ounce of what you are feeling cause I too was in your position 3 yrs ago when my best friend, jr high sweetheart & husband of 16 yrs (then) made the conscious decision to cheat over the course of 10 months. And just like you, I didnt see it coming because even though we had normal marriage hiccups, I thought we were good. Let me give you hope by telling you that your marriage can survive, be restored & renewed. Maybe even result in being better then it was before. I almost gave up plenty of times because the trust was gone, the way I saw him had changed & the pain was too much. It was by far the hardest time in my life. It will not be easy by any means but if you both still have love for eachother & want to fix it, it can be done. For us it took 2 years to come out of & not let “triggers” break me down anymore. But by the grace of God, this Aug will mark 3 yrs and I can honestly say that we are stronger and better then we ever were. As the one who was betrayed, I changed without even realizing it. As a man who caused it all, he definitely has made some changes cause he vowed to never want to hurt me again, but more importantly, he never wants to be that kind of man again. And throughout it all, over time…trust, butterfly type of love, laughter & security have all found my heart again. I pray that God sees you through whatever decisions you two make for yourselves & your family.
(check out Cindy Beall’s two small books…they helped me tremendously and may be of help to you)
If he does it once he’ll do it again. But he screwed up. I can’t believe he would do that. Your beautiful and so are your babies. Be strong ♥️
Know that very few men can act the way we expect or want them to! No matter who you are with they will disappoint, do stupid things, say stupid things! That is why most women are superb! We can juggle it all while putting up with this type of behavior! I don’t think most men even realize what they doing to us, they are simple. They want 3 things, food, sex and admiration. Even if they get those three some still aren’t whole:(
Please try on trust him again until he gives you another reason not too! No one is perfect and most men think with only one thing:(
Meghan,
I would like to send you a private message of encouragement. Is that possible?
Honest, honest feelings you write.no one can judge. You. Hold your head high, cry when its overwhelming, it’s fair actions. Sucks so bad that people pride themselves on others business. Be strong and take as much time as YOU need.
You were a little too arrogant on rhoc, Jim will be on his 4th marriage and you’ll be raising those kids yourself should have been nicer to Vicki
Karma is a bitch. You cheated with him when he was married to Allison. You wonder why she was cold around you? Now you know.
You are very narcissistic. All your pictures posted display just the right labels at just the right angles. You want to be a “influencer”. How about just chilling out and just being a mom? Make him get rid of that super macho Ford F-150 Raptor he drives up and down Clayton like he is such the stud. Make him drive the most effeminate minivan with car seats. Put a tracker on it. oh, and a vasectomy. Get him clipped. And maybe you need to start doing the freaky shit you did to steal him from Allison but now that you are a mom, you are a good girl. ha.
Oh dear Megan! I went trough the exact same thing last year I found that on Father’s Day, my husband cheat on me with a prostitute for 4 years in another country (mexico) he broke my heart I never seen this coming we share 3 beautiful kids he started the relationship when my baby was 1 month old, he even gave me HPV virus he got it from her and knowing that he continued his relationship he took her on trips pay for her lifestyle and gave her money every week for 4 years he took that from my kids her kid was going to a private school and mine were going to public got her a business a new car everything that a prostitute will want, she was younger and prettier then me but she admitted that he used him for the money and send me all their messages and pictures together it broke me, I still feel broken and cry almost every day I had so much confidence in myself and now I’m not even the shadow of I was used to be in 2 weeks I will be 40, I feel I wasted my best years with my worst enemy who was supposed to be my best friend and my protector, listen to your gut and your heart I’m stock in this relationship I want to leave so bad and I can’t I don’t have anything and no support you have money and support if I was you I wouldn’t stay but I will totally understand if you do ❤️ Love is crazy I still have love from my husband but if I had a way to leave I will do it today I just don’t have a place to take my kids and no resources or support like you. I wish you the best in life and I think that man is not the best for you just like the one that I have is not for me but I’m stock in so many ways but not you Megan not you open your wings and fly away from him, you deserve better you are intelligent, beautiful and young I admire you since I first saw you on tv. I think he is a narcissist like mine is once you study how they are you understand everything else. I will be praying for you and your kids please do the same for me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Damn, girl. I am so sorry. Prayers for you, your marriage, and your kids.
I am sorry you have to go through this. You’re right that you don’t deserve it. And because Jimmy is still your husband and the father to your kids I will hold my tongue regarding what I feel about him. Keep your head up and your smile bright. This too shall pass.
Dear Meghan- How brave you are. None of this should be public. Please know there are purple out here who are good and want you to have the space and time to heal. Yippy deserve the privacy to do this alone and with Jimmy. My prayers for your sweet little boy. I have a several mentally I’ll son and understand the heartbreak of a cold facing challenges. I wish you nothing but the best.
Meghan,
You don’t deserve to go through this. I have so much respect for you being so open & honest through this. You aren’t alone. Things will get better. Wishing you the best & sorry for your pain. 😞
Wow Meghan, I’m so sorry. I know some of these feelings as my husband has addiction issues and the self-destructive behavior that obliterates your family but yet also causes you to get stronger, fight harder, and love them more while at the same time shattering everything you know is not much different no matter the situation. 6 years and 1 (final) baby later we are great but we are real and strong and very scarred. I wear the scars every day. They are battle wounds that show we survived and you will too. Kids and yourself first, and then help him and love him and one foot in front of the other, you will be ok. Sending you strength from a fellow mom who knows these feelings and knows you’be got this. ❤️🙏🏼
I can relate so much to this. It’s the worse feeling in the world. You are not alone. I’m now divorced at 29 with one child. Sending you strength and prayers! Xoxo
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Marriage is hard but when you took your vows you promise to be there for the good times & the bad times. If you still love each other then stay & fight for your family, if you don’t still love him, then leave. I choose to leave when it happened to me. I’ve regretted my choice ever since…. Do what you think is best.
Meghan,
My heart breaks for you! You deserve so much better than Jim gave you. You are a strong confident woman, you need to steer you own ship for awhile. Be strong for your kids, maybe take some time away from him to decide what you really want. He has his own issues and they not your issues. He needs counseling to work thru his issues. He was so lucky to find you!
You are an amazing mom. You can tell that you always put your kids first. Being a mom is hard and thankfully you have a tremendous family to help you. Lean on them. They have your back and will protect you. Please take some time for you!
Thank you for being so honest. I send you love from one mom to another!
Meghan keep you head up! I’m so sorry this is happening! You don’t have to make any decisions right away. Take it one day at a time!!! Prayers to you and your family!!
Girlfriend, Many of us have been through this and more. You will survive. Not only for you but for your children. It takes sometimes years to trust again. I lost the love for him, but I prayed for God to love him again. It takes hard work on both parts. But I do believe HE has to pay the price, he has to and has to want to earn your trust and love back. It won’t happen over night that’s for sure, but in the end if he is truly remorseful and truly loves you, your marriage will begin to become better than ever. My husband and I have been married 49 years this December. I caught him cheating 29 years ago. The worst part of it, I always felt it had happened many times before, I was finally smart enough to figure it out and caught him. We went to counseling, we went to church, we were trying everything. At first my husband was not remorseful and wouldn’t talk about it. Trying for a year, with things not getting better, I made the decision to end the marriage. When he realized I was truly serious he became serious. After asking God to renew my love for him, we started dating again. I have forgiven him and our marriage is the best it has ever been. Don’t get me wrong….sometimes jealousy will raise its ugly head and the trust issue comes in for a second and then subsides. Only because I have made the full decision, if it were to ever happen again, I will end the marriage. I will not be made a fool of again and I will not be with someone who disrespects me, and that really doesn’t love me. I have to say, that my husband is an alcoholic, and liquoir was aplenty, but to me that didn’t fly as an excuse. But he has been sober now for 19 years. So, it can work out, but that is only between you, him and God. God Bless you Meghan, and I pray you will find the peace and love you will need to get through this.
Bravo Meghan….👏👏👏👏👏❤️
So sorry what is happening to you as I have lived too. I made my mind to leave with my son but he begged me to give him another chance. I asked to know everything about his cheating , yes it hurt, but I knew then i wasn’t crazy imagining his cheating all those years yearsduring Our marrige. I did give him a chance and I don’t regret I it. Things are much better than before and he changed to a better , caring and loving husband think about it and only’ you can évidée but do it fo for Andy not for the cherche children. Only what you want and makes you happy bkoz if you are happy you’re children will be too 💝💝
I have been through this a little over 5 years ago. We have two children who are now adults. I stayed and the marriage is still not going well. I have not regained any trust towards my husband. I’m now considering divorce. It doesn’t get easier.
I discovered an email my husband sent to another woman whom he met on a business trip. He says nothing happened. He says the email was contrived because he thought someone (me) was checking his emails. I could go on and on with questions that came about from that excuse. I’ve tried to move on from it and other things that surfaced from that incident. He went to therapy while living elsewhere for about 9 months. It was a devastating time. Things have gotten much better. He’s actually become very active in church and other wholesome activities. There’s hope, if both are willing to put in the work. We have both had to move on in our own way, from past junk. I don’t know if something actually happened, but I’m not jaded either. Prayers for healing. The hurt and betrayal are things you have to move through at YOUR own pace. I hope he’s present and proving, consistently from here on out. You deserve that.
Best regards and thanks for being brave enough to share. You don’t have to be strong all the time.
I commented yesterday. I’ve thought about you so much and hope you can feel better soon. Take your time. Don’t forgive him too quickly. Thoughts are with you and your babies.
You’re a beautiful, smart, talented woman! I’m glad you’re not ashamed as you shouldn’t be!! He’s crazy for even considering texting another woman! Hold your head high, and you’ll get through this!! You have millions of fans and your beautiful children cheering you on!
Wow Meghan, I’ve been filling your feeds in IG and watching you since OC love the person you have evolved for the entire public eye to see… since you having babies I’ve felt a realness that isn’t always shared weather it’s from a. Private plane lol to your ginormous house. How ever this post is as real and as personal as it can get no icing no sugar sprinkles just realness from one strong woman to ALL out in the Media World. You didn’t have to share however I applaud you for doing so.. you’ll be surprised how this exact same SLIME- action has occurred to many… including myself power to you girl it’s okay to put it past and move forward it takes time to heal and takes time to recoup trust but believe me you will get there and when you do again life will be bliss… God Bless you and your babies sorry about lil Mr Hart.
Megan,
I am so saddened to learn about your husband’s infidelity. I realize it took a lot of strength and courage to share this very private matter! May the good Lord guide you through this very difficult and painful journey. I will pray for you and your beautiful family- that the good Lord give you the courage and strength to get through this journey! And I will also pray for your beautiful son Hart! That the Lord bless him and keep him close!
Stay strong!!
Blessings Sylvia 🙏
I’m sorry, reading this makes my heart break. My husband of 12 years had a full on relationship with some girl 12 years younger than him during my entire pregnancy of our first son. I confronted him and on the same night, I went into labor. Guess what, he’s shacked up with that young dumb bimbo and having a new baby. I’m sorry, I’ve been through this and still going through the emotions everyday. It’s been 3 years since we split up and I’m still hurting.
I’m so sorry 💔 this has happened to you and your beautiful family . Your right this is not your fault but when someone betrays you it feels like a death. Your strong and your an incredible mother. Be the great Mother you are and have faith in God.
Megan. I am so heartbroken for your pain. You are an amazing wife and mother and you are strong and will get through this. I am praying for you and also and also praying for your adorable little Hart. You do not deserve all this. You are beautiful inside and out and better days will come. Stay strong and save all your energy for your beautiful babies.
Your heart is broken…I’ve been through the same type of crap. It haunts me sometimes when I try to sleep. Words or images replaying over & over again in every sound I hear. Then it goes away…leaves a crack that still aches sometimes. It would be so different but all I think is…my babies, my babies, my babies. It’s like I don’t want their heart broken too….I can handle it when I think about them only.
I am so sorry you are going through this… I love your posts of your children. You are such a good Mom no one can ever take that away from you…hang in there and I know you will figure this all out… It just breaks my heart when someone has to go through so much heartache… good thoughts to you and hoping it will all be ok with your son ❤️
Kathie Lee Gifford had a very similar public situation years ago. Someone said to her if you cannot forgive your husband try and forgive your children’s father. She has a very strong faith but perhaps these words may resonate with you too.
Good luck Meghan. Don’t be sad. You have three blessings who need their wonderful Mom.
I’ve been where you are and my heart hurts SO bad for you. They say not to make any life altering, rash decisions- so I was patient. We went to individual counselors and then to a marriage counselor together. I took my time to heal and he put in the work as well. As with anything it took time but we stayed together and have since had 2 children. He has fully gained my trust back and we are stronger than we ever were before! So many people are so quick to scream “divorce” but I just wanted to share a different perspective of a marriage that survived infidelity. For us, it was 100% worth it! Hoping you can find some peace in the midst of the storm ❤️
I’ve been in your shoes. Somehow we worked through it. He made me feel like he won’t ever do it again. 12 years later, kids married and grandchildren here. I am happy. I never thought the darkness would end. Life is for second chances and men will always have egos. You just have to pray and hope he loves you enough to want you forever.😘
I am so sorry you are going through this. It complicates matters so much more with your children so young, and your son having health issues — but in reality, no time is the right time to be betrayed. If it wasn’t now, it would have been another time. And as others have said, this is all his doing, his decision making, not yours. You did nothing wrong. So the best thing to do is to get yourself the help you need; therapy,good friends, a tight support system. You’ll need all that to do what you need to do, which unfortunately is to end the marriage. I went through a similar situation, finding my husband of over 20 years texting with someone, and he claimed they never were physical but he “had an inappropriate relationship” with her. (she was a person I knew and trusted and had in my home many times too… it was awful and painful). We did two years of marriage counseling, and ultimately, divorced. The only thing the counseling did, honestly, was help us to lead our teenage kids through the divorce process, so I’m glad for that, but really I wish I had gone through the divorce earlier. I’m now 2 years out of it, and so very happy; new life, new relationship, the kids are happy too. It was a long journey that lasted a few years but I’ve finally gotten there. I understand completely the pain you feel by this betrayal, and the hardest part is knowing that he’ll always be in your life because of the kids and trying to manage and fit that negative energy somewhere. The secret is, you can let it go. You can. All that negative drama doesn’t do you any good, it just feeds that fire that he started. Time to put that out and move on. Your life and your children’s lives are so so so much more beautiful than that.
Dear Meghan,
I’m so sorry you are hurting from this, as I too have gone through the same thing, although my husband has never had the “balls or guts” (whichever you prefer to accept, lol) to be honest with me and admit it has happened. My stupidity is that I have condoned his behavior because of financial reasons. Just quickly, I will explain, my husband took me away from my job (retired) 9 years ago, and I did/do not have a pension. He has been and continues to be verbally and emotionally abusive because he knows I won’t and can’t go anywhere at my age (I am 64, and who will hire a woman my age?) and he does financially support me. I am “stuck” in a situation which is unfortunate. Just wanted you to know your not alone and your situation is much, much tamer than mine, although the fact that Jim was doing what he was doing, our situations are similar. You have made Jim realize that you will not tolerate this behavior, your children are your life and too important. I will reiterate that the fact Jim “owned” up to his behavior really is commendable. A lot of men go into a denial mode. I wish you all the best on mending your relationship. Hugz and Love to your daughter and twin sons and to yourself. Continue to Love yourself, that is so important. You are a gorgeous human being. Best of luck to your family for a happy, loving future.
A friend with Support for both You & Jim to heal,
Donna (Roetsch)
Ontario, Canada
This article and is raw and real and thank you for being YOU!!! Sending hugs and prayers ❤️🙏🏼
Praying for your sweet Hart as well ❤️🙏🏼
You are a very good writer Meghan. Good writers don’t sensor themselves and let their thoughts flow unedited into their writing. Because of that I was able to really feel your pain and I am so so sorry for what you are going through. Sending you love and prayers.
I feel so awful for you. Prayers to you. Praying that he has what it takes to DO HIS WORK to figure out why one wego had it all would do something so vile & stupid (especially to someone who has been gold to him. I applaud you. You are not taking on all of their shame. I respect you so much. This too shall pass are the words that got me thru my tragedies. XOXO Meghan!
Corinne!
I don’t know you personally but only from RHOC & You are strong willed & determined. Marriage is hard! Goin through my own struggle at the moment w/my husband & 2 children under 2 w/no family w/in 100mi. So we lean on each other constantly for support & no time for date nights or alone time. Prayers for you & your little ones 💕
Praying for you and your family! Thank you for being so honest even if the world will judge you! I love how genuinely and opening you are! The world can talk but if you stay your truth you will have peace and that’s all that matters! God is the only one who can turn a mess into a message!
Meghan, my heart breaks for you!💔
come back to RH!!! i’ve missed you and would watch you over again, and i think fans love you and would support you. sorry, he appears like a, eh, complex man, eg heartache/ headache/ more work than worth? 🙁
come back to RH!!! i’ve missed you/ your frankness/ straightforwardness – maybe that’s not good for a reality show storyline, but you were refreshingly honest and true andI would watch you over again, and i think fans love you and would support you. sorry, he appears like a, eh, complex man, eg heartache/ headache/ more work than worth? 🙁 i guess time heals all wounds. we all do crazy self destructive things at times, and who is to say whether staying in is better than separating? but then is it wrong to expect more from a relationship?
Meghan, I was so shocked to hear this news. I’m sorry for what you are going through. Jimmy will surely regret his foolish behavior for the rest of his life. I imagine it’s hard to see how life will ever be good after this, but I know that you will make it through and come out of this with your head held high. Your courage to be vulnerable and share this post shows that you are way stronger than he ever was. All that baseball training he did was a waste! Keep your head up, and continue to be the beautiful and strong woman and mother that you are.
I am so sorry sweetheart. I grew up with a father who has cheated on all his wives. I hate him. He ruined me in trusting men. I hope you can get through this. It won’t be easy keep your head up and take care of your self and those babies.
Hang in there. Anyone who judges you or expects you to live a perfect life just because you are in the public eye is stupid. I applaud you for being so real and honest. We all have “stuff” that happens in our lives. So so sorry you are dealing with such an ugly situation. No devoted wife deserves it.
Just like me your husband appears to have the earmarks of being a sex addict or has underlying needs that have not been met even though life seems picture perfect. These are symptoms of underlying issues and not that actual problem. As a porn/sex addict for 35 years I was groomed at a young age to believe certain things about women. Because I had a less than stellar upbringing, I.e. bullied, emotionally neglected, I gave myself to porn because it felt better and sexual arousal because it took me away from pain. The more I gave myself to that behavior, although I felt relief from my emotional pain, I was creating worse problems by setting up a cycle of addiction that worked itself in needing to access porn for the sexual physical release as well as being sexually involved with my dating partners just to find acceptance. I was in full time ministry and had a growing family and trashed it all as my need for more sexual novelty grew. It was a horrid existence. You would’ve looked at my life from the outside and thought I had it all but deep inside I was shattered and broken into a million pieces. You would think having lost a full time ministry and my family would’ve been rock bottom but it wasn’t. It was just my norm now at age 53, 7.5 years free, I look back at so many I hurt. My children, my ex wife, my church family. Addiction takes away your ability to reason and so you make stupid choices. This may not be his story but often times this type of behavior can let you see deeper into the hurting soul. Maybe this helps, maybe it doesn’t but if it dies I hope he can get the help he needs. – Just a Peon in Florida.
Wow ….
The most powerful statement? … I will not be humiliated. And nor should you!! .. and thank you for setting an amazing example of a strong woman to our daughters. Strength is in vulnerability, strength is knowing our worth and our values, strength is having our boundaries, knowing we need to heal to deal. And you have just shown that remarkably.
I am in awe at your wisdom for your age, I assume you are an old soul … what a blessing.
I’m a 47 yr old woman from the UK, i don’t own a tv so don’t know who you are really but looking through google news your story came up, i checked you out on IG and read this blog post
It touched me .. it resonated, deception is a tough one, I’m 2 years down the line and its taken a lot of solitude and a fortune in therapy but I’m still standing. I have an almost 20yr old daughter and I want her to love and trust and know herself inspite of anything. Women like you inspire that …. thank you x
My unknown friend,
I as many went through a ‘cheating’ problem. At the beginning I could barely breath as every breath hurt. I was completely shocked of finding photos of an unknown woman undressing in my husband’s phone. I lost 32 lbs in 6 weeks. My hair was falling out in chunks. It was the most humiliating moment of my life for several reasons, the first was that it was the moment I needed to know how much he loved me. I asked a million questions. We did go to a trauma family psychologist which helped us to a certain point. What I eventually realized is that I had to look deep into our marriage, into him and into me to see if it was worth salvaging. And if it was, what role did I play. I had my friends and family highly encouraging me to leave the ‘asshole’. I left for awhile. It’s been 7 years, it took about 4 to work through it and see the proof I needed to believe in him again. I will never trust fully again, but I trust enough. And that’s all that matters, is what’s best for me. Not the opinion of those who love me as we had to agree to disagree and to ride the tidal wave I was on together even if we didn’t have the same opinion. I valued my friends and family for wanting to protect me and we are also closer for it. I lost one friend….,and it truly was not that big of a loss I came to find out. My husband and I have been quite happy together for the last 3 years. We are closer now than what we were when we were first married. It means, that sometimes it can work out. Breath, exhale and get through one minute which will turn into one day. You made it thru one day! And as many advised in their comments, therapy will be very helpful along with moments with your girlfriends. This does not mean it is the end, it can be another chapter in your Book Of Marriage. Three chapters from now, who knows?! I wish you all the best. And gentle hugs.
post a pic of the au pair so we know who Jim is gonna bang next. or maybe?
Take the time you need for you. There is no rule book as to the process and it does not have to lead down the path of divorce. Don’t let anyone or outside forces guide your decision or make you feel if your crazy if you allow yourself and your marriage to heal. You won’t be a sucker and it is not a given that he will do it again. You have a family and love so take your time
This happened to me & over ten years later I’m still mad. Pissed. I don’t trust the same…… but I survived & im ok. The question: does he show remorse? Deep remorse? That’s the most important thing. Maybe he’s just an immature player & narcissist & thinks he deserves to flirt & exchange nudes. I’ve always thought you were better than him. You’re nicer than he is & a far better parent.
Ugly cry every day, that’s strength. When the fog clears, you will make a decision. It is the lowest point in life that gains perspective.
Take care
Be yourself
Find your happy
Meghan, I’m sorry you are going through this. It’s so brave if you to share your story and everything you are going through with Hart. It’s the toughest job to be a mom and feel like something may be wrong and you don’t have the answer – or maybe you are dreading the answer. I’ve been there. I hope you get good news for you and Hart. It’s the worst that your husband has betrayed you she. You need suppor the most. I hope you find healing soon. I’m glad you reached out and share your story. I think that’s how you can continue to be the best mom you can by reaching out for help when you need it – that’s true for everyone I guess I should take the same advice. Hope you feel better soon
You are so right possessions, money means nothing !! Stay strong Megan you can do this and be the bigger better person for your kids. God bless you sweetheart!💝 I Wish only the best wishes for you and your family ❤️
It is devastating to find out your husband could disrespect you this much. I left my husband of 12 years because of this exact reason.
Instead of filing “irreconcilable differences,” which is a load of crap, I filed FRAUD! He had me sign a contract (marriage license) and HE knew all he needed was a babysitter.
Make him sleep on the couch. Jim doesn’t deserve to lay with you. I had found a HUGE chat log saved on his computer, so I started to print it. I put MY life on hold to raise HIS kids.
I also stayed 5 yrs longer than I should have as I didn’t trust him with his own children.
Seek counseling. We went 3 times but he just lied.
I found a wonderful female lawyer and took my half of everything.
I’m sorry that this happened to you. Stay strong and hang in there.
Hi,
I wasn’t sure about writing, but here am I.
You are strong, you can handle everything coming your way. I know this. I am a single parent of a 2 1/2 year old who has endured a heart transplant, open heart surgery and 12 other surgical procedures. My partner left us when he was 5 months old and still at cardinal glennon hospital. He has been around a little but helps zero with my son or financially. I own a small business, and keep it going. So I know you can do all of this, and come out strong on the other side hopefully with your husband by your side. Just don’t forget your strength through this storm. St Louis has wonderful doctors at children’s and glennon but I will pray your son will not need them. Just know if he does there are other mothers like you here locally.
Sending love and prayers,
Jenny
Hang in there. It happened to me w Greg who played w Jim in Ca. I wished we had stayed together, together since we were 14 and had 3 kids together. You CAN forgive him and move forward, I forgave him but he was done w me. I just hate to see you go through this w 3 small babies. Praying for you!
We are all saddened by this for you. You are not alone as our thoughts and prayers go out to you, your daughter and sons. This situation will prove how strong you are. I believe that he is worth fighting for. It is about Forgiveness and total forgiveness where after you both make it through this, keep it in the past and move forward. Do it for yourself. You will heal and never regret walking away from Love. Take your time and believe in your self. We’re all behind any decision you make. We Love You 💜 🙏 💜
I’m so sorry your heart is breaking 😩. I have been in your shoes and nothing I can say will make it go away, only you can do that together. My bit of wisdom is this…32 years ago I made my choice to stay and forgive. My entire life is wrapped around my boy and I would not have it any other way. We will be together 35yrs in just a few days. That brief moment of WTF was just that WTF and nothing more. ❤️💪🏻
I’m so sorry for you. Life can be difficult. Love your children, love yourself. If you both want this to work, maybe get some counseling. It’s okay to cry, but hold your head up and remember what you stand for. Those children will follow in your footsteps, they learn from you, you still must set the example. I don’t know if you belong to a church but it’s a nice place to go when your heart needs healing. It beats a car in the dark, which sounds dangerous. Sometimes just writing your feelings down also helps. I’ll put you in my prayers, and again I’m truly sorry.
Sincerely, Maribeth
I’m so sorry 😢 Praying for you during such a difficult time. I am not a public figure so I can’t image the pressure of knowing the whole world know your business.
I know how you feel. My husband carried on an affair right under my nose for 2 1/2 years. But I trusted him implicitly. He would never do such a thing. And when I confronted him, questioning him because I felt something was off, he said I was being ridiculous and assured me there was nothing to be concerned about. I believed him. Yet he continued his affair. When it all finally came to light, I was devastated. Like a full force punch to the gut. I felt so stupid for trusting him when my gut was telling me otherwise. I felt abandon, lost and deeply hurt. The trust was gone. My marriage ended. It has been 12 years and I am happy and at peace. You will be too. Promise.💗
You are showing such strength and courage and that will carry over to your children. Stay strong and continue being the wonderful mother you are and never blame yourself for any of this. You didn’t deserve it and whether you work through this or not I hope he spends the rest of his life regretting what he did. I’m sending lots of prayers to your sweet son Hart that everything goes well for him.
I totally understand where you are coming from in that you feel betrayed by your best friend. Mine left after 40 years and felt every emotion. He came back after 12 months. Did I forgive ….yes but will never forget. Only you know what is good for you. Cry, yell and laugh. Good luck!
