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“Isabelle snorted. 'All the boys are gay. In this truck, anyway. Well, not you, Simon.'
'You noticed' said Simon.
'I think of myself as a freewheeling bisexual,' added Magnus.
'Please never say those words in front of my parents,' said Alec. 'Especially my father.'
'I thought your parents were okay with you, you know, coming out,' Simon said, leaning around Isabelle to look at Alec, who was — as he often was — scowling, and pushing his floppy dark hair out of his eyes. Aside from the occasional exchange, Simon had never talked to Alec much. He wasn’t an easy person to get to know. But, Simon admitted to himself, his own recent estrangement from his mother made him more curious about Alec’s answer than he would have been otherwise.
'My mother seems to have accepted it,' Alec said. 'But my father — no, not really. Once he asked me what I thought had turned me gay.'
Simon felt Isabelle tense next to him. 'Turned you gay?' She sounded incredulous. 'Alec, you didn’t tell me that.'
'I hope you told him you were bitten by a gay spider,' said Simon.
Magnus snorted; Isabelle looked confused. 'I’ve read Magnus’s stash of comics,' said Alec, 'so I actually know what you’re talking about' A small smile played around his mouth. 'So would that give me the proportional gayness of a spider?'
'Only if it was a really gay spider,' said Magnus, and he yelled as Alec punched him in the arm. 'Ow, okay, never mind.”
― City of Lost Souls
'You noticed' said Simon.
'I think of myself as a freewheeling bisexual,' added Magnus.
'Please never say those words in front of my parents,' said Alec. 'Especially my father.'
'I thought your parents were okay with you, you know, coming out,' Simon said, leaning around Isabelle to look at Alec, who was — as he often was — scowling, and pushing his floppy dark hair out of his eyes. Aside from the occasional exchange, Simon had never talked to Alec much. He wasn’t an easy person to get to know. But, Simon admitted to himself, his own recent estrangement from his mother made him more curious about Alec’s answer than he would have been otherwise.
'My mother seems to have accepted it,' Alec said. 'But my father — no, not really. Once he asked me what I thought had turned me gay.'
Simon felt Isabelle tense next to him. 'Turned you gay?' She sounded incredulous. 'Alec, you didn’t tell me that.'
'I hope you told him you were bitten by a gay spider,' said Simon.
Magnus snorted; Isabelle looked confused. 'I’ve read Magnus’s stash of comics,' said Alec, 'so I actually know what you’re talking about' A small smile played around his mouth. 'So would that give me the proportional gayness of a spider?'
'Only if it was a really gay spider,' said Magnus, and he yelled as Alec punched him in the arm. 'Ow, okay, never mind.”
― City of Lost Souls
![Cassandra Clare](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1689347318i/150038._UX200_CR0,33,200,200_.jpg)
“Clary- "How to Come Out to Your Parents," she read out loud. "LUKE. Don't be ridiculous. Simon's not gay, he's a vampire.”
― City of Ashes
― City of Ashes
![André Aciman](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1262677849i/2922229._UY200_CR69,0,200,200_.jpg)
“Most of us can't help but live as though we've got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But there's only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now there's sorrow. I don't envy the pain. But I envy you the pain. (p. 225)”
― Call Me by Your Name
― Call Me by Your Name
![Becky Albertalli](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1392414949i/7579036._UX200_CR0,50,200,200_.jpg)
“But I'm tired of coming out. All I ever do is come out. I try not to change, but I keep changing, in all these tiny ways. I get a girlfriend. I have a beer. And every freaking time, I have to reintroduce myself to the universe all over again.”
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
![Becky Albertalli](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1392414949i/7579036._UX200_CR0,50,200,200_.jpg)
“It is definitely annoying that straight (and white, for that matter) is the default, and that the only people who have to think about their identity are the ones who don't fit that mold. Straight people really should have to come out, and the more awkward it is, the better. Awkwardness should be a requirement.”
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
![Alice Oseman](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1603122242i/7789423._UX200_CR0,33,200,200_.jpg)
“There's this idea that if you're not straight, you HAVE to tell all your family and friends immediately, like you owe it to them. But you don't. You don't have to do anything until you're ready.”
