Sexual healing
Sex advice from Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a US-based psychotherapist specialising in sexual disorders. Each week, Pamela chooses one problem to answer, which will be published online and in print. She regrets that she cannot enter into personal correspondence
My wife refuses to end her affair because she enjoys the sex too much. What should I do?
She says everything in our relationship is perfect – except that she’s no longer attracted to me
I love my boyfriend but I’m losing interest in sex. He’s too vanilla!
I don’t want to leave him. Must I suppress my own desire?
My partner and I still have sex. But is she only doing it out of kindness?
Things were great at the start. Less than two years on, she seems to be losing interest
I’m 70 and have never been able to bring myself to orgasm
I am able to climax during intercourse – but touching myself does not bring satisfaction, which perplexes me
My girlfriend has a favourite sexual position – which I don’t enjoy. How can I tell her?
I want face-to-face intimacy and full body contact, but her love of ‘reverse cowgirl’ is getting in the way
My girlfriend caught me taking Viagra – and now she’s suspicious of me
She thinks I’m not attracted to her and is less engaged in sex. How can I reassure her?
I would like to stop wearing condoms. How can I raise this with my lover?
I am more than happy to get tested for STDs – but I don’t want my partner to feel pressured in any way
My libido has shot through the roof since I stopped breastfeeding
I can’t stop thinking about sex, and fantasies about women and men other than my husband are distracting me from parenting. Is this normal?
My partner’s lazy son is ruining our sex life
We used to have an amazing time in bed. Then my 18-year-old stepson started hanging around the house …
Since I admitted to a foot fetish, my wife will no longer let me near her feet
It felt like a way to connect but now she has withdrawn from me. I feel as if sex is always on her terms
I love my boyfriend, but I fantasise about being with a woman
I don’t want to ruin this relationship, but I’m bisexual and our libidos don’t match
I crave penetrative sex – but my husband suffers from premature ejaculation
I’ve always accepted that’s just how he is wired but it bothers me that I’ve gone without something so fundamental to my sexuality
My orgasms are barely perceptible – and I am losing my libido
I still feel excitement during sex but the climax is very disappointing. What is wrong with me?
I love casual fun – but seize up sexually in a serious relationship
Now that I want to start something deeper with a new partner, I feel that telling him what I really want will spoil everything
I had a baby 14 weeks ago – and I’ve never felt less sexy
My husband and I used to be well-matched in our sex drive, but after the birth of my second child my body does not feel like my own
I don’t like the way my partner smells
It’s not that he smells bad – I just have a negative physical response to it. Could this have a deeper meaning?
How can I tell a new partner that I urinate when I ejaculate?
I would like a sexual relationship. But it feels awkward to discuss my leakage before we get physical
I am highly sexual – but my husband never comes on to me
The fun has gone out of our relationship and he gets very defensive when I try to talk to him about it
Will my genital herpes mean I never have sex again?
I tell men about my condition and they never stick around. I don’t know what to do
My wife says we can only have sex at weekends – and it must be spontaneous
I love her and find her even more attractive than when we met. But I can’t live with these rules
About 846 results for Sexual healing 