Meghan I am sorry you are having to experience this pain and betrayal. Almost 2 years after my husband and I divorced I discovered that a woman who worked for him and he moved with him in every new area he went was to become his wife. We had been married for 20 years. During that time together things happened that made me question his faithfulness. His true feelings for me and for her. For 20 years he convinced me I was silly for ever thinking such a thing. Fairly early on in the relationship I did stop questioning him because I did not want to create what I feared. So when he told me he was getting married to her (which my children by a different man made him tell me) he cried when I said so all this time I wasn’t crazy. To this day he swears there was no physical contact and I believe him. However, after about a week of crying it dawned on me that I was crying for a man I never really knew. He was a farce. The man I loved was an illusion that he gave to me. When he tired of that illusion he left. I have not shed one more tear on that illusion. We have a friendly relationship. He was a very good provider and still is but that is all. My children are grown and love him and have a close relationship with him and that’s great. I can’t complain about someone loving my kids. The kids have confirmed one thing he told me about her shortly after he met her “she was as dumb as a box of rocks”. I think that’s exactly what he needs in a wife. When he wants stimulating conversation he calls me. 😉
My husband had a 3 year long affair (yes was physical and emotional affair) ! I CHOSE to stay! Sadly, wasn’t his first one either in the almost 15 years together!!but I will say I’ve noticed a major change in him the past 3 years, and for the GOOD, he says he realized how good he actually does have it at home! But like I told him, however long it takes ME to get over it, that’s what it’s going to take, bc HE CHOSE to break my trust!! Don’t let others TELL you how you should feel or even react!! Most people say divorce, well dovirce is the EASY way out, marriage is definitely hard and it’s work! Take your time to figure out what YOU want!! Don’t make any decisions while you are emotional! Good luck
Megan,
I realize you have let us in your life and we feel we know you when we really don’t. I can’t imagine my husband doing this but having it be done publicly is really heartbreaking. Words cannot express the sympathy I feel for you and your family. Praying for blessings in your storm.
Your words ring so true to my ears and I wish went through what your going through I could have put it as well as you have…I am so so sorry for what your going through as I have been exactly in the same place minus being famous! Lol stay strong and fight for your family if everyone is willing to. Praying for you
Hi MEGHAN👵….love you….unfortunately he was just having his kicks and jollies. Men are stupid. He was breaking away from everyday humdrum of life. Don’t think he had any intention of taking it any farther. Of course, I don’t know him and his past behaviors, you do. I will pray for you girl so you may come to a resolution in your heart and mind. Also, prayers for baby Hart. Aspen is the cutest thing ever! Her smile is killer❤️
Oh Meghan. My heart aches for you; and at the same time am so proud of your strength to write it all out. It truly helps; I blog when my heart can’t handle it, it doesn’t make it go away-but it’s more than fair to have your release, your “place.” See, we all have crap, and shit, and sad, and mad….and JOYOUS HAOKY GRATITUDE. And you, you express it HERE. Your husband expressed WHATEVER he was “going through” in to another woman. Shame on him. I understand marriages get stale at times, work and kids, troubles blah blah blah. But that is LIFE!!!! Don’t get married if you can’t REALLY keep those vows. As for reconciling, I don’t know; that’s going to take some true soul searching. There will be so much resentment, for a LONG time. Will you ever truly trust again? Will you be able to see him off for practice or business KNOWING that you have NO need to worry?!? Will this truly ever be again? Time will tell, but girl, a life spent stressing, wondering, worrying….not a life. I’m sure this isn’t news to you. But from one woman who spent WAY to much time in a negative, stressed, and worried place….please be kind to YOU. Now comes the real trials. Lean on the people you KNOW are solid. You’ll sadly get to see who the real ones are during this time. Anyone who cares about status…..POOF! Anyway, you’ve got this, because you HAVE to. Because you aren’t on this earth to live sadly and as a stressed detective….how exhausting. ANDDDD those babies need their awesome momma. Always here, always lifting up my sister from another mister. Much love. xx
I am terribly sorry you’re so hurt. Perhaps devastated is a better word. I pray that God will grant you courage and strength during this most difficult of times. Hang in there, sweetie. No matter how you choose to resolve this ordeal, take it from an old lady, things WILL get better! ♥️🙏
I’ve never submitted a comment on a blog in my life. Honestly, I don’t even read blogs. But I came upon this and it brought me to tears. I have 3 babies of my own and I can’t imagine the pain and heartache you are going through. But from one mom, one woman to another: you are amazing and strong and you will make it through this. With or without him. God bless you!
You are a strong woman who has three beautiful children.
Remember…..Flowers grow back even when they’ve been stepped on….So will you.
xx
Dr. Laura Schlesinger can help you with your situation. She’s the best in the business.
I’m so sorry that this horrible thing has happened to you I cannot imagine what you are going through . I know that you are one strong woman and you will get through this . Your husband really needs to go talk to someone and figure out why he did what he did , you are an beautiful woman and he needs to really look inside himself to find out why he decided to do such an discusting thing yes I said discusting because it is. I pray for you and your beautiful children.
You are beautiful. And you will recuperate. Depression backwards is I PRESSED ON! You got this!! Prayers, mamma.
Sometimes We are tested with the most unbelievable situations. You will heal. You will forgive. However you will never forget this pain. Like you said. Rise above this. Sit down with the man you still love and find out what is happening to him. Find him again, and ignore everyone’s gossip and work on getting the love you both once had back. Your not a victim. You are a survivor.
I feel so sad for you and you are right, you did nothing wrong. It’s a real shame all this is so public and will be around for your children to see someday. I can’t imagine your husband was thinking about that! You are beautiful and strong, what you decide to do next is your decision and your decision only!
I’m so so sorry you are having to go through this. No woman should ever have to endure such pain. Keep your head, be strong. Your little ones need you.
Meghan, I am sorry. I know your pain. I know how raw and soul-crushing it is to be betrayed on the deepest level by the person you trust the most. No matter what happens, you will get through this and you will be okay again. I used to hate it when people told me it takes time but it’s the truth. Time to get over the shock and disbelief, the “how could he do this?” moments. Only after that can you truly process what has happened. Be kind and patient with yourself. Between this and your concerns for Hart, you are in survival mode. Getting through each day right now is a victory. Loving your babies is enough. Practice self-care. If going out for a drive so you can cry helps, do it. You will get through this. I’m just sorry you have to.
Unfortunately your husband has shown you who he really is. Believe him!!!! My marriage ended due to infidelity after 23 years. It rocked me to my core and I’ve never cried so much in my life. I feel like that’s all I did for awhile. Take things moment by moment, hour by hour and day by day. That’s the only way I was able to get through it. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. There is light at the end of the tunnel and know that you’re not alone. Many women out there have survived similar situations. You’ve got this!!!
Meghan… give it up to the Lord🙏 He will never let you down.
Meghan, I am so deeply sorry for your pain. Praying for all of you.
Just a Fan
I am very sorry. You didn’t deserve this. Choose what is best for you. Don’t compromise.
Sending you love
Sending love and prayers to you and your family… especially for your son, Hart! If God takes you to it He will take you through it. The “easy” thing would be to end the marriage…that’s what most people do these days. Children’ and a family are involved and IF he makes the choice to attend intense counseling for himself, then maybe there is a chance for marriage counseling, IF HE doesn’t fix what is broken in him first, NOTHING can be done to save the marriage. I pray that he makes the choice to save himself and his family,,,you ALL deserve peaceful love, unwavering trust and solid devotion, I believe it can be done – he has to WANT it. You are all in my prayers and no matter what happens, YOU are capable of doing whatever it takes to raise happy and healthy children Meghan!! YOU are more than this and you CAN and WILL come out the other side a better person and a more keen sense of yourself will emerge! Love and prayers – from St. Louis MO
It’s a special betrayal when you are carrying your husbands baby when you discover the affair. I walked in on the action in late third term. Everyone’s situation is unique and maybe you two can salvage the marriage. I personally believe from my own experiences that they don’t get caught the first time they’ve done it to you. And the full truth only comes out when they are caught lying each step of the way. There’s freedom in not having to worry about it and moving on.
Megan I’m so sorry to hear about all of this! You are being such a good mom to avoid getting g upset in front of your children but please find someone you can talk to to help you through third difficult time. Your husband is a fool to have done this to you and your beautiful family. As they say life is short and you are a beautiful, intelligent young woman and you need to move on from all of this. Once the trust is gone there’s really nothing left. I wish I could help you! You take care Megan!
Hi. I wonder if you’ll actually even read this, but here’s to hoping you do.
I am so fucking sorry to hear this. In a world of instant gratification and the need to chase the quick fix, we see this happening constantly! Why can’t we take a moment to just grow a human for a bit, and that be enough??!! For that to be so respected by our men – we are bringing their children into the world!!
Yes we are tired, bloated, sick, and 1000 other things. Oh sorry we also don’t want to have sex all the time or send you nudes. Sorry we are not in the mood to wear lingerie because, oh one again- we are growing a human! Men could never do what we do!!! You both make the decision to go through this process, but looks like just you took it seriously.
Happened to me in my previous marriage. I know the pain, emptiness, confusion, anger, and heartache you feel. All I can say is I’m so sorry and you deserve better!
Wishing you luck to get through this, but understand you have every right to remain as pissed and as sad as you are for however long it takes. And if you don’t get past it- THAT IS OK! And not your fault at all. You never failed the marriage, he did!
I’m sorry for the situation with your son. Let that and your other children remain your focus, but also focus on you! Take time to heal and find your strength again. Us moms always have to put on a happy face for our kids, but yup that’s what we do because they’re worth it. However, Take alone days to decompress and cry. You need it!
Sorry girl. Sending you lots of love and positive vibes 🌈💋☀️💫
Meghan- I loved you on RHOC and I wanted yours to be the fairy tale story. I am so sorry it appears to be otherwise. Your blog is so powerful and honest. My hope is the realization that so many of us love you and support you provides a measure of strength to get through whatever unfolds in the upcoming days. You may not know us, but we have your back. Be strong. Be true to yourself and your darling babies. It’s the only way.
Prayers for your Son and You during this difficult time. Stay strong for you & your children. Healing does take time as you posted. Cry those tears release those feelings and emotions! So sorry to hear this. Xoxo
So sorry Meghan, I don’t know how you recover the trust once it’s broken💔It’s happened to me and I just chalked it up as I chose the wrong man! But I never gave up hope that there was somebody wonderful and faithful out there for me. I found him! Don’t settle for less! ❤️
I’m sorry
I know all to well that is feels like he died and it’s a loss for sure, he’s not who you married!
I know and I gave up on my husband when it happened to me
Please try to work it out, your children are worth it, keeping your family together is worth it
If you love him, that’s every other reason to try to work it out
Forgiveness is a beautiful thing!
I’m so sorry, I went through this during three pregnancies and God forgive me, he never came forth but people talked. To this day after over 25years, I still dont trust him. It’s so very difficult.
You can heal from this and you can repair your marriage. This isn’t the end. #trust
Hang in there Meghan. Of all the housewives, I thought you were one of the most wise, Mature, and strong one.
I really hate to hear this. I am saddened that he was not strong when he needed to be, for you and your babies. You are so right in its all on his choices and there’s slim everywhere. Hopefully you two can work through this pot hole in the road and come out stronger on the otherside. Prayers for you during this difficult time. Therapy individually and as a couple will help you both.
You are very strong woman to put your private life out there and I admire that. God is watching over you and will guide you in the right path.
I’m so very sorry Meghan! The pain, heartache and utter sadness will pass. Remember, this is a moment in time that will pass and someday you’ll look back at this sad and trying time and see the strength and determination you have and how you got through it. I don’t believe in the “once a cheater, always a cheater”. It’s how he shows you how badly he wants to make this marriage work that will show you where his heart is.
I know I don’t know you personally and have never met you but the way you’ve always shown how you’ve remained true to yourself, they way you look at your children with such love in your eyes, and the words you say on your Instagram and blog that show what an amazing mother, wife, and overall loving and genuine person you are. I’ll be thinking of you and your family and praying for peace, comfort, and guidance.
My heart goes out to you both. Marrriage is hard and most people do not know how to be married. Thats why marriage in the US has a divorce rate of over 50 percent. Im glad your making the choice to make it work! The bible has all the answers for a great marriage but it WILL take work on both your parts as husband & wife! Forgiveness & grace is the key.
IF I [can] speak in the tongues of men and [even] of angels, but have not love (that reasoning, intentional, spiritual devotion such as is inspired by God’s love for and in us), I am only a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), and understand all the secret truths and mysteries and possess all knowledge, and if I have [sufficient] faith so that I can remove mountains, but have not love (God’s love in me) I am nothing (a useless nobody). Even if I dole out all that I have [to the poor in providing] food, and if I surrender my body to be burned or in order that I may glory , but have not love (God’s love in me), I gain nothing. Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail. Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. Love never fails [never fades out or becomes obsolete or comes to an end]. As for prophecy (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), it will be fulfilled and pass away; as for tongues, they will be destroyed and cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away [it will lose its value and be superseded by truth].
1 Corinthians 13:1-8 AMPC
https://bible.com/bible/8/1co.13.1-8.AMPC
Love is a daily choice as with marriage is a daily choice to love someone other then yourself.
To better understand your husband: puredesire.org. This has helped me and my relationships with God,friends,family. Im hoping this will help you and your husband. Keep fighting the good fight. Theres betrayal and trust issues now but your husband has fallen and he needs your help. You both need one another.
Your kids are your most important job. You need to hold yourself together for them. Clearly since he has been married before he doesn’t take the vow as seriously as you do. What gave the slimy @&$” The impression that she could send him inappropriate photos? Or did he start that? Either way that is messed up. You might rebuild your marriage but it will be a extremely long time before you will trust him. He needs to be right there with you raising those children.
I am so sad for you. I just wanted to comment and say how beautifully written this is I could feel your pain. Love to you and I pray for you and your family.
Pick yourself back up. Be a mother…first and foremost. I could comment on $$$ and the power it holds, but any man (keyword) who has the luxury of waking up to you is all any MAN should need.
Wow! Now that was very well written! As I read her words I could feel her pain !! Meghan is right she has children to care for !!!!!! She shouldn’t have to worry about rather or not her husband is being faithful! Sadly Meghan you may never trust Jim again
You are so right when you say marriage is work and yes it takes 2 to do the work. Forgiveness is not easy either and trust needs to be earned back. I pray for a positive outcome for you both. Remember anything that fills your heart with Love is worth fighting for….hugs!!
Megan you could not have said what you said any better then you just did.. I’m so sorry he chose to do this to your marriage.. I’m also sorry that Hart is going through his neurologic issue’s.. He will be ok I’m sure of it… Your a Great Mama and a Great Wife The whole world knows you are.. To bad Jimmy didn’t see it like we all did.. Keep your head up… Don’t listen to the world do what you want and need whats right for you and your family.. Thinking of you and all of your babies during all of this terrible stuff.. ((HUGS)) from Leslie in MN..
Prayers lady… thinking of you… I know the gut wrenching feeling all too well. Please keep your support system around you love.♥️
Happy Father’s Day Jimmy. Hahahahaha
Meghan, I am so sorry. I so admire your brazen courage and willingness to open up and share your darkest hours. We all can relate and we respect you 200% more for being as solid as you are during this most trying time. You will get through this and you’ll be even stronger for it. That you can rely on. God bless
Oh my Lord only you can heal Meghan heart 😊 help her to go through this hard moments you are strong woman each day will get better just pray and God will do his part God bless your family
Sending so much love your way💜
I am so glad you expressed yourself with this post because I recently went through something similar and this isn’t something people talk about often. Infidelity in the digital world is real and is very hurtful. I found out on the day I got engaged of my partners digital infidelity that occurred while I was pregnant with our second child. What a nightmare!!!!! Each day I work through my feelings and slowly I am beginning to heal. Unfortunately the healing process leaves me guarded and unable to fully trust my future husband which is awful especially when planning a wedding lol. I try to laugh about why I agreed to marry this person and talk myself into it and out of it daily. I removed my engagement ring and refuse to wear it but after 10 years I am so excited. It’s the weirdest mix of emotions that I can’t explain but just know you are not alone. It’s still cheating. For anyone doubting it, don’t. The hurt and pain your partner feels is real after this type of infidelity and it isn’t virtual. I hope time will heal you and guides you to whatever makes the most sense for you and your family. I work full time and we both work for the same company so keeping my composure has been my reality. Thank you for being vulnerable it definitely empowers those that can’t be and although a shitty situation I appreciate you sharing.
I am not trying to come off as insensitive just to get that out of the way. I know nothing about the 2 of you, the news feed brought you both to my inbox. you seem like straight shooter, I like how you frame your thoughts. you know all too well that once trust is breached that is the end. there are no more romantic dinners. no more intimacy. no more looking in each others eyes. the vacations to hawaii and the ski trips are up in smoke. the person that was supposed to be your best friend and have your back failed you. based on results you are too good for this guy and probably always have been. time will cover the pain to some extent but because of the kids you are bound to this person forever. there is nothing I can say other than take care of yourself however you can because the pain of this is just starting. you are beautiful and smart, better awaits you on the other side of this journey but its going to be a rough ride. take care
Oh, Meghan,
I feel as though I felt your pain with every, single, stroke of your words. I cannot say that I know how you feel because I can’t. I am 53 & I never got married. Many have accused me of being afraid of commitment or marriage. That is furthest from the truth. Although, I AM afraid….
Afraid of trusting another with my heart, my soul, my unconditional love, only to have him hurt me deeply. The depth of hurt that only he can do. My heart is hurting at this very moment…it hurts for you. I’m extremely sorry that you have to endure this kind of pain.
You are 100% correct. You DO NOT DESERVE THIS. I can only hope that time will slowly comfort you. I’ll keep you in my prayers. 💋
Ps. Jimmy is an idiot
Aw Meghan, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You definitely don’t deserve it, it’s unfair and like you said, it comes at a bad time as you have worries about your son. Focus on your son, lean on your friends, family and fans, think about counseling if you decide to stay with Jimmy…and know that somehow you’ll get through all of this..and may I say, you are a wonderful writer! I’m sure you could focus on that for money or career someday if you haven’t already! (((Hugs))) and 🙏🏼‘S to you!!
I am still dealing with my husband’s infidelity and it so much!! Don’t worry about a decision just focus on you and your kids!!! Your heart needs to be healed and it will be!!
You’re beautiful, and it will get better.
💕
Forgive, love him, and love yourself even more. A great book to read while going through all of the emotions through this hard time is, Love like you’ve never been hurt, by Jentezen Franklin. I know you will get a million suggestions but, no one knows you, your marriage or your healing process. Trust your gut and pray hard. You’ve got this.
This was so terribly beautiful and honest and relatable. God bless you. Win draw or lose you will get thru this. Because you have to. Because women aren’t allowed to disappear into their pain. Because you’re a mother. But you will be so much more confident in yourself and strength. The men we love usually pale in comparison to the women we are and are capable of being.
I am sorry, rich or poor famous or not it still hurts the same. The worse part of it all we hurt for our children the most. I have been through this and pray you heal soon and move forward in whatever decision you make. Take care😢
I’m sorry your going through this with your husband. I also pray you get answers about your child
My heart aches for you and your children. I went through the same thing. Pregnant with twin girls, and managing a 3 yr. old daughter while on bed rest much of the time. Thank God my mom was there to help me. My girls were all IVF babies too. I finally showed my ex-husband the door when the twins were 10 months old. Despite my seeing all of the signs, I wanted to believe my marriage was ok until one day my oldest little girl said “mommy, why does daddy talk to you and treat you that way?” My God what a slap in the face, my sweet, beautiful little girl I fought so hard to bring into this world has to school me. What the hell was I doing to her and her sisters? To me? I was teaching my daughters that it was OK to be disrespected by a man. I put an overnight bag for him on the porch, changed the locks on the house that day and shortly after found out he was involved in an illicit affair, He refused to come home. He made the decision, one I suspect will haunt him in some way forever. He missed so much of their lives. But it was his choice.
The days ahead are going to be so very difficult but the best advise I can give you is to fight like hell for yourself and your kids. Nobody and nothing else matters. And your decision to stay or go is a sacred, personal decision that only you can make. Trust your gut. I’ll celebrate Father’s Day today with my wonderful husband who has been a wonderful step-father to my 3 daughters for the past 12 years. Whatever you decide, nobody has the right to judge you. And I promise you this: You will be ok. You are enough.
Sending healing thoughts and prayers from the UK xx
Hey… I am no one famous or popular BUT I am a recent victim of what you are going through right now. My husband works for a very large and successful company in St. Louis and I am a stay at home mom. I know the RAW relentless sick feeling you are going through right now. I have so much to tell you and it all ends with HOPE!!! In short I found out some vile things my husband did during my pregnancy and our marriage that were unspeakable. Like you I gave him NO reason to turn from our marriage and do the things he did. I am certain you have so much support BUT I also know that unless someone knows almost exactly what you’ve been through from experience they really don’t actually know. I pray that you contact me because I want to tell you more about my story AND how we are working through this and are stronger than ever. On our way home from church tonight I actually was talking to my husband saying how I feel like what he and I have been through and where we are at right now would give other couples HOPE! We are a very private family and keep a very close and small circle and if you want to talk I give you my word through my faith that it will be just between you and I. As a matter of fact I don’t even need to hear the details because I lived them, I just want to give you HOPE in a very dark and lonely time. You can check my facebook it is under Brad-Shari Schnur and my cell number is 636-577-6680.
I’m praying for you!💜 Turn to your faith for strength to get everyday for those beautiful babies. Take one hour at a time. Don’t think too far ahead, it will drive you insane. You are an amazing person, wife, Mother and friend, never, ever forget that. Take one step at a time and again pray..I encourage you to pray for peace in your life. Hang in there!!
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I also went through something similar. I can still remember the heartache, sleepless nights the tears. I like you refused to give up on my marriage but it wasn’t the same as you said the trust had gone. Today unfortunately some women are predatory the don’t care about the partner. I could never do that to another woman. I wish you all the best. You are a beautiful woman and a loving mother.
First, I am sooooo sorry you’re going through this. I mean, as viewers of RHOC. We can say that we all so “signs”, Meghan. He didn’t want a dog. You got one. He didn’t want kids. You now have three beauties. You have to kind of look at some things too on your end even though this is his fault. He stepped outside of the marriage. I mean, it’s as if he was (in a roundabout way) saying that he didn’t want the married settled down life..He may have a hard time with coming clean about heavy sh*t. He can’t just do full disclosure honesty….but wtf do I know??!
Oh girl. I’m so sorry. What do you expect? You’re his 3rd wife. He didn’t pay the tabloids off to protect you… he did it to protect his reputation. He may not have gotten physical with this woman, but I guarantee you… if it wasn’t with her, it would have been with someone else. He was already in that mindset to get attention and sexual needs outside his marriage. Before you had children, I could see by watching the show that he did not look like he wanted any more children. I think he was done raising kids. Sometimes we turn a blind eye to the signs/ red flags that are right in front of us. I think he is a selfish man that wants a woman to give him a lot of attention and not have the stress of raising kids.
Take it Day by day. xo
Meghan your Husband Jim seems like he has a lot of Narcissism points that I noticed from not being there at some very critical time for you! He doesn’t matter who is with he will always be number one !
I feel like over the years your new on the show on Instagram social media you’re always making excuses for him saying it’s his Job ! Many people are busy . It won’t change sweet lady . He really did you a favor by showing his Authentic self to you and the world . Please sweetheart please Think of your children do want this kinda energy for your children to feel. I feel he sorry he got caught not sorry for his actions because he showed his behavior patterns to who ever he would be married too. Hugs 🤗 and prayers
How can we even trust people in this world, if our number one best friend and life partner betrayals us? Special when we make an commitment?
My heart is with you and I pray for you and your children. May you find peace and happiness in whatever decision you make for your family.
If you want to work it out with him..please do that. You know what to do. I couldn’t stay with my now ex. Mine didn’t take full responsibility and showed signs of doing it again. Texting nude photos to other women is cheating. Period. My guy felt it was harmless. I couldn’t keep looking over my shoulder, but that’s my story.
Hugs, love and prayers to you Meghan. Nothing else I can write-Idk how Is get thru this so I have nothing but positive thoughts and healing prayer for you and ur family. ❤️🙏
Stay strong. Marriage is one of the hardest jobs, as is being a mother. You need time to help. You will learn to forgive but you never truly forget unfortunately. You just have to decide if you are going to cut and run. OR stay and fight for your family.
My husband cheated on me also…I couldn’t recover from it. Anniversaries felt like a slap in the face, when are we counting from? When we were married? From his last indiscretion? I went to therapy to learn how to get my head around it all but there was no repairing the lost trust. Without the bond of trust there is no relationship- at least for me.
Your pain breaks my heart, I know it all too well. Sadly you joined a club you had no intention of joining.
You have many choices to make now EVERYONE will give you advice. Ultimately, you will do what is best for YOUR FAMILY.
This is a almost like a death, mourn as such. You will cry, get angry, sadness and depression will travel this journey with you.
Then you as the powerful, bright, intelligent woman that you are will put your life back together.
Eloquently put your a upstanding lady and I pray for you it’s heartbreaking your going through all this my thoughts and prayers are with you
There are so many women who have experienced this and yet there is little to be said to comfort you. Men do stupid things and women suffer. This does not mean he loves you any less. Perhaps this will open his eyes and he can find himself in this storm he has created. Marriage has many phases and now this hurtful phase has occurred and together you can get through this, or determine you cannot.
Please nourish yourself so you remain strong for your children. Sadly, they suffer right along with you. Know that women all across the country wish we could hold your hand and help you through this as we know the fear, anger, mind numbing, soul crushing pain.
So sorry meghan, he is a man of the world and old habits die hard, perhaps you are stronger than him, therefore you can cope with your son, and his health issues better. Maybe your husband was running away, and burying his head in the sand,you are a beautiful person and he is a weak man,.Never say never, give yourself time and take solace in your wonderful bundles of joy, hopefully you both get back on track. sending healing hugs 🙏 😘 you will bounce back xx
Dear Meghan,
Sadly, you & I belong to a club neither wanted to join. I am so sorry for your pain, for your anger, for the hurt you feel! I wish I could take it away. Yet all I can do is pray for you and your beautiful babies.
Over the next weeks decisions will be made, remember, to make them when AND ONLY WHEN, you are ready! And try to make them with your head and not your heart.
All my love-
You’re fan
I’m sorry for u and your family and I will pray for u. Meghan. He is a serial cheater. Egotistical, selfish and believes in his own publicity. Save yourself, take yr kids. He will never change.
Oh sweet Meghan, I am so sorry, my heart is truly breaking for you.
I know EXACTLY how you feel right now because it’s happened to me, as well (twice)!
I firmly believe that the emotional cheating is so much harder to deal with.
The time they steal from us & invest in someone else is something we can never recover, especially when you were pregnant with your beautiful twins (I will pray that you get answers soon & it is minor issue)
Take time for you periodically so you can be the best Mommy to your trio possible.
I know that I don’t know you personally, only what producers, editors, etc. allow us to see, but…
What I DO see is a strong, intelligent, loving, & resourceful woman who will get through this.
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price IS far above rubies.”
Proverbs 31:10
All my best to you dear-heart,
~Andie
LoveAndie.net
Oh Meghan, I know the pain is intense. Keep friends and family close.
Your sadness and honestly is powerful. I admire you for sharing this devastating part of your life. Secrets are deadly and you sharing will help you and others around you because you will not tolerate it being “swept under the rug”. It’s ripping the bandaid off that’s the hardest once that’s done it’s the healing , time and patience that you need. I wish you well.