― Heartstopper: Volume Three
― Heartstopper: Volume Three
![Connor Franta](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1449624291i/8434126._UX200_CR0,24,200,200_.jpg)
“It’s okay. It may not seem like it right now, but you are going to be fine. I know it’s scary, but don’t be afraid. You are who you are, and you should love that person, and I don’t want anyone to have to go through 22 years of their life afraid to accept that.”
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![Cassandra Clare](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1689347318i/150038._UX200_CR0,33,200,200_.jpg)
“What's that you're holding?" he asked, noticing the pamphlet, still rolled up in her left hand.
"Oh, this?" She held it up. "How to Come Out to Your Parents."
He widened his eyes. "Something you want to tell me?"
"It's not for me. It's for you." She handed it to him.
"I don't have to come out to my mother," said Simon. "She already thinks I'm gay because I'm not interested in sports and I haven't had a serious girlfriend yet. Not that she knows of, anyway."
"But you have to come out as a vampire," Clary pointed out. "Luke thought you could, you know, use one of the suggested speeches in the pamphlet, except use the word 'undead' instead of--"
"I get it, I get it." Simon spread the pamplet open. "Here, I'll practice on you." He cleared his throat. "Mom. I have something to tell you. I'm undead. Now, I know you may have some preconceived notions about the undead. I know you may not be comfortable with the idea of me being undead. But I'm here to tell you that the undead are just like you and me." Simon paused. "Well, okay. Possibly more like me than you."
"SIMON."
"All right, all right." He went on. "The first thing you need to understand is that I'm the same person I always was. Being undead isn't the most important thing about me. It's just part of who I am. The second thing you should know is that it isn't a choice. I was born this way." Simon squinted at her over the pamphlet. "Sorry, reborn this way.”
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"Oh, this?" She held it up. "How to Come Out to Your Parents."
He widened his eyes. "Something you want to tell me?"
"It's not for me. It's for you." She handed it to him.
"I don't have to come out to my mother," said Simon. "She already thinks I'm gay because I'm not interested in sports and I haven't had a serious girlfriend yet. Not that she knows of, anyway."
"But you have to come out as a vampire," Clary pointed out. "Luke thought you could, you know, use one of the suggested speeches in the pamphlet, except use the word 'undead' instead of--"
"I get it, I get it." Simon spread the pamplet open. "Here, I'll practice on you." He cleared his throat. "Mom. I have something to tell you. I'm undead. Now, I know you may have some preconceived notions about the undead. I know you may not be comfortable with the idea of me being undead. But I'm here to tell you that the undead are just like you and me." Simon paused. "Well, okay. Possibly more like me than you."
"SIMON."
"All right, all right." He went on. "The first thing you need to understand is that I'm the same person I always was. Being undead isn't the most important thing about me. It's just part of who I am. The second thing you should know is that it isn't a choice. I was born this way." Simon squinted at her over the pamphlet. "Sorry, reborn this way.”
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![André Aciman](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1262677849i/2922229._UY200_CR69,0,200,200_.jpg)
“If there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don't snuff it out, don't be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others forget us sooner than we'd want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything - what a waste! (p. 225)”
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![Becky Albertalli](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1392414949i/7579036._UX200_CR0,50,200,200_.jpg)
“Did you just tell us you're gay?" asks Nick.
"Yes."
"Okay," he says. Abby swats him. "What?"
"That's all you're going to say? Okay?"
"He said not to make a big deal out of it," Nick says. "What am I supposed to say?"
"Say something supportive. I don't know. Or awkwardly hold his hand like I did. Anything."
Nick and I look at each other.
"I'm not holding your hand," I tell him, smiling a little.
"All right" --he nods-- "but know that I would.”
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
"Yes."
"Okay," he says. Abby swats him. "What?"
"That's all you're going to say? Okay?"
"He said not to make a big deal out of it," Nick says. "What am I supposed to say?"
"Say something supportive. I don't know. Or awkwardly hold his hand like I did. Anything."
Nick and I look at each other.
"I'm not holding your hand," I tell him, smiling a little.
"All right" --he nods-- "but know that I would.”
