Controlling Quotes

“Just because something isn't a lie does not mean that it isn't deceptive. A liar knows that he is a liar, but one who speaks mere portions of truth in order to deceive is a craftsman of destruction.”
― Criss Jami

“And I told him, I said: "One day you're going to miss the subway because it's not going to come. One of these days, it's going to break down and it's not going to come around and everyone else will just wait for the next one or will take the bus, or walk, or run to the next station: they will go on with their lives. And you're not going to be able to go on with your life! You'll be standing there, in the subway station, staring at the tube. Why? Because you think that everything has to happen perfectly and on time and when you think it's going to happen! Well guess what! That's not how things happen! And you'll be the only one who's not going to be able to go on with life, just because your subway broke down. So you know what, you've got to let go, you've got to know that things don't happen the way you think they're going to happen, but that's okay, because there's always the bus, there's always the next station...you can always take a cab.”
― C. JoyBell C.

“If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child. You are the only one who creates your reality. For no one else can think for you, no one else can do it. It is only you, every bit of it you.”
― Esther Hicks

“Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it.”
― Kahlil Gibran

“Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“True love is built on free will and free choice, not control and manipulation.”
― Ken Poirot

“This is particularly true of those who "love too much" and those who tend to lose themselves in their relationships. Sometimes our love becomes distorted by our feelings of insecurity and our fear of abandonment. This is the often the case with those who become overly controlling and overly smothering of their partner. Others become emotionally abusive because of their fear of intimacy.”
― Beverly Engel, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

“The more material we lose, the less we have. The less we have, the more we win.”
― Anthony Liccione

“A label locks me into a definition that people use to control me. A vision graces me with an idea that serves to release me.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Being a control freak is a weakness, not a strength. If you can't allow others to shine, you're exhibiting signs of narcissism and showing a lack of self-confidence. It is isolation through ego.”
― Stewart Stafford

“Controlling my environment was still a compelling need for me. I did everything I could to not be surprised by anything...

Looking back, I think that my need to predict how my day was going to unfold was a direct response to the amount of chaos in my childhood.”
― Olga Trujillo, The Sum of My Parts: A Survivor's Story of Dissociative Identity Disorder

“It’s perplexing how family members claim their undying love for us. They can say whatever they choose, but their actions and behaviors don’t match their words. There is an imbalance in the relationships with distinct discrepancies, especially in who overpowers the scapegoat.”
― Dana Arcuri, Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, Soul Rescue: How to Break Free From Narcissistic Abuse & Heal Trauma

“If a ball doesn't move the way they expect, physicists would be disappointed with their theory of gravitation, not with the ball.

When people don't behave the way we expect, we should be disappointed with our theories about people, not people. Human beings are not dead things. Let's stop trying to conform each other to our theories about each other.”
― Shunya

“Self-sacrifice can sometimes be a well-honed weapon that the fanatic wields for destructive emotional purposes. Moreover, those who are eager to sacrifice themselves will not find it difficult to sacrifice others.”
― Amos Oz, שלום לקנאים

“Attempting to constantly control everyone and everything around you is not only exhausting...it is also futile. The only real power you can achieve in this life is being in control of yourself.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

“Henry Ford introduced the assembly line, which was efficient but also a highly controlling device. There was a problem with the assembly line. It’s so onerous that people dropped out. They couldn’t stand it. They had to hire almost a thousand workers to see if they could get one hundred to stay on.”
― Noam Chomsky, Consequences of Capitalism: Manufacturing Discontent and Resistance

“As you grow spiritually, you will realize that your attempts to protect yourself from your problems actually create more problems. If you attempt to arrange people, places, and things so they don’t disturb you, it will begin to feel like life is against you. You’ll feel that life is a struggle and that every day is heavy because you have to control and fight with every-thing.”
― Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

“Where there is control there is no life. Control repulses all love and light.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Amantes Assemble: 100 Sonnets of Servant Sultans

“Jacks slid an arm underneath her cape and wrapped it around Evangeline's waist, holding her possessively tight as he drawled, 'Stop flashing your fangs. I'm the only one who gets to bite her.'