Oh megan I really do feel sad for you as u have been 75% of the marriage and Jimmy is the other 25% I have always felt this I am sorry 4 feeling this way you are an excellent wife and mum to your beautiful daughters u was always so happy ànd positive even with his other children u have been great so it is not your fault you are beautiful person inside n out I really hope and pray hart is ok hopefully you n Jimmy can get through all this but no one controls what the other person does when their better half isn’t around all my love hope and prayers things will work out 4 all of you even if you separate for a while 4 space or decide to separate permenetly excuse that spelling I hope it’s on friendly terms 4 u all xxx
Keeping you in my thoughts and sending strength and love. Good on you for sharing. Problems locked are more painful than airing it out. Strong Momma- focus on baby first – the rest will follow. Peace and love.
You are one strong beautiful woman inside and out and I can o let hope you get through this long healing journey. You definitely don’t deserve this. No one does. Day by day and step by step I hope you can achieve some
Peace and move forward. Remember your beautiful babies need their amazingly strong mother. You got this.
You’ll be in my prayers Meghan! I’m sorry that you are dealing with this and that you even have to address this publicly, that cannot be easy. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but know that there will be millions of prayers going up for you and your children. One day at a time, is all I can say. Cry when you need to cry, never apologize for your feelings through this yo anyone, it’s nobodies business! Sending you healing vibes, you are a strong, selfless & beautiful woman you will eventually rise above this & will feel your strength back! ❤️
You are a beautiful, bright articulate girl and this just sucks. Sadly all that we see is the glimpses of an individual on the “Housewives” but from what was seen from your husband was never very flattering. He seemed arrogant and self involved. Probably not dealing with aging so well. You seemed supportive and tolerant of him and it still was not enough. I hope you can find peace in all this and wallow in the beauty of motherhood. Prayers for your son.
Megan I’m so sorry he did this. But know that you won’t be able to understand why. He probably doesn’t understand it. You are a very strong person and as time goes by this will be easier to deal with. A great therapist will be essential to help you cope. Also accept the love and support from family and friends. There’s reasons things happen and have faith in yourself and your life that all will come right in the end. For now feel your feelings, process them and don’t feel guilty about that. You will come out if this whole and it all will get better. Big hug to you my dear.
Girl, I’ve been through , hell I am going through it! It’s been a year and a half, and it still hurts! It is the worse pain I have ever felt!
Betrayal is so painful, so deep, some days, it fells like it will never go away!
Reading your “post” made me cry and re live the pain! It won’t desapear, you eon’t forget, but it will get better, it is obvious that you love him, just like I love my husband, and he loves you, other wise, he could just leave, right!? Right now, there is nothing else holding him back! It’s out! so there is no more secrets!
So with love, all wounds heal, with time all pain fades, and with family all the good memories will take up the space of the bad one!
May God bless you and your family at this difficult time, have faith, and cry all you need!
You do not need to be strong, all the time!
Much love to you, from a woman that hasn’t gone through it!
Meghan my heart goes out to you. I too went through this and yes we divorced. Sadly. But 7 years later we remarried realizing that there really wasn’t anyone else in the world for either of us but each other. Second time around has been a happy and peaceful time. A time to not look back and to reflect on growing old together. Now we are grandparents and everyday feels like a day when you just slip your feet into your most comfortable slippers and stay home. I love us. Then and now.
You and Jim can get through this. It will be tough but you can. And later you can forget. You can really.
Robin from Louisiana
Know you’re worth in that he absolutely cannot be allowed to continue to behave insensitively rudely and shamefully to you any longer. Though you can succeed bc I’ve seen it happen, make sure he’s committed to changing his behavior bc changing yours won’t fix the relationship. It’s a TWO-WAY street Jim and you’ve been a real ASSHOLE to Meghan. Grow up and stop being a selfish irresponsible man.
I love following you and your family. It’s a lot of joy following you all and seeing the kids grow and the family journe. This was a real surprise, I mean my jaw just went slack. I am so so so sorry. No one deserves this kind of betrayal and you’re so right.. you have nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. Nothing. You’re husband is still lost in anger, he wants to blame “slimy”. That’s what really gets me and makes me mad. He said something to the effect of “it doesn’t change the kind of man I am” I was thinking to myself that he has no idea what he’s done yet and isn’t taking 100 percent responsibility. Doesn’t he know that what we do when we think no ones looking says EVERYTHING about what kind of humans we really are? I will never look at him the same way because he is not the man I thought he was. He’s mad he got caught, he’s mad at slimy for saying untrue things but it’s all just misdirected anger at himself. He’s 100 percent to blame.
Meghan my heart bleeds for you during this awful situation but there are other vows that were made to each other yes he has broken one but what about the others. I am not condoning his behavior and yes he is at fault and must suffer the consequences but there are woman out there that are evil and prey on men like your husband. There is no such thing as the perfect marriage but you have your priorities right it’s not about the material things he is your best friend and life companion but don’t end it over one infidelity learn from it and grow as a couple that is what marriage is getting through the tough times because at the end of the day when your old the kids have left the coop you will only have each other. Good luck and wishing you strength I am not religious but my thoughts are with you. BTW first time reaching out to someone like you but when I saw your post I thought I had to say something.
Your an amazing wife,mother,daughter sister ❤️ Hold your head up keep pushing on God bless you and your family
i seen this coming from day one he had to put up with you gossiping turning on vicky shannon crying like a baby with needles he married a little girl not a women we all knew it wouldnt last you bragged at charitys we have this home that home you were a crap step mom let him go and move on stay out of peoples lives and check your own you got lost along the way with fame it wasnt meant to be with you it didnt last
This is so hard Meghan. You are absolutely correct in that you did nothing wrong! Please remind yourself of this daily. Marriage is a choice every single day!! Cheating is also a choice….there are no excuses. Every marriage has their ups & downs. This is life.. It’s a roller coaster for most of us. We choose to get onto this roller coaster with people we know will hold our hand when we are scared or smile with us when it’s amazing. Let’s face it, nobody wants to ride a roller coaster alone. That would be a horrible ride. It can feel lonely & isolating 😞. I commend you for being honest with the world. Whether you feel it or not….you have amazing strength shining out to us
by just sharing your real emotions. I know that everything about this whole nightmare completely just sucks. I hope the world is kind to you right now (and you are kind to yourself). It just takes one breath at a time to keep surviving. Sending you lots of love ❤️
I’m so sorry and saddened by this news.
Keep your FAITH and lean on Our LORD🙏🏻
As hard as it will be, I know first hand… LOVE yourself and your BEAUTIFUL BABIES.
Jim will have to earn his way back into your Loving Life💖
Stay STRONG Meghan, you’ve always held yourself with Class and Dignity and your Supporters will always support you! Praying for your strength 🙏🏻 MUCH LOVE to you and your sweet babies 💖
Megan, I feel your pain and this is beautifully written,Its so hard to function properly as a mother with this looming around your mind,I dont know if a person can ever forgive this behavoir but I can promise you one thing, right now your hurt but someday this will turn to hate and when it does you will be able to make a decision on your marriage and it will be him thats hurt and then God will send you the most amazing man its called Karma and ive never seen it to fail. try to be strong for yourself, NO man is worth this pain and in time you will be able to clearly see this..things will get better, they always do….
I’m so sorry. I have been through this also. If he’s willing there us hope on the other side. But the pain is real for you now. Stay strong!
I’m so, so, sorry honey. Of course- you did absolutely nothing to deserve this. Ugly cry and throw things until your anger abates. Gather your strength that got your children here in the first place. Get a good counselor. Depending on how things go, a good lawyer. Protect yourself and protect your children.
We can love someone deeply who may or may not be good for us and our children. I’m about to pray for you to have wisdom, strength, and peace for whatever battles lie ahead. God bless you.
I’m am so very saddened by this for you Meghan and countless other women who experience sexting cheating or physical affair. I don’t think one is easier to accept over the other. Turn to God for comfort, surrender the pain to Him. Jimmy must seek forgiveness from repentance. The Lord will guide him. You want to save your marriage, learn to trust again? You both gotta do the work.
I’ll pray for you both. I’ll Life little Hart for Gods comforting umbrella to protect him, tonfind the right medical doctors and facilities. Meghan everything will be alright. Our definition of alright may shift a tad. ❤️🙏🏻❤️
Wow, raw and honest and so painful. I’ve been there and there’s nothing anyone can say but I’m so sorry he did this to you. You did nothing to deserve it. He’s weak and selfish and needed his ego fed during a time when you weren’t conveniently there to feed it.
On the other hand, it happens. People falter and are weak and make stupid choices. Sometimes it’s a symptom and an opportunity to work to build a stronger marriage.
Will you ever trust him again? Yes, probably, but in a different way, knowing now that he is capable of thinking of himself over you and your family. And it may take a longer time to trust yourself and your sense of when things feel right but may not be. Know that words aren’t anything and it’s only the action that counts.
Take your time, ALL OF IT, to recover. Don’t ever let anyone shame you or rush you with their impatience. Don’t be surprised at the number of times you feel like you’re okay only to be blindsided by one trigger or another that sends you spiraling. Time heals, but it’s a slow process. Prioritize yourself and your children, and let the people who you truly know love you put their arms around you. You will survive. ❤️
I am SO sorry you are going through this.
I’m so happy to see that you don’t take any responsibility in your husband’s faults. What worries me is the fact that you, somewhere deeeep down in your heart, and stated in your article, you mentioned the word recover. Recover is defined as returning to a normal state of health, mind, and strength. Would you describe the man you’re married to as sick, crazy, and weak? No! Those are the opposite words we (women) would use to describe the man, the father, the protector! You will find yourself trapped, help yourself and your children to know what to do when such a betrayal of trust occurs. I too am a very loyal person, I’m a Leo, and I just can’t imagine accepting this behavior. You shouldn’t either!
You put every thought I had when this happened to me(for the last time). I found the text and the pics for the final time and decided I wasn’t going to do it again. I knew every time I looked at him I would see her. Everytime his phone dinged I would wonder. Everytime he left I’d wonder where he’s going . Whatever decision you come to I’m sure it will be the right one for you.
Oh my god! I’m sorry. I can’t imagine the pain you are going through. Take all the time you need. Enjoy your babies. In the grand scheme of things they are all that matters. If you think Jimmy is worth it then it will all work out. I agree homes, trips and diamonds aren’t everything. Love and trust is. You deserve better than what happened. I’m disappointed in Jimmy, I thought he was better than this.
Wow. You are so brave. Thank you for sharing your story. You will get through this and you will heal from these wounds.
Once trust is broken it never recovers no matter what means you use as therapy. It is a flaw in his character. You can forgive but you never can never forget. I am sorry this happened to you and your children. He will never understand the betrayal or the breach he has caused in your relationship. You have choices to make…leave him or stay. If you choose to stay, live your best life for you and your children. Do not use it trying to catch him doing it again. Live life to its fullest!
I was married for 48 years when he died and his betrayal still hurts.
I’m so sorry Meghan. I love you and your stories. You are bigger than this. You are one strong. You will rise above this. You don’t deserve this. You have beautiful children and you are beautiful inside and out. Take some time to heal. You can either move on or you can’t. You’re the person that deserves to make this decision. Counseling helps a ton too. Ugly crying helps me. And I’m so sorry about Hart. Saving our babies from everything that can hurt them is our job, and it so hard when we have no answers or can’t do anything. Just enjoy that sweet baby boy and take it one day at a time. Life is for sure a roller coaster. Again I’m so sorry 😘
I’m so sorry Meghan, I’m praying hard for you and your family. You are strong and God and Jesus will get you through anything, you just have to believe that with all your heart.
Psalm 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.
Mark 10:27
Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God.”
It is so brave of you to be honest during the hardest time of your life. You are probably helping so many others. You will look back on this time in your life, and whichever way it goes, you will be stronger and better. You are awesome!!
I am so sorry :(. You deserve much better than this. He always treated you horribly on RHOC and I could never figure out why you were with him. He is a complete narcissist and you’ll never have a happy ending with a narcissist. I believe you can find love with a good man someday, but he isn’t that man. Sending prayers your way. You will come out of this on the other side much better without him.
Aww lovely 😊 look after your babies they will give you all the love 💕 you will ever need, he is the loser in this he his a self obsessed man love your babies and kick him out once a cheat always a cheat xx
Meghan I’m so sorry that you’re having to deal with this! However thank you for being so brave and courageous to share and be so transparent with everyone! I wish you and your family the absolute best!
Meghan,
Wow. Every woman can relate to your words whether or not they’ve experienced what you are going through. Insightful and profound. As a wife of three years with a 15 month old son I am trying to put myself in your shoes. It seems impossible to get past betrayal. Not sure I could. Why would a man want to be that kind of husband/father to his family? I wish you all the strength, love and courage to get you through this.
Megan
I’d leave him. Period, end of story. If there wasn’t a physical affair, it’s only b/c he got caught too soon.
We have sp.needs son,w Autism Then 5 yrs ago coworker wouldn’t stop texting;her friend sent love song to him abt them! Ask for D pic! I was ready2tell boss/hub told HR & I found out boss encouraged it! worried abt bad PR the Boss tried to say we’re not married! That was excuse bc my hub filed EEOC complaint Abt cover up from HR,girl harassing our home- my teen daughter said to her dad tell her stop texting! but I literally suffered situational anxiety bc I tried to stay strong for kids / he couldn’t quit right away bc sole income and even if they ever were ‘together’ NOBODY Deserves TO BE HARASSED IN OWN HOME. CRAZINESS. btw that Girl got his old job As Mgr when he quit! Hang in there! Your gonna be ok! Hugs!
Wow. So, so much respect for you. Wishing you peace at this difficult time. ♥️
You are an intelligent, beautiful, sweet, strong, loving, and devoted human.
You are deserving of love and loyalty from an honest, kind, and worthy man with a healthy self esteem, pride for his wife, and the best sense of inner self worth.
I hope whatever decision you end up making that you find inner peace and strength to move forward with it.
I feel such sadness for the way you had to find out the truth. The media is the last place you need to be reading about this. The fact that he was deceptive, and tried to cover it up says a lot about his character, or lack thereof. No woman should ever have to find out they were cheated on in this horrific way.
You are deserving of so much more, and quite honestly, you can fall in love again with someone who is a better match for you… is devoted, caring, loyal, loving, trustworthy, and has a solid sense of self worth and knows how to treat someone with kindness.
Much love and prayers to you …
I have nothing to say about Jim – he’s a narcissist and an asshole. However, I do know that you have the very best neurologists in St. Louis at WUSM STL Childrens Hospital. My 10 year old daughter was diagnosed at 6 months old and I really miss STL Childrens. We are in Colorado now. Focus on what is most important because Jim won’t. Your baby needs you now. You will come out of this stronger and wiser. Much love mama. ❤️
so I saw on a bravo link with your rented house in OC. Let’s see. You brag about not cooking and ordering out. You focus on name dropping brands constantly. You appear shallow. $20 says you go to bed with a headache often. Let me clue you in. Any man wants a woman who can cook somewhat, carry on some kind of conversation about something other than fashion, and frankly, does her wifely duties. Arnold S. banged his housekeeper. But she could cook and she could screw. Men are really that simple. I suggest you get Jimbo an account a http://www.chaturbate.com so he can occupy himself on the road, take some cooking class at Schnucks or Dierbergs near you, and decide to put the kids down early and give him some 2 or 3 times a week. Otherwise, any woman with a pulse is Ms. Right Now. oh and make him get rid of that stupid F150 Raptor and get a minivan in a teal or silver. And a vasectomy.
Happy Father’s Day Jimmy. You have really sloppy technique. You never heard of a burner phone?
Thank you for sharing your pain. It isn’t easy and I’m sure with having the public knowing that makes it worse! Been there and it’s an awful feeling, minus being out there for the world. I send you prayers and hugs to heal in your own time.
I felt so much sadness while reading this post. Although heartbreaking, it was beautifully stated. Sending you, Jim, and your babies love and light through this dark time.
I’m so sorry! The same exact thing happened to me. So sad….. lots of counseling. Completely understand exactly how you’re feeling . It’s been 6 months for me and our marriage is actually stronger. Still a struggle every day. Keep the faith❤️
You don’t deserve this, no woman does. I am sorry that this has happened to you and your beautiful babies. Be strong <3
Well said! I have lived this same story and my heart goes out to you.
You deserve better treatment than that! All women do!!! You were giving birth to his children! He should have been just as present and focused as you were! Don’t lower your expectations because you think you have to! Society needs to demand that men behave better as husbands and fathers, dammit!!!
So sorry this is happening…even more sorry about the baby. You can live without a slimy husband but you can not live without your children❤️❤️❤️
my heart breaks for you. I pray you find peace and joy.
Dearest Meghan,
I am so so sorry you are dealing with this on top of worrying about your son. I was betrayed as well when my daughter was just 8 months old. Betrayal by your life partner is heart wrenching and one of the most painful experience you will go through. BUT, you will get through this and everything will work out for you. Your twins are a bleassing and they will help you get through this. There are daya I was ugly puffy eye crying while changing my daughter and thought when is this pain going to end. It will end Meghan. You will get through this and come out the other end stronger. It is ok to cry and feel the way you are. Allow yourself to lean into those emotions; it helped me heal and you will as well. Sending you lots of love and prayers from Nova Scotia Canada
Ps- you are very brave to share your story. You are helping other woman who are dealing with similar emotional pain.
Sending you love and prayers
Nicole ❤
You’re a queen. I’m not going to convince you. Only you can realize you’re the best lady and mom. You can do it because you have to and you’re strong. Life has consequences. He’s gotta live with them. There are men out there willing and loving to honored to have you as a partner. ♥️
Meghan I’ve followed you from the get go. You are beautiful and bright and no this his actions do not define you or your entire marriage. I guess the ball is in his court. Can he show you he is worthy of you? I guess we will see. He was so incredibly lucky to have you and he pissed all over it. Sad. Just remember no matter what you have your beautiful babies. No matter what. He will pay for what he has done by more than you. Let’s see if he sinks or swims. I will keep you and those three angels in my prayers. God Bless Meghan
What beautiful writing!!!!!! You should pen a book!i miss u on tv. This blog post only solidifies my view on u, you are, simply put, deeply genuine!!!
This was an article I wish I could’ve written when a similar thing happened to me in a public way like this. I pray you have peace, and compassion and hope. This really hit a personal place for me and I just so badly want you to know you’ll feel better with time but that isn’t what sounds good or makes it feel any better in the moment. You and your children will be in my prayers, god bless you all.
Meg, you’re a class act. To me, when men do this, there is a narcissistic component. He needs that attention & is weak.This is your marriage, your life and you need to make decisions that best serve yourself and children and of course Jim. I’m sure he feels terrible and hopefully he will go to therapy to really work on and correct this. What he failed to recognize was addressing this a long time ago because now he’s lost your trust. That is the crux, it’s very hard to earn back. One day at a time.
Hi Meaghan – OMG! 1544 comments, you must be tearing your hair out! I hope you read this: Have you ever heard the phrase “Malignant Narcissist” In my opinion (besides his absolute straight up cheating) he shows all the classic signs. He had a lapse? An “incident”? I know that you want to stay and we are creatures who hate change. I think (as a person who has no credentials whatsoever) you become “trauma bonded” – it’s interesting to google it. You also have kids now, but what’s in their best interest? Unfortunately, he loves and deeply cares only for himself. He will lie, cheat, do whatever it takes to get HIS needs met. Pure and simple. It NEVER changes. He will tell you it will change, it NEVER will. Take a look at “QUORA” regarding Narcissism – see a Psychiatrist – get counseling – make your plan and run like the wind as soon as you can. Remember – he is only capable of loving one person – himself.
That was a courageous, “adult”, torn & sad blog page! Good for you for being a confident & beautiful person! You deserve the time you need to decide what you want to do. I also admire how you didn’t “blame” the slimy woman…those women are a dime a dozen. Hold your head high when you need to & ugly cry when you need to!
My prayers are with you and your family, especially that sweet baby Hart!
Hang in there Meghan. You have a lot going for you with your strong spirit and the undying love for your family. Many prayers go out to your beautiful little boy Hart.
Meghan..my heart goes out to you. I know what this feels like. My ex-husband cheated on me when I was pregnant with our 2nd son. It hurts and cuts you so deep. But you are right this doesn’t define you. You are a strong beautiful woman and no matter what the future holds .. just know that time heals the hurt but we don’t forget. I tried to stay with my husband and make it work but I just couldn’t. But at least I knew that I had given it a try and couldn’t ssy what if. At the end of the day you need to do what’s best for you and your family! Hugs girl… you will get through this! Your a boss babe! ❤
Let it out! The same thing happened to me years ago, sans the fame and money. You’re right that you are no victim, you are mad as hell and have every right to be. I think he has an addictive personality, he obviously cannot control his impulses. Or he’s just a narcissist who feels entitled. The testosterone is dropping as he ages, but the behavior will come out in another form. You’re too good for him. I know you love him and that won’t just stop. But step back and breathe- go forward in YOUR terms, nothing less. You’re a good mom – keep your head up.
So beautifully written….you have so much class! Focus on yourself and those babies, they are what matters the most.
He will, when he lays his head down, regret.
Marriage is also about teaching forgiveness to the children, because when they are old enough, they will learn what happened. And love you their Mom for being so strong everyday.
Hang in there and sending prayers to you and healing thoughts especially to your baby.
I’m sorry for all that you are going through. You may want to look at any connections between your sons nuerological problems and vaccination.
I’m really sorry for you. No wife deserves this. Why men’s dicks over ride their brains is beyond me. You should be treasured.
Hang in there… do what you can and for your kids… everything will work itself out. My heart goes out to you and your babies
I was never a big fan of yours I’ll admit but I still always like you cuz you were 💯, honest, and stood up for what you believe and it enough people have those qualities. That letter is the best admission from a celeb I’ve ever heard, I could feel your pain. Who cares what people say, you don’t share a life with them. Do you Girl & what you believe best for your fam💜
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I admire your truth. I’ve learned the highest form of intimacy is honestly, transparently & truth. When this is broken our ability for true intimacy in this relationship is deeply affected & a lot of times unable to be repaired. This isn’t because you stop loving them, it’s because they stopped loving themselves. In my doing so the choices they made or continue to make are coming from a place of fear or deficient. Love & Fear can not go exist however many people do whatever it takes to convince their fears are love. I have learned that love needs no explanation or convincing. Your truth is coming from love- you are coming from love. I trust through your love the best outcomes possible will be revealed & even those they may not be what you had hoped for or dreamed of, they are the truth. And the truth always set us free, time is the healer… please be kind yourself & know this lesson is a lesson or choosing love or fear to address, face and get through this. Love always wins!
Sorry you are going through this❤️Prayers, hugs, love & strength for you & your family 🙏
Praying for you and your family! I am so deeply saddened to hear about this! You are intelligent, beautiful and simply worthy of honesty! Praying for you!
Stay strong and surround yourself with people who are supportive of you. Your number one priority is you right now. As for your husband, there is a saying “when people show you who they are, believe them”. It sounds like there have been many instances of betrayal and abandonment…maybe not physical involvement with another woman but with the way he has treated you. You deserve better. It just takes a while to get your heart to catch up with your head.
I admire your strength and transparency. Give yourself time to heal. I do believe you can rebuild the marriage, as long as there’s love and the desire to do from both sides. I’m sorry to hear about your son. I will lift you all up in prayer. Hope you’re able to handle the rest in private for the children’s sake. Men can be so selfish and wreckless. Best of luck to you and your family. I wish nothing but the best for you! So sorry you’re going through all this, Meghan. May you both find peace and love again. XO
Well written commentary, raw and real. You are a strong woman. I applaud your desire to make your marriage work but it is now broken, and as a result you are broken. Will you ever truly trust this man again? How much work will it take for that to happen and will you ever be able to stop “working” at trusting him? Do you want that for yourself for the rest of your life? A comment by Jack was right – he paid her off to protect himself, not you. All that matters now is you and your babies. I wish you luck with whatever path you choose.
You will get through this, I promise you. Whatever you decision is, let it be yours. Your kids need a strong and healthy MOMMY. My advice is to focus on your kids and give your marriage some space so you can think with a clear mind. Stop, breathe and say wait a moment, let me gather myself when I am ready I will make my decision. Focus on you my love, we are strong women and your kids need you with a clear mind. It’s foggy now but it won’t be for long, take your time and do what YOU feel is right. I have much respect for you, your transparent outpouring helps others feel the same when enduring this difficult situation. You will get through this, just give yourself the time. Don’t rush it’s your decisions it’s your family whatever your choice maybe. May god bless you and your family. Here a mom of two kids with autism speaks from her heart to you. All the best – Melissa Bennetti, Miami FL
I am so sorry this happened—especially in such a public way. Find a good therapist if you don’t have one already, unpack all these emotions, and find a healthy outlet for your anger (I’ve heard of “wreck rooms”).
Take it easy right now, be kind to yourself, and concentrate on what’s most important—- those sweet children.
Sending you love and hope during this time.
Meghan, you have Grace from God and you show that grace thru your actiions and word. I know exactly how you feel as I too suffered betrayal. Stay strong sweetheart, you have beautifyl chiildren who love, adore & need youu whole. I have no doubt that this will take time to heal but remember your strength, your love for yor babies. I prayer yyour marriage can be saved and your heart will heal. Im sorry you have ha# to deal with the devil but remember God is always with you . If you find a day wheree yourr heart is bursstiing in your chest from all you are going through I send you mine , my heart is huge and you can share it with me any time you feel you need more ” heart space”. Also remember darling one that forgiveness is not for Jim but for you to set yourself free from the baggage & give you the peace you need. Much love, Kathleen H.
I’m so sorry you’re going thru this 😞This makes me so sad for you ! I’m 52 years old with 2 grown children and one 16 year old …when My daughter was only 1 & I was going thru cancer having treatments ….my husband had a friend he talk to and said they were just friends but I found text that lead me to believe it was something else ……it destroyed me I thought we were best friends , Love of my life ….but he hurt me to the point I wanted to leave , but here we are 14 years later still happily married …32 years married , 3 children , 4 grand babies ….things work out if you believe in him and your Love for each other ❤️💪🤗
I wish the best for you both !!
I feel for you! I went through the same thing with my husband, and a slimey person that was my best friend. It does not matter that there was no physical relations what matters is that he betrayed your marriage just by talking to the slimey person and engaging in that behavior, that’s the cheating. My husband kept saying they did not have sex my response was you may has well because it hurts the same. I hope you can survive this nasty situation if that is what you want. I understand that also, you do not just turn your feelings on and off like a faucet. I attempted to stay but slime would not stay away so I had no choice but to get out. Hopefully if this is what you want, you can make it work and hopefully he will do the same and give you everything you will need going forward. Prayers for your family!
You’re right. Healing takes time. I’ve been in the same boat (hubs with an inappropriate texting situation). It hurts. It’s hard. But as Hemingway wrote, courage is grace under pressure.
Stay true to you and your priorities and beliefs for your family and love will win. Whichever way it should be.
My husband and I are stronger than ever now. Wishing you peace and light through this.
Lisa in FL
As another woman, another mother, another wife I read your words with tears slipping down my cheeks. Your powerful yet completely honest thoughts were so heart felt. I think most good woman reading this felt your pain along with you as did I. I admire your beautiful honesty & wish you & your precious babies all the best. Try your best to stay focused on just you & your children during this hard & sad time bc they will help to relieve your pain. As sad as it is for you at the moment keep your chin up high & know that you’re not alone. You have 3 beautiful little humans that love you unconditionally 💖💙💙. They need your love more then any man would ever & they show it naturally. Sending a hug your way from another strong mama!
