Internet is divided over 'draconian' wedding rules 'enforced' by the bride and groom: 'This is a major red flag'
TikTok users were shocked by the controversial wedding rules enforced by a bride and groom at their ceremony.
Event planner Ivy Miller revealed that a bride and groom requested their guests to follow various rules if they wanted to attend their wedding - no ifs, ands or buts.
The bride and groom were married in a lavish ceremony early this year, which Miller claimed was only $15,000.
Miller's post has received more than 3.5 million views and counting, and several commenters dissed the couple over their 'draconian' rules every since.
Whether by personal preference or to save money, these wedding rules caused an uproar, and hardly any TikTokers have had anything nice to say.
An event planner shocked TikTok users after she described a couple's 'draconian' wedding and reception rules. (Pictured: A stock photo of newlyweds leaving their wedding ceremony)
The event planner's post has received over 3.5 million views and counting, and several commenters dissed the couple over their 'draconian' rules every since. (Pictured: A stock photo of a wedding planner)
No song requests
DJ Ben Boylan revealed in a blog post that a reason why couples do not want their wedding attendees to request songs is because they have a 'particular vision' of their party. Pictured: A stock photo of newlyweds
Miller revealed the happy couple's wedding DJ did not take any song requests from the ceremony's attendees.
Although DJs frequently accept song requests, couples occasionally oppose the practice, partly because they have a 'particular vision' for their reception, according to DJ Ben Boylan.
'It’s very important to them that certain songs are played, and probably even more important that certain songs are not played,' Boylan wrote on his blog.
'Practically every couple I work with gives me a do-not-play list, and I have received every genre you could think of on this list. Every couple is different.'
Boylan added that couples should do what they feel comfortable with regarding music, and according to Miller, the bride and groom suggested their guests 'go to the club' if they want to make song requests.
Don't ask a wedding photographer to take your picture
The bride and groom created a shared wedding album through the Dots Memory app. With this app, guests were able to take pictures on their phone, and share them with all guests. Pictured: Stock photo
The couple insisted their guests not ask the wedding photographer to snap photos of them during the ceremony or reception.
Wedding photographers usually cost around $1,000 and $5,000, but some may even charge more than $10,000 depending on circumstances.
Whether the event is big or small, no couple should expect there to be photos of every wedding attendee, according to photographer Zoe Larkin.
'One request I’ve heard is, "I want to get a photo of every guest at my wedding,"' Zoe wrote.
'While I completely understand the sentiment behind it, this task is often more challenging than it appears.'
One TikTok user wrote: 'The photographer rule is kinda sad. I mean you invite people you love to your big day, don’t you want them to be seen.'
Instead of photography requests, Miller revealed the couple decided to create a shared wedding album through the Dots Memories app.
No plus-ones
Experts consider it to be proper etiquette for couples to offer plus ones to guests who are engaged, married, or in a relationship for over a year
One of the top rules that TikTokers dissed the married couple for was not permitting their guests to bring dates.
It is common for a potential wedding guest to ask the bride and groom's permission to bring a date, or even accompanying them to the event without letting the couple know beforehand.
Miller revealed that the couple 'did not want strangers' at their wedding, but this rule could've also been enforced to save money.
For weddings, venues and vendors take the number of ceremony and reception attendees into account when calculating a total cost for the festivities.
However, experts consider it to be proper etiquette for couples to offer plus-ones to guests who are engaged, married or in a relationship for more than a year.
No alcohol
TikTok users couldn't stop commenting on the controversial no alcohol rule the couple enforced at their wedding. Pictured: Stock photo
One of the other top rules that TikTokers couldn't stop commenting about was the couple's decision not to allow alcohol at their wedding.
'I want my guests to actually remember this day,' Miller wrote in her TikTok slideshow.
Because this rule was in place, the couple threw what attendees call a dry wedding - a wedding that doesn't serve alcohol at the reception or the entire day.
Dry weddings can help attendees, the bride, or the groom avoid messy situations and guarantee that guests safely return home.
However, it could affect the energy in a room, especially if guests expected it not to be an alcohol-free wedding.
'I went to an alcohol free wedding once. It was the most boring wedding I've ever been to,' wrote a TikTok user.
Everyone went home at 8:00, and most of the evening, guests didn't turn up.'
TikTokers dissed the couple for their controversial rules, and several commenters insisted they would never go to their wedding
Thousands of TikTok users who commented on Miller's video got into heated debates with one another, and some of them claimed to be wedding photographers.
A few commenters did support the couple's rules and agreed with them, while others insisted they would've never gone to that couple's wedding.
