Sexual healing
Sex advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a US-based psychotherapist specialising in sexual disorders. Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer, which will be published online and in print. She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence
I’m struggling to enjoy foreplay – but I want more from sex than just penetration
As a young woman, I had a powerful libido. A lot of inhibitions have surfaced since the menopause
My partner wants me to ejaculate – and I’m not sure it’s possible
I haven’t even experienced this when orgasming alone and wonder if this is normal for a woman. Does sex need to be more intense?
I want love and intimacy – but I am struggling with my sexual identity
I came out as gay and set out to explore my sexuality without worrying what other people think. Even with this freedom though, I feel lost
I used to be a top, but it no longer works for me. How do I tell my partner I’ve become a side?
Our old way of having sex doesn’t make me happy and I’m unable to perform. It’s causing a lot of frustration
My husband and I haven’t had sex for months. I feel undesirable and ugly
Everything ground to a halt when I injured myself. And although the physical pain has eased, I’m still hurting
I lose interest in sex at the moment of penetration – and it’s puzzling my husband
When we have sex I get aroused at first, but my mood can change abruptly. I worry about how my lack of desire will affect our relationship
My wife and I used to love sex – but now I’m out of shape and she has painful knees
We’re both losing interest in sex as it’s not as satisfying as it used to be. How do we make it fun again?
I married a top – but now he wants to be a bottom
The man I fell in love with was dominant, but now he is obsessive and jealous. What can I do?
My wife rarely instigates sex – and always wants to schedule it. Why can’t she be more spontaneous?
She says I think about sex all the time – but her libido has fallen since our third child and I feel shame at being rejected
My partner hates my pubic hair but I refuse to shave. What now?
He’s ashamed and embarrassed at his reaction – but he seems unable to get past it. And I am not going to change
The stress of cheating on my wife is making me ill – but I can no longer suppress who I am
I love her and my children, but have fallen for another man. What can I do? I’m now suffering from gastrointestinal problems and using alcohol to get to sleep
I used to love sex. But my boyfriend’s premature ejaculation is turning me off it – and him
We’ve been together for five years, but I’m losing interest. And he won’t talk about it
My fiance fears intimacy – and we’ve only had sex twice
We live together and he says he is attracted to me, but his background has led him to be extremely repressed
My husband has suggested we both go on Tinder for fun – but will this open a can of worms?
I’ve never dated online before and am open to the idea. But I’m worried that what starts with light flirting could lead to big problems
Motherhood has changed my wife’s body – and I’m no longer attracted to her
I love her very much, and think she is beautiful, but I sometimes struggle to get an erection when we’re making love. What can I do? I worry for our marriage
I’m not attracted to my girlfriend – but I want to spend the rest of my life with her
I love her and don’t want to lose her, but she desires sex more than I do and I find myself criticising her eating and exercise habits. What should I do?
My wife refuses to end her affair because she enjoys the sex too much. What should I do?
She says everything in our relationship is perfect – except that she’s no longer attracted to me
I love my boyfriend but I’m losing interest in sex. He’s too vanilla!
I don’t want to leave him. Must I suppress my own desire?
My partner and I still have sex. But is she only doing it out of kindness?
Things were great at the start. Less than two years on, she seems to be losing interest
I’m 70 and have never been able to bring myself to orgasm
I am able to climax during intercourse – but touching myself does not bring satisfaction, which perplexes me
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