I am so sorry. Your words are so honest and we all can see the pain you are in. At this point, take care of yourself and your kids. Get the help you need for Hart and get someone you love (mom, sister, bffs) to be with you. You will heal, you may not have the future you always dreamed of but it will be positive and honest. Baby steps. Sending a big hug.
Prayers for you Megan, prayers that you one day can forgive and move on and rebuild what has been lost. I have been in your shoes and it takes time you may forgive but you will never forget. If you truly love him and he truly loves you ,you both will work this out for your family. No matter what you are a strong woman,mother, with or without him , you keep doing you and taking care of your children. Best of luck ❤️
I’m so sorry you are going through this. My prayers are with you and I hope you can find peace soon. Hang in there. You have so many people who are cheering for you.
Stay strong Baby it will pass… now u just no the person cheaters don’t change they just become more sneaky… Your right u don’t deserve it.. u never did that’s the thing u feel guilty for doing absolutely nothing.. that’s the thing keep your head up and push your way forward.. God sit high and look low.. be blessed 💕
Marriage is hard work and non-physical cheating is still cheating. Please know that forgiveness takes time, but is possible. The wonderful thing is that you aren’t placing blame anywhere but where it belongs – you did nothing wrong and slimy people will always try to be slimy…
Know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and as long as you are both willing to work to fix what’s broken in the marriage, there is always hope. If that is not what ends up taking place, then there is a different hope of being able to be the best versions of yourselves in all situations.
My prayers for healing are with you as I know how difficult this is – but even moreso since you have to endure this in the public eye full of those people not wanting what’s best for you, but to enjoy in your pain…I can’t even imagine how difficult that would be.
Chin up Megan, dont concern yourself with other or give explanations. Between you and Jimmy talk it out, sort it out. Like you said what use is material things without trust and love. Thinking of you. Jan xx
You are not alone! Sending you all the positive vibes I can muster! I too have experienced the abyss where you are finding yourself now. Unfortunately mama, it’s absolutely going to get worse before it gets better. You will have to tread in the deep water for a minute before the healing can begin in earnest. So in spite of THAT extra fuck you, and on top of everything else your dealing with, you have to hold on tight to one little kernel of hope. It’s your proof that this darkness doesn’t last forever, it only seems like it will. Although the betrayal of trust may seem insurmountable, that too shall pass, after time and distance have had the opportunity to do their good work.
In the meantime try to forget the fact that the pain your feeling is the equivalent of being skinned alive and then tossed into the ocean ( at least it was for me😢) forget all the chaos, and the boiling homicidal rage you might be in one minute and the million questions so packed with all the self doubt and insecurity the next, forget about trying to suppress the tears that flow like a river, so many tears, hard to believe that we can produce so many tears, try to let go of being afraid and JUST BREATHE. Count to a hundred, or maybe even a thousand, if you have to. Go out in your garden and get your hands into the dirt, dig up something, chop down something, plant something, whatever you want, just make sure that you get dirty doing it. Most importantly, keep it up until you wear yourself out. While your out there in fresh air, let yourself feel free to rant and rave, as you sweat and cry to release some of the fear, disappointment, and uncertainty you must be feeling, down into the earth. It’s cleansing, in a very Native American, GROUNDING way.
I get my hands in the soil to help me process loss. It has somehow miraculously seen me through my saddest days.
Although your man is still in the land of the living, if only by the skin of his teeth, you are faced with the death of what you had together. It doesn’t matter if you decide to stay in your marriage or not. You will have to grieve the relationship and put it properly in the ground before you can realistically, and effectively, move forward. Reconciliation can’t succeed without forgiveness. Forgiveness is hard enough to muster on our best days, naturally, it’s even harder to bestow, graciously, on someone who is the last person in the world who deserves it. But what would love be if we withdraw it whenever someone we love is fallible? When we are at our worst as human beings we are most in need of the love that we technically don’t deserve. Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water as they say, at least not yet. Don’t feel any pressure to make any rash decisions about the future with your husband. Don’t listen to the peanut gallery to intently, the best of intentions from family and friends can sometimes sabotage. Your all raw emotion now, and what you decide in haste could easily end with you repenting in leisure.
That’s all the more reason for you to get in the garden and pull a Joan Crawford, it’s the kind of purge that will help you work out any hostility, safely, on vegetation, but at the same time will definitely scare your husband, which is good for your self esteem, twisted as that may be, but super empowering nonetheless 😇 All the neighbors will probs think that your off your rocker, but who CARES? Let it out, and keep letting it out until the power of the destructive deeds and words lose their strangle hold on your spirit.
My Oma always said that an affair is not a reason to end a marriage, because outside of their marriage, sex to a man is the same emotional equivalent as a change of underwear. It’s a horrible example, I know, but coming from my (then) 75 year old German Grandmother it was funny. Hopefully you’ll agree😁
Thank you for having the courage to share your story. I found that in my situation, the best deterrent for my fiancé’s errant behavior was to put it on front street where he would have no choice but to accept responsibility for his choices.
After 5 years together, however, I had no choice but to make the decision to leave him because I was so stuck in my sadness and anger I couldn’t function. It took me 3 more years before I was finally able to forgive him, albeit from afar. He never stopped pursuing me even though I refused to see him in person.
I never stopped loving him, although I had given up any hope of ever being with him again. I was too afraid to risk being hurt again. I didn’t think he was capable of doing all the hard work that I required just to consider giving him another chance. I tried to move on but thought about my ex every day. He was my first thought in morning, my last thought before falling asleep at night. My ex not only endured my verbal assault for the better part of those three years, he actually payed attention and slowly, steadily, incorporated my suggestions ( hostile as they might have been at times). He did so because it was the right thing for him to do, partly for me, to be sure, but also mainly for himself, and, ESPECIALLY, for his child. He really wanted to be the kind of man that would make his son proud.
So long story longer🙂
I finally was done admonishing him and last December he invited me to join him for a Charity event and that was it. When I laid eyes on him after all that time I didn’t feel a murderous rage anymore, in fact, I was grinning from ear to ear. I was so happy to see him. He said that when he saw me looking at him with the same joy in my eyes that I had when we first met, he knew that this was it. He said it was his second chance to get it right. He was determined not to repeat his past mistakes. He has proven that to be true every day for the last 6 months, and with every day I gain confidence that he will continue to do so.
We are so happy, and so grateful, to finally be together again in spite of all obstacles. We are good for each other. We are at our creative best together, and are able to accomplish so much.
But as I said earlier in my novella to you, I had to bury the old, and that meant I had to bury his infidelities and not use them as ammo so that we could try again. I never thought I would be able to do that, since I had suffered so much as a result of them. But I did it, quite easily. He is living up to his promises and I have to live up to mine.
It can be done, because here I am doing it. Even though I am the most temperamental hothead imaginable.
Ever notice how green grass is when it grows back from the scorched earth after a fire?
Sometimes the most amazing things can sprout from devastation.
Stay strong
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We feel your pain. He not only let you down, he let thousands of fans down that believed in him and your union. We root from the sidelines hoping for the best in your story but then this happens. All of us fall short and need forgiveness. I encourage you to forgive but with parameters that it never happens again. You both are wonderful people, it’s just that temptation and sin will always be knocking at the door. Strength and faith keep you from taking that step into the darkness, jeopardizing everything. Stand your ground. You did nothing wrong. Set parameters and make him abide by them. Keep him on a tight leash and over time you both will come back to the realization you love one another and this sort of thing will not define you but make your marriage stronger. My wife and I live in Post Falls ID not far from your home at Gosser Ranch. If we can ever be of help please let us know. Ray and Patti Martin.
Hang in there Megan.
Extraordinarily brave and raw testimony of your heartfelt pain. There are no words to help you. Time does heal and you will for sure. God bless you and your babies and watch over Hart! Xoxo
Beautifully written. My heart is with you.. I am so sorry this is happening to you.
Meghan, If he is telling you THAT much, believe me there’s more! He’s a cheater and will always cheat that’s his makeup. Don’t believe it for one minute all he did was exchange pictures. BS!
Aw Meghan I am so sorry to hear what’s happened. You are such a lovely lady and 💯 right when you say you did nothing wrong. It’s all on him and his stupid choices.
I’ve been exactly where you are and reading your blog, well it was like I’d written those words. The hurt is truly awful. You question everything and it’s so humiliating. Even if they say nothing physical happened, the words spoken between them and other actions they took is just as hurtful, just as sickening. And for your marriage to survive it’s all on you to put it behind you. You have to be the ‘bigger person’. And that can take every ounce of energy you have.
But you will survive it. You are the bigger person.
My husband and I are still together. 8 years on it still hurts. I still think about it. And although we’ve moved on, I really don’t think I will ever forget or truly forgive him for what he did to me and our family and life together. But I’m glad I stayed. I knew what we had was worth saving.
So I wish you all the very best Meghan. You are a beautiful person inside and out. Never forget that.
Lots of love from a fan in Scotland
Dear Meghan – There is a very simple reason as to why or how he could’ve allowed this to occur…
HE IS A MAN.
I’m probably not the best person to give advice. I have knowingly continued in relationships with men who I know have cheated. My problem was one of fear, insecurity and love. I do not have children, however.
I am a child of divorce and at my age of 67, I still suffer greatly because of the loss of not having been brought up in a loving home with both parents. I can never replace the years I’ve lost with my father, who died when I was 20.
PLEASE think about your children. Seek peace of mind by knowing the kids come first now. Do not allow your children to hear adult arguments. They will suffer from that. Pray and ask your husband to seek counseling with you.
I know you’re in deep pain and filled with anguish but keep the thought that HE IS A MAN. MEN DO THESE THINGS. I’m certain he loves you and your children, so do whatever you can to keep your family together. FORGIVE HIM. Be gentle and kind. Let him rediscover the love he found in you from the beginning.
I wish you all the luck in the world ❤️🍀
EH
Hi Megan,
Thank you for being so raw and honest. I am sorry you are going through this, and so publicly. Marriage is tough, but you are tougher. I hope the best for you.
I’m writing because I’m a mom of a son with a neurological disorder. You don’t know me, but my name Liz, from Long Island, I’m 33 and in August of 2016 I gave birth to a seemingly “neurotypical child.” Five weeks later our lives were turned upside down when he developed infantile spasms. After several months in hospitals and misdiagnosis after misdiagnosis, my son Michael was diagnosed with Joubert Syndrome, an incredibly rare neurological disorder. I was numb for a very long time, but now two years later, I’ve embraced our new normal and I am being the best mom I can be.
Again, you don’t know me, but if you ever just need to speak with a mom that “gets it” I’m always willing to talk.
Best of luck to you and your family.
Regards,
Liz Massa
❤️❤️❤️in the same boat 😢 prayers to you.
I’m so sorry for you, be strong you are much better than this Xx
I am so sorry you have to go through this. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Trust in God, it will all work out.
Leave a cheater, gain a life. chumplady.com
Megan I don’t care how much you Love someone it’s not worth the agony and mistrust you will have to face daily. Count your Blessings and Move On, I know it’s easier said than done but your children need a Mom that’s healthy and Strong not Weak and desperate!
I am so sorry for what you are having to go through. You are such a strong woman, and I think it is a great thing that you have chosen to write about all of it, especially in the way that you did. Keep your head up. Remember that this too shall pass. I may not know you personally, but what I do know is that you will overcome the sadness/disappointment that is heavy in your heart right now. Healing truly does take time…I sincerely hope that for you it goes by quickly. Sending all my love from California.
I’m sorry! You do not deserve this!
Sorry!
Meghan I am a fan of yours! This sucks no nice way to say it. My marriage was the same in it for 13 years my husband decided to have a phone relationship with this woman! She knew me and knew my children, he had a choice and Fucked up! No nicer way to say it!
We all know your husband is married you are a public figure and we know!
There is dirty ugly People out there trying to hurt us in the daily. Temptation is horrible and as a wife I will Tell you that once the months go by you will Heal.
Reading your story out me in tears, sad and angry for allowing others to hurt us!
Truth is you have many options and I will tell you the truth. You can divorce, you can fix this!
Marriage is 2 people trying to become one.
And truth is Therapy will be your best friend.
Therapy with both of you guys.
My advice as ur fan do what makes you happy. It takes soooo much of ur will power to actually feel the same love for them.
My husband knew he was going to suffer with me. Feeling mad angry overwhelmed in front of them. At the same time trying to be a good wife and a great mom!
Life is hard!!!! But I believe in both of you and you will learn how to over come this!
“Getting over it” doesn’t exist it’s time and effort and a lot of love.
Be patient my dear we are all rating for you! Send you a cyber hug and God and therapy will help!
Family that genuinely loves and cares for you and hubby.
This too shall pass… isn’t that what they say? It will though, with the ultimate healer : time. You are so brave to come forward and just tell it like it is. I admire you for this. Be strong, your children need you. Thinking of you. Love from New Jersey.
Praying for you! I think you nailed marriage in this post!
Best wishes whatever YOU decide to do! ♥️
Ugh, I am going through the same thing sister. My fiancé, best friend, my person cheated on me with a girl from work. He proposed to me Aug 31, 2018 and from what I understand it had been going on before then. I feel the same way you do. Betrayed. Lost. I’m left wondering the whys the how comes. The when’s. The how many times. I just found out April 6, 2019 of his indiscretions so it’s been very tough ever since. I know some of my wonderings are irrelevant at this point. I probably shouldn’t want to know, and I don’t. But it’s taken me this long so far just to move on from just that. You’ve helped me to see that I shouldn’t be mad at her anymore. She’s done nothing to me. It was him. He chose to betray me, throw our relationship down the drain. He’s the one that told me he loved me, that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. She owes me nothing. I’ve started this women’s small group and we’re reading a book called Discerning the Voice of God by Priscilla Schirer. It has helped me to see and hear what God is telling me what to do. I highly recommend this book. I pray you will find peace and comfort with what you’re going through. This isn’t easy. You’re right, it isn’t fair that bad things happen to us good women who give it our all and best to the man we love. I can say this. It isn’t you. It’s him. Pray for him. Ask God to help you help him. Your marriage can get through this tragedy, this mess. But God doesn’t put bumps in your path He knows you can’t handle. A lot of praying, spending time with God, counseling, and a solid relationship with our Lord… you guys can make it. I promise you! Good luck and I’ll be keeping you in my prayers.
We all make mistakes and ultimately it is your heart that needs to make the decision to stay or go
But try to work it out if you can and if you still love him. If it happens again then I would say leave but maybe try one last ditch effort with therapy and don’t let others opinions sway you. Love and peace to you. Stay strong
I am deeply sorry you have to endure the ramifications of all of this mess. One day at a time mama bear.
Meghan,
Having been there myself, 14 years ago…my heart aches for you. I feel every ounce of your pain. My marriage did survive. But I won’t go into the hows and why’s of it all because you’re extremely intelligent and capable and you will find your way. I just want you to know that I feel you, woman to woman and I hurt for and with you!
Much love and peace in the coming days. Hang in there!
You are strong, you are beautiful, you’ve got this!!! One step at a time and one day at a time.
Yes, marriage can be hard, but if this man was the right person for you, it wouldn’t be this hard. Blessings to you and yours.
Hang in there. Hold fast to your faith and beliefs. If you believe in God…talk, yell, scream, take refuge in Him. He understands your heart and where you’re coming from bc He knows you and your heart…He can take whatever you dish out. Just do all you can to save your marriage so you can have no regrets later no matter how it turns out. And try to remember that love is a choice and more, not just an emotion of the moment. Hugs!
Megan, my heart hurts for you and your words are so true and pure. Best advice I can give is don’t make any emotional decisions. Let the emotion stabilize. Love your children because they truly bring us through these times or at least give us clarity. You are strong and beautiful.
Oh honey, I am so so sorry you are living this nightmare. Marriage and life can be so complicated. My husband of 33 years has young onset frontotemporal dementia and it has rocked our world. Sometimes for better or worse is sooooo worse that there doesn’t seem a way up. You are in my thoughts and prayers for clarity and healing. You’ll know what you need to do, given time, and you’ll know if you can forgive. This is what I would tell our 3 daughters if they were dealing with this. Head up. You’ve got those amazing, beautiful children. You are stronger than you will ever know.
Please listen to Jana Kramer’s podcast. Maybe you can even reach out to her. I know she’d understand what you’re going thru. Praying for you and you’re little boy. I hope he is okay. ❤️
I am so sorry, you do not deserve this! Have faith and stay strong! I pray you can forgive and heal from his betrayal and learn to trust again. It will take time, counseling and guidance. I pray for your son too and his health! You are Beautiful on the inside and out! Don’t ever forget that, you are an amazing Mom! God Bless You and your family.
Hi meg, my heart goes out to u. U already know, but u will b okay either way. I believe your soul is meant to learn from this. Just finished a book call a soul’s plan which helped me accept life on life’s terms more. I am a suburban sober mom of 4 and wife if u ever want to reach out. Sending love
Meghan,
I’m so very sorry that you have to go through this. While I don’t know you, I feel you. I’ve been where you are and this all sucks…no part of what you are going through doesn’t suck! I threw my wedding ring, a plain gold band, in the garbage that night I found out. I couldn’t bear the feel of it on my hand…like it burned or that 2mm strand was too heavy for my hand anymore. The pain of betrayal was so sharp and deep it hurt to breathe. Betrayal is a loss, it is a death. You said your rings felt like a fraud. They aren’t. It took me ages to come to that realization…they are still the symbol of your promises. The promise that you made, that you honored and kept true in your heart. That means something…that counts for something because you kept your word. At a time like this, that may just make you feel angry and resentful but it shows who you are and what you’re made of. I hope you find something in the honor you have shown and that you can draw strength from it. You need that strength to fight now. Make no mistake, if you want to do your work to try, you are going to need to fight a hard battle. That battle will be mainly with yourself. The side of you that knows how much easier it would be to give up and let go. I fought so hard to get out to the other side of that constricting pain tunnel and was trapped in there so long while I waited for him to get his shit together and start doing his work. I’m not going to tell you it’s easy or that you’ll be in a stronger relationship for it or that you’ll ever in any way end up on the other side, glad that this happened. People actually suggest that, that you’ll be glad or make peace with his betrayal. Every time I’ve heard that it’s raised bile in my throat. This is work one shouldn’t ever have to do. BUT, if healing is done right, you’ll know yourself better, you’ll appreciate yourself more, you’ll find yourself not questioning your own worth or value, you’ll find strength you never knew you had, you’ll be a better example to your girls of what they will allow for themselves. Everyone’s path is their own and no one has the right to judge your decisions. This is an even harder time for the fact that, in the midst of your pain and raw vulnerability, you’ll also be purging toxic people who you thought were your friends and allies. People show their true selves and you’ll have to be vigilant and aware enough to see it. And it’s going to hurt. That being said, my offerings of advice, if you’re in need of any, is this. I hope, for yourself, that you love yourself and accept help when it is available and when you need it or can accept it…if you don’t need help, accept it anyway and bank it for later. Trust your gut! That is SO utterly crucial…TRUST YOURSELF!! In your soul, you know what’s right for you and you need to act on it. Most importantly, allow yourself to feel your feelings, that will be one of the hardest parts…don’t lock them down to be brave or to avoid them…it’ll eat you alive. Do your own work to put your pieces back together and make your best you but don’t sell even a shred if your integrity to do it. It’s never going to be worth the price. Take care of yourself…really truly, take care of yourself. Care for yourself like you would care for your babies. Keep yourself safe enough. Be gentle and kind and forgiving of yourself. You will stumble and fall and you’ll need to be soothed and comforted and either you will be the only one there to do it or you’ll have to allow someone else to care for you and be willing to accept that from those who really love you. You’re going to learn very quickly who loves you…see them, let them love you and love them in return. Take refuge in solitude when you need a break but don’t shut everyone out. Eat, stay hydrated, brush your teeth, shower and wear clean clothes, change your bedding and keep your living spaces tidy even when you don’t want to (I literally had to set alarms for myself to eat once a day and my people made me count my water intake and report it to them) but try not to obsess. That is avoidance and it is dangerously easy to get lost in. Be kind to yourself and remember that you are lovable, even at your worst, you are lovable. I don’t know you but I love you and I’ll be thinking of you often, wishing you hope, peace, strength and solace. ❤️
Hey Meghan,
Wishing the best for you and your family. Esther Perel Helped my family… I hope she can help yours.
The state of affairs: rethinking infidelity
Where should we begin (Podcast)
I hope you find peace.
Hey Meghan,
Wishing the best for you and your family. Esther Perel Helped my family… I hope she can help yours.
The state of affairs: rethinking infidelity
Where should we begin (Podcast)
I hope you find peace.
Dear Meghan, my heart breaks for you. I feel your pain. I agree emotional and physical cheating are the same. I was chatting on by a boyfriend, it broke my heart into pieces. If I could give you one unsolicited advice, it is to make your own decisions. Don’t allow others to get in your head. Know who your true friends are. I’m going to say a prayer for your family. De Carla XX
I’ve been there. It is devastating. But we survived…with therapy, ruthless honesty and the desire to make it work from both of us. It took a long time, years, for me to trust again. But humans are fallible- this is not an excuse, but he needs to want to change to be the man you deserve. Can he do that?
Start couples therapy right now…it is the only way to trust again. I feel you but you will be stronger for this.
Sadly, every time you look at him you’ll remember what he’s done. Time will ease the pain but it will remain and resurface time and time again. What I hope is for you to keep your children as your number one priority because they need a healthy Mommy.
You did not deserve this, he does not deserve you. Choose what’s best for you, you will weather this storm!
Just take a moment and breathe without thinking. Do this a few times.
Then decide that whatever happens you’ll not only be ok, but you’ll thrive.
Love & Light to you. God Bless. Z❤️
You’re no different.. There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s from the beginning of tone.. Do research. Men are created to have more than one wife.
Most men cheat
The divorce rate is 50% because the other 50% are impotent.
There’s the truth..
The ones who do not cheat, can’t get it up!!
With technology today.. they all do it.. it is in their genetic make up. I live it. Men married, in relationships DM-ing me. Hundreds!!!
My husband and I went through this almost 4 years ago. It is devastating. I am so sorry. I know what it feels like to feel as though your family and whole life is fake. My heart aches for you. If you need someone to talk to know I am here. I remember in those first months I prayed for someone to find just like me and my situation, who would tell me it was going to be ok. I am not that person. But I do share a similar story and there I hope regardless of the direction you take.
With love. Rachael
You don’t deserve that Meghan … second chance to this would be a mistake… the seed is already planted in him and bought to sprout again anytime when you least expect. I understand why you can feel like you’ve been fraud. If it was up to me divorce right away. Cheating or beating are the two outmost disrespect things a men can do to a women and should not be tolerated. Hope God can help you through this and give your children the best of health. Be strong and smart, trust and love are two things that are hard to re gain.
Hi Meghan ! I am 25 year old young adult and I am a HUGE fan of housewives Orange County. I just want you to know that I will pray that God puts his hand on your heart and reassure you that HE is all we need and that no matter what He was always be there. I know I’m young , but I have had my heart broken before and I guess I cannot say if whatever you’re feeling is the same as what I felt . But I do know that I had loving family and friends and My lord and savior to lean on when my heart is heavy.
P.S. This too Shall Pass …
Meghan-
You absolutely did not deserve this. Nothing about what he did was your fault-not even in the slightest.
I highly recommend the book Lundy Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft.
It’s Remarkably enlightening and although you’re feeling the greatest pain right now, I speak from my own experience when I say that not only will you come out from this stronger – you’ll be happier and more powerful than you ever thought possible. It’s hard to see now-but it WILL HAPPEN.
I am Sorry you are going through this. I was Never much of a fan of you on RHOBV hills but then again I don’t know you as a person and I am sure the shows are edited in a way that can portray someone to be something they aren’t. I do Hope you can find peace and heal from this. Also cry you ugly cry for however long it takes. I think You not doing it in front of the kids is also the best thing for them but I’m sure you are aware of that. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family..
Well said. You’ve got this. Your chikdren are your strength. Prayers to you and the children. Once I was told, what ecer decision you decide to make, its ok.
I say put you and your chikdren first.
Seek counseling alone to help you, so you can vent w a unbias individual as many times as you need.
Pray w out cease. Exhale. Listen to empowering music and podcasts. Stay busy w the kids. Breathe. Repeat!
I’m so sad this happend to you. My heart hurts for you. Hope you get answers 🙌😢💔
My ex husband had a physical affair when I was pregnant. It was devastating, yet somehow I survived. You will survive no matter the outcome, and you will grow stronger. It’s just a fact. And rest easy knowing you got the very best part of him in your darling children.
You’re beautifully honest, I’m praying for you & your marriage. Cry cry cry but it won’t be long until The tears stop and you’ll become stronger but until then allow yourself be sad. Lots of love to you xxx
Oh Meghan. My heart breaks for you. I had 2 failed marriages over the same thing. The first I came home during Christmas because my husband decided not to come with me to visit my parents and I had a bad feeling. Turns out I found him at home celebrating Christmas with the other woman and her child and she was wearing MY clothes! Second one was my son’s father who cheated relentlessly unbeknownst to me who had made profiles on dating sites looking for men and women while I was pregnant with his child. Childless it hurts to the core and it shakes you. Do not let it wreck you and destroy your spirit like it did to me. Running away is the easiest. When there are children involved it is really hard. The relationship will never be what it once was……but if you love each other enough you can create a new normal. It is a long, long road full of hurt and disappointment. I was not strong enough to forgive. I couldn’t forget. It plagued me and was like a monkey on my back for a decade.
Words can’t even express the sadness I feel for you. I watched you on RHOC and really enjoyed you on the show…, your strength and compassion was inspiring. Only you know what’s best for you and your family. But always remember the incredible support you have from your family, friends and even your fans!
Stay strong ❤️
❤️
Meghan,
My husband cheated on me, it took me some time to find out.
I was pregnant with my now 22 yr. old daughter, I found him in my neighbors house, sneaking out the back door, when I went to my neighbors house, she came down in her night clothes,( like she was asleep) he came out the back, the rest was history.
We were able , after the divorce, to become great friends, co-parent, and I was able to take care of him when he died.
Please Megan, take some time for yourself to heal, only your heart knows what is right and what to do in these situations.
Don’t listen to everyone else, listen to yourself.
I am not your biggest fan, but I felt the need to reach out, because I have been through this and it almost broke me, but it didn’t !
I went on to raise my two children by myself, basically. My son is now an RN, and my daughter is disabled with a neurological condition, epilepsy.
Best wishes, Meghan, you got this, you have a beautiful family!
leave him!!!He has showed you who he really is…believe him!!!You will be ok,I promise.If you choose to forgive him that will be a lifelong punishment for you!!!Not him.
This happened to me too. After 16 years together. And then finding out it was multiple “phone/text” affairs. It’s crushing. It’s been 3.5 years and it’s still painful to think about the words he shared with someone else.
But, one day I looked At him. And decided I still Loved and still wanted to be his wife. And we began the long road to repair what had happened. We are not the same people. Nor am I the Same woman. (I birthed him 4 children) I am more Of a shell of who I used To be, but it’s a work in progress. Atleast your husband was able to admit he did wrong. Mine still won’t.