Jacks nipped at Evangeline's ear, cold and sharp. She felt the sting of it everywhere, covering her with gooseflesh, which somehow turned to blush when it reached her cheeks.

No matter how many times I bite you, you'll never turn in to what I am, he'd said. And now he was doing it, just to prove that he could.

Evangeline started to pull away.

Don't. Jacks spread his fingers and tightened his grip on her waist. Humans don't have power here. If he thinks I can't control you, he'll do it, and I guarantee you'll enjoy that even less.

You still didn't have to bite me, Evangeline thought. And she would have shaken him off, but she wasn't there to fight with Jacks. She was there because Apollo was dead and she needed to find out who'd killed him.

So instead of battling Jacks, she gritted her teeth as he released her waist and took hold of her hand.”
― Stephanie Garber, Once Upon a Broken Heart

“I care,' Tamlin snarled. Lucien whooshed out a breath. 'I care if you die, if you're hurt, if you will be in danger every moment for the rest of our lives.”
― Sarah J. Maas, A Court of Mist and Fury

“Amanda handed me a full shot glass.
“Amanda, Cassie’s had a lot to drink already tonight, don’t you think?” Xuan was like a protective lion, slightly reminding me of my favorite vampire character.
“Don’t worry, Cassie’s fine!”
“No, she isn’t.”
“Just one more,” pushed Amanda.
Xuan took the shot meant for me and tipped it back before
picking up his own and finishing it. “Amanda, that’s it. No more. Cassie already looks like she’s going to be sick.”
Was he upset... on my behalf?”
― Kayla Cunningham, Fated to Love You

“Moving from teaching university students to living with mentally handicapped people was, for me at least, a step toward the platform where the father embraces his kneeling son. Step from bystander to participant, from judge to repentant sinner, from teacher about love to being loved as the beloved. It is also the place where I have to let go of all I most want to hold on to. It is the place that confronts me with the fact that truly accepting love, forgiveness, and healing is often much harder than giving it. It is the place beyond earning, deserving, and rewarding. It is the place of surrender and complete trust. Each little step toward the center seemed like an impossible demand, a demand requiring me to let go one more time from wanting to be in control, to give up one more time the desire to predict life, to die one more time to the fear of not knowing where it all will lead, and to surrender one more time to a love that knows no limits. And still, I knew that I would never be able to live the great commandment to love without allowing myself to be loved without conditions or prerequisites.”
― Henri J.M. Nouwen, The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming

“Thoughtfully Fit is all about focusing on how you can be different—not anyone else. This isn’t about changing your boss or your spouse or your neighbor. Only they can do that. All you can do is change yourself.”
― Darcy Luoma, Thoughtfully Fit: Your Training Plan for Life and Business Success

“Grow old gracefully. Drop your desires when you lose ability to fulfill them. Otherwise you will try to fulfill them through others; You will become controlling, compulsive, manipulative, noisy and downright disgraceful.”
― Shunya

“It comforts us to think that we have control when we don’t.”
― Harlan Coben, Win

“Controlling our thoughts is one of the most difficult things we can do because the mind, left to its own devices, has that crazy way of randomly jumping from one thought to the next.”
― Dee Waldeck

“We do not control ourselves, especially when
we still carry the human body. Very little is in our control...”
― Uzihben

“An abductor relies on you being submissive, your life relies on you controlling the dangerous situation.”
― Steven Magee

“Gaming is my jam. It’s my total escape. It’s where I really get to be me: to be in control, to be a fighter, to break glass ceilings, to be a powerhouse.”
― H.C. Roberts, Harp and the Lyre: Exposed

“I am not a thing to be controlled by you,' Nesta said icily. Everything in her life, from the moment she was born, had been controlled by other people. Things happened to her; anytime she tried to exert control, she'd been thwarted at every turn- and she hated that even more than the King of Hybern.

'That's why you're going to train at Windhaven. You will learn to control yourself.'

'I won't go.'

'You're going, even if you have to be tied up and hauled there. You will follow Cassian's lessons, and you will do whatever work Clotho requires in the library.”
― Sarah J. Maas, A ​Court of Silver Flames