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
![Richard Dawkins](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1377030297i/1194._UX200_CR0,49,200,200_.jpg)
“Indeed, organizing atheists has been compared to herding cats, because they tend to think independently and will not conform to authority. But a good first step would be to build up a critical mass of those willing to 'come out,' thereby encouraging others to do so. Even if they can't be herded, cats in sufficient numbers can make a lot of noise and they cannot be ignored.”
― The God Delusion
― The God Delusion
![Becky Albertalli](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1392414949i/7579036._UX200_CR0,50,200,200_.jpg)
“And this gay thing. It feels so big. It's almost insurmountable. I don't know how to tell them something like this and still come out of it feeling like Simon. Because if Leah and Nick don't recognize me, I don't even recognize myself anymore.”
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
“Every gay person must come out. As difficult as it is, you must tell your immediate family. You must tell your relatives. You must tell your friends if indeed they are your friends. You must tell the people you work with. You must tell the people in the stores you shop in. Once they realize that we are indeed their children, that we are indeed everywhere, every myth, every lie, every innuendo will be destroyed once and all. And once you do, you will feel so much better”
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![Armistead Maupin](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1534626007i/10022._UY200_CR10,0,200,200_.jpg)
“I know I can't tell you what it's like to be gay. But I can tell you what it's not. It's not hiding behind words, Mama. Like family and decency and Christianity.”
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![Dan Pearce](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1639307515i/3994285._UX200_CR0,0,200,200_.jpg)
“The world is so obsessed with defining sexuality for everyone and attaching labels to it. Any time any person openly leaves the sexual norm, their sexuality becomes, more often than not, the absolute defining characteristic of that person. It becomes the first thing people think about and often the first thing they mention. Every other part of that person all but disappears.”
― Single Dad Laughing: The Best of Year One
― Single Dad Laughing: The Best of Year One
![Dean Atta](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1528090738i/6483308._UY200_CR49,0,200,200_.jpg)
“Don’t.
Don’t come out unless you want to. Don’t come out for anyone else’s sake. Don’t come out because you think society expects you to.
Come out for yourself.
Come out to yourself.
Shout, sing it.
Softly stutter.
Correct those who say they knew before you did.
That’s not how sexuality works, it’s yours to define.”
― The Black Flamingo
Don’t come out unless you want to. Don’t come out for anyone else’s sake. Don’t come out because you think society expects you to.
Come out for yourself.
Come out to yourself.
Shout, sing it.
Softly stutter.
Correct those who say they knew before you did.
That’s not how sexuality works, it’s yours to define.”
― The Black Flamingo
“Why did she have to spend the rest of her life coming out over and over and over...? And once she did, would people always expect her to talk about it? It would always be a huge deal, she would always be subjected to questions, and she would always have to defend herself. Would it ever stop feeling like A Thing, a barrier, between her and everyone else?”
― Let's Talk About Love
― Let's Talk About Love
![Lisi Harrison](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1502742971i/4605._UX200_CR0,49,200,200_.jpg)
“This is our big chance to see what people think of us. The real us. We have to show em there's nothing to be afraid of. If we don't get over our fears, they never will.”
― Monster High
― Monster High
![Becky Albertalli](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1392414949i/7579036._UX200_CR0,50,200,200_.jpg)
“I don't know how people do this. How Blue did this. Two words. Two freaking words, and I'm not the same Simon anymore.”
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
![Summer Michaels](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1311702679i/5053826.jpg)
“That casual kiss on my cheek would have meant nothing up until recently, I realized I was in love with him. Not that, 'I love you, man,' type of love. Nope. I was ass over teacup in love with my best friend. The 'let's get married and grow old together' type of love.”
― Lucky Boy
― Lucky Boy
![DaShanne Stokes](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1485806840i/16366564._UX200_CR0,20,200,200_.jpg)
“Amazing how eye and skin color come in many shades yet many think sexuality is just gay or straight.”
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![Dan Pearce](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1639307515i/3994285._UX200_CR0,0,200,200_.jpg)
“If only I could change the world around me, perhaps my truth won’t one day be the end of me.”
― Single Dad Laughing: The Best of Year One
― Single Dad Laughing: The Best of Year One
![Dan Pearce](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1639307515i/3994285._UX200_CR0,0,200,200_.jpg)
“At the border of where I will literally not survive so long as I keep living in so much fear of the harsh judgments of others, I am finally conceding the truth to you all.