Find your village. Find Jesus. And hold them so tight. It takes time. I don’t know you but I understand your pain. I’ll pray for your heart on the nights that I pray For mine 💜
You are stronger than you know🖤
You are an amazing young woman and your marriage can recover . Do not listen to others . There is a book called life after the affair by Esther Perrel. It will take time and he loves you but he made a huge mistake . Live in love and not fear . Follow your gut and heart. I am many years after a divorce , thought I knew better and I dont have my dont have my soul mate .
You can forgive, you will never forget. You rebuild and find the root of the cause. You can move forward, sadly you are in the public eye and that will add pressure. If you are willing, you can overcome it and be one stronger together.
You are strong and brave for putting yourself out there. You’ve got this.
She is so stupid he was happy with her she is to needy and always want more and more babes big house new car big house this men no want any kids but she wants kids
Praying for your healing. I can’t imagine your hurt. You are brave to share. Stay strong for yourself, for your babies, and for your marriage.
Prayers for you, your family and your marriage! Fight hard!
Meghan, i have been where you are. I absolutely know the feeling of my wedding ring being a fruad… something i cherished so much and thought was so beautiful, then seemed tainted. Its been 6 yrs since i found out about the affair(s). We spent 2 yrs in therapy and it worked wonders! He owned his shit and i eventually was able to move past it. It was such a long hard road. I had friends ask me why i didnt leave. My response was “how can I leave when I cant even move” thats how i felt.. paralyzed by the grief of what felt like my marriage dying.
Staying isnt for everyone but I want you to know staying does not make you weak! It makes you strong. As long as you both are willing to do the work and he allows you the time to grieve and he can be an open book then i think there is hope. I will also say, you will really find out who your friends are during this.
Good luck to you momma… this is no easy battle
There’s nothing to be humiliated by or ashamed of, Meghan. You didn’t do anything wrong. Also, you can do whatever you like, break it off or get back together – don’t let anyone else dictate your life, girlfriend!
Stay true to yourself sweetheart! I’ve watched you during your pregnancy and with your children, you’re a wonderful, loving mother and person! Do not let this make you ever doubt your worth! You were true to your husband, and your family! You need to ask yourself can you honestly ever trust him again? You must draw a line, that cannot be crossed, demand the respect you deserve, and know you have many of your followers here praying for you, and your children, and your marriage! Give yourself TIME!!❤️❤️ Teresa
Dear Meghan,
I want you to know you are not alone. I went through this with my husband about a year and a half ago. My husband was having an inappropriate relationship via text messages with a friend of ours. This wasn’t just a friend, we are the god parents to her youngest daughter. It lasted for 17 long months. The difference between our situations is I didn’t find out via a tabloid and in the public eye.
I NEVER EVER went into his phone or email to check things, I trusted him. He was upstairs changing after a party we were at celebrating a young man’s completion/graduation from the US Marine Corps boot camp. The text came in and it was a name I did not know. As I was running his phone upstairs so he could read the message I saw the first 2 sentences and it broke my heart.
My husband lied to my face for hours. I made a seen in my drive way, and was up all night. I retrieved all the text messages and had him read everyone to me word by word line by line. I finally mustard up the courage and told him he had to leave the house. I was not going to subject our 2 beautiful girls to my rage.
Greg left for a week and stayed with his father. Our family and friends rallied around me. They all loved me during my darkest hours. Greg came home after a week and I knew I still loved him, but I DID NOT trust him. How could I? We decided to go into intensive couples therapy.
The therapy was the turning point. This brought us back together and I love him and our family unit even more. We will be married 12 years in September. I am grateful we were able to find our way back to each other. It took many tears, long therapy sessions and tons of ups and downs. In the end I trust him, love him and want to be with him for the rest of our lives. Our girls have NO idea this transpired in our marriage, and I don’t know if I will ever tell them.
Please remember this is your journey, don’t let anyone tell you how you need to heal, think or feel. I hope you find peace. Keep loving your beautiful children and yourself. You are the most important.
Best of luck and much happiness, love and health to your children.
Kindest regards,
Sarah Kendrick
Meghan, I give you so much credit for sharing this, it is very courageous of you. I am going through something very similar in my marriage and can relate to your feelings of sadness. You do what you need to do to heal and I want you to know that it’s very possible the two of you will come out of this with a much stronger relationship, so have faith in that. Much love to you❤️
Meaghan PLEASE love yourself and your children enough to know you all deserve better. You can find happiness with someone who knows what live and loyalty mean. Be an inspiration for your children and show then how a woman deserves to be treated. Respect and love yourself. 💕💕💕💕
I am so very sorry! It happened to me ! it is much harder to stay and work things out then to move on! Your marriage can recover, with hard work and love and counseling! But I am going to tell you trust is never the same. It is a different kind of trust if you choose to stay.
Hello Meghan,
I’m sure you’re getting a lot of responses just like mine however, mine is also to sincerely thank you for helping me put my feelings into words.
Ironically and unfortunately, my husband of 4 years (we dated for 4 years before then) recently decided to start cheating (physically and emotionally) in October of 2018. Sadly, I found out by seeing a text message pop up on my husband’s phone while he was in the shower at the time. Even worse, he continued to lie to me for months about their relationship and what had occurred until slowly over time he would tell me more truth about what had occurred between them which is like dying over and over again.
The relationship he started with this girl was when he was a Manager of a store and it was with one of his associates which made me even more sick to my stomach when he would work, or even home because I knew he was in constant contact with her right in front of me and could careless. I remember him telling me “if you don’t like seeing it then go into the other room”. As his wife, partner in life, love of my life etc. hearing that stabbed me right in my heart that I felt like I couldn’t breathe.
Even more unfortunately, I was in a traumatic car accident in 2000 and suffered a TBI which causes me to have seizures along with a lot of other medical issues so because of that I’m not able to work or drive. This makes me feel even more horrible about not only myself but the situation because I’m not in the drivers seat of this life I started with this person I thought I’d be with forever and would never waiver from me. Now, I feel like I can’t even turn my back for 2 seconds without something shady going on. It’s so hard to say the least. I vowed to my husband, and God that “for better or worse” but, I never agreed or vowed to cheating.
The husband I used to have wanted to take over all of my medical issues (being my husband), and then turned it around while cheating that “my medical issues are too much for him”.
I know I’m going to sound crazy but I’ve stuck by my husband this entire time….not even leaving for one night to have for myself. It’s not easy at all….in fact the hardest thing I could have ever imagined going through. There are times I’m with him and I hate him and hate being around him but then when he’s gone I hate it too at times. I miss the person I married….it’s so hard for me to look at our wedding pictures because it’s a total different person when I look at those pictures, and realize I won’t ever look at him the same way I did on our wedding day. It’s like pictures of a beautiful celebration but I also look at them as a funeral because when something like this happens it’s like a death of a person.
Everyday is a challenge….actually to be honest every second is a challenge and can also change so quickly. From being in a “good” mood to being triggered by seeing or hearing something throws everything off. It feels like you don’t have control of your own life and emotions. Which makes me feel so weak as a person at times.
I just wanted to once again thank you Meghan for not being scared to put your story out there (some of my family and friends don’t even know about my husband’s infidelity). You are SO strong for doing that!! One second at a time….all in time….
Thank you for being a huge voice to me and really putting how I feel (so much alike) into a sentences that make sense instead of me not being able to get one word down until now. I read your blog to my husband and by the look on his face said it all….he really understood a lot of what I have been trying to say for months yet I couldn’t have been put it into words any better.
From the bottom of my heart thank you again, and I’m deeply sorry you’re having to go through this traumatic event in life as well. I’m keeping Hart in my thoughts and prayers.
Xoxo,
Emily Martin
I would say this. If it’s true you got him the same way….now you’re even. If not, unless he changes his life and commits it to a higher power….run don’t walk. This never changes. Come to think of it…that applies to both scenarios. Just don’t waste too much time thinking he won’t cheat again……that’s wasted time girl.. wishing you the best.
I’m so sorry you have to go through this in public. Stay strong and focus on you. Your physical and mental health is what your kids need most from you at this time. Jim and his issues can be dealt with later.
My heart goes out to you Meghan and what makes it harder is you have to share this news with millions of people, not fair. I have been in the same boat, ultimately my marriage didn’t work out but we did try for several years before we both went our own ways. There were other issues in our marriage besides the cheating, but that stung. Trust is number 1 in a marriage, once that trust is broken it’s hard to get back. I hope you can make things work out and get past this, don’t compromise for him though he has a lot of proving to do……take care of yourself first if it’s meant to be it will be. Hugs
I feel for you , especially with young children and with a set of twins, it is so exhausting! YOU kinda bullied him into having THESE children….. BUT sweetheart, you KNEW , even subconsciously, that he had the propensity to do such things!, His track record, with CHEATING on and leaving his previous wife with three YOUNG CHILDREN and taking up with his NEW younger Hot babe YOU, would come back to haunt. A leopard doesn’t change its spots , just cloaks them. A narcissist will always be just that. I hope it works out for your children’s sake, but NOW you know what at LEAST ONE of his previous wives felt.. and MORE IMPORTANTLY, those children he betrayed.
Meghan , I know what you are going through and I want you to know will get through this. I can highly recommend reading information from a group called Linda and Doug, emotional affair. Take every day at one time, stay in tune with who you are and know that your a strong beautiful woman.
You are very courageous to write this blog and share your feelings with the world. I admire your strength and wisdom. It is your strength and power that will help repair and heal your relationship so your marriage can succeed. Sending lots of healing, positive vibes your way. You definitely got this girl and don’t ever think twice about anybody judging you because you are as good as they come 💪🏻🤗
You should reach out to Kathy Lee Gifford. Just a thought.
Meghan, you’re so strong to share this and your life so publicly. I’m so sorry for your hurt and wish you healing and happiness! Also sending up prayers for your son and his healing too!
I am so sorry. No one understands what you are feeling unless they have been through it. Please take care of yourself. Remember to drink water. The basic self care gets lost in the trauma l, infidelity brings. Don’t rush to reconcile, we all wanted it to be swept away to pretend it did not happen. Your husband has a ton of work to do to find out why and to become a safe a trustful partner. You and your children are most important. Take care.
This is the most open and real thing I’ve ever read. Thank you for sharing! Know I am here – for whatever that’s worth – supporting you and cheering you on! I commend your strength (even when it may not feel like you have any left!!!)
I’m so sorry you have to face this. Your babes will keep you grounded and too busy to dwell on the sadness for very long. My prayers are for Hart’s health and your
peace. Fill your life with people you love and who love you. Let them help you and remember-keep breathing and smile at your babies. They will brighten your and start to heal your sorrow.
I’m so sorry. ❤️
Meghan please for both of you and your children Forgive ….
it is not easy but dont throw away what was and is so good.
You both will learn from this…. this is why we have forgiveness
Will it be easy NO will it be worth it YES
Lots of healing hugs
so sorry. My heart hurts for you. Your attitude sounds like you have a lot of strength.
You are so brave. So brave to share your story and be so real with your emotions. I know this must be an incrediblly heartbreaking time for you but know you are still inspiring so many people. With your honesty, courage and truth. Thank you.
Awwww Meghan. i’m so sorry to hear this. You didn’t deserve it. Just know that there mommies out there ugly crying in the dark with you. We may cry for different reason but we are all crying out in pain, frustration, or even fatigue. We got you girl! Do what you need to do to be a mom to those beautiful kids and nothing else. Our jobs are to protect and nurture and that’s what will give you strength. Stare at them when you are feeling down and know that they have no clue what is going on and they love you no matter what. Shake away the blues and push on!
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Praying things get better for you. God will see you through this. You are a beautiful, strong woman! Take care of yourself. 🙏❤
You have always seemed like such a genuine person to me. No one deserves this and Jim is solely to blame. He took a vow and he destroyed it. He is disloyal and untrustworthy – physical relationship or not – he cheated. Your children deserve better than this. Keep your head up – you are strong, smart, driven, kind, compassionate and a force to be reckoned with. You will get through this for yourself and your babies. Lots of positive thoughts your way during this time and for that sweet little Hart! 🙂
Dear Meghan,
I have never replied to any post until now.I have walked in your shoes so I know and feel your pain your pain.My heart is breaking for you as I remember it as if it was yesterday when it was 24 years age when I was 49.My ex husband was also in the public eye as well and the whole community
Was privey to it all.So many enquiring minds were anxious to know while I was sitting in my home shell shocked.I cryed for 2months straight,in fact now if asked I really remember much of anything.I must have ate and slept because I lived through the pain.My children had just left home so it was me and my close family and true friends by my side sitting in my beautiful home not believing what happened.
Like you,I loved being a mom and homemaker,the thing my husband wanted.For many years following I thought it must have been something wrong with me.It was only over a long period of time and therapy I came me to know there was nothing wrong with me.
Please believe me when I say you did nothing wrong,this is not anything to do with you.You are a beautiful mother honest and true in your values.
Today I live a simple retired life as a single women who loves her Children and grandchildren,friends,and community.Gone is the big house,new cars,vacations and such,but I am so blessed.I believe in family and Whatever you decide to do,I wish you only good things.
You are a strong women to write those words. Beautifully said and 100% correct.
Dear Meghan,
I read your blog and a day later discovered my boyfriend had been cheating on me. I’m so deeply sad I can hardly function. My eyes are on fire. I’m trying to trust that some day I’ll be OK, but my god this kind of pain ought to be lethal.
Thank you for your honesty and openness. There’s a sort of solace in knowing that my heart isn’t the only one that’s broken. While your post describes your pain and heartache, your enormous strength is also ever present and laced through it all. Thank you for sharing and subsequently allowing me to draw from your strength. You inspire so many people.
Dear Megan, my heart hurts for you. It is not fair whatsoever. Truly painful. My 20th anniversary is tomorrow…but I feel sick to my stomach…I found out a week ago that my husband has been having a continued affair. The same person I found messages exchanged with 2 yrs ago. Again it was messages that I found. Am truly disgusted and feeing so betrayed. We have 3 beautiful kids 18, 14 and 10. Timing is never good for an affair but this definitely is the worst because my older 2 graduate next week so I’ve been overwhelmed planning prom formals graduations. My heart breaks for my children because I am different this time. I cannot continue in this marriage. I’m choosing to walk away. Even though it won’t be easy because he refuses to even leave the house. I know I have a long toad ahead of me but with the Lord guiding me I will prevail. My prayers to your dear sister for Gods peace, guidance and wisdom. God bless you and your beautiful babies.
Thank you for your ipen honesty. I have awen you grow (via TV and your blog) continue please to be the truest self you can be. Your kids will be greatly helped by you and your heart.
Big love to you from Texas!
This was so well written that I can feel your pain . I have always admired your Instagram page and you both look so happy, i’m sure you were happy. Making and I hope you get past this and become an even stronger woman for it. Hugs
Damn girl, you are brutally honest. It’s so impressive. And you are spot on. Don’t undervalue yourself. Don’t stay if he won’t give you the respect you deserve. Stay strong for yourself and your children. You and them are #1. He’s got a lot of work to do to prove he deserves your partnership. I hope for you he can but don’t wait to long to be real for yourself if he can not. Good luck.
YOU are a smart strong beautiful woman. Hold your head up high! you will get through this xoxoxo
Meghan, I am so sorry to hear of this betrayal! Sadly, it seems the more a man has or gets in this world, the more likely he is to try and get his next “high” (usually by doing things such as your hubby did.) I would hope that your husband would agree to counselling so you can have a safe place to say what you really feel. In any event, stay together because if you separate, it is harder to get back together. (Of course, if you no longer trust him or he is abusive in any way, then you should separate). I’m also so sorry to hear that Hart may have some neurological problems. I will keep you in my prayers and know that others care. I will pray that your family can heal and that you get some peace in your heart! God bless you … and yours1
This was beautifully written. I have not followed your story, but as a wife to a plastic surgeon, I understand how “slimy” people can be. I believe cheating is a thrill to some- like sneaking out of the house to hang out with friend and when you’re in high school. Does this action define who we are? Not necessarily, but the pain it can inflict on others does. You have devoted your life to your family and are right to feel how you do. I pray your husband proves to you every day of your life how valuable you are and how regretful he is. I hope you are getting some “me” time to try to relax and get away from it all. You will overcome this.
Dear Meghan,
I know you must be getting tons of comments from readers I hope you get a chance to read mine I am also a mom of twins and a housewife who is a hopeless romantic at heart and even though i don’t know you Personally I feel your pain and my heart goes out to you and your dearest children.
You wrote so beautifully and so sincere that I also had so many salty tears from you pouring your heart out. Please hang in there and know that there are a lot of good women cheering for other women’s happiness I know you will overcome this.
Please try to be strong for your little ones i know it’s so unfair but I believe we women are so much stronger for a reason and the Kids are too little to understand yet they feel our energy.
I know it must feel like a death loosing your best friend and you will still take a long time to heal I would like to send you my support and well wishes specially to your little boy I shall pray for him. Please surround yourself with positive and real people and stay strong.
From one mom of twins to another my heart goes to you,
Gigi
My heart goes out to you and your children. You’re right you don’t deserve any of these. I’ll keep your son Hart in my prayers as well. You’re beautiful strong and intelligent and we stand WITH you on your HEALING JOURNEY. You are a lovely brilliant classy young lady and my heart tells me you are going to be ok but much STRONGER than ever. Sending hugs and kisses to you and the kids💜🙏🏽🌹😘
You are brave, strong and admirable, thank you for writing this, I had no idea of your situation antil now I live in Australia.
Betrayal comes in so many forms.
I wish you strength in your ugly crying
I wish you hope while you face darkness
I wish you health as you have wished upon Heart.
So much love coming your way.
You can do this.
So sorry this happened to you. Your family, son and marriage are in my prayers❤
Hi Meghan, I am JoDee Nepute’s mom. I am very sorry you are going through all of this heartache. I felt for a very long time even during RHOBH, a couple of years ago , he would hurt you . A mom knows. Put you and your children first and foremost. Take one day at a time , you are strong . You will be fine . I would love to meet you sometime. Good luck and take care.
I’m sorry. I understand. Cry. You’re not wrong. Deep breathes. Take all the time You need. If we are human, we will always do foolish things.
You Have Choices Meghan, and they are only yours and yours alone. Take care of You, so you can take care of your children.
May God Bless you Meghan, and give you the wisdom to make the right choices for yourself and your family.
~Claire 💙
This is the single most honest and smart response to cheating I have ever read.
You are so beautiful and intelligent. You are your own best bet in life.
I wish you the best during this shitty time. I have been in your shoes. It’s really horrible to have the rug pulled out from under you.
Stay smart.
From one woman to another. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for having to guts and self esteem to stand up for yourself and put it back on him!!! You did nothing wrong.
I had twins (now 10) and we went through so much with one when he was diagnosed with a very mild neurological condition. My advice is to research as much as you can, don’t accept just
one doctor’s opinion, and know you’ll get through this.
Sending Much love to a strong becautiful woman
From Australia
Only time will tell what your marital outcome will be. You laid it out so unfortunately well. Women want to nurture and be the prize in our husbands eye-i had a make friend tell me many years ago that all men are lustful dogs. As much as I hate to admit it, he was right.
Good luck in your journey. You are a strong St Louis woman. You’ll be fine- I know because I am!
Megan – I cant imagine what you’re going through especially in he public eye but girl you will survive this , you may think you won’t but you will because you have 3 amazing kids who need you and now you need them, I hope you guys get into therapy and repair the damage that’s been done because I think you and this marriage is worth it ,
How much I admire you’re honesty and strength. You have total support.
Although I don’t know you personally but have seen you, and pieces of your relationship with your husband Jim from The Real Housewives franchise you guys seemed to have had a solid relationship. You’re absolutely right, marriage is not easy and it is work. Both people have to put the work in however, it can not be one sided. In your blog you said that you don’t blame anyone except for Jim. Okay yes, he is to blame for doing this, and he needed to exhibit some self control. However, it really sucks because women are out there throwing themselves at men and don’t give a crap whether they’re married or not. The other thing I would like to mention is, Jimmy was already divorced. Was there infidelity in the 1st marriage? Again, I don’t know you or your situation or his, but that’s something to take into consideration when you meet someone who’s already divorced. Why did they divorce? Was it over children? Was it over money? Was it over drugs or alcohol use? Were they monogamous? If the answer to that question of whether or not they were monogamous, is no, then to me that would have been a red flag. I know too many women who have married divorced men who cheated on their first wife, and then are upset when they get cheated on. You knew this, but yet you married them anyway. Once a cheat, always a cheat. At the end of the day, even if he were to tell you that he would never, ever, do this again there’s the issue of being able to trust him. That’s an awful thing Meghan, to have to live with someone and not being able to trust them. I wish you and your family strength to navigate through this difficult time. Hang out with your mom, and surround yourself with positive people who won’t bring you down. Try to stay off social media because all those haters will just end up bringing you down. =)
Can you tell us more about this? I’d want to find out more details.
I’m so sorry about this
You are such a strong woman! Sending lots of love and light your way!
Wow. All I can say is that I’ve never liked you more than after reading that post. You are a strong woman, which is probably hard to feel right now but you will make it through. Your children are the most important part of your life right now and they need to feel that strength. I just know you will make all the right decisions for you and your family.
Breaks my heart that you are going through this type of public pain and betrayal, especially when you have 3 very little children. Take care of yourself and your kids
I’m sorry to hear about Hart, please, please look into vaccines and the damage they can cause. Watch vaxxed on YouTube and you be the judge of their safety.
I wish you all the best with everything that you are going through. I will say a prayer for your son. Marriage is difficult and ugly sometimes and yes your are right it can be beautiful. I follow your blog and admire the way you are…Please keep up the strength and remember you don’t deserve this. Let him stew for a while you deserve at least that much…Good luck and keep up the strength….
Wow! You are so brave. Going through this ‘not’ in a public spotlight is hard enough! You and your sweet babies do not deserve this at all, EVER! I hope that you find the strength to get through this peacefully and can somehow someway find forgiveness and trust him again (one day). I will personally never understand why married people cannot resist temptations? You said it best- EVEN ON THE BAD DAYS…
My husband and I have 5 children- 18, 14, 4, and 3 year old twins. We both have full-time jobs, debt, responsibilities, etc. We are both exhausted and are living “groundhog day” pretty much everyday! It would be very easy to further complicate our situation by seeking outside attention due to the fact that our marriage is on the back burner right now with a house filled with emotional terrorists/toddlers.
Hugs and Kisses to you! You got this momma! Keep your head held high
Dear Meghan,
Reading through these comments has sadly given me some much needed peace. I am too, the mom, of twins that are about the same age as yours. Sadly, I found out about a month ago that my husband of nearly 10 years is having an affair with a friend that I openly welcomed into our home. Finding this out opened Pandora’s box, and I don’t think he has ever been faithful to me…ever. It is hard, so very hard. My heart hurts for you, but know there is an army of us women that are all sadly going through this do. I hope you can gain some strength through this solitude and unfortunate bond we all seem to share. As one mama of twins going through the heartbreak to another, you are stronger than you know xoxoxo
Keep your face towards the sun Meghan, and the shadows will fall behind you.
Thank you for being so open and sharing your struggles. It makes you real. Hope you find peace in this pain quickly. With love from Australia.
I am so sorry for your sweetheart. I know your heart aches and you must feel so betrayed. Once some of the hurt goes away, examine the situation. Look at it from as many points of view as you can. Only then can you see, what if any part you played in this so it never happens to you again with anyone. Who knows if keeping him is worth it. I think this has been a pattern for him, but I do not know him. Learn all you can and then love again as deeply as you can with your eyes wide open. I am really sorry that you are hurting. As women, we need to cheer each other on. Keep helping each other adjust our crowns.
I am so sorry you are going through this.. but I must say, you are handling it head on and ever so gracefully. It shows your true character. I send well wishes to your son and know you are an amazing woman who will get through this.
Sweet girl, you need to some how, some way get in touch with https://lysaterkeurst.com. She is a fine Christian writer who has been through something similar. My prayers to you and your family.
I know I’m a total stranger and this is none of my business but, Once a cheater, always a cheater. Please know that you need to take care of yourself and those gorgeous kids first. Coming from a girl who was cheated on, it’s not worth staying ever in a relationship that toys with your peace of mind. My ex did it once and I wasn’t going to let him do it again. I caught him aug 7, and by oct 8th I was DONE!!!! I caught myself checking his phone whenever I had the chance, looking through his room, his car, and not even trusting his family who would prob cover up any offense he would probably do against me. To make matters worse, a close friend of his who claimed to love me as a sister encouraged him cheating even if he was loyal to me in everything else and I was his “main”. If he said he was going anywhere, I’d assume it was either a lie or he was meeting someone and even if he was just home, i would wonder who he was talking to while I wasn’t around. I was so paranoid that I remembered driving to work and just making a u-turn back to see if a girl was with him since he thought I was gone. I became insecure and gained weight from all that stress. And the funny part of it all is that I have never done any of those things, I am not jealous or controlling. It was more so embarrassing that I had the thought that my checking would even stop him. Unfortunately what you said is right. He made a CHOICE. To reach out to said person, to talk, to meet up, and do what was done. That betrayal hurt. It’s sad, but I loved myself more than I loved him or the potential in that relationship. I know it’s difficult because you are older with more ties, and now those darling babies, but if the thought even crosses your mind, LEAVE HIM! Please know that you are not alone.
I just read this for the first time! Meghan! I cried then laughed about you ugly crying then was scared thinking about my own experience. This is so deep and raw, just beautiful. ❤️ Choose love. You can rebuild. Life lessons make us strong.
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Find you strength. You are worth so much more than this.
So sorry love, you didn’t deserve this.
I’m not sure if you’ll ever read this but for any who may, here are my 2 cents. The world we now live in constantly pushes freedom of choice on us. We can choose for ourselves whatever we want – and anyone with two eyes can see how that mentality has worked out for the masses. But I have an unpopular viewpoint… one that has actually been around for thousands of years. We are definitely free to choose, but choosing right over wrong is more important and better for us that choosing what we want, what feels good, or what is easy. When we choose what is right, although it may be difficult and sacrificial, it always means that we have chosen love. Love is eternal and love never dies. It never leaves us and it never fails us. Choosing what feels good, leads to cheating. Choosing the easy solution leads to death. Choosing for selfish reasons leads to isolation. Choosing anything other than God (Love) is a separation from Him and it leads to dying (spiritually and physically).
Living this way has to be all encompassing. It can’t be so in one area of your life and not others. It has to be an “all in” mentality. And it’s hard. But ultimately it’s the path to Love which is the path to wholeness.
I wish you the best and I applaud your raw honestly because truth is always the first step to choosing right over wrong.
Like someone else said, he didn’t pay her off to protect you, he was protecting himself. You are way too good for him and he will do this again. You just have to decide if you are willing to put up with this another time. It was only a matter of time that his affair would become physical. You deserve better than Jim. Dump him.
I am so sorry to. hear you are going through this. Three years ago I went through finding out my own husband had stepped out on me. It is a feeling so awful you can’t accurately describe it unless you have lived it. When that one person who you trust more than anything in the world betrays you, it feels as though the bottom has dropped out and nothing in the world makes sense. With all my might I spent every second wishing it wasn’t true, hoping I would wake up and it would all be a terrible dream, wondering how the person I loved with so much of my heart could have chosen to hurt me deeply. Then of course the impulse of wanting to go to your other half to help you, to make you feel better, that person you always go to for comfort and realizing thats the person who has caused this pain. I would have to say its a feeling that is indescribable. Then of course Beyonce dropped Lemonade and I was like, I stand corrected! This one over here has captured it perfectly! That album was an anthem while I tried to make sense of things.
