Sexual healing
Sex advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a US-based psychotherapist specialising in sexual disorders. Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer, which will be published online and in print. She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence
I have never been able to climax during sex. Is my masturbation style to blame?
Sex with my first partner has been great for both of us, but I would like to learn how to become a more satisfied and satisfying lover
I’ve met a man and want to start a family – but I’m scared of penetration
I’m 26 and in love. How do I get over this fear?
My wife said her ex was a better lover than me – and we haven’t had sex since
That was almost 20 years ago and we now have separate bedrooms. Is there any way back?
I have panic attacks during sex – and it is torturing my husband
Anxiety and depression have severely affected my libido, and I am facing the prospect of a sexless marriage
My wife only wants sex after drinking – and I feel rejected and frustrated
Our sex life has waned since having a child, but now when my wife initiates intercourse it is always after alcohol. Should I give up trying?
I’m scared to tell my new partner about what happens when I orgasm
My disability is affecting my sex life and I haven’t slept with anyone in 11 years. Now I’ve met someone I like, but I don’t know how to talk to him about it
I am married – but I am having sex dreams about a colleague
I’ve recently become friends with someone at work and have developed feelings for him. I don’t want to make a mistake that will ruin my relationship
Since having our third child my wife seems too busy for sex
I am a very sexual man, but my wife has so much to juggle that we aren’t as intimate as we once were. How can I reignite the spark?
My wife told me all about her sexual past – and I am having mini panic attacks
She is far more matter-of-fact and open about sex than I am. I know this is my problem, not hers, but I am now troubled by intrusive thoughts
My girlfriend wants sex on demand – even when I’m not in the mood
I love her, but often feel pressured into having sex the minute I walk in the door
I’m a virgin and too scared to have sex. How can I get over my fear?
At 19 I would like to experience sex. But the reality makes me extremely anxious – and what if it is all a partner wants from me?
I get aroused by thoughts of my wife’s past liaison – and would like us to use it for role play
It is only recently that she has opened up about her relationship with a colleague. How can I suggest we take this further as an erotic fantasy?
My partner has lost her sex drive. Should I have a fling with another man?
I love my partner deeply but I miss sexual intimacy. Should I explore my bisexuality, or accept that my sex life is over?
I feel guilty for wanting a more kinky sex life than my partner can offer
We haven’t had sex for three years, during which time an affair reignited my love of kink. Now my partner wants to reconnect but I find myself recoiling from her
I can’t climax quietly – and I’m worried my teenage kids will hear me
I have an active and enjoyable sex life with my husband, but I can’t reach orgasm without a great deal of drama. Should I try to be more restrained?
I’m really happy with my boyfriend – so why don’t I want to have sex with him?
I used to have exciting sexual liaisons with men who treated me badly. Now I’ve found my soulmate, I don’t understand why he doesn’t turn me on
My boyfriend is less experienced than me. How can I get him to relax and enjoy sex?
He has admitted to feeling anxious and wanting everything to be perfect. I know he will become more comfortable, in time, but is there anything I can do to help?
My wife is so stressed by work she doesn’t want to have sex. What can I do?
I do my best to relax her but now we only have sex when she initiates it
I love pleasuring my partner. But why do I never get anything in return?
It seems unfair to ask for something they may secretly dislike, but I feel as though my enjoyment is secondary
I climax after 30 seconds of sex. What should I do?
I have a problem with premature ejaculation, and numbing spray only spoils the mood
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