I am finally conceding the truth to me.
I am something other than straight.”
― Single Dad Laughing: The Best of Year One
I am finally conceding the truth to me.
I am something other than straight.”
― Single Dad Laughing: The Best of Year One
![David Levithan](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1426529210i/11664._UY200_CR49,0,200,200_.jpg)
“It's Miranda who speaks up. "You're gay," she says, with complete seriousness. "And I love you.”
― Two Boys Kissing
― Two Boys Kissing
![C.B. Lee](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1605134242i/11230592._UX200_CR0,0,200,200_.jpg)
“The only time she's come close to being "known" was when she accidentally came out as bisexual during sophomore English class while talking about her favorite poem.”
― Not Your Sidekick
― Not Your Sidekick
![David Levithan](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1426529210i/11664._UY200_CR49,0,200,200_.jpg)
“He plants himself right there in front of Craig’s mother and says, “You need to love him. I don’t care who you thought he was, or who you want him to be, you need to love him exactly as he is because your son is a remarkable human being. You have to understand that.”
And Craig’s mother whispers back, “I know. I know.”
― Two Boys Kissing
And Craig’s mother whispers back, “I know. I know.”
― Two Boys Kissing
![Becky Albertalli](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1392414949i/7579036._UX200_CR0,50,200,200_.jpg)
“You don’t get to say it’s not a big thing. This is a big fucking thing, okay? This was supposed to be—this is mine. I’m supposed to decide when and where and who knows and how I want to say it.” Suddenly, my throat gets thick. “So, yeah, you took that from me.”
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
― Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda
![Keri Hulme](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/authors/1240845441i/7451.jpg)
“I don't like kissing."
"I suppose it is a matter of taste."[...]"I wondered, did anyone ever," shrug, "you know, hurt you so you don't like kissing? love?"
"Nope."[...]
"I thought maybe someone had been bad to you in the past, and that was why you don't like people touching or holding you."
"Ah damn it to hell," she bangs the lamp down on the desk and the flame jumps wildly.
"I said no. I haven't been raped or jilted or abused in any fashion. There is nothing in my background to explain the way I am." She steadies her voice, taking the impatience out of it. "I'm the odd one out, the peculiarity in my family, because they are all normal and demonstrative physically. But ever since I can remember, I've disliked close contact...charge contact, emotional contact, as well as any overtly sexual contact. I veer away from it, because it always feels like the other person is draining something out of me. I know that's irrational, but that's the way I feel."
She touches the lamp and the flaring light stills.
"I spent a considerable amount of time when I was, o, adolescent, wondering why I was different, whether there were other people like me. Why, when everyone else was facinated by their developing sexual nature, I couldn't give a damn. I've never been attracted to men. Or women. Or anything else. It's difficult to explain, and nobody has ever believed it when I have tried to explain, but while I have an apparently normal female body, I don't have any sexual urge or appetite. I think I am a neuter.”
― The Bone People
"I suppose it is a matter of taste."[...]"I wondered, did anyone ever," shrug, "you know, hurt you so you don't like kissing? love?"
"Nope."[...]
"I thought maybe someone had been bad to you in the past, and that was why you don't like people touching or holding you."
"Ah damn it to hell," she bangs the lamp down on the desk and the flame jumps wildly.
"I said no. I haven't been raped or jilted or abused in any fashion. There is nothing in my background to explain the way I am." She steadies her voice, taking the impatience out of it. "I'm the odd one out, the peculiarity in my family, because they are all normal and demonstrative physically. But ever since I can remember, I've disliked close contact...charge contact, emotional contact, as well as any overtly sexual contact. I veer away from it, because it always feels like the other person is draining something out of me. I know that's irrational, but that's the way I feel."
She touches the lamp and the flaring light stills.
"I spent a considerable amount of time when I was, o, adolescent, wondering why I was different, whether there were other people like me. Why, when everyone else was facinated by their developing sexual nature, I couldn't give a damn. I've never been attracted to men. Or women. Or anything else. It's difficult to explain, and nobody has ever believed it when I have tried to explain, but while I have an apparently normal female body, I don't have any sexual urge or appetite. I think I am a neuter.”
― The Bone People
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