Going through this is so awful and it seems like it will never end, but you will get through it. Most importantly though is to remember that everyone is going to tell you what you SHOULD do going forward, but you need to make the decision that you feel is right for your life. This is your life and the way you choose to deal with your process and the decisions you make for your family moving forward are your own and no one can ever really understand the inside of your relationship except for the two people standing in it.
I feel for you and anyone who has to go through this. You’ll come out stronger, but you’ll never be quite the same. I wish you all the best and send all the positive vibes I can. This will pass.
Your feelings are true and valid! I too went through this almost same experience about 6 years ago. I was totally blindsided. I had two very young girls at the time. I was ready to leave and tried to. My husband went from my best friend to a total stranger in an instant. I won’t lie, it wasn’t easy, but we did work through it and saved our marriage. I still have moments of insecurity where it creeps in and floods my thoughts, but time and prayer (and hard work) do help to heal and build a strong bond again. I don’t know if you will even read this, but I will pray for you, your children, and your husband. The power of prayer works!
Meghan, prayers are being sent your way sister. I have NO words. Just disgusting & you don’t need to be reminded. But you have so many people who love you. Again. Prayers are being sent.
People are STUPID, they make mistakes, they think they are above circumstances. Yes he hurt you, your family, his ego got the best of him, but remember ultimately he is your lover, husband, father of your beautiful children. Don’t sacrifice your happiness or theirs over a piece of a$$ or the stupid exchanging of nude photos. If you love him the way it sounds like you do, I’m sure he loves you as well as he’s given you your beautiful children, then anything is possible. I’ve forgiven and finally forgotten and don’t think of it/her on a daily basis. But I loved him enough to know that I wasn’t sacrificing our lives over something, well ultimately, just plain stupid. Please search your heart, pray to god for comfort and forgiveness. Your happy beautiful family is worth it. Listen only to yourself and no others. This too shall pass…Prayers sweetie!
Meghan..first of all, don’t listen to what anyone else has to say on this matter..you have to do what you feel is right..for you and your kids..and that is all I am going to say..
I don’t know you but I watched the show. I have been through this exact thing. I made the decision to leave while my kids were young. It makes me sad that they don’t remember us living under one roof as a family, but it’s been 6 years now. They are 14 and 11 and after a lot of work my ex husband and I have a co-parenting relationship that people are envious of. We were able to put the BS aside and be parents to our kids. We attend every school function together. Many of their friends don’t even know we are divorced. I pray you and your husband can get to this place if you decide to divorce. It’s been 6 years and I finally feel healed. Ready to live and trust again. You will get there – try to remember this and you’ll get through the hard times.
This is the most honest post I ever read by someone in the public eye. Your strength is inspiring and a breath of fresh air.
As someone that has their own practice working with children with neurological disorders I can tell you now that your son will be ok. With a mother like you, how can he not be!
Sending you love and hugs. I have never understood why men do what they do. I chose to stay in my marriage and it didn’t stop. I am miserable. I hope and pray for you. No decision is easy. I’m so glad that you have friends to help you. I do not as my friends were involved with my husband. I pray for answers with your son. Much love and hugs.
Meghan I feel sad too. You are such a loving person and I could tell that marriage and family means a lot to you. I don’t know what goes through a person’s mind when they jeopardize their marriage, maybe they feel what’s done in secret will not be revealed. The fact that he paid the person off, what does it show? Was he protecting you, him your family? His actions were foreplay. The fact that it didn’t progress to physical could mean that he thought about it, corrected himself an realized that he did love you and his kids and didn’t want to jeopardize or lose you. We are all imperfect people, trying daily to be like Christ wants us to be; we make mistakes, Christ forgives us and we start again with a clean slate. I know you put no blame on the “other woman” , but I think that is the worst thing that a fellow sister can do to another sister…go after her husband…she’s imperfect as well. I pray for you and your family: that God will guide you and Jim through this difficult time. I pray that your son’s neurological problems are non existent and your family is on the way to healing…Much Kove
My husband has a sex addict and has gone to prostitutes and had affairs through the years. I have chosen to stay with him, but recently I found out he still lying to me. He supposedly in recovery but how can he truly be in recovery if he still lives. Just like you I feel like my whole life has been a big lie. I feel so bad for you becauseI know exactly how you feel
I am so sorry. You are very right in saying it is HIS issue. Cheating rarely has anything to do with the one being cheated on. Hang tight to the things you can really KNOW about him, when in doubt talk it out, and above all hold your babies tight and PRAY!
As a side note…equine therapy is an AMAZING way to do therapy, and more powerful than conventional therapy…see if he’ll give it a go. Praying for you and your marriage…those vows mean a lot, and it’s plain to see you meant them for life! Bless you for that!
To read this makes me sad too! I’ve been married for 29 years and two children that our everything . I knew the night I met my husband he had a good heart and I could trust him. Unfortunately you probably saw the signs in your husband and you ignored it. He’s not going to change; he feels entitled . You have to decide if you can live with it or not.
I am so, so very sorry Megan, broken trust is so hard to process 😔 Please hang in as best you can – ride the storm….it doesn’t seem like it now, but things will change…brighten a bit…and life’s path will twist and curve a bit, just hold on….we are all behind you, supporting and lifting…take good, good care of yourself and your littles….
My husband had 2 separate affairs over the course of…10 years? I do not even know anymore. But I can tell you of you want it to heal you can….but you both have to want it to heal. I’m praying for you.
Wrote this post many moons ago…hope it helps. https://mrssinnerandsaint.wordpress.com/2013/03/29/the-other-woman/
Both paths are hard; staying is challenging and leaving is heartbreaking and challenging.
I am so sorry for your lost. Because that’s what it is, a huge loss when the person you love and trust deceives. It takes time to heal and get the trust back, I am still dealing with mixed emotions between being angry, sometimes bitter but also full of love for my husband who sent some sex appealing emails with a woman. If you may forgive him it will be easier on you. That doesn’t mean you accept what he did but forgiving will heal you. It will take time and it’s a bumpy road but it’s worth it. Hope you are feeling better, one day at a time. God bless you and your family!
Meghan,
I am so sorry that you are going through this, I know from experience how badly this hurts. I have been with my fiancee for 15 years now. We’ve known each other since we were 14 and 16. He is my best friend, in all senses of the word. Yet, he hurt me, repeatedly, and deeply. Many women would walk away, I’m sure you have so many women reaching out to you, and urging you to leave Jim. And that’s your choice.
I was in a similar situation- he was texting some random woman from Instagram while I was in the hospital after delivering our second child by an emergency c section at 35 weeks. Our baby girl, and myself, were going through so much- and he was sending messages to this person that means nothing to him, This was my final straw. I threatened to take our children and leave him if he did not seek help for whatever his issues were. He had done this time and time again, over and over, seemingly just seeking attention from other women who mean nothing to him, even though he had me at home, doing everything for him, and treating him like the king I felt he was. I did nothing to deserve it, Neither have you. I know you know this, but it needs to be repeated. You have done nothing wrong. You shouldn’t be humiliated, Jim should.
I am hoping that with time, and a lot of hard work, you and Jim can look back and say that while this time was so, so dark and painful, you moved forward, and are in an even better place. It’s not easy, but it can be done.
I am so sorry you’re hurting, I wish I could bring you some coffee, give you a hug, and let you vent.
Thank you for sharing your life with us in such an open and honest way.
I’m hoping for the very best for you and your family in the future.
Are you OK?
I’m really sorry you had to experience this, as so many other women have. However, when you boast about your huge house, new car, and diamonds, then complain about your “basic needs not being met” it’s a literal SLAP IN THE FACE for women such as myself that are single mothers (victim of a cheating husband as well), with five children struggling to BUY FOOD. I’m not sure how you have the audacity to post something like this, even though you feel like your world has been crushed. You really need to evaluate reality, and the life of the majority of women struggling just to get by.
Stay strong beautiful lady. I know you are hearing this from millions and my words mean nothing. You are a super mom qith nothing but love in your heart. You sacrificed your body and health to bare 3 beautiful babies! You are amazing. No words can ever mend your broken heart I know. I lost my husband to cancer a year ago and I am broken. So very broken. I’m sorry you are going through this! Time Will tell time will heal!! Babies are #1 . your blessed to have them! Good luck to you BEAUTIFUL. Stay strong
Sad is the exact emotion and state I found myself in when I learned my husband of 28 years did the same with his supervisor at work. He didn’t take self photos but the texts and gifs they exchanged were hurtful. Words hurt. Seeing with my own eyes what they wanted to do- painful. . I took my ring off too- it rocked me to to my core. It’s been 3 months- I put my ring back on. He is sorry, says it wasn’t physical, he just got carried away and didn’t know how to stop. They did this for 6 months! I am trying every day to forgive and get through this – so many emotions to deal with- trust, betrayal, forgiveness, hate and love. I have kids in their early 20’s that have no idea, I want to tell them what their father did to me, to us, but I can’t add any more emotion to what I am trying to work through.
You are so brave to share publicly when I’m sure you just want to lock the doors from the world. I too am loyal to a fault and whole heartedly believe in my wedding vows, I have chosen to trust that nothing physical occurred and do not want to give up on us – even though some days I do. Hang in there. Each day does gets a little better
So sorry you are going through this difficult time. I could not imagine if I had found out that my husband betrayed me and feel like he is also betraying my children. Praying for you to get through this and your sons health! Many blessings to you from one women, mom, wife to another! You will get through this. Let your self be sad, mad and cry. Whatever is helping you.. do it!
Lots of Love
Sending a prayer for strength, clarity and healing your way. I am so sorry this happened to you.
You said it best this doesn’t define you!! Take all the time you need and remember you have so many wonderful people on this world that love you!! My prayers to you and Hart!! You are an inspiration and always will be!!!
I’m so sorry this has Happened to you and I’ll be praying for your son. Seriously being a mom , wife, entrepreneur it’s so hard. But going through what your going through isn’t easy. I hope that you can find peace in whatever choice you make . And do what’s best for you and your babies. Sending my love mama♥️
Be strong. We are in your corner. I’m sorry you’re hurting. We all understand and we are all unfortunately human and have faults. I hope you can save it and get that you’d want to leave and if you want to stay and fix this. Not every marriage can make it to the other side. Hugs.
Dear Meghan,
I am just so sorry for what you are going through. My heart hurts for you. Just to let you know, God loves you and He is with you. Rely on Him for comfort, peace and wisdom. He will never let you down. I have been through a lot of difficult situations, and I have always gotten through with prayer and faith. It may sound trite in the grand scheme of things, but no one wants you to be happier than our Heavenly Father.
I pray that you will find everything you need to forge ahead during this time of darkness. 🌹🌹🌹🙏✝️❤️
Hi Meghan. I understand wholeheartedly and sympathize with you and what your going through. I am dealing with something similar. I found out in May of this year (a little over a month ago), that my husband was “corresponding “ with an ex-gf about meeting her in our home state of NJ. We are both retired and live in GA. This man presented everything right to me. Because we are older I thought that I would not have to worry about this sort of thing. I remember the day as if it was yesterday. I came home from the gym, trying to decide what to do. There was inappropriate texting between him and this person. When I saw it I could not stop shaking. I was devastated. I packed a bag, went into his office and confronted him. I was leaving I was shaking so bad I thought I would pass out. It will only be two (2) years in September that we will be married. I was on my way out but then I thought why should I give this person the opportunity to be with my husband. I told him he needs to fix this. He told me he never acted on anything but the thought of knowing the act could have happened is horrible. Healing is a hard thing but I am trying. Tomorrow is my birthday so I have decided to put on a brave face. One thing I’ve learned is that, as women we become invested, not with what we do for our husbands but with time. We put time in to make sure that all is right. Investment is the biggest thing that we give to our husbands. I wish you the best and pray that you have peace and happiness once again as I do for me. 💕💕
god bless you and your family you are so strong and you will come out of this! sending prayers your way!!
God bless you and your babies. You’re a strong woman. So incredibly sorry your trust has been lost. That’s something like even a steel bridge can’t build again. Midwest girls, what you see is what you get. I am who I am. And we are as loyal as our roots are the salt in this earth.
God bless you and give heal your heart… and Hart.
I’m sorry to read all of this. It’s overwhelming 🙁 You are a young, beautiful mom with a full plate. You do what makes YOU happy. This too shall pass… that applies to so many things in life. Sounds like you have another road to explore with your son. Be present. Be his mom, HE needs you. All of your kiddo’s need you.
It’s a never ending job… that does get easier over time. And ps- don’t forget about yourself 💛 moms always deserve whatever they want 🤣 we do it all 💪🏻
Wise and well written. I went through all these feelings myself albeit not in public.
My advice would be to work on yourself and how you feel. I spent so long wondering about his “side” of things and the result was the same. He did it again and again I was the hurt one. I am now happier than I have been in a long time, yes marriage is hard but ultimately it should be more good than bad or it’s not worth the damage it does to you and more so the children. My kids are learning more from seeing me independent not bitter and not in pain than they ever would watching me suffer and try to make something that had no chance work. Some people are just broken, only they can change themselves and get fixed. Don’t let him take you down with him.
Wow very well said !! And so deeply sorry you have to have this full plate of hurt all at once .
Beautifully stated. My heart goes out to you. Gods speed. 💜
Read Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. I’m studying to be a Marriage and Family Therapist and this book, single or dating or married will help you and your partner. Absolute game changer. EYE OPENER!
You are not a victim. And your husband is not a monster. No doubt if you read this, you’ll come out on top. Years from now you will be in a richer, happier place with your husband so appreciate this pain as a means to correct (and improve) the course. You got this.
Lindsay
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Stay strong 💪🏻 you are amazing mom and great wife this to shell pass. 🙏🙏for your bBy boy. That god watches over him.
Dear Mehgan,
I have always thought you were a sweetheart on the show. I am 64 years old and have been around the block a few times. I have also been in 2 unfaithful marriages and I am glad to see you at least know it is “NOT YOUR FAULT”! I am sure you have heard this before….. infidelity is the ONLY sin in the Bible that justifies divorce and although it may be hard to hear. cheaters rarely ever change.
I won’t sit here and bash Jimmy however I have never seen a more transparently detached man/husband on any show as I witnessed him. He was disrespectful to you, he is snarky to you, he was just a down right a jerk. I was embarrassed for you more times than I can say! I am strongly opposed to divorce but here I am 64 and single because I will never put up with a cheater as it is more lonely being cheated on than it is being alone. You are young, beautiful and kind, I pray you move forward and find someone who deserves your love.
Please remember one last thing, when people say they are staying together for the children that “in my opinion” is a deflection and can be somewhat selfish. Kids “KNOW” when mom and dad aren’t happy and trust me they will be happier in a happy single family with dad visiting! The best thing that ever happened to me was when my parents divorced.
My father was a big time golfer, we had money, country club, home etc, and Jimmy reminds me “a lot” of him, so as children we had that same personality in our home growing up. I then attracted that same man into my life and spent my a lot of time in therapy to break that cycle. Unfortunately it’s a hard one to break, as well as the way he treated my wonderful mother, much like you! God rest her soul!
I truly hope this helps! Blessings, Pamela
Hi , Wow ! I think the situation with your Son will be more stressful then JIMMy, I think he can’t travel, he has a sex addiction ! I hate to go back in time but I so disliked him and the way he would treat you that I stopped watching the show, he reminded me of someone in my past, so I don’t know what to say . I do know this, if Jimmy wants to remain a LEWD husband, father, etc.then so be it , but I don’t think you will be around for the continuation of his behavior, bless you and your children !
I would be just as shocked as you are, we all would, especially when we are true blues in who we are and what we commit too!
Society says we’re innocent as long as nobody finds out.
But they forget there is a whole universe watching us. You have so many Angels helping and guiding you and revealing truths to you. Nothing is EVER hidden forever.
He played Russian roulette with your beautiful heart and now he has to deal with the pain and sadness he created.
He didn’t cheat on you he cheated first on himself and then on his entire family that holds him in the position of Trust, Loyalty and Closest Friend and this will require months of rebuilding and repairing all from within him!! No material gift can ever replace it.
You are going to get through this hurtful time and come out so much stronger and I promise you there will be a beautiful silver lining waiting to gift you with incredible wisdom, power and grace.
I will see your son well and pray for the best outcome ever!
Sister to sister you are not alone, we are all here lifting you up. Xoxo
I’m so sorry. My heart breaks for you, I’ve lived through this so I know the pain well. Let the knowledge that one day this will be a distant memory and you will be okay help you through the dark days. Love to you.
SO beautifully said.. I think we all can learn from our situations and ultimately become a better person!
Bless your heart…I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Your blog touched me so much that I felt compelled to reach out and comfort you. Being on the other side of the TV, I always think, wow, they have everything—the big beautiful house, the wealth, the cars I only dream of driving, etc. All the while forgetting famous people like you have feelings just like me and they aren’t superficial or material. I am completely loyal, just as you are, and keep the vows I promised before God seriously. I just wanted to tell you that I’ll be praying for you and I’m sorry for not understanding that even though you’re famous, you struggle with the same issues as everyone else.
I am so so sorry for you and your children. I love your IG stories and have always admired what a great mother you are to your precious children. My sister and I regularly text each other about adorable things from your IG stories. I feel sad you are going through this. But, you are an amazing independent women and there are brighter days ahead. I am praying for Hart.
A real man will cut off any female that threatens his relationship with his woman. Sadly you are not with a real man. He is a childish selfish boy that will never grow up to be a real man. So sorry. Love your kids and yourself. That is all.
Meghan, First of all, you know, none of this is your mistake….You are a great mother and a great wife…I can’t imagine what you are going thru and having to keep a smile on your face for your beautiful kids. I do know, that he needs therapy and I would insist that he gets it, in order to keep your marriage….and alot of therapy….that has to be an illness he has. He seems so happy with you and the kids. You should maybe talk to a therapist or a minister or someone who can help you get thru this…..I agree with you, this is just like he had an affair….and it will be hard for you to forgive him…But just know, that you are in my prayers every day…I look forward to seeing you and those cuties everyday…so keep your head up high and face this head on….you are strong…don’t forget that….Hart is also in my prayers…hoping you get a good report soon….No matter what….God is on your side….Remember that..and so am I… Love and prayers, Barb
So honest and well written. His behavior is not a reflection on you it’s about his issues. Unfortunately, it affects you and your family. He needs to get help to understand why his fear of surrendering fully to his family causes him to act like this. Do what you need to to look after your children’s mom. He needs to solve his own issues. Good luck – you’re kids are beautiful.
He doesn’t deserve you nor your devotion. Whilst there was no physical betrayal in the traditional sense he has still completely disrespected you and all that you have together. Why would someone like that stop at this? Be strong and be true to yourself. You may realise one day that this was a black gift. Lots of love. XxX
Keep going. You are 100% correct. You can’t control others. You are gorgeous an amazing mother!
Your words & perspective on this are so perfect! God bless your family xo
Sorry Meghan. I hope you and your husband can reconcile and he’ll realize what an amazing wife and woman he has.
Hugs to you!
Hang in there Megan! If you love him, and he loves you, it will work out. Sure it will take some time to heal. Just don’t stay in that deep dark place and rise up. God will see you thru this and you will be stronger than ever. You got this mama! So glad to hear that Hart is going to be ok. Believe it or not your babies will be your strength and your healing. I’ve been where you are. It’s hard, so damn hard but my strength came from within myself, my children and my precious Mama. Strength I didn’t know I had until I had to be strong. I will say a prayer for you and your sweet precious babies, for strength, love, light and laughter. It will be good again. You will come thru this like a champ. Much love to you and your family.
Meghan, I am so very proud of your grace and maturity. I pray for your marriage and for your son. So true about the slimey people. I have felt and understand your pain. Stay beautiful… no one can take that away from you, never forget this! Stay dignified it’s the best thing you can do. XO
This is terrible for you to deal with.. I am so so sorry but I have been there.. This is his mistake, not anything you did wrong.. Give yourself time.. You are so so strong and you have got this…you are going to be ok..wishing you some sort of peace and so sorry you have to go through this.. you did not deserve this.. nobody does.. but look into your heart and you will figure it out.. allow yourself time to be sad.. but I know you will pick up the pieces and walk forward again! ❤️❤️🐾🐾🐾🐾
Meghan, our of the 1770 replies, I’m sure you’re not going to see this one. But I want to tell you how brave you are to talk about this publicly. It’s horrible, disgust, ugly, and life altering. I’ve been there. I was just 4 months pregnant. And this was no easy, yay your pregnant! This was 4 years of trying, multiple pregnancy losses and second round of IVF pregnancy. It wasn’t the “cheating” due to an unexpected pregnancy it was a very very intentional pregnancy. Let me add that IVF was his idea not mine, I only did it because I wanted a child and wanted to give him that baby he wanted (ours). We are still together. It’s ugly. We tried counseling’s right after it happened but had to stop due to pregnancy complications that put me on bed rest from 25 weeks til delivery. If we continue do I think it would have helped? Not sure. I do know that both of us needed to change and want to work on our marriage. I’m willing to be more open and communicate . I’m willing to do what it takes to keep this marriage together and become stronger. I know I’m able to forgive but I know I will never forget.
I literally have felt every emotion you wrote almost as if I wrote it myself. I still to this day can’t wear my rings. I physically feel pain when I put them on. I too felt my marriage was a sham.
I don’t understand it and probably never will. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. You deserve so much better. You’re an amazing mom, step mom, wife and human.
I am sad for you. My heart aches for you and your children. Men never think of the big picture when they cheat on their wives. Do what’s feels right for you and your children and with time you will be alright.
That was so beautifully written. Full of insight and wisdom and, sadly, a whole lot of sorrow. Wishing the best for you. -lrw
I read your blogs, because I think you are well spoken and a kick ass mom. I read this and it speaks volumes becasue I know and have lived your exact situation. I live a simple life, I am not famous. I know all your heart ache. I some how found a way around it. Our situation was exactly similar, texts/pictures.. the betrayal I felt was so intense. Like a fire I could not put out. I love you and will pray for peace and strength. One day at time. ❤
Megan,
This is SO sad for you. I hope you can do what is best for you and your children and only you know of that includes Jim or not. I know his statement to the media seems to dismiss his actions because things never got physical with this other woman. I hope in private at least he’s acknowledging what he did WAS cheating and that it was so wrong. In my opinion admitting what he did was absolutely wrong and not prefacing it at all in public would have been better but who am I to know? You are right this is HIS problem. A man who could send lewd videos/photos as his wife is in the hospital has got issues. I hope for your families sake Jim recognizes his problem and gets help. It will take two to heal as well. This is going to be so hard navigating this with the world watching and hurling opinions at you. Hoping you have clarity and peace as you make decisions for your family
You are strong. You are beautiful. You are deserving.
He is weak. He is small. He is undeserving.
I’m so sorry. Hugs to you.
Meghan!
Thank you for being the woman God created you to be bold and courageous for sharing such intimate parts of your heart. This is beautiful and sad and I’m so sorry you’re having to go through such difficulties. I will pray and interfered for you and your family and your son. God has a beautiful plan for your life, stay strong and surround yourself with like minded people who Celebrate YOU! God will use everything we go through for our Good! Praying for you! Remember your worth comes from the Lord not anything or anyone of this world! He will sustain you and keep you within His loving arms. I’m praying for your adorable little Hart too. Love Danna Anderson
You got this girl! 💪🏼👄🙏
Ugh. I’m in tears reading this. I’m in tears because unfortunately i know and feel every. Single. Word. Just recently finding out myself of my husbands affair. I’m crushed. Lost. Hateful. Sad. Infuriated. I want to stab a bitch! Who are these girls that feel that it’s ok to ruin a family? My husband is 47, she is 25 and works with him. I have hidden it from everyone because I am so embarrassed. Humiliated. I can stop playing detective. I can’t stop thinking of this. I feel so empty, so lonely. Like an empty shell and my kids have to suffer because i don’t even know who i am anymore. I’m so lost.
I truly hope you’re better at the healing process than me. I can’t seem to let it go. I think about it all day. Keep your head up girl. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. ♥️
Feeling your pain. I’ve been where you are, however, not publicly. Cant even imagine that magnitude. Im here to tell you my marriage survived! Lots of couples counseling and lots of patience. Mostly, we always loved each other and that was the driving force. Take as much time to heal, and it may take years.
Prayers for your broken heart….♥️🙏
I’m so so sorry. I’ll be praying God heals the broken pieces of your heart. I could not even imagine. After going through twin pregnancy myself and the low you feel body wise ( at least I do) and relying on your husband to give you time make you feel confident and then that happens? I can only say I can’t imagine your pain but I truly hope God heals the broken and hurt you feel. You are beautiful. However I don’t know you well but seem like a wonderful mother. You got this girl. You seem very strong and intelligent you will get through this. Strong as a mother!!!!
I felt each and every word you wrote. My heart breaks for you! I know this pain all too well. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and what will be will be. Take good care of you and your heart. Time is a friend and enemy. You will never forget this betrayal but if it is meant to be forgiveness will come…when you are ready. It took 14 years but I found forgiveness without hostility. We are still married and enjoying a stronger, honest marriage. I pray this will be your story.
My heart breaks for you in every way possible. I too have been cheated on. My youngest was 3 months old when I found out about his affair. I found out later he was talking to two different women while I was pregnant. We have been divorced 6 years and are finally in a good place for the sake of our children. I can tell you that only YOU know what is best for you and your family. I tried to take my husband back 3 different times and all three times he cheated once again. People thought I was crazy but in my mind I was trying to hold my family together. I did what I thought was right for US as a family. I look back now and have no regrets because now I see the two of us providing two happy homes for our children. Take time to cry and let yourself heal mentally, emotionally, and physically in the time your body needs. My thoughts are with you 💕
Cough cough Andrew jones
I’m going through the same thing, minus the twins part.
I found out in February that my husband has had “inappropriate conversation” with a woman for over a year now. Said it happened on two different occasions, but what am I supposed to believe? Like you, I have been faithful, I have taken care of the family and him when he needed me most. And then they go and betray us. We are angry. We are sad. We are self conscious. We are unappreciated. But we are all of these things, together. Stay strong, but it’s also important to allow yourself to feel weak. To let him know on the days that you feel weak. They’ll come and go. And that’s okay. You’re doing the best you can, and you might not know what to do now, or six months from now, or a year from now, but what’s important RIGHT now is that you are being vulnerable and human. It’s hard, but you should be proud of yourself.
Here’s a thought…stop talking about it!!! Stop posting about it!! Stop embarrassing your poor husband on line and in public! And STOP posting about it for your sake and your kids sake!!’
You will never recover from this until you do.
It’s just that simple…..
I hate this. Why are men so weak? I”m sorry this happened, you deserve much better.
Oh honey I’m so sorry to read what you’re going through! You are one special mom and wife. Just know that time will heal your heart. Take the time. ❤️❤️
I’m sorry Megan. This is not fair. I know you’re hurting. I have been in a similar situation..with little children. My advice to you is to RUN to God. Seek wise Godly counsel. God CAN save your marriage. We have an adversary named the Devil. He is out to to steal and rob out of everything God loves. I know you’re hurting. God is near. He will make a way for you if you call on Him.
