The Defining Decade Quotes
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“Forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital. … Do something that adds value to who you are. Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Twentysomethings who don't feel anxious and incompetent at work are usually overconfident or underemployed.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“It’s the people we hardly know, and not our closest friends, who will improve our lives most dramatically”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Our 20s are the defining decade of adulthood. 80% of life's most defining moments take place by about age 35. 2/3 of lifetime wage growth happens during the first ten years of a career. More than half of Americans are married or are dating or living with their future partner by age 30. Personality can change more during our 20s than at any other decade in life. Female fertility peaks at 28. The brain caps off its last major growth spurt. When it comes to adult development, 30 is not the new 20. Even if you do nothing, not making choices is a choice all the same. Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.”
― The Defining Decade Why Your 20s Matter
― The Defining Decade Why Your 20s Matter
“For the most part, "naturals" are myths. People who are especially good at something may have some innate inclination, or some particular talent, but they have also spent about ten thousand hours practicing or doing that thing.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“The future isn’t written in the stars. There are no guarantees. So claim your adulthood. Be intentional. Get to work. Pick your family. Do the math. Make your own certainty. Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do. You are deciding your life right now.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now
“To achieve great things, two things are needed: a plan, and not quite enough time. —Leonard Bernstein, composer”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Being confused about choices is nothing more than hoping that maybe there is a way to get through life without taking charge.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“While most would agree with Socrates that, "the unexamined life is not worth living," a lesser-known quote by Sheldon Kopp might be more important here: "The unlived life is not worth examining.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Traveling in a third-world country is the closest thing there is to being married and raising kids. You have glorious hikes and perfect days on the beach. You go on adventures you would never try, or enjoy, alone. But you also can't get away from each other. Everything is unfamiliar. Money is tight or you get robbed. Someone gets sick or sunburned. You get bored. It is harder than you expected, but you are glad you didn't just sit home.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Forward thinking doesn't just come with age. It comes with practice and experience. That's why some twenty-two-year-olds are incredibly self-possessed, future-oriented people who already know how to face the unknown, while some thirty-four-year-olds still have brains that run the other way.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“I wasn't scared of losing my past. i was scared of losing my future.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Doing something later is not automatically the same as doing something better”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“The one thing I have learned is that you can’t think your way through life. The only way to figure out what to do is to do—something.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Knowing what to overlook is one way older adults are typically wiser than young adults. With age comes what is known as "positivity effect". We become more interested in positive information, and our brains react less strongly to what negative information we do encounter.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Confidence doesn't come from the inside out. It moves from the outside in. People feel less anxious--and more confident--on the inside when they can point to things they have done well on the outside. Fake confidence comes from stuffing our self-doubt. Empty confidence comes from parental platitudes on our lunch hour. Real confidence comes from mastery experiences, which are actual, lived moments of success, especially when things seem difficult. Whether we are talking about love or work, the confidence that overrides insecurity comes from experience. There is no other way.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Our twenties can be like living beyond time. When we graduate from school, we leave behind the only lives we have ever known, ones that have been neatly packaged in semester-sized chunks with goals nestled within. Suddenly, life opens up and the syllabi are gone. There are days and weeks and months and years, but no clear way to know when or why any one thing should happen. It can be a disorienting, cave-like existence. As one twentysomething astutely put it, "The twentysomething years are a whole new way of thinking about time. There's this big chunk of time and a whole bunch of stuff that needs to happen somehow.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Goals have been called the building blocks of adult personality, and it is worth considering that who you will be in your thirties and beyond is being built out of goals you are setting for yourself today.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“[Society] is structured to distract people from the decisions that have a huge impact on happiness in order to focus attention on the decisions that have a marginal impact on happiness.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Inaction breeds fear and doubt. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. —Dale Carnegie, writer and lecturer”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Feeling better doesn’t come from avoiding adulthood, it comes from investing in adulthood.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“The more you use your brain, the more brain you will have to use. "
—George A. Dorsey, anthropologist”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
—George A. Dorsey, anthropologist”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“The confidence that overrides insecurity comes from experience. There is no other way.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“As we age, we feel less like leaves and more like trees. We have roots that ground us and sturdy trunks that may sway, but don't break, in the wind.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“The Ben Franklin Effect: If weak ties do favors for us, they start to like us. Then they become even more likely to grant us additional favors in the future. Franklin decided that if he wanted to get someone in his side, he ought to ask for a favor. And he did.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“The lottery question might get you thinking about what you would do if talent and money didn't matter. But they do. The question twentysomethings need to ask themselves is what they would do with their lives if they didn't win the lottery.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“I feel like I’m in the middle of the ocean. Like I could swim in any direction but I can’t see land on any side so I don’t know which way to go.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“Ian pretended that not knowing what to do was the hard part when, somewhere inside, I think he knew that making a choice about something is when the real uncertainty begins. The more terrifying uncertainty is wanting something and not knowing how to get it. It is working toward something even though there is no sure thing. When we make choices, we open ourselves up to hard work and failure and heartbreak, so sometimes it feels easier not to know, not to choose, and not to do.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“There is a certain terror that goes along with saying “My life is up to me.” It is scary to realize there’s no magic, you can’t just wait around, no one can really rescue you, and you have to do something.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
“In one way or another, almost every twentysomething client I have wonders, 'Will things work out for me?' The uncertainty behind that question is what makes twentysomething life so difficult, but it is also what makes twentysomething action so possible and so necessary. It's unsettling to not know the future and, in a way, even more daunting to consider that what we are doing with our twentysomething lives might be determining it.”
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now
― The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now