My marriage was saved, little by little, through Gods Grace and mercy. It’s not easy, but with your family is worth fighting for. God Bless you during this difficult time. And I pray for baby Hart too!
You are beautiful and that is the least interesting thing about you! This to shall pass, praying for you to have strength and courage.
I have no clue of who you and your husband are, but I did read this blog after seeing y’all’s name on my Instagram. You seem wonderful and for your heartbreak, I am truly sorry. I will add you to my prayers tonight. God will help you heal. Much love to you and your family.
Sending you love and prayers, Meghan. you will get through this. People who’ve been knocked down, rise up twice as strong. You are an amazing woman and a mother!
I do not want trivialize your pain with superficial quotes. However, sometime a quote can strike a chord. I hope something below gives you strength or wisdom or just food for thought:
You are the CEO of your life. Hire, fire and promote accordingly.
Decide whst kimd of life you want. Say no to everything else.
Set your standards. Do not mistake what you are offered with what you are worth.
We are not accepting applogies, only changed behavior.
She remembered who she was and the game changed. (Lalah Delia):
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I’m so sorry. When I heard about this my heart ached for you. Cheating is the ultimate form of betrayal. It’s the worst pain ever. I’m so sorry you have to endure this. I will keep you and your kids in my prayers. God speed 🙏❤️
Sending love your way. I’ve always appreciated how open you’ve been, even in times like this. I’ve been through the same thing. Ultimately, you have to decide if you can move past this. No one can make that decision for you. Best wishes! You are a beautiful, incredibly strong woman!
The fleas come with the dog.
Thanks for sharing! 😭❤️
Thank you for sharing this as this too just happened to me I am completely broken. 🙁 and very sad
I’m sorry this happened to you. I don’t know you but we do share a mutual friend on FB, seeing your friends with her means to me that you are a good person. I hope you and your family can heal. Sometimes our best friend let’s us down but it doesn’t mean we give up. Give it time, try to get over the hurt and betrayal, talk it out, remember you love each other and healing will come. Prayers for Hart!
Cathy – St Charles, MO
You are intelligent, graceful and incredibly beautiful. His actions are not a reflection of you but of himself which doesn’t make it sting any less. Just know that people are cheering for you- love and prayers for Hart and your now broken heart.
You are so brave to allow yourself to be so transparent during such a difficult time. I can’t imagine that it is easy to have a husband of celebrity statue with so many valueless women in the world. Give yourself time, remember why you married him. We are all guilty of making poor mistakes a time or two. Save your meaningful marriage, give yourself time and allow him to regain your trust. Sending you love, light and blessings.
Marriage should NEVER be HARMFUL.
He needs a lot of help. That will be something that he will need to want to happen for himself with or without you. Sadly, most seriel cheaters are not either able or willing to do the hard work to understand why they choose their own selfishness over their marriage.
I do know. I’ve been there.
I kept thinking if I just helped him.. more.. finally my own therapist told me that I had to make one of two decisions. Either accept that this will happen again and you will find yourself here again, or move on without him. Two painful choices. Whichever pain is tolerable for you is up to you.
I pray for you and your children.
Be sad, but know when to fight an unfair fight.
I 1000% (unfortunately) understand and relate. Amazing how your once beloved wedding ring, which symbolized all that is holy and beautiful can in one minute look like tin and glass. I’m so sorry, Meghan. I know that you’ve not tended to be a very religious person, but there are some VERY HEALING works written by both men and women of the Christian faith, if you’re open. Also, the arms of my Heavenly Father held me softly, strongly, safely… all of it, as I experienced this, and He will hold you, too… Just ask. I’ll be praying for you (and Jim… that he “gets it.”) and your children during this time of shock and sorrow.
Your right marriage shouldnt be that hard. He made a choice to cheat. Focus on your children and yourself and put the marriage on the back burner. He doesnt deserve your time or energy right now (or ever in my opinion but thats up to you). His past is an indicator of how he thinks about wives/marriage and family. Its all disposable to him. Dont fall into thinking I thought he would treat me differently than his past 2 wives. It isnt you, it isnt personal. He has deficiencies that no one but himself can change. You believed in love and gave him your heart and he trashed it which hurts like heck I know, BUT again its his issues and no woman or child will change him. He has to want and choose to change himself. He has repeated this behavior with every wife and probably every girlfriend. Sadly regardless of what he tells you or what counseling he gets to try and prove to you he is sorry, he will not change. The fact that he only told you because he got found out shows he hasnt and isnt going to change. If you get out now you will save yourself from the same hurt he is guaranteed to cause again with another affair. It sucks to think you loved so hard and the man you thought loved you back the same didnt. Be your biggest advocate and stand up for your sanity and happiness. Dont buy the excuses and dont buy the I will change speech. Actions speak louder than words. You are in the thick of it right now and it SUCKS but I promise you if you are strong for your kids and for yourself you will one day find a man who loves you back as much as you love him. This man is not Jim. You deserve and will find WAY better.
Love, I’ve been there… Not as publicly as you two must be dealing with this, but I know and I just want you to know that you will rise above this and that there is life and love after this, even with your husband if you can truly forgive and he can do the work to regain your trust. You’re an amazing person – let yourself lead with love and you’ll never go wrong… Sending you so much love….
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THANK YOU for your honesty Meghan. So many of us can relate and it helps tremendously to see the words. You don’t deserve this. Praying for your heart to heal. Hugs xo
Hi Meghan,
First, I want to say that I am so sorry that this happened to you and what you are going through. Second, I want to share that I can sympathize with you. My fiancé cheated on me about a month ago and it was devastating. We have been together for 11 years and have started planing our wedding and then this happens, like really?! I have chosen to forgive him and work on it for numerous reasons but I understand your pain. I have not told anyone because it’s so embarrassing and nerve-wracking. So third, I want to applaud you for having the nerve to be vulnerable and sharing your world with us. I wish you the best!
Hi Megan,
It’s taken me awhile to read your post. I wanted to but knew it would bring up my hurt.
I’m sorry, nothing else to say. I’m on 2 years of “cheating” evidence. No touching (who knows) just texts.
I was pregnant with surrogate twins and it hurts so bad to talkZ
I am still with the love of my life. He took all of my trust and I’m still recovering every day. My kiddos deserve that.
Heading to a counselor this week. 45 years old and now a complete mess everyday. Crazy huh?
No need to reply. Sometimes people who we see as a distraction and love the story of your family brought ends up being so real!
Sending lots of hugs and know I know what you are felling if you ever need to feel normal.
Jeanette
So proud of you and your devotion to your family. You are strong and you are BRAVE.
You are a strong and beautiful woman! Praying for you in this time! I’m so sorry you were hurt in this way. Prayers for healing.
Love
Peggy
I’m so very sorry.
Gee, sorry but how did you NOT see this coming? He’s a cheater……always was and always will be! Two previous wives plus NUMEROUS ex-fiancés and yet you thought you’d be different or special? I’m sorry but all I can do is laugh at your stupidity. You’ll stay for the money but you should RUN but you won’t. You’re too fame hungry to leave.
Liz, why do you have such hate in your heart? Do you know her? Has she done anything to you? Why such negative words? I hope that you’re never put in her position and if so, I hope that others show you more kindness than you have shown here. Be kind!
You DID leave her voice messages. They’ve already been published online! Hubby is a serial cheater and you’re a gold digging liar. Perfect couple
You are an incredibly strong woman and no one would blame you if you left him. It’s easy to leave but even harder to stay. So whatever your decision is it’s none of our business and we have no reason to give you our unsolicited advice. You do you and take care of those 3 gorgeous babies you have. Thanks for sharing your story because now we know the truth, not the tabloid truth.
Much luv mama. So how ‘bout you come on back to the RHOC cuz u are for sure missed!!!!
Much love
Linda (PA fan)
Meghan,
You will be fine. He will do this again. It’s better to be on your own where you are able to be the best mommy you can be. He will do this again. I assure you. Children have a better life with a happy mom and a secure family unit. . You will be fine. I pray for your sons health. He will be alright because he has a wonderful mama to take care of him. Your husband is not capable of being faithful. Don’t put yourself through this! Move forward. Don’t look backwards, it’s bad luck. My thoughts are with you l.
What a classy woman you are x
I am so very sorry for your “loss”. Loss of trust, joy, plans of a good marriage. I watched you on OCH and saw you just wanting a happy marriage. You were young, misty eyed. I hope and pray for you and your children’s sake you can work things out. (It doesn’t look good for him in the public eye either, disgraceful). He needs yo grow up this isn’t his first rodeo. God bless you. D🙏🌸😘
We all are sending you big hugs and kisses. You are very strong and sharing this has given me so much more respect for you. I couldn’t imagine facing a betrayal so publicly. Thank you for sharing.
I hope you and Jim repair your marriage. I hope Jim spends all the time you need to regain your trust. I pray your son is ok. I know your heart breaks for him and now for this betrayal.
This too shall pass. God never gives us more than we can handle. Lean on him and let him be your strength. Lean on your family and friends and let them help you through this grief. Temptation is all around us and more strongly aimed at athletes and celebrities. Hopefully Jim takes steps that help him to not give in to the temptation. No ones persona is perfect; we all fall short but our actions have a reaction.
I’m praying for your family and respecting whatever decisions you guys make. I think there is a lot of love between you and Jim and I hope that prevails!!
I want to to tell you I know how bad this stings. I went through this with my first husband, this and sooooo much more. There was no love left. NONE whatsoever! So I finally for the sake of my kids divorced him! But it was NOT just over one indiscretion, I could tell you things that would make you cry.
Six years ago my Elementary School Sweetheart found me when he and his wife were divorcing. We started dating a year later, got engage a year after that and a year later were married. I lost my husband to cancer on May 18th of this year. He was just diagnosed June 4th, 2018. I’m so broken hearted and lost I don’t know who I am or what to do. We both just turned 53. Why am I telling you this? Because life is way too short and way to precious to waste on grudges and to be unforgiving. If you love him give him a 2nd, 3rd, 6th or even a 10th chance. Why? Because he is here and you can and you love him! Always make sure the last thing you would be the last thing you would want to say to him or anyone. He is the father of your children no matter what!
Marrairge is so much hard work God bless you and your family 🙏🙌 I can honestly say I have been through infidelity in my marriage in the first 5 years of of our marriage. The rebuilding was work we are now married almost 17 years it is possible ❤ no one should judge your relationship you have small children I am sorry your family is dealing with all these hardships xo. Blessings for your baby boy everything will be what it is!!
I freakin’ LOVE YOU MKE!!! You can keep fighting for your marriage or you can end it. Either one is ok. If your heart wants to forgive a million times.. everyday when you wake then do it! If you love him then fight. If you can’t find any more good days with him then move on to the next best option for you. I stayed almost 30 yrs after my husband’s first of many affairs… kept fighting and forgiving. My kids had their parents together and it did have value. It is a sacrifice but I am glad they had this. Now I am divorced and he is without my LOVE AND AMAZINGNESS AND HE HAS HIS “SLIMYNESS”. xoxo
You are such a good writer! You are also so classy for writing with no ill intent.
Thanks for sharing, even if it is none of our business! I think writing is good therapy
I hope and pray that you can overcome this sadness, and that your marriage will become stronger because of the ebbs and flows….its so easy to look at you and others with the beauty, homes, cars, and other things and forget that you too are just human, and hurt just as I do. I am sorry your family has to deal with this, sorry your husband made some bad choices, we all do we are all flawed…..forgive him if that’s what you want and move forward but in order to heal once you forgive him you will have to let it go…..I know so easily typed but not so easily done….if not it will be hard to over come
I’m truly sorry for your pain. Any betrayal is still a betrayal. I know this because my first husband couldn’t just cheat once and be done with it and be so sorry, and beg for forgiveness which I eventually gave.
It happened over and over again. I think 4 different women before it had destroyed me. Just don’t let this happen to you.
The old saying once a cheat always a cheat. They just find different ways to do it or hide it. My son was 7 and my daughter was 13 when we finally split up. I will tell you I cried ugly tears, I cried so hard I threw up. Nothing would change the damage he had done, and I allowed to keep happening to me, because I loved him and thought it was best for the kids. In the long run, you will never have full trust in him, and he will abuse it again even though this was made so public.
I’m sorry I don’t mean to be the bearer of nasty news and woe and doom, but I have lived it. From the time my daughter was young until my son was 7, I lived it, and over and over I found out about it.
Now my husband that I have has found a way to demean me also. I won’t share it here, most wouldn’t think it’s cheating, but I do. So at 59 I am challenged once again with what to do.
Now my kids are grown and have kids if their own. My daughter just found out in Dec that her husband of 17 years has been having an emotional relationship with someone they both knew. At one point he was ready to give up her and the kids. Now they are trying to work it out, I see my daughter telling herself the same lies I told myself. But she won’t listen.
Listen to your gut, not your heart!
All my prayers are with you and your family.
My son suffers from a rare form of epilepsy that took two major brain surgeries and many years to diagnose. I get everything you are feeling right at this moment. He is now 22 and settled into his reality and thriving. Reach out if I can be a support in any way. YOU GOT THIS!
I feel your pain, hon. It’s been a year and a half since I found out about my husband’s affair. It will get better. Much love and strength to you.
I wish you peace! Thank you for sharing.
You have the right to be sad and I wish you all the time to heal. I hope that Hart will continue to make milestones in his own time frame and will continue to pray for him.
Xoxo
I’m so sorry Meghan, that this is all crashing down on you. I know you are strong , but you must be strong for your children who need their mother.
I have always saw that strong side of you in your tweets , on tv etc. Now your husband compromised your marriage- “what was he thinking”, he’s a narcissist an abusive one – and you must read what you wrote over & over till you cannot cry anymore. Writing about this mess in your marriage will help you heal. He ruined all for himself but not you , yes the marriage is a fraud now , but more importantly you have three beautiful children that depend on you and as smart & beautiful as you are, you will become stronger. Your young and so understand what is happening to you. Most women would bury their heads in the sand – but not you Megan- you have three young ones that need you and you must stay strong for them , keep your family intact. A man who cheats will always cheat. He’s no good, a liar & a narcissist.
Any support at this time is good support take it ..!
Find a support system & stay strong for the sake of your children. I am proud of you as I don’t think I can be so strong or maybe I can if infidelity was in my marriage, but sometimes strength arises within you as I am reading in your blog.
May God be with you and may you and your children cuddle and be together always…much love to you and the little ones , especially Hart, you stay STRONG..! Be an example for all women who are going through similar situations or worse.
Meghan, I believe in you .. much love & prayers..🙏🌹🙏🌹🙏🌹
Hi
I’ll never forget hearing the words that my son suffered brain damage and had PVL. I was gutted for a long time. My heart goes out to you and him. I wanted to share the short version of what happened to my son to give you some hope. My son was born at 24.3 weeks. I was told everyday for 3 weeks straight he wasn’t going to make it through the day because he wasn’t strong enough to make it through a surgery he desperately needed. When he was 3 weeks old he finally had the heart surgery needed. From that day forward he thrived and grew. We were in the NICU for 3.5 months. 10 days prior to us being able to take him home he had a seizure. They did a CT scan of hi brain which revealed bilateral PVL. They said his brain was full of holes and he most likely would be unable to walk, talk or feed himself. Best case was a wheelchair. We were devastated. I saw the film and his brain looked like Swiss cheese. I just couldn’t believe it. Every doctor visit(we had many) I would say look he’s picking his head up, that’s good right?? He’ll walk? and I would get the same answer of..most likely not. Every milestone he hit I would ask the same question and get the same answer. When he was 14 months old he was pulling to stand and doing really well. I was a first time mom. I had no idea if this was good or not. I thought so but wanted confirmation. I was still getting the same answer from doctors when I asked about him walking. One day he woke up when he was still 14 months vomiting profusely, we brought him to the ER where they took every test they could except a scan of his brain. They said he had the flu and admitted him. I was walking him up to his room when he went stiff in my arms. When I looked down at him his one eye was blown out and his right pupil was constricted. I know something terrible just happened. When the doctors finally came and got him from me they had to perform a bedside drilling into his brain to relieve pressure caused by undiagnosed hydrocephalus. He was in a coma and we had no idea if he would wake. 2 days later he started wiggling his toes. He was alive but he suffered a massive stroke due to the pressure on his brain. His right arm was constricted and his left leg was stiff. He couldn’t suck. He lost all of his previous abilities. I was so angry! All these DR visits! All the hard work he did all flushed down the toilet. I thought ok. We are going to get through this too. Somehow. Someway. It has been a very long, hard road. Despite all of the damage to his brain my beautiful, smart boy just graduated high school. He is a miracle. He walks, talks and feeds himself!! Sometimes more then he should. Lol. Never give up hope. Never stop praying. Take what DR’s tell you with a grain of salt. They are not God. They told me things that never happened and didn’t tell me things they should have known. Get him into early intervention as soon as possible. It made a huge difference in my son. The best thing about young brains is they have the unbelievable ability to overcome and the brain knows a lot of times what is needed most so it re-routes it. Goes around the damaged areas. I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers. No matter what happens he is your blessing and you are his. Hang on tightly to each other and all will be OK.
Gargramel, you , my dear, are an idiot.
Meghan take your time. He’s been married a few times for good reasons. He is very distant and unsupportive and self absorbed. Weigh the pros and cons. Sometimes kids are better without having one parent that doesn’t want to be there. You are a super person and a great mom. Praying for you. Think it through. I don’t think this will be the last. There may be others you don’t know about. Sorry 😢
You’re doing a beautiful job, Meghan, with your kids, your truth and in life. I’m sorry this happened to you, but this too you shall endure. Thinking of you and Hart. Prayers for peace and love. I have no opinions about what you should do EXCEPT that you seem to make good decisions on your own. Listen to your heart and live your truth, girl♥️
Meghan, it’s unbelievable what you have had to handle in the last few weeks. I know it’ll all get better♥️
I’ve always felt that men are so different in every way from women, and that their egos must constantly be massaged in ways that women’s
don’t have to be.
Jimmy loves you, , no doubt.
He got caught up in his male ego.
While you were busy dealing with life, someone else paid more attention to him.
Let him know he’s forgiven but it will never be forgotten.
Move on and give yourself a pat on the back….we (women) are so superior to them in so many ways
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Your article is so honest and beautifully put that I admire your honesty. Now knowing about your baby son all else can not compare to how you must be feeling. It’s like “what can be worse? “And now you know. Your baby is your priority now. God bless you and your babies. You will know the right thing to do. Follow your HART! 🎈
I have never seen your show or even read anything about you. I happened upon this blog about your sweet son, Hart, and his diagnosis and then read other posts. I am so sorry you are going through so much pain. You seem like such a strong, caring and genuine woman and I pray for peace and healing for you and your family
Ugghhh….This makes me sad.
Hold your head up! You did nothing wrong. My father did the same to my mother. She finally had enough and put him out. I was five and my sister was three. She was
Born with cerebral palsy. My dad ran from child support leaving my mom to take care of two little girls. Something she did with pride and diligence. She learned to drive, took my sister to school and started selling Avon. She was my Hero! I don’t know you and doubt that you’ll ever read this. I just wanted to send you some words of encouragement. I have to say that you had my admiration at the way you became friends with his ex and his daughter. Being there to support both through her cancer and stepping in to be a mother to their daughter.
You’ve got this!!!! It’s not going to be easy but just trust
God. I am blessed to be the mother of a child
With special needs. I haven’t always felt that way. It’s been hard but it’s been so rewarding. Much love and prayers. Nothing you and God can’t handle!!! ❤️🙏🏻❤️
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Dear Meghan,
I’m so sorry to hear of the pain you are experiencing. It’s been a month since you wrote “I’m Sad”, and today was the first day I had seen it.
I remember you well from Real Housewives. Although you were the youngest, you were the wife with the most common sense. You were so grounded, and always tried to be fair and even handed when relationships became difficult. You were terrific with your step daughter. When you were pregnant, it was obvious you’d be a great mom.
A few days ago I was watching “Say Yes To The Dress”. You know what I’m going to say…..that it was the episode when you were shopping for your wedding dress. I recognized you right away, and was struck that your kind personality was the same as it was later on, in Real Housewives. After that SYTTD episode, I Googled your name because I hadn’t heard anything about you in a long time. And the search results brought me here, to your blog.
I don’t know what’s happened in your marriage since you wrote this. But please know that despite the terrible pain,
your broken heart, and the many, many questions you have, you will get through this. You have everything you need to get you over this mountain. It may not seem like it sometimes, but you do. There is no doubt.
I wish you all the best, and hope that your family will survive, intact.
With kind regards,
Alice
La Jolla, CA
You are not alone. Please do what you and your husband deem is the right thing to do. I encourage you to try and save your marriage. So many people think it’s black and white or don’t understand why you would stay, but I do. Fight for your marriage. Don’t be walked on, by any means, but didn’t for it. I’ve been on both ends of this and through therapy we came out stronger. You can too.
Girl I saw your recent interview and I have to say I’m VERY disappointed by you! I’ve always thought of you as a role model, but the comments you made were terrible. Now listen I get that the woman texting your husband played her part, but at the end of the day your husband took vows not her. Saying that you saw the photos of her and how her being so ugly confirmed for you that he didn’t have a physical relationship was disgusting! Again, I’m not excusing her conversing with your husband AND if you want to complain and talk crap do that privately, but to public shame a woman based on her physical appearance… no good! Furthmore, your husband was still sexting this woman KNOWING what she looked like and was into it so you can’t really use that as a way to feel better about anything. You’re crazy if you think men only cheat with hot women because they usually cheat with whoever is willing and available or convenient. I wish you would’ve kept it cute and said “I believe my husband when he says there was no physical relationship and we are working to repair our marriage.” You don’t want your kids reading all the dirty details anyway! Anyway I really hope you apologize for using physical appearance as a weapon against another woman. Men have been using that as a way to manipulate us for centuries and it’s tired! Don’t let that become your narrative girl… I believe in you xo
I was sad…but not any more!
My name is Nico Saric. I’m not sure if you’ll ever receive this email but as soon as I saw a story about your son and his diagnosis I felt a need to tell you a story about my son. His name is Allen and he is 8. Me and my wife have 3 kids Allen is the youngest and since early on in his life we noticed that he wasn’t speaking and making noises as most of kids his age do. We decided to put him in daycare when he was 2 hoping that he would make progress with other kids and teachers but unfortunately nothing helped and time went by quickly. We tried everything and anything that we heard could help him speak better but nothing seemed to work. Last year 2018 in February I had bad day at work, I was very sad and to top it off later that day I had argument with my wife of course over the stupidest things a couple can have. As usual I waited for everyone to go to sleep so I can sit down and watch some documentaries or programs that help me relax and calm down before I go to sleep. Out of nowhere I thought about what’s happening with cord blood research program in US because we saved Allen’s cord blood when he was born. I type in google search “cord blood for autism”………within few minutes reading through the different articles I find article that says new research program at Duke University is using stem cells from umbilical cord and that they have great results with kids that have autism and have issues with speech. The whole new world of information opened up in front of me that I never had chance to know or hear about from any of the doctors that I visited in Manhattan NY where we live. So the rest of that night I sat and red and watched everything I could about the stem cell therapies. Everything I read about it showed that this is something me and my wife should definitely look into deeper especially since there are no side effects that people or kids experienced during or after the stem cell treatments. After few weeks of our research we decided to call the doctors at Duke University and try to apply for this research program. We were able to speak to few medical staff members that are part of this program but after couple of weeks we received a call that Allen’s umbilical cord didn’t have enough stem cells to do the transfusion and that we couldn’t apply for the program. It broke our harts because we thought this was something that could potentially help our boy……That night I waited again for everyone to go to sleep so I can sit down and do more research about the stem cell therapy. After few hours I found the place that’s called Panama Stem Cell Institute which is located in Panama. It it American owned clinic that had even better research results then Duke University treating kids with stem cells that were diagnosed with autism. Next morning my wife was on the phone with doctors in Panama and few days after our first phone conversation we received the call from Panama and doctors telling us that they checked entire Allen’s medical history and that they think stem cell therapy would definitely help Allen with his speech and overall development. We didn’t hesitate a one second, we immediately agreed that we were going to Panama ASAP. We made reservations for late June 2018 and we were extremely excited especially after we heard and saw some great videos as well as parents reviews and experiences that they have with their kids after they received stem cell transfusion. Honestly it looked to good to be true but we thought it’s something that we definitely had to try since there wasn’t any harm or side affects that could hurt our son. To make this story short I will tell you that it’s been little over year since Allen received his first stem cell transfusion and it’s been blessing for him and our family. He made such a great progress that we decided to go this year for second transfusion and we’ll be going to Panama every year until he is at level of kids his age. This stem cell treatment truly changed Allen’s life it changed our family lives and it’s something that only the parents that go through something like this can really appreciate and understand. I hope you get this email and that you and your family look into this therapy, do your research and speak to the doctors that can explain positives and negatives of these treatments. And if you need to speak to someone that’s been through it and would like to hear how was everything before and after the transfusion please feel free to contact me and my family at [email protected]. I wish you and your family all the best and I’ll say a prayer for your son!
Please see link below from the stem cell institute:
https://www.cellmedicine.com/
Sincerely,
Nico
God.. God will heal your Hart … God can heal your marriage.. simply ask him. He’s waiting on you to ask and Know that he is God!
Meghan, As the mom of two special needs sons that are now grown men I want you to know that your life will be different but will still have lots of joy.
I have a 37 yr old son with CP who is profoundly handicapped. I also have a 31 yr old son with autism. God gives special kids to special moms. The “boys” live with us and attend day programs. Our life is very rewarding. You and Jim will be OK. I will pray for your family.
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I think my wife is who your talking about..Text me at 4695304507. Jim? Are you from Texas or email me at [email protected] prefer text. I want to get to the bottom of this.
That is so beautifully written. You are so smart and strong. I’m praying for you…whatever it is that you need to heal, with or without, Jim, I hope and pray you find it ❤️
I am so sorry for you. So many things I have also thought. Marriage is very difficult, but there is a commitment that this world does not care about. Anything and everything falls into the category of, oh well, that is just them. That is the biggest crap I have heard. Morals, trust and love are gone. I will pray for you and your family. Can we both get through this? Unknown. Only time will tell. God Bless You.
Oh, Meg. Lifting you and your sweet family up in prayer. Especially Hart. You were made to be their momma and you’re doing an amazing job. I’m so sorry you’re having to walk through this valley….my heart hurts with yours. Praying for wisdom and guidance in your marriage. You absolutely don’t deserve any of that. Hugs ❤️
Megan. I hope you two GROW thru this. Men are so dumb, they make dumb mistakes when they feel lonely or bored. This has zero to do with you, he never thought you would find out. In fact this is quite common when children are young, because our main focus is, well, them. They need us, they depend on us fully and will literally die if we don’t care for them. Men feel like they took a far backseat. Not even 3rd row but trunk backseat. And they do. It’s not because we don’t care or love them, it’s because we only have so much in us. Caring for our littles is a way of loving our man. Men, they just don’t think that way. Forgive him, move it past you, and rebuild a deeper commitment to eachother. Your going to survive this. I’m sorry you have to endure publicly. Learn and Grow, big picture is important and get therapy. ❤️
You are blessed- keep strong to your faith. I know it’s hard but this too will pass and you will get though this and be stronger and better. God bless you and your family always
Wow !!! That was sad, but Beautiful!!! It really touched my heart.
Thank you
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Sigh. My heart breaks for you. I have been there and I too chose to forgive. Why?….because I love him and I love us. It’s been 5 years…and I still hurt. But when I chose to forgive, it was then that I vowed to never bring it up again. It’s hard, especially when I get mad, because I want to hurt him back. But that’s not healthy… for me or for him. So I let it go. It’s the best I can do for us. I chose to forgive is what I have to remind myself. That hurt never leaves, but you learn to live with it and be just a little smarter. I’m praying for you Meghan.
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Sending comfort, Meghan. I can sense that you have what it takes to get through this, with or without him. You know what’s right and what you need, and you’re way ahead of lots of women who go through this. Keep your chin up and trust your gut. <3
I am sad too. I hope the months have given you healing and strengthened you.
Well said. You are human. Even though you are in the eye of the public. No one deserves the nonsense. I hope you are able to forgive and grow. Somedays you feel helpless but everyday you look in your children eye and there is joy. It’s stepping away and embrassing your family. How it all started and why you fell in love. Not let the outside environment disrupt the beauty in the home. Give your self a hug. Know your awesome. Good luck!
my best friends has betrayed my trust, she told my husband lies and blackmailed me to my husband, I got devastated and couldn’t imagine my very own friend wanted to break my family apart out of jealousy.
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Meghan,
I am going through something similar, but not nearly as public, as what you’ve experienced. Like you, I am choosing to lean on my faith to get through this. Being a mom keeps me busy, both to the son I already have but also to the baby in my tummy. But that doesn’t take away the feeling of pure betrayal and the stripping of all trust.
I just want to say thank you to you. For being so open and candid. While it feels like a faith-based marriage should be above this type of behavior and betrayal, I am finding out like you that we are unfortunately not exempt from this reality. I also would like to say that you’re not alone in this, and this was NOT your fault. From one shattered heart to another, hang in there sister. Praying for God’s miraculous healing of your heart and marriage, as well as mine.
Meghan, Thinking of you today after just reading some news online. You deserve better. The way Jim would talk down to you, snap at you and at times ignore you on the show just broke my heart for you. You seem like a nice person and although nobody is perfect, this man has been married now 4 times!!! He is obviously not cut out for marriage or relationships in general. God bless you and what the future has in store for you and your beautiful babies. Sending you strength during this time.
I am just now reading this after hearing about the separation, how many times has he been married? I know your sad but consider that! It’s him! I’m sorry! Good luck!!
I experienced this heart break many moons ago. While my 3 month old daughter was having a tumor removed , her father was being inappropriate with a assistant of mine. Long story short, people make mistakes. I believe if you both have God in your heart, anything is possible- divorce is not always the answer .
Love you Megan Prayers be with you
You’re heart and soul will lead you in the right direction. Take care and focus on yourself and your children!
My mom went through the same thing (affair) my dad had. We all healed from it but it will take a long time! XO WM
I understand your pain, Thank you for having the courage to speak about it, admititingly! I am a spiritual Life Coach, I am an advocate to Domestic Abuse, I’ve had to learn from my own experiences what a Narc is! Many times I think to myself, ” how can I be an advocate ? when I’m married to a Narc? Speaking about abuse helps Not sharing my personal journey w my Narcissistic husband makes me feel like I’m being deceptive! God Bless you
My heart hurts for you and your children. Although I haven’t been exactly in your situation, I have been in a place of what you are describing. I have spent so many nights sobbing all by myself with no one to talk to and sometimes it was because there wasn’t anyone to talk to, other times I felt there was anyone who I wanted to talk to because they couldn’t quite understand and other times I didn’t want to have to sit there and re-explain everything all over again just to talk to someone…….then there’s the person who listens but doesn’t REALLY listen because it’s really all about them, the person who doesn’t want to let you wallow in you short-term pity and has to tell you how grateful you should be….yadda yadda yadda.
I completely understand. I have been going through this for so long that I have finally figured out that there’s a reason for it all. You may not understand and you probably won’t want to hear this but it’s all part of God’s plan for your life. If you can find a way to reach out to Him….the One True God, who is One in the same as Jesus and The Holy Spirit then I can PROMISE you without a doubt, that getting through this and the hardships that you are facing with you baby will somehow be so much easier. It may not seem like it right now but if you can bring yourself to take a chance on the One who created you and your beautiful children then anything is possible. I know that in this World everyone loves to question and blame God for all of the terrible things that happen but the truth is that all of the bad things come from satan. All good things come from our Heavenly Father. If it weren’t for Him, I wouldn’t even be able to be sitting herevwriring you this message tonight and that is the truth. May He bless you and your children. XOXO.
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I’m so sorry to hear about this Meghan. You were on my mind and I went online just to see what you’ve been up to, maybe see how big your kiddos are getting and was shocked to see what came up when I simply put your name in.
You don’t deserve this and you didn’t cause it. Get the professional help you need for you and your children. That’s the most important thing!!
So sad…
Oh honey I’m so sorry!!! Be Strong. You got this, you really do. Again, I’m so sorry….
I know it’s not my business to tell you what to do, but I don’t want to see you settling for a love that just isn’t there. You are so beautiful, inside and out… you will find a man who will cherish that and not betray you. You will never ever forget what he has done. You will sit on the couch and look over at him and remember it all. You will think about it every night when you’re trying to fall asleep. It’s not worth it. You can move on, you don’t need him. I know you love him and it hurts, but you don’t need him. Think about a happy life and future without him, because what he has done is beyond hurtful to someone he was supposed to love and take care of forever.
The more you speak people listen but it’s not why you think.. they claim to stand behind you but it’s encouragement to keep talking.. a live shit show better than real housewives .. it’s free entertainment… you are inconsistent In what you say.. you have thrown his parents and Carley in a bad light for your own validation of being a victim and being “right”… it isn’t a public matter and you need to shut it for the children’s sake and do the right thing and hash it out in court.. in case you are wondering why I care… I am a child of parents like you two.. and what you are BOTH doing publicly will damage them for a long time.. so again shut it Jim too…
Meghan, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. No one deserves this, ever! It will get better, each and every day you will grow stronger. Know that you are loved and cherished, and your day will come when you will find your person who won’t EVER betray you or make you feel unworthy like this. You are amazing!
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This is so perfectly described, coming from somebody who has felt the pain of cheating I can relate.
I hate you had to feel this pain. Nobody deserves this. You are so strong.
Please know that most women and especially mothers are aware of what a great mother you are and that you always put your kids first. The other people who’s comments are hard to hear and I believe they should no better, are hopefully from women who are concerned for you as well and do not know that you are aware that this is an issue that you’re addressing right now.
You’re doing a great job in a very bad situation that your husband put you through.
“Never make someone a priority to you when all you are is an option to you”
Thank you for sharing!
I watch RHOC lots and I’ll have to admit you were not my fav…but after stumbling upon this site (while researching best stones for fertility) I see you in a totally diff light. I find your words real and relatable. Aside from the stardom and fancy things, you’re a mom, a wife, a woman… just like the rest of us. My heart goes out to you as you experience these current hardships. I read some of the other comments and I’m shocked at how shitty and ignorant people can be. If it were me, I’d be tempted to delete those ugly hateful words but the fact that you didn’t, is admirable. As of now, you’ve gained another supporter in me. Good luck and God bless in all you do.
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All the sorry’s in the world cant repair the damage that is done. You will be fine without him and so will your kids.
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Meghan, Jim is only saying hurtful things because you have found a better man! You are selfless with your kids. That girl was never your friend! Keep doing you and your beautiful amazing children. Jim is older and probably feeling some kind of way about his age. He obliviously needs to be with a little too young to feel manly! What number wife could she be?? 4 or 5. He is not a good husband or father, or he would not be remarried that many times. A real man works it out for his wife and family and that did not happen several times! Hope to see you on housewives1😍
Keep moving forward. Hopefully he makes your kids a priority.
Walk away and do not look back. You will find another man who will never cheat. You will never look at him the same. Do not live like that. Say bye, bye.
Dear deceived,I’m a mother of triplet boys who are fourteen ,I had them when I was thirty eight years old.My husband and I have been married going on twenty five years this September.We won’t be celebrating .He cheated on me four years ago He served me with divorce papers and kicked me out of our hone!!!!Yes he did ,So I cried and. Cried then with my savior Jesus picked me up and I lost a lot of weight and started looking great.Well guess who came crawling back???You guessed it hubby.Yes went back for the kids plus I loved him.I took my vows very serious.Well we had A ball together sex every nite.No problem there’!!Well I had a gut feeling he was still cheating this went on for four years .I
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I would like to say first off this is a terrible article. It seems that you want everyone to know that you are a wealthy and attractive woman who could have any man she wanted. Also, you would like everyone to know that your massive house and jewels were just an inevitable fact of how your life was going to be so you have no care for these particular items since now you are publicly humiliated for being so gullible. You will show everyone that you can replace all of these things at will and get a much hotter and younger partner who would be so lucky to have you. Then the coup de gras… invoking the disabled child as a challenge that someone doesn’t need when trying to maintain the appearance of happiness. It is so shallow of you to proclaim that you have to drive around and cry to hide from your family when breaking down. Why would that be necessary when you can just seclude yourself somewhere in your massive house? There are plenty of families who have children with disabilities and never suffer the torment that it brings you and you don’t even know for sure if it’s presently the condition. Are you afraid that the appearance of your perfect genetically superior blood lines are going to be soiled by a disabled child. Maybe it’s just the fact that you didn’t divorce him before he embarrassed you and tainted your public image. Let’s just say the issues your husband has are not easily determined solely on the fact of how this article was constructed. Manipulation tends to push people in the opposite direction that the manipulator intends. Make sure to bring your victim status to the forefront at the divorce proceedings and declare that it would just be too painful to keep the house, jewels, or the new car. You should go for equal joint custody and not collect any spousal or child support. This is the only way you can have a fresh start with nothing to remind you of his indiscretions. Except for your possibly disabled child that most likely was caused by his inferior genetics. If only you had a PHD in genetics you would have seen the signs before wasting your time.
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Mayor David Mayer cheated on his first wife with Michelle Gentek
The Affair went on for years.
He’s a scumbag. He punishes people by abusing power and having corrupt cops, dirty Camden County Prosecutors and a crooked judge who sits on a federal bench in NJ and recently semi retired has obstructed justice and violated civil justice.
Mayor Dave Mayer should be facing federal charges for using law enforcement to Victimize and conduct Ponzi schemes, hire no bid contractors and prohibit Verizon Fios from coming to Gloucester township. Mayor Mayer is a full time Mayor and lobbyist for Comcast and has run a monopoly for close to a decade.
Mayor has paid off media sites nj.com; supplied and stolen images for Patch Media to victimize those who Mayor Mayer was seeking to victimize harass and political gang stalking. Mayor Mayer works with Norcross. Together they hires foreign trolls outside the US to manipulate manufactured stories and further blackball
Mayor Mayer has obstructed justice and created a dictatorship
He’s massively raised property taxes. He’s a wicked man.
I have been dealing with a similar situation for 4 years. I still have not recovered from the situation. I have improved myself, I’m now in a position to own a six figure salary, yet I m still hurt and lots of time I want to leave. Yet, I don’t want to distabilize my kids homelife. I think our spouses are selfish and in the end love noone but themselves which may not even be.
Frankly I don’t mind a divorce. I rather he files for the divorce and agree to his obligations but he refused. So as much as he may have loved his long term affair partner, it’s apparently is/was not so. As of now, I’m ready to move on. I love my husband but I’m tired of the rollercoaster. Be strong, as one way or another everything will work out.
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I feel for you, I’ve been in a situation very similar to yours. So many questions unanswered, the biggest one is why? I’ve been a believer in breaking it off with one before you start the next…people who cheat are selfish, and don’t think of any one but themself. They don’t think of the consequences of their actions. I will guarantee you’ll never look at him the way you once did. The only thing different is I don’t have the big house, the new car or a single diamond. So, it’s still good to be in your shoes! Time will heal your wounds, be strong and know you are a good woman and mom!
Hello “I’m sad”. It’s 2022 and I hope your emotional wounds are/have healed. Marriage is a test. It is a journey on both rough and smooth roads. If we can walk on these roads hand in hand, remembering, believing in, and living up to the vows we took, every road will feel smooth.
The human race seems bent on destroying itself. Hurting oneanother both physically and emotionally runs rampid every where. Vows and morals mean so little.
You don’t deserve to be treated with disrespect.
If things haven’t changed, get rid of him. Take your losses and move to brighter times.
Good luck.
Get over yourself . Either forgive him because everyone makes mistakes or move on
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I am glad you wrote this. In a sick way it makes me feel comforted to know that I am not overly sensitive after all. That the pain is real, it’s real that people cheat on good people. So now that makes them liars and cheaters. And since they are so worried about themselves that makes them shitty parents too. So that’s three things about our spouses we are now questioning overnight.
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Once a lousy wretch…. ALWAYS a lousy no good, two-timing whore. Get rid of him or you’ll be sorry. I just found out the same damned thing about my wife. She is a god damned liar. I am getting rid of this bitch, as she has been nothing but a burden to me our entire marriage. She is the mother of our two children, one is definitely mine, not sure about the other. Regardless, they both loathe their mother and have no respect for her. I feel like a damn fool for this whole charade, but I also would not trade the lives or love of my two beautiful daughters. If this is what needed to happen to have my girls, then so be it.
On a side note, maybe we could get together for some “Love on the Mend” or maybe just some revenge pornos and make sure they fall into the hands of our X’s. The latter will scar these assholes for life and sicken their stomachs. Any current relationship either might have moved on to will also suffer as a result.
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Mostly what I saw on your show shoes you two do not get along. You seem like polar opposites. Hopefully this will work for you because this is so embarrassing to you and your family.
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I am So Sorry for WHAT you have gone through, and are enduring!! I know the Hurt and DEEP Pain that, those Circumstances cause! The same was Done to me as well, But over a Four year Phisicle Affair !
However Cheating is Cheating AND IT and Death are the only two reasons that Our Heavenly Father Gives FOR Ending a Marriage .
Si Remember That Please
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I’m sorry this happened to you Megan, no one deserves to be cheated on or lied to by there significant other.
Here is a saying that someone told me and I tell people it on a daily basis.
It’s easy to do the wrong thing, it’s hard to do the right thing!
Just being human is hard at this time, but it’s up to us to make it easy. Show love and respect to mankind and treat people like you want to be treated. How would your husband of handled the situation if you did what he did. I’ve never heard about this or even know who either of you are, I just saw something on the internet and sad your sad and wanted to see why. You have every right to be sad, my first wife cheated on me when I was in the service, with more than one person even had a baby with someone when we where separated because I was in the service. We never were divorced but we went our separate ways for over 30 years, but I raised our son without her through all those years. I still loved her though know matter what even though we weren’t together or even talked all those years. We were in different states for most of those years, but when I came home to where I was born and raised after 30 years I went to her Great Grandma’s house to see if I could get ahold of her. We did meet up and talked and she apologized to me for everything she did from our past. We where fresh out of highschool and having a baby and I went into the Marines to better our future and our lives got torn apart because of her actions. But after 30 years apart and after seeing her again I new I still loved her because of being in that sanctuary of marriage meant something to me. I knew I would never divorce her even after 30 years of being apart. But after we talked that night we went our separate ways and I went back to California, but I stayed in touch with her. Her own family told her to leave me alone so I could find someone new. But we where talking and I told her I would fly her out to California just so she could get away and see if our love was still there. But because of her family she stopped answering my calls and we never talked again. Then later that year my Son called me and told me his Mom passed away and I was crushed for him and her. She ended up overdosing on heroin and passed away and I was never able to talk to her again. So all I thought about was if her family didn’t get involved and she would of came to California and maybe we could of got back together maybe she would still be alive. I understand the marriage sanctuary and even though we were married but separated for 30 I thought about our Son just being able to have his parents back together and have a Mom and Dad again. Because he didn’t have a Mom like I didn’t have my Wife for 30 years. Plus his wife and him were expecting there first child that same year. So it really broke my heart worse than anything in the world for him to lose his Mother when I thought we had a chance to get back together that year. All I thought about was her and her apologies for her actions when we were just starting a family. I don’t think I ever apologized to her for leaving and going into the service leaving her to raise our son. I was trying to better our future I never cheated on her until we were separated but it wasn’t cheating then. But I got out of the service and gained custody of my son and raised him into the man he is today. But know matter who what when or where I loved his Mother and wish we could have gotten back together after 30 years apart so my son could have his mom and dad together as a couple. I never had a dad in my life and still don’t to this day, so I think that is was made me hold my love for her and never got divorced, Because not having a father growing up that when I had a family it’s for life no matter what kids need there mom and dad. That’s why after 30 years I would of taken her back my love for her was always there, she was even considering it until her family talked her into stop taking my calls. Then she passed away and it was over she was gone. So I always still think about she would be alive if we had gotten back together. So I feel your sadness but do what you want in your heart, nothing matters more to you than a Mother and her children. So do the hard thing and do what is right for you in your heart and I hope everything goes well for you in the future.Since I’m done typing I’m going to look you up and see if your still together as a family. I know what ever you did was from your heart and you did the hard thing which was right for you, because you a one of the few decent human beings that knows right from wrong. If we just lived by that saying and nothing else this earth would be paradise, and no one would do the easy thing.
Nice, I had a marriage once, lasted about 3 minutes at thailand.
Take responsibility for your own actions as well, no one ever thinks about the actions they made to create the person who is supposed to be their best friend.
I can definitely sympathize with you, my friend. My wife, who I also thought to be my #1, partner in crime, til death do us part woman. Who I put on a pedestal and treated like a queen, she cheated on me. She did it via texts, pics, videos, emails and finally came clean that she was actually sleeping around too. Ripped my heart straight out of my chest. We fortunately did not have any kids, so that part I can’t imagine how hard it is for you. And none of you (the kids) deserve that. Money can’t buy love and loyalty and trust. I just wanted you to know you’re alone in your pain and confusion. And you’re also not asking too much to find a committed trustworthy man, who wants nothing more than YOU and a life with YOU. All day, every day. I know this because I am one of those guys. I hope you find some peace and healing. And then I hope you find a man who only and always SEES you. 😊. ~Ty
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Girlfriend, YOU ARE OF THE FEMALE GENDER!….We don’t wake p with an involuntary hard on every morning. We are superior. Nothing physical controls our brain. If you love your man, and would do anything for him, then givew him a break! What makes YOU THINK YOU are 100% what that man needs? He must have figured u hopefully wewre enough. Don’t take it so hard. He probably just wanted to go out a night and experience those shiney new shoes he been looking at, but in the end, he comes home to his favorite one – YOU! P.S. BE THANKFUL YOU DO NOT HAVE A WEENIE THAT GOVERNS UR SHIT!
To you- I highly recommend – ReadDopamine Nation by psychiatrist Ann Lembke. Get help to save your marriage. Listen to Dr Laura. Your husband most likely has an addiction, could be porn- not against you. His own gripping brain. Work on yourself & help him get help. You can make this better for you. He needs to want to try. Really read this book to understand the world we are in & if you don’t have faith – get some
Good luck
BTW I’m married 62 3 kids, 28, 27, 22 all graduated high school , college & grad livin one in Boston, NYC & Texas
I moved 20x- childhood & 4x while married & we are simple, faithful, wise, educated folks runnin a biz since 2014. Husband started all over @ 55 after 35 yrs as a hydrogeologist. Yes, life is not easy. Take care of yourself & get help for your husband. Addictions go from one thing to another- it’s a brain thing.
I am so sorry for what you went through. I went through the exact same thing. Oddly enough it was also in 2019/20.
My wife had been sending nudes of herself on Instagram to someone named Harry_King_578. She gave me the same story of having never met, and that it was only for a few months online.
Course she never would have told me if it wasn’t for the fact that her account was hacked by someone. ( I mean how stupid do you have to be to do that kind of thing on a site my kids could hack into if they wanted to? ) however it wasn’t until HE himself contacted me and told me that he had been contacted by the hacker and they were trying to blackmail him, and that he actually paid them, but they wanted more that I found out about all of this. ( the hacker contacted us with same threat, but we told him to go to hell. )
He actually thought he was looking out for us/her, and couldn’t understand why I was so rude to him on the phone. Even called me childish, hostile, and rude. I’m like are you stupid? What did you think I was going to do? Invite you to have a drink at the bar with me?
I had my suspicion before Harry finally called me, but she was always quick with a terrible lie. She of course would have never told me the truth otherwise, but when she did. It was with all the emotions of as if she had simply swatted a mosquito. She even got mad at ME. Behaving as if I was to blame for her indiscretion. We separated for a time, but are now back together.
I still have problems with trusting, or believing her. I feel like he is not in Nigeria as she claims, but somewhere here in Oregon. I don’t know if you will find comfort in my letter, but it helps that someone out there can actually know exactly what it feels like inside to go through this. I only wish there was some way for you to contact me if it turns out that your Jimmy, and my Harry are in fact one, and the same. Maybe we could finally force truth, and accountability out of our spouses.
Try having people hire a girl to pretend to care about you and love you and manipulate you. Hire her to sleep with you and treat you like family and make you fall in love with her. Then shred your life to the ground and steal your stuff. Rebecca Kriewald & Erykah Catlin – go Raleigh NC and wake county police for helping women beat the hell out of men and get away with attempted murder. Pathetic world I hope to not be in soon. And thanks to the veterans Jason Schiffman & Susan Campbell for helping some girls destroy your own relative. Way to go army ranger vets.
Megan..my ex wife was dispicable . She cheated..lied….stole money…attempted to have me deemed mentally unstable all because she didn’t want to admit her truth. I am sorry for your pain..I know it and it’s heavy! God speed…
I was with the same woman for six years. I traveled nearly sixty miles to see her. I was loyal to her and I thought that we were both in love together. I even told her that i wished to marry her someday. One Saturday night we were supposed to meet for dinner and she wasn’t home. She didn’t leave me a note or call me letting me know that she was safe. Turns out she went up to this guy’s condo that she’s been making a play for all summer long. She went over there and threw herself at his feet and made a play for him. She wound up getting drunk and throwing up on his carpet and came home around 4am. I was there waiting for her sleeping in my car. She apologized to me but I knew what was going on. I just wanted to grab my things and leave. Just as I was getting ready to go she put her arms around me and told me to stay. I said I’d rather just leave. She held me tight and begged me to stay. So I gave in and stayed. We made love and everything seemed like we were starting to get back on track then after the first of the year she told me that she no longer was interested in seeing me anymore. Turns out she went back to the guy she threw herself at. She lied to me. She told me that they were just friends and would be nothing more. She lied to me and betrayed me. So it just goes to show you that cheaters do indeed exist in both sexes. I was totally loyal and loving to her and she dumped me like a pile of garbage. After that humiliation I have learned my life lesson. I will NEVER, EVER give my heart to a woman, because I know that nobody can ever be trusted. For I truly believed that this was indeed the woman of my dreams, my once-in-a-lifetime soulmate. My dreams were totally shattered. Here was a woman who I was absolutely in love with. I gave my heart to her. And she drove a stake in it. I hated her so badly for awhile, but eventually I just accepted it and let it go. After that I don’t think I’ll ever love someone again because I’ve been hurt beyond repair. My heart has been broken into a million pieces. Here was a woman who used to give me loving cards all of the time, the one who wanted me to make love to her every single night, the one who used to grab me by the hand when we used to go shopping or into a restaurant. My ideal love who at one point I thought loved me more than I loved her. Our love was passionate and deep. And then all of a sudden she abandoned me for someone else. I felt so unwanted, so utterly betrayed. After all the dedication, all the affection, all the romance. I felt suicidal for the first month and a half. Now I’m beginning to heal but my heart will never recover. It has too many scars. I’ve probably cried a million tears. She rejected me after we were together for so long. I’ll say it over again and again. I’ll never trust a woman or ever be capable of ever loving someone ever again because of the irreparable damage that she has done. She lied and told me that they would never be anything but friends. Well, guess what. She wound up moving in with him. So she straight up lied about him to me. I’ll never forgive her for what she’s done to me. She is a user. Totally dishonest and selfish. She is starting to talk to me again. But I’m choosing not to respond to her texts. Because I think she’s starting to feel guilty for the way that she’s treated me. I have heard that her and her new bf are starting to experience difficulties because they went out drinking and he got a DUI. Both have a lot in common. They like to go out and drink heavily. Sooner or later somethings got to give. I think maybe drinking helped pull them together. Now I think it’s starting to drive them apart. The whole time I was with her I was totally sober while towards the end of our relationship she started to drink heavier. Hard alcohol. I think that was definitely a major factor in the dissolution of our relationship. I can’t stand alcoholics. They’re controlling, mean, and have a tendency to fly off at the handle. She definitely became an alcoholic. Another major factor in our breakup. But the final straw came when she came up to my place and took some of my belongings without my permission. She said that I gave them to her as gifts. After that I decided no matter what happens we can never be friends no more. Sadly I had to wind up getting a restraining order against her. During our relationship she even assaulted me once but I wound up taking her back. She used to make disparaging personal remarks towards me but I always wound up taking her back and forgiving her. I really did love her and she knew full well that I did. But she stopped loving me and as a result my life has been and will continue to be irreparably damaged. My heart has been so battered and beaten. I keep continue to pull myself off the mat and keep fighting but the psychological and emotional toll that this has taken on me has been devastating. I believe I’ll never be able to ever recover from all of the sorrow and grief that I’ve experienced from this relationship. I’ll definitely never be able to experience the joys and happiness that life has to offer. I will never ever be the same or ever be happy again. I have to find a way to get myself out of this life of Hell. I would do anything to improve our life and try to follow what my heart tells me. I will never trust a woman again. I’ve learned a hard lesson. – sincerely, Tom Bigford
I was betrayed and lied to by someone who I thought I could trust and got cheated on. So much for love and trust. It just doesn’t exist between a man and a woman. Too much infidelity, too many phonies out there. Love is like walking through a mine field, if you don’t watch your step you could get hurt really bad. Take it from me, it is extremely painful.
I am a 73 year old grandpa. I’ve been married to the same woman for 50 plus years. Elder abused, she wants a divorce . She was diagnosed with schizophrenia . I stayed married for the kids sake, DONT stay in a marriage is it’s not working! Don’t be like me 50 wasted years!!
Move on and give me a try at your heart ❤️
I’m really sorry. People suck. The girl I thought was my life partner and best friend thoughti was a joke I guess. Think I was the only person she wouldnt have sex with
It took me many years to marry my second husband. I had a series of disappointments beforehand. I held on to this marriage for twelve years while feeling financial strain. I was carrying the load but I didn’t want to admit failure to my family, so I hung in there. He did the unthinkable. Not only did he betray me financially in a big way, but he also cheated on me. I finally asked him to leave. My daughter believes he would have ruined me. All I wanted was a loving husband who would help with the load and be someone I could trust. He was neither. I have been on my own now for 16 years since our separation and finally the divorce. I do not think I could have gone through another marriage and therefore purposely kept to myself. If I could only retrace my steps! Instead, I booked myself for counselling during a grieving period of losing close friends. This gave me the opportunity to “dump” all of my past endeavours and events. I don’t feel burdened by the reruns in my head! I am moving forward.